@@TH-cam_is_complete-total_shit and I don’t get my parenting advice from some random veteran online. I watch him because I am also a vet and think he’s kinda funny. I listen to more qualified and educated people for parenting advice.
Just finished reading ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ and it really opened my eyes to some new ways of guiding my kids in their faith. Highly recommend it if you’re looking to strenghten your family’s spiritual life
My mom never told my 2 siblings and I that. She disciplined us herself and then told our dad who did it again. When we were real little she carried around a switch until we got to age we had to go get the switches ourselves.
You’re right! Seven kids, one Beagle later. I KNEW what he had in his mouth! The mouse he snuffled out of the six-inch snow in the back yard. It was already dead from the “play…” So, I try to get it from him… Massive growl. This guy never learned how to snap much less bite. “Drop it.” No go. “DROP IT, NOW.” Reluctantly, he obeyed. I showed him where I put it on the woodpile in the back yard. “You get it back when we come out to play tomorrow.” I’ll be damned if there was no fuss after that. He did get to play with it the next day!
My sister has 3 boys too, they are all in their 30s or a couple years from it. It was like Lord of the flies at her house when they were little, lol...
I only have daughters. My oldest one will most definitely fall apart if I say "I am so disappointed in what you did" and immediately she's crying and saying "I'm so sorry, Mommy". My youngest one, though....ha! If I told her I was disappointed in her, she would legit look at me like "Well...that sounds like a 'you' problem." (They're both sweet, well-behaved girls; just saying there are definitely girls out there who are not as sensitive and don't break as easily....my second one challenges me to find creative ways to discipline her that will actually make her listen and obey. If I had stopped having children after my first daughter, I would be cocky and think I knew everything about raising kids. God knew I needed my youngest daughter to keep me humble!!)
Got one daughter. Three sons. My daughter was the hardest. She was sassy too. She was daddy's girl for a long time, but now, as an adult, no, she comes to me for everything.
My family all had girls I had three boys they are always giving me advice on how to get them to behave in response I let them babysit the advice stops very quick
I’d gladly babysit. Whoop their behinds enough times and they’ll get in line. Everyone knows boys aren’t scared of their momma when there’s a daddy in the home
Agreed. Expect our home was the cage. Having 3 amazing sons, now 31, 29 and 17, has made me a more well rounded woman than I ever inspired to be. I can patch dry wall, basic plumbing , maintain a functioning vehicle and render first aid as needed. Thanks Boys! We made it. 🥹😂🤣
FUCK YEAH!!!!! IM the older brother and sometimes my dad would come into us ringing each other's necks. Best one was when my brother put me through a window. Were both about the same size.
"Dad doesn't do those bad things. You can do it if you want, but Dad doesn't do it." With a disappointing look on my face is all it took for me. Son's want to be just like their Dad. Parents would always tell me that my son was so well mannered and polite and that he was always welcome. I would always joke by saying, "Yeah, he came right out of the box that way. I had absolutely nothing to do with it." One mother told me that since my son and her son was hanging out, he doesn't get into trouble anymore. My son told me that he just says nope and walks away and they, his friends, follow.
Heck, you figured it out! But I can imagine this comes with a caveat. A child will only revere a parent so long as the parent acts worthy of reverence. Encouraging a child to mirror their parents' behavior means that the parents must act with integrity. Older children will see through the facade and grow bitter. So... I suppose it's all circular. We ought to be the sort of people we want to see more of in the world. Apologies for rambling; I'm just thinking aloud. Congratulations on raising a wonderful son, truly. It sounds like he will be a great leader.
Teaching your children to be honest cancels a multitude of problems later. When my children were caught in a lie the faster they admitted to it the lesser the punishment. My son figured out early that even if you did stupid things admitting up to them right away often ended with a short lecture and no more punishment. By the time he was 5 he would never lie to us anymore. Our daughter on the other hand, it took 15 years to get the same result. Our babies are now both well adjusted self reliant successful young adults.
My son tries to lie sometimes, not often thankfully, but every single time he does I make sure and explain just how much worse his lie made the situation and how much easier it would have gone had he told the truth. Now he mostly just comes and confesses to me and so far there's been nothing horrible. Thank God.
When i was younger, I remember lying to my parents' faces about twice, at least two major times, both were very minor things to lie about. The first was only about brushing my teeth, I was about 10 at the time, I was grounded for a week I think, not bad, but the scold i got was soul crushing. Two years later, I lied about an english assignment that I had to do for homework, that time was the last, my parents didnt ground me, but made me write a one page essay about integrity and honesty, then gave me a talk relating to it. I felt like the scum of the earth even though the lie wasnt a big one, it was still a lie to my parents. After that, I pledged to myself and them that I'd never lie to take advantage of others again. It has remained a key principle i follow to this day, probably one of the best things my parents ever did for me. Sorry for the random wall of text, i just saw this and really wanted to tell that story
I died when he said that. 😂 A week or 2 ago, I saw the 3 year old with his pants down and went to tell him the patio wasn’t an acceptable place to relieve himself… he had already done ALL his business on the patio. Just when you think you’ve seen it all!
Yesssss. I have 3 boys and 1 girl, all little... they are SO different. Boys, especially together, are like little wolves, they're just so wild and naturally destructive. It takes a lot of energy to reign them in and I'm constantly shouting "no! Stop that! Don't bite him! Don't throw that! Don't stab the wall! No hitting! Don't jump off that!" All day long. My little girl is so easy going compared to her big brothers.
