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So about three weeks ago my SIL knocked on my door saying she needed a place to stay for a few days because her landlord is giving her a lot of trouble and she refuses to pay him rent unless he gets the repairs done that she applied for months ago. I asked her why she didn't just file a complaint against him but she said it's a hassle to go through that whole thing and she'd rather avoid wasting anymore time on that shitty place and its owner. I reminded her how the market is inflating day by day and she probably wouldn't find a place in a couple of days so her best option is to solve the matter but she assured me she already has a place in mind and is waiting on signing the lease which wouldn't take more than a couple of days. So on that note I let her stay with us. After all, it's not like she's a total stranger. She's family and with her over at the house I might get to relax a little.
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I am so tired of the "they were both really drunk when they hooked up" rationalization. Being drunk is no excuse for cheating
I know right?!
If your unhappy freaking split up
an orgy each night in the bar. LOL
@@Lulu-ut9pv idk if all cheater scumbags are just unhappy. Mix of there truely not good people and constant need to pleasure seek. Everything has consequences and sacrifices. With a committed relationship, you sacrifice things that are more morally attainable when single but you gain things that one can't obtain while single. If your willing to sacrifice the need to meet new people, spontaneity and only really having to worry about yourself, then one shouldn't be in a committed relationship let alone get married and have kids. It the relationship equivalent to having and eating your cake.
If the husband was really drunk, he could not be able to father a child. He wasn't really drunk.
@@cloudstalker8956 How come I wasn't invited?
Story 1 The child isn't to blame but I can understand if OP decides to walk away from him. OP has been told that she will have little or no rights to the child because she is not the biological mother. She may have adopted him legally but it seems that thr adoption doesn't count with the court. Her ex is incredibly cruel.
I didn't get it.. did she get the custody finally? Atleast 50% custody I mean..
He can't stop her from visitation. Even if he wins full custody the child is legally hers too.
I’m guessing at two months the adoption is not finalized yet
@@BusArch42 Sounds like it
@@kellharris2491 NOT if the judge withdraws the custody agreement
Since OP adopted the child she has exactly the same rights as if she were the bio mother .Provided the adoption was 100% legal of course .
This story is suspicious as hell they usually give custody to the primary caregiver the Lawyer playing games with her or working for the husband🤔
Probably written by another teen who didn't do their homework and check laws
Based on the child’s age, I would guess they had custody but the adoption had not been finalized
Not according to the judge.
we can't assume this is in the U.S
I have to call bs in the first story. She adopted the boy so she has legal rights over him.
Seems that several stories on Reddit are creative fiction.
I've noticed that for periods there are identical stories with little changes. This is, possibly, the 3rd story I've heard where she can't have kids and he gets another woman pregnant but wants to raise the kid with the wife.
I'm starting to believe that these are school projects and it's graded by the amount of responses. All these stories have a tell. It's always something that is not possible legally or very unlikely.
It could happen in the butthole of the continent, we named Texas.
@@gizrat no it wouldn't even backwards azz Texas the adoption is legally binding
@@gizrat Yes it could happen, but the details are wrong. Especially in regards to her parental rights), in the US and most other countries, when you adopt you get the same rights as a bio parent would.
She was screwed by the courts. If she legally adopted the child. Then it should be hers. Weird how double standard the laws are. How much you want to bet that if this was a man put on the birth certificate of a child that wasn't his; the courts would still force him to pay child support.
That is a horrible betrayal and all the lies to cover it up 🤮🤮
The sister in law did a pretty good job at destroying op's life out of spite f that b, and her pos brother
Story 2: Respect is earned, even by parents. My dad wanted nothing to do with me as an adult because of my obesity. I lost weight and all of a sudden he wanted a place in my life. I told him if you can't love me when I was fat, you can't love me now. Therapy helped tremendously. I told my siblings that when he dies, don't come to me to help with the funeral cuz that isn't happening.
Story 1
What you husband did is disgusting and removing the child you reared is wrong and karma will come back on him
My father's cousin cheated on his infertile wife 70+ years ago with I think a prostitute (can't be sure, it was 1949 and any woman not married who was known to not be a virgin was called a prostitute), and had a baby son. Cousin was a prosperous dentist, and women back then were shut out for the most part from having good jobs. His wife of course was devastated but agreed to raise the son and then proceeded to adopt FIVE more children. She said that money was not going to go to just his child, and since she had always wanted a bunch of kids she got them.
