Domino Effect in Dating: Jimmy Chelsea Jessica Trevor - Love Is Blind S6

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  • @steveande6560
    @steveande6560 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I love that you stuck with this all the way to season 6!
    I appreciated our sessions together and tou helped me to understand myself better so I'm forever grateful !

  • @Aria-rr3qf
    @Aria-rr3qf 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +169

    I thought the same thing about Jesica. This is not like a normal dating experience...waiting until someone has emotional feelings before telling them about a child is messed up. They shouldn't have been together since that is a deal breaker for him. He shouldn't have ended up with either of them.

  • @MSmith-qg1oh
    @MSmith-qg1oh 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +93

    I 100% agree that Jessica blatantly waited to tell the men about her child because she wanted to lure them in before telling them something that she knew would have a major effect on their decision. She wasn’t just a little dishonest; she lied by omission. Then she blamed Jimmy for wasting HER time when she was the one who decided to delay putting all her cards on the table.

    • @connie27100
      @connie27100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This!!

    • @beatsventura8813
      @beatsventura8813 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Exactly. In the real world, she likes to do this too. As a divorced mother, anyone I would date would have to know in advance that I have a child. You're right in saying by omitting this, she is indeed lying. I really don't understand,cuz she wasting their time as well as her own. Why would I want to get someone interested in me, and then drop such a huge bomb. This makes for super messy. So unfair.

    • @lilyxo6914
      @lilyxo6914 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@beatsventura8813 Yes it’s definitely a waste of precious time

    • @onegreenenvy
      @onegreenenvy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You have to respect that a 10 year old child who is financially provided for completely with a present father, is not a big f’ing deal. It’s not like he’s changing diapers or paying $1200 a month for private school. People are more willing to accept a dog than a little human and it’s gross.

    • @MuseSunflower
      @MuseSunflower 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Some people just don't want that and there's nothing wrong with it @@onegreenenvy

  • @barokeszter
    @barokeszter 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    I love your videos. It's funny how in the begging I felt that Chelsea was chosen by two guys because of being such an easygoing, understanding, laidback, easy-to-please person... and then suddenly realizing that she has a scarily anxious attachment style, constantly needing validations and nagging her partner all the time. They way she presented herself was just the opposite of what she really was like, and that's a huge mistake.

  • @penize06
    @penize06 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    Never thought about how Trevor might have affected Chelsea’s dates with Jimmy, and how that probably made her less ‘work’ for Jimmy in the pods, great observation!

  • @latani21
    @latani21 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +92

    I am a Single mom, and I also dont say it the First Date. To my actual Boyfriend I told it in the 3th Date. He was surprised but he acepted. No emotions involved. So, I do understand Jessica being scared of being rejected from the beginning. I do felt that also. What I don’t understand is how does a Single mom, goes there to Marry Blind… in 1 Month, knowing there is the risk this person is not what they say they are. I would never put my Kids on such a Hard experience of living with somebody I’ve just met one month ago. I am with my boyfriend since 7 months already, and only now we are deciding to hang out with my Kids. I needed to be sure this person is trustable.

    • @joanna0988
      @joanna0988 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

      In the real world I think it's safer not to share because some men date women with kids on purpose. But in this experience where there's an engagement in 10 days it shouldn't be hidden.

    • @latani21
      @latani21 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      @@joanna0988you are also totally right. But I think it was a Mistake of her being at the Show.

    • @joanna0988
      @joanna0988 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @@latani21 Oh totally, that's why I think she only came for fame and never intended to actually marry and bring a new man around her daughter.

    • @talitam.8414
      @talitam.8414 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I honestly think you should talk about your child from the get go. Like first or second date max. It is such a HUGE deal and there is so many losers out there or people who don’t want kid or are not ready for kids… the info filters everyone out. Plus potentially being a step parent is a big responsibility! I don’t have kids yet so I think it’s absolutely imperative to know if the person I’m into is already a parent.
      I do agree with you that participating in a show like LIB while being a single parent is so risky if not dangerous.
      PS: The person who actually loves you unconditionally will love and open his heart to your child the same way.

    • @joanna0988
      @joanna0988 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@talitam.8414 You might filter out those who don't want kids but filter in those who want access to kids. My mom dated a few men who gave me too much attention as a teenager and it was really gross. I moved out as soon as I could because it was a bad environment.

