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In this episode, Elle discusses the concept of there being plenty of good men, providing evidence to support her claim. The episode features a discussion on the 'Princess Treatment Competition' and the idea of the 'Divine Masculine Man'. Elle shares various videos that provide examples of healthy, supportive, and respectful relationships. She also discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in a man and how it contributes to a successful and balanced relationship. Elle emphasizes the red flags to watch out for in a relationship, focusing on the negative effects a wrong partner can have on a woman’s health and stress levels. The episode also delves into societal changes, noting that with women now having access to education and money, men are facing a loneliness epidemic, largely due to their lack of emotional intelligence. Elle ends the episode by highlighting the need for men to develop emotional intelligence and provide emotional support, not just financial stability.
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out of all the red flags, the worst one for me is immaturity.
and the opposite, the biggest green flag is maturity, the best thing ever in a man.
Agree
Seconded. It doesn't matter how smart or funny or charismatic he is, how financially successful, how compatible with your hobbies and interests, if he's immature. Maturity is the end-all-be-all of a healthy relationship. Other qualities are negotiable. Being a fucking adult is not.
@@l.s.d.5863 yeah!!! Learned this the hard way.
Those kind of men are redundant.
Self awareness!
"You can't grow in survival and softness at the same time" is exactly what is wrong with a lot of the paradigm of men's spaces regarding women.
This breaks my heart.. we can guard our hearts and be strong and soft too :)
Yes, we literally can, that's what many, many people realize as they struggle with survival, becoming stronger in body, mind, and heart and not becoming bitter, jaded, or cruel.
I'd like to let other women in the comments know that I was paid around $50,000 a year when I was a cook professionally, and I only did breakfast and lunch service.
That's the bare minimum amount for your labor you are putting in, your labor and effort has VALUE!
Preach sis ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I think it's weird to assign monetary value to your labour in a relationshup in this manner. Stop making it so transactional, people can just pay for services like cooks, cleaning, and even sex. Relationships are about genuine companionship
Great sis! Most men want to discredit the housewife labor. I read the story during the covid and I wanted to vomit. The guy spent😮 his wife's stimulus $1200 because according to him, she did not work so she did not deserve her stimulus. This channel is don't get mad, get paid LOL. At the minimum, men must provide for the women they love in trade of your affection, caress, access to your body, and tons of potential unpaid wages. Remember 50/50 is a scam game. Don't fall into this trap. No, we are not feminists. We don't believe in their ideals.
@@LoveLife-oo9cz that story is obviously far from the norm. Men expect it as the other part of duties, same way you expect certain duties from them. You never call it disgusting when women say they will never pay for a date, it's a man's job, or that they can never date a broke man, so how is it an issue when in return men want a woman who can and does cook?
@@Ghosty716
My father used to cook on the weekend
A divine masculine man is very attractive. But u need to have the self development and growth to bypass all the other red flag men
This! 👆
Exactly! I had a friend who had good men pursuing her but she’d always say that they were just friends, she didn’t have feelings for her, etc but then she’d fall in love with & chase the bad guys. That’s the case with many women too, not that they don’t have good options, but because they can’t see them from the level they’re in even if the good guys are right in front of their eyes
Exactly!!!
This is so true..
Oh my god thank you. Something a lot of people don’t realize is that you attract the love you think you deserve. Don’t expect a good partner to fall on your lap if you lack the emotional/mental maturity, growth, self-love, struggling with mistrust of the other gender, insecurities within yourself, an inability to healthily communicate, or vulnerability. The red flag people who feed off that will keep on coming until you realize something within you keeps attracting them. Once you figure it out & develop those positive traits, they won’t even bother because you’ll be able to weed them out from a mile away & the good ones can start coming in.
We need good, generous, and caring men. Please bestie stay away from bare minimum dusty men. There are a lot of good men out there. Bestie wake up!!!!
You know what I've noticed in retrospect? All the guys who have treated me badly and were incapable of basic self development have been conventionally unattractive. The guys who have treated me the best and have actually learned from their mistakes (nobody is perfect after all) have all been the ones many other women feel drawn to. Unattractive men tend to be insecure and hate you because they're convinced you will leave them and want to tear you down to feel like you're on the level they're convinced they are. Being all "beauty is only skin deep" doesn't work because it will never be appreciated, quite the contrary. The first sign of a high value man is physical attractiveness.
