My Mom and I were abused by my Dad. She was usually beaten, to protect me, once bad enough to be hospitalized. My Dad was a veteran of Vietnam and had major PTSD issues as well as bipolar disorder and manic depression. I never knew what would set him off or when, but eventually you become numb. You get punched in the nose enough times or beaten enough times, you build up defensive walls that last for years. When I was 18, my dad was killed by a drunk driver while he was coming home from work. The one thing I remember most about that day, was turning my head and laughing silently when I found out. How evil is that? I actually laughed. I laughed because I felt relief. But it was a long time before I could forgive myself for that reaction. I was in my 40's before I came to grips with the trauma of my youth. I was hiking alone and just started to cry out, "Dad, I forgive you! I'm sorry you had to endure Vietnam! I'm sorry you had no medications available to help you cope and adjust! I'm sorry PTSD wasn't taken seriously while you were here! I'm sorry that violence was your answer to everything. I forgive you! You had no right, to do what you did, no right! But I cannot carry this burden anymore and I forgive you!" And then I just fell to my knees and wept. I wept for almost an hour. It was one of the most freeing moments of my life. There is such freedom in forgiveness, even if you don't think they deserve it. I'm 56 now, and I remember my Dad with love instead of hate. I focus on the good times, which there were occasionally, instead of the bad. I got married at 45, had my first child at 46 and my second at 50. It took a long time for me to trust that I wouldn't be "him" as a husband and a father. I wish I hadn't waited so long, I love my wife and kids. They are the joy of my life. I know this was long, but if there's anyone out there who wonders if you can ever get over the trauma of child abuse, if you can ever bring yourself to forgive your abuser, the answer is yes. And I promise, the freedom it will bring your soul will be overwhelming.
Suzanne played this song in front of Prince , He was so touched by this song , he wrote a hand written letter to Suzanne saying it was one of the most compelling songs he had ever heard
“Dearest Suzanne, Luka is the most compelling piece of music I’ve heard in a long time. There are no words 2 tell u all the things I feel when I hear it. I thank God 4 u, Prince."
Groundbreaking song in heavy rotation back in the day. Kudos to Suzanne Vega for writing such a catchy song about child abuse to bring attention to the matter. No easy task.
@@sawyer33 This single was released on May 1987 from an album released on April of that same year. The single you mentioned was released sometime in '88 from an album released on July of '87.
My dad was an alcoholic and drug user. I saw a lot as a kid, and as Amber said, it was constant survival mode. I’m still working through it even as an adult. Love to all of you out there who survived anything like this 💕
I’m sorry that happened!! Most of all I hope you know it wasn’t your fault!!! People do care! Talk about it!! And know you are loved!! May God Bless you in every way!!!✌️
I have a great therapist my egg donor and her 2 husband physically sexually emotionally abused me from 9 to 17 now they are hiding in another country but I shout it from rooftops so to speak
When I learned the words to this song …it was all over! Waterfalls… tears for days! Being a teacher I’ve gotten to know a few Luka- like kiddos! Not a good thing for me! I was always there to help though!
I was an abused child in the 70s. I’m a man in my mid 50s, and this song still hits me hard. I’m sitting here holding in tears. I can attest to what a lot of others have commented, that little boy is still in me, shying away from confrontation. I feel that fear whenever there’s a conflict around me. This song is beautiful. But, it brings back the feelings.
me too and still to this day refuse to talk to that man, he's in his nineties now and want me in his life now that everyone else is dead, but i still fear him even though he is no threat to me today. he was so cruel i cant forgive him for they way he was until he is dead, maybe.
I was abused by my dad. I ended up being bigger than him so he quit missing with me and started attacking my mom. We ended up in a fight and I hurt him really bad. Not bad like going to the hospital but bad like air lifting him to the hospital.
This came out 37 years ago, and back then no one spoke openly about child abuse and domestic violence - it was a taboo topic. The genius of Vega’s songwriting is that she puts out this catchy tune, but slides in a story and topic that would otherwise have never been brought to people’s attention. She’s a masterful narrative songwriter. I recommend you checkout her song The Queen and the Soldier next.
Was it really so long ago? I recall, through my own survival, this song scared me because I always lived in terror of "outsiders" could know what life was like in my life. Nearing 50 now, and this song still reaches that tortured kid that lives within me. I've tried for years to do the best that I could for him. I hope he can understand.
For anyone who has survived a childhood of abuse this song runs deep. Regardless of how many years go by, that damaged child still lives inside us. Hugs to anyone who, like me, knows the long term effects and the constant work to repair ourselves ~
Yes. And there are many kinds of abuse. This song focuses on physical abuse and that’s enough for social services to get involved, but we don’t talk enough about emotional abuse.
remember a song from the late 80s by a little girl Shannon Batts her song Dear Mr Jesus... about a girl that was abused by her mum... her is the ideo link just on it th-cam.com/video/quG-Q7iKfn0/w-d-xo.html
🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️ to you ,,I hope you're doing okay. My love to anyone else for whom child abuse was part of their life. Remember ... There's never an excuse for abuse !
@@brucedillinger9448 physical abuse is always combined with emotional abuse. Like the narrator in the song reveals, the abuser makes the abused feel as if they’re responsible for the abuse. If they’d behaved differently or were a different person none of the abuse would happen. In order to get a child to believe those lies, they make them feel worthless through words. It’s also a way to ensure they keep silent about what’s happening behind closed doors. Trying to overcome the damage physical abuse has done to a person is really all about dealing mainly with the emotional abuse that went along with the physical abuse. But if what you’re saying is that only experiencing emotional abuse can be just as damaging as being from a home where physical abuse has occurred, than I agree.
