One of the worst experiences in life is to be lonely and isolated while surrounded by people having fun and socialising. That fear of missing out and being reminded that you’re worthless. And going home alone. Not being picked for a team. Not being invited out. Being ignored. Having your ideas ridiculed. Being rejected. This is not a new thing. I felt the same way in the 90s long before social media.
miss out from what? I think this is not a matter of loneliness but more about self-esteem. Not pointing fingers. Trying to help you out. Maybe work on that. We all can work on that from time to time. You're absolutely not worthless!!! You matter a ton.
Exactly this. I'm told I should go places like events or gatherings or what have you and meet people but nobody gets that not everyone can just strike up a conversation or that most people are already there with friends and aren't interested in talking to the lonely guy sitting there on his own.
@@after_midnight9592 what's so fun about going to concerts? get a girl friend to do what? what's so fun about holidays? lol you can have fun at home. just saying...
life sucks bro sorry to hear that, 22 here, but I have no friends too and my family is slowly distancing away from me, the thought of being all alone in this huge world and how I'm gonna be able to survive is terrifying me, been extremely suicidal lately, you're not alone
@@jafrinkhan8172 try not to think about it. Being rational is what causes us to feel depressed, unfortunately. You're still young and can turn your life around if you want to
I turn 30 tomorrow. Not only I don't have any friends, it feels so long since I had friends, I don't know what a friend even is or how to become friends with somebody at this point.
I have a hard time creating deeper connection with other people. It's also very hard to find someone who has the same interest as I did. I've always been lonely
This video made me cry because I struggle with loneliness really badly. It’s to the point where I sometimes don’t even realize how lonely I am because it’s just become the norm for me. I sometimes feel like I’m going a bit crazy because of lack of close confidants. I’m naturally an introverted person that doesn’t mind my own company so for me to feel this way I’m EXTREMELY isolated. My issue is. I feel I’ve been let down, hurt and disappointed by so many people that my trust in people is just gone. It seems as if every person I’ve ever put my trust in has broken it in the most horrific way possible. I don’t trust my own judge of character anymore and so, as much as being lonely feels terrible, I feel like it’s better than the alternative of being hurt and betrayed again and again. It’s sad but sometimes no company is better than bad company.
I am doing the same exact thing. I completely shut myself down and I don't try to make friends with people. Sure I will talk to someone if they talk to me but I don't really try to reach out to people anymore. I have had a lot of supposed friends leech off me and mooch off me. They took a lot of my money and have stolen from me. I just don't want to deal with people anymore because I feel like they will steal from me again and take all my money. I don't want to deal with the headache. I just feel like people are so fake and selfish nowadays and all they care about is themselves.
You are a classic introvert like me. You have to expend energy to be around people. Extroverts are the opposite and get energy from being around people
I found out today, SOMETIMES individuals can appear to be tough and (excessively) cool, and even potentially harsh, but I greeted a stranger walking down the street with no motives other than to be congenial, not expecting anything of it, and probably just the "cold-shoulder" or a paranoid response, but the cool independent tough "robot" became humanized, facial tension melted, and I got a congenial reply. You never know, even something like that could encourage someone, break them out of a vicious-cycle of negative thinking or loneliness.
The problem with getting older is that you become less mobile and your friends and acquaintances start dying. The worst of it is that it becomes part of normal life and you just get used to it and accept it.
@@uhhwhateverdude9463 It's easy to make friends when young because much of your experiences are similar or shared (same class at school, same majors in university, ) Once you are in the work world those friendships often drift as you marry, have kids, get jobs, and move away. Your lives take different paths. Once you are past middle age it is very difficult to find someone who can relate to the majority of your life experiences especially if it is not typical ( experiencing trauma, living with serious or chronic illness, life experience with previous partner that only you could appreciate, unusual or highly specialized career path). Those who die cannot readily be replaced. It is like part of your life died with them. It's hard to differentiate loneliness and grief when you are older....
Looking at the comments, I don’t understand why people think it’s only Older people. I’m 28 and haven’t had any true friends since middle school and high school. As a man, it’s hard to make friends once you hit your mid 20s because that’s the time when most people get married, have kids, settle in careers and etc. loneliness happens a lot earlier than your 40s. people don’t have the time to hangout anymore and when they do it doesn’t feel the same atleast to me. I feel the best you can do as a person who doesn’t have friends is to create life goals for yourself. Travel the world, create art, write a book, meditate, join a social club or church. I’m always making sure I keep my depression and loneliness at bay by playing video games because it’s my favorite hobby. Sometimes I’ll communicate with other players and it fulfills that void.
With how modern life works it's certain that everyone will lose their long term friends few times in their lifetimes. This didn't happen back in the day. Your childhood friends were your friends forever. Then you hang out around people that you can't relate with naturally through common life experiences and suddenly you are isolated. Career chasing, how schooling system works, universities, decay of rural areas in favor of urban life etc. these are the reasons behind this trend.
Also working overtime all the time, it's hard to make time for other people and go out to meet. People also don't make space for others feeling wise... it's a shame really. We are destroying our communities in my opinion.
@@RickMartinTH-cam I'm not that different. : ) Do you have people you genuinely love? no matter how few? The ties you have with these people - sometimes conversations are not necessary. Quality over quantity.
I disagree with the "childhood friends are your friends forever" part. People change within seconds, the moment they no longer need your present, your absence definitely don't matter even if he's a real or childhood friends. Majority of the people experience this in the modern era, it's a unfortunate timeline we're living in.
I was given a dog, and enjoy walking her every day. The whole neighborhood knows and loves the dog; none of them could pick me out in a one-woman lineup 😄
@@RickMartinTH-cam Or that's what you think you see in your environnement. But it is possible to connect on a better level, if you search, if you ask, if you do it first...
@@ilivemylifeforthestarsthat3140 If you can find a small Bible believing church, you'll be able to meet people at your own pace. The local library is also an option, and most have activities of one sort or another. Both are safe, non-threatening places to meet people, especially if you,like myself, are introverted.
It is required to spend a lot of money to meet people regularly, which is hard for economic reasons. Otherwise, going to the courses is the best way to expand your circle of friends, from my experience.
I gave up making friends about 10 years ago. I got tired of people just getting flaky and saying no all the time. You can only hear no so many times b4 you just give up. Yes, I'm extremely lonely, and I want more friends, but I'm tired of people who don't give a damn.
no here is the problem. you can say your lonely and then someone invites you somewhere and you decline because of fear. thats the problem with most people now in days
@@rickyticky3350this. So true. I was once here. I’ve noticed that it’s people’s anxieties and/or issues that they need to work through before heading out there and trying to meet people. If they’re not okay yet, they’ll put off outings and decline. It’s ok to not be okay and not be at a place where you can be your best self and connect with people yet. It’s ok to work through before heading back out into the world.
I hear what you just said so often. I feel it too. Why can't all the lonely descent people find one another instead of only finding fair weather friends. I go weeks at the time when I wouldn't hear the voice of another human if it weren't for my mom or going to a grocery store. I've worked on myself so much over the past couple years to become someone I like better, and I do. But it's had no positive outcome on my social capacity,.
I left a toxic relationship last year and being alone is far better than being in a stressful situation. Life may get lonely, however, it's peaceful & calm with no toxicity.
I'm glad to hear that you left a toxic relationship and have found peace and calmness in being alone. It takes a lot of courage and self-awareness to prioritize your well-being and remove yourself from a harmful situation. Remember, it's important to take care of yourself and prioritize your happiness. Loneliness can be challenging, but it's better to be alone and content than to be surrounded by toxicity. Take this time to focus on self-care, personal growth, and nurturing the positive aspects of your life. Surround yourself with supportive and loving people when the time feels right, and remember that you deserve happiness and healthy relationships.
Something you didn't get into that much is the quality of social interactions. I don't think it helps to interact superficially with fake personalities we create to not appal each other. Instead we need to find somebody we can open up to and just be ourselves and then there's another condition: understanding and approval. No matter how imperfect we are, we need somebody who affirms our self image. People often say you just need to reassure yourself of your value, but in the end we are social beings and we do care about what others think about us.