:chuckles: As a former boy I think I can speak with some authority when I say that, for an easier life with the lads in your family, put them outside! Tell them to go away and come back when they are hungry. All that energy will go into having fights, building forts, climbing (and falling out of) trees and so on. That's what's wrong - they're caged up and it will drive them and you crazy. Of course, I was a country boy, so what I had to watch out for in the wider world was bulls, electric fences, farm machinery and water too deep or fast for me to cope with. I know that the dangers if you live urban lives are different and being able to range free is less easy.
"Your wife gets real upset when you try to crate train 'em." 🤣🤣🤣 Both my parents had "the look!" and you knew they meant business when it was directed at you! 😨
@@awatson8832 A crate is a cage that you put a puppy in if you have to leave without them for a few hours so they don't pee or poop on anything and can't chew up your house
As the mom at our house, sometimes I wish crate training was a thing. Actually it is, but "go play in your bedroom" sounds much nicer. It's not any easier than crate training (believe me, that interaction lasted more than 20 minutes yesterday)!! But it sounds better.
I have three sons and one daughter who are all grown adults and good people. The worst thing we could do was tell them that we were ashamed of them and their behavior and they would cry because we all love each other so much.
Dude. I had the opposites. My son was awesome and easy. He tricked me. My girls gave me all my gray hair. If my oldest girl was born first she'd be an only child. But I went and had 2 more. 🤷♀️They grow up and are the best, I will be taken care of in my old age. ❤️
@@psych0-shorts oldest GIRL. This person is saying if their oldest daughter had been the oldest child and had not been born after the boy then they would’ve stopped having kids
I took my son hunting when he was 5, made him watch me skin and gut animals to feed our family. I've never had to raise a hand to that boy, and he is very respectful of his elders.
I was the foreman on a large cattle ranch in the 1980’s. One day some folks drove up to the main house. One of the cow-dogs, Belle, ran out and started barking at the car. I walked out and said “Belle, kennel!” Belle immediately ran over to a horse trailer and jumped in. She turned around and sat, still looking at the car. When the folks got out of the car, one of them asked “Can you teach me how to make my son obey like that?” I said “Sure. Just lock him in that trailer and don’t let him out for two weeks. That’s how we trained Belle.”
My Dad raised 6 daughters, and he says he is always amazed at how different each of us is. Every kid is different. Everyone grows and develops and learns in their own way. But the parents are learning, too. Hopefully, the parents are learning to be better parents as time goes on. So my oldest sister got a very different Dad than my youngest sister. It's just what happens. And that's okay.
I look up to my dad and he’s someone I want to make proud and that’s all I want in life. Just him being disappointed in me for a stupid action is simply enough. I genuinely cannot go behind this mans back even if he were to never know because of the sheer fact that’s not what he would want of me. The point of this is to be the idol for your child because I 100% guarantee they will respect you and think back as to how you would feel if they were to do something and you were right there to see it happen. Much love to all the mothers and fathers out there y’all make the world go around 👑
When my kids were young I bought a dog training book to help me train my new dog. While reading the book, I soon learned exactly what you're saying here. 😂😅😂
I had 19 sons. 3 biological, 16 adopted. Hubby died when they were ages 4 to 12. I finished raising them on my own, on my lone income too. Honestly, I think it was pretty easy. They all learned about choices and consiquenses very young. Thank God, they all made great choices, and, became good solid men.
Woawoa I hace many questions :0 First of all, sorry for your loss, you're a wonderful mother raising so many children💞 Second: Are they all boys? And third: How could you find all the time and resources to raise nineteen kids??? I find that amazing I'd like to know about your experience because I want to become a mother and have many children too. Thank you😊
@@ΣΩΛ Yes, all boys, only 8 years apart in age. They were 4 to 12 when my hubby died. Resources, I worked. My cousin babysat for me. I raised them on my working income only. Absolutley NO gov handouts.
LOL! Not something you usually need to say to a girl. Except like my now 7-year-old daughter who still wears a diaper at night (I have thoughts on that, but anyway...) and will frequently wake up dry, and then 20 minutes later still hasn't taken the diaper off, and is suddenly drenched..... "CHILD!!! THAT'S CHEATING!!! IF YOU'RE AWAKE YOU PEE IN THE POTTY!!! ARGH!!!" 😩😩😡😡😂😂
😂😅 soo soooo true! We raised 2 boys, in the exact maner you just described. When the youngest was 18.......we got pregnancy and our daughter is 17 now. With her all i need is the dissapounted dad voice and its devastating lol
Corporal punishment finally ended when I told my father no I was big enough to fight back. He looked at me and nodded ok. He'd whip me when my siblings picked an argument & tried to get their way with fake tears 🤥😢 They knew that as the oldest I'd be beaten first then he'd ask what happened. They started it. "Well that was for the time I DIDN'T catch you." 🙄 That never happens... you whip me every time they whine. "Well just handle it next time." But, you said I can't hit them back because they are younger. He'd shrug as he walked away.
My dad had ¨the look¨and still does, but with him it was like if you don´t understand the look, maybe you will get it at the childrens hospital . Mom was like I´m gonna send you to heaven and Jesus won´t recognize you.
I on the other hand don't use the word " don't" on my niece and nephews.. You will notice that they do the opposite of what you tell them especially the boys.. so..instead of saying " Don't run" - I say " Just walk" " Don't do that" - " Put that down" Say exactly what you want them to do. And manners is always important. If they don't use please or say thank you, I ignore them.
