It's insane to me that parents won't educate their kids on sex ed and refuse birth control to prevent pregnancy like ahh yes the better option is to not provide the pill increasing the risk of pregnancy make it make sense
That’s why middle and elementary schools do. Not to mention movies, tv shows, commercials, etc. I find it veryyyyy hard to believe that a 15 year old “didn’t know” about forms of birth control other than the pill. If you know what the pill is, you know what a condom is.
My exact thoughts, this whole mess could have been avoided and she could have had a normal life is mom had let her go on brith control when she asked... to say being on bc would make her have unproteced sex is such backwards thinking.
Educating your kids around sex is SO important. It helps prevent unwanted pregnancy, sexual assault, and many other issues that can arise while sexually active. I'm so glad things turned around for her and that she is safe from her ex. I hope her ex continues to work on his mental health so he can be an active father and be a good ex/co-parent.
I had a similar teenage relationship. It was good to hear from someone who was so innocent like me who wanted a normal teenage relationship that then spiraled into serious manipulation and abuse. It took me many years to realize that I even was abused and things didn’t have to be so serious.
@@sacareapyro6326 Nope! Same age as me at the time. He did, however, go to his girlfriend’s senior prom at the ripe old age of 24. I’m not sure how the school didn’t catch that one… gives me the heebie-jeebies!
dude, fuck those people that are more worried about both parents seeing the kid over the safety of the other parent and child. that's so wild and messed up.
This podcast is so amazing because lots of people can relate to parts of people’s stories and it makes us feel less alone in a chaotic world. Thank you Devorah xx
Teenage relationships can be so toxic and abusive, I'm just glad she is doing better and found someone who treats her right. I know people feel strongly about abortion, but I'm also grateful I made that decision, even if it was the hardest thing, because as someone who already experiences mental illness and was in a toxic relationship at the time, I just know my life is much better because of it.
I don’t think so, it’s the individuals who make it toxic. I had a boyfriend from 10th grade thru freshmen in college, it was the most respectful, loving relationship I have ever had.
And deserves therapy. I'm worried the stable relationship is only pausing the underline self esteem issues. I wish the best for her and still think therapy could help.
Jesus this ex of hers is textbook how my first boyfriend/rapist was. Constant emotional abuse and manipulation. I haven't even gotten through the entire episode yet and this is just putting my through a whirlwind. I'm glad I'm not alone.
I cannot even believe how similar this story is to mine. It’s literally like you’re narrating my life from the age of 15. EXACTLY the same. I used to be so terrified he’d hurt me someday from the thought of losing me. This is terrifying. I haven’t gotten all the way through yet but - hed hurt himself, cut himself, threaten to kill himself if I left him.
I had a 1 to 1 relationship (except without getting pregnant) as was described in my early 20s. It's so hard to leave them, but it's important to remember: your life is more important than his. If he takes his life, as devastating as it may be, that's his choice.
I had a 1 to 1 relationship (except without getting pregnant) as was described in my early 20s. It's so hard to leave them, but it's important to remember: your life is more important than his. If he takes his life, as devastating as it may be, that's his choice.
This is how my anxiety as a child began and it feels very relieving to know I wasn't the only one because I had never met anyone with similar experiences. Random, unwarranted panic attacks suddenly beginning and not being able to function in school without constant reassurance from my mum that she was still alive lmao
Absolutely. And people treating me like I was “spoiled” or a “drama queen” because I was having literal panic attacks 🙃 so much resentment towards the people around me who ignored the very obvious signs
@@makthamenace yesss i lost friends bc i was being too “attention seeky” whenever i melted down at school bc i was convinced my mum was gonna die or something 😭😭
I think a lot of the people commenting here are not understanding how gaslighting, mental manipulation, and trauma bonding (referring to her son’s father) affect a person’s perception, behavior, and choice making.
I have had some terrible relationships & ever since I found out I was having a daughter when I got pregnant at 20 years old, I was heartbroken 💔 she’s 10 now. She’ll be 11 in June … while listening to the guest speak, I kept thinking about all the crap I let men do & thinking about this happening to my daughter ….. I’m so scared for her 😢😞💔 you don’t know the anxiety I feel thinking about this …. My babygirl … I hope she can trust me & tell me when she’s in trouble. I wanna always be there with her. 😞😞😞😞
Educate her about sex, birthcontrol, and STIs. 11 is not to young to hear about these matters. Alert her about sexual abusers and “Grooming.” About how if something seems to her to be “off,” that she should tell you or the police. Also tell her about all the bad drugs that are out there and that some pills and even weed being sold on the street is literally fatal to a person, that kids her age a slightly older are dying from fentanyl poisoning because they thought that what they were getting was percoset or xanax or something innocent sounding. Tell her that this is being done deliberately by Mexican criminal gangs who are selling this stuff and by the Chinese who are selling fentanyl ingredients to Mexican gangs, both of whom are happy to see American kids such as herself die from fentanyl poisoning or overdose, that right now 300-400 young people in this country are dying every day from taking this stuff. Please explain this to her.
