Families argue, the close families can argue/come to peace rather than just keep their frustrations within themselves. "A" grade to Zoya for articulating what she felt sooo well, without trying to hurt anybody.
I really appreciate the fact that as parents both of you are open /transparent with the children ( to the extent possible) .That way children don’t feel left out and a sense of responsibility is instilled when they’re involved in solving home issues.we may not always agree with them but that’s ok. Ultimately, they’re going to land in the same place as husband- wife / parents sooner or later. This is a good beginning for them. … and these are such valuable lessons for their future. This is probably the only best thing we can give them as parents.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Congratulations 🎉 You guys are truly authentic! Generally true that Indian families focus on actions over words in interactions and relationships. Each Garg was right in their own way and perspective. Humble take: trust other's intentions; listen openly to other perspectives; walk away, calm down, then discuss (especially when things are overheated), and don't harp on things. Most of all, it really helps to have basic trust about sincerity and mutual respect. Great podcast, thanks for being real. Most people can relate 🙏🪷 Peace ✌️
Zoya is extremely intelligent- her EQ is very high! Brij comes a close second many times. Zarna is also every high on the EQ. But she can be dominating. Shalabh being quiet actually diffuses the situation. Kudos to having emotionally mature and strong kids ❤ also the fact that each family member participates in ironing out issues, this is not reflective of every family. So congratulations on having a family like that. Also, Brij is just being a typical teen boy, especially a typical teen younger brother. He means no harm.
Amen, sister(or brother), Amen! I elaborated on this same idea yesterday. These children are just yearning to hear “I love you” and “I am so proud of you”, especially from their mother. Not rocket science.
This was entertaining to me because now I see that you have the same issues with your kids/teens/young adult children that I do!! When does it ever end??? A+ to auntie Z for trying not to be offended by their comments. I’ve had the same situation and reacted the exact same way. HNY to the Gargs! Looking forward to season 3. 😊
Actually, Zarna is indeed offended by her children’s comments. She is a bully and too confrontational. She wants to hear nothing but praise for herself from everyone. She throws a fit and becomes acrimonious if she perceives any statement as a slight to herself.
Well said Nimesh. We all recognize this narcissist. I would consider this person a bully. Asking others to be honest and then dismissing their opinions as trivial. On so many occasions in just this one podcast. Awful.
No kidding. I started feeling sorry for the children after watching the first 3-4 podcasts of this channel. The narcissist completely disrespects the children, is ultra competitive with them and the other adult on the podcast. My heart goes out to the children who just want to hear the narcissist validate them as individuals and their successes in academics or life in general. Unbelievably immature of the narcissist.
Love you guys ❤ Zoya, just like Dad Garg pointed out you can beautifully articulate your thoughts. Brij is probably not going to understand the impact of his meaningless apology now 😂 he’ll figure it out in a few years 😂 Mom Garg you are a beautiful soul and trust me the kids and Dad will start seeing through your perspective in a few years as well ! ❤
Zoya, stop organizing for them, they are grown adults. Go hang out with your friends. Or if it’s a family event, just chill, layback. There is no point not relaxing on NYE
Zarna, to start off, PLEASE, at the very least, make an effort to start validating your children when they are genuinely expressing their true feelings, especially when YOU feel (rightly or wrongly) they are being critical of you as a mother. Say to them : “ Zoya, Brij, Veer, I am so sorry I never realized my saying so and so or doing so and so made you feel this way. I said things in anger without anticipating the lasting impact my words would have on your self worth”. AND MEAN IT. Then hug them and tell them you love them and are incredibly proud of them. Yes, they know you love them, they know you are proud of them, but actually hearing it from your parents is an indescribable feeling for a child, no matter how old the offspring is. PLEASE Zarna. It’s time to stop being combative with your precious, highly intelligent, incredible children and prove yourself right all the time. Be magnanimous, graceful and let them have their moment in the sun.🙏
Wow!! Your tone!! You are so preachy!! And you sound really worked up. Dont watch them too much least you get a panic attack someday 😂😂 Zarna has brought up some awesome kids and is definitely doing many a things right. I dont know what entitles you to give this unwanted lecture. Please save them for your kids! Honestly it is ok to share your opinion on what you think about them but you sound lecturing Zarna here. I dont know many moms are learning about parenting from random strangers on youtube. 😂😂
She only has herself to blame for it. The woman is hypocrisy personified. Zarna feels the children should just forget about any hurtful things she says to them in a moment of anger, but if any of the children say anything remotely even perceived by her as critical or showing her in a poor light, she will remember it forever! Double standards much, Zarna?
