Ben has said this wasn't written because someone broke up with him. He actually wrote this from the perspective of the person he separated with. He was the one who needed space. That's the power of acting, the empathy of seeing the other side. It's truly powerful and moving. Thank you Ben for this beautiful song!
in an interview (with GMM I think) Ben said that he wrote this about one of his past partners with whom he had a very special relationship that he didn't want to end, but that he understood that they both needed to go their separate ways in the end.
@@sandysinner6901 How don't you get that me and my ex seperated for the same reasons because love alone cant keep you going till death do us part. Love is but the basis.
I wonder if he's crying because he doesn't mean this song to be benefiting from their sadness, or using their heartbreak for profitable inspiration; he means this as a way of empathy and understanding the person. In the end: the song is still making him money; and I think the double edged sword is horribly painful to bear, because he means well, and is worried after breaking up with them, this song will come off wrong to the person it's meant for.
You say there's so much you don't know You need to go and find yourself You say you'd rather be alone 'Cause you think you won't find it tied someone else Who said it's true, That the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you I don't think you have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we'll take it slow And grow as we go, ooh And grow as we go, ooh You won't be the only one I am unfinished, I've got so much left to learn I don't know how this river rides But I'd like to the company through every twist and turn Who said it's true, That the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you You don't ever have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we'll take it slow And grow as we go, ooh And grow as we go, ooh And grow as we go, ooh And grow as we go, ooh I don't know who we'll become I can't promise it's not written in the stars But I believe that when it's done We're gonna see that it was better That we grew up together Tell me you don't wanna leave 'Cause if change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we'll take it slow And grow as we go, oh And grow as we go, oh And grow as we go, oh And grow as we go, ooh
Suddenly I understand why I always ran away, pushing everyone away. I need to learn how to don't get scared growing up alongside someone else. What a powerful song!
I wanted to break up with my boyfriend few times before, but he never want to allow me. Until last november he finally agreed, the failure of my decision happened when he found a way reach me. He never left afterwards. He's like a pimple you can't get rid off easily. But, he made me understand how much he cared for me with his efforts and how he accepts me regardless of my immaturity and insecurities. I understood how badly he wanted me to be with him. (Obsession at it's best) I realize that i could improve myself beside him, that I can depend on him when times I just feel helpless. He did so many things to have me, and did so many things to have me again. I'm grateful I have him with me. (Thankfully he's not the maniac type of obsessed man.)
The most beautiful thing anyone can ever do is accept your flaws, your insecurities and help you overcome them. The most beautiful kind of love is the one that is not perfect, but the one that helps you grow as you go. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find someone like that. A love like that is so rare, it's a privilege. So if you have someone in your life who accepts you in your darkest moments, stays by your side and helps you grow, please don't let them go.
I was that person to someone but she left me because she said she was tired being disrespectful to me and tired trying to overcome that trait. I guess something like that makes people like us become rare. I have my negative traits too but i am willing to change it just to be together but she wasnt interested again.
@@borgorkong7811 same bitch my childhood lol i remember being happy but i dont remember the feeling i can remember it being there but not what it was like
I love how people interpret this song differently. Some people see it as a breakup song for two people who love each other and just are not right for each other. While others see this song as a tribute to partners growing together through challenges. Yes, I know he wrote it about a relationship he had where he knew they just weren’t right for each other. But that’s the beauty of music. Interpretation!
So my interpretation is, I made this new friend and I didn't think twice about it he doesn't want to date anyone n just be friends. Then after spending time with him he made me notice that I wasnt just falling for his personality but i was falling for him. (Of course never confessing this to him but I'm sure he knew by the way I simply held his hand or the way my eyes looked at him So Deeply.) So I kept asking myself why has God brought this person into my life and why do I hold him so closely to me? He's always kept people at a far distance cuz he says he wants to leave behind the smallest print of damage (as a grenade he referenced himself) After a while he told me his sercret. That he was dying from cancer n the doctors told him he be lucky to live 3-6 months. It took everything in me not to fall to my knees in front of him n not cry, but I knew I had to be strong standing there hearing this, at the same time I never felt my heart be torn apart in this new different way. All I wanted was his company n the way he's shaping me to be the man I should be n always wanted to be. So as I'm growing n learning from him I decided to spend every second that I can have with him as a gift. While we all have a soulmate or soulmates in this world we never know how much time we have to spend with that person, So I'm gonna enjoy it n bring as much happiness into his world bcuz he has brought so much love into my heart. PS: he's still alive n still going from the time expectancy the doctors gave him.
as a broadway performer, you have to know the rules. with really good contemporary music, you have to know the rules to break them. when you constantly sing live, you must adapt your voice, thus it will have a natural, smooth sound.