@@toxihex876 There are plenty of douchey attractive guys too. But I think there's something to what you're saying. Partially in that a huge part of conventional attractiveness is simply self care and effort, more than anything physically inherent, and the guys who put zero effort into themselves physically are probably also doing so in other areas of life. And partially because society tends to romanticize the idea of a woman falling for a guy way below her league, it's looked at as her being loyal and humble and such, and the "nice smart ugly guy" finally getting what he "deserves¨. It's just fueled by male fantasy. But that leaves a lot of young inexperienced women with the subconscious assumption that somehow she can expect better from an ugly man, when in reality they're just as bad.
@@l.s.d.5863 Exactly. Going for someone attractive isn't a foolproof way of dodging awful men but the chances of an unattractive guy having truckloads of baggage they're not dealing with and dumping it on you are way higher, plus what you said with the self care thing. It's also ironic how when a woman cares about her looks it's seen as shallow and it's assumed she doesn't care about everything else thus required to prove herself extra times ten, while guys are praised for their sigma grindset in the gym. Conventionally unattractive guys cry about how women don't give them chances and then when a woman suggests why that may be they oppose her because a dude with a mic and a narcissistic disorder who clearly knows women better than they know themselves made a podcast.
@@toxihex876 disagree. My ex was an attractive narc. Looks dont have much to do with it
@@Mira-gu6we That's not how it works though? How do you disagree with a general rule because you have experienced the exception? Okay then good luck finding an unattractive guy who has his head together, trust me it won't be an easy time.
A good way to anchor your mind to the divine masculine when you get dejected by the incels online is to have a character from a book/movie in mind that evokes that energy. For me it's Aragorn from Lord of the Rings.
Great advice!
He is peak...so is russel wilson
Lotr is so full of energentic, inspirational, healthy masculinity in all different shapes and forms! 💞
some of my favourites: Samwise from LOTR, Jamie Fraser from Outlander, Din Djarin, Gomez Addams, the father from A quiet place, Pacha from Emperor's new groove, uncle Iroh from Avatar, Forrest Gump, Daredevil & Foggy Nelson, Steven Universe, Jason and Chidi from The Good Place, Phil from Modern Family.
@laizdiniz6456 OK but how can you leave out Kronk 😭
I refuse to advertise that I cook to men because they expect that it means I’ll automatically start doing it for him
then I refuse to protect you deal with the fact cops ae quitting and less and less are able to show up if at all :) not my problem I have a thing called real strength not hogwash trash you call strength in birth xDDDDD
Same yeah, I be acting like I don’t know how to boil egg😂😂
@@luw5244 I act like I burn toast lol
@@luw5244 Instead of deceiving, how about you talk about it instead? How do you expect men to get better if you don't tell them how to get better? Very immature.
@@CoREeu Women are tired of trying to teach men when they’re not listening. If you really wanna learn, there are plenty of women on the internet talking about these issues. Otherwise, we are matching men’s energy. Here’s a starting place for you, look up “weaponized incompetence.” Men aren’t the only ones who can act like they don’t have basic life skills.
The good man don’t live on the Internet. The good men are out there, living their lives, being productive and secure with themselves. They are mature they are thoughtful. They are naturally providers.❤
@@duckyh9712 100%, all this talk of "real men" is just more trash to try and make betabux deluxes so they can steal more money they act as if no man as seen how whinemen use men day in and out with the rhetoric of "if you are a real man"
If u think working only is taking care of kids. You have a long way to come.
theres tons of good men out there sisters, dont ignore them please, those men are always not seen because of the bad men are always making themselves known,but good men they deserve the world, don't give up ladies they exist, good men aren't heard, don't let the bad men make all look bad❤️
I really wouldn’t say tons, let’s be real now. And most been done settled down
@@AKR088 @Manifestelle found a dusty troll in the ladies room ew
@@Arginne well not tons but some 🤷🏽♀️
@@AKR088 there's a good boy among them but it's only 1%
@@Bsskhwvsh every dude isn't a porn addict find one that's isn't or you can communicate with your partner on it
Wow, even her voice SOUNDS peaceful as heck 😂👏BEAUTIFUL
I was thinking these days that I wanted to see some examples of how men SHOULD BE, not just of how they should not.
I'm in a long relationship with one of these man and I noticed something:
The best men are the ones who grew up with a strong mother and sisters. Boymoms are damaging and if a man is an only child he absolutely grew up spoiled and if he has brothers, then he's locked in a perpetual competition mindset that's just so tiring.
men with sisters, who are told to take care of them, often grew up with basic human skills, not "woman skills".