at minute 16:55, Zoya I think what you are trying to convey to your Mom is the concept of an Emotional Bank Account, she definitely does things to take from the ledger but is not vocal in her love or affection to add to the emotional Bank Account balance. I know I'm butchering the concept but I'm trying to reframe it in terms of words of affirmation (Love Language).
Understand this, mom is always right, after that the eldest daughter is always right and brothers cant make decision for food ordering, decor or anything of that matter so I do get Zoya totally in this matter .
I love the honesty of your podcast! A+ to Shalabh for being straightforward and calm. (This was a normal family issue had at least 100 in every family I know) I don't think it's fair of Zoya to keep throwing her, "I could have stayed in SF with my friends." don't compare your family time to anyone if, for whatever reason, you think you would rather be elsewhere there.
Somehow I agree with Shalabh on point he mentioned about Zoya as feel she has stronger strength of articulate her thought or meaning or definition she wants to put in front of everyone. Believe me I would have messed a lot on what I want to say or think. Great job Zoya I am learning from you. But please dont run for President lol!
Zarna was the initial offender here. She apparently says hurtful things to her children often. Both Brij and Zoya attested to it in this podcast. Brij’s comment to Zarna was in response to Zarna telling him he did not contribute anything to the Family. Which obviously hurt Brij enough for him to say he could never remove the memory of that comment from his brain. So if Zarna was hurt by Brij’s comment which was generated by her own hurtful comment to him, well, pot meet kettle.
I don’t think the kids should be involved in the parents arguments. I know I wouldn’t have wanted to with my parents that’s between them and only them🤷🏻♀️just my opinion
Really depends upon the age and maturity of the child. Zoya at 21 or 22 is fully qualified to give an opinion about her parents’ conflicts with each other. Brij at 18 is probably as well. Veer at 13 is still too young.
Such negativity and vitriol was never part of your podcast. I don't know if this is a new strategy but really unfortunate to see this kind of broadcast
No. Zarna’s comment to Brij was bratty, immature and thoughtless. Brij was asked his opinion about crossing the line. He responded honestly. He wanted his truth to be known. Nothing bratty about that. What kind of mother says to her 17-18 year old son “ you don’t contribute anything to the family”? Apparently Zarna has said hurtful and horrible things to Zoya as well. And Zoya clearly said so in today’s podcast. Lucky for Zarna Veer wasn’t present today or we probably would’ve heard from him how hurtful Zarna has been to him.
Why is Brij so hostile? He's getting more and more rude as he gets older and it's looking disgusting for his future. I feel for Zoya as the oldest daughter in an immigrant family. Zoya, you do everything and more for your family. Most of the time, our roles are to be the "glue" for the family and we almost always get no recognition while others walk off scot free. You are resilient and it's not easy.
Brij is not being rude. He was asked a specific question and he answered it honestly. That was the goal of this podcast. Is he supposed to camouflage his feelings and pretend? Neither of the three children is rude. They are instructed to be transparent, and when they are, you call them hostile? The most hostile person on this podcast is the mother Zarna.
British was just being a normal kid . He is allowed to have his own thoughts and feelings and can give honest answers when he is asked a question. He is not responsible for anyone else's feelings.
Your real question should be to Zarna asking her if she enjoys hurting her own children. Zarna was the initial offender here. She apparently says hurtful things to her children often. Both Brij and Zoya attested to it in this podcast. Brij’s comment to Zarna was in response to Zarna telling him he did not contribute anything to the Family. Which obviously hurt Brij enough for him to say he could never remove the memory of that comment from his brain. So if Zarna was hurt by Brij’s comment which was generated by her own hurtful comment to him, well, pot meet kettle. Good for Brij for standing up for himself.