With my nephews I simply use ¨the stare¨, I learned that from my dad. It means, your existence on this planet is about to end. You want ice cream ? Absolutely, but you listen to uncle, say thank you and everybody wins
Mom of three boys. My whole life changed when I realized that ti them my voice sounded like the adults in a Peanuts cartoon " wa wa, waaa wa wa, wa wa waaa" I would make my son sit in a chair to make him think about what he had done but when I asked him if he knew why he was being punished he would answer "no". So I got into the habit of using short sentences, to the point and made them repeat it back to me to make sure they understood.....works on my hubby tooo😊
Uugghhh this. You explain simply and clearly what the issue is. You make sure to state things at their level of understanding. And then; "Do you understand?" "Yes." "What did I just explain to you?" "I don’t know." 😤😤😤😤 Mine likes to claim "I couldn't hear you." We have had a lot of talks about the difference between hearing and listening.
It's all about consistency. You can't force someone to do what you want if they are determined. However, you can control if they can predict the consequences and rely on then like clockwork.
Got to tailor the punishment to the crime. I remember my oldest getting lots of timeouts for touching Daddy's stereo.The day she looked at me touched the knobs then promptly sat in the timeout chair I knew I had to up the ante. At 18 months she calculated the cost and decided it was worth the it.
Nick I totally agree as a grown woman. My sister & I felt bad if we disappointed dad. Brothers both were different but it didnt go as easy as us girls.
That was funny.. you're right about the dad he could look at me and he didn't have to say a word. This is the truth, my dad used to joke about me being the pick of the litter, I was the only girl with four boys..😌😏
Absolute truth! Our daughter is the mellowest person I've ever met. Our son is pure hell on wheels. I'm convinced that his brain emits a frequency that blocks blocks out the sound of my voice.
Haha I love watching your videos - I especially enjoy how you theme your mugs with the topic 😂😂 best part of my day! (I have 2 boys, both young, freeze is definitely a command)
Omg my husband and I to a freaking T!!! That's awesome! We have 4 boys and 2 girls! The accuracy of this video just about killed me and my husband!!!! So much truth.
@@katepausig8562No. Good parenting. Your bs is why children run amuck, wild unstructured undisciplined lawless confused rebellious and ignorant, with no shame guilt nor fear, then find troubles, dangers, criminal records, distrust, no empathy, unadjusted, lazy, with heartaches and problems, with bad behaviours habits and thinking, and finally, they ruin their lives. Yeah, "great parenting" advice from you and others like you! NOT! 😂
Ahahahaha! Right?!🤣 same with our son😜 I stopped being upset when he was fourteen! Have ‘atter’ Bob, I said, to my husband and the look on my sons face was priceless!
The hardest thing is teaching my son anout boundaries he is 3 and a half years old but he hears no a lot and I always say "if someone means no, they mean no" and "the world doesn't revolve around you" I think that's very important especially if you want to raise a boy that turns out into a strong respectful man 🙏.
My parents had "The Board of Education" which was a paddle my father engraved that into that they made you sign your name on the back every time you got whooped with it. No one knows what happened to it though, just vanished one day O_O
@@MH-ke7bg , what a coincidence! I gave my Mom’s paddle away to one of my teachers because I got whipped less at school than at home. Bet liberating those poor paddles has been done by more than a few kids.
@@TheBigFormerlyPurpleT Children who were never told "no", and who never had their asses belted, grew up and joined Antifa, set their legs on fire with a molotov, became a climate activist, and started throwing canned soup on priceless paintings all in the name of protesting oil and gas.. Being told "no" when you're young and getting the belt doesn't just build character, it helps you avoid getting into far more serious trouble as an adult that lands you in prison as another person's bitch, because lesser punishment didn't phase you.
when i was an expecting father, I told all my coworkers that potty training will be easy. "Just roll up a newspaper, rub their nose in it and tell them they did a bad job. easy" and i frequently refer to "quiet time" or little things as "a cage" so I yell at my toddler when he runs around the house "who let you out of your cage. get back. back. back. down."
It's all about personality, actually. My son was the "I'm disappointed" approach, and my daughter needed some wooden spoons busted over her backside. (Btw, my daughter, at 20, thanked me for spanking her. She thanked me for going to the lengths necessary to force her into making good decisions. She said she could see the bad outcomes her friends were having and was thankful I didn't allow her to go down those paths.)
The "disappointed look" or disappointed tone" worked on me with my Mom...but wouldn't have worked coming from my Dad. I figured out very young that no matter what I said or did, my Dad would never be proud of me. Even though I still tried, I never got that from him and he used my emotions against me. We communicated by yelling. I learned to not give respect to those who didn't respect me... and that was my Dad. He thought, no matter how he treated me, I owed him my respect just because he was there. But it was his treatment of my mother that *truly* lost him my respect and stopped me even trying for his support. He was a gaslighting, narcissist, control freak and his biggest goal in life was to break my mom's spirit. He almost succeeded.
When my wife and I married we went to a couples Christian retreat and had the opportunity to speak about sone important topics. When raising kids came up I stated I never raised kids but I had several puppies I raised into excellent dogs. She laughed. 4 boys raised to men, later and one night she stated I'm so glad you knew how to turn these little mutts into men! I was chuffed!
This is so true! My dad would just have to give me a look and that was enough and it didn’t happen very often. All his friends had boys and the contrast was WILD. 😅
So true. We used to say we were still housebreaking our son. Same house rules but they take longer to learn them. I remember telling son to brush his teeth before bedtime and getting whiny "do we have to do this Every night?" NO every night and every morning too! Why do I still have remind you everyday? The young man got reputation for enforcing the rules at Boy Scout camp and handling those hyper little ones just like him. Boy are harder as little ones and girls are harder as teens. They take a whole 'nother approach.
