Is Dating SCARY in Mexico?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 พ.ค. 2023
- Jake is a single expat living in La Paz, Mexico. Hear what life is like as a single guy dating women in Mexico. With a little extra emphasis on Mexican women.
Find Jake on TH-cam: @jakethementor
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Although I’m Tejano, I grew up speaking almost no Spanish. Many of my white friends knew more Spanish words than I did but I pushed myself to learn and put myself in situations where I had no other choice than to speak Spanish and now I’m almost fluent. My Spanish speaking employees don’t believe me when I tell them I started learning Spanish about 15 years ago
Great that you learned Spanish! I hear from so many people that fail to learn their "mother tongue" when they are young and wish they had because I'd so hard to learn as an adult. But you did it!
Dating is scary everywhere
My wife doesn't let me date.
Same here! And that probably makes my life easier.
First time to your channel & I thoroughly enjoyed it!!! TY
Wonderful - I hope you'll be back soon!
Awesome video, as always. I enjoy your channel because you don't cover the same ol' topics. Keep up the good work. Thanks
Thank you for the compliment!!
Hello Brighton!! Thank you very much for this interview!! I am married, so not looking to date. But, there is a lot of great ancillary info in this clip. Also, this was a good class on communicating, regardless if dating or married or just want to go it alone. Safe travels!
That was really good I would love to see an interview from a single woman. I am 57 female and single and worry that if I move permanently to mexico I won't find my soul mate.
Take heart, souls know no boundaries. I find the idea of meeting the love of my life in Mexico to be completely plausible.
Thanks Michelle - I've interviewed a number of single women living in Mexico, but I've never asked them about dating. I'll be on the lookout for single women who wanna talk about dating on camera!
I’m here waiting for you 😉👍
@@alexaristed2534 Are you talking to me or to @michellpositive1471? I'm taken ;-)
@@AlmostRetiredinMexico lol Michelle. I’m straight 😂🤣
Setting intentions and being specific works! Careful what you wish for. Happy for you Jake.
So true! Thanks Amy!
Awesome video!! He seems like a guy with a great attitude and full of life. Cheers Boyz!!
He totally is!
Perfect.... Thanks for the help!
Excellent interview, you covered those topics well and Jake's experience is also inspiring. So, what'll it be, coffee or a margarita ?
Coffee is a great first step, but margaritas are easy to find if coffee goes well!
I’m wondering if you ever take questions from viewers to ask your future interview videos. For example people who are working in real estate there they are seeing the prices go up on rent and I never hear them being asked if they are partly because of that. I remember the days when I could rent a great apartment right by the beach in Puerto Vallarta for $90 a month. That same apartment is now $350 a month it’s still tiny Very noisy bar across the street and sometimes way too windy to open windows. Did I caused the rents to go up there or was it all of the neighbors that moved in that were from the US Canada and Europe? I also wonder when I’m renting a place in Mexico if I’m displacing a local that has to move further to the fringe to be able to afford an apartment or house.
I'm always open to suggestions.
Gentrification is a tough topic. I've yet to meet someone who can give an educated answer. It's usually a combination of:
1) it's supply and demand. Anywhere in high demand will see gentrification
2) in areas where Mexicans rent their homes (Condesa, Roma) it's more of a problem than in areas where they own. Mexico has a high homeownership rate.
3) If you're renting something that a local may want to rent, it's different than buying a penthouse in a new condo that was built for the gringo market.
4) Wealthy Mexicans are a bigger problem than expats.
5) Expats are the source of gentrification.
I'm planning to interview a researcher, but she's not an economist. She's studying the perceptions. If you know an economist studying this, I'd love to interview them!
Background music is distracting.
This was beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I agree.I just want to have fun. I am looking forward to visiting. ❤️
I'm happy to share Jake's story! Have fun in Mexico, Greta!
love your videos..
Thank you!
Hi !! following you from..... France ! I was lucky enough to share 10 years of my life with una Chilanga !! so I'm bilingal in spanish (and english). I visited La Paz in2014 and I presume it changed a lot ! quick question for you : don't you ever get bored ? I mean : what are the different activities available around the Capital in order to always discover something new ?
Thanks for sharing Francois! I'm sure La Paz has changed a lot in the last 10 years - it's changed a bunch in the last 3 since we arrived.
As to boredom. My wife and I still work full time, so we never run out of things to do in our spare time. Pickleball is a big activity here. As is dog rescue / fostering. Both can take up a lot of time. Lots of other great volunteer activities. The beaches are wonderful and lots of folks go to Tecolote often - it's La Paz's version of a party beach. Still way laid back, but you can have lunch and drinks - and meet up with friends. Lots of dinners with friends. Hobbies - I have a friend restoring an old GTO in his garage. Another spends a lot of time in the library / historical center researching for a book.