Zoya is intelligent indeed!! She should be in the U.S. Supreme Court, not in computer science.
Families argue, the close families can argue/come to peace rather than just keep their frustrations within themselves. "A" grade to Zoya for articulating what she felt sooo well, without trying to hurt anybody.
I really appreciate the fact that as parents both of you are open /transparent with the children ( to the extent possible) .That way children don’t feel left out and a sense of responsibility is instilled when they’re involved in solving home issues.we may not always agree with them but that’s ok. Ultimately, they’re going to land in the same place as husband- wife / parents sooner or later. This is a good beginning for them. … and these are such valuable lessons for their future. This is probably the only best thing we can give them as parents.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Now we need Veer's version of the drama on NYE. Hahahahahahaha. I laughed too much with this today. Hahahahahaha
me too!! Never laughed as much these podcast 😂😂
Your family is real. I love the way you all can argue and stay collected. I love this family. Zoya be a lawyer. You are so awesome
I missed Veer
What Shalab said about Zoya! A++ grade. Best Dad ever!
Congratulations 🎉 You guys are truly authentic! Generally true that Indian families focus on actions over words in interactions and relationships. Each Garg was right in their own way and perspective. Humble take: trust other's intentions; listen openly to other perspectives; walk away, calm down, then discuss (especially when things are overheated), and don't harp on things. Most of all, it really helps to have basic trust about sincerity and mutual respect. Great podcast, thanks for being real. Most people can relate 🙏🪷 Peace ✌️
It is a privilege to have a close family to argue with, and then apologize and hug them.
Zoya is extremely intelligent- her EQ is very high! Brij comes a close second many times. Zarna is also every high on the EQ. But she can be dominating. Shalabh being quiet actually diffuses the situation. Kudos to having emotionally mature and strong kids ❤ also the fact that each family member participates in ironing out issues, this is not reflective of every family. So congratulations on having a family like that. Also, Brij is just being a typical teen boy, especially a typical teen younger brother. He means no harm.
Zoya just wants once wants to hear " I love you". Why can't you do that for her. It makes me sad for her.
Amen, sister(or brother), Amen! I elaborated on this same idea yesterday. These children are just yearning to hear “I love you” and “I am so proud of you”, especially from their mother. Not rocket science.
Zoya being the 1st daughter syndrome……I can’t denied the feelings in this podcast.
Honest arguments that happen in every family.. portrayed so well..
I love this messy episode coz its what we are going through as siblings relationships especially after the holidays🤣
I just want to attest that I saw Shalab Garg working too on New Year's Eve. He was so nice and took a selfie with me after the show.
This was entertaining to me because now I see that you have the same issues with your kids/teens/young adult children that I do!! When does it ever end??? A+ to auntie Z for trying not to be offended by their comments. I’ve had the same situation and reacted the exact same way. HNY to the Gargs! Looking forward to season 3. 😊
Actually, Zarna is indeed offended by her children’s comments. She is a bully and too confrontational. She wants to hear nothing but praise for herself from everyone. She throws a fit and becomes acrimonious if she perceives any statement as a slight to herself.
I like how you guys can dive into such complex topics with such good knowledge and I love how emotionally intelligent you guys are
I love the realness! Love you all! Happy New Year ❤
This is so authentic…keep it up!
Love you guys! Great and real family with healthy discussions. 😊
One narcissist in the family is enough to stir so much chaos! You all know who the narc is.
Well said Nimesh. We all recognize this narcissist. I would consider this person a bully. Asking others to be honest and then dismissing their opinions as trivial. On so many occasions in just this one podcast. Awful.
No kidding. I started feeling sorry for the children after watching the first 3-4 podcasts of this channel. The narcissist completely disrespects the children, is ultra competitive with them and the other adult on the podcast. My heart goes out to the children who just want to hear the narcissist validate them as individuals and their successes in academics or life in general. Unbelievably immature of the narcissist.
This was too entertaining 😂
This has to be the best episode
Zoya is the best.Podcast is interesting 😊
Zoya's yelling "Hold on!" with her finger was so awesome. You go girl!
