I approve of this uncle's way of thinking 100%! The practice of niamhlob niamyau serves no purpose in this day and age---it is merely the practice of selfishness on a man's part. I hope many people listen to this story and follow this uncle's example.
This is truly an inspire story that this uncle have great leadership that he talk the talk and he walk the walk. Hard to find good man these day. Wish we have more men like him so our hmong community can have strong families bond, only love, support and encourage for our children, and good relationship between couples.
With a clan leader like this. It makes you want to be a better person, a better significant other, better parent, better family member, and improve for the future.
Bravo, this is the way as it was suppose to be. There was a time and not too long ago when multiple wives had meaning. In the world of simple farming, it make sense to have more hands to help, but the situation not does not exist in the US. Furthermore, power has to be use ever so carefully and only for the purpose of good. Much like greed(the excess love of money), it is very corrosive and prone to corruption. Only when you understand it to a passion of love can it ever be beneficial to wheel. To the sister of the story, I am happy for you and your extended family. The cheating issue is so ubiquitous in the Hmong community. But, your elder brother-in-law here is a very intelligent, wise, and courageous man and deserved all the respect and credit. He saw what was right, used his influence wisely, and changed for the better. He stood firmed, defended, and encouraged righteousness to flourish. I have every hope that your family will continue on this path of joy and harmony. I am a bit sad that you leader is coming of age and close to retirement, but I have good hope that the next leader will follow suite. You see, when we finally realize a change to be good; we understand, we accept, and we even make belief of it. Best regards. The individual choice is really simple. One can easily move from one side to the other easy. However, when the subject is shared across a whole family(clan) or culture, it moves from harder to almost impossible in some cases. Aside from the false concepted distribution of power and control, the lack of unity in governing, segregates the culture into extreme cooperation difficulties(multi-clan beliefs). These are the major reasons why simply human rights(such as infidelity fairness) have such a hard time to transpire. The Hmong has this mentality that to the rest of the world, we are one, but within the culture, we are actually many and have not found the right change to unite.
Love love love this story. Although my own clan doesn’t practice polygamy, I’ve seen too many in the Hmong community. I’ve always been against it. There is hope after all 👏👏👏
Thank you for your story. In order for polygamy to end, the clan elders have to say no to their sons. The clan has enabled these human torture practices for far too long. If the clan refuses to go perform the wedding and also refuses responsibility for the minor wives, then it will cut 99% of polygamy in Hmong society. The 1% that defy the clan can go live on their own, excommunicated by the clan.
This is a new world, and it's America. The old world of having more than one wife is out. You can't even take care of one wife and your children's with her. Take care of your responsibility and obligations to your wife and kid's. We need more men's like your uncle. Especially for leadership and clan elders. Amen
It's wonderful to see a Hmong man think, lead, and live his life this way. Unfortunately it's very sad and makes me very angry when we still have Hmong women, like the girlfriend in this story, who is willing to become a niam yau. Hmong women have to change also.
Any kind of bad behavior, if it goes unchecked or is accepted, then people will practice it more. As in our Hmong community, the practice of having girlfriends and multiple wives. More men in leadership roles need to speak out and say they will not support this practice or behavior.
Your hlob is right. Change begin from your husband. Peb cov poj niam Hmoob mas peb yeej follow peb tus txiv xwb. Cov poj niam phem yeej muaj cov txiv zoo yeej muaj thiab tabsi yog peb tus txiv pab Peb hlub Peb ces peb haj yam xav ua zoo xwb. Hoyo yog xav yuav niam yau ces txhob tos tej khwv tej tso lus mos. Yus muaj muaj plhus ces yus nrhiav yus kev pab.
