I had all my kids later, not by choice. But the real surprise was my third child born when I was 45. Not a single medical issue for me or him. It was honestly my best and easiest pregnancy. I was able to be stress free and I felt supported and safe.
My first pregnancy was a surprise about 6 months after being married at age 18, miscarried at 7 weeks. Second happened on birth control a month later, I had hyperemesis and extreme vomiting and physical issues but delivered a healthy baby boy. This pregnancy (currently 21 years old and 34 weeks), and I've had the most bizarre pregnancy. No nausea. No anxiety. No physical discomfort outside of being tired. Its honestly the weirdest thing, I frequently forget I'm pregnant because I'm not in pain or vomiting or crying. This is a good video!
I was 16 weeks pregnant with hyperemesis and they had to give me an emergency abortion I almost died from an infection . I don’t wish hyperemesis on nobody
How so? Birth has always been dangerous. It's literally never been the weirdly romanticized notion most people think of it as, that being something the woman is "made to be able to do" therefore risks should be rare. It's a lovely idea but it just doesn't realistically apply to still evolving species.
@@billiegrimm-stone3866 while being harmed by giving birth is "normal" in the sense that it has been the rule since the beginning of our species, we do not have to accept it. Nature has no sense of ethics. Nature has no conscious will. Nature makes mistakes. We are sentient beings with free will. We can change things that are harmful. There's a logical fallacy that is often called the "naturalistic" or "the is-ought" fallacy. Basically, it is fallacious logic to assert that something OUGHT to be a certain way just because it IS a certain way
you know what really upsets me? The more TED´talks about pregnancy I listen to, the less I see the epeal in becoming pregnant. ...except of having a little screaming monster, that doesn't let me sleep. I applaud everybody who does/did this. very brave!
Irma Padimanskiene, yeah like I said, I‘m amazed at everyone who can do this. I guess I‘m just scared that I will start to hate the baby, if it doesn‘t stop screaming...
I used to think exactly like you around the same age as you... then one day I looked in the mirror and this realization came to me that I’m ... mortal ( surprise surprise!) . Also, I’ve realized at some point or another that nothing in life amazes or surprises me anymore like it used to... now I have a child and I get to relive a lot of moments through my child’s eyes. It’s a very empowering feeling. It’s a journey. Yet, I used to think really poorly of having kids or motherhood in general. We do change with time and our views do change with time, that’s all I’m trying to say ;)
Hmmm... It is hard, but it is also the very best thing in the world. I had a though pregnancy and my son has a rare syndrome. He is the love of my life. I'm being honest: there's nothing like our connection. It's 100% worth it. Is it true love. Go figure... 😊
Olga Harris that’s generalization to say that our views change over time, there are many women and men who are 50, 60, 70 and didn’t change their views on not having kids just because you did change your views doesn’t mean that everyone will, people aren’t all the same
I don't think that it was really needed. This s part of the problems - they are so many and so unique and every pregnant woman is differently affected by them. It is important to know that if a pregnant woman does not have some of the well defined problems does not mean that she is not going through an ordeal of her own. 94% of the cases she is, and to be honest, I think the rest 6% had just a very positive mindset when participating in the study.
I would like to see what the percentage of conception is at younger ages as well- under 24. Some justify sexualizing children saying girls become women at the age of menses or around 12-15. Is it more appropriate or natural for women to become mothers younger or older? I would like to see data arguing all sides.
It's hard not to compare this to the obesity epidemic. Being thin isn't the normal anymore, and rather than moralizing people's problem we need to treat them where they're at.
crazywriterchic it's also difficult not to think of how badly English has devolved, thus sentences ending poorly; for example putting at at the end of a sentence! 😀 The fatties aren't attacking you, ao ignore them 😊
crazywriterchic obesity is a symptom. A symptom of eating and activity habits. Pregnancy is not a symptom. I think changing how we talk about obesity should shift. But rather than accepting our new unhealthy standards why not shift the discussion to the causes. Added sugar in food, reduced activity in daily lives, depression, etc. How we talk about pregnancy comes from our preconceived notions about pain, ability, work directly related to the pregnancy not causing the pregnancy. These cause more obstacles and require a shift in order to empower maternity. I would rather not empower obesity but rather undermine it by empowering people with knowledge to fight the causes of obesity.
Victoria Vorce Actually, the comparison makes sense. Obesity is a symptom of a natural part of life (nourishing our bodies) being negatively affected by culture -- modern ideas and lifestyles. I believe a lot of pregnancy problems are symptoms of a natural part of life (pregnancy) being negatively affected by culture. E.g. the production, types, amounts, availability and cost of food; ideas and habits around food; sedentary lifestyles; the form of our support networks; (mis)education; a culture of medicalisation. Our modern lifestyles are far from ideal for our health, and that affects every facet of our lives.