My partner LIKES to cook. He LIKES to clean. I also like it too but it's not like he's helping, if he lives in the same space as me he's not "helping", he's doing what he's supposed to do. Full stop.
How do you guys split the expenses....?
@@KashyapKashyap-zb5hg split?
@@AriDakis yes
I know this is irrelevant to the video, but I always hear u say u don’t know if the spoiled girlies are feminists or not, but as a feminist I love your content. Feminism is the movement for women’s freedoms and rights, I would say spoiled girlies are feminists😂❤
It's the women's liberation movements, and these women are getting liberated 🥳
Spoiled girlies look out for women's interest more than status quo so that's a fair assessment. You could agree or disagree with some points but overall it's a positive vibe.
I know some don't even maliciously comply with patriarchal standards in attempt to normalize women's natural form, but it may get you less bag. I know some decenter men to the point of swearing off them completely and gave up on needle in the haystack search, not even bothering with any risk. It really depends on individual, there's many points to go about feminism as long as the end result lifts the collective, which being a spoiled girlie does for the most part. Elle herself seems conflicted on some points like the OF thing when it comes individual or collective benefit. I'd say overall it's a good thing for women. Being your own dream girl is one of the best life's goals.
Love this 🥹 there's so many layers 🥰
I recommend this channel as often as I can to women! ❤❤❤
@@therealmanifestellethat's why I'm here,
I'm looking to learn from all types of people, mainly women, who support other women and you clearly do ❤
Everyone should watch that video before getting married. “You never have to fight, you never to compete, we are one” if you don’t have that, don’t get married.
If my partner and I don’t see eye to eye, we make it the goal/task to understand each other’s point. Healthy and properly used therapy speak can be so useful. I can say “I’m irritable right now but in 20 minutes I think I’ll be more ready to engage/hang out/listen, etc.” things like that.
Beware the men who feign (pretend) emotional intelligence. It's a manipulation just like previous behaviours (to get what they want short term gain) and if they are finding out it's a 'vibe' for women to be on the conscious lookout for, then there must be some measurement that women can use to 'discern' their commitment and honest intentions to their partner. Please approach this 'new' behaviour from men who have access to this channel, with discernment.
My dad is a wonderful person who set the standard for men for me. He raised my brother to be the same way. NEITHER of them have a social media presence beyond my brother's very unused Facebook. Real men are out there... not on here.
My exhusband had no friends. It truly is a red flag. He was insufferable.
I dated a man who looked hood on paper but he was so feminine if there was a problem I would be the one stepping up to protect us both.😂
I know these kinds of men - they always seem like perfect marriage material bc they’re so loyal and understanding, but in the long run, you’ll have to be the man in a relationship
Lmaoooo😅
🤣🥴
@@YSANROCHEOfficialTH-cam No, you'll have to be the LEADER in the relationship. Not the same thing as being "the man". And plenty of women prefer that. Myself included. If that's not for you, fine, great, you do you, but let's not trash submissive men or act like women aren't supposed to lead. I'm sorry, but quite frankly, you're being misogynistic.
Can we please stop calling passivity, submission, or cowardice "feminine" and leadership, bravery, or protectiveness "masculine¨? I know you ladies mean well, and I support you looking for whatever you personally like in a partner, but enforcing those ideas is wildly disrespectful to women.
I am assertive.
I am a leader.
And I refuse to identify with men and manliness just to embrace and respect my own natural positive traits.
Good guys should be more platformed online
bad idea. Social media is toxic. They would become the same men you were running away from.
Anyone shaking their head and waving their hand in front of a camera for tiktok is going to struggle in life, a collective sickness
The obsession and worship of this idealistic fantasy of romance is the issue concerning finding a “good” man. Why do we feel that we NEED a man to love us and validate us before we can feel happy, confident and fulfilled in life? A good man who loves you and cares for you should be appreciated and cherished, but you should feel within yourself that you are loved and cared for without need for his input. A man caring for you isn’t a rubber stamp of approval that makes you finally allowed to feel complete. It’s a nice addition that you can take or leave depending on what your aspirations for yourself are. It shouldn’t matter if he exists or not, but if you’re caring for yourself he’ll likely show up and want to love you.
