I think when we reach a "certain age", as we used to say, you realize the opinion of others matter squat diddly in your life. Yes, at times the opinion of those we are closet too matter. We're all human afterall. 🤗❤😏
Dear Becca,you have to be one of the wisest humans ive ever had the pleasure of "meeting"..i could not agree more than i do with this one...life have gotten so much better since i did this too...thank you for what you are
This. During covid I had all these insights and changes ( I think a lot of us did) stuff doesn’t matter anymore that I once thought was important. It’s such a good mindset change
Being loved for who you are is such a precious gift. It’s not one everyone has unfortunately. Definitely something to be grateful for, like your little pearls of wisdom ❤
Comparison is the thief of joy. I own a book called “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck”, written by Mark Manson. It’s incredibly good. I hope you’re doing well. 🧡
mark manson IS incredibly good. reading his website....oh boy. talk about kicks. BOTH in the rear and into the front. he knows how to make you look deep and honestly into the mirror and its not nice.
@@dirtyunclehubert There are times I want my hand held and times I need to be shoved into the fray, and I feel Mark does both well (for me). Mark Manson isn't for everyone, but I feel his brand of humor, introspection and self-awareness makes him one of the better authors.
I stopped caring what others thought of me after I went to Iraq and Afghanistan 3 times and came back alive. Peoples opinions of me do not matter at all, I realize there are more important things going on than peoples opinions. Also love ya Becca!!! Hugs
Great massage. I always care, what people think about me. Gave me a lots of sleepless nights. Thanks for this video 📹, it gave me a lot to think about. Cheers.
Fantastic video as usual, Becca! What a perfect topic to focus on. The ability to care less comes with time, I think. I’m into my early 40s and only now am I starting to care less what other people think. Thank you! And the smell of a paperback book! The BEST! ☺️
You are amazing! I really appreciate your insights. I am so glad to see you happy again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You, my friend have made a difference in my life! ❤️
Thanks again Becca, as always your video made me smile (I love the end bits 😂) but also it helped me reflect on my “obsession” about what people think of me. I need to work on that so much but I’m not sure I knew that until I watched your video! Tx❤️
Great vid🥰 I always worry about what others think of me and feel unliked but I’m really trying not give a S*** but thank you it’s definitely made me think 😊
oh my gosh I LOVE this video! ❤❤ you said something I say all the time (and struggle to get through my head/remember!) "what other people think of me is none of my business!" and it's so true. Everything around us is just kind of a mirror of the things going on in our head anyway. For example, nobody can get to us and trigger us or make us sad without a negative story or thought that's already in there. Like if someone said I can't speaking English or can't draw, I would be like, "pff... I don't believe this." and I'd be SURE it wasn't true. But if I'm comparing myself to others or insecure about something or I already have a negative story about in my head, then I'm either going to find people who trigger that or worry about what people think of me in those ways. Do they think I'm cute? (insecurity about how I look) Do they like me? (insecurity about being enough) etc. etc. I'll try to check out that book. I haven't read much about stoicism.
Love this video, I once read that the reason we tend to give so much thought to what others think of us comes from a primitive survival instinct, when humans lived in small cave tribes being seen unfavourably could see you outcast from your tribe which greatly decreased your chances of survival. learning that as well as the quote "don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from" has been quite a vital tool in helping me to develop into my own person and to stop putting other peoples thoughts (or what I assumed their thoughts to be) ahead of my own wellbeing and self-worth. Keep making these amazing messages Becca, you're making a change in the world with each one!
I just watched this video. I don't know how I missed it. I guess I'm too old to care about what others think of me but I sure struggled with that in my younger years! Now I just continue on and drive my 12 yo vehicle and wear clothes from the thrift store and I'm content! Thank you for sharing! 💕
It is so true that we don't need, and should not, look for the "approval" and friendship, love, of people who are worthless, cheap, or haters. Actually we should look to get their refusal, that would be a sign of our worth. Thanks Becca for another great video. Actually I have the feeling your videos, the depth of their topics and your confidence in shooting them are constantly increasing 😊👏 And thanks so much for the tip on the book by Derren Brown, I look forward to reading it. Have you read "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck"? 😄
Beccaypooh do videos during the week!!! My job has chopped me down to 2 days a week for work and only an hour and half!!! I'm going freaking mad not doing crap during the week!!! Well Monday and Tuesday I have tons of job interviews to get toooo!!!
