Things to keep in mind during this video: 1) I AM NOT CALLING ANYONE IN THIS VIDEO UGLY. 2) Beauty is NOT a moral issue 3) Relationships BASED on looks are SHALLOW but valid if that's how you want to live. As long as those involved understand the agreement. THIS IS NOT a relationship model that I would recommend. 4) Relationships SHOULD NOT BE HARD but LIFE is hard and that's when your relationship should get stronger NOT weaker. 5) Being on a team with someone and doing life with them is SERIOUS but only if you treat it that way. 6) Because of language, there's always going to be confusion about what we're talking about. Lets EXPLORE in the comments. It's okay to have opinions but if you troll or mock in a way that I think isn't a vibe, I will block you Support The Content! Join The Discord! www.patreon.com/BrittanySimon
As a man who prefers bigger women - I cant stand the hate she gets and its pretty shocking people cant accept an athletic man wanting to date a bigger woman.
Is there any specific reason you prefer larger women? Like you enjoy the feeling of their body? This is coming from an average shaped women that struggles with being average body shape. I am not against bigger bodies but avoid dating larger people because I did not want them encouraging bad habits that I already struggle with.
@@PolarTurtle6401 I think I usually like the feel of softness of the body and it makes features on the face less sharp (some people want sharp jaws and cheekbones but its a no for me).
I actually love my husband’s squishy body. Although I do want him to get more muscle for health reason since men need testosterone as they age. But totally understand the softness when it comes to squishy bodies
It's kind of interesting because when a conventionally unattractive man gets with a conventionally attractive woman. Everybody kind of gives them props and talks about how they are lucky. But the other way around they act like the woman doesn't deserve the man.
I wouldn’t say “no one bats an eye” when a hot woman is with an ugly guy She literally just said you’d have to find excuses for why that would be the case (money, power, well-endowed, etc.)
The 1st long clip of her talking about how after playing a sport you love it's easy to lose movement in life hit me so hard. That's exactly how I felt after I got done with college softball and had nothing else I was passionate about. I love that she said that and found movement that brings her joy!
25:16 It bothered me a bit when she implied that beautiful women get cheated on because they lack other qualities, even if they had all the qualities in the world their husbands would probably still cheat because it's about the cheater's character and how much they value loyalty
Its because these men are insecure in the presence of beautiful women and deliberately cheat to feel some semblance of power or whatever the male psyche makes up in its mind.
How so? Don't want to debate. I ask this question. Because I see attractive women hate getting attention or catcall from disgusting men. That doesn't sound pleasant.
My last partner would always say I was a 5 or 6, but if I changed things and was "more confident," I would have been an 8. He would never find issues in himself and always believed he couldn't better himself (not saying he had to, just how he was). My partner now I consider fairly attractive, but that isn't what drew me to him. The first time I saw him, I honestly thought he was a cocky douche. In that same night, I saw him just goof around and just say hi to people and even danced with a guy from one of his classes because they saw eachother at the same restaurant that we were eating at. He's now grown his hair a bit instead of buzzing it all off and it has made him look more gentle, but what still draws me is his humor and how he always tries to make me smile and laugh. Even when I sit there and say he's cute/hot/attractive, he always turns it to say, "I know you are." We both have skin issues, so in a way, us saying that to each other is reassuring because when having breakouts, we don't feel the most attractive, yet when we say it, it means a lot, and we know we aren't with each other for our looks but how we like to make the other feel happy and secure overall. As for the rating scale, I don't really know how to rate myself or my partner because that's not what matters, just that I'm happy to have him in my life at the end of the day.
Rating yourself is not normal or healthy. I’ve literally never met anyone who does that in my 30 years. I think It can only be damaging. You either love yourself or like yourself or you don’t. I think any rating system is just toxic & not “fun”
People are to obsessed with their own insecurities and projecting so much that they start to have issues empathizing with people that aren't playing a game and instead just living their life
😂 seems like you're one of those people she's talking about in the comment, time to log off for a while babes and go live life, I promise you'll feel 100 times better ❤️@@EllaNonimato
I know beautiful women that are barley in relationships and "normal" women that has been in multiple relationships. It used to be annoying hanging out with other women because they had to show off that guys are hitting on them, one upping other women. Beauty is subjective and changes over time, in the renaissance or medieval era being plump women was the beauty standard. I think what you find attractive is what you grow up around, as an Italian women I find meditranian looks the most attractive, its all socialization.
Why cant your partner be ugly and the love of your life? I dont understand why people have a hard time accepting some people are just... Gross looking. And sometimes people are ok with dating gross looking people. Its not a crime to look bad or be attracted to somebody that looks bad 🤣
I have a hard time understanding how we know it's wrong to judge people on skin colour but were still ruthless about other aspects of people's physicality- to a point where it feels like a blood sport.
Believe it or not, that`s an important thing to say. I realized in my early thirties that I didn`t just think that I am ugly, but that I subconsciously thought that was a moral failing. My parents treated me being bigger when growing up the same as me doing something wrong, like I was behaving badly by having a bigger body.
My soon to be 27 year old daughter is fit, trim, fiscally prudent, and convinced by internet manosphere that no man will even want to marry. Her emotional state is bad. Schools and society have been telling her all her life that she's not enough.
Can we stop rating people? Its very toxic. Why sure, you can not feel confident in yourself and want to change something but nobody should do that for you and one shouldn't do that to others. The rating system always ends up breaking people down and making people feel worse about themselves, it also can create a certain way people view what beauty is when really people are attractive or get more attractive when you get to know them. I think going off of looks alone is very shallow, though I do understand certain people or traits can looks attractive to certain people. The rating system is just far too binary. Yes, I know people can be conventionally attractive from what society as a whole views people which differs from countries and regions, and that can give one a foothold in the society. This is called pretty privilege and it is definitely real and very wrong.
I remember at 33 when a guy said i was a 10, Then other guys said the same. My first thought was wtf makes you think i want to be rated on a scale of 1 to 10. I was actually turned off by being scored and also I am snart enough to know that it's all in the eye of the beholder. I personally find the whole person attractive, I like character and a interesting face.