Exactly! It honestly feels like elevated Pickmeism. Pickmes get jabs on this channel but these hopes and wishes for good men dont feel any different than what pickmes do? Im confused 😕
BIOLOGY
@@LifeofAkos and of course, by no means am I saying wanting and pursuing a relationship is a bad thing all. Especially if you’re interested in starting a family and all that, that’s valid. But I notice this level of agony surrounding when and how to meet this hypothetical man and it’s like…why doesn’t your life have worth and meaning independently of this idea? Why can’t you just be patient and uphold your standards and boundaries because you know you’ll be okay regardless?
Comments like these are annoying. This channel is centered around romantic relationships and most women who watch Elle WANT to be in romantic relationships. If you don't, that's fine but don't trash the women who do. You can watch over videos if you don't like this topic.
@@chrystianaw8256 If you could actually read and comprehend, you would see that nowhere in my comments (I did write two and elaborate on my thoughts before you started yapping) did I “trash” or discourage women from pursuing romantic relationships. What I actually expressed is that a change in attitude would make navigating relationships easier, because the attitude is what makes it harder than it needs to be. But you can’t read and I expected something dense like this in response. That’s a personal problem on your behalf, so you deal with that alone.
My last relationship left me so drained. Financially, physically, mentally, emotionally...slowly trying to get everything back together.
I literally lost so much being with him from possesions, to pets and soon my gallbladder lol.
Nervous system attacker that one. Sorry to hear about this.
I should add: he wasn't by any means abusive. He was just very lazy and un-ambitious. Everything landed on me from working multiple jobs and household chores, plus trying to be in school. You can tell what suffered because after I left him I was able to finish my associates and currently at my dream school.
Still a lot I have to work through. I was with him for about a decade. Being silly and thinking he would grow up or change.
Omg sending you a big long hug and much loving energy. Hope you will be well soon
You will get there slowly. Take it easy. A great woman to listen to whilst you heal is louise hay. She helped me through my healing journey. I wish you well.
No it hasn’t always been like that. I remember that it completely changed around 2017 and I was shocked how little respect women receive today. I blame it on Tinder, the rise of porn and MGTOW- then the idea of pick-up artists that teaches men to treat women poorly and the idea that women should chase them.
I actually avoid dating now
Men going their own way was supposed to give you women peace..now you blame us leaving you be? What type of backwards thinking is that 😂
@@HeIsEternal-mgtow is not a monolith and instead of being happily single men, like the original intent, most mgtow actually spend all their time online complaining about women for divorcing them
@@cecilyerker Don't give this person your attention. Your attention is valuable. He's here because he wants it. Spend it on better people.
I think maybe your personal experience completely changed around 2017, because a whole lot of women have been living in a hellscape of shitty men for a lot longer than that. Like..... thousands of years longer than that. lol
I remember when MGTOW was about the "better alone than with a bad partner" for a red minute in, like, 2014, and the message was that you don't have to take bad treatment in a relationship and stay just because you're "supposed" to be this or do that in your life, sometimes due to your gender. That you can be happy alone and being single isn't a shame or a bad thing.
Then it became an outlet for men to take out all their frustrations in life on women - the female gender -and to feel better about themselves in the process. Essentially, many of the men flipped their inferiority complex around in their intent to get rid of the guilt and lack of confidence and faith in themselves and became brash, mean and malicious, and now they suffer from a superiority complex. Except they don't suffer, they are loving it.
I was on board at first in a time when I myself had come to the same conclusion - that the society sells us relationships as an end all be all solution, which it's not. I could relate to the epiphany that I indeed do not have to be married or have a partner in this life if I don't want to. (I do, but that was the great awakening for me at the time.) Then at some point I noticed that I, along with all the other women who had supported the movement, had become the enemy number 1 for the simple fact that we were born women.
Men went from suffering from outward expectations to feeling like they needed to get revenge on women for what THEY themselves once felt they owed their (female) partners. Like they are ashamed that they once wanted to be good to their partners at the expense of their own wellbeing, and now they are punishing the whole female world for the way they feel about that.
Love to cook. When it’s not appreciated, I can’t think of anything I hate more.
Now that I am with a masculine energy man my life has become a dream. Everything is easy 🙌 whatever it is, he's got it and I don't have to worry
Yes the audacity of some man is just incredible 😢 On my second date with a potential partner, he invited me over and when we arrived he told me that some friends would come and help him take his old couch to bring the new one in so as a good polite person i helped out and guess what... I did the effing cleaning of his living room and then cleaned his effing kitchen because he needed the pan to cook the steak for the evening 😡😡 Just thinking about it makes me soooo effing mad 💢😡💢 And then this p.o.s. snored the whole damn night 😭😭😭 I never contacted him again 😬
thank you. these are the conversations we need to be encouraging and having
2nd date: "Cook for me"
Me: "Build me a house"
Equality, eh?
