Chandler isn’t wrong. A wedding is essentially just a big party. All of the money for a wedding goes mainly to the venue, catering, services, decorators.
Honeymoon also isn't that important but first house, not to mention if financial circumstances change like the husband makes a sudden career change while the couple is trying to have a baby.
She really said “we can always earn more money” when she has absolutely nothing saved in the same 6 years chandler was saving his😑 chandler was right here
The weirdest thing is that Phoebe agrees with this mentality. Phoebe literally lived on the street and is somehow totally happy with the concept of blowing all your savings on one event. This show had a lot of inconsistencies.
@@leelahasan3988 I agree! But idk I could also believe maybe to Phoebe she doesn’t want to pass judgement on a wedding that isn’t hers? Maybe she wouldn’t be that way on her own wedding but she can understand Monica would want to
And on funerals... I say, find the cheapest way to get rid of the body, that's it. As to weddings - none, or, if you're very social, have a party with 20 of you friends and family. With a nice dress that you could put on again.
It's ridiculous that she's pressuring him to spend all the money he's been saving for 6 years for just a party while she's got zit. I mean for 6 years she's saved nothing and now she wants him to throw his money away for her. Man I'm pissed.
Just New York trash culture in a nutshell. HIMYM, Cheers all had similar premises. The only thing these characters had were looks. Underneath they were all assholes in one way or the other, more than the countless 'malformed' weirdos they encountered in NY.
Monica thought that she had a wedding fund that her parents had been saving since she was a child. Her parents bought a summer beach house. They didn’t even bother telling her that they spend it until this episode. So yeah, Monica spent her money but would have saved if her parents told her that they spent the “Monica wedding fund”.
@AJ Martinez I guess so. Monica is a chef at a fine dining restaurant and buys coffee a ton and had a New York City apartment in Greenwich village. Don’t you think it sucks where you thought your parents saved a wedding fund since you were a child and spent all of it and didn’t even bother telling you. They didn’t force chandler to give up his savings. Chandler did say, “ I saved it for my life with you. “ She told him, “ I didn’t want a big wedding. I want a marriage.”
@@rysmlz her PARENTS set up that fund, not HER. she never put a penny in it. he earned his money and was saving for 6 years for the future cause he is smart and not reliant on his parents setting up a fund when he was a little kid
@@freckleKaren monica did have money. She supported chandler when he was decide to quit his “transponster” 😂😂 and go into advertising. She took care of the groceries and responsibilities for the both of them. And Rachel when she first moved in with her
Ik everyone is pissed at monica but i just love in the end of the episode she actually comes to her senses and communicates with him . I really love how healthy their relationship is .
And if you weigh up one thing you can understand why shes so upset and determined to have a big wedding - Ross got married twice and I think for the second wedding his parents paid towards it. And therefore they may have paid for the first as well. So imagine being the DAUGHTER - one who has been ignored most of her life as well - and knowing your parents paid for one or both of your brothers weddings but then spent your entire wedding fund on a beach house and now you can't get the wedding you've been planning since you were a kid. Still ridiculous to want to spend that much money on a wedding but very sad for her at the same time that the favoritism was so severe in her family that her own parents couldn't pay for her wedding. Oh well at least she finally got a porsche from her dad in the end.
This is not the same monica which was in season 1 or 2 or 3 or 4. At that time all of them acted genuinely and the show seemed natural and made us happy because of the bond of friendship between them. The real Monica was about hard work, principles and also mature. As the seasons progressed the acts became dumber and dumber and it was clearly visible that some characters were over acting to forcefully make us laugh and this includes joey and monica a lot. The only one whose acting and lines were same throughout was Ross. If you see the later seasons and analyze..then only the parts where Ross is actually seemed funny. The Main speciality of Joey was that he was really an innocent guy with a pure heart and because of his innocence he would say something which turned out funny or childish and lovable . And that is why Joey was my fav initially. Later they completely destroyed that character making him a dumb joker with wannabe playboy skills. There is a different between being childish and innocent and being a Joker Same for Chandler..Chandler's character meant Sarcasm with puns and real sense of humour and very good education as at that time working with data analysis in IT was a very huge deal....but as the seasons eclvolved...Being Sarcastic, Funny n witty meant one thing and being a wife dominated laughing stock becomes completely another thing.
Chandler is totally correct. Blowing savings for a one time event, special though it may be, is dumb. Monica didn't have any money saved. Neither did Rachel. Yet they want someone else to blow their savings? Poor planning on your part doesn't constitute an emergency on my part.
@@nishitpatira1740 interesting, but stupid, if you're in a relationship you don't tell your partner that. Unless maybe it's not a good relationship lol. Besides, Monica had money saved up but her parents spent it I believe.
i’d rather spend more on the honeymoon than the wedding, since honeymoon is a bigger experience. also chandler worked hard for his money he shouldn’t be forced to spend it.