Omg it’s so crazy when I was little I had a fear of my mom and dad not picking me up from school & I would have to carry a picture of them in my backpack & remind myself they weren’t gonna forget to pick me up. Pickup time was at 215 & I remember if they were even a minute late I would go into a full panic & think they forgot about me. I never suffered from any abuse tho as a child so idk where that fear even came from but it‘s crazy that I wasn’t the only one that went through something like this
Abby you sure have experienced a lot more at your young age then a lot of people so much older . I’m so glad your happy now and have a good family I wish you the best thank you for sharing your story❤️👌👍
Thank you for being so brave sharing your story. ❤ I was a teen mom as well. With my sons father who was very toxic and abusive. Went through the domestic violence cases and all the above :( I have a son too and just as you mentioned, my son is the spitting image of him. Sometimes his mannerisms and or when he gets angry (nothing to the extent of his father) but it reminds me of how his dad was.It puts me in a very anxious place or PTSD maybe.
My little brother was diagnosed with parvovirus b19 and it was terrible!! I have never saw anything like that before!! The worst rash ever all over his body and soo swollen. I never heard anyone else talk about having it before. Thank you for shedding light on it cause it’s so scary and not talked about enough. Edit: Just got to the part about you being pregnant while your mom was and think it’s so funny cause I was pregnant with my daughter when my mom was pregnant with my baby brother 😂 only a few weeks apart and no we didn’t plan it like that haha
This sounds so similar to me and my kids dad, i was so young and stupid and scared , now my face is messed up because of the abuse , im glad you found the strength to leave and move on before it was too late , thanks for sharing your story
I think we as a society need to stop telling literal children that they need a boyfriend at 12 to 14 years old to fit in or to fill whole, because quite frankly they are still babies and yes while they should be educated on romantic relationships and sex I feel like no one of that age should be participating in it. If Someone had spoken to this poor girl, and given her a healthier image of what it is to be a child and live in the moment and what a healthy relationship can look like for her future, none of this would’ve ever happened. Too many times girls don’t recognise the signs of a boyfriend pressuring the and they allow themselves to be manipulated. I think we need to start teaching young girls to stand their ground no matter what and when you’re not ready, you’re not ready, and there is never ever any issue with not being ready.
I had a son at age 20, my son’s father was abusive with me while I was pregnant, put mine and my son’s life at risk several times while I was pregnant. I left him right after a very violent incident right before I gave birth to my son. he was in my son’s life for a brief amount of time but he started to get mentally unwell and scared me, so I got a year long restraining order against him and he was supposed to go to drug and alcohol counseling per the judge before he even considered allowing him supervised visits. He never did those things and continues to do things that show he is still violent and making dumb choices so I have not allowed him any supervised visits. His father has asked me 3 or 4 times to have supervised visits but I don’t want to put my son through that. To me it’s better that he has never met his father than to risk something bad happening and hurting him because he doesn’t understand why he can’t be around him more and I would never be okay if his father did something to hurt him physically or mentally. Am I in the wrong? Should I allow his father to be in his life?
Parents are gods over their children without any of the powers that would make it a viable or even just good thing. It'd be great if you could peep into the future, past, intents of others and their thoughts like a god to ensure you made the best decision but you can't. You are only human. You are doing the best you can for your baby.
I loved watching this. I can 100% relate. Granted, I was 21 when I found out I was pregnant, but it sure felt like I was 16. And my son’s father also has mental health issues and was mentally and emotionally abusive. The last 4 years have been absolutely nuts and I am ready for a break.
Loved listening to this story and this is currently my most listened to podcast. Keep up the amazing work that you and your team are doing Devorah! Not sure how possible this would be, but I wonder if Gypsy Rose could get on the podcast to share her story
i also had the same concerns when i was a kid about my parents randomly dying. i used to call them every time they were out and was extremely anxious too.
I got pregnant at 15 as well.. he’s now going on 22! I haven’t listened to the interview yet, just wanted to say something since it’s so stigmatized. I wouldn’t change a thing!
I really like you and your podcast❤, the only thing is i think you and your guests should be slightly facing toward the camera (between where you are at and the camera stand) just to slightly see both expressions while talking or stay where you at and a mobile camera or camera-person or 2 camera that flip as they talk.
The one thing she didn't mention was going to therapy through this. This whole story points to someone who could benefit from the right therapy. I'm glad things are good now but I still don't think it's a bad idea. To bad the parents never offered to pay for that. It's expensive but would have possibly helped a LOT of this.
My story was almost exactly the same relationship at the same age as u and I too got pregnant at 16 but made the hard choice to have an abortion. So glad I did though because my abusive ex ended up going to jail at 18 for attempted murder.