Loved everyone's opinion. Brilliant episode ❤ hugs to zoya for the end.
Love you guys ❤ Zoya, just like Dad Garg pointed out you can beautifully articulate your thoughts. Brij is probably not going to understand the impact of his meaningless apology now 😂 he’ll figure it out in a few years 😂 Mom Garg you are a beautiful soul and trust me the kids and Dad will start seeing through your perspective in a few years as well ! ❤
hahaha.....my husband somehow became a hero. Dad Garg sits there silenlty growing his fan base. lol
Shalabh is much, much quieter than Zarna. But he is calm, intelligent, observant, and chooses his words wisely.
So… in weird way this was like Therapy to me in thinking through all the wrong ways my family addresses arguments. Thanks for that !
Zoya, stop organizing for them, they are grown adults. Go hang out with your friends. Or if it’s a family event, just chill, layback. There is no point not relaxing on NYE
Zarna: I'm the most accepting
Family: _(bwahahaha together)_
@25:25
Zoya!!!! You are right! Stand up for yourself. FIGGGHHHTTT 😂
💯
Why was this so short?
Please finish this vlog.
Awesome bro, been waiting 😂
Zarna, to start off, PLEASE, at the very least, make an effort to start validating your children when they are genuinely expressing their true feelings, especially when YOU feel (rightly or wrongly) they are being critical of you as a mother.
Say to them : “ Zoya, Brij, Veer, I am so sorry I never realized my saying so and so or doing so and so made you feel this way. I said things in anger without anticipating the lasting impact my words would have on your self worth”. AND MEAN IT. Then hug them and tell them you love them and are incredibly proud of them. Yes, they know you love them, they know you are proud of them, but actually hearing it from your parents is an indescribable feeling for a child, no matter how old the offspring is.
PLEASE Zarna. It’s time to stop being combative with your precious, highly intelligent, incredible children and prove yourself right all the time. Be magnanimous, graceful and let them have their moment in the sun.🙏
Wow!! Your tone!! You are so preachy!! And you sound really worked up. Dont watch them too much least you get a panic attack someday 😂😂 Zarna has brought up some awesome kids and is definitely doing many a things right. I dont know what entitles you to give this unwanted lecture. Please save them for your kids! Honestly it is ok to share your opinion on what you think about them but you sound lecturing Zarna here. I dont know many moms are learning about parenting from random strangers on youtube. 😂😂
14:17- first time ever in the podcasts I feel Zarna was deeply and genuinely hurt😔😔😔😔
She only has herself to blame for it. The woman is hypocrisy personified. Zarna feels the children should just forget about any hurtful things she says to them in a moment of anger, but if any of the children say anything remotely even perceived by her as critical or showing her in a poor light, she will remember it forever! Double standards much, Zarna?
at minute 16:55, Zoya I think what you are trying to convey to your Mom is the concept of an Emotional Bank Account, she definitely does things to take from the ledger but is not vocal in her love or affection to add to the emotional Bank Account balance. I know I'm butchering the concept but I'm trying to reframe it in terms of words of affirmation (Love Language).
Understand this, mom is always right, after that the eldest daughter is always right and brothers cant make decision for food ordering, decor or anything of that matter so I do get Zoya totally in this matter .
I love the honesty of your podcast!
A+ to Shalabh for being straightforward and calm.
(This was a normal family issue had at least 100 in every family I know)
I don't think it's fair of Zoya to keep throwing her, "I could have stayed in SF with my friends." don't compare your family time to anyone if, for whatever reason, you think you would rather be elsewhere there.
Best episode!
Best episode ever! ❤
Somehow I agree with Shalabh on point he mentioned about Zoya as feel she has stronger strength of articulate her thought or meaning or definition she wants to put in front of everyone. Believe me I would have messed a lot on what I want to say or think. Great job Zoya I am learning from you. But please dont run for President lol!
Keep the natural arguments flowing guys don’t cut them short 😂
One of the best episodes may be the best....
i was laughing my ass off towards the end of the episode
Zarna is the most immature one in the family.All 3 of her children (even 13 year old Veer) conduct themselves with more grace and gravitas. Sigh.