Imo I think it’s a power dynamic, I’ve been saying this for years. I myself in many people eyes am conventionally attractive, but seems to me all the hot men I like disregaurd me then years later I’ll see him with a woman that is imo “mid”. I think it’s also due to him knowing that she will most likely not be able to cheat on him even if she wanted. So it eases men’s mind to be the hotter one in the relationship. She won’t cheat but if he wanted to he could.
I don't like this talk about rating beauty from 1 to 10. It will only put your confidence down or too high. if someone thinks they are a 10, let them be. I know they might be too cocky but as long as they are not putting anyone else down, it's okay. Besides, who is to say what a 10, a 7 or a 5 is? So, if someone thinks they are a 7, are they being falsely modest too? That's too much judgment that can only dim anyone's confidence.
I feel it's all in the eye of the beholder and our scales have been skewed from decades of Hollywood magic and Photoshop that now natural woman's faces are seen as lower in rating even though the people we see in media are heavily doctored to look that way we're not the problem they are
I think it's really sad when people judge whether or not a person they've never met is attractive enough for a celebrity to date. It puts so much importance on looks, when these people could have very deep and rich connections with each other. Cillian Murphy, for example, has a partner who's a creative like him so I bet their relationship is awesome.
This man is not hot (in my definition) like not even a little bit. I think they’re at each other’s averages. She’s just a little overweight in comparison to him.
Im QUITE overweight and i have a soft roundish face. Personally i think I'm a 2, a 3 when I dress up nice. And that's fine. Sure, I'd be more attractive if I lost weight. But I also don't owe anybody attractiveness, especially when my partner is into me. Being attractive is the least interesting thing you can be.
It's really not interesting. I've met some conventionally attractive people who were so ugly on the inside. Being solely pretty isn't enough, at least for me.
It doesn't matter if you don't care about it, I suppose. But some don't want to be with an overweight partner and still have to struggle with their weight.
@@heatherwilliams3748 because pretty privilege IS real and because they achieve so much from being conventionally attractive they believe they don't NEED to be anything else.
@@hayley179g that's true. And I'm under no assumption it isn't. The majority of people in life have been put off by the fact that I'm fat. And continue to be. And that's fine with me, honestly. especially considering I don't have the greatest face, either. Being fit would help me but not by much. I'd still be fairly unattractive.
You say you don't owe anybody attractiveness. And that's true, but I think you're looking at it wrong. You owe your body health, at least if you want to stay for a while.
a lot of western/hollywood attractiveness is also rooted in whiteness and the theft of poc features. which is important to note because every example of beauty shown was white. and part of the reason why i think a lot of people would rate poc's attractiveness lower. Even if they may have perfect skin, symmetrical face, perfect body, when compared to someone who is white.
@@Observette i think saying to 'not look at everything through' is missing the point in the first place, im not saying that the creator thinks pocs are ugly or attractive. im saying that in order to have a conversation about beauty, attractiveness and how our biases affect our perceptions of people, you also need to include race and racial biases may fit in to that. its also kinda a problem in itself that no poc's were represented in a conversation about about beauty and attractiveness, ugly or not.
@@vklnew9824 yeah…but white people. Are. Not. The. Only. People. Living. In. The. West. Black and brown people live in the west (and have always lived here) and are still subjected to white beauty standards despite them NOT being white.
Wait what? I love Stephanie Lange! Her videos are so introspective and she's a mum as well but dedicates a lot of time and effort into making her videos engaging.
Some people logic is like: people like on average this one thing, therefore everybody likes this one thing. There is so much people who do not understand what a spectrum is
1. Some time it is a power play, hot chick with mid man or otherwise, just for feel the control~safety(trauma staff) . 2. Honestly, i love puff girls, they are super comfy to hug and snuggle, and i feel this as one of the hottest things. Also Being out of yours norm fuck up your hormones, so if you feel good skinny - stay skinny, if you feel good puffed, stay puffed, if you feel bad try change sth, if it ll feel better - stay in a New shape, otherwise consider sth else, sometimes feeling good not related to your shapes. Be aware of cardio and shugar problems, i want my wife to live longer.
I love your videos. You always make me do introspection and it always feels like you’re calling me out on my bs (in a good way). There’s a lot of work I need to do on myself, and I feel like you give the truth on how things are and how to think to be a good/better moral person. I hope I can have an ounce of the wisdom (or more lol) you have one day. Thank you for your videos!!
My bf is a model. I’m 5’2 180 and he loves ALL OF IT. But I do arguably occasionally model for folks but I do know people tend to struggle with his choice in me.
With most of the examples she gave (with the exception of Hailey and Justin) the man is 100% better looking. But whatever, it's rare couples are perfectly matched and completely equal levels of attractiveness. As you said, if you're in love, you'll find your partner attractive despite fluctuations to weight/appearance (and especially aging!). I can't say I agree with you fully that any changes will be inconsequential to attraction if you're in love. I personally don't relate to that. There is a range of variation I'd be fine with, but morbid obesity would be unattractive to me, whether I was in love or not. With Alicia and Scott, I don't think both are mid! Scott is much better looking than Alicia, even when she was at her smallest. But truly who cares, if they're happy and thriving it doesn't matter if their looks don't match. For me the thing that is most mind boggling about their coupling is definitely the lifestyle differences and also the value differences. I'm quite concerned with my health and appearance, and I workout daily and always stay fit. I have a disability so taking great care of my body is both a value and necessity. And I do not match with guys who are lazy, who don't workout, and who aren't health conscious or who overeat. It's a major incompatibility and frankly a personal turnoff. I really enjoy being active with my partner, and also know that they want to take care of their body and stay in good shape! Not just for appearance sake but for overall good health, vitality and longevity. I don't want my man huffing an puffing trying to keep up with me on a hike because he doesn't take care of his health.
Women are sexualy attracted when a man does yard work or does manual labor or socially dominates while men are attracted more to physical looks and don't care about that stuff. 🤷♂️ and we both make exceptions once we pair bond with each other. I think that's why people get outspoken about men with less attractive women but who knows.