This is so crazy, I went threw something really similar, I got pregnant when I was 16 found out 2 weeks before my 17th, literally the day I was going to tell my ex I was pregnant, was also the day I moved to his school. I found out he was cheating on me with a girl in our psych class, he ignored me until I found out from someone else. He was really abusive and ended up losing the baby due to the utter torture he put me through. I just wish I found out before hand, if I knew he was a bad person I wouldn’t of moved schools, I wouldnt of ruined my education, I wouldn’t be surrounded by the people that hid his bullshit and terrorized me for years.
Your description has a typo. You switch from third person to first person: "Abby's story involves real struggles, heartaches, and triumphs I've faced on this unpredictable journey." :)
the same thing happened with my mom. she thought if she put me on birth control, then i would have sex. but i was already having sex. so when i came up pregnant she had the audacity to be mad 🙃 if somebody wants to have sex, they’re going to have sex. it’s always best to say yes to birth control and talk to your kids about safe sex.
Awe so happy for her to be with her man for a while! I hope he’s a good one. I’m happy for her. Don’t feel bad he only went to jail for 6 months he literally could have and would of killed you girl. Hope he’s getting the help he needs
I had a friend who got pregnant at 15 and it ended up being twins!! It was a really hard time and it was a big struggle. I remember we all tried to help her from time to time. Sadly her boyfriend ended up committing sui&7de. She's doing great now and her boys are in their 20's now.
I kind of agree. This was a strange story. I do wish people would seriously consider birth control both as teenagers and adults. I was a teenager in the 1980s and birth control was my number one priority. I never wanted to bring child into this world that I didn't want. No shade to the people in the story. It's just a shame for children to bring them into this type of unstable drama when it can be easily prevented.
not taking away from the seriousness of this video at all - but it reminds me of secret life of the american teenager so bad 😭 like pregnant at the same time as your mom? is this amy?????
Some tiger parents actually do that, especially if a relative works for LE. They think scaring their kids into jail early will get them to learn. I can stand behind usinf that for stealing or vandalism, but not for this situation. It's asinine
I can't quite fathom how a 16 year old could have so easy of a labour and delivery as she did? I'm sure the pictocin being induced would have sped things up but still. I know from an evolutionary standpoint that women are as fertile as they'll ever be at that age but many 16 year olds hips haven't yet completely developed they wouldn't quite be large enough for a baby's head to fit through the pelvic opening? Especially how big a healthy sized baby's head is, sheesh.
i sat in the operating room for a surgery abortion with someone close to me. i won’t say who for her privacy. Anyway they allowed me to hold her hand and wipe tears etc. They gave her the exact same options for pain. she picked the most strongest one. They did the normal amount and it didn’t even effect her, she felt everything to the point she was about to faint from pain. She ended up having to get triple the normal fentanyl injections they do for a woman her sz. and she was still scream crying in pain and my hands hurt for days after from how hard she was squeezing them. i was so thankful i never had to go through that experience. she was in a very similar situation with a HS bf who was much older and lying about his age. And he physically started beating her. after she finally left him he broke in our house and R-worded her and she ended up pregnant. so it was definitely the best decision but it was awful. i know that most people don’t understand that. and it’s not the “easy way out” by any means. And you live with that trauma forever after. it’s not something to ever shame someone for.
Damn I don’t think she realizes that she was an enabler. Like after John smashes a window in her face with a baseball bat, she thinks it’s her fault & doesn’t file a long-term restraining order. This enables an abuser to come back because there’s no boundaries. It’s a traumatic loop that she couldn’t recognize she was in! And that goes to show how John had her wrapped around his finger. All the best to her and her family & everyone involved.
as someone also from a small town of northeast ohio, the feeling are the same for the world series lol but what a story and you are great at recounting it. Glad it worked out in the end for you!
They say you act the age you were when you first had bad trauma. This women acts 17 years old. Very immature speaking about how the day her son was lost she then got a new man and watched the World Series lol 😂… like wtf? I would be crippled with anxiety let alone thinking about another boyfriend and watching a baseball game. Her trauma happened as a teen and you can tell she’s definitely not mature still. This is in no means trying to be rude although I know it sounds it…. But this is why it’s so important to get counseling.
I just said this, notice shes still not understanding why her mom did want her baby father to spend the night with her. she said" what do you think I'm gonna get pregnant again" like as a grown woman she still doesn't realize a 16 year old will take advantage of their parents like she did before she got pregnant
I too had a daughter when I was 16. And leading up to it, my story is so similar to hers! Straight a student, doing everything I should and then... Baby!❤
No hate to this girl but it erks me when people say they “didn’t know about protection” if you know how to do the deed, you know the repercussions of the deed and you know there are ways to prevent those repercussions.
yeah no she has zero accountability for her actions. like a a kid to fault your parents for not letting your baby daddy sleepover is like normal expected but to try and throw that out like ''how dare they not let him lay up with me what do they think I'm gonna get preggs again?" like uh duh. as a grown woman the fact that even in hindsight you she cant even give them credit for doing whats best, for correcting HER wrongs is wild to me.
