2023 Singles Night Q&A | Union Church
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ก.พ. 2023
- "You cannot have relationships without sex" .... "Men don't like when women ask them on a date" .... "She can't cook, don't wife her"
Tune in for an interactive conversation on singleness and dating from a Biblical perspective.
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The room got quiet when pastor said, Ladies you need to have a vision for your life!! This is not talked about enough.
I wish my church had a singles night like this! So necessary
i cringed every time i heard “female” 😭 thank you for having such a safe space to ask real world questions!
The misuse of “females” for women is very of putting.
Can you help me understand why that word makes you cringe? I've heard people say that before, and I don't get it.
@faithtvonline it’s because female is an adjective to describe a particular thing. A female bird, dog, chimpanzee etc. We are women and unfortunately I think throwing around female can come across flippant and demeaning even if unintentional.
@@FaceofAdonai Okay. 🤔 I guess it depends on who is saying it and the tone that's used.
@@FaceofAdonai And it stands out more when males are consistently referred to as guys and men in the same space where women are being consistently referred to as "females" 😬
We’re not meant to be single this long! 🔥
Well, we are so might as well deal with it
yes y'all are.lol.
I love this conversation it was so refreshing! But one critique I have is that I wish more of the panel would’ve got the opportunity to speak because I would’ve loved to hear more from the older people on the panels experience and more from the couple therapist.
Yes!!!!
I wanted to hear more from the singles. It would have been nice to hear from people who are actually living the lifestyle.
I sent this to my 3 adult children. The next time you have this. I’m personally paying for all 3 to be there. My young adults ask me these questions. I love this. I got some nuggets as a 51 year old woman.
This was so insightful!!! I really enjoyed the practicality and reality that was addressed. But the term “female”, kept getting thrown around. Can we stop using that word to describe women?
Why?
@@stephanieukiwe its an adjectives not a noun so it makes some women feel disrespected. Its kind of like when white ppl call black people "blacks"
Agreed! Why do they keep saying "guys" and "females"??? Feels a bit demeaning, even if that isn't the intention. Hopefully they see the discomfort and correct
We need to have these twice a year
I'm not even half way through and this has to be one of the best panels on single Christians I have ever listened to!
I met my person on the FACEBOOK dating app. It's been 11months. We are both 51yrs old.
That gives me hope . Thank you
This is the second year I’ve tuned in to listen and not been disappointed (still single though haha!). This kinda real is what we need in the church. It’s interesting that Australia seems to have the exact same issues as you all do over in the US. I’m a 32 year old woman, make great money, love Jesus but just cannot find a man who loves Jesus and isn’t intimidated that I “make more” - so good that Ps Stephen addressed that point! Also, we too sensitive here in church too 😂 these people don’t wanna date at church coz “what if we break up?!” 😂🤦🏻♀️😂 Stop that! Haha
Part of the Purity Battles we are in are really we weren't designed to be single this long ☕
Values over vision b/c your values shape your vision !!! Love that!🙌🏾❤️👌🏾
I think all the union churches should have a singles convention with workshops and mixers for Christian singles to meet each other. The ratio of women to men in the singles groups in the Charlotte campus are extremely disproportionate..
I love the way the Pastor and his wife interact, and have different opinions. I admit their marriage is a ministry within itself and that's what equally yoke looks like. I enjoyed this entire panel.
I ❤ hearing the word from Union Church while overseas, can’t wait to visit upon my return the USA!! May God continue to bless the Pastors and their flock.
Amen! Glad to virtually be a part!
this was awesome!! i can definitely say i have more clarity now when it comes to a couple of things regarding Biblical relationships. Boundaries, expectations, planning for the future, being equally yolked, what to expect out of a husband/wife.. etc. this came right on time
I am from france. Just saw the link on my IG and I just spent the best 2hrs of day. This is handsome thank you 🙏🏽
It was an amazing time! I was blessed to be in the building!!!
This was so wholesome to watch
so helpful! I just recently been saved by Jesus, and this definitely made me realize, I got some stuff to work on.
Curious minds would like to know how many people actually made a connection with someone at the event 🤔 😂
This is sooo goood. Soo so good. And y'all came for me ey😭❤️❤️Learnt a lot.
You say you are one thing and you are actually the other, people be shape shifting ❤️
The singles night did what needed to be done 😂 I’ll just say that! A mix of entertainment and nuggets of wisdom from my pastors and my brothers and sisters in Christ! ❤ So happy I got a front row seat in the building!!!!
Pastor Stephen is one of the G.O.A.T's. Practical wisdom with that supernatural flow. 💕💕💕 #comeonJesus
I too have, many male friends but had to create healthy distance/ boundaries with them because a friend of mine told me I hang out with my male friends too much a potential person may think I'm dating one of them, but we were really genuinely friends. We're still friends though I just am intentional with how much time I spend with them and how long. I also tell the person I'm dating about them, what we're doing etc
Excellence. Great questions
Thank you... This Q&A is great. I learned a lot.