I also think that a lot of men will like " socially unacceptable" women behind the scenes and Infront of people will make fun of her. Men are not as superficial as people think, they will make fun of women looks to make her feel insecure or they want to look cool Infront of their male friends, dont trust what men say.
@@Chrissy123-t2x We like nearly all women, even if you're a bit fat and never workout, but women don't like nearly all men and under those same conditions. But if we take women of worse looks, then the men at the bottom of the looks scale have 0 options left.
@@Josh-sz8ipNo, men do not like nearly all women that's just a bold face lie 😂 I get you want men to come off as not superficial but men are equally superficial as women, get a grip
I do not understand how attractiveness is objective while at the same time, what you personally find attractive is subjective. Who is deciding what objective attractiveness is? I feel like Brittany is referring to, or at least what I am hearing is, that object attractiveness is what our society deems to be attractive (Edit: Brittany please correct me if I'm wrong). But that also isn't objective because that's always changing. Examples of attractiveness changing over time: chubbier women used to be more attractive in older days in the west and in the east, in Rome men with big 🍆 were seen as unattractive and barbaric while smaller 🍆 were sophisticated and attractive, beards were attractive in the olden days, they fell out of fashion in the 20th century, and nowadays they're seen as attractive again. Also, there different standards within a community at the same time. What's attractive in the gay bear community is not the same as what's attractive in the gay twink community. I would like a whole video exploring/challenging this subject.
i love the way your brain works so much. i watch alot of people i dont necessarily agree with just for the sake of hearing others ideas, but no one comes close to the amount on nuance and retrospection you bring to topics. absolutely my cup of tea
I think that the way people are animated is underrated as an attraction point. A photo is one thing but seeing someone move adds so much context! But istg beauty standards are the least intuitive thing to me, I get so confused, especially for men.. I just assume if a man is muscular, he’ll basically meet the standard, because that seems to be the entire basis? I’m aware non muscular men can also meet the standard, but I never know when they do or don’t lol. Women’s standards seem more strict, so it’s a little easier to guess, but still seems randomish… plus it seems like face and body are still often taken separately, so if your body is more to standard, your face can be less, and vice versa. And don’t even get me started on when age becomes a factor! Way confusing LOL
i have like 10 at least kilos that i need to get off.. you can't be grateful for that body since IT IS UNHEALTHY!! you know she doesn't eat well and don't exercise (she needs aerobics and loose weight) What Bill Burr said about these people (i can't put the word because youtube will ban me) is super funny AND TRUE. All the rest are just excuses. She's young now.. but being young is just a small period of your life. When she pass the 40 year old barrier she will regret saying all that about her weight.
Quick answer she wasn’t “ugly” when he chose her… she was a fitness model when he chose her, he stuck by her because he loves her. But don’t get it twisted he didn’t chose her when she was “ugly” he chose her when she was hot, and then stuck around. Men don’t “chose” ugly women.
Yes. In fact, they do! Because overweight isn't ugly! And some men or woman, (quite a few actually!) Love big women!!!! They don't like skinny! It is in the eyes of the beholder. Everyone else needs to mind their business and stop being so shallow!
This isn't true. It's probably rare but I knew a dude in school who was conventionally handsome and always chose awkward looking women. It was just his preference
I think it must be hard to be a 10 and not know if people are dating you for the clout, looks, or you. Less good looking people are probably relatively less shallow, as being in shape and being attractive takes some level of effort and dedication to being attractive! I think it shows these relationships are real and it actually shows the depth and intellectual value of these actors!
As an unattractive person I can safely say as far as health and athleticism unattractive people have better genetics than your normal attractive person. Example: Arnold schwarzenegger son he had with his maid is a Chad compared to his children he had with his normal attractive wife.
There is a division in how people interpret the 1-10 system. Some people view this as a decile system, in which each number represents 10% of the population. Under this interpretation 1 in 10 people is a 10, as they are more beautiful or attractive than 90% of people. In this system it is "not that unlikely" to be a 10 and certainly not delusional to think you might be, especially if you are using normative standards of beauty that prioritize the appearance of youth as that will naturally bias the rating towards young people, increasing the likelihood that a young person will be a 10 beyond 1 in 10 and possibly as far as 1 in 5. There are hundreds of millions of 10s in this system. Young people saying they are 7s may effectively be thinking "I am more attractive than almost anyone 10 years older than me, so that puts me over a 5, I think I am more attractive than half my peers of my age, so +2.5, modestly that makes me a 7." This is actually a "fair/neutral" middle ground assessment for young people using the decile system. On the other hand if you view the 1 to 10 system in reference to the athletics/dance scoring system, in which defects in performance subtract down from the maximum score, then a 10 is a virtual impossibility and only ever achieved by the absolute peak of performance from far outliers in the Bell curve of all "attempts". Based on this view, essentially no one is a 10 and claiming to be one appears pure vanity or delusion. The majority of people in this system will fall between 3 and 7, so judging oneself a 7 would be to judge yourself "the most attractive of the majority" and so seems biased and vane. Before we can have meaningful discussion on these subjects, we need to define the terms. That means every interview of this type should start with "Using the decile system, meaning a 10 is more attractive than 90% of people, and a 3 is more attractive than 30% of people, how would you rate yourself?" Or "starting with a top possible score of 10 and deducting from there for every imperfection away from.the maximum possible beauty, how do you rate yourself?"