Yikes I feel that lol this was me for middle to highschool I liked older guys hated my step dad for no reason and my mom encouraged me to see my dad at 18 and he great and my moms terrible lol I love my step dad to death regret ever hating him prob will be guilty for a few more years
This girl needed some serious discipline when she was young and 99% of her problems would have been avoided. I mean 16 and pregnant and she keeps it is an absurd choice but then proceeding to get in more relationships and keep the toxic ex lingering… I fear most of the problems are her own fault
What a disgusting comment she was a literal child in a toxic relationship with no real guidance at such important developmental years, and this is the comment you come up with? lmao you’re weird
I what I took away from this don’t steal/date your ex friends boyfriend to make them jealous cuz you might be setting yourself up for some serious karma
@@taylortotss she started dating him with malicious intent towards someone else. We are a product of our own choices. Besides she’s doing fine so it’s all good
@@goatedplayer1892 when you do something with malicious intense, it always comes back around, usually much worse. She said it herself , she started dating him to make someone else jealous. That’s childish and malicious behavior. Is it wrong that I see it for what it is?
Oh hell no how ur parents his parents gonna encourage u to keep the baby but then not help u nope I am pro choice peer pressure is wrong for drugs and alcohol wrong for teen pregnancies
I’m so mad for u lol this impossible situation I’m super sure after trying I can’t get pregnant I’d have def gotten a teenage pregnancy and my mom would have murdered me so that’s good but nowadays it’s sad lol
She was literally 16 after giving birth. Not to mention her mom didn't put her in birth control when her boyfriend was living with her in the house. Doubt they'd have enough common sense to do that after she already got pregnant.
omg- your baggage smashed your boyfriend's car windows while you were screaming hysterically and YOU were upset he told you to shut up? 😂😂😂 She then calls her mom reckless for not putting up with her sh*t Then it's her stepmom's fault the baby got out... when does she ever take responsibility for her actions...
It's insane to me that parents won't educate their kids on sex ed and refuse birth control to prevent pregnancy like ahh yes the better option is to not provide the pill increasing the risk of pregnancy make it make sense
That’s why middle and elementary schools do. Not to mention movies, tv shows, commercials, etc. I find it veryyyyy hard to believe that a 15 year old “didn’t know” about forms of birth control other than the pill. If you know what the pill is, you know what a condom is.
meanwhile I just went to a target and the condoms were locked in a cabinet. it's so unacceptable I couldn't believe what I was seeing
Republicans 😑
My exact thoughts, this whole mess could have been avoided and she could have had a normal life is mom had let her go on brith control when she asked... to say being on bc would make her have unproteced sex is such backwards thinking.
@@cazzaweebackwards thinking is when u think the pill is the only birth control out there 🤣🤣
Educating your kids around sex is SO important. It helps prevent unwanted pregnancy, sexual assault, and many other issues that can arise while sexually active. I'm so glad things turned around for her and that she is safe from her ex. I hope her ex continues to work on his mental health so he can be an active father and be a good ex/co-parent.
her experience was downright terrifying… i can’t even imagine in how painful and disoriented it was to have a car repeatedly rear-end you.
I had a similar teenage relationship. It was good to hear from someone who was so innocent like me who wanted a normal teenage relationship that then spiraled into serious manipulation and abuse. It took me many years to realize that I even was abused and things didn’t have to be so serious.
you make it sound like you were dating someone alot older then you wen you were 15
it’s a lot more common than people think and it happens the most when you’re in high school or young adult
@@sacareapyro6326 Nope! Same age as me at the time. He did, however, go to his girlfriend’s senior prom at the ripe old age of 24. I’m not sure how the school didn’t catch that one… gives me the heebie-jeebies!
ME TOO!!!!!
dude, fuck those people that are more worried about both parents seeing the kid over the safety of the other parent and child. that's so wild and messed up.
This podcast is so amazing because lots of people can relate to parts of people’s stories and it makes us feel less alone in a chaotic world. Thank you Devorah xx
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she is a phenomenal storyteller. was so intrigued the whole time 🔥
Teenage relationships can be so toxic and abusive, I'm just glad she is doing better and found someone who treats her right. I know people feel strongly about abortion, but I'm also grateful I made that decision, even if it was the hardest thing, because as someone who already experiences mental illness and was in a toxic relationship at the time, I just know my life is much better because of it.
Sometimes the most loving thing is to not bring someone into this world.
@@kingworm7168 thankyou, I really believe that too.
I don’t think so, it’s the individuals who make it toxic. I had a boyfriend from 10th grade thru freshmen in college, it was the most respectful, loving relationship I have ever had.
@@melb2258they said teenage relationships CAN be toxic, not that all of them are.
i was so relieved to hear that the most recent relationship has worked out… she deserves a good partner
And deserves therapy. I'm worried the stable relationship is only pausing the underline self esteem issues. I wish the best for her and still think therapy could help.
Jesus this ex of hers is textbook how my first boyfriend/rapist was. Constant emotional abuse and manipulation. I haven't even gotten through the entire episode yet and this is just putting my through a whirlwind. I'm glad I'm not alone.