Saludos Jake..de UN Mexicano...viva..mexiusa....💪🇱🇷🇲🇽🌍🌍💪
@31:55 I practice Spanish by singing along with songs on TH-cam or other audio devices. I learned a lot of Spanish when I was younger, and I plan on leaving the us as soon as my passport arrives. Probably not La Paz ♨♨Thanks for this info. ¡hasta luego!
Very cool that you're leaving soon - crossing my fingers for a fast passport! I'll often sing along with Alexa in spanish because we have an Echo Show and it will show the lyrics so that I can understand what they are saying. Great tip!
The exchange rate has moved my rent from being about $185 per month to $217 over the last two years! Not complaining at all!!
Still very affordable. But that's a big change based just on the exchange rate!
How do you get started
Great video but the background music track is kind of distracting. The interview info is great all on its own! 🙂
Thanks for letting me know - I'll turn the music down a notch on future videos.
@@AlmostRetiredinMexico I love your videos and I'm looking forward to seeing more! Thanks for the great information 🙂
@23:00 The word - atardercer - What does that word have to do with the Spanish word - tarde - evening? ¡Buenas Tardes!
Atardecer is SUNSET
@cluggyahoo is exactly right. Glad you connected it with tarde! That totally makes sense and I didn't even notice it.
Nice interview. Wish his info was available to connect.
You can try thru his TH-cam channel: @jakethementor
Brasil has that 5 to 1 money exchange too, as of now, life is very cheap here
What a great guy! I believe Jake had a very near death experience with his accident in Tahoe and it changed his life for the better!
I am so happy for him!
Do more of these type of interviews please!
Thanks! 🙏
He's definitely doing a good job at using his second chance well!
I've got more interviews coming soon. Thanks!
I am single and ready to spread my wings and move to Mexico. I’ve not done dating apps.
I am dating a Mexican American, and I fell in love with him. We are both in love. I agree its that easy.
Regarding jokes, it's more than the language. It's the culture. Regarding ladies, men will nearly always prefer a younger one. That seems to be universal. Dating a Spanish speaker will definitely make it easier to learn the language as you are more motivated. Yes, practice!
Thanks Rebecca!
Jake has a great attitude. It’s nice to see such an open minded person.
Okay, now this should be interesting...who, from where shall I date??
So many options!
I married twice at 27 and 31 to men 35 and 53.
, and one daughter at 37. I did not lie marriage, so I divorced and left. #2, I just left, for I prefer to live alone. I married my own USA men.
How about don’t bring the “dating” confusing culture from US.
Most ppl have bf and gf with the goal to marry.
This is what scares me from US. All the confusion they have there w men and women “dating”
I hope good women in Mex don’t get affected by confusing American men.
American men “only what to have fun”
🤦🏻♀️
I beg to differ. In my opinion the “only want to have fun” statement applies to all men, not just American men. There are players in every culture and every gender. Let’s be fair!
People need to sift through all the sand to get to that precious grain of gold-whatever that may be for each particular person
My experience is radically different from Jake's since I'm not at the income level he's at and I moved to Puebla State in a colonia far more affordable than the rich gringo retirees' preferred living destinations. The cities/colonias in and around the area i live are far more humble and pure working class. I'd not recommend my neck of the woods to a person like Jake or the presenter of the video; upper-'middle class' or rich types need not apply here (parts of San Pedro/San Andres Cholula would be the exception; quite bougie friendly in those areas). Also, the rich retiree areas popular here don't seem like the authentic Mexico to my mind. They've been modified over time to better suit the rich gringo and are far more expensive to call home than other parts more inland where you get a much more real taste of Mexico, daily life, and the folks that live there.
I never needed a dating app thank the gods; I ended up meeting and have been dating the aunt of one of my friends for a medium minute now. The dating/cultural rules are something you'd better learn with a quickness btw; you'll get told quickly when you screw up and the women are quite passonate with their expressiveness. My Spanish is decent for a gringo and it helps that the girlfriend doesn't speak english plus, in the colonia i live in and the colonia next to mine where i walk to play basketball most evenings/nights English is ultra-scarce if not non-existent. (The profanity/slang on the canchas whether it's basketból or futbol will crisp your ears if all you're familiar with is more of the polite textbook variety or limited tourist Spanish.)
CURIOUS why LaPaz vs the Yucatan ?
Isn't the water warmer and clearer in Yucatan ?
