Thank you for sharing! I really resonate with some of the points you brought up, especially getting over the mental block and the clubbing to dance part. Personally, I don’t think i am built for a romantic relationship either, but am currently in a long-distance relationship so an Open relationship seems very appealing.
I'm glad this video struck a chord with you 😊 opening up a long-distance relationship seems very plausible to me so let me know how it goes if you ever decide to try it out
The majority of my friends (all gay) are in open relationships. Now I'm not judging, but I'm the friend who they all come to for advice or when sh*t hits the fan. And I'm telling you, it's some of the most dysfunctional relationships I've ever seen. I'm talking on the surface. it's all good and happy, etc, but under the surface, it's racked with jealousy, drama, STI scares, the lot. One friend in particular admitted to me that they only agreed to the open relationship because they felt that if they said no, his partner would leave them. Obviously, I'm not saying it doesn't work for people, but in my experience as the friend that has to be the mediator and pick up the pieces when it all goes south its not as flowers and rainbows as a lot of gays make it out to be.
Thanks for this Martin, because it's good to know all sides of the story before making a decision (not that that's an issue at the moment because there is no relationship to potentially open up 😜). I completely understand what you are saying and I must say it's made me realise that I'm surrounded by open couples who, luckily for them, can make their open relationship work, so I basically only know success stories. But I definitely need to be reminded that it is always necessarily the same
@SamCarusoASMR thanks for replying, Sam!!! Yeah, it's always up to the couple and individual if they want to go down the open route, but I just wanted to highlight it from my own experience. And when it comes to sex, yeah gay men are more sexualy liberal if that is the right term, but I would take a cosy movie night with snacks and cuddles over sex every time, now I do love sex don't get me wrong, but I would rather have the connection than just have someone to get me off. P.S. I'm still shocked that you are single Sam, plenty of gays are out there ready to scoop you up, haha. But yeah, it's all about what you want/need as an individual. Everyone is different, and that is beautiful.
@MartinFinnigan no, thank YOU for commenting in the first place! I always really appreciate it a lot 🤩 I'll cross the open relationship bridge if I EVER come to it and I'll keep u posted 😜 haha And thanks for what you said about me being single 🥰 I'm ready to be scooped up but nobody does it! Haha
Hey Sam, Thanks for sharing your thoughts on open relationships - it's a topic that's always a bit taboo, so it's great to see a conversation around it. I’m really with you on the importance of being open and discussing things like this, but personally, I’ve never been able to wrap my head around the idea of an open relationship. I’m not judging anyone who’s into it, but it’s just not for me. I’ve been single for a while now, and honestly, I’m pretty content with just myself. I think that’s why I can’t see myself in an open relationship - I just don’t think I could handle the emotional weight of it. I know you mentioned it’s mostly about sex for some people in these setups, but for me, sex doesn’t really build the foundation of a relationship. It can definitely bring people closer in the short term, but a lasting connection goes way beyond that, right? It’s about compatibility, trust, and sharing your life together. So yeah, I just don’t think open relationships are something I’d ever consider. It’s also a time thing for me - it just seems exhausting to try to maintain multiple relationships, even if they’re open in nature. I feel like people nowadays spread themselves too thin trying to keep everything going. Why not just focus on one solid connection, if you’re lucky enough to have that? Relationships take work, and personally, I think too many people try to juggle things that just aren't sustainable in the long run. I totally get that different things work for different people, and if it works for them, then great! But it's just not my thing. Like I said, I’m not judging, I just know it’s something I’d never be comfortable with. Maybe it’s just part of who I am, but I prefer the simplicity of a more traditional, monogamous relationship. Anyway, great video as always - I always appreciate hearing your perspective on things, no matter where I stand on the topic. It’s always interesting to get into these conversations! :)