I cannot even believe how similar this story is to mine. It’s literally like you’re narrating my life from the age of 15. EXACTLY the same. I used to be so terrified he’d hurt me someday from the thought of losing me. This is terrifying. I haven’t gotten all the way through yet but - hed hurt himself, cut himself, threaten to kill himself if I left him.
I had a 1 to 1 relationship (except without getting pregnant) as was described in my early 20s. It's so hard to leave them, but it's important to remember: your life is more important than his. If he takes his life, as devastating as it may be, that's his choice.
I had a 1 to 1 relationship (except without getting pregnant) as was described in my early 20s. It's so hard to leave them, but it's important to remember: your life is more important than his. If he takes his life, as devastating as it may be, that's his choice.
This is how my anxiety as a child began and it feels very relieving to know I wasn't the only one because I had never met anyone with similar experiences. Random, unwarranted panic attacks suddenly beginning and not being able to function in school without constant reassurance from my mum that she was still alive lmao
Absolutely. And people treating me like I was “spoiled” or a “drama queen” because I was having literal panic attacks 🙃 so much resentment towards the people around me who ignored the very obvious signs
@@makthamenace yesss i lost friends bc i was being too “attention seeky” whenever i melted down at school bc i was convinced my mum was gonna die or something 😭😭
my son is the same way, can i ask why those panic attacks started?
I think a lot of the people commenting here are not understanding how gaslighting, mental manipulation, and trauma bonding (referring to her son’s father) affect a person’s perception, behavior, and choice making.
Your videos spread so much awareness too each individual story that deserve to be heard on your platform.
I have had some terrible relationships & ever since I found out I was having a daughter when I got pregnant at 20 years old, I was heartbroken 💔 she’s 10 now. She’ll be 11 in June … while listening to the guest speak, I kept thinking about all the crap I let men do & thinking about this happening to my daughter ….. I’m so scared for her 😢😞💔 you don’t know the anxiety I feel thinking about this …. My babygirl … I hope she can trust me & tell me when she’s in trouble. I wanna always be there with her. 😞😞😞😞
same
Educate her about sex, birthcontrol, and STIs. 11 is not to young to hear about these matters. Alert her about sexual abusers and “Grooming.” About how if something seems to her to be “off,” that she should tell you or the police. Also tell her about all the bad drugs that are out there and that some pills and even weed being sold on the street is literally fatal to a person, that kids her age a slightly older are dying from fentanyl poisoning because they thought that what they were getting was percoset or xanax or something innocent sounding. Tell her that this is being done deliberately by Mexican criminal gangs who are selling this stuff and by the Chinese who are selling fentanyl ingredients to Mexican gangs, both of whom are happy to see American kids such as herself die from fentanyl poisoning or overdose, that right now 300-400 young people in this country are dying every day from taking this stuff. Please explain this to her.
Omg it’s so crazy when I was little I had a fear of my mom and dad not picking me up from school & I would have to carry a picture of them in my backpack & remind myself they weren’t gonna forget to pick me up. Pickup time was at 215 & I remember if they were even a minute late I would go into a full panic & think they forgot about me. I never suffered from any abuse tho as a child so idk where that fear even came from but it‘s crazy that I wasn’t the only one that went through something like this
Abby you sure have experienced a lot more at your young age then a lot of people so much older . I’m so glad your happy now and have a good family I wish you the best thank you for sharing your story❤️👌👍
From someone who has been in abusive relationships, hearing others who have been through the same thing and how they deal is helpful.
The cat kept jumping on the table and they looked so done LOL- 😂
Thank you for being so brave sharing your story. ❤ I was a teen mom as well. With my sons father who was very toxic and abusive. Went through the domestic violence cases and all the above :( I have a son too and just as you mentioned, my son is the spitting image of him. Sometimes his mannerisms and or when he gets angry (nothing to the extent of his father) but it reminds me of how his dad was.It puts me in a very anxious place or PTSD maybe.
I’m so sorry you went through that. I hope and wish only the best for you God willing. 🤍
Is it possible that therapy might be helpful to you and your son?
My little brother was diagnosed with parvovirus b19 and it was terrible!! I have never saw anything like that before!! The worst rash ever all over his body and soo swollen. I never heard anyone else talk about having it before. Thank you for shedding light on it cause it’s so scary and not talked about enough.
Edit: Just got to the part about you being pregnant while your mom was and think it’s so funny cause I was pregnant with my daughter when my mom was pregnant with my baby brother 😂 only a few weeks apart and no we didn’t plan it like that haha
We have such a similar story, very small differences. Thank you so much for sharing, takes a lot of courage 🩷
This sounds so similar to me and my kids dad, i was so young and stupid and scared , now my face is messed up because of the abuse , im glad you found the strength to leave and move on before it was too late , thanks for sharing your story
Just started watching and interested to see how a teen mom could possibly be entangled with attempted murder
Homicide is actually a leading cause of death in pregnant and postpartum women.