Totally! But it's so hard considering we only see superficial things on social media and won't be able to see the true face of someone until you spend a lot of time together. That makes it almost a Mission Impossible these days.
*"* ...somebody who affirms _our self image_ *??"* THAT sticks out like a sore thumb. Why our _self IMAGE?_ Why not our real-self !!!?? Oh, and also that "need" for understanding and approval --- My longest lasting relationships i.e. friendships, family (decades already and still going strong) can be without understanding and approval, yet the love & friendship and family carries on strong. Respect/love and genuine politeness, plus a sense of humour make "understanding and approval" unnecessary.
@@mtlicq There is no "real self". You perceive yourself some way and that's the way you want to be viewed. Unless of cause you have ego issues and only want others to revere some fake persona of yourself. Anyway, respect and love are something that doesn't really apply if it's not the "real you", otherwise it's just pretend, which leads back to the point I already made.
Anger, violence, and loneliness all go hand ✋ in hand and there is a direct correlation and probably a near causation between extreme loneliness and anger and violence…
I am in my 60s and still in the workforce. I do NOT want to be friends with my coworkers! They are way too competitive to be trusted as friends. I had good friends and some good family but they have all passed on. The couple of remaining family members are toxic so no contact. Too much of my life has been lived to make friends from scratch now. I get some social interaction at work, and busy myself with hobbies the rest of the time. Cherish the friends and family you have while they are still with you. There's no replacing them.
Although I am younger, I share a similar philosophy. I am glad that I am not interacting with the narcissists. For a long time it bothered me, but no longer. I’ve tried to be friends with coworkers...it does not work out, especially if your bosses are toxic/competitive. And those kind of people NEED to be in positions of power, so it’s not unusual to see such people controlling everyone, thus that sets the tone for the work force. Forced positivity also creates a strong feeling of isolation and depression - another common habit in the workplace.
I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your friends and family, and the challenges you've faced with toxic relationships. It's understandable that you may have reservations about building new friendships at this stage in life, especially considering your experiences. It's important to prioritize your well-being and surround yourself with positive influences. Cherishing the memories and lessons learned from past relationships can be a source of comfort and strength. Engaging in hobbies and finding fulfillment in your own activities can also contribute to your overall sense of contentment. Remember, it's never too late to find meaningful connections, but it's also okay to focus on self-care and create a fulfilling life for yourself without relying solely on friendships. Each person's journey is unique, and it's important to do what feels right for you.
I was suffering from loneliness and suddenly i saw his video in my recommendation. Wow,thank you brother. I Don't know how i relate with you so easily. You taught me something today.
Pro tip: if you're lonely talk to old people. Chances are they're lonely too and they'll really appreciate your company. You get to hear interesting stories about their life and you'll both feel a human connection. Sure, don't expect them to be around for long, but you're doing a kindness while temporarily filling the lonely void in your soul as well.
@@iiCounted-op5jxor consider it might make you a more well rounded person. It’s not pathetic to alleviate the loneliness of another person for a short while :) try it, you might like it
@@iiCounted-op5jxNo what's pathetic is that you deprive yourself of meaningful connections because of the social pressure or whatever of having friends that are a certain age. I am a teacher and I used to feel pathetic that I only interacted with children until I realized that they value my presence way more than my family and my snotty friends that are always tired to even drop by and watch tv, except when it's their boyfriend who's inviting.
I talk to old people because they aren't narcissistic psychopaths like the rest of the adult world. Problem is, even some old people... find me boring. 🤣
If the world had less selfish people and more selfless people who actually cared about others the world would be a better place and loneliness wouldn't be such a problem.
I hear you, but adults have a LOT to lose (not just financially either), and therefore it makes sense that they are not as quick to trust as children may be (who usually have a built-in support system and are not as likely to be predators or con artists of any type).
How old are you? I spent my entire childhood playing games by my self after school and never felt lonely but now that I’ve graduated and have been going back and forth from work and home for 3 years with no friends I’m starting to feel so lonely
My mother is a nurse at a caretaker place where retired people are usually at. She told me a lot of those people in there are some depressed because how lonely they are like they either didn't had time making friends just being very busy making money or all of their friends are passed away. So they will sometimes will get their family members to come in for a visit or some special person or event is hosted there to cheer the elderly up.
That second finding ar 2:40 really hits the nail on the head for why people bottle things up and dont talk about their problems... it LITERALLY hurts less
Thank you for making these videos! I will reach out to an old friend today whom I care for (not an old friend who I no longer talk to because they’re toxic). ❤
@@iiCounted-op5jxould you participate in a sport for instance? What are your hobbies if you have any? I am also 17 and i am social anxious, I think :)
Also, Broken Heart Syndrome can be just as deadly if not more so. I have that since my only daughter died 3 yrs ago. I have no friends as they have moved on with their lives & grandchildren or are dying suddenly. My family is distant emotionally & rarely communicate. My daughter's death & Covid changed everything & everybody. But for me, I have never felt so lonely knowing I cannot hear her voice on the phone or see her face ever again. 💔
I can’t tell you how sad I feel for you. Please try and lean on your faith if you can. I ask God to send his agents to help me, and I think he does, as I feel a little better afterward. I myself am profoundly lonely, nothing seems to help much.
@@Nortongroove Thank you for your kind words. I frequently ask for peace of mind and sometimes that is granted. Then there are times I think of her & certain situations & I break down. I am better than I was & I know grief takes time. Staying busy helps. I wish I could take away your loneliness. I would buy you a coffee.
I can't even begin to imagine the depth of pain and sadness you must be experiencing after the loss of your daughter. It's completely normal to feel an intense sense of loneliness and heartbreak in such a difficult time. Grief is a complex and individual journey, and there's no right or wrong way to navigate it. It's important to be patient and compassionate with yourself as you heal. Reach out to support groups or seek professional help to connect with others who may have experienced similar losses. Remember that healing takes time, and it's okay to feel a mix of emotions. Cherish the memories of your daughter, and know that she will always hold a special place in your heart.
This video is very needed in these times. The toxic mixture of social media, C 19 pandemic aftermath, and pervasive narcissism in our society has facilitated loneliness for many. I am glad that I have three wonderful children that I spend my time with. As my wife hangs out with my daughters and I goof off with my son. Yeah with that being said if I didn’t have them I think that the United States especially my native state of New York is probably the loneliest place in the world. And I’ve traveled to many different countries the culture is so different
I like being alone, always gone to concerts and shows on my own, I find it attracts more interesting people. I had a girlfriend that was the opposite of me, she didn’t even like being in the house on her own, always had to be around people, she loved going to crowded bars, I found that weird.
It's great that you find comfort and enjoyment in being alone and attending concerts and shows solo. Each person has their own preferences and comfort levels when it comes to socializing. While some people thrive in crowded environments, others may prefer more solitude. It's important to respect and appreciate these differences in order to maintain healthy relationships. Finding someone who shares similar interests and values can create a harmonious balance in a partnership. Remember, there's no right or wrong way to enjoy social activities, as long as it aligns with your own happiness and well-being.
I've always been a lonely person since I was a child and had bad experiences with "friends" so I got used to living like that 😊 and I prefer having animals ❤
This is a great video. We all need at least 1 or two non family good friends. I work with youth and I find those who purposely isolate themselves end up feeling terribly lonely later on. Isolation is not cool
Loneliness is far better than what others can put us through. I rather be lonely than to go through those horrifically crippling emotions again. I need nobody in my life if that is what the majority of people have degraded to become. It seems so many delight in emotionally injuring others. Nobody needs that in their lives. Loneliness means I am doing what needs to be done to stay safe from those cruel people.
I understand. What you describe sounds like a kind of trauma. I have been researching this myself as I only recently came to such conclusions regarding my own situations (which partly stemmed from abuse). Narcissistic behavior is fully encouraged and people can be shockingly thoughtless or oblivious about how their own actions affect others. They will preach their “morality” the live-long day, yet never stop to ask a common friend how their day went; it is virtue signaling.