@Dawniebug I guess it's practicing with the proper techniques and instruction. I've been singing in front of people for the last 11 years. It's all been based on what I hear and think I need to do from what I see others do, but my voice is never crisp or clean sounding. I think I need proper training for that on top of practice.
I've never listened to a song for the first time and thought "Wow, this makes me want to get married so I can have this be 'our song' and do our first dance to it." This is it. This is the song.
I felt that way when I first heard 'You Are The Reason' by Calum Scott, but now that I've heard this, I don't think I could think of a better song for that purpose.
I don't know if you've ever loved someone who struggles with the demons of manic depression but there is a detaching they do when they hit their lows- a pushing away as they wrestle with all of the worst solutions to a battle they feel like they never win. The first time I heard this song, it had me in a ball on the floor. I wanted to call my daughter, immediately, and play it for her. This is what I feel every time she goes to that dark place. I get that this was written from the perspective of two people in a romantic relationship but I will never see it as anything but a mother begging her daughter to just keep holding on. That she doesn't have to go to the dark places alone.
A perfect relationship is not perfect, it's just that both people never gave up. If you want a realatioship that looks and feels like the most amazing thing on Earth, you need to treat it like it is the most amazing thing on earth. You don't need someone to complete you. You need someone to accept you completely.
I’m sorry, but the way Ben is just trembling at the end fills me with so much heartbreak. Like, he just stares off into the distance as the director talks to the crew, and then he says “Ben? We good?” And he just snaps out of it and says “yes. Good.” And just darts away Jfc Ben please stop making me cry ilysm
What makes it worse is the dancing in the video because it kind of shows that someone left him even tho that person was basically a part of him and that them leaving (by the rough kind of quick hard dancing) was not easy :’(
That, "Yes. Good." Though. I can't stress enough how important good acting is to musical performance. Ben is absolutely stunning in this area. Can't wait to hear the rest of the album!
It reminds me so much of Evan (the character he played in dear Evan Hansen) like the song made my eyes water but as soon as I heard that one line at the end I started sobbing
It makes me tear up each time. I can feel and see the pain in this song. It's so poignant and honestly one of my favourites. I've watched it over and over and I will watch it over and over for as long as I can.
Me and my wife grew up together and have known each other since we were 5. We were friends then enemies, lovers, then parents. We now have a baby boy and have grown to learn so much from each other and about each other. Love is not agreement but acceptance and appreciation. This song speaks so much to us that I learned it and sang it for my 9 month pregnant wife who I still love with all my heart from 20 years ago :)
Love is not agreement but acceptance and appreciation. That’s a great advice hope all people acknowledge it and to be aware that love is hard work not something easy.
Since i lost my wife, i have been seeing her right next to me while i talk to the imaginary "her". Sometines I see her smile, sometimes i see her cry, giving me a cheer of encouragement or waving goodbye to me. Its so real sometimes that i felt a moment of comfort seeing her there... But i know how Ben feels at the end of the video... cause thats how i tear up when i reality hits me. When I know that shes actually gone.
I sent this song to my ex when he was distancing from me and when he said he needed to be alone from now on. He replied that he feels bad for me that I still have hope. It broke me. This song beautifully summarized my feelings and my heart goes out to everyone who’s going through a hard time. I’m with you
I'm so sorry, I hope you find the person who will be there for you when you need them in future - because if they wanted to, they would. I'm in a similar situation. We'll both be okay
Two years ago, I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and felt broken. This song kept me from breaking up with my boyfriend. It took the words he had been trying to tell me for so long and put it in a song. After hearing this song, I let him love me just where I was. We grew together. We’re getting married in December :) Edit: Thank you all for the kind words! We decided last night that this HAS to be the song we dance to for our first dance. No other song is as meaningful!
This is probably the first time I've truly experienced having the thought of "You know, the world would honestly be a much better place if more people were aware of this person's music." Ben Platt genuinely has the voice of an angel and the world is truly affected positively by his presence in it.
This song reminds me of when my boyfriend broke up with me. We went our separate ways for a year and somehow found our way back to each other and now we're getting married at the end of this year :')
Today marks the third anniversary with the love of my life, Colleen Michelle. She wrote me a beautiful card and mentioned this song, which I had sent to her. Being from Michigan while she is from California, sending songs was our way of expressing love while we were apart. I would sit alone, moved to tears as I chose songs that conveyed our feelings. This particular song touched me deeply because of the distance and the challenges we faced. Over the past three years, we have grown together through both wonderful and difficult times. Colleen has opened my eyes to many of my selfish tendencies, showing me what true love is and helping me grow as a person. It’s not always easy to confront your faults, but it allows me to understand what I truly want in life-to grow with the love of my life, Colleen Michelle. Always and forever, happy three years. I love you so much.