We all grew up together and she treated the oldest just like the rest of the adopted kids. I didn't even know the true story until I was grown.
She’s 16 not 6! She’s old enough to understand!
How did a couple of days turn into mire than 10 days.... aw hell no you can't stay
The thing about story one is that even though op adopted the kid since one of the bio parents wanted custody they have a better case to get it over op die to being related by blood. It's kinda how in custody cases unless proven that the mother is totally unfit or doesn't want custody at all they will be given custody of the child and child support. Basically judges prefer giving children to blood related people over the people who will love the children and take care of them
Story 2 : Want to be respected? Be respectable!
According to the law you are the boys mother. You adopted him. I cry bs on this story. I also live in Texas and know people who have adopted and when their marriage crumbled the child was both of theirs according to law. Just imagine if someone gave their kid up for adoption then came back 5 years later demanding the kid back. Would a judge say, well you are the biological parent so you get the kid. Yeah bs.
I tend to agree with you on the bs. But, unfortunately, what's legal isn't always what happens. Judges have a great deal of power when deciding custody issues.
But one of them was the bio parent, she was a "freelancer" and the baby was 2mo, so maybe the court annul the adoption.
@@cloudstalker8956 That could be very likely
They said two years not two month.
Your husband lied to you and allowed you to adopt his kid therefore you have rights to the child with the husbands knowledge.
Love the title "went for milk". I'm going to use that one. Lol
I don’t understand how OP being the adoptive mother didn’t have any rights. But then again it’s Texas and things there are backwards. I’m an adoptive father and no court would even think of saying I don’t have rights.
Was there any kind of backlash towards the SIL from the brother and family? Would be great to know what happened.
Sadly it appears that the husband's bio father rights outstripped any adoption papers or legal claim she had with the child. This wasn't a case of two adopted parents having no bio relation to the child so both had equal legal rights. This was a bio parent vs an adoptive parent with the adoptive parent as freelancer not having a fixed stable income to show they could always provide adequately for the child while in her care. Then there was the husband not wanting to give OP any rights out of pure spite so he really went for the jugular to ensure OP got punished in losing the child for daring to divorce him for his infidelity. It's messed up but really everything was stacked against OP in this situation. I do have a funny feeling the the ex might come back shortly and use the child as a carrot for OP to come back to him and then as a weapon to force her to stay if she does return. If so I hope OP says no and tells him child or not he's a cheating , deceitful rat who she can never trust or be with again.
Story 1: Wow, this is effectively the same as when a woman cheats on her husband and has the other man's baby as if the child was her husband's. I am sorry this has happened to her, but she should know that she is not alone in this.
Op is a idiot for doing this and needs to let the child go and move on from this toxic mess of a husband
Idk if I ever heard a more loaded question than that last story
IKR ! This was the sister basically asking OP if they were glad their mom died so they could have her in their life. That is such a stupid, messed up and an insensitive question to ask in the first place. OP should have phrased it that way back to her about her own mom " So your mom dies ...are you ever going to be happy about it if that means you get me ?" . OP should phrase it that way to her so she could understand just how awful it was of her to ask. Of course OP isn't ever going to be OK with losing their mom no matter how much they love their sister. Like OP basically honestly replied to the question in that the sister loves her mom too and should know that nothing and no one would ever relace her or make losing her OK, but that doesn't mean they don't still love the sister.
NTA.. as long as what they say is the TRUTH?? Do not force em to hold it in.. letting it out is cheap therapy!
Chances are the ex husband is going to get together with the mother of the baby
story 2 why should OP tell the kids to respect their dad when he cant even be bothered to acknowledge or respect them he is a deadbeat through and through i think he will be wondering why none of his kids want anything to do with him later in life
I think it's also majorly disrespecting the children by not allowing them the right to acknowledge the truth they are old enough to know or the reality they actually live in. It's like forcing them into a dream world and not allowing them to speak of their reality. These aren't small children who don't know any better or whom OP is brain washing against their father. These are nearly grown teenagers who can and do see the truth for themselves and who have a right to express their own opinion about it. Even his so called favorite has him listed as " out for milk " in her contacts and says he's rotten dad so that speaks volumes on just how epically this man has neglected his children and failed as a parent. He doesn't get to basically act like a sperm donor with a little bit of contact but still expect to be owed respect as a parent. He doesn't get to take credit for something he obviously hasn't done.