Right? I get the "every girl just wants their day as a princess" trope but isn't it more sexy to save for realer things, like mortgage, kids, emergencies, retirement?
Monica's willingness to spend Chandler's entire savings on one event is probably a prime example of why she has no money... Weddings are expensive and, yes, you want your own to be special, but don't break the bank...
I know real life cases when the couple got a credit from a bank for a wedding. and then got divorced in a year because they spent so much that never could recover, only going deeper and deeper into debt
I spent, wedding dress included (!!),a little less than $1,000. Didn't look like a bum, either. I looked very nice...! I have the wedding photos to prove it. :) :)
Although it still makes ZERO sense that someone like Monica had no life savings. She was super organized, lived in a rent controlled apartment and was a successful chef. How could she have NO money at all??
@@omanicc9854 Knowing her character, it makes no sense to me either, especially since her apartment was inherited; I assume it's completely paid off since she got it from her grandmother iirc, but maybe that's incorrect. I had always assumed she just wanted a roommate so she wouldn't be too lonely in a city. I think we just have to assume that even as a moderately successful chef in NYC, she still doesn't make enough to have a strong savings account. Doing to a quick google search, it appears that chefs in NYC currently make anywhere from $45-81K per year. The average michelin star chef makes around $85K but could make $120K if they're extremely successful. I'm gonna assume that Monica would make about $60K in 2023. Sounds tight but doable, especially if her apartment is paid off.
Chandler is right in this one. If she wanted it so bad she could've saved some . She's been planning it since she was a kid right. Why she didn't plan the finances. Her mom wanted her to marry sooo bad yet they didn't hesitate to spend the money they could use for the wedding . Chandler saved his hard earned money for years. It was insanely insensitive of her to pressure him to spend it all at once. That's insanely selfish.
I agree Monica wanting to spend all Chandlers money is ridiculous. That being said, Monica never had to plan the finances for her wedding, her parents had been saving all their lives for it and had told her they'd pay for it, so she assumed it was covered. Only when she got engaged and asked them for the money, did they tell her they spent it all years ago, and had nothing for her. It must be hard to have been fantasizing for 25 years about a magical fairy tale wedding, only to be told with no advanced warning that it won't happen. So she clung to the first opportunity that came along for it to still happen. Once she actually engaged her brain later in the episode, she makes the right call.
“Mon, I been saving this money for 6 years ..” you can hear the confusion & pain in his voice🥺totally agree with him! No way would I spend sooo much money on a wedding! Something small & simple! Our future home & kids are more important
It's really odd of her character too. She is the one who is organised. This kind of people usually remain prepared for everything. Not saving anything isn't something they will do.
Same? If I was Chandler I would have been rethinking the engagement at that moment, and also really worried about the future because if she/he is flipping out about the wedding, what are they gonna spend the cash on in the future?
If I ever got married I would just want a very small wedding with a simple reception and spend most of the money on a future like Chandler says. Having a dream wedding is nice and all but reality hits you hard when you find yourself without a home
This all Monica's mother's fault. she damaged her self esteem so bad, made her feel like she will never gonna get married so when her marriage at stake she wanna spend all the money on one day. just so she can show the world that they were all wrong. This is just sad.
@@anandkothari9616 exactly, yeah some parents do damage their kids but when you're an adult you make your own decisions you can't blame it on parents for the rest of your life
@@anandkothari9616 what about them spending all the money meant for her wedding? I believe that's their fault. They paid for Ross's second wedding but not even for Monica's first.
Theres like a whole (reddit I think) forum dedicated to the subject. And yep most people estimate it to be between 80-100k. Imagine wanting to spend that much money on a wedding though!
This holds up so well today. One, Rachel, as much as I love her, had ZERO business being involved in this guilt tripping Chandler. Second, a wedding should be enjoyable, not a burden. I know 50 people who I see more than once at least throughout the year, and they’d all get top of the line food/open bar, and a memorable, sentimental experience. I wouldn’t make a milestone day something of an obligation or a chore. People who over embellish on something so sacred are insane.
I agree... I also hate it, when their is always this big fuss about a dreamy, fantasy like wedding. Who cares? I'd rather want to spend a great life with my partner than spending so much money on a party (I agree with Chandler, too)
Did you see how Rachel was also pressuring Chandler into spending the money? Imagine being in a room with your wife-to-be and she and her friends are pressuring you to spend your savings over 6 years all on a wedding lmao I would walk out the door and never return
just like he said ... the important thing is that they love each other and they're getting married ... and they can have a normal wedding and invite only those who are close ... but monica loves appearances ...
I stand with Chandler on this. Too many ppl put too much emphasis on the wedding and not enough on the actual marriage. Wedding aesthetics are nice but it’s honestly not the most important thing.
This scene isn’t just funny; it’s so meaningful... with my respect to all women, I wish they were to understand things around life similar to what Monica did...