It happens a lot more then u would think
And pregnant at the same time as her mom!
Until the last minute I was waiting for her to bring up the attempted murder
@@blinkbombit was when john was driving on the wrong side of the road and tried to hit her head on
I think we as a society need
to stop telling literal children that they need a boyfriend at 12 to 14 years old to fit in or to fill whole, because quite frankly they are still babies and yes while they should be educated on romantic relationships and sex I feel like no one of that age should be participating in it. If Someone had spoken to this poor girl, and given her a healthier image of what it is to be a child and live in the moment and what a healthy relationship can look like for her future, none of this would’ve ever happened. Too many times girls don’t recognise the signs of a boyfriend pressuring the and they allow themselves to be manipulated. I think we need to start teaching young girls to stand their ground no matter what and when you’re not ready, you’re not ready, and there is never ever any issue with not being ready.
I had a son at age 20, my son’s father was abusive with me while I was pregnant, put mine and my son’s life at risk several times while I was pregnant. I left him right after a very violent incident right before I gave birth to my son. he was in my son’s life for a brief amount of time but he started to get mentally unwell and scared me, so I got a year long restraining order against him and he was supposed to go to drug and alcohol counseling per the judge before he even considered allowing him supervised visits. He never did those things and continues to do things that show he is still violent and making dumb choices so I have not allowed him any supervised visits. His father has asked me 3 or 4 times to have supervised visits but I don’t want to put my son through that. To me it’s better that he has never met his father than to risk something bad happening and hurting him because he doesn’t understand why he can’t be around him more and I would never be okay if his father did something to hurt him physically or mentally. Am I in the wrong? Should I allow his father to be in his life?
Parents are gods over their children without any of the powers that would make it a viable or even just good thing. It'd be great if you could peep into the future, past, intents of others and their thoughts like a god to ensure you made the best decision but you can't. You are only human. You are doing the best you can for your baby.
Did you get with him to make your best friend jealous tho
No you are not wrong. Keep that baby safe. Your sons father could absolutely hurt him. Heard of too many children dying that way. Protect your kid❤️❤️
Keep your baby safe
@@htownfinest6167 who cares?
I loved watching this. I can 100% relate. Granted, I was 21 when I found out I was pregnant, but it sure felt like I was 16. And my son’s father also has mental health issues and was mentally and emotionally abusive. The last 4 years have been absolutely nuts and I am ready for a break.
Loved listening to this story and this is currently my most listened to podcast. Keep up the amazing work that you and your team are doing Devorah! Not sure how possible this would be, but I wonder if Gypsy Rose could get on the podcast to share her story
I am not sure whether allthe attention she is getting now is good for Gypsy Rose.
I used to have the same anxiety about my parents dying when I was in elementary/middle school
i also had the same concerns when i was a kid about my parents randomly dying. i used to call them every time they were out and was extremely anxious too.
I got pregnant at 15 as well.. he’s now going on 22! I haven’t listened to the interview yet, just wanted to say something since it’s so stigmatized. I wouldn’t change a thing!
Love this ❤ I had a surprise pregnancy at age 26 . Now I am a young grandmother and take care of my granddaughter every afternoon. Super blessed ❤❤❤
Only 15 min and I really relate to so much of this story… it makes me so sad for my younger self and for her ❤
Happy Sunday everyone 💕 hope everyone is having a good evening and ready to start a new week
You too
How are those olipop drinks !? I'm just curious because I'm thinking of ordering some on Amazon
They’re really good!! You can find them at most grocery stores now too if you just want to try one
I really like you and your podcast❤, the only thing is i think you and your guests should be slightly facing toward the camera (between where you are at and the camera stand) just to slightly see both expressions while talking or stay where you at and a mobile camera or camera-person or 2 camera that flip as they talk.
Wow I can relate to the panic attacks in grade school and not knowing why.
The one thing she didn't mention was going to therapy through this. This whole story points to someone who could benefit from the right therapy.
I'm glad things are good now but I still don't think it's a bad idea. To bad the parents never offered to pay for that. It's expensive but would have possibly helped a LOT of this.
My story was almost exactly the same relationship at the same age as u and I too got pregnant at 16 but made the hard choice to have an abortion. So glad I did though because my abusive ex ended up going to jail at 18 for attempted murder.
Hope you are doing well!!🥰
Please vote in November and remember which candidate is trying to outlaw completely. And has said they’ll go after birth control next.
I had the same quick delivery with both my kids too! They were out within 30 mins and every time I tell someone that they are def jealous 😂
This is so crazy, I went threw something really similar, I got pregnant when I was 16 found out 2 weeks before my 17th, literally the day I was going to tell my ex I was pregnant, was also the day I moved to his school. I found out he was cheating on me with a girl in our psych class, he ignored me until I found out from someone else. He was really abusive and ended up losing the baby due to the utter torture he put me through. I just wish I found out before hand, if I knew he was a bad person I wouldn’t of moved schools, I wouldnt of ruined my education, I wouldn’t be surrounded by the people that hid his bullshit and terrorized me for years.