@@tablescissors The relationship past the three month mark was all tramatic. She even had me befriend her friends because she said it would be good for me. It seemed even doctors were pressuring me to be social. Thus, I complied and made what I thought were friends. When it came to the time we parted ways because of her cruelty, she also took all the friends with her. Although they were all false friends, I did not know that at the time. Cruelty was sourced from all of them. But that is what I thought friendship was supposed to be, until I read some books. This is why, today, I have no girlfriend nor friends. I do not need more fakes in my life. The only way to assure this is to refrain from friendships and romantic relationships.
I am lonely because of the path that I have chosen and i successed in that. Now i know i missed many social interaction with my friends even finding the love. Now I am at the point even when I am sourrouned by people I feel can't relate with them and feel lonely. Now I work eat sleep and I have no meaningfull with anyone that I wish to talk with people. I feel like missed everything.
You succeeded , that matters And in further you will probably end up getting married and having new responsibilities. You still can make connections thereby
same here bro I'm 17 and missed out on my teen years because of my overprotective mom, she homeshooled me for high school and now I feel like I won't be able to relate to anyone
Our society has shifted so far from itself, humanity, and civility by those who control it so poignantly. Only drove on control that its left a critical divide that its actually made regular people a thing of old. While followers the ideal person. People who are alone tend to for a reason, and that reason is the either know what's wrong in our society or can't adapt because they aren't it.
I have absolutely no need to socialize. I can do it, but most of the time, I don't enjoy it. So I use technology to filter as much as possible the interactions, to stay balanced and happy.
I had friends.They were fake .They keep shaming me for my looks,grades etc and make fun of me around other friends. I was naive I didn't understood that these aren't my friends.But one day my best friend told everyone about my secret and made fun of it.That day I stopped talking to everyone even though we live in the same dorm. She broke me into pieces and I felt lonely ever since.I keep crying everyday because I was in a 4 years relationship and he left me 3months ago. you know what? Being a good person sucks.
Your too trusting. Naive. It’s not your fault because you were probably raised to be that way. Coming from someone who was never taught boundaries. Don’t put up with bad behavior because you think that someday they might treat you better. When people show you who they are believe them. Walk away. Don’t be such an open book because people don’t appreciate it. Don’t tell people things that you don’t want repeated until you have established a strong relationship with them. Value yourself. You are not anyone’s punching bag or doormat.
I'm so sorry to hear that you've had such hurtful experiences with your friends and in your relationship. It's incredibly painful to have people you trust betray and mistreat you. Remember, their behavior is a reflection of them, not of your worth as a person. It's important to surround yourself with people who uplift and support you, rather than tearing you down. While it may seem difficult now, try not to let these negative experiences define your outlook on being a good person. Being kind and caring is a beautiful trait that can attract genuine and compassionate individuals into your life. Take this time to focus on self-care, healing, and rebuilding your self-esteem. Reach out to supportive friends, family members, or seek professional help to navigate through the healing process. You deserve love, respect, and true friendships, and I believe there are kind-hearted individuals out there who will value and appreciate you for who you are.
Whenever I feel lonely, my urge to do drugs increases. Whenever I had a conversation with my mother or a good friend, it dissapears. Takeaway: social connections are in fact everything.
I'm only 20 but sometimes I feel lonely because that time I just conflicted with someone or simply I didn't have anyone to tell about my story. So, friendship is really important to me. This video motivated me to maintain old relationships and make many new ones in the future whenever opportunities come. (The fact that I watch this video only in order to improve my listening, but this content really attracts me)
It's wonderful to see that you recognize the importance of friendship at such a young age. Having someone to share your stories, thoughts, and experiences with can bring joy and a sense of connection. It's normal to occasionally feel lonely, especially during conflicts or when there isn't someone readily available to talk to. Remember to value the friendships you already have and make an effort to maintain them. Additionally, be open to new opportunities to meet new people and forge new connections in the future. Friendship is a beautiful and enriching part of life, and by actively seeking and nurturing these relationships, you'll create a support system that brings you fulfillment and happiness.
I feel like this happens in waves. Like whenever radio became a thing, then TV, then video games, then phones, then streaming, Netflix, TH-cam, etc. I wonder if the same thing was said each time about those causing loneliness, kids going outside less, fewer socializing, etc. Next thing will be emergence of VR headsets not just for gaming or something.
I belive that can be said, how we are socializing less. I know when I was younger played alot Video games spent most of my time doing that didn't really socialize really back then and I can understand how that has impacted me today.
Vr is good for older people in our 40’s and beyond in moderation, for us to live our younger years again. When I was a kid, we would play some video games and then go outside and become Mario at the park. We used our imaginations and no one got hurt and we got lots of exercise doing this. People are dead these days because they lost their inner child. I’m 42 going on 10. That means I just relive the years of the early 90’s in my head and do things again for the first time. Ninja turtles action figures and digging in the sand.
I am 26 and i been dealing with loneliness my whole life. I never had problem making Friends. The problem is that i have low selfesteem and I start comparing myself with my Friends too much until I reach a point where I start distancing myself from them. "Oh, he is with another girlfriend and I never had a girlfriend in my life" "oh, he is doing well at his job and I am here being a failure living with my parents"... I hope those thoughts stop once I start fixing my life.
Loneliness is made all the worse if you don't have the right personality type to escape it. If you're naturally extroverted you're going to find it easier to go out and meet new people should you feel lonely. If however you're more of an introvert, you're most likely going to find socialising a lot more difficult, especially if you go out unaccompanied. I'm 65, introverted, and I've never felt so lonely in all my life. I also have mental health issues. I have one friend who never comes to visit me any more. The reasons he gives are without doubt a complete load of BS. He calls me on the telephone but he never visits, despite the fact I've asked him multiple times. The remaining members of my family very rarely call either, and neither do they visit. I find it hard to get on with people at work as well since the group I work with are one big clique. I'm isolated and excluded on a daily basis hence the reason why I have depression. It's hard to live in a world in which nobody cares about you anymore.
What if a person is trying to build genuine friendships with people, but the other people consider you as you are trying to force friendships with them?
Thank you mate! Friendships are Indeed important, and I intend to be one of thr few who acheives a huge level of success without sacrificing my need to feel connected to others.
I’m very lonely, but I partially make up for that by having more formal relationships. Before I retired these were the relationships I had with co-workers. In retirement, I tutor English language learners and these people form a valuable part in my keeping connected with others. I am an introvert so I don’t need a very busy social life or a lot of friends. But I sure do wish I had a least one real friend. I used to have a number of friends, but over the years and moves I didn’t do the work of keeping these relationships. I regret that.
It's great to hear that you have found ways to stay connected through your formal relationships, such as tutoring English language learners. It's important to recognize and appreciate the value that these connections bring to your life. As an introvert, it's understandable that you may not need a busy social life or a large number of friends, but having at least one genuine friend can make a significant difference in feeling understood and supported. While it's natural for friendships to change or fade over time, it's never too late to work on cultivating new connections or rekindling old ones. Consider reaching out to old friends and expressing your desire to reconnect, or explore opportunities to meet like-minded individuals through activities or groups that align with your interests. Remember, building friendships takes effort and consistency, but it's worth it for the meaningful connections and companionship they can provide.
I believe your relationship with yourself is the most important thing in your life. You are your best friend.. when somebody treat you the way you would treat yourself then you might have a good friend. Unless, of course you treat yourself like crap.
Ever since I was a kid, I never had a lot of friends. Now as a 40 year old, I only have 1 friend and she is married with kids and lives in another state, I have have not seen her in 5+ years. I also moved to another state (about 7-8 years ago), I have been depressed and lonely… so alone and lonely that I highly doubt anyone would notice if I killed myself.
all I can say at this point is try looking for friends through the internet, it's the only option you have and there's no other choice, and that doesn't only mean on the computer, try to look for other lonely 40 yr olds whether it would be through gaming, VR or any other digital environments that encourage socializing because like I said, it's ur only option at this point, nothing else will work
For me the hardest part is telling my mom. She always asks “oh how is so and so”, I feel like if I tell her that my friends actually leave me out a lot then she’ll think that something is wrong with me. How do I tell her that one of my friend’s friend dosent like me at all - a person who she is always impressed by, how do I tell my mom I’m lonely? I did once and that went a bit weird: I told her I haven’t really made friends at university and she was like “you haven’t made new friends???”