I know the 80s are remembered for the bright colors, synth music, wild hair and makeup, etc. But those us who grew up during the 80s remember it also for "outing" taboos that were serious problems in our world. Child abuse, date rape/victim blaming, drug and alcohol addiction, government oppression, etc.--we broke down a lot of closed doors and opened the door for future generations to do the same. Luka's a good example of that; it NEVER would have gotten airplay ten years earlier, but in 1987, it was in heavy rotation. Keep that door open!
In February 1987 I into minor trouble for singing this song to make my buddies laugh when we were on a field training deployment. I changed some of the words around to lampoon one of our sergeants. This song will always remind me of getting yelled at for being a “god damned clown”.
The one major change with Gen X is ability to acknowledge when things truly suck. My boomer mother still wants to hide away anything negative. For her, if we don't talk about it, it's not real.
This song is so heavy, but so beautiful, and so honest. How many of us have been Luka? How many of us know a Luka? This song needed to be written, as sad as it is. A reminder to NOT look away or turn a blind eye.
I remember when this came out and learning this song with an acoustic guitar. It sticks with you forever. As an abuse survivor as an adult, looking back on this song is even more painful and haunting. Fair that you were warned and heeded it.
Yes it’s super sad but it did wonders for raising awareness about abuse back in the 80s. So in that sense, it has a positive aspect. Also, despite the crushing subject matter it’s a musically beautiful song.
@@juliewhite7469 Oh yes, can't forget that song. It was fantastic! Different feel from "Luka," but brought attention to the same topic through great music. No small thing.
I could see Amber holding back tears & the unease Jay’s face. About a year before this song came out a Canadian rock group called The Payolas released a song about child abuse called, “Where Is This Love?” which is every bit as heart wrenching.
As a teen this song brought my attention to child abuse. I really have empathy for anyone that has had to go thru this. Fortunately as a kid I didn't have to deal with this but this really hit hard. Opened my eyes to look around and help anywhere I could....kind smile, listen....
You are a beautiful person, Amber. I grew up with this song, but it’s never been harder to listen to than while watching your face and the heartbreak written on it. Bless you, dear. The world would be better if there were more people like you! ❤
I come from a peaceful and loving family. There was a kid at my school who was very quiet and withdrawn. He would sometimes come into school with bruises on his face and arms and say that he fell off his skateboard. I knew he didn't have a skateboard. All the other kids would call him weirdo, but I knew there was something more to this kid. I became his only school friend and a lot of my friends abandoned me as a result. I would bring him back to my house after school sometimes and my parents would feed him. It was the only time he ever smiled or laughed. One day he confessed to me that his dad would beat his mum and and him. I told my dad and he went around to the kids house and nearly beat the guy to death. The guy moved out after that and was found 6 months later floating in a canel. Apparently he beat up another woman and someone had tied him to a concrete block and thrown him off a bridge. So this song really hits me hard and makes me cry, but it's so amazing. Thank you guys. ✌️❤️🇬🇧
I love Suzanne Vega, on my 20th birthday in 1990 I went for a night out in Liverpool (UK) with a group of friends, and when we got there I was given my birthday present, tickets to see Suzanne Vega live that same night in Liverpool's Empire Theatre, it was a wonderful gig, she talks a lot between songs so her gigs feel very intimate, it's one of those memories which will stay with me forever.
This song is so sad and it about a serious subject! Songs like this a necessary because it does raise awareness! Too many times people turns a blind eye to child abuse!❤❤
Just want to say thanks to you guys, I survived some of the rough spots in life lately. You both have a very great amount of positive energy! Keep it going!
Vega was always playing in my house for months when her first album came out. The upbeat music makes the words even more poignant, as if shes showing us how this abuse is played down in the mind. Every song is good. She took a lot of inspiration from kate bush too.
She is touring now. Recommending Left of Center from the Pretty in Pink soundtrack and The Queen and the Soldier from her debut self-titled album. The first a rare upbeat song from her; the second, a narrative tale, literally about a queen and a soldier.
I LOVE that Suzanne wrote this song and that it was so well received. Because it's a subject that must be dealt with. But I HATE that she had to write it all. No one deserves abuse. And children certainly don't deserve it...ever!
I figured this may have been a rough one for you guys- at the time, however, this was an eye-opener, and a perfect encapsulation of kids growing up in the mid 80s, a generation essentially thrown to the wolves. Through the song, though, comes a sense of community, and an assurance that you are not alone. This song spoke to a LOT of us. (The line "walked into the door again" still stings- I had friends who used that excuse when they came to school with marks on them.)
From what I vaguely remember reading - and someone correct me if I'm wrong - the song was written about a neighbourhood kid (they might've lived in the same apartment building?) she'd regularly saw sitting on the back balcony or stairs and who she thought always looked kinda sad. At some point she heard whom she assumed was his father call him by his name and thus was born this song... That same kid eventually realized he had inspired the song and as an adult publicly revealed his side of the story: he didn't have any abusive parent and had a pretty happy childhood. I think he understood that while this was a reality for many kids, he wasn't too happy that she had made up this whole sad fictional story based on her own assumptions on the small glimpses she had of him. The first time I heard this song I was in my late teens I think? (nearly 20 years ago - oof I'm feel old now.) It was on a French-speaking radio station (I'm from Montreal). Once the song was over the host (who was/is also a pretty famous tv host in Quebec), who VERY obviously didn't know much about the song himself and had not bothered to pay any attention to the lyrics went on an aggressive mini rant about why the singer kept repeating "my name is Luka", about who the heck was this Luka, about how stupidly repetitive and boring and childish sounding this song was. 😬😬😬 Yeah I was like "dude... that's really not the right song to be shitting on". I don't think I'd ever heard him be that abrasive before too so it was a bit of a shock! I do wonder if anyone had explained to him afterwards what the song was about; he probably would've felt really embarrassed once he understood the meaning behind it.