One of the funniest yet. My mother was firm with me, at a very early age i learned the 1, 2, 3 method If she made it to 3 and i didn't settle down i was smacked... after a few times i came into compliance for the rest of my life. My father never had to do a thing, my mom was the boss. ✅
"Don't do that" is probably 80% of communication at that age
but once you get married, all you hear from yr wife is 'do this, do that'
Let them do it. Tell them what will happen. Be honest as possible. Let them discover real world consequences not authoritarian consequences.
@@misfitscompany2769 bruh, the sad fact is you are clearly not a parent.
@@TH-cam_is_complete-total_shit hahaha I have two boys actually. Are you a parent?
@@TH-cam_is_complete-total_shit and I don’t get my parenting advice from some random veteran online. I watch him because I am also a vet and think he’s kinda funny. I listen to more qualified and educated people for parenting advice.
Just finished reading ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ and it really opened my eyes to some new ways of guiding my kids in their faith. Highly recommend it if you’re looking to strenghten your family’s spiritual life
My dad had "That look" too. He could make me cry with it. The "l'm disappointed" remark, was a soul crusher.
SOUL crusher.
Right we have to instill in them the will to obedience. Then guilt is their punishment.
@@keeganyost8123 Yup. I was told that I received 2 spankings in my lifetime, but I only remember 1. The one where I wasn't guilty.
@@panamapatti3364 That is what the child always thinks*. Probably should have been three considering you think that.
@@panamapatti3364 The attitude of I was not wrong means they must not have punished you much if at all.
There's also "just wait until your father gets home!" Nothing put the fear of God into me faster then hearing mom say that to me 😱
Same
My mom never told my 2 siblings and I that. She disciplined us herself and then told our dad who did it again. When we were real little she carried around a switch until we got to age we had to go get the switches ourselves.
Same.
That's actually really sad....
@@siph0r154feminist
Having a toddler and a puppy is 90% following them around trying to see what’s in their mouth
LOL
😂😂😂
You’re right!
Seven kids, one Beagle later.
I KNEW what he had in his mouth!
The mouse he snuffled out of the six-inch snow in the back yard.
It was already dead from the “play…”
So, I try to get it from him…
Massive growl.
This guy never learned how to snap much less bite.
“Drop it.”
No go.
“DROP IT, NOW.”
Reluctantly, he obeyed.
I showed him where I put it on the woodpile in the back yard.
“You get it back when we come out to play tomorrow.”
I’ll be damned if there was no fuss after that.
He did get to play with it the next day!
and the faster they move, the more you know you don't want whatever it is in there.
I have three boys. 18,12,and 10. I tell people it’s like raising Vikings.
😂😂😂
The term is Barbabians. All kids start life as barbabians and must be civilized by their parents before they growup, or else they become barbarians.
My sister has 3 boys too, they are all in their 30s or a couple years from it. It was like Lord of the flies at her house when they were little, lol...
This made me laugh 😂
You are an incredible father sir
As a father with one daughter, and four boys...this is so very accurate.
Four boys? Oof. What're their ages?
@@seanA416 My daughter's 10. My oldest boy is 7. And my youngest is almost a year old.
@@JensMorrison quite the range. God bless you in raising your children!
@@seanA416 Thank you! And God bless you, as well!
@@JensMorrison 😊🙏
For us it was the opposite. 5 boys, and barely a difficulty; then our first daughter. Wow! What a ride she took us on.
I always said I'd take ten boys to one girl.
I only have daughters. My oldest one will most definitely fall apart if I say "I am so disappointed in what you did" and immediately she's crying and saying "I'm so sorry, Mommy". My youngest one, though....ha! If I told her I was disappointed in her, she would legit look at me like "Well...that sounds like a 'you' problem." (They're both sweet, well-behaved girls; just saying there are definitely girls out there who are not as sensitive and don't break as easily....my second one challenges me to find creative ways to discipline her that will actually make her listen and obey. If I had stopped having children after my first daughter, I would be cocky and think I knew everything about raising kids. God knew I needed my youngest daughter to keep me humble!!)
Yeah I have two boys two girls and they're ALL different. But they were all like little puppies when they were toddlers :P
They say daughters are easy when they are young. Then they become teens from hell though.
Doesn't the eldest help with 'installing the fear' or go into mothermode telling her not to do something before hand?
My parents said my older sister crumbled at "I'm disappointed" whereas my twin and I didn't 😂 maybe it's a first born/second born thing 🤷♀️
Got one daughter. Three sons. My daughter was the hardest. She was sassy too. She was daddy's girl for a long time, but now, as an adult, no, she comes to me for everything.
As the eldest of two girls....the "Dad look" and the "disappointed Dad look" was just heart breaking. Love my Daddy!
I've been there and I know Daddy was upset at me, I would start crying.
My family all had girls I had three boys they are always giving me advice on how to get them to behave in response I let them babysit the advice stops very quick
Oh thats a good way to get them of your back
Lol thats a really good way.
I’d gladly babysit. Whoop their behinds enough times and they’ll get in line. Everyone knows boys aren’t scared of their momma when there’s a daddy in the home
Did it right!!! People get mouthy!!! Ha! Easier to say!!!
U did good
3 sons each 2 years apart. My house has been a UFC arena for years
Agreed. Expect our home was the cage. Having 3 amazing sons, now 31, 29 and 17, has made me a more well rounded woman than I ever inspired to be. I can patch dry wall, basic plumbing , maintain a functioning vehicle and render first aid as needed. Thanks Boys! We made it. 🥹😂🤣
FUCK YEAH!!!!! IM the older brother and sometimes my dad would come into us ringing each other's necks. Best one was when my brother put me through a window. Were both about the same size.