Great video as usual, but I'm surprised you didn't mention getting a cat or dog to help solve loneliness or atleast mitigate it quite a bit. The constant love, touching, support, interactions, and even conversation with our own language I get with my 2 labs has been so helpful. I have had cats and dogs my whole life and currently have 2 labs, a mother and her daughter. I feel grateful to have great social contact with humans as well but they still suck compared to dogs and cats!
Long befor covid l suffered with loneliness. There were a number of reasons for it 1 my family were not very social 2 l now live alone 3 l have social anxiety 4 l am also socially isolated with few people l see regularly 5 Fewer social activities because of the cost of living are being put on. 6 People l know are too busy or tired to socialise. These thing all contibute. 3
My so called "friends" will only come to me when they need something from me; they are merely baggage that I will gladly live without. Those "friends" at the workplace are out ot get me every opportunity they got. It is much preferable to rely on oneself for lifelong happiness.
I've made the mistake of overvaluing workplace friends. I'm not saying you shouldn't be friendly at work, but you need to look elsewhere for true friendship. That is, if you want friends. Not everyone does and there's nothing wrong with that
Hi since you asked what we think about this, I'll say, just in case you haven't seen this, we'll just all die alone. Having and being with friends is good, but at the end of the day, we're just alone. Time for family is good, but I'm not sure about friends. Happy living everyone :)
This vídeo is super useful! !! Most of us, in a moment, feel hurted by our close friends maybe because someone spread gossip or bad comments about us. So it is hard maintain trust and feel confortable with friends, in special if this happened over and over again. ... but we can buildind new friendships with older peoples or try talking with differents peoples like here right now ....here we can exposure opinion, share knowledges ! Thank you friends!!! :)
Soooo glad to see youuu❤ loved the ending of this video! 👏 just recently was thinking what makes most of happiest moments for me and it’s truly people- fam, friends, less close friends, colleagues, teachers 💞the laughs we have, support we give to each other, acceptance 😊 and that’s smth that like u say requires maintenance. This was a big mistake if mine- I was always thinking it will be just there, but no, I need to put in work&effort 😎
Thank you, you showed me a clear view of my future. TH-cam and TH-cam video creators call me toxic, so i guess I am going to stay alone regardless of what I do.
I never really understood why many channels are recommended about loneliness. I don't know why the A.I thinks I'm lonely at all. It's like being force-fed.
Ha, ha! I’ve had this thought too. I listened bc I like animation and I like this narrator’s voice. I also was curious what others would say and the video was not too long.
@@tablescissors it's literally imposing its loneliness on me. Perhaps the AI is lonely, and this is a hallucinatory projection, which i realize is a mouthful of words.
Loneliness is practically ridiculous in today's society. Collectively we obviously need to get a better grip on it. Loneliness is also natural and normal, so we have to notice it, accept of for what it is and move through it. Otherwise we take it out on ourselves. And consequently whether you like it or not we're all in the same boat, so you're going to affect the rest of us if you don't move through your loneliness in a balanced manner. There are a lot of reasons our society fosters loneliness by perpetuating divisions versus celebrating uniqueness and even apathy if it suits a government or the consumer society. So it's an uphill thing. 🌞🙏♥️ P.S. You are NOT alone!
Everyone today has problems. Some more than others. People often have psychological problems they actually feel proud of having. Thats why its way easier for me to just interact with people online most of the time because i have to use less of my own energy listening to their problems and issues.
That is a great question given what we've learned from this video! I'd say likely the answer is yes, if physical and emotional pain affect the same parts of your brain
I don't know. I reflect this yesterday and back day. I always wondering why I always lonely in my journey until this adulthood. Maybe ya, I am lack of self esteem and lack of social skill. But, even I try to be better to open up and be vulnerable to people that I am feel safe to open up, I am still stuck on one side relationship. Did I am good enough as friend? Why my feeling is not reciprocated? Why I am attract to unavailable people? Did I make mistake along the way? But, feel that way don't make my situation better, just make my feeling miserable. I know, I did my best as I know I think to do. I should accept for what happen and for who I am. In deep, I still don't know,
Always a great year when this man casually returns after 5 months
Why do I see you everywhere?
@@heisenberg3082 Because you are looking into a mirror.
groupthink for the win, high five 🖐
Just about to say the same
One step at a time, ain't it? 😅
One of the worst experiences in life is to be lonely and isolated while surrounded by people having fun and socialising. That fear of missing out and being reminded that you’re worthless. And going home alone.
Not being picked for a team. Not being invited out. Being ignored. Having your ideas ridiculed. Being rejected.
This is not a new thing. I felt the same way in the 90s long before social media.
miss out from what? I think this is not a matter of loneliness but more about self-esteem. Not pointing fingers. Trying to help you out. Maybe work on that. We all can work on that from time to time. You're absolutely not worthless!!! You matter a ton.
Exactly this. I'm told I should go places like events or gatherings or what have you and meet people but nobody gets that not everyone can just strike up a conversation or that most people are already there with friends and aren't interested in talking to the lonely guy sitting there on his own.
@@partdeux992 missing out on going to concerts or summer holidays with a gf.
@@after_midnight9592 what's so fun about going to concerts? get a girl friend to do what? what's so fun about holidays? lol you can have fun at home. just saying...
Meanwhile I can't get 5 minutes to myself smh. I guess it's all about perspective.
I'm almost 40 with no gf or wife. Most of my friends are dropping off because they have their own family. Being lonely really sucks
life sucks bro sorry to hear that, 22 here, but I have no friends too and my family is slowly distancing away from me, the thought of being all alone in this huge world and how I'm gonna be able to survive is terrifying me, been extremely suicidal lately, you're not alone
@@jafrinkhan8172 try not to think about it. Being rational is what causes us to feel depressed, unfortunately. You're still young and can turn your life around if you want to
I turn 30 tomorrow. Not only I don't have any friends, it feels so long since I had friends, I don't know what a friend even is or how to become friends with somebody at this point.
@@TheMavenDojo stay strong man. Things will get better. You're still very young
I’m 39 years old and live with my elderly parents and have no girlfriend or significant other.
The way I beat loneliness was by joining clubs and even church groups . It helped me so much .
wish i could join clubs but i live in a really small town :(
If only there was a club to join to where i live.There is nothing like that here.
I don't believe in god so woud avoid those groups. I like setting up wellbeing groups myself
I have a hard time creating deeper connection with other people. It's also very hard to find someone who has the same interest as I did. I've always been lonely
@@beaulieuonnp593God 4 you
This video made me cry because I struggle with loneliness really badly. It’s to the point where I sometimes don’t even realize how lonely I am because it’s just become the norm for me. I sometimes feel like I’m going a bit crazy because of lack of close confidants. I’m naturally an introverted person that doesn’t mind my own company so for me to feel this way I’m EXTREMELY isolated.
My issue is. I feel I’ve been let down, hurt and disappointed by so many people that my trust in people is just gone. It seems as if every person I’ve ever put my trust in has broken it in the most horrific way possible. I don’t trust my own judge of character anymore and so, as much as being lonely feels terrible, I feel like it’s better than the alternative of being hurt and betrayed again and again. It’s sad but sometimes no company is better than bad company.
I hear you x
Exactly it is my situation
If you r a bit shy people think you WANT to be on your own
I am doing the same exact thing. I completely shut myself down and I don't try to make friends with people. Sure I will talk to someone if they talk to me but I don't really try to reach out to people anymore. I have had a lot of supposed friends leech off me and mooch off me. They took a lot of my money and have stolen from me. I just don't want to deal with people anymore because I feel like they will steal from me again and take all my money. I don't want to deal with the headache. I just feel like people are so fake and selfish nowadays and all they care about is themselves.