I remember this! Very sad song and video. Late '80s alt rock. It was a big hit, deep message. I had friends that went through abuse when I was growing up back in the '80s and early '90s. Hits hard. Vega has more upbeat songs too BTW like "Tom's Diner", more of a hip hop feeling song.
I saw her open for Arlo Guthrie back around 1987. I had never heard of her before. She started out singing Tom’s Diner a cappella, which I’ve always thought was an extremely brave thing to do. Her whole set, which included Luka, was great, and I went and bought her debut album the next day. Not long after, Luka became a hit song. She’s still one of those artists who keeps me company and helps me experience life more fully. A couple of other songs of hers I would recommend are Small Blue Thing, Marlene on the Wall, and Blood Makes Noise, none of which were hits, but all of which are top notch songs. Another song of hers that made it into the Top 40 was Left of Center, which is also an excellent song.
I love this song. I love the words. I remember when this came out and the video it took me a minute before I got what she was saying but very powerful!!God bless and keep those who are dealing with this 🙏🏾🙏🏾
A group I don’t remember you reacting to yet is 10,000 Maniacs. They have a very powerful song regarding the same topic as this. Another “different view” of the topic. You should definitely check them out, any of their songs but the one I speak of is “What’s The Matter Here”
I got to see her perform this at the New Port Folk Festival and it was awesome... the Indigo Girls played this show too. I'd love to see you react to their 1200 Curfews performance of Bob Dylan's Tangled Up In Blue or Neil Young's Down By The River... These two and their tour band make these songs magic
I was 25 when this came out in 1987 and it hit so emotionally hard back then and still does now when I am 61. My prayers have always gone to those being maltreated and abused. It can just seem so hopeless sometimes. It is a beautiful song and was very popular and I remember having to tell people to listen to the lyrics. I saw many people burst into tears listening to this song. Including myself.
One day back in the 90's while browsing through CD(s) in J & R Music World in NYC I heard this song and the voice was so haunting. On my way out I picked up the album. The song is called Island and the artist is Heather Nova. It was her debut album called Oyster. WARNING! This is not a happy song but one you won't forget.
It's time to flip off the radio and branch out - there are hundreds of great artists creating great music with incredibly difficult subject matter. Looking forward to them reacting to Hi Ren....
@@MattMuirhead It’s so true! Real, important music still exists. You just have to know where to find it. I’m lucky enough to live within range of an amazing independent radio station that plays some incredible music form young artists. Radio Woodstock WDST.
@@bsilvers1037 Still , it's kind of sad that we have to search for good music. In your case you live by a good indie station. I live by several. However there was a time when good music was often on mainstream radio. I miss those days.
Just in case you want a few suggestions... "And We Run" from Within Temptation feat. Xzibit (more for the message, but still...) "The Voice of My Father" (or, if you should know Finnish, "Isäni ääni") from Marko Hietala "Christmas Truce" by Sabaton (about one of the most incredible moments that happened during WWI) ...and for one of the biggest elephants in the room, Floor Jansen performing pretty much anything, but especially... "Dead Boy's Poem" by Nightwish (I'd recommend the live performance from Buenos Aires) "Shallow" and "Mama" (okay, covers from Lady Gaga resp. Samantha Steenwijk, the blonde woman in the video on the channel AVROTROS, but as they say, don't let Floor Jansen cover your songs, yours will only be second best from then on 😋) Seriously, if you get through this list and aren't somewhat of an emotional wreck, I question your humanity 😜
I grew up in the 80's(something I'm SO thankful for), and I remember hearing this song, and loving this song...but I was at the age where I didn't truly 'get' the meaning behind the song. When I finally 'got it'...the song held so much more meaning to me. It's a sad song, but it's a great song, as this song brought up difficult subjects that you didn't see all that often in 80's music.
"What's the Matter Here" is another great song on the same topic from the 80's. Natalie Merchant/10,000 Maniacs song was very popular on college radio.
Beautiful but heart-breaking song. Thank you for covering it. We all know this goes on, but we need songs like this to explore the subject and not let it slip from our attention. Love from England.
Back then in Indonesia, this song was very frequently played in the radio. One of the reason is, Luka, the name of the child and the title of the song, in Indonesian language means wound. And the song happens to be about child abuse. Greetings from Indonesia guys. Glad your channel is growing. Been a subscriber for quite some time.
i worked with children while in college. Don't ever look away when you see or notice abuse. it's a sad song but brings awareness. Very much thank you for reacting to it!
Awww, Im sure its a hard one for u both. Ur hearts r so kind and tender. Its a powerful emotional song and ur right harder being the childs prospective. When it first came out it made me need to hug my babies. Actually makes u want to hug all children so they feel some kind of love cause again ur so on point we never know whats happening in their precious little lives. Thanx so much, everyone hug ur babies tight, much love, Blessings
I played her debut album into the ground back in the mid-80s. The whole record is amazing. Sat three feet away from her at a dive bar in Chicago, just her and her guitar, and she blew us all away.
I haven't cried in a long time, but I have tonight. Love this song, even though it's very sad, we should all be aware & help all that we can. - - Crying warning for all these songs, but I would like to see y'all react to (original videos) -1.Soul Asylum: Runaway Train -2.Pearl Jam: Jeremy -3.The Offspring: The Kids Aren't Alright -4.P.O.D.: Youth of the Nation -5.Pat Benatar: Hell is for Children -6.Linkin Park: Crawling -Thanks
This is a very difficult song and I remember it was a big deal when it came out - it caused a lot of discussion about child abuse. This song and Runaway Train always hit me hard!