Hey Maury, Yes, if I ever opened my relationship, it would only be for sex and nothing else and I am most definitely sure I wouldn't want things to go any further as I wouldn't want to risk any feelings being involved and slowly eroding the love between my partner and me. And I don't think I would actively look for sex, so I doubt it would be a case of me spending my nights on grindr, but rather of me having a bit of fun with someone I randomly meet if I go out. Maybe there would be more of an active search if we decided we want a threesome. But as I always say, these are just random thoughts based on no evidence or experience, so who knows how I'd feel about it if I had an actual boyfriend 😜 The other day my friend watched my 1-hour long video on relationships and he cracked me up when he said: 'Sam, I was fascinated by how much you can talk about something you know nothing about!' 🤣🤣🤣🤣 the more I think about it, the more it makes me laugh because it's absolutely true! Haha I do love talking haha
I get what you're saying - it’s all hypothetical until you're actually in the situation, right? And I totally understand the desire to keep things purely physical if you were to open up your relationship. Emotions can definitely complicate things, and it’s wise to consider the impact it might have on the love and bond you share with your partner. Your friend's comment about you talking at length about something you haven’t experienced made me chuckle - it’s true, though! You’ve got a knack for diving deep into these topics and sparking thought-provoking discussions. Even without personal experience, your insights are always valuable and get people thinking. I think these conversations are important because they help everyone understand different perspectives and what might work for them. Who knows, maybe one day you’ll find yourself with a partner, and your views might shift with actual experience. Until then, keep those conversations going - they’re always enlightening and, let's be honest, quite entertaining too!:)
@maury0009 this channel could also double as a boyfriend selector: if a guy is interested in me, I can tell him to watch a selection of my videos so he can decide if he wants to take things further haha 🤣
Imagine if that actually worked, and you found someone who not only appreciates your thoughts but also loves your ability to discuss them in such depth. They’d already know and appreciate your quirks, humour, and insights. Maybe you’re onto something with this ‘boyfriend selector’ channel concept - it could set a new trend! ;)
I feel that its always hard when there's a sexual relationship without any emotional ties. I understand this works for some, but I've never been able to handle that and I feel that if you become involved with someone in an open relationship you may feel emotionally rejected even tho you're not sexually rejected
Loved hearing you talk about this. Would love to hear more about what your dream guy and relationship would be. Also curious in general what your biggest hopes and dreams are!
@@mec621 Thanks! Unfortunately, I don't have an answer to the first two topics 😱😜 as for my hopes and dreams, between now and the end of January I will release videos about my job and other important things in my life (I've filmed them ALL this week 💪), but I'll deffo add them to the list and see if I can make a video on it. My videos on friendship and therapy will come out at some point after January but I haven't forgotten about them, don't worry 😉
😊 dopo una giornata del cavolo, questo video ci voleva... Ora mi rilasso ascoltandoti. Magari imparo un po' meglio l'inglese. Buona serata e Buonanotte 🌕🌕🌕
@@SamCarusoASMR😂😂😂 si si, mi sto sparando tutti i tuoi video! È un piacere ascoltare ciò che racconti e trovare spunti di riflessione. Buona giornata 😊
I will be honest, im quite biased against open relationships because i had a friend who was in a hetero relationship and he was in love with his gf. After a while she wanted to switch to an open relationship and she started sleeping with another guy and my friend (the boyfriend) wasnt able to handle it and actually soon after all of that happened he committed su*cide 😮 now im not saying the open relationship was the single cause of his su*cide but it definitely played a role. In my opinion if the relationship starts as being open thats ok but if you've been monogamous for years and then suddenly open it up its very difficult to make the shift.
@@Kaytlin_ oh God, that's absolutely terrible 😔 Yes, I assume the shift must be difficult, especially if it's not wanted by both partners, in which case, I don't think the relationship should be opened up at all. But I understand and admire the fact that your friend wanted to give it a go to please his girlfriend. Bless him
Thank you for sharing! I really resonate with some of the points you brought up, especially getting over the mental block and the clubbing to dance part. Personally, I don’t think i am built for a romantic relationship either, but am currently in a long-distance relationship so an Open relationship seems very appealing.
I'm glad this video struck a chord with you 😊 opening up a long-distance relationship seems very plausible to me so let me know how it goes if you ever decide to try it out
I think it can definitely work, but it takes the right kind of people and a lot of communication on all fronts.