Most everyone? Unless for some inexplicable reason we have hate watchers... I'm technically here because I'm in a melancholy love song war with my younger sister and this is what she sent me, but I would imagine I'm in the minority.
If someone reads this in the future, I'm still getting over the best love story in my life that is full of surprises, divine timing, coincidences, laughter and tears with my soulmate whom I had multiple pastlives. I have waited for 37 yrs to meet her, should have crossed paths in 2014 during my EU tour - we should have accidentally met but I had a detour to another country, was single for 8 yrs before I finally met her in 2023, could have met in person finally in 2024.. Grow as we go
There's just something so human in all these songs. I feel like a lot of times we trust people to be there when we jump. That they will open themselves to grow with us as we travel through life. That perhaps they will understand why small things like music videos and harmonies change and shift the universe. Yet some people choose to stand alone. But we're not alone. None of us.
I’ve always loved how while singing Ben can also communicate through his facial expression. Like how when he focuses on some notes he closes his eyes and shakes his head. It’s really sweet and endearing. Also his riffs are amazing.
This song strikes a chord. I've always pushed people and relationships away, thinking I can only be with someone once I've fully come into my own and know where I'm going and what I'm doing in my life. It often leads me to feel so lonely because as the years pass I still can't seem to figure life out. This song makes me think that maybe I don't have to have it all figured out in order to be in a relationship--that it's okay to fall in love, and even if I don't have clarity about life, we can figure it out together. Thanks Ben!
I can relate to you too. Im in a relationship where we are both still figuring things out. My girl had depression and she pushed me away back then since she doesnt want to burden me and my family. But i keep coming back to her. I ask her that its okay to be together, I keep assuring her that I can help her grow and she helps me grow too. Because we can change together for the better. She cried and cried. And now we are planning alot of things for the future. Uncertain but still trusting each other. We havent even met yet hehehe but its gonna be in a month and im so excited.
@@JoeMama-sd2kl I'm happy for you guys. I also was in a relationship but I pushed my gf away for the second time because I wanted to figure things out but now it's lonely and I regret pushing her away and not communicating with her like talking about things and everything just sucks now.
If my 3 years ex sees this. Pls know that I'm happy seeing u happy right now. Just do what you want and stop thinking about what other people will think about what you did, you always overthink too much. Just relax and trust yourself okay
am i the only person that thinks this song could be both heartbreaking and filled with love? i mean most clearly it's about one of those heartwrenching breakups where nothing's innately wrong it's just one person wants something different. but i feel like it could be sang also like a love song/serenade with one person reassuring the other person that they'll grow as they go.
You're not the only one. It's both reassuring and heartbreaking. I find this song very beautiful, and it's one of those that makes me tear up everytime I hear it.
Well.... I showed this song to my lover today. We both are 16 and have this big exam in front of us. And he just found out that a lot of things need to change in him. I am really scared that I might lose him in this journey of him growing out of his past self. He one day told me that he'll leave if he fails. So I showed him this song and told him this expresses all the things that I want. I want both of us to grow together.
Except when she is running by herself. She is a normal clumsy girl. It is when she meets up with him that they are so in sync. I love dancing like this, my daughter would live it too. Always reminds me of so you think you can dance, this couple did bleeding love, that show had wonderful choreography too...the dancers sing with no words...
why would you possibly think you're the only person who likes this dance piece?!? are you like, the only muhfuh with taste on the whole planet? nearly 7 million people have watched this, but YOU are the only one who can see the beauty in this? get over yourself, dude...
@@azlanyaacob4737 you have 105 people who liked your comment enough, that dude is just looking for something to hate on positive comments for. What a weirdo. I wonder what he says to the commentors who just love asking if anyone else is watching it in their current year. Well, everyone that sees their comment, of course, but that is just not important. Trolls are everywhere. Every positive statement and comment is like an open target to them. All that condescension when he could just skip it and get a freakin life.