Hey Brit you should watch of Herbs and Alters video on what its like having been an attractive young neurodivergent female growing up. It sort of touches on some of these topics but its also an interesting perspective
ooo once I asked my ex if he thought I looked better with or without my glasses and he took it like I was fishing for something. na I'm just curious about how people perceive me, it's not going to change what I do
Doesn’t apply to the video but I just wanted to comment about how sometimes I think I’m a 1 bc I have severe adhd. You should make a video about how mental illness/ disability can impact your level system
I work in a strip club and get rated 7-8 maybe even 9 by most men but I’m not delusional. In Vegas I was considered 6-7 by some men. In Ohio where I stay I get rated 7-9. I don’t think too much of myself! I never call myself a 10. I have eyes though. It’s kinda a social experiment being a stripper. I got to realize how attractive I am to the eyes of many men and sure it’s a strip club and men lie too but I get 7-8 in public places that aren’t the club even covered up. I have a skinny straight nose, cat shaped green eyes, big lips (filler), arched brows, long brunette shiny straight hair, high cheek bones, V shaped jaw line, big boobs, small waist, curvy hips, medium fit booty, 5’4, toned arms, and olive skin tone. How ever I ain’t everybody’s type. Beauty is def the eyes of the beholder. Men like blondes or skinnier than me a lot. Guys want thick red heads over me sometimes. Everyone has a type. Also you made a great point. Guys do hit on women who are less attractive the most because it’s less intimidating. Even when I work at the clubs I’ll notice guys want the easier less attractive looking women over me. They’ll straight up look at me and say I’m too expensive and they feel they don’t have a chance with me. That’s a real thing. I’m not a 10. I’m not a 9. I doubt I’m a 8 sometimes but I hear that rating a lot. You can’t win tho guys even if you are attractive to the standards of today.
I try to not base my opinion of somebody's attractiveness based on outward appearance. I notice if I look for personality....I don't care if half of their face is burnt off. haha
Bro, I'm black this is nothing new. And I mean in terms of moderately to very overweight women with men who are prison fit. Not ugly. Most women, when properly groomed are at least average-looking, unless she's been in an accident or is astronomically unlucky.
Weird things for me to say, but i think youre beautiful. But you remind me of me. I also have curly hair and a bigger nose, you help me feel like im actually more attractive than i thought
Give me a stack of 100 pictures of each person and have about 10,000 of them then rate the pictures and average the results. Then if I'm rating 1% of people a 10 then it's clearly off.
I’d see people saying the same things about Tammy Peterson when Jordan Peterson was at his prime. He is besotted with her, and it’s really been his major redeeming quality for me when it comes to everything😅.
I agree!!! I doubt there are many 10s in ASTHETICS; however your life partner and true love will always rate you an 11/10!!! There are so many traits that are attractive LOOKS ARE ONLY ONE OF THEM!!!! The only ugly people I have ever met was people who are ugly inside as well as out!!!! Sooooooooooooooooooo: Yep I’m a high 6- chuck in a good hair day & on point make up definitely a 7!!!
I think out of 10 guys there is a good chance I would be the most attractive. It seems to me your not rating it that way though. I think One on 10 people should be a 10.🤷
Intelligence can add at least 2 points of attractiveness to me. And if they like me a lot then that could maby contribute a nother 2. So a 6 could be a ten in my eyes if she's smart and likes me.😄
I think the whole rating someone attractiveness scale is dumb I'll be honest I don't know what a10 is and while physical beauty has some objective aspect it is also a subjective aspect if someone sees themselves as a 10 and they are n't to you let them be its their life
Brit I'll love to listen to your opinion about people that are in relationships with disable people not having a disability themselves!! Is very interesting
Sorry, but she looks very unhealthy. Everyone knows this, but doesn't want to admit it. I think that's why people are shocked about the relationship matchup.
i wont comment on the relationship, its whatever its not my gf so he can enjoy her actually looks like wife material, even if it sounds condescending I really think it. But ill comment on the health part. Sis I'm sorry but being in poor mental health also makes your body weak. The mentality that the girl has now paired with the body she had when she was thin is a bomb combo, but she was stressed, pressured by expectations and other factors ,mainly mental, that ended up affected her body. If anyone tells you they were unhappy when they got thinner and more healthy, first you have to ask what that looked like and the reasons or mentality behind the change. I have been thin and heavy, with poor and good mental health. With poor mental health you feel bad no matter what but if you have good and are heavy you feel restrained, limited and thin you feel like God with how good it feels. I'm sorry couldn't take that comment seriously with my exp thats all, have a good one
14:31 "Or they think that you're ugly enough to hit on." I had this conversation the other day about how I was used. I didn't expect this subject to be spoken about in this video, the shock triggered a trauma of mine. 🥲
Things to keep in mind during this video:
1) I AM NOT CALLING ANYONE IN THIS VIDEO UGLY.
2) Beauty is NOT a moral issue
3) Relationships BASED on looks are SHALLOW but valid if that's how you want to live. As long as those involved understand the agreement. THIS IS NOT a relationship model that I would recommend.
4) Relationships SHOULD NOT BE HARD but LIFE is hard and that's when your relationship should get stronger NOT weaker.
5) Being on a team with someone and doing life with them is SERIOUS but only if you treat it that way.
6) Because of language, there's always going to be confusion about what we're talking about. Lets EXPLORE in the comments. It's okay to have opinions but if you troll or mock in a way that I think isn't a vibe, I will block you
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As a man who prefers bigger women - I cant stand the hate she gets and its pretty shocking people cant accept an athletic man wanting to date a bigger woman.
Is there any specific reason you prefer larger women? Like you enjoy the feeling of their body? This is coming from an average shaped women that struggles with being average body shape. I am not against bigger bodies but avoid dating larger people because I did not want them encouraging bad habits that I already struggle with.
@@PolarTurtle6401 I think I usually like the feel of softness of the body and it makes features on the face less sharp (some people want sharp jaws and cheekbones but its a no for me).
I actually love my husband’s squishy body. Although I do want him to get more muscle for health reason since men need testosterone as they age. But totally understand the softness when it comes to squishy bodies
It's kind of interesting because when a conventionally unattractive man gets with a conventionally attractive woman. Everybody kind of gives them props and talks about how they are lucky. But the other way around they act like the woman doesn't deserve the man.
✨misogyny✨
@@WobblesandBean That and it’s a similar story in the reverse for men when it comes to earnings. Patriarchal programming
Biologically men are visual (mating) motivated and women are survival motivated and we are just civilised animals I guess…
Generally. But we still have people making fun of Ariana grande, Billie eilish, Sabrina carpenter, Selena Gomez for their choice of ugly men lol
no
I wouldn’t say “no one bats an eye” when a hot woman is with an ugly guy
She literally just said you’d have to find excuses for why that would be the case (money, power, well-endowed, etc.)
The 1st long clip of her talking about how after playing a sport you love it's easy to lose movement in life hit me so hard. That's exactly how I felt after I got done with college softball and had nothing else I was passionate about. I love that she said that and found movement that brings her joy!