I've met many couples who had the most modest weddings I've ever seen. No party, no nothing. Just saying their vows in front of a priest. Theirs weren't lavish or dreamlike. And guess what; they're still going strong after many years. Being with the right person is what matters most.
OST wedding traditions were originated by the aristocracy. Their marriages were political alliances. The grandeur of a wedding was intended to demonstrate the power of the alliance, especially to any enemies. Who was Monica trying to intimidate? Maybe her mother.
She watched Ross get married 3 times. She wants her one time to be memorable too. But I do agree that most weddings are over the top. Caterer alone is so expensive
Godfather said, "Women and children can afford to be careless, but not men.” Chandler did exactly the same. Godfather must be proud of you Chandler Muriel Binggg.
What I love about this is that Chandler stands up to Monica saying that he’s not about to use all the money for the wedding when there are other important things they should use it for such as having a family or buying a new house which they end up doing later on.
The idea that the wedding day should be the most special day of one’s life is beyond me. I’d rather have the last day of my life be the most special day.
Chandler was right here, but remember that at the end of the episode Monica happily agreed that his plan to save for a marriage instead of just a wedding was the right way to go. In a relationship, you're bound to butt heads and sometime's someone's going to make mistakes or not be as considerate as they should be. What's important is that you learn how to resolve your issues and grow together, which is what Monica and Chandler often do. :)
Oh these ultra rich kids they always talk about being independent and wasting money on wedding (aka PARTY) make sense to them... it’s was the correct time for chandler to leave Monica and marry phoebe
She wasn't a rich kid. In fact, her parents blew her wedding money on a beach house even though they paid for two of her brother's weddings. But she did need a wake up a call and fortunately, they talked it out and she came to her senses.
@@razojacqueline Except the beach house drained any money they had to pay for their daughter's wedding, so clearly not rich. It's a term known as "cash poor". They have stuff, but no money left.
Oye people... She asked him not to spend the money entirely at the end and he agreed to spend the money despite this..... Stop passing your ridiculous comments of hate
When i was like 18 i wanted this huge lavish weeding but then after i turned 20 i don't want a fancy weeding anymore. I think the most important thing is to be happy nothing else matters. Yeah off course if you look pretty you will be very happy for that moment but you can look pretty with off the rack stuff too you know? The money you save can be used in a better manner for the future and that can lead to happiness that lasts long than this short termed one.
This is a tough one but it really boils down to the couple. This is why finances should always be talked about while dating not during wedding planning. I had friends who spent a lot in their weddings and others who went on the practical side. Make sure your partner is comfortable with your preference though. There are indeed women who dream of a magical wedding even if it will cost them their life savings.
You should spend as much as you want on your wedding but you should never force your fiance to pay for it all. Monica is acting like a brat! Pay for it urself or go halfs girl
Just like the funeral industry, wedding industry to me is a big waste, well not a waste cause there are people who can afford it, but if you cant then just dont, it aint mandatory, people hype this too much in their head.
Anyone have any guess from their conversation what's the number Chandler wrote? I'm guessing 100k... Also, I love what a great planner Chandler is. He saves like an adult, even to the point of planning for Joey's old age. And thinking back, he's probably the smartest of the bunch. When he really wants something, he gets it. Like tricking Phoebe into naming a baby after him, or beating Mike at ping pong, or figuring out how to make that kid cry at Joey's audition. It's just most time he's too chill to use his power for evil. I would NOT want Chandler as my enemy lol
Honestly I just really love the when he figured out how to make the kid cry at joey's audition.it was amazing and iam surprised the audience didn't clap or anything
Monica: "We can always get more money. But we're only gonna get married once" ...... That's a bold statement for any person who carries 50% of Ross Geller's genotype.
Monica at her worst. Paying for a Wedding isn't cheap but pressuring him to spend all his money was beyond messed up. Chandler's not wrong for thinking about the future. He can give her a dream wedding without going broke either. Especially when Monica's not paying nothing out of her own pocket.
6 years of saving and she wants to spend all of it on one night; forget the future, the honeymoon, their plan for children, rainy day funds. Chandler was 100% right in this situation and the fact that he still gave her what she wanted, he was easily the best character on the show. Monica & Rachel were the most selfish people on television.
True. What's different is that most of the time, Monica doesn't seem to realize that she's going overboard with the demands and usually sees her errors when she's called out. Rachel, however, knows what she's doing is bad and, no matter how many times she's called out for it, repeatedly acts selfish and throws her friends under the bus so she won't look bad.