Hais tau zoo kawg lawm os! Yuav tug kav tug xwb. Yuav niam hlob niam yau, yog ib txoj kev txaj muag tshaj. Yog ib txoj kev siab coob siab phem, xav tau ntau, yog txoj kev ruam, npam rau tiam no. Hloov tiag tiag nws! Txoj kev “tham” hluas nkauj yog txhob kev yuav pib ua liam. “ Poj ua tseg yawg ua cia” tsis muaj kev kawm kev vam meej. Peb cov pojniam txhob tshaw tshaw ua niam yau nws! Yog tebchaws mekas “freedom” los mas tabsi ua cas nej cov freedom yuav liam ua luaj. Mekas twb tsis yuav niam yau thiab ne! If the son thinks that everyone is happy and loved in a polygamous family and everything is okay…That says enough, that he doesn’t see anything wrong and will follow his father’s footsteps. Only those who receive no love and suffered a horrible life as a child in a polygamous family will probably not do it.
Peb cov laus neeg, meej meej pem, tseem tshuav coob. Xaiv tus coj, txhob xaiv cov nthog tsuab tau 😆🤣 This is a real leader! You cheat, ur wife can cheat too n you no longer have the honor to be "kho". For real! That's only reserved for honorable men, not dogs. Txoj kev los kho ib lub taub hau txiv neej na, tsis yog los kho ib lub taub Hau dev na! 😂🤣
Nej Tus hlob no mas tsim nyog los ua Tus coj kawg li lawm nawb..peb cov coj mas yuav tau coj ncaj coj zoo zoo li no rau ib tsom hmoob...lub neej txiv neej muaj plhus tham hluas nkauj yuav niam yau Seb Puas tso tseg.
Cas es pheej muaj 1 tug ntawm 99 leej es thiaj coj tau li no xwb os! Kuv agree 100% li nej tu hlob no os! Peb yuav tau siv nawb yog leej twg tsis mloog hais yuav niam yau ces lawb, tuag tsis pam thiab tsis pab!
Nej tus hlob no tiag2 mas nws txhob cob qhia nej cov kwv tij xwb nws twb yog peb hmoob ib txiv neej hmoob ua tau ib tug qauv zoo coj zoo mas nws yuav tsum los cob qhia tag nro peb haiv hmoob txhua2 tus. Kuv xav lawm tias yog peb hmoob muaj ib tug sawv los coj thiab noj hniag qees coj thiab qhia li nej tus txiv hlob ua no tej zaum peb cov txiv neej hmoob yuav hloov tau zuj zus mus thiab. Vim peb hmoob ib txwm coj los mas yeej tsis pom tsis muaj ib tug yuav sawv los noj hnia qees hais ib zaug li.
Wow thank rau tus neeg ntse tus txiv neej muaj peev xwm no nawb tsi tau pom dua nyob hauv lub neej no li os thov yawm saub vajtswv foom koob hmoov rau tus hlob no kom noj qab nyob zoo mus ib puas 120 xyoo nawb ua tsaug rau nws nawb.
Thov qhua koj mog ua tseem muaj ib tug txiv neej yawg siab zoo tiag2 li koj lo qhia txoj kev ua neej tiag thiaj li muaj lub chaws vam khom tsis muaj lub poob ntsej muag rau leej twg. Ua tsaug zoo siab tau hnov koj lub moo zoo ntshaw ib tug kwv tij li koj.
Hmoob hais tias "neej yoog kav noob yoog tsav." Meskas hais tias "like father like son." Lawv xav tau koj lub me paj ces lawv yeej yuav hais txhij hais txhua kom koj ntseeg.
I approve of this uncle's way of thinking 100%! The practice of niamhlob niamyau serves no purpose in this day and age---it is merely the practice of selfishness on a man's part. I hope many people listen to this story and follow this uncle's example.
Agreed!
frls! It's a way of controlling woman. Smh
Nice story. I wish every man thinks like him. This world would be a better place.
Can we know who he is so we can appoint his to be the next 18 clan to make this change in our community. This is a real man n leader
Right?
This is what I call a real Man and a great leader 👏 ❤️
Very inspiring. Wish we have more leaders like your hlob. God bless him.