I don’t worry about what people think about me, I just wish I didn’t care so much about work or people not doing their job that get paid the same as I do!!
Now, here we have a subject on which I consider myself something of an expert. Not caring isn’t as easy as many people seem to think. To truly release the soul crushing scars of battle & slowly start to walk in the light of a new day, first you have to fight the battle. My daughter recently purchased a book for me :- “How to be less like yourself” so I’m considering this a goal achieved. Keep smiling & keep that middle finger loaded. 😎
I care what my ex thinks that's about it but sadly that breaks me so damn much. But yeah the past really doesn't really exist but the past makes the present.. and losing my ex because of my health etc makes me hate myself
The reason some people stop caring is that they feel hopeless. Why care when it doesn’t change anything? They get tired of putting forth effort when there doesn’t seem to be a payoff. When people stop caring they are being defensive sometimes. It’s easier to not care and not get hurt than to care and make yourself vulnerable to suffering. I’ve been there many times, not caring about anything. I was depressed and felt alienated from everyone. It seemed that caring only caused more pain. I’ve sensed learned that it was not my caring that allowed me to be hurt, but perspective. It’s okay to care, but you don’t have to get attached to the thing you care about. You don’t have to become vulnerable either. So what, someone hurts you. The pain won’t last forever. You pick yourself up and try again. Like anything else, it’s a number’s game. There will be people who do reciprocate. It does matter whether you care or not. If you don’t care, you’re less likely to take action to change things. That’s not productive. This video is amazing, I wish you the best, my sweet
T he Man in the Glass When you get what you want in your struggle for self and the world makes you king for a day Just go to the mirror and look at yourself and see what that man has to say For it isn't your father or mother or wife who judgment upon you must pass The fellow whose verdict counts the most in your life is the one staring back from the glass Some people may think you a straight-shooting chum and call you a wonderful guy But the guy in the glass says you're only a bum if you can't look him straight in the eye He's the fellow to please never mind all the rest for he's with you clear up to the end And you've passed your most dangerous difficult test if the man in the glass is your friend You may fool the whole world down the pathway of life and get pats on the back as pass But your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you've cheated the man in the glass.
People are just like different flavors of ice cream..... all ice cream is "good" but not everyone likes the same type and flavor. If someone doesn't like me, I just shrug it off because I'm just not their type of flavor.
I think when we reach a "certain age", as we used to say, you realize the opinion of others matter squat diddly in your life. Yes, at times the opinion of those we are closet too matter. We're all human afterall.
🤗❤😏
Haha we certainly are all human! 🧡
A beautiful message. It took me a lifetime to get to this place. May this touch the hearts of those who are in the youth of their lives .
Ow thank you so so much. 🧡
Dear Becca,you have to be one of the wisest humans ive ever had the pleasure of "meeting"..i could not agree more than i do with this one...life have gotten so much better since i did this too...thank you for what you are
I'm currently sat in a cafe and your comment almost made me cry in public!!! Thank you so much for always being so supportive. 🧡
This. During covid I had all these insights and changes ( I think a lot of us did) stuff doesn’t matter anymore that I once thought was important. It’s such a good mindset change
It really is! You should be so proud of yourself for going through that change. 🧡
What a wise young lady you have become ❤ well done and thank you ❤
Thank YOU - always. 🧡
Being loved for who you are is such a precious gift. It’s not one everyone has unfortunately. Definitely something to be grateful for, like your little pearls of wisdom ❤
It really is. Thank you so much. 🧡
😘🥰💖🌈🦄✌ Wishing everyone who reads this message peace, prosperity & progress in all they do 😘🥰💖🌈🦄✌
This made my day?! What a lovely thing to say. Thank you so much - I hope YOU find all these things too. Sending a huge hug and love. 🧡
@@IamBecca 🌻⭐💗⭐🌻
Comparison is the thief of joy.
I own a book called “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck”, written by Mark Manson. It’s incredibly good.
I hope you’re doing well. 🧡
It's so difficult not to compare relationships or material things to other people. You're so right!
mark manson IS incredibly good. reading his website....oh boy. talk about kicks. BOTH in the rear and into the front. he knows how to make you look deep and honestly into the mirror and its not nice.