@@zer0watch454 YES. Everybody always says they hated Ross the most, Rachel was easily the WORST friend of the group. She was terrible. Her FIRST two situations on the show were just foreshadowing how terrible she was: (1) Left a man at the alter and then (2) Invited herself to live with Monica without asking.
see you're displaying a primitive way of thinking. you think that "allowing" your wife to have this or that person as her friend is doable or acceptable in a modern society ? don't think so pal. that might be true in uzbekistan or wherever
It really bothers me how a 30 year old Head Chef in NYC is nothing in savings for her own wedding.... This just goes to show how much fiction this show is. Don't hate me! I love Friends!! But there are certain moments that can irritate you!!
Chandler isn’t wrong. A wedding is essentially just a big party. All of the money for a wedding goes mainly to the venue, catering, services, decorators.
In this scene Monica gets really on my nerves
for mostly people you don't even know. with that money you can travel and create memories together not waste on people
He wasn't wrong at all. She had no right to tell him what to do with his money.
That money could even be used for the future...kids.....etc
Second comment
Well, he isn't wrong. A wedding is special, sure. But what about first child, first honeymoon...
Honeymoon also isn't that important but first house, not to mention if financial circumstances change like the husband makes a sudden career change while the couple is trying to have a baby.
True.Monica was being selfish with HIS money that we worked for.
Divorce,alimony...
preach
Yuh i agree with Chandler too
She really said “we can always earn more money” when she has absolutely nothing saved in the same 6 years chandler was saving his😑 chandler was right here
The weirdest thing is that Phoebe agrees with this mentality. Phoebe literally lived on the street and is somehow totally happy with the concept of blowing all your savings on one event. This show had a lot of inconsistencies.
i agree but remember the reason monica doesn't have money is because she got fired earlier in the show and had to use all her savings
@@stellar2435 Don't you agree that it's kind of presumptuous to assume you're never going to find yourself in that position again though?
@@stellar2435 True, but then she became head chef at a new restaurant in season 4, so it's still weird she hadn't started saving anything since then.
@@leelahasan3988 I agree! But idk I could also believe maybe to Phoebe she doesn’t want to pass judgement on a wedding that isn’t hers? Maybe she wouldn’t be that way on her own wedding but she can understand Monica would want to
I always find it ridiculous how much money people spend on weddings
And on funerals... I say, find the cheapest way to get rid of the body, that's it. As to weddings - none, or, if you're very social, have a party with 20 of you friends and family. With a nice dress that you could put on again.
I knowww
Yeah, my husband and I spent $2,000 all in and looking back probably didn't even need to spend that.
@@mandie1456 wow cheapskate husband lol
@@mandie1456 that’s actually so much better than most people I know that literally spend their lives saving money for a wedding
Children, house, mortgage, savings...
I'm with Chandler, Wedding is important, but spending everything on one event isn't smart or is it right.
Or spend all in a wedding. Either way is fine. Not every newlywed is thinking about retirement.
@@kbanghart no one said the savings is meant just for retirement! Could be for a house, furnishings, health, etc.
@@Person-mh6xq many people say savings should just be for retirement.
I really liked what Phoebe said, a firm hand and money, finally a Chandler I can get a board with that was just so great
It's ridiculous that she's pressuring him to spend all the money he's been saving for 6 years for just a party while she's got zit. I mean for 6 years she's saved nothing and now she wants him to throw his money away for her. Man I'm pissed.
Just New York trash culture in a nutshell. HIMYM, Cheers all had similar premises. The only thing these characters had were looks. Underneath they were all assholes in one way or the other, more than the countless 'malformed' weirdos they encountered in NY.
Monica thought that she had a wedding fund that her parents had been saving since she was a child. Her parents bought a summer beach house. They didn’t even bother telling her that they spend it until this episode. So yeah, Monica spent her money but would have saved if her parents told her that they spent the “Monica wedding fund”.
@AJ Martinez I guess so. Monica is a chef at a fine dining restaurant and buys coffee a ton and had a New York City apartment in Greenwich village.
Don’t you think it sucks where you thought your parents saved a wedding fund since you were a child and spent all of it and didn’t even bother telling you. They didn’t force chandler to give up his savings. Chandler did say, “ I saved it for my life with you. “ She told him, “ I didn’t want a big wedding. I want a marriage.”
@@rysmlz her PARENTS set up that fund, not HER. she never put a penny in it. he earned his money and was saving for 6 years for the future cause he is smart and not reliant on his parents setting up a fund when he was a little kid
@@freckleKaren monica did have money. She supported chandler when he was decide to quit his “transponster” 😂😂 and go into advertising. She took care of the groceries and responsibilities for the both of them. And Rachel when she first moved in with her
Ik everyone is pissed at monica but i just love in the end of the episode she actually comes to her senses and communicates with him . I really love how healthy their relationship is .
And if you weigh up one thing you can understand why shes so upset and determined to have a big wedding - Ross got married twice and I think for the second wedding his parents paid towards it. And therefore they may have paid for the first as well. So imagine being the DAUGHTER - one who has been ignored most of her life as well - and knowing your parents paid for one or both of your brothers weddings but then spent your entire wedding fund on a beach house and now you can't get the wedding you've been planning since you were a kid.