You say there’s so much you don’t know You need to go and find yourself You say you’d rather be alone Cuz you think you won’t find it tied to someone else Who said it’s true That the growing only happens on your own They don’t know me and you I don’t think you have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you’re high I’ll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we’ll take it slow And grow and as we go Grow as we go You won’t be the only one I am unfinished I’ve got so much left to learn I don’t know how this river runs But I’d like the company through every twist and turn Who said it’s true That the growing only happens on your own They don’t know me and you You don’t ever have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you’re high I’ll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we’ll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go I don’t know who we’ll become I can’t promise it’s not written in the stars But I believe that when it’s done We’re gonna see that it was better That we grew up together Tell me you don’t want to leave Cuz if change is what you need You can change right next to me When you’re high I’ll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow We’ll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go
Even our favorite people, who we think have their lives all put together, are human. broken. Imperfect. Damaged. They are beautiful, yes. But they are broken. Just like you and me. That's what keeps them human. Anyone who says that they have their life together is a liar, by saying that, they are claiming to be perfect. NOBODY is perfect. If you could switch lives with anybody in the world who you think have their lives together, you would be both disappointed, and you would change your world view. The way people perceive things changes everything. One woman might hate men because as a child she was abused by one, perspective. My dog, for instance was abused by her former master, a man. She hated every man in my family until 3 years after we got her. during those 3 years though, a FedX Man came to drop off a package, I opened the door and she ran out and bit the mans hand. Luckily, I'm a nurse, and this was when COVID-19 Wasn't a real threat yet. I managed to help the man and only come off with a warning and fine. Now, she's the sweetest dog anyone could ask for. I cried watching this video because I had just recently went through a divorce. I will always be a theater kid at heart.
I was here about 5 years ago. But today this music pop up on my page, reminding me about my dark days before finally found my turning point. Turns out no matter what happen in our life, it always depend on how we assume our life would be. And here I am, forgot what it feels like drowning in sorrow. Because I owe my life, and it deserve to be happy ❤ For those who struggle bad days, hope one day you'll also get your turning point. Good days still exist and waiting for you ❤
@@liviamaria535 person I don't know, I thank you for that. It truly has been better. It's kind of a nice feeling when someone somewhere says exactly what you needed that someone else couldn't say it in the way it was said.
You ever hear a song for the first time at just the right time in your life and it opens up a part of your soul that you didn't know was closing? Yeah... this is my favorite song.
Literally, yes! A guy I was getting to know was getting really close to me. Things felt like they were taking a serious turn. I don't let people in easy and he knew that... I started pulling away from him. Before I could really do that though, he sent this to me early one January morning. It was the first thing I heard after waking and I literally got chills, cried, and let go of so much emotion. I have felt so much lighter since that day. I decided to give it a shot. Give him a shot. Best decision I've ever made. We've been together since then and I pray it never ends. I mean I don't know if we're forever, things can change, but he's opened my heart in so many ways. I'll always be grateful to him, and to Ben for this beautiful and touching song. I still get goosebumps when I listen to this, thinking back to that morning.
i understand that the song is about romantic relationships more than anything else but holy shit does it speak to me on a really personal level; it feels like a lesson to avoid isolating yourself from significant others, close friends, and family members, that you don’t have to develop by yourself but rather with others, instead. thank u ben platt for sharing such a healthy message through such a lovely music video
That moment at 2:05 when he says "But I'd like the company" His expression kills me. That moment of, I don't have the answers, but please just stay so we can find them together.
"Grow As We Go" [Verse 1] You say there's so much you don’t know You need to go and find yourself You say you'd rather be alone 'Cause you think you won’t find it tied to someone else [Pre-Chorus] Ooh, who said it's true That the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you [Chorus] I don't think you have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high, I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we'll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go [Verse 2] You won't be the only one I am unfinished, I’ve got so much left to learn I don’t know how this river runs But I'd like the company through every twist and turn [Pre-Chorus] Ooh, who said it’s true That the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you [Chorus] You don't ever have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high, I’ll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we'll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go [Bridge] I don't know who we'll become I can't promise it's not written in the stars But I believe that when it's done We're gonna see that it was better That we grew up together [Chorus] Tell me you don't wanna leave 'Cause if change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high, I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow We'll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go
My wife played this song for me a few years ago it was very moving as we have been together since we were 15 and we have two wonderful children. She passed away two weeks ago at 36 years old after a valiant battle with breast cancer. I and my young children are so very shattered.
So sorry for your loss, and your children’s. Ben Platt has another song that may be of comfort to you - “So Will I.” My daughter is 37 and battling brain cancer; she has 3 little ones. My heart goes out to you.
Both. I mean it's his music, he has the strongest connection to it. One of the things about being an actor is feeling the feelings your character feels. If you are in character whatever made them sad might make you sad. When I'm singing Michael In The Bathroom at three in the morning and am really trying I usually end up crying.