I got 5 kids, frankly my 2 girls are every bit as rough and tough as the boys, and they are twice as sneaky.
@@masaiito8531I loved that comment! Geez! 😂
@@steve4247my dad wrung me neck one morning, telling me to "grow tf up." Miss the old badger!
"Dad doesn't do those bad things. You can do it if you want, but Dad doesn't do it." With a disappointing look on my face is all it took for me. Son's want to be just like their Dad. Parents would always tell me that my son was so well mannered and polite and that he was always welcome. I would always joke by saying, "Yeah, he came right out of the box that way. I had absolutely nothing to do with it." One mother told me that since my son and her son was hanging out, he doesn't get into trouble anymore. My son told me that he just says nope and walks away and they, his friends, follow.
Write that down!
damn that sun is a leader
Heck, you figured it out! But I can imagine this comes with a caveat. A child will only revere a parent so long as the parent acts worthy of reverence. Encouraging a child to mirror their parents' behavior means that the parents must act with integrity. Older children will see through the facade and grow bitter. So... I suppose it's all circular. We ought to be the sort of people we want to see more of in the world.
Apologies for rambling; I'm just thinking aloud. Congratulations on raising a wonderful son, truly. It sounds like he will be a great leader.
@@MusicalBotanydon't let it be a facade and it's a solid
God bless❤
Nick always gets me, but he absolutely killed me with this one!! 🤣 🤣
Teaching your children to be honest cancels a multitude of problems later. When my children were caught in a lie the faster they admitted to it the lesser the punishment. My son figured out early that even if you did stupid things admitting up to them right away often ended with a short lecture and no more punishment. By the time he was 5 he would never lie to us anymore. Our daughter on the other hand, it took 15 years to get the same result. Our babies are now both well adjusted self reliant successful young adults.
Well, I agree unfortunately teaching honesty is a hard one
@@Chanoine12 If raising children was easy the world would be a different place.
That’s brilliant! Thanks for sharing this genius parenting tip!
My son tries to lie sometimes, not often thankfully, but every single time he does I make sure and explain just how much worse his lie made the situation and how much easier it would have gone had he told the truth.
Now he mostly just comes and confesses to me and so far there's been nothing horrible. Thank God.
When i was younger, I remember lying to my parents' faces about twice, at least two major times, both were very minor things to lie about. The first was only about brushing my teeth, I was about 10 at the time, I was grounded for a week I think, not bad, but the scold i got was soul crushing. Two years later, I lied about an english assignment that I had to do for homework, that time was the last, my parents didnt ground me, but made me write a one page essay about integrity and honesty, then gave me a talk relating to it. I felt like the scum of the earth even though the lie wasnt a big one, it was still a lie to my parents. After that, I pledged to myself and them that I'd never lie to take advantage of others again. It has remained a key principle i follow to this day, probably one of the best things my parents ever did for me.
Sorry for the random wall of text, i just saw this and really wanted to tell that story
I lost it when you started talking about the commands to your boy. Too funny!
Don’t pee there. So true.
Yes
I died when he said that. 😂 A week or 2 ago, I saw the 3 year old with his pants down and went to tell him the patio wasn’t an acceptable place to relieve himself… he had already done ALL his business on the patio. Just when you think you’ve seen it all!
I love this guy
Mine's eight and I STILL have to say that on occasion.
Only when we're outside, but still. xD
It really depends. If you grow up in a rural area, your options are so much more varied.
I have a better day after watching this gift to our crumbling country. Bravo, kudos and stay safe sir.
Yesssss. I have 3 boys and 1 girl, all little... they are SO different. Boys, especially together, are like little wolves, they're just so wild and naturally destructive. It takes a lot of energy to reign them in and I'm constantly shouting "no! Stop that! Don't bite him! Don't throw that! Don't stab the wall! No hitting! Don't jump off that!" All day long. My little girl is so easy going compared to her big brothers.
And then when they enter their teen years it sort of flips...
@@pieceofschmidtgamerfor the girl, the boys stay wild, their antics just get more destructive.
That's not true. My boys were never destructive.
It will come back to you when they are teenagers. The boys will be there for you and the girls will put you through it. They save it all up for later.
:chuckles: As a former boy I think I can speak with some authority when I say that, for an easier life with the lads in your family, put them outside! Tell them to go away and come back when they are hungry.
All that energy will go into having fights, building forts, climbing (and falling out of) trees and so on. That's what's wrong - they're caged up and it will drive them and you crazy.
Of course, I was a country boy, so what I had to watch out for in the wider world was bulls, electric fences, farm machinery and water too deep or fast for me to cope with.
I know that the dangers if you live urban lives are different and being able to range free is less easy.
I must have been raised like a girl then. Because when daddy said he was disappointed in me. Whhoooo I felt that in my soul!!
"Your wife gets real upset when you try to crate train 'em." 🤣🤣🤣
Both my parents had "the look!" and you knew they meant business when it was directed at you! 😨
What does crate train them mean? I haven't heard of that term
@@awatson8832 A crate is a cage that you put a puppy in if you have to leave without them for a few hours so they don't pee or poop on anything and can't chew up your house
My dad had ¨the look¨, still does. It meant ´I will go to prison, but you will spend the next 15 years in a coma and all full of tubes ´
Puppies = crate training
Kids = time out 😂
As the mom at our house, sometimes I wish crate training was a thing. Actually it is, but "go play in your bedroom" sounds much nicer. It's not any easier than crate training (believe me, that interaction lasted more than 20 minutes yesterday)!! But it sounds better.