@@jRex918 I feel the same
Why is that when I'm out the house and with people I just feel like going home? It's like its being with people just drains me.
There are chances that you may be introverted and might just prefer to stay at home and chill by yourself instead of going out and socializing 😊
You are a classic introvert like me. You have to expend energy to be around people. Extroverts are the opposite and get energy from being around people
It could be that you are a good person and surrounded by trolls/satans.
Me too
@steven631764 well said!
I found out today, SOMETIMES individuals can appear to be tough and (excessively) cool, and even potentially harsh, but I greeted a stranger walking down the street with no motives other than to be congenial, not expecting anything of it, and probably just the "cold-shoulder" or a paranoid response, but the cool independent tough "robot" became humanized, facial tension melted, and I got a congenial reply. You never know, even something like that could encourage someone, break them out of a vicious-cycle of negative thinking or loneliness.
My experience is that you will quite often be pleasantly surprised when you take the chance to get to know someone.
I'm just trying to live my best life, but I got this rbf to contend with lol
It is easier if you do that the same sex it can be creepy if a woman had stranger attention from a strange man
You’re cool for doing that
The problem with getting older is that you become less mobile and your friends and acquaintances start dying. The worst of it is that it becomes part of normal life and you just get used to it and accept it.
Just make new friends. Death is just a part of life.
@@uhhwhateverdude9463 ??? Harsh!!
40’s is when you notice a lot of people begin dying And or having problems.
@@uhhwhateverdude9463 It's easy to make friends when young because much of your experiences are similar or shared (same class at school, same majors in university, ) Once you are in the work world those friendships often drift as you marry, have kids, get jobs, and move away. Your lives take different paths. Once you are past middle age it is very difficult to find someone who can relate to the majority of your life experiences especially if it is not typical ( experiencing trauma, living with serious or chronic illness, life experience with previous partner that only you could appreciate, unusual or highly specialized career path). Those who die cannot readily be replaced. It is like part of your life died with them. It's hard to differentiate loneliness and grief when you are older....
Looking at the comments, I don’t understand why people think it’s only Older people. I’m 28 and haven’t had any true friends since middle school and high school. As a man, it’s hard to make friends once you hit your mid 20s because that’s the time when most people get married, have kids, settle in careers and etc. loneliness happens a lot earlier than your 40s. people don’t have the time to hangout anymore and when they do it doesn’t feel the same atleast to me. I feel the best you can do as a person who doesn’t have friends is to create life goals for yourself. Travel the world, create art, write a book, meditate, join a social club or church. I’m always making sure I keep my depression and loneliness at bay by playing video games because it’s my favorite hobby. Sometimes I’ll communicate with other players and it fulfills that void.
With how modern life works it's certain that everyone will lose their long term friends few times in their lifetimes. This didn't happen back in the day. Your childhood friends were your friends forever. Then you hang out around people that you can't relate with naturally through common life experiences and suddenly you are isolated.
Career chasing, how schooling system works, universities, decay of rural areas in favor of urban life etc. these are the reasons behind this trend.
Also working overtime all the time, it's hard to make time for other people and go out to meet. People also don't make space for others feeling wise... it's a shame really. We are destroying our communities in my opinion.
@@sabinebdx2 don't worry. AI will soon take over all of your jobs and you can go meet people and play.
@@RickMartinTH-cam I'm not that different. : ) Do you have people you genuinely love? no matter how few? The ties you have with these people - sometimes conversations are not necessary. Quality over quantity.
Sounds like a cop-out, if you end up lonely, the main reason is yourself
I disagree with the "childhood friends are your friends forever" part. People change within seconds, the moment they no longer need your present, your absence definitely don't matter even if he's a real or childhood friends. Majority of the people experience this in the modern era, it's a unfortunate timeline we're living in.
We need to go outside regularly and meet people.
I don't! You do.
I was given a dog, and enjoy walking her every day. The whole neighborhood knows and loves the dog; none of them could pick me out in a one-woman lineup 😄
@@RickMartinTH-cam Or that's what you think you see in your environnement. But it is possible to connect on a better level, if you search, if you ask, if you do it first...
@@ilivemylifeforthestarsthat3140 If you can find a small Bible believing church, you'll be able to meet people at your own pace. The local library is also an option, and most have activities of one sort or another. Both are safe, non-threatening places to meet people, especially if you,like myself, are introverted.
It is required to spend a lot of money to meet people regularly, which is hard for economic reasons. Otherwise, going to the courses is the best way to expand your circle of friends, from my experience.
I gave up making friends about 10 years ago. I got tired of people just getting flaky and saying no all the time. You can only hear no so many times b4 you just give up. Yes, I'm extremely lonely, and I want more friends, but I'm tired of people who don't give a damn.
I came to this very same conclusion a year or so ago. I finally quit seeking somewhere around the fiftieth "friendship attempt". Yes, I was counting.
no here is the problem. you can say your lonely and then someone invites you somewhere and you decline because of fear. thats the problem with most people now in days
@@rickyticky3350this. So true. I was once here. I’ve noticed that it’s people’s anxieties and/or issues that they need to work through before heading out there and trying to meet people. If they’re not okay yet, they’ll put off outings and decline. It’s ok to not be okay and not be at a place where you can be your best self and connect with people yet. It’s ok to work through before heading back out into the world.
Amen Kim, it's hard to find genuine people who are genuinely interested in genuine friendship.
I hear what you just said so often. I feel it too. Why can't all the lonely descent people find one another instead of only finding fair weather friends. I go weeks at the time when I wouldn't hear the voice of another human if it weren't for my mom or going to a grocery store. I've worked on myself so much over the past couple years to become someone I like better, and I do. But it's had no positive outcome on my social capacity,.
I left a toxic relationship last year and being alone is far better than being in a stressful situation. Life may get lonely, however, it's peaceful & calm with no toxicity.
So true
I'm glad to hear that you left a toxic relationship and have found peace and calmness in being alone. It takes a lot of courage and self-awareness to prioritize your well-being and remove yourself from a harmful situation. Remember, it's important to take care of yourself and prioritize your happiness. Loneliness can be challenging, but it's better to be alone and content than to be surrounded by toxicity. Take this time to focus on self-care, personal growth, and nurturing the positive aspects of your life. Surround yourself with supportive and loving people when the time feels right, and remember that you deserve happiness and healthy relationships.
Something you didn't get into that much is the quality of social interactions. I don't think it helps to interact superficially with fake personalities we create to not appal each other. Instead we need to find somebody we can open up to and just be ourselves and then there's another condition: understanding and approval. No matter how imperfect we are, we need somebody who affirms our self image. People often say you just need to reassure yourself of your value, but in the end we are social beings and we do care about what others think about us.
Totally! But it's so hard considering we only see superficial things on social media and won't be able to see the true face of someone until you spend a lot of time together. That makes it almost a Mission Impossible these days.
*"* ...somebody who affirms _our self image_ *??"* THAT sticks out like a sore thumb.
Why our _self IMAGE?_ Why not our real-self !!!??
Oh, and also that "need" for understanding and approval --- My longest lasting relationships i.e. friendships, family (decades already and still going strong) can be without understanding and approval, yet the love & friendship and family carries on strong. Respect/love and genuine politeness, plus a sense of humour make "understanding and approval" unnecessary.
@@mtlicq There is no "real self". You perceive yourself some way and that's the way you want to be viewed. Unless of cause you have ego issues and only want others to revere some fake persona of yourself. Anyway, respect and love are something that doesn't really apply if it's not the "real you", otherwise it's just pretend, which leads back to the point I already made.
@@benjaminbaron3209
Wow! You might need Rx
Your videos are amazing. Its so informative. Thank you for creating this.
Anger, violence, and loneliness all go hand ✋ in hand and there is a direct correlation and probably a near causation between extreme loneliness and anger and violence…
The world needs more of these videos to help people.
I am in my 60s and still in the workforce. I do NOT want to be friends with my coworkers! They are way too competitive to be trusted as friends. I had good friends and some good family but they have all passed on. The couple of remaining family members are toxic so no contact. Too much of my life has been lived to make friends from scratch now. I get some social interaction at work, and busy myself with hobbies the rest of the time. Cherish the friends and family you have while they are still with you. There's no replacing them.
