I think that INFJ’s are often happier alone, which makes having a relationship with them a bit unfair. If they reject you, you’re left unhappy alone, and they crawl into their interesting, creative minds and move on with much less pain.
I don't know if I am happier alone, exactly, so much as able to enjoy my own company. If someone supportive shows up, who can handle the quirkiness of me, great. And if not, I'd rather be on my way. 😂
I'm happier being alone, when I meet knew people and they want to exchange numbers and start planning things? I run and hide. they cool, buuut I don't have that kind of energy and don't want to be around codependent people, which is what I typically attract.
The only time I reject people is as an absolute last resort, and that always comes in the form of a doorslam because the relationship in question has become hopelessly toxic. Once I befriend someone, unless the person in question gives me cause such as a serious betrayal, it's for life
These are the exact reasons why I'm extremely cautious about forming relationships past a superficial or acquaintance level. Rejection is one of the worst feelings to have to endure.
Most of my exes asked for another chance, but once I am done, I’m usually DONE for good! An INFJ rejection is usually well thought through before taking that decision and it is usually for the best interest of everyone involved. I wish people could handle rejection better and understand that not everything or everyone is meant to be.
Honestly, before breaking things off, I have most often finally hit my limit with something or other. I may not have processed it consciously, but in hindsight, there have been a LOT of chances to turn it around, and the other person hasn't done so. It's practically inevitable that the relationship would end sooner or later.
@@cc1k435 I agree with you, sometimes they underestimate us or take our care and niceness for granted, only for them to realize all of that when we are done and gone.
Yes, once I didn’t know others couldn’t just let go and I was dating, it felt like I had train of ex’s and associates built up. I had some crazy experiences but stopped everything until they finally all left.
You nailed it, as always. Yes, I have rejected loads of times. In three weeks I'll be doing it again - a platonic relationship of many years. The romantic part of it I have never accepted anyway, but I have been a loyal friend, although, as we live in different countries now, we see each other only for a few weeks each year. So , in 3 weeks time, there'll be a serious talk. Most probably a permanent goodbye will follow. Sad, but probably inevitable. I've already started checking out alternative holiday destinations.
Once I see them I know where to take it. A women in my apartment building has issue with me. I barely know her name or even acknowledge her existence but she keeps crying, She doesn’t like me. My response is why would you care and who are you? She can’t stand it that she has no place or even a consign my world. What do people behave this way. It’s so irritating.
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@@Chillingisbae you are probably an INFJ that would explain your oversensitivity to what I wrote. But since you inquired; It is just a joke I have 3 INFJS in my life and they all SUCK, oversensitive little winey babies! Who don't give a dam about anyone but themselves. I could go on but I have better things to do!
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*So, have you ever been rejected by an INFJ?*
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I think that INFJ’s are often happier alone, which makes having a relationship with them a bit unfair. If they reject you, you’re left unhappy alone, and they crawl into their interesting, creative minds and move on with much less pain.
I don't know if I am happier alone, exactly, so much as able to enjoy my own company. If someone supportive shows up, who can handle the quirkiness of me, great. And if not, I'd rather be on my way. 😂
Nope, we crave intimacy more than anything. Being Alone is needed to process the pain and not bring baggage into the next try.
We prefer our own company always....not often 😇 It is so that we can truly appreciate the effort someone makes to draw us out
I'm happier being alone, when I meet knew people and they want to exchange numbers and start planning things? I run and hide. they cool, buuut I don't have that kind of energy and don't want to be around codependent people, which is what I typically attract.
Bitterness?
The only time I reject people is as an absolute last resort, and that always comes in the form of a doorslam because the relationship in question has become hopelessly toxic. Once I befriend someone, unless the person in question gives me cause such as a serious betrayal, it's for life
These are the exact reasons why I'm extremely cautious about forming relationships past a superficial or acquaintance level. Rejection is one of the worst feelings to have to endure.
Yes. I recently did a INFJ doorslam.
Most of my exes asked for another chance, but once I am done, I’m usually DONE for good! An INFJ rejection is usually well thought through before taking that decision and it is usually for the best interest of everyone involved. I wish people could handle rejection better and understand that not everything or everyone is meant to be.
Honestly, before breaking things off, I have most often finally hit my limit with something or other. I may not have processed it consciously, but in hindsight, there have been a LOT of chances to turn it around, and the other person hasn't done so. It's practically inevitable that the relationship would end sooner or later.
@@cc1k435 I agree with you, sometimes they underestimate us or take our care and niceness for granted, only for them to realize all of that when we are done and gone.
Yes, once I didn’t know others couldn’t just let go and I was dating, it felt like I had train of ex’s and associates built up.
I had some crazy experiences but stopped everything until they finally all left.
When someone is rejected by the infj the pain lingers longer..... For who???
Exactly…great point. It’s not like you can turn empathy on or off like a light switch.
I think some fake INFJ / child like pampered INFJ'S buy into other's bull. Thinking INFJ are exter cool but we aren't.
@@alexfagnan7469 INFJ ARE FILLERS WE ARE NOT EMPATHY. HOWEVER WE DO HAVE RARE EMPATHY MOMENTS.
@@alexfagnan7469INFJ DO FILL OTHER ALL THE TIME. JUST ONE GLANCE WILL TELL AN INFJ YOUR TRUTH.
You nailed it, as always.
Yes, I have rejected loads of times. In three weeks I'll be doing it again - a platonic relationship of many years. The romantic part of it I have never accepted anyway, but I have been a loyal friend, although, as we live in different countries now, we see each other only for a few weeks each year. So , in 3 weeks time, there'll be a serious talk. Most probably a permanent goodbye will follow. Sad, but probably inevitable. I've already started checking out alternative holiday destinations.
Thank you for that and good luck, it's not easy on our end either 🙏
@@PSYCH-O Thank you too. You videos are always so to the point.
Its nice too hear nice things being said .... But also provided truthful things being said rather than lies.
Not sure if I'm INFJ or have just gaslit myself into thinking I could be because I find your videos so fascinating 🤔
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Once I see them I know where to take it. A women in my apartment building has issue with me. I barely know her name or even acknowledge her existence but she keeps crying, She doesn’t like me. My response is why would you care and who are you? She can’t stand it that she has no place or even a consign my world. What do people behave this way. It’s so irritating.
GREAT VIDEO! THANKYOU!💙💙
Spot on
Thank you for watching! 😌
I have quite a few times over the years
I do this all the time
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Thank you! I love your videos!
Just a note... It is 2024... please include more same-sex couples in your videos. The videos are wonderfully diverse, and a bit more diversity will truly make your videos... ALL-INCLUSIVE. Thank you again!
INFJS SUCK!
Who hurt you?
@@Chillingisbae you are probably an INFJ that would explain your oversensitivity to what I wrote.
But since you inquired;
It is just a joke I have 3 INFJS in my life and they all SUCK, oversensitive little winey babies! Who don't give a dam about anyone but themselves. I could go on but I have better things to do!