Interesting trivia about the video: The director was Michael Patterson who was the creator of MC Skat Kat while the boy in the video is played by Jason Cerbone who years later was in the Sopranos in the role of Jackie Aprile jr.
Apart from the sad topic, this song reminds me of another great singer songwriter from that period: Lisa Loeb. You should give her a try, starting with Stay.
Watching Jay in this reaction, how still he is, makes it hit harder. I never suggested this one, I knew it would hurt your hearts. Thank you for giving your Luca and your girls a much different life than portrayed in this song. I so enjoy hearing about your sweet family 😊
Nearly 40 years after I bought the album with this on, I finally got to see Suzanne live last week. Her voice hasn't changed at all. I held it together, until man next to me started blubbing. I lost it 🤣
From the Late 50s thru Mid 70s Child abuse was Considered the Family's Private Problem & For Outsiders it Was None Of Their Business. Child Abuse Was Difficult to Near Impossible to Prosecute thru the Courts. The Instrumental Melody of this Song are Amazing. It's Simple Lyrical Message is Awesome. This song came out in my Early High School Years
I grew up in a home with an alcoholic, mentally ill single mother and this song came out around the time I was in 4th grade. I believe it was one of the first times I realized that my home life was not only not what other kids experienced but was toxic and dysfunctional, though I didn’t have the vocabulary to verbalize it at the time. I still have a hard time with this song, and the same weird knot in my stomach I felt listening to it as a kid I still feel today. But it is also a good reminder of how far my life has come from those experiences, for which I’m very grateful Edit: And, no surprise, I’m sitting here bawling-but from reading these comments I know I’m probably not the only one. Or at least, not the only one who identifies with this song. Hugs to all of you who made it through ❤ Thank you guys for reacting to this one
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One of the most quietly devastating songs ever written.
Good video about her writing it 👌
Suzanne Vega's soft conversational voice gives this song and video impact. She's telling a story without being loud.
My Mom and I were abused by my Dad. She was usually beaten, to protect me, once bad enough to be hospitalized. My Dad was a veteran of Vietnam and had major PTSD issues as well as bipolar disorder and manic depression. I never knew what would set him off or when, but eventually you become numb. You get punched in the nose enough times or beaten enough times, you build up defensive walls that last for years. When I was 18, my dad was killed by a drunk driver while he was coming home from work. The one thing I remember most about that day, was turning my head and laughing silently when I found out. How evil is that? I actually laughed. I laughed because I felt relief. But it was a long time before I could forgive myself for that reaction. I was in my 40's before I came to grips with the trauma of my youth. I was hiking alone and just started to cry out, "Dad, I forgive you! I'm sorry you had to endure Vietnam! I'm sorry you had no medications available to help you cope and adjust! I'm sorry PTSD wasn't taken seriously while you were here! I'm sorry that violence was your answer to everything. I forgive you! You had no right, to do what you did, no right! But I cannot carry this burden anymore and I forgive you!" And then I just fell to my knees and wept. I wept for almost an hour. It was one of the most freeing moments of my life. There is such freedom in forgiveness, even if you don't think they deserve it. I'm 56 now, and I remember my Dad with love instead of hate. I focus on the good times, which there were occasionally, instead of the bad. I got married at 45, had my first child at 46 and my second at 50. It took a long time for me to trust that I wouldn't be "him" as a husband and a father. I wish I hadn't waited so long, I love my wife and kids. They are the joy of my life. I know this was long, but if there's anyone out there who wonders if you can ever get over the trauma of child abuse, if you can ever bring yourself to forgive your abuser, the answer is yes. And I promise, the freedom it will bring your soul will be overwhelming.
Suzanne played this song in front of Prince , He was so touched by this song , he wrote a hand written letter to Suzanne saying it was one of the most compelling songs he had ever heard
“Dearest Suzanne, Luka is the most compelling piece of music I’ve heard in a long time. There are no words 2 tell u all the things I feel when I hear it. I thank God 4 u, Prince."
Prince was a true gentleman.
He is missed.
I had no idea about this. Great piece of trivia from the 80s!
@jasoncaldwell5627 not that much of a gentleman.
Thanks for the tidbit, that’s very interesting. Of course, we know Prince himself had an abusive childhood, so it probably hit a chord with him.
Groundbreaking song in heavy rotation back in the day. Kudos to Suzanne Vega for writing such a catchy song about child abuse to bring attention to the matter. No easy task.
Not sure if it's true, but heard she wrote this about a conversation she had with a little boy who lived in her apartment complex.
Groundbreaking? “What’s the matter here” was released the very same year.
Not that Natalie Merchant/10,000 Maniacs can get any love here.
Song about child abuse and youre concerned about Natalie Merchant getting love on a song reaction channel. Priorities in order.
@@sawyer33 This single was released on May 1987 from an album released on April of that same year. The single you mentioned was released sometime in '88 from an album released on July of '87.
Pat Benatar did Hell is for children in 1980, way before this, THAT was groundbreaking
My dad was an alcoholic and drug user. I saw a lot as a kid, and as Amber said, it was constant survival mode. I’m still working through it even as an adult.
Love to all of you out there who survived anything like this 💕
Mine too I'm 50 now and still have ptsd
I’m sorry that happened!! Most of all I hope you know it wasn’t your fault!!!
People do care! Talk about it!! And know you are loved!!