Story 2 not the ahole respect is not a given it's something you earn
The real AH is THE SIL. Yeah, hubs was one, but nowhere near as bad as SIL who said what she did to deliberately punish OP for making her find her own place to live and not leech off OPs family.
The real question is how did she know in the first place. Did she snoop, was she also sleeping with the husband, there's a lot of unanswered questions here.
@@emeraldpichu1 She was sleeping with her own brother?!
Yes! Yes! Had she not said anything, OP would have gone along with raising her child happily. She knew the baby wasn't hers anyway. SIL did this because she was pissy. Now OP doesn't have her baby. The baby has a broken home. Everyone is so focused on the cheating part but OP got what she wanted - a baby. Sometimes being right and justified doesn't always have a happy ending.
@@dementedqueen4392 you never know that electra complex is a dangerous thing
She should just leave both of them. OP he will keep crying when he cannot handle the baby. Also when the baby comes to you with questions. Tell the baby the truth. Adopt another baby or a fur baby. I really hope everything bad coming back to him.
Story Two: My niece's father was horrible. He would tell her that he was going to come and get her for the day. She would wait for him and he would not appear. It used to hurt her so much but as she grew up, she started calling him "Her sperm donor", by his name, or if he called, she would just hang up on him. He had a boy that he doted on though. He gave him everything. The best things and my niece was regulated to be second to his thoughts. He does get mad when she refers to my Dad as "Dad". So, I understand where these kids are coming from.
Story 1: It amazes me how 33% of married men are unknowingly raising children that aren't theirs, but they aren't allowed to be upset or leave the family. Most of the time even ordered to pay child support, but when it happens to a woman, she's perfectly within her rights go thermonuclear.
@footwolf54.. dude having said that, in this case the mother herself is ready to take custody.. so what kind of ruling is that? When she is ready to lose all the settlement and just get the baby back..
That’s actually a bad use of that statistic. 33% of tests return a null paternity. Not all babies are tested. For example, our three are IVF. We didn’t want them tested. We were keeping them! I couldn’t get pregnant so there was no way that was some APs baby and hubby knew that. So there is a reduced sample set for that 1/3 number. I find it interesting that it’s only 1/3 actually since those represent cases where the father was suspicious.
@@LostSoulchild89 could not agree more. The two year cut off is garbage too. There should be no limit to when paternity can be questioned. In my state step parents are obligated to support step children if they have supported for two years. The bio parent has to be out of the picture and not providing any support but that has created a situation where guys won’t marry a woman if she has any kids because of this silly law. Financial support should be bio only and nobody else should be obligated. Interestingly, my husband has a coworker who wanted and got custody of his step grand daughter based on the support rule. Her mom and grandma were drug addicts and heaven knows what they might have done with the kid. Mom and grandkid moved in with him and his wife (at the time). The now ex wife fooled him pretty good and got a restraining order to kick him out of the house he bought before the short ill advised marriage. However, during that year he bonded with grand daughter who recognized him as the only actual decent human being in her life. When they left he bribed them to leave the kid then got a lawyer and sued for custody. They went to court and the judge said, you two (mom and grandma) are terrible human beings. This man is the only person who actually cares about the child and he gave him full legal and physical custody. He also awarded child support but of course mom skipped the state and he said he doesn’t care. Good riddance. It’s been ten years now and kid is doing great. Grandpa retired early so he could be more supportive as she was a teenager. Good man
@@LostSoulchild89 Of course you realize that when I say "not allowed", I'm simply saying that society would stupidly paint the man as a monster and unfairly shame him for being angry about being duped.
Husband doesn’t sound like a parent that wants to work to be a parent
Story two, "dad" wants OP to tell kids to respect him? Obviously he has NO idea how respect works, "dad" has done nothing to deserve respect.
What is a condensing cup?
I think they mean condensation cup although I still can't imagine what she'd use one lol.
It's when you have a cold drink with ice etc and as it warms it produces water droplets on the outside producing a water ring on tables etc. That's why most people will use a coaster. It was written poorly
Story 2 - tell their father, RESPECT IS EARNED, not given freely.