Your description has a typo. You switch from third person to first person: "Abby's story involves real struggles, heartaches, and triumphs I've faced on this unpredictable journey." :)
This was the scariest thing i have ever heard:)
the same thing happened with my mom. she thought if she put me on birth control, then i would have sex. but i was already having sex. so when i came up pregnant she had the audacity to be mad 🙃
if somebody wants to have sex, they’re going to have sex. it’s always best to say yes to birth control and talk to your kids about safe sex.
I've watched several episodes but this one made me cry 😢
Awe so happy for her to be with her man for a while! I hope he’s a good one. I’m happy for her. Don’t feel bad he only went to jail for 6 months he literally could have and would of killed you girl. Hope he’s getting the help he needs
I love your podcast, you always choose to have the most diverse people with super interesting stories. I love you❤
Yeah they were both incredibly toxic. Also her getting pregnant again? I mean come on?
I'm loving these podcasts
*6 seconds into the video* my name is abby & i’m 24 & i’m from ohio 👁️👄👁️
I had a friend who got pregnant at 15 and it ended up being twins!! It was a really hard time and it was a big struggle. I remember we all tried to help her from time to time. Sadly her boyfriend ended up committing sui&7de. She's doing great now and her boys are in their 20's now.
Everyone in this story is toxic, what a mess
She was literally a teenager 😂
how was she toxic😭
I kind of agree. This was a strange story. I do wish people would seriously consider birth control both as teenagers and adults. I was a teenager in the 1980s and birth control was my number one priority. I never wanted to bring child into this world that I didn't want. No shade to the people in the story. It's just a shame for children to bring them into this type of unstable drama when it can be easily prevented.
@@thepragmatist did you miss the point where she begged her mom for birth control and was denied?
Who goes to their mother for birth control (even as a teenager)?This woman lives in the U.S. She has access to birth control.@@DiligentThroat
not taking away from the seriousness of this video at all - but it reminds me of secret life of the american teenager so bad 😭 like pregnant at the same time as your mom? is this amy?????
This is Zaire Haylock. Love your videos. ❤
9:07 You were on probation for sneaking out of your house at 14?
Some tiger parents actually do that, especially if a relative works for LE. They think scaring their kids into jail early will get them to learn. I can stand behind usinf that for stealing or vandalism, but not for this situation. It's asinine
I can't quite fathom how a 16 year old could have so easy of a labour and delivery as she did? I'm sure the pictocin being induced would have sped things up but still. I know from an evolutionary standpoint that women are as fertile as they'll ever be at that age but many 16 year olds hips haven't yet completely developed they wouldn't quite be large enough for a baby's head to fit through the pelvic opening? Especially how big a healthy sized baby's head is, sheesh.
“Virginity is a social construct” ???? 😂
In a way it is. Do you think animals know or care whether the other is a virgin?
The sound I made when you said askfm. Omg worst memory ever
i sat in the operating room for a surgery abortion with someone close to me. i won’t say who for her privacy. Anyway they allowed me to hold her hand and wipe tears etc. They gave her the exact same options for pain. she picked the most strongest one. They did the normal amount and it didn’t even effect her, she felt everything to the point she was about to faint from pain. She ended up having to get triple the normal fentanyl injections they do for a woman her sz. and she was still scream crying in pain and my hands hurt for days after from how hard she was squeezing them. i was so thankful i never had to go through that experience. she was in a very similar situation with a HS bf who was much older and lying about his age. And he physically started beating her. after she finally left him he broke in our house and R-worded her and she ended up pregnant. so it was definitely the best decision but it was awful. i know that most people don’t understand that. and it’s not the “easy way out” by any means. And you live with that trauma forever after. it’s not something to ever shame someone for.
Everyone I've known that had one was traumatized in one way or another.
If your child practically lives with their bf why would you not automatically put them on birth control
Also I think the bf 100% knew what he was doing as far as the unprotected sex bc how does an 18 y/o not know that causes pregnancy
Damn I don’t think she realizes that she was an enabler. Like after John smashes a window in her face with a baseball bat, she thinks it’s her fault & doesn’t file a long-term restraining order. This enables an abuser to come back because there’s no boundaries. It’s a traumatic loop that she couldn’t recognize she was in! And that goes to show how John had her wrapped around his finger. All the best to her and her family & everyone involved.
as someone also from a small town of northeast ohio, the feeling are the same for the world series lol but what a story and you are great at recounting it. Glad it worked out in the end for you!
the cat interrupting was so funny to me
Broooo she should have just snitched on him they’re was so many times that she could have put EOP on him EVEN BEFORE SHE HAD THE BABY .
They say you act the age you were when you first had bad trauma. This women acts 17 years old. Very immature speaking about how the day her son was lost she then got a new man and watched the World Series lol 😂… like wtf? I would be crippled with anxiety let alone thinking about another boyfriend and watching a baseball game. Her trauma happened as a teen and you can tell she’s definitely not mature still. This is in no means trying to be rude although I know it sounds it…. But this is why it’s so important to get counseling.