Still ridiculous to want to spend that much money on a wedding but very sad for her at the same time that the favoritism was so severe in her family that her own parents couldn't pay for her wedding. Oh well at least she finally got a porsche from her dad in the end.
@@Myview246 if someone wants to spend a lot of money on a wedding, then nothing wrong with that.
@@kbanghart yes but only if it's their own money not someone else's.
That well relationship is what made me prefer Monica over disordered Rachel, beside I prefer fair skin brunette over blonde 😊😊😊😊
This is not the same monica which was in season 1 or 2 or 3 or 4. At that time all of them acted genuinely and the show seemed natural and made us happy because of the bond of friendship between them. The real Monica was about hard work, principles and also mature.
As the seasons progressed the acts became dumber and dumber and it was clearly visible that some characters were over acting to forcefully make us laugh and this includes joey and monica a lot. The only one whose acting and lines were same throughout was Ross. If you see the later seasons and analyze..then only the parts where Ross is actually seemed funny.
The Main speciality of Joey was that he was really an innocent guy with a pure heart and because of his innocence he would say something which turned out funny or childish and lovable . And that is why Joey was my fav initially. Later they completely destroyed that character making him a dumb joker with wannabe playboy skills. There is a different between being childish and innocent and being a Joker
Same for Chandler..Chandler's character meant Sarcasm with puns and real sense of humour and very good education as at that time working with data analysis in IT was a very huge deal....but as the seasons eclvolved...Being Sarcastic, Funny n witty meant one thing and being a wife dominated laughing stock becomes completely another thing.
Chandler is totally correct. Blowing savings for a one time event, special though it may be, is dumb. Monica didn't have any money saved. Neither did Rachel. Yet they want someone else to blow their savings?
Poor planning on your part doesn't constitute an emergency on my part.
True, in the end after calmed down, Monica did agree with Chandler.
Well both of them were super rich and therefore are spoilt, and rachel more than monica
"Poor planning on your part doesn't constitute an emergency on my part." They should have added that in the show. I love it.
@@nishitpatira1740 interesting, but stupid, if you're in a relationship you don't tell your partner that. Unless maybe it's not a good relationship lol. Besides, Monica had money saved up but her parents spent it I believe.
Blowing savings is fine, if you make more money.
we only get married one ... really have they ever met ross ?
Hahahaha yes! And Ross's second wedding was in London
They mean their wedding between them obviously!
Wait he got married multiple times in the show?
@@magicslave3066 yes
@@valeria5435 how many?
“wow money and a firm hand”
*I’m dead* 🤣
Phoebe is always the best.😃
i’d rather spend more on the honeymoon than the wedding, since honeymoon is a bigger experience. also chandler worked hard for his money he shouldn’t be forced to spend it.
Right? I get the "every girl just wants their day as a princess" trope but isn't it more sexy to save for realer things, like mortgage, kids, emergencies, retirement?
"Well u worked for that". Im sorry I just had to quote that line.
@@oz_jones u really make life sound somehow much less fun than it actually is.
Uhm, well, if you'll watch the entire episode. She actually realized her mistake. Lol
@@acelovesdiyschristopher7023 If you mean more responsible, then yeah.
"We can always earn more money" says the one with no savings . I'm 100% with Chandler on this
This is why you talk about money before you get married!
Monica's willingness to spend Chandler's entire savings on one event is probably a prime example of why she has no money... Weddings are expensive and, yes, you want your own to be special, but don't break the bank...
I know real life cases when the couple got a credit from a bank for a wedding. and then got divorced in a year because they spent so much that never could recover, only going deeper and deeper into debt
I spent, wedding dress included (!!),a little less than $1,000. Didn't look like a bum, either. I looked very nice...! I have the wedding photos to prove it. :) :)
Although it still makes ZERO sense that someone like Monica had no life savings. She was super organized, lived in a rent controlled apartment and was a successful chef. How could she have NO money at all??
@@omanicc9854 Knowing her character, it makes no sense to me either, especially since her apartment was inherited; I assume it's completely paid off since she got it from her grandmother iirc, but maybe that's incorrect. I had always assumed she just wanted a roommate so she wouldn't be too lonely in a city. I think we just have to assume that even as a moderately successful chef in NYC, she still doesn't make enough to have a strong savings account. Doing to a quick google search, it appears that chefs in NYC currently make anywhere from $45-81K per year. The average michelin star chef makes around $85K but could make $120K if they're extremely successful. I'm gonna assume that Monica would make about $60K in 2023. Sounds tight but doable, especially if her apartment is paid off.
Chandler practically looking after joey and saving money he is great.