May God Bless you in every way!!!✌️
I have a great therapist my egg donor and her 2 husband physically sexually emotionally abused me from 9 to 17 now they are hiding in another country but I shout it from rooftops so to speak
@@vanessawebster2163 I'm sorry but I always thought the song was about spousal abuse
❤ stay strong ♥️
They only hit until you cry. That line gets me every time
And I always refused to cry. I knew they wanted me to. I still don't cry. Not even when they died.
@@joycemiller7908 They've won.
@@davelister2961 nope. They never did.
I have been told I never cried by my sisters.
@@davelister2961 That was an insensitive comment.
After all these years this song still hits hard. Thanks for choosing this one today.
When I learned the words to this song …it was all over! Waterfalls… tears for days! Being a teacher I’ve gotten to know a few Luka- like kiddos! Not a good thing for me! I was always there to help though!
I was an abused child in the 70s. I’m a man in my mid 50s, and this song still hits me hard. I’m sitting here holding in tears. I can attest to what a lot of others have commented, that little boy is still in me, shying away from confrontation. I feel that fear whenever there’s a conflict around me. This song is beautiful. But, it brings back the feelings.
me too and still to this day refuse to talk to that man, he's in his nineties now and want me in his life now that everyone else is dead, but i still fear him even though he is no threat to me today. he was so cruel i cant forgive him for they way he was until he is dead, maybe.
@Anthony Fisher I hope you can forgive him for the sake of your peace and healing, not for his sake.
cry its good for u
I was abused by my dad. I ended up being bigger than him so he quit missing with me and started attacking my mom. We ended up in a fight and I hurt him really bad. Not bad like going to the hospital but bad like air lifting him to the hospital.
This came out 37 years ago, and back then no one spoke openly about child abuse and domestic violence - it was a taboo topic. The genius of Vega’s songwriting is that she puts out this catchy tune, but slides in a story and topic that would otherwise have never been brought to people’s attention.
She’s a masterful narrative songwriter. I recommend you checkout her song The Queen and the Soldier next.
Was it really so long ago? I recall, through my own survival, this song scared me because I always lived in terror of "outsiders" could know what life was like in my life. Nearing 50 now, and this song still reaches that tortured kid that lives within me. I've tried for years to do the best that I could for him. I hope he can understand.
Oh, God, don't tell me this was that long ago. I thought it was pretty modern at the time. Oh, such is life. Great song to expose Abuse.
Pat Benetar's "Hell is for Children" is another powerful song about this sad topic. The lyrics are equally gut-wrenching.
Been waiting for Amber to pick that for female Friday!
I really hope they react to this Pat Benatar song.
For anyone who has survived a childhood of abuse this song runs deep. Regardless of how many years go by, that damaged child still lives inside us. Hugs to anyone who, like me, knows the long term effects and the constant work to repair ourselves ~
Yes. And there are many kinds of abuse. This song focuses on physical abuse and that’s enough for social services to get involved, but we don’t talk enough about emotional abuse.
@@shannonn9575agree. Emotional abuse can be more difficult to detect as physical abuse will likely reveal itself more readily.
remember a song from the late 80s by a little girl Shannon Batts her song Dear Mr Jesus... about a girl that was abused by her mum... her is the ideo link just on it th-cam.com/video/quG-Q7iKfn0/w-d-xo.html
🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️ to you ,,I hope you're doing okay. My love to anyone else for whom child abuse was part of their life. Remember ... There's never an excuse for abuse !
@@brucedillinger9448 physical abuse is always combined with emotional abuse. Like the narrator in the song reveals, the abuser makes the abused feel as if they’re responsible for the abuse. If they’d behaved differently or were a different person none of the abuse would happen. In order to get a child to believe those lies, they make them feel worthless through words. It’s also a way to ensure they keep silent about what’s happening behind closed doors. Trying to overcome the damage physical abuse has done to a person is really all about dealing mainly with the emotional abuse that went along with the physical abuse. But if what you’re saying is that only experiencing emotional abuse can be just as damaging as being from a home where physical abuse has occurred, than I agree.
I know the 80s are remembered for the bright colors, synth music, wild hair and makeup, etc. But those us who grew up during the 80s remember it also for "outing" taboos that were serious problems in our world. Child abuse, date rape/victim blaming, drug and alcohol addiction, government oppression, etc.--we broke down a lot of closed doors and opened the door for future generations to do the same. Luka's a good example of that; it NEVER would have gotten airplay ten years earlier, but in 1987, it was in heavy rotation. Keep that door open!
In February 1987 I into minor trouble for singing this song to make my buddies laugh when we were on a field training deployment. I changed some of the words around to lampoon one of our sergeants. This song will always remind me of getting yelled at for being a “god damned clown”.
The one major change with Gen X is ability to acknowledge when things truly suck. My boomer mother still wants to hide away anything negative. For her, if we don't talk about it, it's not real.
Janie's Got A Gun dealt with SA.
Martika - child soldiers!
This song is so heavy, but so beautiful, and so honest.
How many of us have been Luka?
How many of us know a Luka?
This song needed to be written, as sad as it is. A reminder to NOT look away or turn a blind eye.
A child should never have to go through that kind of pain, Like always Jay and Amber your loving kindness shines through 🌞
I remember when this came out and learning this song with an acoustic guitar. It sticks with you forever. As an abuse survivor as an adult, looking back on this song is even more painful and haunting. Fair that you were warned and heeded it.
Yes it’s super sad but it did wonders for raising awareness about abuse back in the 80s. So in that sense, it has a positive aspect. Also, despite the crushing subject matter it’s a musically beautiful song.
Same for "What's the Matter Here" by Natalie Merchant/10,000 Maniacs. More upbeat tempo and serious subject. Definitely helped to raise awareness.