MX PESO is in the toilet today 17.099 - 1 us dollaar
It seems that people from the west coast of the US and Canada end up in the Baja, while people from the Midwest and East coast end up in the Yucatán.
I’m near 70, I find Mexicans easier to talk to. Maybe because I lived in the Southwestern US, and hung out with Latinos. Come to think of it, most of my relationships have been with Latinos. I am not a gringo trying to “be Mexican”. I’m just used to the culture. Even in Europe, I met more men than I really wanted to. I had a Czech bf for my first venture, and they are more active in their letting you know they are interested. Not aggressive, they just let you know. American men my age go after barely adult women. And even if they don’t, they are overbearing and play too many mind games. Same with American women. I am LGBTQ. It’s different when you are bisexual/queer, but not too much
Pues acuérdate del día exacto o te vas a meter en un problema 😅😅 mucha suerte!
Concuerdo!
LATINAS are totally different, from Mexico to Peru to Chile to Argentina to Brasil
Passionate, sexy and fun and serious
Mexican women range from short and over weight (Indians) to white, tall with long dark hair, of Spanish decent
I have too much money to find true love in Mexico. Not willing to pay anyone's way...been there done that.
But no one needs to know how much money you have, right?
They see my house eventually and it is assumed, even though my house is not 'that' extravagent'...I've been here 3 years now and notice many gringa women, most older than me (58) have younger male companions. Don't want that either. But it seems the biggest thing here in Guanajuato is older gay men with young Mexican men. .... it's a bit disheartening to tell you the truth. @@AlmostRetiredinMexico
Hopefully it does not become The Villages S/W. Seriously hopeful that Jake finds what he is looking for. Or better still it finds him. In my experience Once you stop or s l o w down looking for something that IS when you find it or it finds you. P n D
Oh good lord - not the Villages. No golf carts allowed!!!
Jake is pretty happy with his current GF (and her family, because that's part of the deal.)
@@AlmostRetiredinMexico I think we can agree on that.
@davebaker489 I've been thinking it would be cool to do a video comparing Mexico to the Villages, but I'd need to step foot into Florida to do that, and I'm not willing to go there until some sanity returns to that state.
@@AlmostRetiredinMexico Sanity ? That may take a few election cycles. So you actually want to go to the S.T.D capital ? Wow. When my parents had the place on a canal in Boynton Beach the scariest thing was hearing a back up beeper and not know where it was coming from. Apparently no mirrors are harmed when backing up in that area.
@@davebaker489 Is the STD capital Florida or specifically in the Villages?
Don't date its terrible stress . Just have friends don't get fooled with the whole traditional crap that forces men to go above and bee on just be used as a meal ticket . Be you and respectful if she likes you she will like you for the real you. Be simple don't try too impress anyone. Learn the language make actual local friends that will look out for you. I'm mexican:American but live in Mexico i try not to stand out i speak very good Spanish so they cant tell that i speak English.just know female nature is universal so don't expect women to be way different from the ones in your country. They all have the same needs
I agree with your comment 100%. These men are going overseas thinking they're gonna find the perfect one. Like u mentioned female nature is universal. The culture is different thats it.
Adults cannot just learn vocabulary. You all need to learn Spanish,. You all must learn the verbs, at least. Once you learn how to use the verbs, you will be able to speak Spanish, not until.
Agreed - vocab is just one part of learning a language. Verbs and their conjugations are a much bigger part!
As the saying goes: estas casado pero no capado..lol
I’m straight but I always wonder why they don’t seem to be any video interviews or discussions of same gender couples. You’ve had a few guests on that are male couples but they never seem to be anyone talking about what it’s like to be dating someone in Mexico if you’re not straight. Curious if there are any women or men you have interviewed that date the same gender. Asking out of curiosity and a few friends of mine are always pointing that out to me how straight most TH-cam discussions about Mexico are
I have an interview coming up with a lesbian couple who moved to Mexico to escape the American south. I have a gay American friend who married a Mexican man. I'll see if they are open to an interview - they are both rather reserved.
Thanks for the suggestion!
Yesss
You MUST make the effort to speak Spanish. That said...Mexicanas are very lovely.
I agree - on both points!
If you like thickness; Mexico is heaven!
That's why I'm considering southeast Asia instead!
"is it scary dating in mexico?" Lol. Where isn't dating scary? 😂😂😂😂😂😂
So true!
expat? jajaja no! inmigrant!
Expat: someone living outside their birth country
Immigrant: someone living outside their birth country
Why such opposition to this word? Clearly it’s an accurate word, but definitely pushes your buttons.
C4YT
Come on Jake. Woman that are white or black are very emotional as well.