To myself: I know being vulnerable with anyone is so difficult. Remember that it is not your fault. But you owe it to yourself to fight for your own freedom. You deserve to feel safe, to express your emotions, and to love deeply. Do not settle. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and fight for yourself!! Loving someone is difficult but letting someone love you is so terrifying. But you deserve it. Fight for it
I feel like this song isn’t so much a proposition to grow together, but him begging to stay together, to not leave him behind. It sounds like excuses and reasons as to why they should be staying together. And in the end, no matter how much he’s asking and how many reasons he gives. Whoever he’s singing to doesn’t stay
Sometimes you're the tree, and sometimes the vine, desperately clinging to and suffocating the tree. Vines need something (or someone) to cling to; trees don't. They grow and thrive on their own. I always chased younger trees, but we didn't grow together, they always grew apart, reaching for the sun. Then I found an older tree, who was mature and mostly done growing. He was cold and alone, and I offered to wrap myself around him and never let go, if he'd let me, and he let me. His trunk is my strength and my leaves have brought new life to his old limbs. Ben seems like a fellow vine. I hope he finds his tree one day, and they do grow as they go. 🌿🌳
one thing that's really translated over between Dear Evan Hansen and his solo material (this video in particular) is Ben's emotional access. he has such a knack for being able to really cut to the heart of the material and expose those parts of ourselves that we usually try to guard emotionally... it's really a privilege to see, and it only makes me more excited about what else is to come.
You're not alone on that thought Lucy, I'm surprised I haven't heard this song until recently. It's a beautiful and heartfelt song. How are you doing Lucy?
This seems to come directly after "Ease My Mind" in the longer narrative Ben Platt is telling across the videos for this album. (He's wearing the same clothes at the end of "Ease My Mind" as he is in this video.) In the previous video, Ben's boyfriend has just left him, for no given reason, and this song seems to be the explanation -- the boyfriend, a photographer, thought he needed to grow on his own. Ben's face reflects his own internal monologue, because the song is his plea for his boyfriend to stay. He is also represented by the woman dancer, constantly and tenaciously seeking the male dancer who is both with her and trying to get away from her, and who disappears more and more frequently before vanishing completely, while at the same time Ben himself starts tearing up around 4.01 and has a tear streak on his face by 4.08. The female dancer runs through the building and looks into the doorway where Ben is singing, and he looks at the doorway. He sees her and recognises her as the expression of his own longing, and when we look back at the doorway, she is gone, a figment of his imagination. Ben's face melts into a tiny, sad, tender smile, because he's looking at his own lost hope.
I had finally managed to almost control my tears after watching the video a hundred times, and now I read your comment and I just broke down again.... such a powerful message really
Yes! And Bad Habit's definitely a third plate in the narrative although how it is sewn in--either as prologue or coming after GAWG--is still unclear to me. If the story follows the sequence in which the videos were released (it most probably does), it makes it all the more crushing to go from desperately clawing your way out of an addiction to a love lost, to moments of sweet remembering, to softly pleading for an alternative (growing together). We are taken to walk with Ben in his most intimate journey of heartbreak and at the same time witness the reflection of our own pains unfolding in these vignettes.
lyrics You say there's so much you don't know You need to go and find yourself You say you'd rather be alone 'Cause you think you won't find it tied to someone else Ooh, who said it's true That the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you I don't think you have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high, I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we'll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go You won't be the only one I am unfinished, I've got so much left to learn I don't know how this river runs But I'd like the company through every twist and turn Ooh, who said it's true That the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you You don't ever have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high, I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we'll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go I don't know who we'll become I can't promise it's not written in the stars But I believe that when it's done We're gonna see that it was better That we grew up together Tell me you don't wanna leave 'Cause if change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high, I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow We'll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go
I got pregnant with my baby but it wasn't in plan, I felt like I had made a mistake, I felt like everything was on standstill, achieving my dreams felt impossible, I didn't know what to do with the child but when I listened to this song, it changed everything
You say there's so much you don't know You need to go and find yourself You say you'd rather be alone 'Cause you think you won't find it tied to someone else Ooh, who said it's true That the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you I don't think you have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high, I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we'll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go You won't be the only one I am unfinished, I've got so much left to learn I don't know how this river runs But I'd like the company through every twist and turn Ooh, who said it's true That the growing only happens on your own? They don't know me and you You don't ever have to leave If to change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high, I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow And we'll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go I don't know who we'll become I can't promise it's not written in the stars But I believe that when it's done We're gonna see that it was better That we grew up together Tell me you don't wanna leave 'Cause if change is what you need You can change right next to me When you're high, I'll take the lows You can ebb and I can flow We'll take it slow And grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go Grow as we go