This is what iove about my man. He doesn't enjoy certain types of men who give off weird energyies with bad traits, hes always soft spoken, he always shows me and tells me how much he loves me, always encouraging me and believing in me even when I doubt myself.
Are the zoomers allright? Why are people defining their gender identity through baked goods. I don't bake banana bread, am I feminine? Should I be having an identity crisis?
I think it can be difficult to be in a relationship with a good man because on the other hand you have to be healed too.
If you want a generous and kind man you can't be disrespectfull, distant and bitter toward him . Even this type of behaviour is easy to apply and can protect yourself from guys pretty well.
Otherwise he will just leave and you will hurt him and your ownself.
I think the most difficult part is to put slowly your guard down and trust a man after all the crazy and dangerous guys that pass your road.
So yes, you can know and meet good guys irl . But to be able to recognize them and open your arms to them ..... Bestie, do the work before.
15:39 its been 8 months since I had this experience and I will never forget it. Never knew that my mind could rest, my body was unusually at ease, I could breathe easier when I was with him. Felt safer for once. He was truly a wonderful man.
May I ask why the relationship ended?
@@hafsaz_ We weren't in a relationship, we coincidentally met during a training programme, we knew eachother beforethat. This memory was from the interaction we had.
@@hafsaz_ It wasn't a relationship, we coincidentally met at a training program for a brief period. We knew each other before. It was the interaction I had there I was refering to.
I can’t convey how relieved this video made me feel😩😩😩
Men who seek power, even in the smallest of ways...men who compete to win an illusion is not likely to be genuinely invested. The motivation is a different kind.
Its so interesting when it comes to free domestic labor and cooking at home - the best one for that are women. But if it's a restaurant bussiness - the best chefs are men, huh?
My husband is a strong leader that people gravitate towards. Everyone loves him, it’s one thing that attracted me to him. He is a fantastic cook too… he takes care of business around our home, plans our vacations with me in mind (as in having to cook and clean while on vacation, isn’t a vacation), does what he says he’s going to do. He’s kind to others in need, including homeless, animals, etc. no one is left in the rain when he’s around.
I’m not lucky to have found him, I was smart enough to know what I wanted. Period.
I take care of him because I want to, not because I have to 🎉
that's great :) I hope I find someone like that too
Glad you are with someone who is like that.
The wrong man will wreck your nervous system! 💯 I wish I knew this in my 20’s…. But, I’m glad there’s women learning this stuff a lot earlier than we used to. ❤❤❤
Chad vader was there
I don't know how you don't have more views/subscribers. You are PREACHING ❤️🙌🏿 Keep it up bestie!
I was quite content to remain single for the rest of my life. Then I got my healed, generous, loving man. My life is easier, brighter, and I am learning how to embrace being a spoiled girly for the first time!
Not Princess Peach!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
What’s interesting is that although women typically cook all meals in the home and for the family, professional cooking is still largely done by men. Until the mid-19 century, it was actually considered shameful for women to be professional cooks.😑
I mean she’s not wrong. It’s a whole different level of treatment from a woman when you bring it out in her. That feminine energy is intoxicating.
Brilliant. And so good to see men getting it. Thank you for giving me hope again.
Found a man. I've been in a couple relationships that were less than a year in length... This is only the second crush I've had and I'm 29.... I'm so grateful that he exists. He had to deal with some "not so divine feminine energy" I'm going to call it feral feminine energy....
Anyways I saw a clip of teal swan that made a point that female energy is reactionary so without healthy masculine energy we do not have a reason to be in our feminine energy. But the feminine energy is the strongest when we are surrounded by authentic and safe masculine energy.
It occurs to me that the reason women will never be able to fix a man is because he needs to do the work himself... We react positively to responsible men. Men who will just tell you know something isn't possible are better than a man who says it's possible and doesn't keep his promises.