Perfectly stated!
@@juliewhite7469 Oh yes, can't forget that song. It was fantastic! Different feel from "Luka," but brought attention to the same topic through great music. No small thing.
Amazing song.......God Bless Everyone in 2023...xx
Suzanne is an amazing songwriter and singer. She is also very kind and considerate.
I could see Amber holding back tears & the unease Jay’s face.
About a year before this song came out a Canadian rock group called The Payolas released a song about child abuse called, “Where Is This Love?” which is every bit as heart wrenching.
Don't forget Aerosmith's "Janie's got a gun" and Babyface' "How come, how long?"
Payolas’ song is great.
As a teen this song brought my attention to child abuse. I really have empathy for anyone that has had to go thru this. Fortunately as a kid I didn't have to deal with this but this really hit hard. Opened my eyes to look around and help anywhere I could....kind smile, listen....
Same here with the song "What's the Matter Here" by Natalie Merchant/10,000 Maniacs 🥰
Another song like Luka is What's the Matter Here? by 10,000 Maniacs. A great song that deserves a listen.
You are a beautiful person, Amber. I grew up with this song, but it’s never been harder to listen to than while watching your face and the heartbreak written on it. Bless you, dear. The world would be better if there were more people like you! ❤
In true folk song tradition, Suzanne Vega doesn't shy from hard topics. Still an amazing song!
I come from a peaceful and loving family. There was a kid at my school who was very quiet and withdrawn. He would sometimes come into school with bruises on his face and arms and say that he fell off his skateboard. I knew he didn't have a skateboard. All the other kids would call him weirdo, but I knew there was something more to this kid. I became his only school friend and a lot of my friends abandoned me as a result. I would bring him back to my house after school sometimes and my parents would feed him. It was the only time he ever smiled or laughed. One day he confessed to me that his dad would beat his mum and and him. I told my dad and he went around to the kids house and nearly beat the guy to death. The guy moved out after that and was found 6 months later floating in a canel. Apparently he beat up another woman and someone had tied him to a concrete block and thrown him off a bridge. So this song really hits me hard and makes me cry, but it's so amazing. Thank you guys. ✌️❤️🇬🇧
I love Suzanne Vega, on my 20th birthday in 1990 I went for a night out in Liverpool (UK) with a group of friends, and when we got there I was given my birthday present, tickets to see Suzanne Vega live that same night in Liverpool's Empire Theatre, it was a wonderful gig, she talks a lot between songs so her gigs feel very intimate, it's one of those memories which will stay with me forever.
I remember her performing this many years ago as an acoustic ballad. Prince was in the audience and gave her a standing ovation.
I only heard this song once, 30 some odd years ago. Ive never forgotten it. Its stayed with me this long
I've heard of Suzanne Vega, but never listened to any of her music. I teared up with this one.
Thanks for sharing this.
Beautiful song, but so, so sad. I can relate to it. Blessings to all of you out there that know first hand what she's singing about! 💙💜💙
This song is so sad and it about a serious subject! Songs like this a necessary because it does raise awareness! Too many times people turns a blind eye to child abuse!❤❤
I loved this song my whole life always gave me a reminder to have compassion
Just want to say thanks to you guys, I survived some of the rough spots in life lately. You both have a very great amount of positive energy! Keep it going!
This song always hits me hard. Growing up, I lived that life.
I'm sorry you had to go through that.
I can relate to that - sam ehappened to me.
Glad you waited...this song is rough but one that has to be heard. Sending love to all Lukas 🫂
The music is beautiful in this song, but the lyrics tear at your heart.
The simplicity of this song added with the content of the writing is what makes this song so strong.
Very deep and sad song and Susan Vega needs a hug.
A great song, good times, i love so much this song.
Vega was always playing in my house for months when her first album came out. The upbeat music makes the words even more poignant, as if shes showing us how this abuse is played down in the mind. Every song is good. She took a lot of inspiration from kate bush too.
Another great song on this topic is 'Alyssa lies' by Jason Michael Carroll. Be warned, it WILL make you cry
She is touring now.
Recommending Left of Center from the Pretty in Pink soundtrack and The Queen and the Soldier from her debut self-titled album. The first a rare upbeat song from her; the second, a narrative tale, literally about a queen and a soldier.
Great songs
Yup. Just saw her Thursday night in Cambridge UK. She still sounds great.
"Left of Center" is probably my favorite song of hers. It has sort of a mysterious vibe that's unique.
@@Johnny_Socko I was always partial to "Undertow." Lover her music.
You guys are so beautiful. I'm glad this touched you. Such a heartbreaking song. x
I LOVE that Suzanne wrote this song and that it was so well received. Because it's a subject that must be dealt with. But I HATE that she had to write it all. No one deserves abuse. And children certainly don't deserve it...ever!
This song brings tears every time. Love yalls genuine reaction.
Sometime, we really don't realise just how lucky some of us are. 😪❤
Every1 of you will live his own "Luka".
80s Alternative !!! 😇 From 1987 . Almost 36 yrs 🙄
I figured this may have been a rough one for you guys- at the time, however, this was an eye-opener, and a perfect encapsulation of kids growing up in the mid 80s, a generation essentially thrown to the wolves. Through the song, though, comes a sense of community, and an assurance that you are not alone.
This song spoke to a LOT of us. (The line "walked into the door again" still stings- I had friends who used that excuse when they came to school with marks on them.)