Talking: (Beginning) Director: Let's get him in for last looks. And lock it up. Camera ready? Let's role camera. Role sound. Guy: Scene one, take one marker. (Click) Director: Ben? You ready? Camera to one. And playback. (Music starts). Lyrics: You say there's so much you don't know. You need to go and find yourself. You say you'd rather be alone. 'Cuz you think you won't find it tied to someone else. Who said it's true? That the growin' only happens on your own. They don't know me and you. I don't think you have to leave. If to change is what you need, you can change right next to me. When you're high I'll take the lows. You can ebb and I can flow, and we'll take it slow. And grow as we go. Grow as we go. You won't be the only one. I am unfinished, I've got so much left to learn. I don't know how this river runs, but I'd like the company through every twist and turn. Who said it's true? That the growin' only happens on your own. They don't know me and you. You don't ever have to leave. If to change is what you need, you can change right next to me. When you're high I'll take the lows. You can ebb and I can flow, and we'll take it slow. And grow as we go. (mmmMm) Grow as we go. (mMm). Grow as we go (oh-oooOo) Grow as we go. (oOo). I don't know who we'll become. (Ahh-ahh-ahh-ahhhh) I can't promise it's not written in the stars. (ooooo-ahh-oo-oo) But I believe that when it's done, we're gonna see that it was better that we grew up together. Tell me you don't wanna leave. 'Cuz if change is what you need, you can change right next to me. When you're high I'll take the lows. You can ebb and I can flow, we'll take it slow. And grow as we go. (oh-oH-oohh) Grow as we go. (...woah-oh-ohh) Grow as we go. (oohhhhh) Grow as we go. Talking: Director: And cut. (Distant talking in the background) Director: I think we got it. We good for camera? ... Ben, you good? Ben: Yes, good.
I can hear fine, but I love to read along or ahead. Sometimes my mind is elsewhere. Also some people might just want to read since captions aren't always 100g accurate
Lea Kratz personally I check the lyrics to the song before I even listen a lot of the time. If the lyrics are shit, doesn’t matter how good the rest of the song is, I need substance to enjoy music. So I personally appreciate this bc it’s saves me time.
This reminds me so much of my boy bestfriend whom I risked the friendship with to continue as lovers. Although he loved me first, in the end it was me asking him to stay. Two days before our 21st month together, he told me that he wanted to focus on himself first, that we're young and he wanted to do things without thinking about hurting anyone with anything he does. He wanted to improve himself without my help, without my support. That he forgot who he was and changed, felt incomplete. He told me he loved me too much that he forgot to love himself. Now, we've decided to stay friends. I chose to give him what he wanted even though it was nowhere near what I want. I wanted to be selfish, I wanted him for me, I wanted him to stay and grow with me. But I chose to let go cause it's for his happiness :) But the thought of being his world once, and now I'm only a part of it makes my heart ache a lot. I know you won't see this. But I just want you to know that I love you. And I'm sorry if I'm not the right person who makes you love yourself even more day by day. You ARE the best thing that has ever happened to me. I may not be with you as you grow for you chose to grow alone, but I promise to be here for you and watch you become the best version of yourself. Maybe God has different plans. It was a great rollercoaster ride with you, my love. Never lose yourself again. Maybe someday, we'll be together for the second time. And by then, we'll be ready to grow together and have loved ourselves more than anyone else.
and if the two of you should meet as lovers again, may the two of you be the best possible versions there could be, and bring peace and joy to each others' lives
Only mature people can endure this. I'm so proud that you're a selfless human being. Please rediscover yourself as he does it, too. Don't stop growing! Cheer up, babe. You can do it. This part of your journey may seem sorrowful at the moment, but you'll thank this situation in the future. 💖
I don't like to listen to this song in public, or share it with friends. because I can't bring myself to explain it. I've attached pieces of my past to the lyrics and I use the melody to go back in time-- when I want to remind myself of the pain and the strength and the growth it took to get here. That grief is a treasure, it's a lesson [but this song is so fucking beautiful it makes me want to cry] so idk maybe this is just me saying thank you to Ben Platt for creating this. there are people like me who hold your words very very close to their hearts and that's got to stand for something. x
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Ben has said this wasn't written because someone broke up with him. He actually wrote this from the perspective of the person he separated with. He was the one who needed space. That's the power of acting, the empathy of seeing the other side. It's truly powerful and moving. Thank you Ben for this beautiful song!
in an interview (with GMM I think) Ben said that he wrote this about one of his past partners with whom he had a very special relationship that he didn't want to end, but that he understood that they both needed to go their separate ways in the end.
@@ruaraimckenna i dont get that. I smell bs
@@sandysinner6901 How don't you get that me and my ex seperated for the same reasons because love alone cant keep you going till death do us part. Love is but the basis.