I have three sons and one daughter who are all grown adults and good people. The worst thing we could do was tell them that we were ashamed of them and their behavior and they would cry because we all love each other so much.
Dude. I had the opposites. My son was awesome and easy. He tricked me. My girls gave me all my gray hair. If my oldest girl was born first she'd be an only child. But I went and had 2 more. 🤷♀️They grow up and are the best, I will be taken care of in my old age. ❤️
Is a rare situation but it happens. I had a girlfriend like that, she was a demon and he was the angel 👼 😅❤
if your oldest was born first??? She was bro LMAOO
@@psych0-shorts oldest GIRL. This person is saying if their oldest daughter had been the oldest child and had not been born after the boy then they would’ve stopped having kids
@@Noveltea1113 im slow, but thats some really shitty way of describing it.
This is my story 💯. 4 girls and then a boy.
God bless you, sir. We need more people like you running this country.
'Don't do that' and 'You'll get a phone when you get a job' are my two most frequent responses.
Oh man that last one about the phone is golden! Thanks a lot, will definitely remember that one.
I took my son hunting when he was 5, made him watch me skin and gut animals to feed our family. I've never had to raise a hand to that boy, and he is very respectful of his elders.
No crap sherlock, you put him in constant fear of being hunted should he do anything "bad"
I was the foreman on a large cattle ranch in the 1980’s. One day some folks drove up to the main house. One of the cow-dogs, Belle, ran out and started barking at the car. I walked out and said “Belle, kennel!”
Belle immediately ran over to a horse trailer and jumped in. She turned around and sat, still looking at the car.
When the folks got out of the car, one of them asked “Can you teach me how to make my son obey like that?”
I said “Sure. Just lock him in that trailer and don’t let him out for two weeks. That’s how we trained Belle.”
Laughed out loud!! Good one! Thanks.
😂😂😂
They did that for the last couple years.
I have three sons ages 3,5, and 8.
You hit that nail right on the head brother.
My Dad raised 6 daughters, and he says he is always amazed at how different each of us is. Every kid is different. Everyone grows and develops and learns in their own way. But the parents are learning, too. Hopefully, the parents are learning to be better parents as time goes on. So my oldest sister got a very different Dad than my youngest sister. It's just what happens. And that's okay.
Love the mug message. And your right again about the boy and the puppy analogy. 😂
I raised my two sons on my own. I had to put a target up over the toilet to remind them to aim.
A laser light wouldn't make a difference eather ⅔ to the left and ⅓ to the right quick pick the lesser of 2 evils and hope for the best
Cheerios. Aim for the target.
All my boys were taught to sit n pee, the only one who got piss everywhere was my now 'Ex' husband, lol.
@@susanlbk my son actually does better sitting😂 he forgets the whole tucking bit when he sits but his aim is pretty good😂
Nick, you are so funny, I love your sense of humor. You just made my day.
This guy is amazing! Thank you for your humor. It makes my day!
You ain't lying!!!!!😂😅 Especially the peeing part.
Whenever my sisters and I saw my Dad's jaw bones tightening, we knew to stop doing whatever we were doing!
I look up to my dad and he’s someone I want to make proud and that’s all I want in life. Just him being disappointed in me for a stupid action is simply enough. I genuinely cannot go behind this mans back even if he were to never know because of the sheer fact that’s not what he would want of me. The point of this is to be the idol for your child because I 100% guarantee they will respect you and think back as to how you would feel if they were to do something and you were right there to see it happen.
Much love to all the mothers and fathers out there y’all make the world go around 👑
It's all about tone and body language, with my nephews they get two chance before i use 'The Voice'.
Don't give people (I'm including adults and kids) 2 chances they'll always find a way to do it again just to get a response.
1 chance is enough
Bene Gesserit training.
When my kids were young I bought a dog training book to help me train my new dog. While reading the book, I soon learned exactly what you're saying here. 😂😅😂
I had 19 sons. 3 biological, 16 adopted. Hubby died when they were ages 4 to 12. I finished raising them on my own, on my lone income too. Honestly, I think it was pretty easy. They all learned about choices and consiquenses very young. Thank God, they all made great choices, and, became good solid men.
Woawoa I hace many questions :0
First of all, sorry for your loss, you're a wonderful mother raising so many children💞
Second: Are they all boys?
And third: How could you find all the time and resources to raise nineteen kids??? I find that amazing
I'd like to know about your experience because I want to become a mother and have many children too. Thank you😊
@@ΣΩΛ Yes, all boys, only 8 years apart in age. They were 4 to 12 when my hubby died. Resources, I worked. My cousin babysat for me. I raised them on my working income only. Absolutley NO gov handouts.
Admittedly my parents were dog handlers, but they always used to say "treat your dogs like children, and your children like dogs".
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I have two young boys and the straight-to-the-point commands are on point, INCLUDING "Don't pee there"! lol
Omg my boys use to love playing in the dog crate .thank you for the flash back.
The best one yet, "Don't Pee there!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
LOL!
Not something you usually need to say to a girl.
Except like my now 7-year-old daughter who still wears a diaper at night (I have thoughts on that, but anyway...) and will frequently wake up dry, and then 20 minutes later still hasn't taken the diaper off, and is suddenly drenched.....
"CHILD!!! THAT'S CHEATING!!! IF YOU'RE AWAKE YOU PEE IN THE POTTY!!! ARGH!!!"