I was always a more masculine woman, probably because my father always worked 12h+ every single day and when he came home all he did was scream at us. After I started dating my current bf I started wanting to dress in a more feminine way, cooking for him out of the blue, wanting to do makeup, hair and nails. He never asked for it or made bad comments. He always appreciates my efforts. We support each other's hobbies and dreams. think it's because he treats me so well it makes me wanna give it back. We've been together for 6 years
“Omg … came out of nowhere…” sent me 🤣
This is so relatable, I love doing that for loved ones too. But not just non stop and thanklessly
I will never be arrogant enough to say there arent good left in men but I am also a realist. They are a small percentage
ABSOLUTELY. I know because I've been meeting them, and they are wonderful. 🙂
THIS. This reminds me of my boyfriend. He's just, to me he's divine masculine at his finest. He likes to cook for us, and often cooks with me. He's highly intelligent, especially emotionally, is well educated, open minded and just has a magnetic personality where he's got good guy and girl friends from all the way back in 7th grade, all of whom are good people, we're all just a bunch of nerds and cosplayers with eccentric tendencies. Even if he doesn't agree with some of the stuff I do, he accepts me wholeheartedly nonetheless. He's a mental and emotional provider, in addition to regularly using his pocket money just to cover his transportation to my place every weekend and treat us on the weekends if he's got enough for that and transportation. To where he'd save months in advance for cosplay events just to buy us food and a treat or two, even if it's something as small as a ice cream for the both of us or a pack of anime stickers of my favourite character. He lets himself show vulnerability, and helps me when I feel vulnerable too. He is protective of me. He makes me feel beautiful and confident and would actively spur the latter. He supports my hobbies and lets me and write and draw to my heart's content, he really enjoys reading through my stuff and looking at my characters, as well as hearing me talk about them. Especially since in addition to cosplay, gaming and art, he's also a DnD DM, in addition to being an artist too since he likes to do watercolouring painting and poetry.
In the 8-9 months we were dating, not a single fight safe for one which was due to a mistake and that one didn't last long the moment he realized it was one. Everytime we disagree on something, we always talk it out thoroughly and find a compromise. His birthday gift to me was a poem he wrote himself by hand, a watercolouring painting and a commissioned art piece of one of my cosplays we did together that he saved up for months in advance. And in addition to all of that, he's always been nothing but polite and appreciative and hardworking. Not to mention, VERY quick to call out the behaviour of below bare minimal effort men. Even in Public. And I fricking swear the longer I go on about this man the more and more I can't help but remind myself of all the reasons I love him and we've only been dating for almost a year now. Our Anniversary is this June. I've never been happier, he actively has made my life not just easier but better and more fulfilling because prior to him, I was still a mental and emotional wreck from losing my father at a young age and being severely bullied and socially isolated by other peers well into Junior High, as well as Covid trauma. I always thought I was going to die alone, especially since I didn't want to play the same game Men* wants us to play, and I wasn't willing to sell my soul for a relationship. I was initially a socially awkward bastard who barely had my shit together before I met him, and since then with his encouragement and support FROM DAY ONE I've been doing nothing but changing for the better into a much more confident and sociable woman.
So ladies, the good men, THEY ARE OUT THERE. You just have to keep your eyes open because unlike below bare minimal effort men who don't have shit going on in their life, they don't loaf around asking for handouts and throwing tantrums when they don't get any. The good men are the ones who are actively well versed in their own rich inner lives with friends and hobbies and are too busy building and adding onto the community for that. Even if unfortunately, that means they're typically too quiet to pop up on the radar otherwise in the same space as the immature whiney bitch boys who do nothing but complain and turn themselves into beacons for negativity.
Sometimes I wonder if the lone wolf thing also applies to women? Because then I get scared Bc I definitely have a hard time making friends and am I therefore a walking red flag? My ‘friends’ in the past were only my friends Bc we went to the same school and it was so toxic but now I’m in engineering and there are barely any women doing it and even then they seem reluctant to socialize in the class. I don’t go out other than this so I realize that this could be a factor but like the lack of 3rd spaces is not something I can control yk?
Men bring danger to women by default so women have to be careful with redflags like the lone wolf. Women should also be careful saying to a man they have no friends or no family. Why ? Because men wil take advantage of women's solitude. The power dynamic is always in the favor of men in hetero relationships.
If I love manifestelle 1 more time ❤. I can't get tired of her videos
Omg, I have been watching this show called Superman and Louis. Superman depiction is peak divine masculine. You can tell that his-masculinity isn’t derived from just his buffness and strength. Not only he is a protector and provider, but he does it in a way that is gentle and kind.
That man at the end truly gets it, I almost cried listening to him. Any woman would be blessed to be with him.