  • @angelmushahf
    @angelmushahf 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Omg YAS. I agree with your analysis about Trevor. I also think that even tho he is a fraud, he exposed a lot of Chelsea’s personality traits and her weaknesses. I think he exposed that Chelsea is a poor judge of character, considering that she wanted to pick whoever proposed to her first. And he asked her about that. Even tho he is a fraud, he plays the part exceptionally well lol

  • @angelmushahf
    @angelmushahf 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    I love what you said about Chelsea. She seemed way more easy going in the pods. But I can’t wait to see your analysis on Chelsea and Jimmy in later episodes!

  • @Aalisrocklist
    @Aalisrocklist 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    100% agree with your take on talking about if you have a kid or not. Of course that was relevant form day 1 in her case.

  • @susiekidd9183
    @susiekidd9183 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Agree, even with your “unpopular opinion,” & insightful analysis that makes perfect sense. I was a single mom & I never withheld the reality of that. Jessica’s strategies (all of her decisions & words) seems to reflect her overwhelming insecurities & immaturity; she’s got an unfortunate background, that she apparently hasn’t processed her way thru yet.

    • @beatsventura8813
      @beatsventura8813 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Agree. It's dishonest to lure a man in and then drop the bomb. If you are afraid of rejection and lack the maturity to deal with feelings, maybe you're not ready to date , and certainly not ready for marriage.

  • @beatsventura8813
    @beatsventura8813 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    There was s a huge difference between not mentioning you have children on your first date, and waiting for your date to catch feelings, and then placing them in a super messy situation.
    Although she said she wants them to get to know her first, thats not what happened. She waited until she knew he had feelings for her. Not fair at all.

  • @09mjeternity
    @09mjeternity 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Agreed about Jessica, however I believe she would normally tell guys in real life sooner and she didn’t say anything till later this time because she wanted to progress further in the show.

    • @DrCherieTypes
      @DrCherieTypes  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      That makes sense too

  • @ninamariaDS
    @ninamariaDS 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Jessica manipulated him. If you have a child say it on the first date. Or before. A mature parent would like to protect their child from getting close to a person who is not even ready to be a step parent.

    • @notyourmanicpixie
      @notyourmanicpixie 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      How would a child get close to someone they don't know 😂

  • @lcroszell90
    @lcroszell90 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I didnt even care about the trevor jessica side of things but trevors constant validation makes chelseas erratic personality make so much more sense

  • @Lovelee43
    @Lovelee43 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    On point as usual! I think that Jessica & Chelsea were both sneaky. Chelsea by lying about her looks to get him and Jessica hiding that fact that she had a child. Love your videos! ❤

    • @joanna0988
      @joanna0988 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I don't see how Chelsea lied. She said people tell her that's who she looks like. They didn't air what Jimmy said but he said he gets told he looks like Christian McCaffrey who is much much hotter than him 😂 We didn't see Chelsea say he lied about his looks.

    • @khxliakhxlia3605
      @khxliakhxlia3605 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Yeah I think ppl take Chelsea's Megan fox thing too seriously

    • @elenakalliste
      @elenakalliste 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I think the larger problem is not whether she looks like Megan Fox or not or whether she thinks she does (both seem to be a no) but more importantly that she said anything at all about her looks as part of her deep insecurities about literally everything about romantic partnership. She knew she put something in his head and assumed that he would be disappointed, so she obsessed about it their entire vacation and was never satisfied because she knew he was, at best, only partially telling the truth

    • @joanna0988
      @joanna0988 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@elenakalliste Previous cast members of the show said it was very common for people to mention looks in the pods and ask about celebrity lookalikes. I think this is just the first time the producers allowed it to be shown so they could spin this narrative. But even on other reality shows like Too Hot to Handle the people have sex off camera and the producers don't care.

    • @elenakalliste
      @elenakalliste 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@joanna0988 but I’m talking specifically about Chelsea and her being a person who is too insecure to mislead someone about her looks because she needs constant validation. Plenty of people can do the same thing and not suffer because of it. It might actually help them feel at ease. But she shouldn’t have done it because she’s not equipped to deal with the consequences. Which is why I was talking about Chelsea only, not about any other single participant on any dating show in history. Just this one person.