😩😩😡😡😂😂
@@scottferris6341
Telling a child that is mainly something to say to a Boy! Toddlers are too eager to just whip it out and let it loose! 😂😂😂😂
😂😅 soo soooo true! We raised 2 boys, in the exact maner you just described. When the youngest was 18.......we got pregnancy and our daughter is 17 now. With her all i need is the dissapounted dad voice and its devastating lol
The 'Look' only came to me after my father decided that I'm old enough and graduated from corporal punishment.
Corporal punishment finally ended when I told my father no I was big enough to fight back.
He looked at me and nodded ok.
He'd whip me when my siblings picked an argument & tried to get their way with fake tears 🤥😢
They knew that as the oldest I'd be beaten first then he'd ask what happened.
They started it.
"Well that was for the time I DIDN'T catch you."
🙄 That never happens... you whip me every time they whine.
"Well just handle it next time."
But, you said I can't hit them back because they are younger.
He'd shrug as he walked away.
My dad had ¨the look¨and still does, but with him it was like if you don´t understand the look, maybe you will get it at the childrens hospital . Mom was like I´m gonna send you to heaven and Jesus won´t recognize you.
A present father is a THREAT to these pedophiles ❤ you are an AMAZING father and don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise ❤
I on the other hand don't use the word " don't" on my niece and nephews..
You will notice that they do the opposite of what you tell them especially the boys.. so..instead of saying
" Don't run" - I say " Just walk"
" Don't do that" - " Put that down" Say exactly what you want them to do.
And manners is always important. If they don't use please or say thank you, I ignore them.
Exactly
With my nephews I simply use ¨the stare¨, I learned that from my dad. It means, your existence on this planet is about to end. You want ice cream ? Absolutely, but you listen to uncle, say thank you and everybody wins
@@fixer1140 I have 3 methods and stare is one of them.
I also use counting. 1. 2. HAHAH. it never reaches 3
Best part is, we get a first hand experience of what we did to our parents!
Yup! All full force too! 😂
"Don't pee there." 😂 Yeah, I know.
Mom of three boys. My whole life changed when I realized that ti them my voice sounded like the adults in a Peanuts cartoon " wa wa, waaa wa wa, wa wa waaa"
I would make my son sit in a chair to make him think about what he had done but when I asked him if he knew why he was being punished he would answer "no". So I got into the habit of using short sentences, to the point and made them repeat it back to me to make sure they understood.....works on my hubby tooo😊
Uugghhh this. You explain simply and clearly what the issue is. You make sure to state things at their level of understanding. And then;
"Do you understand?"
"Yes."
"What did I just explain to you?"
"I don’t know."
😤😤😤😤
Mine likes to claim "I couldn't hear you." We have had a lot of talks about the difference between hearing and listening.
It's all about consistency. You can't force someone to do what you want if they are determined. However, you can control if they can predict the consequences and rely on then like clockwork.
Got to tailor the punishment to the crime. I remember my oldest getting lots of timeouts for touching Daddy's stereo.The day she looked at me touched the knobs then promptly sat in the timeout chair I knew I had to up the ante. At 18 months she calculated the cost and decided it was worth the it.
Hater adopting many kids, I’ve learned each child must be raised differently because they each have a unique personality.
Nick I totally agree as a grown woman. My sister & I felt bad if we disappointed dad. Brothers both were different but it didnt go as easy as us girls.
As a Korean woman I would still to this day rather ANYONE be disappointed in me than my Appa and Halmoni being disappointed with me.
I just love this chaps take on life. Have say mate I am going to have to subscribe, greetings from across the pond.
That was funny.. you're right about the dad he could look at me and he didn't have to say a word. This is the truth, my dad used to joke about me being the pick of the litter, I was the only girl with four boys..😌😏
My dad and I were the same way. I'm the only girl with 3 older brothers.
Absolute truth! Our daughter is the mellowest person I've ever met. Our son is pure hell on wheels. I'm convinced that his brain emits a frequency that blocks blocks out the sound of my voice.
Haha I love watching your videos - I especially enjoy how you theme your mugs with the topic 😂😂 best part of my day! (I have 2 boys, both young, freeze is definitely a command)
My son will be 10 next week and I can concur! LOL
Exactly how I describe fatherhood and owning a shepherd puppy
Yes !!!! Crate train lol. Our last 3 our boys and oh my lord these guys.
My dad raised 6 girls alone.
He told us once & then kept his word. Yep, once was all it took.
That's hysterical , lost it at the last sentence! 😂
A very wise man.......a guru if you will
"Don't pee there!" Yup, boys' thinking is that 'they can so they do'
Omg my husband and I to a freaking T!!! That's awesome! We have 4 boys and 2 girls! The accuracy of this video just about killed me and my husband!!!! So much truth.
My dad talked to me a lot about right and wrong and what was expected of me. When his words didn't work. His belt did.
Crappy parenting.
@@katepausig8562 Mentally weak people would think that.
@@michaelholt8590No mentally weak people can't get a child to behave without hitting them.
@@katepausig8562No. Good parenting. Your bs is why children run amuck, wild unstructured undisciplined lawless confused rebellious and ignorant, with no shame guilt nor fear, then find troubles, dangers, criminal records, distrust, no empathy, unadjusted, lazy, with heartaches and problems, with bad behaviours habits and thinking, and finally, they ruin their lives. Yeah, "great parenting" advice from you and others like you! NOT! 😂
The 'I am disappointed'....my heart instantly feels guilty and I haven't done anything yet...
Man! I miss my kids at that age.
Sit, speak, roll over, write your name in the snow... you know, all the classics
Lmaoo as a mum of a teenage boy "don't pee there" has been my catchphrase for 13 years 😂
Ahahahaha! Right?!🤣 same with our son😜 I stopped being upset when he was fourteen! Have ‘atter’ Bob, I said, to my husband and the look on my sons face was priceless!