Monogamy is definitely not a new social construct it is the default Natural, biological construct. Also, Monogamy exists so that children can grow up without psychological problems and daddy issues
This must be one of your best videos up to date, Elle!!! 💯👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🎯You totally nailed it!!! 🎯 So much truth and yeah, made me think about my ex constantly, how he really put me in survival mode and felt totally OK about it, like He is not there to meet my needs even, I need to look for social house/group/therapy etc to have my needs (not even wants!) met! He tried to convince me about it for months. He never could because I'm stubborn OR as he said - I need to grow and mature and heal until I stop wanting anything from him. Then we just live like 2 ships passing each other at night - his preferred scenario.
Yes 🙌 So true. I’ve experienced both sides and a healthy masculine brings you peace and creativity definitely. An unhealed man brings anxiety and stress. Amazing content as always ❤️❤️. Look after yourself and those you care about and let them show you if they’re worth your time . I’ve opted out of dating at the moment and have done counselling as I let a healthy men go due to my childhood but no more. Xx
I've been ina few abusive relationships throughout my life, and i finally found the perfect man for me. With him, im learning to be a better partner too, and we are always growing together and learning from each other.
Yes! I will teach both my son and my daughter how to cook
agreed, real men are busy working and living a normal life, not saying stupid crap online.
And LMAO at incels who say “brings energy” “brings rhe table.” My father was the breadwinner, but was the b##ch and my mom was the one who brought masculine energy, life, and furniture into our home. Energy and provider my ass.
Only emotional intelligent men know how to set boundaries with friends, yet maintain a healthy relationship. Some, very vicious.
Women are no exception to this.
I really love your video 🌼
Shouldn’t the man be cooking for you in the beginning ? I don’t think I’ve ever cooked for a man in my life, but all my boyfriends have cooked for me
Great content, sis ❤ this is note for me, the world not always dark and gloomy 😂❤
What's your culture bc ny husband is 2nd gen Filipino-American, and his dad was the family cook and definitely made some indulgent meals. When my husband cooks, it's the same way, but we live a more "American" lifestyle. That's funny
as a man, I really appreciate this insight. thank you.
Yeah we love men who know how to appreciate us
The parallel between man cooking better since they don't manage the family finance was sooo eye opening. Such a deep dig into family household. I'm shook
A healed masculine energy man who wants you will heal you, even if you're not in the right place yet. He will help you step into that divine feminine and he will facilitate that for you.
I dated more than my fair share of men* and Now have a great guy. and I am thankful for him every day. I think I will go make him a batch of Peanut butter cookies now. You know. ;-) Just because.
Oh my god, I just thought about Peach from Mario when you said men see us as the prize at the end of a quest and how subconsciously that surely must've added to this notion that was "educated" into men*...
AND THEN you literally show her xD GIRRL. I LOVE your content. I said it already and I'll say it again. I need that positive brainwashing.
I'm currently deleting all my old songs that I aparantly used to like (?) and that are brainwashing me in a negative way like rappers singing about bitches, pussy etc. and also the pickme songs like "when you ready come and get it" or "I do what I can to get you off, Might just fuck him with my makeup on" etc.
Some of these songs have a really good melody and it kind of breaks my heart, but I am so freaking sensitive to these kinds of messages. So they gotta go.
Can you please to a video on how you rewired your brain ? I'm already reading books and I have a few new songs. (Also Thanks to you, too -> paris paloma - labour) but I need MOOOORREEE.
Bc. unfortunately I'm still in survival mode and I haven't met any healed, divine men, YET.
I'm doing my best to be a spoiled girly, but truth be told, I am not yet, fully. (Due to circumstances)
Get a sicilian man who can cook like his nona. Food is their culture, love language, social interactions, their every discussions.
P.S. ⚠️ pancetta and bacon are not the same ⚠️
This lesson is blessing my heart with hope 💕
My masculine man doesn’t get threaded by my academic achievements ❤
OMG ELLE IM IN MY BREAD MAKING ERA TOO!! And i started going to the gym lol funny combo but ive been finding more hobbies ❤️ gives me peace
Bless all those beautiful men in this video! Hope they live a happy life!
Me waking up at 8, laying in bed til 10 and now it’s 1015. I’ve got a bread baking in the oven and chicken wings brineing (idk how to spell it) you mentioned sour dough bread and I said maam if that’s not God telling you to do your sour dough starter IDK what that is!! So I had to pause and tell you ❤ 😂sending good vibes
And that’s for being in your full feminine era on your day off ❤❤❤
My man is a good person but he has alot of bad guy friends because there’s not alot to choose from in the friend pool anyways. But he has a best friend that he treats like a brother and their brotherhood is so sweet
Yessss thank you Elle!