But nobody knows what his job is 😂
Money and a firm hand...finally a Chandler I can get on board with..trust Phoebe to break the ice on the most tense situation
0:51 phoebe was so respectful there 😊
Chandler is right in this one. If she wanted it so bad she could've saved some . She's been planning it since she was a kid right. Why she didn't plan the finances. Her mom wanted her to marry sooo bad yet they didn't hesitate to spend the money they could use for the wedding . Chandler saved his hard earned money for years. It was insanely insensitive of her to pressure him to spend it all at once. That's insanely selfish.
I agree Monica wanting to spend all Chandlers money is ridiculous. That being said, Monica never had to plan the finances for her wedding, her parents had been saving all their lives for it and had told her they'd pay for it, so she assumed it was covered. Only when she got engaged and asked them for the money, did they tell her they spent it all years ago, and had nothing for her. It must be hard to have been fantasizing for 25 years about a magical fairy tale wedding, only to be told with no advanced warning that it won't happen. So she clung to the first opportunity that came along for it to still happen. Once she actually engaged her brain later in the episode, she makes the right call.
“Mon, I been saving this money for 6 years ..” you can hear the confusion & pain in his voice🥺totally agree with him! No way would I spend sooo much money on a wedding! Something small & simple! Our future home & kids are more important
“Finally a chandler i can get onboard with” i love phoebe
It's pretty pathetic that Monica doesn't have any money saved. Like gurl you are more than 30.
and live in a rent controlled apartment that hasn't had a raise in rent in well over 10 years...
And the head chef at a successful, top-rated restaurant.
It's really odd of her character too. She is the one who is organised. This kind of people usually remain prepared for everything. Not saving anything isn't something they will do.
And you got chandler who also gave joey a lot of money and lived a good lifestyle
Yeah, like living in one of the most expensive cities in the world has nothing to do with it, rme..........
Honestly, if my spouse wanted me to spend my entire savings on the wedding and got angry because I refused, I’d call off the marriage.
Same? If I was Chandler I would have been rethinking the engagement at that moment, and also really worried about the future because if she/he is flipping out about the wedding, what are they gonna spend the cash on in the future?
I’d rather spend that money across years of vacations, etc than 1 night. Chandler is correct.
we only get married once
Ross : am I a joke to you
Hahah he probably got married once again
Yes Ross, you are.
i don't know why they're surprised chandler is rich when he's the only one who has a stable job until season 9 plus he even got promoted
He wasn't rich he just had some savings, there's a big difference between the two.
" WOW!! HELLO MR. CHANDLER"
the best 😂
If I ever got married I would just want a very small wedding with a simple reception and spend most of the money on a future like Chandler says. Having a dream wedding is nice and all but reality hits you hard when you find yourself without a home
I think a home wedding with a decorated backyard and a barbecue actually sounds amazing
This all Monica's mother's fault. she damaged her self esteem so bad, made her feel like she will never gonna get married so when her marriage at stake she wanna spend all the money on one day.
just so she can show the world that they were all wrong. This is just sad.
You can't blame everything on parents forever. She is not a kid anymore to not understand things.
@@anandkothari9616 exactly, yeah some parents do damage their kids but when you're an adult you make your own decisions you can't blame it on parents for the rest of your life
@@anandkothari9616 well then you certainly don’t understand how these things work, to get over it would require years of therapy
@@anandkothari9616 what about them spending all the money meant for her wedding? I believe that's their fault. They paid for Ross's second wedding but not even for Monica's first.
Kinda true
"we can always earn more money"
One minute ago: "how? I don´t have any money"
Chandler is right
Is it just me or was anyone else curious how much Chandler actually saved? 😆
Haha.
I too want to know.
Around 100k
@@antigonezafeiriou4657 Monica said it's the exact amount she was budgeting for the wedding. She was budgeting 100K!
Theres like a whole (reddit I think) forum dedicated to the subject. And yep most people estimate it to be between 80-100k. Imagine wanting to spend that much money on a wedding though!
@@Myview246 For the year 2002, 100k USD ist huge.... you could afford a house with it as equity. If anyone spent it all on a party, he/she is insane.
I'm definitely with Chandler on this one
Honestly I’m on chandler’s side. Make your wedding memorable but don’t go into debt over it. I personally would rather a house than a day.
This holds up so well today. One, Rachel, as much as I love her, had ZERO business being involved in this guilt tripping Chandler. Second, a wedding should be enjoyable, not a burden. I know 50 people who I see more than once at least throughout the year, and they’d all get top of the line food/open bar, and a memorable, sentimental experience. I wouldn’t make a milestone day something of an obligation or a chore. People who over embellish on something so sacred are insane.
I HATE THE GELLER PARENTS!
Well yeah...they did have money for Ross two weddings
@@Katherine_Oz It's weird that grown men and women need their parents to pay for their weddings.
@@OHCAM5 ikr?