@@dirtyunclehubert There are times I want my hand held and times I need to be shoved into the fray, and I feel Mark does both well (for me). Mark Manson isn't for everyone, but I feel his brand of humor, introspection and self-awareness makes him one of the better authors.
Oh I am definitely going to give this a read! 🧡
I stopped caring what others thought of me after I went to Iraq and Afghanistan 3 times and came back alive. Peoples opinions of me do not matter at all, I realize there are more important things going on than peoples opinions.
Also love ya Becca!!! Hugs
This is amazing. You're so brave - thank you so much. Hugs - always - you absolute legend. 🧡
These videos are getting better and better, love this one 💙
Thank you 🧡🧡🧡
Great massage. I always care, what people think about me. Gave me a lots of sleepless nights. Thanks for this video 📹, it gave me a lot to think about. Cheers.
Thank you so much. 🧡
Fantastic video as usual, Becca! What a perfect topic to focus on. The ability to care less comes with time, I think. I’m into my early 40s and only now am I starting to care less what other people think. Thank you!
And the smell of a paperback book! The BEST! ☺️
Thank you so so much. 🥺 and books smell great!!! 🧡
You are amazing! I really appreciate your insights. I am so glad to see you happy again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You, my friend have made a difference in my life! ❤️
YOU are amazing. Thank you so so much. This bought a tear to my eye - I am grateful for you. 🧡
Thanks Becca have a wonderful week !!!!
Thank you!! 🧡🧡🧡
You're awesome. You're aura ✨️ is so magnetic. All the best.
Awww thank you so so much. 🧡
Thanks again Becca, as always your video made me smile (I love the end bits 😂) but also it helped me reflect on my “obsession” about what people think of me. I need to work on that so much but I’m not sure I knew that until I watched your video! Tx❤️
Haha the end bits are just for you Tracie!!! I'm glad someone gets to them haha!! Sending a massive hug. 🧡
Becca, many good points. Thank you.
Thank YOU Mark, always. 🧡
Great vid🥰 I always worry about what others think of me and feel unliked but I’m really trying not give a S*** but thank you it’s definitely made me think 😊
Awww thank you so much for watching. 🧡
I needed this today, thank you! 🧡
Sending a massive hug. 🧡
oh my gosh I LOVE this video! ❤❤ you said something I say all the time (and struggle to get through my head/remember!) "what other people think of me is none of my business!" and it's so true. Everything around us is just kind of a mirror of the things going on in our head anyway. For example, nobody can get to us and trigger us or make us sad without a negative story or thought that's already in there. Like if someone said I can't speaking English or can't draw, I would be like, "pff... I don't believe this." and I'd be SURE it wasn't true. But if I'm comparing myself to others or insecure about something or I already have a negative story about in my head, then I'm either going to find people who trigger that or worry about what people think of me in those ways. Do they think I'm cute? (insecurity about how I look) Do they like me? (insecurity about being enough) etc. etc. I'll try to check out that book. I haven't read much about stoicism.
Brilliant video. Thank you.
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Love this video, I once read that the reason we tend to give so much thought to what others think of us comes from a primitive survival instinct, when humans lived in small cave tribes being seen unfavourably could see you outcast from your tribe which greatly decreased your chances of survival. learning that as well as the quote "don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from" has been quite a vital tool in helping me to develop into my own person and to stop putting other peoples thoughts (or what I assumed their thoughts to be) ahead of my own wellbeing and self-worth.
Keep making these amazing messages Becca, you're making a change in the world with each one!
Thank YOU for always being so supportive - you always have been. Thank you for this comment. 🧡
I just watched this video. I don't know how I missed it. I guess I'm too old to care about what others think of me but I sure struggled with that in my younger years! Now I just continue on and drive my 12 yo vehicle and wear clothes from the thrift store and I'm content! Thank you for sharing! 💕
I love that. Being content is my ultimate goal in life. Thank you so much for sharing and taking the time to comment. Sending so much love your way. 🧡
9:40 I still do this quite a lot I’m now video/audio recording everything in case I think I’ve made a mistake when I haven’t
This video helps
Sending you hugs. Are you a reader? I recently read this book by Baek Sehee and they talk about recording things!