@@Capricorn152 😊
The majority of my friends (all gay) are in open relationships. Now I'm not judging, but I'm the friend who they all come to for advice or when sh*t hits the fan. And I'm telling you, it's some of the most dysfunctional relationships I've ever seen. I'm talking on the surface. it's all good and happy, etc, but under the surface, it's racked with jealousy, drama, STI scares, the lot. One friend in particular admitted to me that they only agreed to the open relationship because they felt that if they said no, his partner would leave them. Obviously, I'm not saying it doesn't work for people, but in my experience as the friend that has to be the mediator and pick up the pieces when it all goes south its not as flowers and rainbows as a lot of gays make it out to be.
Thanks for this Martin, because it's good to know all sides of the story before making a decision (not that that's an issue at the moment because there is no relationship to potentially open up 😜). I completely understand what you are saying and I must say it's made me realise that I'm surrounded by open couples who, luckily for them, can make their open relationship work, so I basically only know success stories. But I definitely need to be reminded that it is always necessarily the same
@SamCarusoASMR thanks for replying, Sam!!!
Yeah, it's always up to the couple and individual if they want to go down the open route, but I just wanted to highlight it from my own experience. And when it comes to sex, yeah gay men are more sexualy liberal if that is the right term, but I would take a cosy movie night with snacks and cuddles over sex every time, now I do love sex don't get me wrong, but I would rather have the connection than just have someone to get me off.
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I'm still shocked that you are single Sam, plenty of gays are out there ready to scoop you up, haha. But yeah, it's all about what you want/need as an individual. Everyone is different, and that is beautiful.
@MartinFinnigan no, thank YOU for commenting in the first place! I always really appreciate it a lot 🤩
I'll cross the open relationship bridge if I EVER come to it and I'll keep u posted 😜 haha
And thanks for what you said about me being single 🥰 I'm ready to be scooped up but nobody does it! Haha
Hey Sam,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on open relationships - it's a topic that's always a bit taboo, so it's great to see a conversation around it. I’m really with you on the importance of being open and discussing things like this, but personally, I’ve never been able to wrap my head around the idea of an open relationship. I’m not judging anyone who’s into it, but it’s just not for me. I’ve been single for a while now, and honestly, I’m pretty content with just myself. I think that’s why I can’t see myself in an open relationship - I just don’t think I could handle the emotional weight of it.
I know you mentioned it’s mostly about sex for some people in these setups, but for me, sex doesn’t really build the foundation of a relationship. It can definitely bring people closer in the short term, but a lasting connection goes way beyond that, right? It’s about compatibility, trust, and sharing your life together. So yeah, I just don’t think open relationships are something I’d ever consider.
It’s also a time thing for me - it just seems exhausting to try to maintain multiple relationships, even if they’re open in nature. I feel like people nowadays spread themselves too thin trying to keep everything going. Why not just focus on one solid connection, if you’re lucky enough to have that? Relationships take work, and personally, I think too many people try to juggle things that just aren't sustainable in the long run.
I totally get that different things work for different people, and if it works for them, then great! But it's just not my thing. Like I said, I’m not judging, I just know it’s something I’d never be comfortable with. Maybe it’s just part of who I am, but I prefer the simplicity of a more traditional, monogamous relationship.
Anyway, great video as always - I always appreciate hearing your perspective on things, no matter where I stand on the topic. It’s always interesting to get into these conversations! :)
Hey Maury,
Yes, if I ever opened my relationship, it would only be for sex and nothing else and I am most definitely sure I wouldn't want things to go any further as I wouldn't want to risk any feelings being involved and slowly eroding the love between my partner and me. And I don't think I would actively look for sex, so I doubt it would be a case of me spending my nights on grindr, but rather of me having a bit of fun with someone I randomly meet if I go out. Maybe there would be more of an active search if we decided we want a threesome.