Why didn't she save the money herself.? Expecting from her parents and then Chandler. 🙄
I agree... I also hate it, when their is always this big fuss about a dreamy, fantasy like wedding. Who cares? I'd rather want to spend a great life with my partner than spending so much money on a party (I agree with Chandler, too)
@@SabrinaChach if you have it spend it in whatever way you want. But don't expect the money from others.
If u watched the entire ep, her parenta spent her wedding fund to their new guesthouse(?) and new kitchen tiles
@@Steph-yw2cp she is 30 years old. She should have saved it by herself like Chandler did for 6 years
@@Steph-yw2cp So ? She is a grown woman, why do Mom and Dad still have to pay for her ?
I'm totally with Mr. Chandler 😂 but gotta love monica's line about not getting invited 🤣
Best, most mature Chandler moment
if my fiancee did this, she wouldnt be my fiancee anymore; not that i have a fiancee, or even a girlfriend...
Correct.
Did you see how Rachel was also pressuring Chandler into spending the money? Imagine being in a room with your wife-to-be and she and her friends are pressuring you to spend your savings over 6 years all on a wedding lmao I would walk out the door and never return
just like he said ... the important thing is that they love each other and they're getting married ... and they can have a normal wedding and invite only those who are close ... but monica loves appearances ...
She's been a really egoistic here isn't she?
Yupp both monica and rachel
Monica thankfully comes around later though
I stand with Chandler on this. Too many ppl put too much emphasis on the wedding and not enough on the actual marriage. Wedding aesthetics are nice but it’s honestly not the most important thing.
Do you even understand what "off the rack" means?!
Never, ever, under any circumstance tell a woman how much money you have... NEVER
Love how Chandler is the mature one
He is and realistic
i love how phoebe is really into chandler here and make fun of him in another day
This scene isn’t just funny; it’s so meaningful... with my respect to all women, I wish they were to understand things around life similar to what Monica did...
"Money and a firm hand", pheobe had her priorities set.
Chandler is so adorable 🥺
I just love this comment section so much . All of us Friends fanatics debating subjects it is almost wholesome
He's completely right about this
I've met many couples who had the most modest weddings I've ever seen. No party, no nothing. Just saying their vows in front of a priest.
Theirs weren't lavish or dreamlike.
And guess what; they're still going strong after many years.
Being with the right person is what matters most.
"This is the most special day of our life"
Yeah it's gonna be over after 1 day and then there's some decades
OST wedding traditions were originated by the aristocracy. Their marriages were political alliances. The grandeur of a wedding was intended to demonstrate the power of the alliance, especially to any enemies. Who was Monica trying to intimidate? Maybe her mother.
Sounds about right 😂
Nice to know👍🏻
She watched Ross get married 3 times. She wants her one time to be memorable too. But I do agree that most weddings are over the top. Caterer alone is so expensive
No.
@@ARIADNALIBRE what do you mean?
Godfather said, "Women and children can afford to be careless, but not men.” Chandler did exactly the same. Godfather must be proud of you Chandler Muriel Binggg.
Finally a chandler i can get on board with
Chandler is right. It took him six years to save that money and Monica thinks they can 'always' earn more. Such a waste.
What I love about this is that Chandler stands up to Monica saying that he’s not about to use all the money for the wedding when there are other important things they should use it for such as having a family or buying a new house which they end up doing later on.
If only monica knows that a wedding doesn't have to be fancy and expensive to be special...
The idea that the wedding day should be the most special day of one’s life is beyond me. I’d rather have the last day of my life be the most special day.
Yess I gave the 1k like on this video, love Friends!!!
monica was so selfish in this episode, cmon asking someone to spend their whole life savings on one day is ridiculous
Chandler was right here, but remember that at the end of the episode Monica happily agreed that his plan to save for a marriage instead of just a wedding was the right way to go.
In a relationship, you're bound to butt heads and sometime's someone's going to make mistakes or not be as considerate as they should be. What's important is that you learn how to resolve your issues and grow together, which is what Monica and Chandler often do. :)
All the ladies dresses in this scene are awesome
Oh these ultra rich kids they always talk about being independent and wasting money on wedding (aka PARTY) make sense to them... it’s was the correct time for chandler to leave Monica and marry phoebe
She wasn't a rich kid. In fact, her parents blew her wedding money on a beach house even though they paid for two of her brother's weddings. But she did need a wake up a call and fortunately, they talked it out and she came to her senses.
@@razojacqueline Except the beach house drained any money they had to pay for their daughter's wedding, so clearly not rich. It's a term known as "cash poor". They have stuff, but no money left.
Although I agree with Chandler on the unnecessary cost, I just love the excitement on Monica's face when she describes the wedding
phoebe is Gold in this scene
its 4 years old and comments are just hours old
what the whole world was sleeping for this long
No pandemic and looming existential crisis then
Maybe the comment section settings
TH-cam algorithms
Oye people... She asked him not to spend the money entirely at the end and he agreed to spend the money despite this..... Stop passing your ridiculous comments of hate
Courteney Cox y Lauren Graham, siempre me parecieron las dos mujeres,más bonitas de la tv , me gustan.