From what I vaguely remember reading - and someone correct me if I'm wrong - the song was written about a neighbourhood kid (they might've lived in the same apartment building?) she'd regularly saw sitting on the back balcony or stairs and who she thought always looked kinda sad. At some point she heard whom she assumed was his father call him by his name and thus was born this song... That same kid eventually realized he had inspired the song and as an adult publicly revealed his side of the story: he didn't have any abusive parent and had a pretty happy childhood. I think he understood that while this was a reality for many kids, he wasn't too happy that she had made up this whole sad fictional story based on her own assumptions on the small glimpses she had of him.
The first time I heard this song I was in my late teens I think? (nearly 20 years ago - oof I'm feel old now.) It was on a French-speaking radio station (I'm from Montreal). Once the song was over the host (who was/is also a pretty famous tv host in Quebec), who VERY obviously didn't know much about the song himself and had not bothered to pay any attention to the lyrics went on an aggressive mini rant about why the singer kept repeating "my name is Luka", about who the heck was this Luka, about how stupidly repetitive and boring and childish sounding this song was. 😬😬😬 Yeah I was like "dude... that's really not the right song to be shitting on". I don't think I'd ever heard him be that abrasive before too so it was a bit of a shock! I do wonder if anyone had explained to him afterwards what the song was about; he probably would've felt really embarrassed once he understood the meaning behind it.
I remember this! Very sad song and video. Late '80s alt rock. It was a big hit, deep message.
I had friends that went through abuse when I was growing up back in the '80s and early '90s. Hits hard.
Vega has more upbeat songs too BTW like "Tom's Diner", more of a hip hop feeling song.
My favourite song from Suzanne Vega. I used to sing it in karaoke with friends. Thanks for this. Happy Weekend to you guys
I saw her open for Arlo Guthrie back around 1987. I had never heard of her before. She started out singing Tom’s Diner a cappella, which I’ve always thought was an extremely brave thing to do. Her whole set, which included Luka, was great, and I went and bought her debut album the next day. Not long after, Luka became a hit song. She’s still one of those artists who keeps me company and helps me experience life more fully.
A couple of other songs of hers I would recommend are Small Blue Thing, Marlene on the Wall, and Blood Makes Noise, none of which were hits, but all of which are top notch songs. Another song of hers that made it into the Top 40 was Left of Center, which is also an excellent song.
I love this song. I love the words. I remember when this came out and the video it took me a minute before I got what she was saying but very powerful!!God bless and keep those who are dealing with this 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Sad as it is it happens to be it's a beautiful song.
A group I don’t remember you reacting to yet is 10,000 Maniacs. They have a very powerful song regarding the same topic as this. Another “different view” of the topic. You should definitely check them out, any of their songs but the one I speak of is “What’s The Matter Here”
I agree. It’s a beautiful song.
Natalie Merchant is another great voice of that era. Great suggestion.
A song that reminds me of "every breath you take" by the police. Something serious and dark wrapped in beautiful melodies. A classic.
I remember working at A&M & getting the advance tape of this in 1986 ish, ….. still hits as hard as it did the first time.
Luka from Suzanne Vega is such a beautiful song. Great reaction🆒🆒👍👍
I love you guys for doing songs like this and speaking on them honestly.
Solitude Standing is a song that needs a listen. Suzanne Vega writes wonders.
My favorite song by her.
I got to see her perform this at the New Port Folk Festival and it was awesome... the Indigo Girls played this show too. I'd love to see you react to their 1200 Curfews performance of Bob Dylan's Tangled Up In Blue or Neil Young's Down By The River... These two and their tour band make these songs magic
I was 25 when this came out in 1987 and it hit so emotionally hard back then and still does now when I am 61. My prayers have always gone to those being maltreated and abused. It can just seem so hopeless sometimes. It is a beautiful song and was very popular and I remember having to tell people to listen to the lyrics. I saw many people burst into tears listening to this song. Including myself.
2:11 - The moment Rob realised what the song was about. 💔
*Pat Benatar - "Hell is For Children" is one I hope you two check out. It's along the same lines and haunting the way Pat sings it.*
One day back in the 90's while browsing through CD(s) in J & R Music World in NYC I heard this song and the voice was so haunting. On my way out I picked up the album. The song is called Island and the artist is Heather Nova. It was her debut album called Oyster. WARNING! This is not a happy song but one you won't forget.
Suzanne Vega is an under appreciated performer and writer, love heer❤
Because Of Raising Myself Since I Was 9 Years Old,, When This Song Was Released,, I Could Really Relate To It.
This song makes me cry every time I hear it.
I miss artists with this level of creativity ability and ability to make real songs that really pull on your emotions.
It's time to flip off the radio and branch out - there are hundreds of great artists creating great music with incredibly difficult subject matter. Looking forward to them reacting to Hi Ren....
@@MattMuirhead It’s so true! Real, important music still exists. You just have to know where to find it. I’m lucky enough to live within range of an amazing independent radio station that plays some incredible music form young artists. Radio Woodstock WDST.
@@bsilvers1037 Still , it's kind of sad that we have to search for good music. In your case you live by a good indie station. I live by several. However there was a time when good music was often on mainstream radio. I miss those days.
Just in case you want a few suggestions...
"And We Run" from Within Temptation feat. Xzibit (more for the message, but still...)
"The Voice of My Father" (or, if you should know Finnish, "Isäni ääni") from Marko Hietala
"Christmas Truce" by Sabaton (about one of the most incredible moments that happened during WWI)
...and for one of the biggest elephants in the room, Floor Jansen performing pretty much anything, but especially...