  • @bisibisbi
    @bisibisbi 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    You are so good at explaining emotions and behaviour, their reasons and their possible results. Also the functions, you make the only videos where I slowly get what their mixture means. Thanks a lot!

  • @senaawl
    @senaawl 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I love your videos. You and Steph Anya are my two favorite YT therapists/sociologists. Always insightful tidbits that are applicable to everyday interpersonal relationships :)

  • @Hermothersdaughter665
    @Hermothersdaughter665 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    The worst thing that happened to men is the culture of having more choices than they can handle. Chelsea, on the other hand, is too much for me emotionally. I'm a girl, and I'm exhausted.

  • @screenshotofwords7839
    @screenshotofwords7839 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Begging you to do an episode on Love is Blind Sweden. I felt like it was the most authentic version of dating relationships in the LIB franchise and people had a pretty good sense of self.

  • @Cloud-ql3oy
    @Cloud-ql3oy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Dr. Types I wish these networks would stop these toxic show ideas. Why doesn't netflix just give u a show, and let you counsel these people. We all watch and learn to better ourselves

  • @sagqueen1984
    @sagqueen1984 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This was very eye opening. They each were talking to a more compatible compaion and chose each other based on their other connections. WOW!

  • @beatsventura8813
    @beatsventura8813 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I find it strange that Jessica would go on this show, where you get engaged to someone, without seeing how they interact with your child. I wonder how they would have went forward if she ended up getting engaged.
    Would the child move in with her and her fiance? Would they not even involve the child, and the first time they meet is at the wedding? Thats a bit too traumatic for a child. This show is not for people with kids. Any emotionally mature person realizes this, and would not put their young child in this precarious situation.

  • @alexxx9612
    @alexxx9612 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I love seeing you pump out the LIB content!! This season is a whirlwind so I love seeing you talk about all the characters. Thank you on behalf of all of us ❤

  • @TheCatt03
    @TheCatt03 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Such insights, and I enjoy listening to your takes and personality descriptions.

  • @laurm1800
    @laurm1800 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Another phenomenal analysis! I am always blown away by your videos, Dr. Cherie. One day, when I have the extra funds, I would absolutely love to book a session with you.

  • @jeremysmith9694
    @jeremysmith9694 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I love your videos and I love your takes. Really insightful. Thanks..

  • @quorraquar2677
    @quorraquar2677 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Thank you Doctor Cherie this was fun and informative as usual ‼️

  • @ArcticAirUltraPro
    @ArcticAirUltraPro 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I LOVE your disclaimer about it being a heavily edited show and people can grow. So validating

  • @theCatsitter878
    @theCatsitter878 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    "Jimmy chose Chelsea cause Jessica seemed too much work"
    little did he know..😂😂😂😂

  • @SugiesCookies
    @SugiesCookies 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I enjoy your evaluations. I like your channel, keep it up ❤

  • @michellegrantvaughn1561
    @michellegrantvaughn1561 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I love the points you made about parenthood and that it's no longer just about the self once you have a child, that it's important to filter out unsuitable ones. All of your points were excellent but I am extra impressed by your analysis of Jessica. Another great video Dr Cherie.

  • @rcplease
    @rcplease 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Gosh, needed you today!! Can’t wait to watch this ❤

  • @crissatn
    @crissatn 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Wow my mind is blown on how you have read into these relationships. I wanna get to know more abt myself too, after stepping out recently into dating 🙃 thank u for this video!

  • @relationshipsetc
    @relationshipsetc 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Chelsea felt competition from beautiful Jessica so she told Jimmie she looks like Megan Fox😭😭. Jimmie felt competition😅 from Trevor over Megan Fox🤣🤣. Chelsea made Jimmie feel emotionally safe by giving him space in the pods because Jessica was still there. Jessica pushed Jimmie because Chelsea was still. They truly were in a foursome💔

  • @JasmineDev
    @JasmineDev 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Jimmy is no prize. 😅

  • @hashtagmate
    @hashtagmate 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr Cherie talking about LIB is my absolute highlight of the year I can't believe we'll have to wait one year for the next season and for her to have more to talk about

  • @MuseSunflower
    @MuseSunflower 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Children are certainly a dealbreaker for some people and out of respect you should be honest if you have them

  • @LeandroVelez7
    @LeandroVelez7 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It needs to be revealed by the 3rd date. Preferably the second or first. Being a mother is a big deal and Jessica should have known how important that information should have been to share up front.