Chandler is more wise and smart than people think!! Plus, funny
He was always very smart
I like how she knew exactly how much she would need for each scenario. Hunny it doesn't work that way, prices always change.
I'm so glad Chandler got his way in this episode.
When i was like 18 i wanted this huge lavish weeding but then after i turned 20 i don't want a fancy weeding anymore. I think the most important thing is to be happy nothing else matters. Yeah off course if you look pretty you will be very happy for that moment but you can look pretty with off the rack stuff too you know? The money you save can be used in a better manner for the future and that can lead to happiness that lasts long than this short termed one.
This is a tough one but it really boils down to the couple. This is why finances should always be talked about while dating not during wedding planning. I had friends who spent a lot in their weddings and others who went on the practical side. Make sure your partner is comfortable with your preference though. There are indeed women who dream of a magical wedding even if it will cost them their life savings.
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You should spend as much as you want on your wedding but you should never force your fiance to pay for it all. Monica is acting like a brat! Pay for it urself or go halfs girl
I love how invested Rachael is in Monica's wedding. Sorry, and Chandler's wedding.
Wow! I didn't see this episode never! Is it a cut scene? What season is it?
The way she flew out of the sofa LMAO
Glad the thumbnail picked it up
Just like the funeral industry, wedding industry to me is a big waste, well not a waste cause there are people who can afford it, but if you cant then just dont, it aint mandatory, people hype this too much in their head.
Anyone have any guess from their conversation what's the number Chandler wrote? I'm guessing 100k...
Also, I love what a great planner Chandler is. He saves like an adult, even to the point of planning for Joey's old age. And thinking back, he's probably the smartest of the bunch. When he really wants something, he gets it. Like tricking Phoebe into naming a baby after him, or beating Mike at ping pong, or figuring out how to make that kid cry at Joey's audition. It's just most time he's too chill to use his power for evil. I would NOT want Chandler as my enemy lol
Honestly I just really love the when he figured out how to make the kid cry at joey's audition.it was amazing and iam surprised the audience didn't clap or anything
Friends forever great wb show like rachel,phoebe,monica,chandler,ross ❤❤❤❤❤
I am really with Chandler on this
Monica: "We can always get more money. But we're only gonna get married once" ......
That's a bold statement for any person who carries 50% of Ross Geller's genotype.
Every one - Monica and wedding.
I am thinking - Phoebe doesn't peek Chandler, she is there but in her own world. La la la 😁
So how much is the budget of Monica's dream wedding ??
Watching this scene gives me anxiety. The entitlement is baffling.
I completely agree with him.
which episode is this??
Monica at her worst. Paying for a Wedding isn't cheap but pressuring him to spend all his money was beyond messed up. Chandler's not wrong for thinking about the future. He can give her a dream wedding without going broke either. Especially when Monica's not paying nothing out of her own pocket.
They showed that they had money problems and didn't spend as much money as they wanted to but they still had a fairly expensive Wedding.
A wedding site is special but freedom is priceless
0:59, my favorite part.
Wao ! Money and a firm hand 🤣😂
I just respect Chandler here.
6 years of saving and she wants to spend all of it on one night; forget the future, the honeymoon, their plan for children, rainy day funds. Chandler was 100% right in this situation and the fact that he still gave her what she wanted, he was easily the best character on the show. Monica & Rachel were the most selfish people on television.
I couldn't stand Monica and Rachel post season 6.
True. What's different is that most of the time, Monica doesn't seem to realize that she's going overboard with the demands and usually sees her errors when she's called out. Rachel, however, knows what she's doing is bad and, no matter how many times she's called out for it, repeatedly acts selfish and throws her friends under the bus so she won't look bad.
@@zer0watch454 YES. Everybody always says they hated Ross the most, Rachel was easily the WORST friend of the group. She was terrible. Her FIRST two situations on the show were just foreshadowing how terrible she was: (1) Left a man at the alter and then (2) Invited herself to live with Monica without asking.
Most important lesson here is never let your wife to have friends like Rachel. Because they will ruin your family.
Umm they were both her friends so..
see you're displaying a primitive way of thinking. you think that "allowing" your wife to have this or that person as her friend is doable or acceptable in a modern society ? don't think so pal. that might be true in uzbekistan or wherever
I liked Phoebe when she closed her eyes while Chandler was writing the amount...
It really bothers me how a 30 year old Head Chef in NYC is nothing in savings for her own wedding....
This just goes to show how much fiction this show is. Don't hate me! I love Friends!! But there are certain moments that can irritate you!!
The funniest character spoke the most sensible thing ... " Wasting life savings on a one day party "
Jeep Wagoneer right at the last second of the video 😍