I had my first and only child at 32 years old. I had zero health issues during my pregnancy and didn't even know I was pregnant until almost 20 weeks. I had morning sickness for 2 days and that was it, I didn't even know it was morning sickness until a month later when I took a test. I had a natural delivery with no pain medication or intervention at all. I was up walking around within 30 minutes of delivery. 🤷🏼♀️🤍
Love the idea of collecting data via an app. I think that doctors might even like having that data at the appointments. Big data is great for spotting hidden trends.
Michelle, you should totally get a lady calendar app on your phone. I use one on my smartphone called "My Calendar" (pink diary with white flower on it, free app) that lest you track ALL that kind of stuff, AND even warns you ahead of time that your cycle is due to start soon. I've been using it for a year and it's awesome.
La'Ayla 5150 I've been using an app called glow for years and now an app called nature now that I'm pregnant. At the time this app had the clearest user interface, I'll check out that app you recommend to see if it's better, it might use the data better or clearer.
I had both my kids in my 30s, but just because you can should you?. An ageing persons cells are not as healthy as a younger person. ....with age comes deterioration. Theres a reason why older people look aged ..... The composition of air wind water earth and space change as we get older .... Older people often have less lubrication ... Oil levels in the body drop ..... Everything starts to change ... A child is also a product of mental state .... We accumulate a lot of mental baggage as we get older .... Imagine thw health of smokers and drinkers at 25 vs 35 ..... Lots to consider.... It isnt as simple as just because you can you should
@@PatriotafVenise You should be female yes, but unfortunately the vast majority of Doctors and people in the medical practice are Men (aside from Nurses). If it makes our lives easier because they make more discoveries about pregnancy, I don't care.
Yes all gender can share their opinion but men will never truly understand because they will never experience pregnancy even if they are a doctor so i take his talk as an opinion.
Finally, a man that understands what this ordeal is about...more men need to change their concept of normal pregnancy
I had all my kids later, not by choice. But the real surprise was my third child born when I was 45. Not a single medical issue for me or him. It was honestly my best and easiest pregnancy. I was able to be stress free and I felt supported and safe.
My first pregnancy was a surprise about 6 months after being married at age 18, miscarried at 7 weeks. Second happened on birth control a month later, I had hyperemesis and extreme vomiting and physical issues but delivered a healthy baby boy. This pregnancy (currently 21 years old and 34 weeks), and I've had the most bizarre pregnancy. No nausea. No anxiety. No physical discomfort outside of being tired. Its honestly the weirdest thing, I frequently forget I'm pregnant because I'm not in pain or vomiting or crying. This is a good video!
Congratulations on your baby boy and your new baby/healthy pregnancy.
I was 16 weeks pregnant with hyperemesis and they had to give me an emergency abortion I almost died from an infection . I don’t wish hyperemesis on nobody
Please someone build a statue to this guy ! Debunking all pregnancy myths
Something is not normal when women get hurt by giving birth.
How so? Birth has always been dangerous. It's literally never been the weirdly romanticized notion most people think of it as, that being something the woman is "made to be able to do" therefore risks should be rare. It's a lovely idea but it just doesn't realistically apply to still evolving species.
@@billiegrimm-stone3866 while being harmed by giving birth is "normal" in the sense that it has been the rule since the beginning of our species, we do not have to accept it. Nature has no sense of ethics. Nature has no conscious will. Nature makes mistakes. We are sentient beings with free will. We can change things that are harmful. There's a logical fallacy that is often called the "naturalistic" or "the is-ought" fallacy. Basically, it is fallacious logic to assert that something OUGHT to be a certain way just because it IS a certain way
Women have painful births because evolution does not care about pain. As long as the baby comes out.
LOL incorrect
pain and struggle is a major part of life
you know what really upsets me?
The more TED´talks about pregnancy I listen to, the less I see the epeal in becoming pregnant.
...except of having a little screaming monster, that doesn't let me sleep.
I applaud everybody who does/did this. very brave!
DieFarbeLila88 you used to this little monster too :)
Irma Padimanskiene, yeah like I said, I‘m amazed at everyone who can do this.
I guess I‘m just scared that I will start to hate the baby, if it doesn‘t stop screaming...
I used to think exactly like you around the same age as you... then one day I looked in the mirror and this realization came to me that I’m ... mortal ( surprise surprise!) . Also, I’ve realized at some point or another that nothing in life amazes or surprises me anymore like it used to... now I have a child and I get to relive a lot of moments through my child’s eyes. It’s a very empowering feeling. It’s a journey. Yet, I used to think really poorly of having kids or motherhood in general. We do change with time and our views do change with time, that’s all I’m trying to say ;)
Hmmm... It is hard, but it is also the very best thing in the world. I had a though pregnancy and my son has a rare syndrome. He is the love of my life. I'm being honest: there's nothing like our connection. It's 100% worth it. Is it true love. Go figure... 😊
Olga Harris that’s generalization to say that our views change over time, there are many women and men who are 50, 60, 70 and didn’t change their views on not having kids
just because you did change your views doesn’t mean that everyone will, people aren’t all the same
NORMAL: women have a choice to have kids or not to have kids
A very good and captivating talk but I find he did not bother to define the problems of motherhood with examples.