It depends on what people think "ugly" or "beauty" is
And everybody thinks roughly the same
@@Josh-sz8ip You're pretty sorely mistaken
@@josephpchajek2685 No I'm not. The same criminals all have loads of women in the comments saying how handsome they are with 0 disagreement.
@@josephpchajek2685 if you think that fat persons are preaty you have a mental illnes
There are objective factors that do exist, but yeah, beauty may vary from person to person
25:16 It bothered me a bit when she implied that beautiful women get cheated on because they lack other qualities, even if they had all the qualities in the world their husbands would probably still cheat because it's about the cheater's character and how much they value loyalty
Its because these men are insecure in the presence of beautiful women and deliberately cheat to feel some semblance of power or whatever the male psyche makes up in its mind.
As an ugly woman . I can honestly say that being unattractive makes life hard
How so? Don't want to debate. I ask this question. Because I see attractive women hate getting attention or catcall from disgusting men. That doesn't sound pleasant.
From your pfp, and your videos, you're not ugly!
You are beautiful you gotta get that confidence up
Omg, I watch your videos, I didnt know you watch Brittany Simon, so happy to see you here! PS: Anyone who loves you will not mind your looks.
Your pfp says otherwise. Girl, you're adorable.
I wish we could just love who we love and didn’t have this whole idea of “every couple needs to be equally physically attractive”
they are exposing themselves on social media. get over your virtue signaling
My last partner would always say I was a 5 or 6, but if I changed things and was "more confident," I would have been an 8. He would never find issues in himself and always believed he couldn't better himself (not saying he had to, just how he was).
My partner now I consider fairly attractive, but that isn't what drew me to him. The first time I saw him, I honestly thought he was a cocky douche. In that same night, I saw him just goof around and just say hi to people and even danced with a guy from one of his classes because they saw eachother at the same restaurant that we were eating at. He's now grown his hair a bit instead of buzzing it all off and it has made him look more gentle, but what still draws me is his humor and how he always tries to make me smile and laugh.
Even when I sit there and say he's cute/hot/attractive, he always turns it to say, "I know you are."
We both have skin issues, so in a way, us saying that to each other is reassuring because when having breakouts, we don't feel the most attractive, yet when we say it, it means a lot, and we know we aren't with each other for our looks but how we like to make the other feel happy and secure overall.
As for the rating scale, I don't really know how to rate myself or my partner because that's not what matters, just that I'm happy to have him in my life at the end of the day.
beautiful story, may you two thrive together
Rating yourself is not normal or healthy.
I’ve literally never met anyone who does that in my 30 years.
I think It can only be damaging.
You either love yourself or like yourself or you don’t. I think any rating system is just toxic & not “fun”
People are to obsessed with their own insecurities and projecting so much that they start to have issues empathizing with people that aren't playing a game and instead just living their life
they are putting their lives on social media doing stupid videos. so we can judge. get over your virtue signaling.
😂 seems like you're one of those people she's talking about in the comment, time to log off for a while babes and go live life, I promise you'll feel 100 times better ❤️@@EllaNonimato
Ugly is in the eye of the beholder.
no
I know beautiful women that are barley in relationships and "normal" women that has been in multiple relationships. It used to be annoying hanging out with other women because they had to show off that guys are hitting on them, one upping other women. Beauty is subjective and changes over time, in the renaissance or medieval era being plump women was the beauty standard. I think what you find attractive is what you grow up around, as an Italian women I find meditranian looks the most attractive, its all socialization.
Why cant your partner be ugly and the love of your life? I dont understand why people have a hard time accepting some people are just... Gross looking. And sometimes people are ok with dating gross looking people.
Its not a crime to look bad or be attracted to somebody that looks bad 🤣
"if he werent in shape, theyd be the same"
But he is in shape 💀
The same reason women do. For the "upper hand" or because they really do just love them.
I have a hard time understanding how we know it's wrong to judge people on skin colour but were still ruthless about other aspects of people's physicality- to a point where it feels like a blood sport.
Why are we having a rating system in general lol humans are so tacky
"you're not morally bad for being ugly" why this make me laugh so much 😂😂
Believe it or not, that`s an important thing to say. I realized in my early thirties that I didn`t just think that I am ugly, but that I subconsciously thought that was a moral failing. My parents treated me being bigger when growing up the same as me doing something wrong, like I was behaving badly by having a bigger body.
I relate to this woman so much. I got to the smallest I'd ever been. I got more male attention, but I'd never felt more alone.
God your comment hit hard, and your username is *chefs kiss*
My soon to be 27 year old daughter is fit, trim, fiscally prudent, and convinced by internet manosphere that no man will even want to marry. Her emotional state is bad. Schools and society have been telling her all her life that she's not enough.
Can we stop rating people? Its very toxic. Why sure, you can not feel confident in yourself and want to change something but nobody should do that for you and one shouldn't do that to others. The rating system always ends up breaking people down and making people feel worse about themselves, it also can create a certain way people view what beauty is when really people are attractive or get more attractive when you get to know them. I think going off of looks alone is very shallow, though I do understand certain people or traits can looks attractive to certain people. The rating system is just far too binary.
Yes, I know people can be conventionally attractive from what society as a whole views people which differs from countries and regions, and that can give one a foothold in the society. This is called pretty privilege and it is definitely real and very wrong.
Very comfortable in my 5 out of 10 era. 😂
I remember at 33 when a guy said i was a 10, Then other guys said the same. My first thought was wtf makes you think i want to be rated on a scale of 1 to 10. I was actually turned off by being scored and also I am snart enough to know that it's all in the eye of the beholder. I personally find the whole person attractive, I like character and a interesting face.
Imo I think it’s a power dynamic, I’ve been saying this for years. I myself in many people eyes am conventionally attractive, but seems to me all the hot men I like disregaurd me then years later I’ll see him with a woman that is imo “mid”. I think it’s also due to him knowing that she will most likely not be able to cheat on him even if she wanted. So it eases men’s mind to be the hotter one in the relationship. She won’t cheat but if he wanted to he could.