I loved this! Such good wisdom/information/food for thought! Even if you don’t agree on some things, it is worth it to be challenged and consider the other side of the coin. 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
Pastor Steven ,in your infinite wisdom 🧔
I love the pastor and First Lady interaction ❤ Love the best friend vibe in their marriage and praying for that vibe with my future husband 🙌🏻
This is so good, but so much of this doesn’t apply. I live in a small town and everyone at my church is either married or young or not attractive to me. So if you live in a bigger city, this is all applicable - if not then it’s extra hard for us. Most of my dating has happened long distance because of the lack of good Godly men.
This is the best ❤
This was good. I was hoping to hear his perspective for the men and what’s required for them to lead a woman. Maybe next time 😊
Good one👍🏾
Shout outs to those who have success with the dating apps. It's no longer for me, due to the past experience that I've dealt. I believe that my future hubby/purpose partner will meet in public. I have put waaaay much effort into dating. We will connected and I pray that God removes ALLL distractions from us.
Yessss this is the comment I've been looking for, for so long! I also spent so much time on dating apps back when I was dating unintentionally (without godliness) and I just see how much "trash" there is in the sea since those experiences. Don't really care to do the app life again. I believe I'll meet my spouse in public too (or at church).
And fun too!
Vision changes values remain
please stop referring to negative things as "ghetto". last time I checked things don't move in a trailer park. we have enough going on with our self-esteem as black people; let's find better language.
Loved this panel event! But in the future can we be men and women and not men and females? 😅
If you look at the marriage stats you should be at the gym every day, church, dating apps, out every weekend, social media, etc.
Juuustin 😂😂😂 he made my night
What is the difference between being “serious about Christ” and being a “Daughter of the Temple”?
Gods not schizophrenic he won't give you a desire and says never mind
nah the way she's in his phone @ 11:16 is wild... LOL
. I don't think there's anything wrong with deciding to be single to avoid hurt or pain. There is nothing in the Bible that says there is anything wrong with deciding to be single. Paul even encourages singleness. Now, if you are sitting around not being healed of the deeper issues, then yes, that is a problem. But as long as you aren't living in your pain, there's nothing wrong with being informed by past experiences to make a decision to be single. I wish they had included more biblical context in these arguments. The bible also says it's better for a man not to touch a woman so......ya.
“You not in covenant” my favorite part lol
Godly places 🙋
Dating is ghetto or ratchet? I think sloppy is an appropriate term.
Generosity isn't restrained , it's a broad term
@35:02 My Response - I wish it was easy to stay out past 10 pm in ST. LOUIS. It's not even safe to be out past 8 pm, due to so much crime and car break ins.
@36:21 & @37:21 My Response - It's a lot of Godly men that are NOT SINGLE and the others are straight CLOWNS. God something has to shake.....
Maybe you need to move God made hundreds of thousands of cities in America alone.
All the topics in the description are not in the video 😭
@53:53 took me out!!!! OMG!!! Kia for President!!!
At the beginning, See how the woman is calm and still and the man is laughing and goofing and cackling?
Flirtatious ohh thas a word 😂😂
Will there be another on of these this year?
Yes!!! Join us live February 9th at 7PM. 🤍🙌🏽✨🪩
Men be wanting summer bodies while they have winter bodies😂
Were is the one that was like 3 hours long , I wanted to watch it ?
This i came back like yes 3hrs an now im disappointed ik they probably took good stuff out
I was thinking the same thing , I added that one to my watch later and it’s gone 🤦🏾♀️
I let go of the God that looks like me, a God l can control
And why we got all these feelings.......from a 5hr FaceTime are we space aliens....why we like everybody??? I dont......
Date post investigation
Emotional building 🤔
But the man should be looking per scriptures, correct? Or does Scripture only pertain to looking for a wife Alternatively when you date you shoulda be trying to look for a companion a wife et cetera
“Some of you prejudice that’s why you’re single” yikes 👀
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It was interesting that the lady couldn't answer the question "what does a woman bring to the table."
A man is expected to pay for all these dates... Be all this... Look like this... make this much money... Be this tall... Be this charming... Be all that and then some.... And take on all the burden of a relationship.
But when the women are expected to bring something they can't answer that question.
Women who think "well I put my make up on it was expensive and the guy is wasting my time" are kind of just full of themselves. They've nothing to offer so they resort to the superficial aspects about themselves.
Don’t agree with the best friend stance
Don't tell God how to work on your miracle
Men be wanting women with beach bodies while they have swamp bodies 😭
This woman talking about bodies but built like shamoo.
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