I just said this, notice shes still not understanding why her mom did want her baby father to spend the night with her. she said" what do you think I'm gonna get pregnant again" like as a grown woman she still doesn't realize a 16 year old will take advantage of their parents like she did before she got pregnant
I noticed it too!
And she got pregnant again by the same guy.@@imsoy2k
I too had a daughter when I was 16. And leading up to it, my story is so similar to hers! Straight a student, doing everything I should and then... Baby!❤
No hate to this girl but it erks me when people say they “didn’t know about protection” if you know how to do the deed, you know the repercussions of the deed and you know there are ways to prevent those repercussions.
That's not true at all
not always as she was just 14. besides, she got an abortion when she wasn't ready to be pregnant again.
Can I be on your podcast?
yeah no she has zero accountability for her actions. like a a kid to fault your parents for not letting your baby daddy sleepover is like normal expected but to try and throw that out like ''how dare they not let him lay up with me what do they think I'm gonna get preggs again?" like uh duh. as a grown woman the fact that even in hindsight you she cant even give them credit for doing whats best, for correcting HER wrongs is wild to me.
Yeah also the fact that she literally did get pregnant again lol
How can I get on this show lol
Yikes I feel that lol this was me for middle to highschool I liked older guys hated my step dad for no reason and my mom encouraged me to see my dad at 18 and he great and my moms terrible lol I love my step dad to death regret ever hating him prob will be guilty for a few more years
The dude is crazy. But this chick is toxic too.
Silly!! "Virginity is just a social construct" but you weren't ready
This girl needed some serious discipline when she was young and 99% of her problems would have been avoided. I mean 16 and pregnant and she keeps it is an absurd choice but then proceeding to get in more relationships and keep the toxic ex lingering… I fear most of the problems are her own fault
Absolutely! Talk about anxious attachment and lack of self esteem. Her parents totally failed her.
What a disgusting comment she was a literal child in a toxic relationship with no real guidance at such important developmental years, and this is the comment you come up with? lmao you’re weird
Watching these always makes me wonder how much trauma is unavoidable and how much is caused by the speaker
I what I took away from this don’t steal/date your ex friends boyfriend to make them jealous cuz you might be setting yourself up for some serious karma
Yikes.
seriously? lmfao grow up
@@taylortotss she started dating him with malicious intent towards someone else. We are a product of our own choices. Besides she’s doing fine so it’s all good
@softspokenreviews hoping Im not the only one who caught on QUICK with this one with her full on victim mentality/incessant lying 💀
@@goatedplayer1892 when you do something with malicious intense, it always comes back around, usually much worse. She said it herself , she started dating him to make someone else jealous. That’s childish and malicious behavior. Is it wrong that I see it for what it is?
Oh hell no how ur parents his parents gonna encourage u to keep the baby but then not help u nope I am pro choice peer pressure is wrong for drugs and alcohol wrong for teen pregnancies
I thought you had to wait 2 weeks after a missed period to test for pregnancy?
What a mess!!!
dude we had a very similar life /: sending love.
Dude. She takes no accountability
She does say that her behavior wasn't ideal here and there but I can see why people would think that
This is irrelevant but what are they drinking it looks so good
Phenomenal woman! You are very strong and incredibly beautiful!
And your vids are the best
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I mean I would be mad and cussing too if my partner had a crazy ex and they just broke my car windows lol. Not his problem
I had fifths disease in 2nd grade
Attempted murder??
wow....
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I’m so mad for u lol this impossible situation I’m super sure after trying I can’t get pregnant I’d have def gotten a teenage pregnancy and my mom would have murdered me so that’s good but nowadays it’s sad lol
Oh my first time being early ❤hi
Love your vids
Girl being pro-life is not an effect of “religious trauma”
why not get an iud after her first pregnancy? this girl is a mess tbh
agreed, like repeat poor decisions throughout. definitely irresponsible
she was literally 15 bro maybe don’t call a literal child with clearly no guidance a mess??? god damn
She was literally 16 after giving birth. Not to mention her mom didn't put her in birth control when her boyfriend was living with her in the house. Doubt they'd have enough common sense to do that after she already got pregnant.
She was a child, I feel like this is more on her mother like who would let their 15 year old daughter’s boyfriend live at their house tf????
iud’s don’t work for everyone. you can be allergic, your body can try to reject it, bleeding for months, it’s not for everybody
My daughter had the 5th virus when she was about 2-3
Yeah it was definitely cause you were 16 😂
It’s disgusting that a father would pressure and try to force his daughter to end the life of his own granddaughter.
Look where having the baby got her …
Omg
omg- your baggage smashed your boyfriend's car windows while you were screaming hysterically and YOU were upset he told you to shut up? 😂😂😂
She then calls her mom reckless for not putting up with her sh*t
Then it's her stepmom's fault the baby got out...
when does she ever take responsibility for her actions...
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