Although I am younger, I share a similar philosophy. I am glad that I am not interacting with the narcissists.
For a long time it bothered me, but no longer. I’ve tried to be friends with coworkers...it does not work out, especially if your bosses are toxic/competitive. And those kind of people NEED to be in positions of power, so it’s not unusual to see such people controlling everyone, thus that sets the tone for the work force.
Forced positivity also creates a strong feeling of isolation and depression - another common habit in the workplace.
dang
I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your friends and family, and the challenges you've faced with toxic relationships. It's understandable that you may have reservations about building new friendships at this stage in life, especially considering your experiences. It's important to prioritize your well-being and surround yourself with positive influences. Cherishing the memories and lessons learned from past relationships can be a source of comfort and strength. Engaging in hobbies and finding fulfillment in your own activities can also contribute to your overall sense of contentment. Remember, it's never too late to find meaningful connections, but it's also okay to focus on self-care and create a fulfilling life for yourself without relying solely on friendships. Each person's journey is unique, and it's important to do what feels right for you.
Getting back to this video everynow and then... just to remind me that I am not alone.
I was suffering from loneliness and suddenly i saw his video in my recommendation. Wow,thank you brother. I Don't know how i relate with you so easily. You taught me something today.
Friendships are very important male or female we all need that social connection
Pro tip: if you're lonely talk to old people. Chances are they're lonely too and they'll really appreciate your company. You get to hear interesting stories about their life and you'll both feel a human connection. Sure, don't expect them to be around for long, but you're doing a kindness while temporarily filling the lonely void in your soul as well.
bro I'm 17 I wanna make friends with my own generation, talking to old people would just make me feel pathetic lol
@@iiCounted-op5jxor consider it might make you a more well rounded person. It’s not pathetic to alleviate the loneliness of another person for a short while :) try it, you might like it
@@iiCounted-op5jxNo what's pathetic is that you deprive yourself of meaningful connections because of the social pressure or whatever of having friends that are a certain age. I am a teacher and I used to feel pathetic that I only interacted with children until I realized that they value my presence way more than my family and my snotty friends that are always tired to even drop by and watch tv, except when it's their boyfriend who's inviting.
I talk to old people because they aren't narcissistic psychopaths like the rest of the adult world.
Problem is, even some old people... find me boring. 🤣
Not even old peiple wants my company. Lol
If the world had less selfish people and more selfless people who actually cared about others the world would be a better place and loneliness wouldn't be such a problem.
I hear you, but adults have a LOT to lose (not just financially either), and therefore it makes sense that they are not as quick to trust as children may be (who usually have a built-in support system and are not as likely to be predators or con artists of any type).
I've been waiting for a new video for so long and it is here, great to see you.
As an introvert who doesn't like being around people and who never gets lonely my heart goes out to those who do.
How old are you? I spent my entire childhood playing games by my self after school and never felt lonely but now that I’ve graduated and have been going back and forth from work and home for 3 years with no friends I’m starting to feel so lonely
"if you are lonely, then you are not alone"..... 😢
My mother is a nurse at a caretaker place where retired people are usually at. She told me a lot of those people in there are some depressed because how lonely they are like they either didn't had time making friends just being very busy making money or all of their friends are passed away. So they will sometimes will get their family members to come in for a visit or some special person or event is hosted there to cheer the elderly up.
Very accurate and relatable! Thanks for making the video
Even though being lonely and alone are different but Being alone for too long will make you lonely in the end too.
That second finding ar 2:40 really hits the nail on the head for why people bottle things up and dont talk about their problems... it LITERALLY hurts less
Thank you for making these videos! I will reach out to an old friend today whom I care for (not an old friend who I no longer talk to because they’re toxic). ❤
Fastest way to make new friends is to choose a hobby and join a coaching class for it. There will be more people like you.
where to go if I'm 17 and not in high school or college? (I'm doing online high school) I feel like its impossible to meet others my age
@@iiCounted-op5jxould you participate in a sport for instance? What are your hobbies if you have any? I am also 17 and i am social anxious, I think :)
@@iiCounted-op5jx maybe join a board game group, they are great
Also, Broken Heart Syndrome can be just as deadly if not more so. I have that since my only daughter died 3 yrs ago. I have no friends as they have moved on with their lives & grandchildren or are dying suddenly. My family is distant emotionally & rarely communicate. My daughter's death & Covid changed everything & everybody. But for me, I have never felt so lonely knowing I cannot hear her voice on the phone or see her face ever again. 💔
mannn that has to be a whole new type of loneliness, I can't even imagine
I can’t tell you how sad I feel for you. Please try and lean on your faith if you can. I ask God to send his agents to help me, and I think he does, as I feel a little better afterward. I myself am profoundly lonely, nothing seems to help much.
@@Nortongroove Thank you for your kind words. I frequently ask for peace of mind and sometimes that is granted. Then there are times I think of her & certain situations & I break down. I am better than I was & I know grief takes time. Staying busy helps. I wish I could take away your loneliness. I would buy you a coffee.
There are some good Death Cafes around
I can't even begin to imagine the depth of pain and sadness you must be experiencing after the loss of your daughter. It's completely normal to feel an intense sense of loneliness and heartbreak in such a difficult time. Grief is a complex and individual journey, and there's no right or wrong way to navigate it. It's important to be patient and compassionate with yourself as you heal. Reach out to support groups or seek professional help to connect with others who may have experienced similar losses. Remember that healing takes time, and it's okay to feel a mix of emotions. Cherish the memories of your daughter, and know that she will always hold a special place in your heart.
Hope you all feel better soon!
aren't you feel the same way ?
This video is very needed in these times. The toxic mixture of social media, C 19 pandemic aftermath, and pervasive narcissism in our society has facilitated loneliness for many. I am glad that I have three wonderful children that I spend my time with. As my wife hangs out with my daughters and I goof off with my son. Yeah with that being said if I didn’t have them I think that the United States especially my native state of New York is probably the loneliest place in the world. And I’ve traveled to many different countries the culture is so different
I know I'm lonely and through this video I feel even more sad :(
As a fellow human being, I feel for you. Tell me about your situation, friend!
Same tbh
Lets be friend ig
Hey, do you have anyone you can reach out to for company?
cure: get a dog or a cat!
Some people do post their sad stories on social media.
Others share everything they do online. They treat it like a journal.
FACT: you can only trust the trustworthy.🎯 Finally, someone said it out loud.😇🖖🏽🙏🏽
I like being alone, always gone to concerts and shows on my own, I find it attracts more interesting people. I had a girlfriend that was the opposite of me, she didn’t even like being in the house on her own, always had to be around people, she loved going to crowded bars, I found that weird.
Sounds like she lives for attention
@@petercross3984 may extrovert
It's great that you find comfort and enjoyment in being alone and attending concerts and shows solo. Each person has their own preferences and comfort levels when it comes to socializing. While some people thrive in crowded environments, others may prefer more solitude. It's important to respect and appreciate these differences in order to maintain healthy relationships. Finding someone who shares similar interests and values can create a harmonious balance in a partnership. Remember, there's no right or wrong way to enjoy social activities, as long as it aligns with your own happiness and well-being.
*Better than yesterday uploaded* .. blessed month
You can walk around nyc which has millions of people at any given time and yet feel soul crushingly lonely.
I've always been a lonely person since I was a child and had bad experiences with "friends" so I got used to living like that 😊 and I prefer having animals ❤
This is a great video. We all need at least 1 or two non family good friends. I work with youth and I find those who purposely isolate themselves end up feeling terribly lonely later on. Isolation is not cool
Loneliness is far better than what others can put us through. I rather be lonely than to go through those horrifically crippling emotions again. I need nobody in my life if that is what the majority of people have degraded to become. It seems so many delight in emotionally injuring others. Nobody needs that in their lives. Loneliness means I am doing what needs to be done to stay safe from those cruel people.