Story1: I bet SIL never had a place lined up. She just wanted to mooch off OP. Ohh, so husband was drunk when he impregnated the ex. He should have been honest with OP about that from the start instead of hiding it. I think if it happens during intoxication it's not as bad as deliberately cheating. I'm glad OP decided not to punish the child for the situation. I'm surprised TX didn't make them go to some sort of marriage counseling. My cousin had to go through marriage counseling in TX before she could get a divorce from her abusive narcissistic husband. My cousin only got 50% and shared custody bc her lawyer said her husband would murder her if she tried to get more (he's the one who cheated on her but he wanted sole custody & for her to not be allowed any contact with the kids). All but the youngest are adults and are no contact with him. The youngest, unfortunately, has to see him and she doesn't want to because he terrorizes her. She's afraid of him-- so afraid she won't ask in court to not have to see him. NTA. I might feel differently if the husband had been honest with OP from the start and let her know what was going on & how he made a mistake while drunk.
Story2: I feel so sorry for the 15-yr-old knowing that his dad hates him. If even the favorite says he's a jerk, its obvious he's a creep. I feel bad for the younger sister too. NTA. if the ex wants the kids to respect him, he needs to respect them. She's not saying anything about him, she's just not stopping her kids from talking about him bc of how he treats them. They have every right to say what they say and she doesn't have to put a stop to it bc she's not instigating it nor is she actively encouraging it. She just lets them say how they feel. If the dad doesn't like it, maybe he should step up and be there for them instead. If OP told them to stop, they might feel that they can't express their feelings/thoughts to her. When my cousin & her husband divorced, the ex kept e-mailing her AND the kids to say how awful she was and accuse her of all sorts of awful untrue things (things that were true for what he did though-- accused her of cheating, which is what he did, accused her of hiding $-- again, what he did & saying she was evil and demon possessed & other ridiculous stuff to try to turn the kids against her- but she'd never been anything but loving to them so they sided with her).
Story3: NTA. It's not like OP said "I wish you were dead" or that she didn't want her as her sister. She just missed her bio mom. Selene felt that OP didn't want her as a sister, is my best guess. Plus it sounds like she's younger and took it personally instead of realizing that OP just really misses her mother. I'm glad the stepmom understands and wasn't offended.
Not being a bio parent is not as important as the fraud they played upon you. GET A BETTER LAWYER.
Don't ask questions you might not the answers to. YTA
'Went for milk.' Mm, that kid knows a premium roast when she sees it.
S3: It is wrong to put other's parents down, especially when you are a grown up 27 year old mule trying to make your mother seem superior to your 16 year old step sister's mother. Just avoid such questions if you can't answer them without hurting others or creating chaos in the family, and then don't expect them to side with you just because you were truthful. In fact in this story OP's bio mom lived only till she was 7, but her stepmother has been in her life 20 years and put up with all kinds of nasty and hurtful things what OP did and she is still going on.
Take your two year old son and leave. Go to your mother. Do not torture your son by leaving him with those people. You and your son are now free from those toxic people.
Story 3
Your father is wrong your mother died , you said of course you love your mother,of course you would want your mother, you said you loved your step mother and her so you don't have to apologise for feeling your sad your mother died
S1 doesn't make sense to me. Did they adopted the baby for real or was a deal under the table? 'Cause if it was for real she is his legal mom. What is that bs that the lawyer said?
They adopted the child legally but it turned out the ex husband was really the bio father and he facilitated the adoption privately behind OP's back with his ex who he had cheated with to create said child. This was a case of the husband having both a blood and legal right to the child in favor of OP who only had a legal claim. It didn't help OP that the ex as the bio and legal father wanted to punish OP for daring to divorce him for his infidelity and he used his superior position and went for the jugular to ensure OP didn't get far with any legal claims she had to the child.
@@cisio64123 Thanks for clearing up!
No, the parents both legally adopted the baby. What the husband “facilitated” was getting his ex’s baby adopted by them. Adoptions are legal proceedings. Had the husband done anything underhanded with it, he would have been guilty of felony fraud.
@@AngelaVEdwards Pay attention, the problem wasn't that it was his ex's baby . The problem was that it was HIS affair baby with the ex whom he arranged for he and OP to adopt without telling OP the real truth of the child's origin.
I am paying attention. NONE OF THAT MATTERS IN ADOPTION LAW. It doesn't matter if it's his affair baby with his ex. How does any of THAT make a difference in an adoption? I can tell you: it doesn't. The couple legally adopted the child and so both have equal rights to the child.