I wonder if he's crying because he doesn't mean this song to be benefiting from their sadness, or using their heartbreak for profitable inspiration; he means this as a way of empathy and understanding the person. In the end: the song is still making him money; and I think the double edged sword is horribly painful to bear, because he means well, and is worried after breaking up with them, this song will come off wrong to the person it's meant for.
That would make sense as to why you see the guy is leaving and the girl is chasing.
Director: how many people do you want to cry because of this
Ben: yes
Bwahahhaha...perfect
Everyone lol
Honestly that’s really accurate
Nobody:
Ben: lets see how many people I can make cry
I have deep depression and although I love the song, it made me sadder and made me think about growing old. Something I'd rather not do.
This song is the equivalent of when your throat hurts while you’re holding back tears
If this ain't the truth..
it is just....a song that guts you litterally
Why does that happen?? Always wondered!
Wow. Yup.
@@dfnkjaws a certain type of stress I believe
Just gonna leave this comment here. So one day in the future when someone likes this comment, I'll be reminded of this beautiful song :)
❤❤❤
Listen to this now buddy ❤
Best comment on the World Wide Web I’ve read today. Love from Manchester England.
Ding
Hi, this is wake-up service
You say there's so much you don't know
You need to go and find yourself
You say you'd rather be alone
'Cause you think you won't find it tied someone else
Who said it's true,
That the growing only happens on your own?
They don't know me and you
I don't think you have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go, ooh
And grow as we go, ooh
You won't be the only one
I am unfinished, I've got so much left to learn
I don't know how this river rides
But I'd like to the company through every twist and turn
Who said it's true,
That the growing only happens on your own?
They don't know me and you
You don't ever have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go, ooh
And grow as we go, ooh
And grow as we go, ooh
And grow as we go, ooh
I don't know who we'll become
I can't promise it's not written in the stars
But I believe that when it's done
We're gonna see that it was better
That we grew up together
Tell me you don't wanna leave
'Cause if change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go, oh
And grow as we go, oh
And grow as we go, oh
And grow as we go, ooh
Jasmine Nunez oh god bless you
what does ebb mean?
@@Stephanie-jv5mf it is a word used to describe the waves of the sea. They ebb and flow. Meaning that they go back and forth.
Thanks 👍
this is amazing thank you legend
Is it possible for one human to be more wholesome?
Idk but hes one of the reasons i havent killed myself yet
@ please stop, same... and @ lizard4343 no, no way ever
@Nala R. the battle of the gods
No
The way he says, "Yes. Good." at the end is all of us.
Goosebumps right there! Almost felt the tears in my throat
except after this song i was really not good lol i was big sad for a little bit after
@@niabisrealm that's the point...
Suddenly I understand why I always ran away, pushing everyone away. I need to learn how to don't get scared growing up alongside someone else. What a powerful song!
So freaking true… also if that other person is still just me
Loving God first and caring for yourself would be also a great help in being able to commit to someone and growing with them.
I wanted to break up with my boyfriend few times before, but he never want to allow me. Until last november he finally agreed, the failure of my decision happened when he found a way reach me. He never left afterwards. He's like a pimple you can't get rid off easily. But, he made me understand how much he cared for me with his efforts and how he accepts me regardless of my immaturity and insecurities. I understood how badly he wanted me to be with him. (Obsession at it's best) I realize that i could improve myself beside him, that I can depend on him when times I just feel helpless. He did so many things to have me, and did so many things to have me again. I'm grateful I have him with me. (Thankfully he's not the maniac type of obsessed man.)
@@irene6133 I should’ve stood by my ex 😕
@@SxCR4WR patience is a virtue and it pays you well.
I can’t believe the Treblemakers didn’t let him in
If they made a spinoff of Pitch perfect, that focused on the Treblemakers it would've done way better than the garbage fire that was Pitch Perfect 3
21st Century Gamer seriously....
21st Century Gamer no❤️
@@yuma9987 pitch perfect 3 was a mistake just like you.
@@yuma9987 nah just joking, but seriously that movie had an identity crisis, and was a heaping pile of trash.
BEN THIS IS SO GOOD
Seriously! I love this new album!
Dude, you should fix the video:/ it's kinda blurry...oh wait, it's just my tears.
u had me the first half LMFAOOO
😂😂😂😂😂
this comment omgggg
I WAS GONNA THROW HANDS HAJGSTGAG
haha
The most beautiful thing anyone can ever do is accept your flaws, your insecurities and help you overcome them. The most beautiful kind of love is the one that is not perfect, but the one that helps you grow as you go. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find someone like that. A love like that is so rare, it's a privilege. So if you have someone in your life who accepts you in your darkest moments, stays by your side and helps you grow, please don't let them go.