I understand. What you describe sounds like a kind of trauma. I have been researching this myself as I only recently came to such conclusions regarding my own situations (which partly stemmed from abuse). Narcissistic behavior is fully encouraged and people can be shockingly thoughtless or oblivious about how their own actions affect others. They will preach their “morality” the live-long day, yet never stop to ask a common friend how their day went; it is virtue signaling.
@@tablescissors The relationship past the three month mark was all tramatic. She even had me befriend her friends because she said it would be good for me. It seemed even doctors were pressuring me to be social. Thus, I complied and made what I thought were friends. When it came to the time we parted ways because of her cruelty, she also took all the friends with her. Although they were all false friends, I did not know that at the time. Cruelty was sourced from all of them. But that is what I thought friendship was supposed to be, until I read some books. This is why, today, I have no girlfriend nor friends. I do not need more fakes in my life. The only way to assure this is to refrain from friendships and romantic relationships.
"If youre feeling lonely, you're not alone" nice one
I am lonely because of the path that I have chosen and i successed in that. Now i know i missed many social interaction with my friends even finding the love. Now I am at the point even when I am sourrouned by people I feel can't relate with them and feel lonely. Now I work eat sleep and I have no meaningfull with anyone that I wish to talk with people. I feel like missed everything.
@@RickMartinTH-cam yeah
You succeeded , that matters
And in further you will probably end up getting married and having new responsibilities. You still can make connections thereby
@@rahul-rz5uj i hope so
Don't think about the past, focus on the now and put yourself out there! I think once you change your mindset it will make a world of difference
same here bro I'm 17 and missed out on my teen years because of my overprotective mom, she homeshooled me for high school and now I feel like I won't be able to relate to anyone
Boom,welcome back and with such a great topic discussed
The man, the myth, the legend is back..!
Haven't gone through video yet but happy to see @betterthanyesterday posting video... Keep up the good work sir. Thanks. Now I'll jump to content...
Our society has shifted so far from itself, humanity, and civility by those who control it so poignantly. Only drove on control that its left a critical divide that its actually made regular people a thing of old. While followers the ideal person. People who are alone tend to for a reason, and that reason is the either know what's wrong in our society or can't adapt because they aren't it.
People can't be trusted and are a major cause of stress for me. I'm a solitude addict.
Sad
Thanks for making this, it's relatable and I find it helpful. Watching your video after about a year makes it worth.
I have absolutely no need to socialize. I can do it, but most of the time, I don't enjoy it. So I use technology to filter as much as possible the interactions, to stay balanced and happy.
more power to you!
same
I had friends.They were fake .They keep shaming me for my looks,grades etc and make fun of me around other friends. I was naive I didn't understood that these aren't my friends.But one day my best friend told everyone about my secret and made fun of it.That day I stopped talking to everyone even though we live in the same dorm. She broke me into pieces and I felt lonely ever since.I keep crying everyday because I was in a 4 years relationship and he left me 3months ago. you know what? Being a good person sucks.
You need to read the Bible.
Your too trusting. Naive. It’s not your fault because you were probably raised to be that way. Coming from someone who was never taught boundaries. Don’t put up with bad behavior because you think that someday they might treat you better. When people show you who they are believe them. Walk away. Don’t be such an open book because people don’t appreciate it. Don’t tell people things that you don’t want repeated until you have established a strong relationship with them. Value yourself. You are not anyone’s punching bag or doormat.
If you study narcissistic behaviour, and spot the red flags, you will find better people to mix with, your 'friends; were not friends
I'm so sorry to hear that you've had such hurtful experiences with your friends and in your relationship. It's incredibly painful to have people you trust betray and mistreat you. Remember, their behavior is a reflection of them, not of your worth as a person. It's important to surround yourself with people who uplift and support you, rather than tearing you down. While it may seem difficult now, try not to let these negative experiences define your outlook on being a good person. Being kind and caring is a beautiful trait that can attract genuine and compassionate individuals into your life. Take this time to focus on self-care, healing, and rebuilding your self-esteem. Reach out to supportive friends, family members, or seek professional help to navigate through the healing process. You deserve love, respect, and true friendships, and I believe there are kind-hearted individuals out there who will value and appreciate you for who you are.
this chanle helped me with lots off stuff i feel lonely all the time :(
i been feeling lonely for like close to a year i go out house like 1 time every 2 weeks i need HELP
Whenever I feel lonely, my urge to do drugs increases. Whenever I had a conversation with my mother or a good friend, it dissapears. Takeaway: social connections are in fact everything.
I'm only 20 but sometimes I feel lonely because that time I just conflicted with someone or simply I didn't have anyone to tell about my story. So, friendship is really important to me. This video motivated me to maintain old relationships and make many new ones in the future whenever opportunities come. (The fact that I watch this video only in order to improve my listening, but this content really attracts me)
Hey would you like to be my friend?
@@lt2145 of course ...!
It's wonderful to see that you recognize the importance of friendship at such a young age. Having someone to share your stories, thoughts, and experiences with can bring joy and a sense of connection. It's normal to occasionally feel lonely, especially during conflicts or when there isn't someone readily available to talk to. Remember to value the friendships you already have and make an effort to maintain them. Additionally, be open to new opportunities to meet new people and forge new connections in the future. Friendship is a beautiful and enriching part of life, and by actively seeking and nurturing these relationships, you'll create a support system that brings you fulfillment and happiness.
“if you’re lonely or feeling alone, you’re not alone” 😂😂
What's funny ?
Great video! Your topics and the way you explain them... Just a insight in your view. Thanks!!
I feel like this happens in waves. Like whenever radio became a thing, then TV, then video games, then phones, then streaming, Netflix, TH-cam, etc.
I wonder if the same thing was said each time about those causing loneliness, kids going outside less, fewer socializing, etc. Next thing will be emergence of VR headsets not just for gaming or something.
I belive that can be said, how we are socializing less. I know when I was younger played alot Video games spent most of my time doing that didn't really socialize really back then and I can understand how that has impacted me today.
Vr is good for older people in our 40’s and beyond in moderation, for us to live our younger years again.
When I was a kid, we would play some video games and then go outside and become Mario at the park. We used our imaginations and no one got hurt and we got lots of exercise doing this.
People are dead these days because they lost their inner child. I’m 42 going on 10. That means I just relive the years of the early 90’s in my head and do things again for the first time. Ninja turtles action figures and digging in the sand.
@@Filthy_Larry factsss I plan on trying to keep my childlike energy alive, so many people have lost it and wonder why their so miserable
Demolition Man - a movie with Stallone, keeps staying relevant!
Bein around people drains me wears me out.
I am 26 and i been dealing with loneliness my whole life. I never had problem making Friends. The problem is that i have low selfesteem and I start comparing myself with my Friends too much until I reach a point where I start distancing myself from them. "Oh, he is with another girlfriend and I never had a girlfriend in my life" "oh, he is doing well at his job and I am here being a failure living with my parents"... I hope those thoughts stop once I start fixing my life.
Loneliness is made all the worse if you don't have the right personality type to escape it. If you're naturally extroverted you're going to find it easier to go out and meet new people should you feel lonely. If however you're more of an introvert, you're most likely going to find socialising a lot more difficult, especially if you go out unaccompanied. I'm 65, introverted, and I've never felt so lonely in all my life. I also have mental health issues. I have one friend who never comes to visit me any more. The reasons he gives are without doubt a complete load of BS. He calls me on the telephone but he never visits, despite the fact I've asked him multiple times. The remaining members of my family very rarely call either, and neither do they visit. I find it hard to get on with people at work as well since the group I work with are one big clique. I'm isolated and excluded on a daily basis hence the reason why I have depression. It's hard to live in a world in which nobody cares about you anymore.
What if a person is trying to build genuine friendships with people, but the other people consider you as you are trying to force friendships with them?
You downgrade them to a coffee mate and keep reaching out to people until you find someone who is on your wave length.
When I go outside, it's like everyone is looking down at their phones... phones should be discouraged at real social venues
Exactly 💯
Im alone 24/7 no family no friends.