The Hmong community definitely needs more honest leaders like this!
Lead by example…I applaud this man. If I want to elect a leader to lead the Hmong people, he will get my vote. I think the same as a leader…😩👍🤠!!!
One of the best stories that I have ever heard.
PERFECT Hmong leader. Love it!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
This is truly an inspire story that this uncle have great leadership that he talk the talk and he walk the walk. Hard to find good man these day. Wish we have more men like him so our hmong community can have strong families bond, only love, support and encourage for our children, and good relationship between couples.
With a clan leader like this. It makes you want to be a better person, a better significant other, better parent, better family member, and improve for the future.
Bravo, this is the way as it was suppose to be. There was a time and not too long ago when multiple wives had meaning. In the world of simple farming, it make sense to have more hands to help, but the situation not does not exist in the US. Furthermore, power has to be use ever so carefully and only for the purpose of good. Much like greed(the excess love of money), it is very corrosive and prone to corruption. Only when you understand it to a passion of love can it ever be beneficial to wheel.
To the sister of the story, I am happy for you and your extended family. The cheating issue is so ubiquitous in the Hmong community. But, your elder brother-in-law here is a very intelligent, wise, and courageous man and deserved all the respect and credit. He saw what was right, used his influence wisely, and changed for the better. He stood firmed, defended, and encouraged righteousness to flourish. I have every hope that your family will continue on this path of joy and harmony. I am a bit sad that you leader is coming of age and close to retirement, but I have good hope that the next leader will follow suite. You see, when we finally realize a change to be good; we understand, we accept, and we even make belief of it. Best regards.
The individual choice is really simple. One can easily move from one side to the other easy. However, when the subject is shared across a whole family(clan) or culture, it moves from harder to almost impossible in some cases. Aside from the false concepted distribution of power and control, the lack of unity in governing, segregates the culture into extreme cooperation difficulties(multi-clan beliefs). These are the major reasons why simply human rights(such as infidelity fairness) have such a hard time to transpire. The Hmong has this mentality that to the rest of the world, we are one, but within the culture, we are actually many and have not found the right change to unite.
Love love love this story. Although my own clan doesn’t practice polygamy, I’ve seen too many in the Hmong community. I’ve always been against it. There is hope after all 👏👏👏
Thank you for your story. In order for polygamy to end, the clan elders have to say no to their sons. The clan has enabled these human torture practices for far too long. If the clan refuses to go perform the wedding and also refuses responsibility for the minor wives, then it will cut 99% of polygamy in Hmong society. The 1% that defy the clan can go live on their own, excommunicated by the clan.
Exactly. It’s the old Hmong men’s club.
Words of wisdom. Before my grandpa passed away, he used to taught me the same. RIP grandpa
He’s an excellent leader and a Cycle Breaker for his clan and family. We need more leaders like him. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This is a new world, and it's America. The old world of having more than one wife is out. You can't even take care of one wife and your children's with her. Take care of your responsibility and obligations to your wife and kid's. We need more men's like your uncle. Especially for leadership and clan elders. Amen
Ua ib tug coj li tus txiv tsev no ce peb yeej tsis mus txog nram nom Tswv kav lub teb chaw peb nyob li os. Yeej yuav ua li tus coj no hais xwb.
Thats how I see it too, just like this Uncle. And I come from the same background. I understand what his reasons are. Very logical thinking.
We need more men like your txiv hlob to lead.
It's wonderful to see a Hmong man think, lead, and live his life this way. Unfortunately it's very sad and makes me very angry when we still have Hmong women, like the girlfriend in this story, who is willing to become a niam yau. Hmong women have to change also.
Any kind of bad behavior, if it goes unchecked or is accepted, then people will practice it more. As in our Hmong community, the practice of having girlfriends and multiple wives. More men in leadership roles need to speak out and say they will not support this practice or behavior.