  • @christinaalvarez332
    @christinaalvarez332 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Wow, Dr. Cherie you are a genius. Thank you for making sense of all this. I can't help but wonder about relationships and dating in the past vs now. Do you think that personality types and cognitive functions played less of a role in the past? If so, was it because couples were more focused on survival or was it just people had different expectations of marriage/relationships in the past?

    • @Stein99
      @Stein99 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Good question.

  • @kellyflores4931
    @kellyflores4931 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As a single mom, I agree. You should disclose that right away.

  • @krapaokhai-daow6730
    @krapaokhai-daow6730 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don't know what field of a doctor you are but I definitely want a therapy with you 😅 Your videos help me reflex on my personality both good and bad sides and I want to heal from negative thoughts, win over myself and be a better daughter/person for people who love me😢❤

  • @RamonaMariaa
    @RamonaMariaa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    yaaaay was waiting for this video!

  • @dreaoca
    @dreaoca 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yesss thank you ❤ I've been waiting for this

  • @gemstar7447
    @gemstar7447 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great insightful content, thank you 🙏🏽

  • @Afak6
    @Afak6 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’ve been waiting for this one! 😄🍿

  • @_heyimbritt
    @_heyimbritt 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So good! Will you do more on some of the other couples? ❤

    • @DrCherieTypes
      @DrCherieTypes  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yes, more to come 👩🏻‍💻

  • @bachopinbee5991
    @bachopinbee5991 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr C. You got me on this one! Your theory is so well presented its believable

  • @iamastrangeloop9204
    @iamastrangeloop9204 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m ready for part two!

  • @44nk96
    @44nk96 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    It's 100% manipulative to withhold that you have a child. Single parents should be upfront about their children and only want to date people who want kids. I would feel like I was deceived. Jess and Trevor wanted screen time so they could be influencers.

  • @lifewithramyaaa
    @lifewithramyaaa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Such a great video!! ❤

  • @dbslide
    @dbslide 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can you do reactions for the bachelor too and other shows too?

  • @s.o.2628
    @s.o.2628 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is an aside, but I always love the outfits you wear!

  • @cholehill8638
    @cholehill8638 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    great analysis

  • @tahnaiyarussell
    @tahnaiyarussell 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Chelsea's massive high at 4:50 is hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @cyt8284
    @cyt8284 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I saw it as Jessica waiting until she felt emotionally safe and knew more about Jimmy's character. Given the show's timeline, she very likely waited a week. I honestly think they could have figured it out if they weren't on an expedited track to marriage. I think she should have backed off, though or just asked if they needed more time or if it'd make sense to just date and get to know each other in a longer timeline. I don't think he's incapable of step-parenting, but consider that they've never interacted in person, committing over the equivalent of being a pen pal is a big ask. I think they needed time and to actually talk face to face. They also have to phase in the relationship with the kid so the love is blind speed train to the aisle was always unlikely to end in 2 week marriage

  • @user-yk9sk7pg6v
    @user-yk9sk7pg6v 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video

  • @parklady4233
    @parklady4233 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    High drama = Trauma bond

  • @user-gj4ez6qj2z
    @user-gj4ez6qj2z 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Jimmy looks like a King of the Hill character

  • @relationshipsetc
    @relationshipsetc 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I wonder how many dates Jessica hid her child🤔🫣

  • @hannahw2697
    @hannahw2697 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very interesting!

  • @daria668
    @daria668 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    which type is the most compatible with infps

  • @sagetaluy7800
    @sagetaluy7800 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The only reason Chelsea went for Jimmy is because she wanted to beat Jessica at the game. Too bad Chelsea lost the entire thing because neither guy wants her now 😅.

    • @lovelie2936
      @lovelie2936 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Trevor was a fraud tho 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

  • @dbslide
    @dbslide 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Do you take on pupils?

  • @momoshun
    @momoshun หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Jessica was selfish for not revealing her kid until later… manipulative and sneaky. Fe dom’s dark side fr

  • @neuman_adventures
    @neuman_adventures 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm still very curious about your MBTI.....hmmmmm......IS**...atleast maybe.