Thanks@@heinmolenaar6750
Thank you mate! Friendships are Indeed important, and I intend to be one of thr few who acheives a huge level of success without sacrificing my need to feel connected to others.
“You look lonely. I can fix that.”
No plz dont
I like the fact that I don't have to rely on many people. Just a few key friends, but I allocate my time and resources mostly to be alone to myself.
I’m very lonely, but I partially make up for that by having more formal relationships. Before I retired these were the relationships I had with co-workers. In retirement, I tutor English language learners and these people form a valuable part in my keeping connected with others. I am an introvert so I don’t need a very busy social life or a lot of friends. But I sure do wish I had a least one real friend. I used to have a number of friends, but over the years and moves I didn’t do the work of keeping these relationships. I regret that.
I think when people move round it is hard to keep contact, it is expensive to travel up. My friend moved up North, I don't have the money to visit.
It's great to hear that you have found ways to stay connected through your formal relationships, such as tutoring English language learners. It's important to recognize and appreciate the value that these connections bring to your life. As an introvert, it's understandable that you may not need a busy social life or a large number of friends, but having at least one genuine friend can make a significant difference in feeling understood and supported. While it's natural for friendships to change or fade over time, it's never too late to work on cultivating new connections or rekindling old ones. Consider reaching out to old friends and expressing your desire to reconnect, or explore opportunities to meet like-minded individuals through activities or groups that align with your interests. Remember, building friendships takes effort and consistency, but it's worth it for the meaningful connections and companionship they can provide.
Whatever you're seeking is also seeking you ❤
Friends are the most important thing in life!
I believe your relationship with yourself is the most important thing in your life. You are your best friend.. when somebody treat you the way you would treat yourself then you might have a good friend. Unless, of course you treat yourself like crap.
Wrong!
Ever since I was a kid, I never had a lot of friends. Now as a 40 year old, I only have 1 friend and she is married with kids and lives in another state, I have have not seen her in 5+ years. I also moved to another state (about 7-8 years ago), I have been depressed and lonely… so alone and lonely that I highly doubt anyone would notice if I killed myself.
Please don't. Things will get better
That's sad😔
Hey man - I would notice. Stay around here with me.
all I can say at this point is try looking for friends through the internet, it's the only option you have and there's no other choice, and that doesn't only mean on the computer, try to look for other lonely 40 yr olds whether it would be through gaming, VR or any other digital environments that encourage socializing because like I said, it's ur only option at this point, nothing else will work
Can u have a cat?or a dog?
Great channel. Keep it up
For me the hardest part is telling my mom. She always asks “oh how is so and so”, I feel like if I tell her that my friends actually leave me out a lot then she’ll think that something is wrong with me. How do I tell her that one of my friend’s friend dosent like me at all - a person who she is always impressed by, how do I tell my mom I’m lonely? I did once and that went a bit weird: I told her I haven’t really made friends at university and she was like “you haven’t made new friends???”
Great video as usual, but I'm surprised you didn't mention getting a cat or dog to help solve loneliness or atleast mitigate it quite a bit. The constant love, touching, support, interactions, and even conversation with our own language I get with my 2 labs has been so helpful. I have had cats and dogs my whole life and currently have 2 labs, a mother and her daughter. I feel grateful to have great social contact with humans as well but they still suck compared to dogs and cats!
Long befor covid l suffered with loneliness. There were a number of reasons for it
1 my family were not very social
2 l now live alone
3 l have social anxiety
4 l am also socially isolated with few people l see regularly
5 Fewer social activities because of the cost of living are being put on.
6 People l know are too busy or tired to socialise.
These thing all contibute.
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My so called "friends" will only come to me when they need something from me; they are merely baggage that I will gladly live without. Those "friends" at the workplace are out ot get me every opportunity they got. It is much preferable to rely on oneself for lifelong happiness.
I've made the mistake of overvaluing workplace friends. I'm not saying you shouldn't be friendly at work, but you need to look elsewhere for true friendship. That is, if you want friends. Not everyone does and there's nothing wrong with that
Yes! You get it.
good idea
Hi since you asked what we think about this, I'll say, just in case you haven't seen this, we'll just all die alone. Having and being with friends is good, but at the end of the day, we're just alone. Time for family is good, but I'm not sure about friends. Happy living everyone :)
This vídeo is super useful! !! Most of us, in a moment, feel hurted by our close friends maybe because someone spread gossip or bad comments about us. So it is hard maintain trust and feel confortable with friends, in special if this happened over and over again. ... but we can buildind new friendships with older peoples or try talking with differents peoples like here right now ....here we can exposure opinion, share knowledges ! Thank you friends!!! :)
Definitely, great point. Platforms like this provide that venture.
This video is a Relief.
Thank you bro
Good to see you back👍
Its our Culture to work long and hard and be alone.
Soooo glad to see youuu❤ loved the ending of this video! 👏 just recently was thinking what makes most of happiest moments for me and it’s truly people- fam, friends, less close friends, colleagues, teachers 💞the laughs we have, support we give to each other, acceptance 😊 and that’s smth that like u say requires maintenance. This was a big mistake if mine- I was always thinking it will be just there, but no, I need to put in work&effort 😎
That's why toxic people should not be tolerated, they enjoy hurting others
Sometimes i refuse to believe that everything around me is real.
I find something about myself in every video. Thank you very much.
Thank you, you showed me a clear view of my future. TH-cam and TH-cam video creators call me toxic, so i guess I am going to stay alone regardless of what I do.
Welcome back king ❤
ah man. Absolute facts from start to finish. Right now im leaning towards living alone, i'm beginning to think i can make it work.
You can and will probably be much happier.
I never really understood why many channels are recommended about loneliness.
I don't know why the A.I thinks I'm lonely at all. It's like being force-fed.
You did click on it. So you'll be getting more of these in the future.
@@yomer355 oh. no. beep. boop.
Ha, ha! I’ve had this thought too. I listened bc I like animation and I like this narrator’s voice. I also was curious what others would say and the video was not too long.
@@tablescissors it's literally imposing its loneliness on me. Perhaps the AI is lonely, and this is a hallucinatory projection, which i realize is a mouthful of words.
My dog I really needed this 😅
Welcome back my friend :)
Loneliness is practically ridiculous in today's society. Collectively we obviously need to get a better grip on it. Loneliness is also natural and normal, so we have to notice it, accept of for what it is and move through it. Otherwise we take it out on ourselves.
And consequently whether you like it or not we're all in the same boat, so you're going to affect the rest of us if you don't move through your loneliness in a balanced manner.
There are a lot of reasons our society fosters loneliness by perpetuating divisions versus celebrating uniqueness and even apathy if it suits a government or the consumer society. So it's an uphill thing. 🌞🙏♥️
P.S. You are NOT alone!
So many intelligent comments on this video!
People have watched other people and felt lonely long before social media, tho it probably makes more easy to see
Fun fact: we got polled a month ago about how many close friends we have. Everyone who responded are the dataset referenced in this video.
Thank God I found this channel.very informative
Everyone today has problems.
Some more than others.
People often have psychological problems they actually feel proud of having.
Thats why its way easier for me to just interact with people online most of the time because i have to use less of my own energy listening to their problems and issues.
I forgot I was subscribed to this channel 😂
i don't know how else it can be; when i try to talk no one listens; i see no human, just bodies
is that why i have such an incredibly high tolerance to physical pain, because i hav had to become extremely tolerant to emotional pain?
That is a great question given what we've learned from this video! I'd say likely the answer is yes, if physical and emotional pain affect the same parts of your brain
I don't know. I reflect this yesterday and back day. I always wondering why I always lonely in my journey until this adulthood. Maybe ya, I am lack of self esteem and lack of social skill. But, even I try to be better to open up and be vulnerable to people that I am feel safe to open up, I am still stuck on one side relationship. Did I am good enough as friend? Why my feeling is not reciprocated? Why I am attract to unavailable people? Did I make mistake along the way? But, feel that way don't make my situation better, just make my feeling miserable. I know, I did my best as I know I think to do. I should accept for what happen and for who I am. In deep, I still don't know,