Happy New Year wishes to everyone!
banger episode
The end !!! 😂😂😂😂😂
Sorry Zoya. Your brothers are used to you & your mom organizing everything. Only once you don't, will they realize how much you do.
Exactly
damn the consistency
Good golly I can laugh because it reminds me of most family squabbles.
The real issue seems to be that Zoya wanted to be with her friends in California.
My A grade goes to Zarna, she was really hurt by Brij’s statement
Zarna was the initial offender here. She apparently says hurtful things to her children often. Both Brij and Zoya attested to it in this podcast. Brij’s comment to Zarna was in response to Zarna telling him he did not contribute anything to the Family. Which obviously hurt Brij enough for him to say he could never remove the memory of that comment from his brain. So if Zarna was hurt by Brij’s comment which was generated by her own hurtful comment to him, well, pot meet kettle.
This is a very bad and sad episode. I am sorry to see you guys like this.
Zoya soo upset 😁😁…so cute 😁…
It is so sad. That poor girl.
I don’t think the kids should be involved in the parents arguments. I know I wouldn’t have wanted to with my parents that’s between them and only them🤷🏻♀️just my opinion
Really depends upon the age and maturity of the child. Zoya at 21 or 22 is fully qualified to give an opinion about her parents’ conflicts with each other. Brij at 18 is probably as well. Veer at 13 is still too young.
What happens when Veer leaves .... ! LOL
I just avoid I do me they do them ❤
Typical Indian family! And I must say you guys are really entertaining!
Space can be time to reflect.
HOW to fight like our Indian friends…..
Does Brij have a cold .?
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Such negativity and vitriol was never part of your podcast. I don't know if this is a new strategy but really unfortunate to see this kind of broadcast
It is unfortunate. But it’s the truth. Unfortunately.
I agree with Zarna… she gets the A
I completely what Zarna was feeling. Bratty comment from Brij out of a lot of good comments. Btw - he should have apologized seeing his mom sad.
No. Zarna’s comment to Brij was bratty, immature and thoughtless.
Brij was asked his opinion about crossing the line. He responded honestly. He wanted his truth to be known. Nothing bratty about that.
What kind of mother says to her 17-18 year old son “ you don’t contribute anything to the family”? Apparently Zarna has said hurtful and horrible things to Zoya as well. And Zoya clearly said so in today’s podcast. Lucky for Zarna Veer wasn’t present today or we probably would’ve heard from him how hurtful Zarna has been to him.
Why is Brij so hostile? He's getting more and more rude as he gets older and it's looking disgusting for his future.
I feel for Zoya as the oldest daughter in an immigrant family. Zoya, you do everything and more for your family. Most of the time, our roles are to be the "glue" for the family and we almost always get no recognition while others walk off scot free. You are resilient and it's not easy.
He's just an American relax
Brij is not being rude. He was asked a specific question and he answered it honestly. That was the goal of this podcast. Is he supposed to camouflage his feelings and pretend?
Neither of the three children is rude. They are instructed to be transparent, and when they are, you call them hostile?
The most hostile person on this podcast is the mother Zarna.
Yeah Brij definitely wasn’t rude here, he’s allowed to have and express a different opinion
Wow this was an eye opener for me. Have not experienced this. Probably just take the “I “ out of the conversations and it will flow much better . 😂
British was just being a normal kid . He is allowed to have his own thoughts and feelings and can give honest answers when he is asked a question. He is not responsible for anyone else's feelings.
why is Brij laughing? is he enjoying hurting his mother?
Your real question should be to Zarna asking her if she enjoys hurting her own children. Zarna was the initial offender here. She apparently says hurtful things to her children often. Both Brij and Zoya attested to it in this podcast. Brij’s comment to Zarna was in response to Zarna telling him he did not contribute anything to the Family. Which obviously hurt Brij enough for him to say he could never remove the memory of that comment from his brain. So if Zarna was hurt by Brij’s comment which was generated by her own hurtful comment to him, well, pot meet kettle. Good for Brij for standing up for himself.