Lotta love 🧡
Thanks I’m not a reader but I probably should be will check it out
Sending healing positive vibrations
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Thank you, always. 🧡
Hope all is well.
Thank you so much, and you too. 🧡
Hello lovely 🌹 Love this video and you have such beautiful hair❤️☺️
Thank you so so much - you're so lovely. 🧡
Comparison is the thief of joy
You're so right. 🧡
It is so true that we don't need, and should not, look for the "approval" and friendship, love, of people who are worthless, cheap, or haters. Actually we should look to get their refusal, that would be a sign of our worth. Thanks Becca for another great video. Actually I have the feeling your videos, the depth of their topics and your confidence in shooting them are constantly increasing 😊👏 And thanks so much for the tip on the book by Derren Brown, I look forward to reading it. Have you read "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck"? 😄
Oooooh no I need to give this book a go!! Definitely read Derren Brown - it is so great. Thank you so much for this comment. 🧡
Beccaypooh do videos during the week!!! My job has chopped me down to 2 days a week for work and only an hour and half!!! I'm going freaking mad not doing crap during the week!!! Well Monday and Tuesday I have tons of job interviews to get toooo!!!
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I don’t worry about what people think about me, I just wish I didn’t care so much about work or people not doing their job that get paid the same as I do!!
Oh bless you, just make sure to look after yourself. 🧡
Now, here we have a subject on which I consider myself something of an expert.
Not caring isn’t as easy as many people seem to think.
To truly release the soul crushing scars of battle & slowly start to walk in the light of a new day, first you have to fight the battle.
My daughter recently purchased a book for me :- “How to be less like yourself” so I’m considering this a goal achieved.
Keep smiling & keep that middle finger loaded. 😎
Keep that middle finger loaded is amazing advice!!! Hahaha thank you Troy - always. 🧡
I care what my ex thinks that's about it but sadly that breaks me so damn much. But yeah the past really doesn't really exist but the past makes the present.. and losing my ex because of my health etc makes me hate myself
Oh no - I really hope you find peace. 🧡
We care about you.
I care about you too! 🧡
The reason some people stop caring is that they feel hopeless. Why care when it doesn’t change anything? They get tired of putting forth effort when there doesn’t seem to be a payoff. When people stop caring they are being defensive sometimes. It’s easier to not care and not get hurt than to care and make yourself vulnerable to suffering.
I’ve been there many times, not caring about anything. I was depressed and felt alienated from everyone. It seemed that caring only caused more pain. I’ve sensed learned that it was not my caring that allowed me to be hurt, but perspective. It’s okay to care, but you don’t have to get attached to the thing you care about. You don’t have to become vulnerable either. So what, someone hurts you. The pain won’t last forever. You pick yourself up and try again. Like anything else, it’s a number’s game. There will be people who do reciprocate. It does matter whether you care or not. If you don’t care, you’re less likely to take action to change things. That’s not productive. This video is amazing, I wish you the best, my sweet
Ugh, again, you're a marvel. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and taking the time to write this. You're amazing. 🧡
@@IamBecca thank you for your kind words, Becca ❤️ you're amazing human being.
you would make the BEST ASMRtist!!
Haha this isn't the first time someone has said this to me! 🧡
How is Poppy?!
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Poppy is living her best life! 🧡
T he Man in the Glass
When you get what you want in your struggle for self
and the world makes you king for a day
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
and see what that man has to say
For it isn't your father or mother or wife
who judgment upon you must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts the most in your life
is the one staring back from the glass
Some people may think you a straight-shooting chum
and call you a wonderful guy
But the guy in the glass says you're only a bum
if you can't look him straight in the eye
He's the fellow to please never mind all the rest
for he's with you clear up to the end
And you've passed your most dangerous difficult test
if the man in the glass is your friend
You may fool the whole world down the pathway
of life and get pats on the back as pass
But your final reward will be heartaches and
tears if you've cheated the man in the glass.
🧡🧡🧡
People are just like different flavors of ice cream..... all ice cream is "good" but not everyone likes the same type and flavor. If someone doesn't like me, I just shrug it off because I'm just not their type of flavor.
I love this - you're so right! Thank you so much for this. 🧡