I don't understand why cooking is considered such a hard task. I love to bake. Especially during the holiday season, I love to bake cakes and cookies.
You said women are not rehabs. Now I’m wondering, WHO EVEN WORKS AT A REHAB? Spends time around the broken, sometimes unwilling and often stubborn personalities that could drag them down? Like, either someone with amazing boundaries, or someone who is themselves broken. Am I wrong?
Of course they’re out there. Social is too superficial and fake to find good men out there irl 😂
I believe that all love comes from inside of us. You can give love but the only love anyone can feel is from inside of themselves. When we meet someone who makes us feel safe, we allow that love to come out and flow through our bodies. This is why we can fall in love with a stranger. It’s also why we can fall out of love with our spouses. Love comes from inside of us. If you are struggling in a relationship or struggling to find a man who makes you feel safe, search inside of yourself, find what insecurities are stopping you. If your man is a little b boy, it’s because he is suppressing his masculinity. Most men are afraid of their masculinity after it was demonized. Young men under 25 were taught to suppress their masculinity. A divine masculine man is the same as an immature boy who has since found self discipline and self love. A divine masculine man has bad days and they will shut down if you cannot give back divine feminine energy.
I need a handy man. Money would be nice too. But I am forever tinkering. I know how to do everything. Fix cars, electrical, woodworking, but there's sooooo many heavy things. Things that involve tools that might cut off my fingers. I could be making really cool art and sourdough if I didn't have to do that all myself.
Thanks Elle :) this gives me some hope and education!!! ❤
They're not out there, except with rare exception.
Greatly thank you for waking me up. I was waiting for your positive video recently and here we are!! I've learnt from experiences, I'm so proud of myself to be able to reach you. Since you woke me up, I was looking for a completely new imge. And recently finally...yes!! Divine masculine energy!! Yes I'm starting to find them in SNS actually, like you talk about it. That's totally unknown thing for me... I'm excited to discover and experience totally new. Thank you for sharing your beautiful knowledge❤❤❤
Cool video, but what if we want a divine FEMININE man?
21:34 - so basically the opposite of Fresh & Fit (Fake & Fraud).
21:53 got me cracking up🤣🤣🤣🤣
Fresh bread is top tier! 💯
It honestly depends though, I love cooking and I’ve cooked for dates before, made some steak had some wine it was pretty good. And the advice in this video is pretty good as well but for anyone reading this comment: as long as you’re with the person you love, whether that’s a masculine man or not or whether she’s a feminine woman or not none of that matters. Because when you’re with the person you love and I mean LOVE you won’t be able to live without them (in a good way) they’ll become part of your world and you theirs. So to anybody who’s single here obviously keep your standards for dating cuz we wouldn’t want to be dating some people that don’t fit the bill but all I’m saying is that you might be surprised where you find love and when you do find love and I mean true love don’t throw it away like I did because it’s a beautiful thing and if you do/did what I did you’ll find it very hard to love or find that love again
I am in my 'rendez-vous avec amies' era 😍
As a trans man and the way dysphoria can make everything so gendered, it’s hard to not have that toxic masculine pattern around you. I try to always improve and learn the best way to be a man while also accepting myself which is hard in itself 😅 but that’s why I love watching essays like this. There’s just no excuse for men to stay the way they are
I'm only mid way through the video, so bear that in mind when reading this comment...
I feel like I am with a strong, masculine, capable, kind, caring man who helps me in all things and always makes my life easier.
However, I can't say that he promotes my feminine softness! I don't have a feminine softness, I am a bull of a woman, he calls me his pioneer wife, capable of all things, hard-working, and a partner who supports him. I think he would like it if I didn't push myself so hard because he cares about my health and well-being, but he knows I am a bull and he can't change that, lucky for me he helps me all the time and I am more capable because of him. But that only reinforces that bullish nature of mine. I mean I feel like I could put anything on his shoulders and he could take care of it, but I love bearing responsibility so that I can bask in the pride of my own accomplishments.
I’m glad you changed the thumbnail 😅
i met this type of man @ 19 and i thank my stars every day neither of us fucked it up so far 😂♥️
beautiful ✨
Just found your channel and i love it here 🎉
That one woman was radiant. Love to see that for her.
im praying for us girlies 🇺🇸🇺🇸
i get up at 4 am everyday to make breakfast and pack his lunch because he treats me like a princess, - i am so blessed to have him in my life 🩷
The sad music in the start simbolizes the issue of this good man drought. ❤🥲