I don't like this talk about rating beauty from 1 to 10. It will only put your confidence down or too high. if someone thinks they are a 10, let them be. I know they might be too cocky but as long as they are not putting anyone else down, it's okay. Besides, who is to say what a 10, a 7 or a 5 is? So, if someone thinks they are a 7, are they being falsely modest too? That's too much judgment that can only dim anyone's confidence.
Without make up I'm definitely more a 3/4. Done up I can go up to a 5/6 and with filters...8 😂😂
I feel it's all in the eye of the beholder and our scales have been skewed from decades of Hollywood magic and Photoshop that now natural woman's faces are seen as lower in rating even though the people we see in media are heavily doctored to look that way we're not the problem they are
if you consider yourself a 3/4 where does that leave the rest of us? Girl you are legit gorgeous xx
Get a man who is also a 3 then
I think it's really sad when people judge whether or not a person they've never met is attractive enough for a celebrity to date. It puts so much importance on looks, when these people could have very deep and rich connections with each other. Cillian Murphy, for example, has a partner who's a creative like him so I bet their relationship is awesome.
This man is not hot (in my definition) like not even a little bit. I think they’re at each other’s averages. She’s just a little overweight in comparison to him.
kindness makes you attractive no matter what
Im QUITE overweight and i have a soft roundish face. Personally i think I'm a 2, a 3 when I dress up nice. And that's fine. Sure, I'd be more attractive if I lost weight. But I also don't owe anybody attractiveness, especially when my partner is into me. Being attractive is the least interesting thing you can be.
It's really not interesting. I've met some conventionally attractive people who were so ugly on the inside. Being solely pretty isn't enough, at least for me.
It doesn't matter if you don't care about it, I suppose. But some don't want to be with an overweight partner and still have to struggle with their weight.
@@heatherwilliams3748 because pretty privilege IS real and because they achieve so much from being conventionally attractive they believe they don't NEED to be anything else.
@@hayley179g that's true. And I'm under no assumption it isn't. The majority of people in life have been put off by the fact that I'm fat. And continue to be. And that's fine with me, honestly. especially considering I don't have the greatest face, either. Being fit would help me but not by much. I'd still be fairly unattractive.
You say you don't owe anybody attractiveness. And that's true, but I think you're looking at it wrong. You owe your body health, at least if you want to stay for a while.
a lot of western/hollywood attractiveness is also rooted in whiteness and the theft of poc features. which is important to note because every example of beauty shown was white. and part of the reason why i think a lot of people would rate poc's attractiveness lower. Even if they may have perfect skin, symmetrical face, perfect body, when compared to someone who is white.
@@Observette i think saying to 'not look at everything through' is missing the point in the first place, im not saying that the creator thinks pocs are ugly or attractive. im saying that in order to have a conversation about beauty, attractiveness and how our biases affect our perceptions of people, you also need to include race and racial biases may fit in to that.
its also kinda a problem in itself that no poc's were represented in a conversation about about beauty and attractiveness, ugly or not.
It's the West, of course "whiteness" is the beauty standard in a white/western country.
@@vklnew9824 yeah…but white people. Are. Not. The. Only. People. Living. In. The. West. Black and brown people live in the west (and have always lived here) and are still subjected to white beauty standards despite them NOT being white.
Wait what? I love Stephanie Lange! Her videos are so introspective and she's a mum as well but dedicates a lot of time and effort into making her videos engaging.
Half of the women this lady mentions in her video are hardly what I would like to call 'ugly'.
Some people logic is like: people like on average this one thing, therefore everybody likes this one thing. There is so much people who do not understand what a spectrum is
1. Some time it is a power play, hot chick with mid man or otherwise, just for feel the control~safety(trauma staff) .
2. Honestly, i love puff girls, they are super comfy to hug and snuggle, and i feel this as one of the hottest things.
Also Being out of yours norm fuck up your hormones, so if you feel good skinny - stay skinny, if you feel good puffed, stay puffed, if you feel bad try change sth, if it ll feel better - stay in a New shape, otherwise consider sth else, sometimes feeling good not related to your shapes. Be aware of cardio and shugar problems, i want my wife to live longer.
I love your videos. You always make me do introspection and it always feels like you’re calling me out on my bs (in a good way). There’s a lot of work I need to do on myself, and I feel like you give the truth on how things are and how to think to be a good/better moral person. I hope I can have an ounce of the wisdom (or more lol) you have one day. Thank you for your videos!!
I am so happy to have you here!
My bf is a model. I’m 5’2 180 and he loves ALL OF IT. But I do arguably occasionally model for folks but I do know people tend to struggle with his choice in me.
"I married my man, whose a woman" 😂 healthy goals 💅
With most of the examples she gave (with the exception of Hailey and Justin) the man is 100% better looking. But whatever, it's rare couples are perfectly matched and completely equal levels of attractiveness. As you said, if you're in love, you'll find your partner attractive despite fluctuations to weight/appearance (and especially aging!). I can't say I agree with you fully that any changes will be inconsequential to attraction if you're in love. I personally don't relate to that. There is a range of variation I'd be fine with, but morbid obesity would be unattractive to me, whether I was in love or not.
With Alicia and Scott, I don't think both are mid! Scott is much better looking than Alicia, even when she was at her smallest. But truly who cares, if they're happy and thriving it doesn't matter if their looks don't match. For me the thing that is most mind boggling about their coupling is definitely the lifestyle differences and also the value differences. I'm quite concerned with my health and appearance, and I workout daily and always stay fit. I have a disability so taking great care of my body is both a value and necessity. And I do not match with guys who are lazy, who don't workout, and who aren't health conscious or who overeat. It's a major incompatibility and frankly a personal turnoff. I really enjoy being active with my partner, and also know that they want to take care of their body and stay in good shape! Not just for appearance sake but for overall good health, vitality and longevity. I don't want my man huffing an puffing trying to keep up with me on a hike because he doesn't take care of his health.
Alicia and Scott being high School sweethearts since they were young
Women are sexualy attracted when a man does yard work or does manual labor or socially dominates while men are attracted more to physical looks and don't care about that stuff. 🤷♂️ and we both make exceptions once we pair bond with each other. I think that's why people get outspoken about men with less attractive women but who knows.