"Dead Boy's Poem" by Nightwish (I'd recommend the live performance from Buenos Aires)
"Shallow" and "Mama" (okay, covers from Lady Gaga resp. Samantha Steenwijk, the blonde woman in the video on the channel AVROTROS, but as they say, don't let Floor Jansen cover your songs, yours will only be second best from then on 😋)
Seriously, if you get through this list and aren't somewhat of an emotional wreck, I question your humanity 😜
I grew up in the 80's(something I'm SO thankful for), and I remember hearing this song, and loving this song...but I was at the age where I didn't truly 'get' the meaning behind the song. When I finally 'got it'...the song held so much more meaning to me. It's a sad song, but it's a great song, as this song brought up difficult subjects that you didn't see all that often in 80's music.
"What's the Matter Here" is another great song on the same topic from the 80's. Natalie Merchant/10,000 Maniacs song was very popular on college radio.
Pat Benatar recorded Hell in For Children to bring attention to child abuse too.
The 80s had a lot of songs with a pleasant sound and a serious background. Just think about "Another Day in Paradise - Phil Collins"
This song makes me cry every time. So powerful.
Beautiful but heart-breaking song. Thank you for covering it. We all know this goes on, but we need songs like this to explore the subject and not let it slip from our attention.
Love from England.
Back then in Indonesia, this song was very frequently played in the radio. One of the reason is, Luka, the name of the child and the title of the song, in Indonesian language means wound. And the song happens to be about child abuse. Greetings from Indonesia guys. Glad your channel is growing. Been a subscriber for quite some time.
Such a deep song. Surprised you guys got around to it!
I Most definitely SMILE 😁👍 Everytime I watch This Music Review Channel..!
i worked with children while in college. Don't ever look away when you see or notice abuse. it's a sad song but brings awareness. Very much thank you for reacting to it!
I was lucky enough to see her live just a month ago. Fantastic show she is something special.
What a beautiful but haunting song. In your face and very emotional. If this does not touch your heart, then nothing does!
Awww, Im sure its a hard one for u both. Ur hearts r so kind and tender. Its a powerful emotional song and ur right harder being the childs prospective. When it first came out it made me need to hug my babies. Actually makes u want to hug all children so they feel some kind of love cause again ur so on point we never know whats happening in their precious little lives. Thanx so much, everyone hug ur babies tight, much love, Blessings
I played her debut album into the ground back in the mid-80s. The whole record is amazing. Sat three feet away from her at a dive bar in Chicago, just her and her guitar, and she blew us all away.
Excellent review people - you got the the theme of the song. A tough song but very elegently arranged and produced. A powerful message, a great song.
I haven't cried in a long time, but I have tonight. Love this song, even though it's very sad, we should all be aware & help all that we can. - - Crying warning for all these songs, but I would like to see y'all react to (original videos) -1.Soul Asylum: Runaway Train -2.Pearl Jam: Jeremy -3.The Offspring: The Kids Aren't Alright -4.P.O.D.: Youth of the Nation -5.Pat Benatar: Hell is for Children -6.Linkin Park: Crawling -Thanks
Korn- Crawling Away From me, and Daddy.
@@gwendolenyoung4198 I love Korn -but I'm not sure they could handle hearing Daddy
That's like 'Voices Carry' (hush hush).
This is going to crush them.😢❤️
Yes A very sad, disturbing song.
Another one dealing with the same subject is "Alyssa Lies" by Jason Michael Carroll.
This is a very difficult song and I remember it was a big deal when it came out - it caused a lot of discussion about child abuse. This song and Runaway Train always hit me hard!
Interesting trivia about the video: The director was Michael Patterson who was the creator of MC Skat Kat while the boy in the video is played by Jason Cerbone who years later was in the Sopranos in the role of Jackie Aprile jr.
Pat Benatar's He'll is for Children is also about child abuse. At that time people did not speak of "it."
I'm sure I'm adding to many who have suggested it, but also check out DNA featuring Suzanne Vega's song "Tom's Diner."
The upbeat tempo makes it more "palatable" but she did an acoustic version of this - just her and the guitar - and it's just heartbreaking.
Apart from the sad topic, this song reminds me of another great singer songwriter from that period: Lisa Loeb. You should give her a try, starting with Stay.
This song haunted me as a kid. But I understood that it was purposely unsettling. And that’s why I’ve always liked it.
Watching Jay in this reaction, how still he is, makes it hit harder. I never suggested this one, I knew it would hurt your hearts. Thank you for giving your Luca and your girls a much different life than portrayed in this song. I so enjoy hearing about your sweet family 😊
Nearly 40 years after I bought the album with this on, I finally got to see Suzanne live last week. Her voice hasn't changed at all. I held it together, until man next to me started blubbing. I lost it 🤣
How did I forget about this song...
This is a powerful song, a sad subject and she has great voice.
Both of you will be the most amazing parents. Your children will be beautiful, frighteningly intelligent and Love from Australia.🤘
From the Late 50s thru Mid 70s Child abuse was Considered the Family's Private Problem & For Outsiders it Was None Of Their Business. Child Abuse Was Difficult to Near Impossible to Prosecute thru the Courts. The Instrumental Melody of this Song are Amazing. It's Simple Lyrical Message is Awesome. This song came out in my Early High School Years
I grew up in a home with an alcoholic, mentally ill single mother and this song came out around the time I was in 4th grade. I believe it was one of the first times I realized that my home life was not only not what other kids experienced but was toxic and dysfunctional, though I didn’t have the vocabulary to verbalize it at the time. I still have a hard time with this song, and the same weird knot in my stomach I felt listening to it as a kid I still feel today. But it is also a good reminder of how far my life has come from those experiences, for which I’m very grateful
Edit: And, no surprise, I’m sitting here bawling-but from reading these comments I know I’m probably not the only one. Or at least, not the only one who identifies with this song. Hugs to all of you who made it through ❤ Thank you guys for reacting to this one