But as I always say, these are just random thoughts based on no evidence or experience, so who knows how I'd feel about it if I had an actual boyfriend 😜
The other day my friend watched my 1-hour long video on relationships and he cracked me up when he said: 'Sam, I was fascinated by how much you can talk about something you know nothing about!' 🤣🤣🤣🤣
the more I think about it, the more it makes me laugh because it's absolutely true! Haha
I do love talking haha
I get what you're saying - it’s all hypothetical until you're actually in the situation, right? And I totally understand the desire to keep things purely physical if you were to open up your relationship. Emotions can definitely complicate things, and it’s wise to consider the impact it might have on the love and bond you share with your partner.
Your friend's comment about you talking at length about something you haven’t experienced made me chuckle - it’s true, though! You’ve got a knack for diving deep into these topics and sparking thought-provoking discussions. Even without personal experience, your insights are always valuable and get people thinking.
I think these conversations are important because they help everyone understand different perspectives and what might work for them. Who knows, maybe one day you’ll find yourself with a partner, and your views might shift with actual experience. Until then, keep those conversations going - they’re always enlightening and, let's be honest, quite entertaining too!:)
@maury0009 this channel could also double as a boyfriend selector: if a guy is interested in me, I can tell him to watch a selection of my videos so he can decide if he wants to take things further haha 🤣
Imagine if that actually worked, and you found someone who not only appreciates your thoughts but also loves your ability to discuss them in such depth. They’d already know and appreciate your quirks, humour, and insights. Maybe you’re onto something with this ‘boyfriend selector’ channel concept - it could set a new trend! ;)
@maury0009 haha when I'm good enough at coding, I could try and build an app for it haha
I feel that its always hard when there's a sexual relationship without any emotional ties. I understand this works for some, but I've never been able to handle that and I feel that if you become involved with someone in an open relationship you may feel emotionally rejected even tho you're not sexually rejected
@@nocturnal_daydreaming1880 😊
Loved hearing you talk about this. Would love to hear more about what your dream guy and relationship would be. Also curious in general what your biggest hopes and dreams are!
@@mec621 Thanks! Unfortunately, I don't have an answer to the first two topics 😱😜 as for my hopes and dreams, between now and the end of January I will release videos about my job and other important things in my life (I've filmed them ALL this week 💪), but I'll deffo add them to the list and see if I can make a video on it. My videos on friendship and therapy will come out at some point after January but I haven't forgotten about them, don't worry 😉
All my relationships have been closed. Just don't get fellow gays sleeping around whilst in relationships. What's the point?!
If I EVER have a boyfriend, I'll let you know if it works 😜
An open relationship wouldn't work for me, I'm far too jealous for that. It's all or nothing for me. I don't share my man!😝
@@patrik_wilhelm 😜😜
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😊 dopo una giornata del cavolo, questo video ci voleva... Ora mi rilasso ascoltandoti. Magari imparo un po' meglio l'inglese. Buona serata e Buonanotte 🌕🌕🌕
Spero che ti sia rilassata! Di sicuro un video sulle relazioni aperte ti distrae da tutti i tuoi problemi Haha 😜
@@SamCarusoASMR😂😂😂 si si, mi sto sparando tutti i tuoi video! È un piacere ascoltare ciò che racconti e trovare spunti di riflessione. Buona giornata 😊
@@eripelle1980 awwww grazie mille! ❤️😍🥰
I will be honest, im quite biased against open relationships because i had a friend who was in a hetero relationship and he was in love with his gf. After a while she wanted to switch to an open relationship and she started sleeping with another guy and my friend (the boyfriend) wasnt able to handle it and actually soon after all of that happened he committed su*cide 😮 now im not saying the open relationship was the single cause of his su*cide but it definitely played a role. In my opinion if the relationship starts as being open thats ok but if you've been monogamous for years and then suddenly open it up its very difficult to make the shift.
@@Kaytlin_ oh God, that's absolutely terrible 😔
Yes, I assume the shift must be difficult, especially if it's not wanted by both partners, in which case, I don't think the relationship should be opened up at all. But I understand and admire the fact that your friend wanted to give it a go to please his girlfriend. Bless him