    • @khxliakhxlia3605
      @khxliakhxlia3605 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same I wonder

    • @weronikakonieczna1856
      @weronikakonieczna1856 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Let's take a guess! I'd say Dr. Cherie is a NiFeTiSe / INFJ :)

  • @Love-yourself815
    @Love-yourself815 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    First like💜

  • @optimist-ri1439
    @optimist-ri1439 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That face Jessica made when he said 'something he has to think about because' she has 'Autumm' definitely reminds me of an FI thing.😅 You sure she's not ESFP?

    • @AiResearcherPhD
      @AiResearcherPhD 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m glad to find someone who studies cognitive functions. I noticed your pattern of typing Fe people as Fi and Fi as Fe. Consistency is good. But I think your definitions are broad to differentiate the two. I started out like that and I’m always refining them. Regarding Jessica’s reaction - Both Fe and Fi types are capable of rolling their eyes. Also I observed that functions in the 1st position are capable of displaying their complementary function sometimes. So Jessica can express her own values like an Fi. Jessica is not Se hero she doesn’t push. Si drops hints to Jimmy to choose her. Chelsea is the real ESFP she pushes her decisions onto Jimmy , “take it!” “Don’t leave!”.

  • @uritje
    @uritje 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I watched Eric Wen's live streams where he and another mbti expert analyze the cast of lib live and now I'm very confused. They typed Jimmy to be most likely an ESFJ, Chelsea an ISFJ and Jessica as an ISTJ. How can you guys differ so much in opinion while all three of you are so knowledgeable about mbti?

    • @AiResearcherPhD
      @AiResearcherPhD 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Psychology is a soft science. There are no absolute answers. Go with the therapist that makes sense to you. There are different ‘schools of thought’ when it comes to theory and applying it. Based on their answers it is possible their definitions and/or interpretation of cognitive function are different. There is no standard to determine what is right or wrong, as long as they are consistent is what matters. MBTI is one of many ‘schools’. It is a popularized version of jungian psychology.

    • @uritje
      @uritje 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AiResearcherPhD So it means that according to Eric Wen's defintion, Jimmy is an ESFJ but according to Dr Cherie he is an ISTP and this allows us to highlight different sides of his character and explains other behaviors? I can see how both models are usefull but doesn't it lead to a lot of confusion if we use the same name? I'm sure I'm not the only one trying to make sense of the different models and keeps getting confused because I thought there was some kind of consensus between the experts on the defintions (although I already knew they differed slightly). Especially because in the community people say "I'm an ENTP" and not "I'm an ENTP according to Dr Cherie mbti type model"

    • @kosidinna_
      @kosidinna_ 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ⁠@@uritjewhy are you so pressed? you sound angry. like dr cherie prefaces, we are not seeing everything that each contestant goes through and so she’s definitely not going to be 100% throughout. give grace

    • @uritje
      @uritje 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kosidinna_I'm not angry at all but I apologize if I came of that way. I'm just confused but very interested in mbti so I want to understand it thoroughly. I also appriciate Dr Cherie's insights and think they are very usefull and I don't expect her to give the full picture of a person we only have limited information on. I just wanted to start a discussion on how we can communicate more clarity for the people who are also unaware that different experts use the model differently.
      Can I ask you what things I said made it seem like I was angry? I'd like to improve my communication skills since I am on the spectrum.

    • @Aria-rr3qf
      @Aria-rr3qf 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Because they are different people. Two different people can talk to the same person and have two different opinions about that one person. People don't like Jimmy, I do. Does that make me wrong for liking him? MBTI guesses about personality types is just that....GUESSES...based off an edited show and like she says...she doesn't know these people. This is all just guesses by her and by Eric.

  • @quorraquar2677
    @quorraquar2677 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    🎉💜YES💜🎉

  • @Mayoo22334
    @Mayoo22334 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

  • @user-gj4ez6qj2z
    @user-gj4ez6qj2z 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Jimmy is giving dud anyway

  • @SugiesCookies
    @SugiesCookies 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Jessica is too good for Jimmy anyway. Lmfao…basing his decision on her having a child because he wants to be her only child. He needs to grow up.

    • @angelmushahf
      @angelmushahf 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I agree. I understand that he’s not ready to be a father, tho. But now he has Chelsea lol

  • @smartmarketing173
    @smartmarketing173 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Spot on with the love triangle! I wish you’d been around when I was younger. I’ve wasted so many years not understanding all of this, which you have explained perfectly 🫶