I also think that a lot of men will like " socially unacceptable" women behind the scenes and Infront of people will make fun of her. Men are not as superficial as people think, they will make fun of women looks to make her feel insecure or they want to look cool Infront of their male friends, dont trust what men say.
@@Chrissy123-t2x We like nearly all women, even if you're a bit fat and never workout, but women don't like nearly all men and under those same conditions. But if we take women of worse looks, then the men at the bottom of the looks scale have 0 options left.
@@Josh-sz8ipNo, men do not like nearly all women that's just a bold face lie 😂 I get you want men to come off as not superficial but men are equally superficial as women, get a grip
I do not understand how attractiveness is objective while at the same time, what you personally find attractive is subjective. Who is deciding what objective attractiveness is? I feel like Brittany is referring to, or at least what I am hearing is, that object attractiveness is what our society deems to be attractive (Edit: Brittany please correct me if I'm wrong). But that also isn't objective because that's always changing. Examples of attractiveness changing over time: chubbier women used to be more attractive in older days in the west and in the east, in Rome men with big 🍆 were seen as unattractive and barbaric while smaller 🍆 were sophisticated and attractive, beards were attractive in the olden days, they fell out of fashion in the 20th century, and nowadays they're seen as attractive again.
Also, there different standards within a community at the same time. What's attractive in the gay bear community is not the same as what's attractive in the gay twink community.
I would like a whole video exploring/challenging this subject.
i love the way your brain works so much. i watch alot of people i dont necessarily agree with just for the sake of hearing others ideas, but no one comes close to the amount on nuance and retrospection you bring to topics. absolutely my cup of tea
okay how is no one talking about how gorgeous brittany’s hair looks in this style omggg
I think that the way people are animated is underrated as an attraction point. A photo is one thing but seeing someone move adds so much context! But istg beauty standards are the least intuitive thing to me, I get so confused, especially for men.. I just assume if a man is muscular, he’ll basically meet the standard, because that seems to be the entire basis? I’m aware non muscular men can also meet the standard, but I never know when they do or don’t lol. Women’s standards seem more strict, so it’s a little easier to guess, but still seems randomish… plus it seems like face and body are still often taken separately, so if your body is more to standard, your face can be less, and vice versa. And don’t even get me started on when age becomes a factor! Way confusing LOL
i have like 10 at least kilos that i need to get off.. you can't be grateful for that body since IT IS UNHEALTHY!! you know she doesn't eat well and don't exercise (she needs aerobics and loose weight) What Bill Burr said about these people (i can't put the word because youtube will ban me) is super funny AND TRUE.
All the rest are just excuses.
She's young now.. but being young is just a small period of your life. When she pass the 40 year old barrier she will regret saying all that about her weight.
I like how you defined objectivity( attraction) and subjectivity ( beauty). Great video.
Quick answer she wasn’t “ugly” when he chose her… she was a fitness model when he chose her, he stuck by her because he loves her. But don’t get it twisted he didn’t chose her when she was “ugly” he chose her when she was hot, and then stuck around. Men don’t “chose” ugly women.
Yes. In fact, they do! Because overweight isn't ugly! And some men or woman, (quite a few actually!) Love big women!!!! They don't like skinny! It is in the eyes of the beholder. Everyone else needs to mind their business and stop being so shallow!
This isn't true. It's probably rare but I knew a dude in school who was conventionally handsome and always chose awkward looking women. It was just his preference
I’m a 5 but I think I could be like a 5.8 if I lost 10 lbs 😅
I think it must be hard to be a 10 and not know if people are dating you for the clout, looks, or you. Less good looking people are probably relatively less shallow, as being in shape and being attractive takes some level of effort and dedication to being attractive! I think it shows these relationships are real and it actually shows the depth and intellectual value of these actors!
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100%!!!
Beauty = Subjective.
Attracted To... = Subjective.
Attractive = Objective.
Maybe he wanted some security. A pretty girl will have a lot of options may cheat and leave
As an unattractive person I can safely say as far as health and athleticism unattractive people have better genetics than your normal attractive person. Example: Arnold schwarzenegger son he had with his maid is a Chad compared to his children he had with his normal attractive wife.
There is a division in how people interpret the 1-10 system. Some people view this as a decile system, in which each number represents 10% of the population. Under this interpretation 1 in 10 people is a 10, as they are more beautiful or attractive than 90% of people. In this system it is "not that unlikely" to be a 10 and certainly not delusional to think you might be, especially if you are using normative standards of beauty that prioritize the appearance of youth as that will naturally bias the rating towards young people, increasing the likelihood that a young person will be a 10 beyond 1 in 10 and possibly as far as 1 in 5. There are hundreds of millions of 10s in this system. Young people saying they are 7s may effectively be thinking "I am more attractive than almost anyone 10 years older than me, so that puts me over a 5, I think I am more attractive than half my peers of my age, so +2.5, modestly that makes me a 7." This is actually a "fair/neutral" middle ground assessment for young people using the decile system.
On the other hand if you view the 1 to 10 system in reference to the athletics/dance scoring system, in which defects in performance subtract down from the maximum score, then a 10 is a virtual impossibility and only ever achieved by the absolute peak of performance from far outliers in the Bell curve of all "attempts". Based on this view, essentially no one is a 10 and claiming to be one appears pure vanity or delusion. The majority of people in this system will fall between 3 and 7, so judging oneself a 7 would be to judge yourself "the most attractive of the majority" and so seems biased and vane.
Before we can have meaningful discussion on these subjects, we need to define the terms. That means every interview of this type should start with "Using the decile system, meaning a 10 is more attractive than 90% of people, and a 3 is more attractive than 30% of people, how would you rate yourself?" Or "starting with a top possible score of 10 and deducting from there for every imperfection away from.the maximum possible beauty, how do you rate yourself?"
But she’s literally crying talking about herself while heavy. She can’t say that’s “happy “
Not as much of a Flight Risk...
Beauty is Worthless without Loyalty.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Why are people so invested in other relationships to the point of being disrespectful?