I don't think that it was really needed. This s part of the problems - they are so many and so unique and every pregnant woman is differently affected by them. It is important to know that if a pregnant woman does not have some of the well defined problems does not mean that she is not going through an ordeal of her own. 94% of the cases she is, and to be honest, I think the rest 6% had just a very positive mindset when participating in the study.
Could you share the rereaches reffered to?
I would like to see what the percentage of conception is at younger ages as well- under 24. Some justify sexualizing children saying girls become women at the age of menses or around 12-15. Is it more appropriate or natural for women to become mothers younger or older? I would like to see data arguing all sides.
It's hard not to compare this to the obesity epidemic. Being thin isn't the normal anymore, and rather than moralizing people's problem we need to treat them where they're at.
crazywriterchic it's also difficult not to think of how badly English has devolved, thus sentences ending poorly; for example putting at at the end of a sentence! 😀 The fatties aren't attacking you, ao ignore them 😊
crazywriterchic so
crazywriterchic reaching
crazywriterchic obesity is a symptom. A symptom of eating and activity habits. Pregnancy is not a symptom. I think changing how we talk about obesity should shift. But rather than accepting our new unhealthy standards why not shift the discussion to the causes. Added sugar in food, reduced activity in daily lives, depression, etc. How we talk about pregnancy comes from our preconceived notions about pain, ability, work directly related to the pregnancy not causing the pregnancy. These cause more obstacles and require a shift in order to empower maternity. I would rather not empower obesity but rather undermine it by empowering people with knowledge to fight the causes of obesity.
Victoria Vorce Actually, the comparison makes sense. Obesity is a symptom of a natural part of life (nourishing our bodies) being negatively affected by culture -- modern ideas and lifestyles. I believe a lot of pregnancy problems are symptoms of a natural part of life (pregnancy) being negatively affected by culture. E.g. the production, types, amounts, availability and cost of food; ideas and habits around food; sedentary lifestyles; the form of our support networks; (mis)education; a culture of medicalisation. Our modern lifestyles are far from ideal for our health, and that affects every facet of our lives.
Beautiful talk and great information.
the fertility evolution craziness has always been insane to me...
Candice Thomas agree
I had my first and only child at 32 years old. I had zero health issues during my pregnancy and didn't even know I was pregnant until almost 20 weeks. I had morning sickness for 2 days and that was it, I didn't even know it was morning sickness until a month later when I took a test. I had a natural delivery with no pain medication or intervention at all. I was up walking around within 30 minutes of delivery. 🤷🏼♀️🤍
Can you share the reference (title, author, magazine, issue,doi ...) for the study made 10 years ago please? (minute 5:44) Thank you very much!!
Love the idea of collecting data via an app. I think that doctors might even like having that data at the appointments. Big data is great for spotting hidden trends.
Michelle, you should totally get a lady calendar app on your phone. I use one on my smartphone called "My Calendar" (pink diary with white flower on it, free app) that lest you track ALL that kind of stuff, AND even warns you ahead of time that your cycle is due to start soon. I've been using it for a year and it's awesome.
La'Ayla 5150 I've been using an app called glow for years and now an app called nature now that I'm pregnant. At the time this app had the clearest user interface, I'll check out that app you recommend to see if it's better, it might use the data better or clearer.
oh cool, I'll totally check out that app tha tyou use, too! Oh and good luck with the baby!
I am hooked on Lode's talks!
What an excellent informative and educational talk, more people especially men need to hear this👍
wow, brilliant! I didnť heart about thist 300 years old studies :-))
Thank you 🙏
Hes speaking the truth.
Getting pregnant isn't the main problem after 34, guy. Carrying to term is.
I hope this guy isn't a doctor
I had both my kids in my 30s, but just because you can should you?. An ageing persons cells are not as healthy as a younger person. ....with age comes deterioration. Theres a reason why older people look aged ..... The composition of air wind water earth and space change as we get older .... Older people often have less lubrication ... Oil levels in the body drop ..... Everything starts to change ... A child is also a product of mental state .... We accumulate a lot of mental baggage as we get older .... Imagine thw health of smokers and drinkers at 25 vs 35 ..... Lots to consider.... It isnt as simple as just because you can you should
brilliant!!!
honest talk
Over intellectualised speech... nothing interesting, completely confusing speech...try in a better way
Men don’t have the right to talk about what’s normal
Or not normal in a pregnancy ...
They have the Right when it's for our benefit.
Kimberly H. They aren’t woman nor do they truly know how our anatomy works .. you must be a female to truly know 🙄
@@PatriotafVenise You should be female yes, but unfortunately the vast majority of Doctors and people in the medical practice are Men (aside from Nurses). If it makes our lives easier because they make more discoveries about pregnancy, I don't care.
Your gender doesn't determine wether or not you can interpret and explain scientific data correctly
Yes all gender can share their opinion but men will never truly understand because they will never experience pregnancy even if they are a doctor so i take his talk as an opinion.