Your hlob is right. Change begin from your husband. Peb cov poj niam Hmoob mas peb yeej follow peb tus txiv xwb. Cov poj niam phem yeej muaj cov txiv zoo yeej muaj thiab tabsi yog peb tus txiv pab Peb hlub Peb ces peb haj yam xav ua zoo xwb. Hoyo yog xav yuav niam yau ces txhob tos tej khwv tej tso lus mos. Yus muaj muaj plhus ces yus nrhiav yus kev pab.
Real leader right there
That is a righteous man right there. He is definitely looking out for everyone
Yes I agree 👍 💯
Wow! Now this is what you called an inspirational story! Powerful and meaningful!
We need more clan leader like him.
Hais tau zoo kawg lawm os! Yuav tug kav tug xwb. Yuav niam hlob niam yau, yog ib txoj kev txaj muag tshaj. Yog ib txoj kev siab coob siab phem, xav tau ntau, yog txoj kev ruam, npam rau tiam no. Hloov tiag tiag nws! Txoj kev “tham” hluas nkauj yog txhob kev yuav pib ua liam. “ Poj ua tseg yawg ua cia” tsis muaj kev kawm kev vam meej. Peb cov pojniam txhob tshaw tshaw ua niam yau nws! Yog tebchaws mekas “freedom” los mas tabsi ua cas nej cov freedom yuav liam ua luaj. Mekas twb tsis yuav niam yau thiab ne!
If the son thinks that everyone is happy and loved in a polygamous family and everything is okay…That says enough, that he doesn’t see anything wrong and will follow his father’s footsteps. Only those who receive no love and suffered a horrible life as a child in a polygamous family will probably not do it.
The best leadership story ever. Your Hlob is a true legend ❤
Peb cov laus neeg, meej meej pem, tseem tshuav coob. Xaiv tus coj, txhob xaiv cov nthog tsuab tau 😆🤣
This is a real leader! You cheat, ur wife can cheat too n you no longer have the honor to be "kho". For real! That's only reserved for honorable men, not dogs. Txoj kev los kho ib lub taub hau txiv neej na, tsis yog los kho ib lub taub Hau dev na! 😂🤣
Xav kom txhua tus txiv neej xav li tus no xwb os Thov muab cridet rau NWS nawb 🙏🙏
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Nej Tus hlob no mas tsim nyog los ua Tus coj kawg li lawm nawb..peb cov coj mas yuav tau coj ncaj coj zoo zoo li no rau ib tsom hmoob...lub neej txiv neej muaj plhus tham hluas nkauj yuav niam yau Seb Puas tso tseg.
Cas es pheej muaj 1 tug ntawm 99 leej es thiaj coj tau li no xwb os! Kuv agree 100% li nej tu hlob no os! Peb yuav tau siv nawb yog leej twg tsis mloog hais yuav niam yau ces lawb, tuag tsis pam thiab tsis pab!
Very smart hlob. Txawj ua ib tus qauv rau cov kwv kawg. Love your story ❤
I like the way he does. Unless your husband learned
Wow!! Zoo kawg 100 tus ntshe 1 tug thiaj muaj kev xav zoo li no. Kuv nrog zoo siab kawg muaj ib tug coj zoo li no.
Ua li tus hlob nov qov thiaj li zoo, nrauj cov neej txhawv niam yaug thiab niam hloj !……
Nej tus hlob no tiag2 mas nws txhob cob qhia nej cov kwv tij xwb nws twb yog peb hmoob ib txiv neej hmoob ua tau ib tug qauv zoo coj zoo mas nws yuav tsum los cob qhia tag nro peb haiv hmoob txhua2 tus. Kuv xav lawm tias yog peb hmoob muaj ib tug sawv los coj thiab noj hniag qees coj thiab qhia li nej tus txiv hlob ua no tej zaum peb cov txiv neej hmoob yuav hloov tau zuj zus mus thiab. Vim peb hmoob ib txwm coj los mas yeej tsis pom tsis muaj ib tug yuav sawv los noj hnia qees hais ib zaug li.
