yea i wouldn't pull the guy away either because him being intimate with another girl while he is engaged just shows his true colors. But I would tell the other person they are being cheated on because later down the line the pain will be worse with kids and marriage involved.
Our friend group didn't like our friend's boyfriend and we had to deal with his shity personality for a year before I approached her and told her hey we don't like him, stop bringing him to hangouts. We definitely see her less (but not 0, she still comes out occasionally) and hey we don't have to deal with him anymore 🙃
I'd record a video of the cheating. I wouldn't confront the cheater in the moment of (possible danger to myself), but I would tell the friend being cheated on. I will also provide the video evidence because sometimes, you'd much prefer a pretty lie than a harsh reality. Having concrete proof will make it more than a "he said she said" situation. It's going to hurt my friend, but they deserve to know AND it can be a potential health issue (STDs, STIs, etc). IF they both decide to stay in a relationship and work through it, then that's none of my business. BUT, I think that my loyalty first and foremost is to the victim of the infidelity, not the perpetrator. Also, it could also be a situation of ethical non-monogamy. To which, my friend will tell me and it's an informed decision on both adult parties and I respectfully butt of of their business. I also anticipate that telling my friend that their partner is cheating might end our relationship. Grief and hurt can sometimes be redirected to the messenger. I'll hope it doesn't, but I firmly believe that my friend has a right to know, regardless of personal consequences.
i love when wes says something and they go "hmmm" feeling the impact of that rationality lol
yea i wouldn't pull the guy away either because him being intimate with another girl while he is engaged just shows his true colors. But I would tell the other person they are being cheated on because later down the line the pain will be worse with kids and marriage involved.
Our friend group didn't like our friend's boyfriend and we had to deal with his shity personality for a year before I approached her and told her hey we don't like him, stop bringing him to hangouts. We definitely see her less (but not 0, she still comes out occasionally) and hey we don't have to deal with him anymore 🙃
I'd record a video of the cheating. I wouldn't confront the cheater in the moment of (possible danger to myself), but I would tell the friend being cheated on. I will also provide the video evidence because sometimes, you'd much prefer a pretty lie than a harsh reality. Having concrete proof will make it more than a "he said she said" situation. It's going to hurt my friend, but they deserve to know AND it can be a potential health issue (STDs, STIs, etc). IF they both decide to stay in a relationship and work through it, then that's none of my business. BUT, I think that my loyalty first and foremost is to the victim of the infidelity, not the perpetrator.
Also, it could also be a situation of ethical non-monogamy. To which, my friend will tell me and it's an informed decision on both adult parties and I respectfully butt of of their business.
I also anticipate that telling my friend that their partner is cheating might end our relationship. Grief and hurt can sometimes be redirected to the messenger. I'll hope it doesn't, but I firmly believe that my friend has a right to know, regardless of personal consequences.
I agree with Wes: Just don't date 😆
yikes