Love everything you have to say! You need to run for president!! 😂
The hardest thing is teaching my son anout boundaries he is 3 and a half years old but he hears no a lot and I always say "if someone means no, they mean no" and "the world doesn't revolve around you" I think that's very important especially if you want to raise a boy that turns out into a strong respectful man 🙏.
My advice: if you say you’ll whip them if they do that again, you better follow through.
@ATF this explains a lot about you
@@TheBigFormerlyPurpleT in what way? i got the switch, the belt, the wooden paddle, plastic cooking spoon. i turned out just fine.
My parents had "The Board of Education" which was a paddle my father engraved that into that they made you sign your name on the back every time you got whooped with it. No one knows what happened to it though, just vanished one day O_O
@@MH-ke7bg , what a coincidence! I gave my Mom’s paddle away to one of my teachers because I got whipped less at school than at home. Bet liberating those poor paddles has been done by more than a few kids.
@@TheBigFormerlyPurpleT Children who were never told "no", and who never had their asses belted, grew up and joined Antifa, set their legs on fire with a molotov, became a climate activist, and started throwing canned soup on priceless paintings all in the name of protesting oil and gas..
Being told "no" when you're young and getting the belt doesn't just build character, it helps you avoid getting into far more serious trouble as an adult that lands you in prison as another person's bitch, because lesser punishment didn't phase you.
That sip of coffee after the crate training comment is GOLDEN and necessary
when i was an expecting father, I told all my coworkers that potty training will be easy. "Just roll up a newspaper, rub their nose in it and tell them they did a bad job. easy"
and i frequently refer to "quiet time" or little things as "a cage" so I yell at my toddler when he runs around the house "who let you out of your cage. get back. back. back. down."
😂
With a soon to be 2 year old son...yes 1000x. He use to spit it out when we held our hand out...now he runs away. Little punk! Love that boy.
I wasn't allowed to crate train my boy either. luckily she met me half way with a shock collar
hahahhaha Too funny.
@@hlmoore8042 lol thanks man God bless
@@snickers6125 Same to you as well.
You are the funniest man! Your wife is so lucky ❤❤❤❤❤
It's all about personality, actually. My son was the "I'm disappointed" approach, and my daughter needed some wooden spoons busted over her backside. (Btw, my daughter, at 20, thanked me for spanking her. She thanked me for going to the lengths necessary to force her into making good decisions. She said she could see the bad outcomes her friends were having and was thankful I didn't allow her to go down those paths.)
if you start harsh punisments when they are young you get rebellious teens
Ah crappy parenting and a brainwashed child who thinks being hit is okay.
We have a 3-1/2 month corgi puppy. I can relate. Those commands are spot on.
The youngest likes pissing out the front and backdoor right now-
The "disappointed look" or disappointed tone" worked on me with my Mom...but wouldn't have worked coming from my Dad. I figured out very young that no matter what I said or did, my Dad would never be proud of me. Even though I still tried, I never got that from him and he used my emotions against me. We communicated by yelling. I learned to not give respect to those who didn't respect me... and that was my Dad. He thought, no matter how he treated me, I owed him my respect just because he was there. But it was his treatment of my mother that *truly* lost him my respect and stopped me even trying for his support. He was a gaslighting, narcissist, control freak and his biggest goal in life was to break my mom's spirit. He almost succeeded.
Just tell her " it's not a cage, it's a metaphor for modern manhood"
Oh my god 😂
Don’t this guy ever stop 🛑 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Tell me you shop Costco without saying it
everyone shops at costco
@@kwibloupthesomething Only Costco members shop there 😉
The OP hopefully got the joke
When my wife and I married we went to a couples Christian retreat and had the opportunity to speak about sone important topics. When raising kids came up I stated I never raised kids but I had several puppies I raised into excellent dogs. She laughed. 4 boys raised to men, later and one night she stated I'm so glad you knew how to turn these little mutts into men! I was chuffed!
That last sentence got me.
Four boys here, he hit the nail on the head!!🙌👏👏👏👍😂😂😂😂😂😎
I love that. You have such a good sense of humour. 😅😅
Love what you told your son. I absolutely lost it with "don't pee there" 😂😂😂
Very true on the boys. I was my daughter was that easy lol she’s 9 and has never been fazed by the “disappointed in you” or even “ticked off at you”
This is so true! My dad would just have to give me a look and that was enough and it didn’t happen very often. All his friends had boys and the contrast was WILD. 😅
So true. We used to say we were still housebreaking our son. Same house rules but they take longer to learn them. I remember telling son to brush his teeth before bedtime and getting whiny "do we have to do this Every night?" NO every night and every morning too! Why do I still have remind you everyday? The young man got reputation for enforcing the rules at Boy Scout camp and handling those hyper little ones just like him. Boy are harder as little ones and girls are harder as teens. They take a whole 'nother approach.
One of the funniest yet.
My mother was firm with me, at a very early age i learned the 1, 2, 3 method
If she made it to 3 and i didn't settle down i was smacked... after a few times i came into compliance for the rest of my life. My father never had to do a thing, my mom was the boss. ✅
About spit out my drink at the end...that's my joke for "out of control" child.....literally laughed out loud!!
Dear Nick
I laughed so hard that almost peed myself. Thanks, I needed that.
From Iowa...............John
LOL...too funny!
Godspeed and Blessings for you and yours
It starts with "What were you thinking?" and winds up with "Were you thinking?"