Hey Brit you should watch of Herbs and Alters video on what its like having been an attractive young neurodivergent female growing up. It sort of touches on some of these topics but its also an interesting perspective
ooo once I asked my ex if he thought I looked better with or without my glasses and he took it like I was fishing for something. na I'm just curious about how people perceive me, it's not going to change what I do
Am tried of Hollywood's standers of beauty, its always same thing..all the actors look the same males and woman!
Doesn’t apply to the video but I just wanted to comment about how sometimes I think I’m a 1 bc I have severe adhd. You should make a video about how mental illness/ disability can impact your level system
Honestly that’s how I know for a FACT I can’t be a 10 cos I’d be rolling in cash if I was 😂
Society is so depressing, my gosh.
I work in a strip club and get rated 7-8 maybe even 9 by most men but I’m not delusional. In Vegas I was considered 6-7 by some men. In Ohio where I stay I get rated 7-9. I don’t think too much of myself! I never call myself a 10. I have eyes though. It’s kinda a social experiment being a stripper. I got to realize how attractive I am to the eyes of many men and sure it’s a strip club and men lie too but I get 7-8 in public places that aren’t the club even covered up. I have a skinny straight nose, cat shaped green eyes, big lips (filler), arched brows, long brunette shiny straight hair, high cheek bones, V shaped jaw line, big boobs, small waist, curvy hips, medium fit booty, 5’4, toned arms, and olive skin tone.
How ever I ain’t everybody’s type. Beauty is def the eyes of the beholder. Men like blondes or skinnier than me a lot. Guys want thick red heads over me sometimes. Everyone has a type. Also you made a great point. Guys do hit on women who are less attractive the most because it’s less intimidating. Even when I work at the clubs I’ll notice guys want the easier less attractive looking women over me. They’ll straight up look at me and say I’m too expensive and they feel they don’t have a chance with me. That’s a real thing. I’m not a 10. I’m not a 9. I doubt I’m a 8 sometimes but I hear that rating a lot. You can’t win tho guys even if you are attractive to the standards of today.
I try to not base my opinion of somebody's attractiveness based on outward appearance. I notice if I look for personality....I don't care if half of their face is burnt off. haha
Most men date anyone as opposed to women. That's why, I'm a guy and I like someone who likes me back, most guys aren't that picky to begin with.
Bro, I'm black this is nothing new. And I mean in terms of moderately to very overweight women with men who are prison fit. Not ugly. Most women, when properly groomed are at least average-looking, unless she's been in an accident or is astronomically unlucky.
I ❤ the way I look because every time I look in the mirror I see my father.
I needed this today....great video
an alligator and a witch 😂 felt that
Weird things for me to say, but i think youre beautiful. But you remind me of me. I also have curly hair and a bigger nose, you help me feel like im actually more attractive than i thought
nothing wrong with saying u r a 10 imo, cuz u can love ur looks even if u don’t fit the societal beauty standards, why take the ratings so seriously
I love this concept " the love of your kife will find you super attractive " really gives me hope for love 😊😊🥰
Remember Shallow Hal?
Give me a stack of 100 pictures of each person and have about 10,000 of them then rate the pictures and average the results. Then if I'm rating 1% of people a 10 then it's clearly off.
Piers Brosnan was so hot from 1997 to 1999!
I’d see people saying the same things about Tammy Peterson when Jordan Peterson was at his prime. He is besotted with her, and it’s really been his major redeeming quality for me when it comes to everything😅.
I agree!!! I doubt there are many 10s in ASTHETICS; however your life partner and true love will always rate you an 11/10!!! There are so many traits that are attractive LOOKS ARE ONLY ONE OF THEM!!!! The only ugly people I have ever met was people who are ugly inside as well as out!!!! Sooooooooooooooooooo: Yep I’m a high 6- chuck in a good hair day & on point make up definitely a 7!!!
This was interesting thanks for sharing
ur hairstyle is so pretty!
I think out of 10 guys there is a good chance I would be the most attractive. It seems to me your not rating it that way though. I think One on 10 people should be a 10.🤷
Intelligence can add at least 2 points of attractiveness to me. And if they like me a lot then that could maby contribute a nother 2. So a 6 could be a ten in my eyes if she's smart and likes me.😄
I think the whole rating someone attractiveness scale is dumb I'll be honest I don't know what a10 is and while physical beauty has some objective aspect it is also a subjective aspect if someone sees themselves as a 10 and they are n't to you let them be its their life
Fair enough he has improved but why couldn't she just keep up
Brit I'll love to listen to your opinion about people that are in relationships with disable people not having a disability themselves!! Is very interesting
I don't see anything wrong with any of these people. I am genuinely wondering if I am closer to Ace, my senses are warped.
Ronnie radke is who I want to look like
i think im a 4, 3, 2 out of 10
Big women are attractive. My first wife weighed 300lbs
Can you do a reactions to Sadia khan - she’s a relationship expert. Her interview w Tom billeyu
Sorry, but she looks very unhealthy. Everyone knows this, but doesn't want to admit it. I think that's why people are shocked about the relationship matchup.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.❤
Why are you imitating the styles from the era we grew up in ?
Seriously I think your a 8
i wont comment on the relationship, its whatever its not my gf so he can enjoy her actually looks like wife material, even if it sounds condescending I really think it. But ill comment on the health part.
Sis I'm sorry but being in poor mental health also makes your body weak. The mentality that the girl has now paired with the body she had when she was thin is a bomb combo, but she was stressed, pressured by expectations and other factors ,mainly mental, that ended up affected her body. If anyone tells you they were unhappy when they got thinner and more healthy, first you have to ask what that looked like and the reasons or mentality behind the change. I have been thin and heavy, with poor and good mental health. With poor mental health you feel bad no matter what but if you have good and are heavy you feel restrained, limited and thin you feel like God with how good it feels.
I'm sorry couldn't take that comment seriously with my exp thats all, have a good one
Jealousy is envy😊
because they are using those women as "beards"
Hugh jackman aand his exwife 😂
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"Or they think that you're ugly enough to hit on."
I had this conversation the other day about how I was used. I didn't expect this subject to be spoken about in this video, the shock triggered a trauma of mine. 🥲