Leej twg tsis nyiam no tuaj peb debate seb. 🤣Kuv nyiam 💯🙏👍
Zaj no zoo heev thank you for sharing
Wow thank rau tus neeg ntse tus txiv neej muaj peev xwm no nawb tsi tau pom dua nyob hauv lub neej no li os thov yawm saub vajtswv foom koob hmoov rau tus hlob no kom noj qab nyob zoo mus ib puas 120 xyoo nawb ua tsaug rau nws nawb.
Thov qhua koj mog ua tseem muaj ib tug txiv neej yawg siab zoo tiag2 li koj lo qhia txoj kev ua neej tiag thiaj li muaj lub chaws vam khom tsis muaj lub poob ntsej muag rau leej twg. Ua tsaug zoo siab tau hnov koj lub moo zoo ntshaw ib tug kwv tij li koj.
Tus hlob hais yog kawg . Coj tau zoo heev. Thank you for sharing.
Koj thiab kuv yeej paub meej lawm tias yuav luag txhua tus poj niam tseem muaj txiv tsis lam tau lam deev hluas nraug, tab sis nws ho cia li txaus siab deev hluas nraug lawm thiab los twb vim yog nws tso tsis hnyog siab taus nrog nws tus txiv ua neej lawm. Nov tus txiv mam nug nws tus kheej thiaj tsis muaj qhov ntiav ntiav rau lwm tus paub txog nws. Tab sis txiv neej tseem muaj poj niam ho yuav luag tsis seem ib tug twg tsis tham hluas nkauj txawm nws tus poj niam hlub nws thiab tsis hlub.
Tus hlob ko nws thiaj li yog ib tug me tseem txiv neej yawg,thov ko nws tau los ua peb hmoob ib tug thawj coj os nawb.
GREAT...HMONG PEOPLE NEED LEADERSHIP LIKE THIS. ESPECIALLY FOR THE HMONG WOMEN.
ua raug koj coj zaj no tuaj tham os.zoo kawg thov qhuag hlob thiab koj thiaj yog tug yam ntxwv zoo tug coj zoo. thov kom thiab tsev neeg noj qab nyob zoo xwb mog
Ua tsaug ntau2 nawb leej twg los yeej xav kom tau tej tug thawj coj uas muaj txoj kev ncaj ncees li no xwb tiag.
Nrog nej tsev neeg zoo2 siab kawg nkaus li os tus me niam tsev.
God's words say the husband must love the wife and the wife must respect the husband for they're one person not two.
Wow!! Just wow!!
First one is to listen 👂 😊
Txiv poob tsis deb tsob ntoo 😂
Kuv nyiam thaj li.
Amen to that 🙏
Good hlob👏🏼
Zoo heev
Hmoob hais tias "neej yoog kav noob yoog tsav." Meskas hais tias "like father like son." Lawv xav tau koj lub me paj ces lawv yeej yuav hais txhij hais txhua kom koj ntseeg.
First Time kuv hnov ib tug thawj coj es UA kev ncaj ncees ! Zoo kawg. Take lesson everybody.
Second one 😂😂 can’t wait for your story. either at Kablia channel or Mab Vaj channel
Peb cov txiv ua pheej mus tham Hlau nkuaj yog ua tau li txoj neej neeg zoo lawm ces peb cov txiv yuav niam yau lawm
Wow! your hlob is the man. wish we have more of cov coj noj coj ua zoo li nws xwb lau.
Zaj no mam thiaj yog lus nyiaj lus kub tiag2.
What a satisfying story.
Txoj neej neeg no yog ib txoj ua zoo heev li
Thank you for sharing your story.
Good job hlob pheej
Zoo mloog kawg
Always looking forward to your story telling and your beautiful outfits!
Zoo heev hlob Pheej. Tsug ntia nyias qees🦶💪👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