I could not stay with ex nor the baby, he lied and needs to be gone.
The custody battle was no different from when certain mothers committed paternity fraud and then the husbands find out later in life and try to get custody but lose the battle. The law allows parents to challenge the custody but when blood relations are in favor of one party and the ability of the other party to truly consider the child their own can be called into question, the odds of winning the custody battle is slim. I've read many of the comments but they seem to forget how one-sided custody battles usually are in the US. Given that the child is biologically the husband's own and that the child's conception in itself can actually call into logical question if OP can be trusted to be apart of the child's life without resentment showing up eventually, combined with the fact that her income is shaky her custody ruling was destined to not be in her favor unless she dealt with a judge who happened to have personal experience with this situation and could therefore be sympathethic. Although even if she did have a stable income, her leaving the child at the home with the husband providing primary care for more than a day after the news of her husband cheating would be enough for any lawyer representing her husband to question whether or not in the long run Op can truly consider the child as family and prevent most judges from being able to rule in her favor and feel like it isn't a risky ruling they are making.
How the hell is your own 2 year old child “too much for you to take care of”? Dead beat parent much…!?
Like Jamie Foxx said.... Blame it on the alcohol. Lol
Story 3 :- this is difficult. Selene did ask the question, you did answer, but I think that you maybe should have said yes, you would have LOVED to have had your mum there, but she also has to ask herself how she might feel if the tables were turned. It may be a difficult concept for her to work through, but after, you then should state, unequivocally that if your mum was here she and the rest of your siblings WOULDN'T be here and that is too scary to even think about. Then comes the great, BIG SISTER cuddle, okay? But NTA, OP.
There's no way this happened in the US. Adoption would NOT be disregarded, but taken into account greatly. Keep in mind, had she not known about the affair and the kid being her husband's, and they were just divorcing for whatever reason, OP would be expected to pay child support if husband won main custody. Biological parents mean nothing when they gave up their rights, another adopted, and it's been two years. That poor kid.
She had a bad attorney. He didnt do the work and went for the easy route.
The father who is insulted the deadbeat dad.
I would have the kids post every time father wasn't there. All the times he ignored them and how they are treated by the father. On social media and tag his entire family her family all his friends co worker company and boss and stand back and watch his life implode.
Please add outros and "the next story" between stories. It will help those that are hard of seeing and let me know where I am in the video through audio queue
So the woman can’t see the child, because she’s not biology related, but a man has to pay child support for years, for a child that’s not his? Make it make sense
And no, I don’t think they should have to support a child that’s not theirs
This is the first maternity fraud story I've ever heard.
Story 1 OP is beginning to understand how men feel when they're tricked into raising another man's child.
What is too honest?
Story 1 - OPs husband would never have gone the adoption route if the child had not been his. OP should look into adopting another child on her own.
Nope. Don’t need another child without a father in the world, or another single mother
@@dcg590 I would go single parent route every time if it means getting a kid out of foster homes.
story 3 - when you are a little too self center. It's the truth. She is dead on correct. You even made the compared. I think it's just one of those golden child center of attention moments she's not fully thinking though. It might sour the relationship but showing up and lying to her after will make things worst.
Cause this is so wrong though because Leagrave a child is her is the biological mum has no right just like the biological father would have no rights. Adoption is completely separate and for a judge to completely dismiss the fact that this woman has raised his charger. two years is so wrong and doesn’t make
The mother letting her child/children call the dads names is so wrong. My kids father would lie about coming to pick them up. I never bad mouth him & I never let them either. Their stepdad was their Daddy
They don't need to respect. But the comments should stop. They have no need to even worry about him.
My son's father is a deadbeat. He can say what he wants about his dad, he knows the situation. As said...kids aren't stupid and can see. The only limit is he can't call him names that wouldn't be acceptable in front of me no matter what, i.e. curse words. It allows for more creative thinking anyways when you can't be confined by a few choice words lol. I like the "went for milk" name lol.
So the SIL won then. The psychology is wrong in this story, not to mention the legal conclusion. I'm a writer and the characters all show a consistent selfishness that tends indicated a trait from the author rather than the characters themselves.
I'm laughing at the first story because it's so phony and the 70% was the dead give away, no judge would give the home to the person without custody
NTA leave I wouldn’t want to take care of my husbands affair child the kid is not at fault but I still wouldn’t want to take care of him eather she’s better off without tht drama in her life
1st story: I hope OP made cleat to her husbant the reason she found out and without his sister OP would had never found out.
Story 1 op sil was a jerk, but she did op a favor by saying get a DNA test
Story 2. Can't help but wonder what MIGHT have been left out to make Mom out to be an angel and Dad the devil.
Certainly enough gaps for this to be a very shaded account.
Cause of the Divorce? Did she cheat on him? Is he not the biological father for one or more of the kids?
Screwed him over in no-fault divorce? Moved herself and kids to a distant state?
Long, successful campaign of parental alienation?
Of course, it could be just as OP says but would be interesting to get the viewpoint of her mother or the ex.
Even his so called favorite has him listed in her contacts as " out for milk " and says he's a rotten dad so that speaks volumes about just how neglectful he is and has been. Did you not get the fact that even though the oldest only gets the extra attention of birthday presents from him and maybe a bit more contact she too is essentially mostly ignored by him ? These aren't small children who can be brain washed , these are nearly adult teens who can see with their own eyes the truth that the dad doesn't really care about them. He can have all of the reasons in the world for being mad at his ex but there is no excuse for his neglect of and treatment of his children .
@@cisio64123 "out for milk"
thus the possibility of OP actively alienating the children from the ex. She had years to influence them. Point still is you can't take a one-sided report as face value, and maybe think about what may have been left out. Especially the cause for divorce. If a woman blames the husband, she normally isn't shy about spilling the details.
@@LostSoulchild89 I understand the sentiment, but critical reading/thinking allows us to infer, not facts, but possibilities based on what is not said. Also, we can't KNOW what we're told to be true.
@@amerlin388 Your belief about the mom alienating the children might hold some weight if the "out for milk" contact had been from one of the other children and wasn't from his oldest , nearly grown and supposedly "favorite " child . Clearly you don't want to believe that any dad or man can possibly be so neglectful or wrong ever so of course it's the mom who is to blame for everything 🙄 OP was responsible for his behavior towards the the children because she made him mad or she's just turning the kids against him and daddy's just the victim here . Even his favorite child, the oldest who is nearly grown and gets more gifts and attention from him is apparently so brainwashed she won't defend him or give him respect( total sarcasm if you couldn't tell ) .
@@cisio64123 No. I did not argue the dad is blameless. I pointed out the missing details that might give a totally different spin to the story. It's a reminder that one should approach these stories with their thinking cap on, something you do not seem inclined (or able?) to do.
For example, the "out for milk" contact you latched onto... Clearly dad didn't go out for milk and never returned - OP would have said so, which wouldn't be believed if she did as it's so trite. Daughter had to have learned this trope from someone. Any suspicions who could have influenced her?
OUCH !
Well it is your stepson. Lol. But on the real, the kid don't look like the dad?
S2,, how does one "respect" a POS ???
Too bad on the first story if it was a man all the woman would of raked him over the koals for wanting to walk away.
Why even bother to tell your story to the world if you just allow yourself to be a willing victim
Story 1: The husband is morally corrupted yet OP is wrong to expect him to give up his flesh and blood just because she can’t stomach the husband anymore. I mean, going for full custody? Really? That’s just wrong.
Hubby got the job done and you have a baby. Why should your husband be genetically penalized for being with you??? Now you have nothing.
2 yr Olds aren't hard to take care of and using that child as an excuse
Is bullshit
S1: It is not healthy for the child's future, emotionally, mentally and stability, for OP to have any custody of this child. Even though her cheating Ex is divorced with is Ex, it is still their biological child and he will benefit more from them by being with them.
Oh dear Yes the AH. Children deserve BOTH parents. Dad may be a faithless husband but he can still be a good dad. Should have agreed to 50:50 in the start.
She was never given the option for 50/50
The lawyer already said she wasn't going to get so custody before they even started that fight. Not to mention apparently her court case came down to the judges decision which I'm thinking this judge was pretty biased towards non-biological parents.
Tell that to the cheating joke of an ex-husband who petitioned for SOLE custody and didn't even OFFER 50/50
The fact that he so easily used the boy as a bargaining chip says he's not a good father. None of this nonsense "stay together for the kids, Dear" 1950s crap, okay?
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