I was that person to someone but she left me because she said she was tired being disrespectful to me and tired trying to overcome that trait. I guess something like that makes people like us become rare. I have my negative traits too but i am willing to change it just to be together but she wasnt interested again.
I haven't seen anyone in the comment section talks about this, but that's such a beautiful dance routine.
Right?!
dance is beautifully done and flows with the song! Amazing dancers!
IKR
that's called lyric dance
It really is. It's so physical, almost violent. Really creative.
“We didn’t know we were making memories we just knew we were having fun” - Winnie the Pooh
Deep!
Bro copy and paste be coming hard here
Mya Morden ???????
Im 14 and this is deep
@@borgorkong7811 same bitch my childhood
lol i remember being happy
but i dont remember the feeling i can remember it being there but not what it was like
I love Ben Platt so much
This is unrelated but omg your pic just gave me so much nostalgia! I can't believe how long ago now that Felix had that as his pic
me too- hey there old-time bro how you doing
I love how people interpret this song differently. Some people see it as a breakup song for two people who love each other and just are not right for each other. While others see this song as a tribute to partners growing together through challenges.
Yes, I know he wrote it about a relationship he had where he knew they just weren’t right for each other. But that’s the beauty of music. Interpretation!
So my interpretation is, I made this new friend and I didn't think twice about it he doesn't want to date anyone n just be friends.
Then after spending time with him he made me notice that I wasnt just falling for his personality but i was falling for him.
(Of course never confessing this to him but I'm sure he knew by the way I simply held his hand or the way my eyes looked at him So Deeply.)
So I kept asking myself why has God brought this person into my life and why do I hold him so closely to me?
He's always kept people at a far distance cuz he says he wants to leave behind the smallest print of damage (as a grenade he referenced himself)
After a while he told me his sercret.
That he was dying from cancer n the doctors told him he be lucky to live 3-6 months. It took everything in me not to fall to my knees in front of him n not cry, but I knew I had to be strong standing there hearing this, at the same time I never felt my heart be torn apart in this new different way.
All I wanted was his company n the way he's shaping me to be the man I should be n always wanted to be.
So as I'm growing n learning from him I decided to spend every second that I can have with him as a gift. While we all have a soulmate or soulmates in this world we never know how much time we have to spend with that person,
So I'm gonna enjoy it n bring as much happiness into his world bcuz he has brought so much love into my heart.
PS: he's still alive n still going from the time expectancy the doctors gave him.
I find it beautiful as a wedding song and a divorce sweet lemon as well
Lovely
I agree on the second interpretation. Because I know how significant and challenging life is. Love isn't always butterflies and rainbows.
@@TheStarss785 no one's interested to listen to your gay shit
Can we take a moment to applaud those dancers 👏 It was so beautiful. That is TALENT. And Ben.. wow! I’M A MESS 😭
I loved the dancers
😭
Effie Tutko has performed in many of Kyle Hanagami's videos.
It's incredible how synchronized they were
Rudy's choreography is amazing!!!
And Ben..UGH. All the ugly tears 😭😭
His voice? Beautiful
The music? Wonderful
The dancing? Amazing
My wig? Snatched
Hotel? Trivago
Depression? Cured
Ben? Platt
Mmmmm, doesn't rhymes correctly, but i agree. Lol
@@azhalicendra4783 eh anjir kaget
@@grandcoasters LAH ADA ELO??!!
If someone notices this, I’m still alive and fighting depression
Keep fighting. 🤍
You are awesome!
I'm with you
Always fight.
❤❤ you are not alone.
I don't understand how people's voices can be this crisp, clear, and clean when they sing
Melodyne
Practice. I sang for 8 years. Practice.
Practice and post-production. Distortion, some reverb, many harmony layers, Eq and compression. And a lot of love
as a broadway performer, you have to know the rules. with really good contemporary music, you have to know the rules to break them. when you constantly sing live, you must adapt your voice, thus it will have a natural, smooth sound.
@Dawniebug I guess it's practicing with the proper techniques and instruction. I've been singing in front of people for the last 11 years. It's all been based on what I hear and think I need to do from what I see others do, but my voice is never crisp or clean sounding. I think I need proper training for that on top of practice.
my heart is in pieces
My heart is in Pisces
The world needs more of this. More endurance. More patience. More belief in true love. Thanks Ben.
TheSavvyRose Beautiful comment!
It is about the acceptance of violence you fool. He hit her within 20 seconds of the video.
I've never listened to a song for the first time and thought "Wow, this makes me want to get married so I can have this be 'our song' and do our first dance to it."
This is it. This is the song.
protect this wholesome content
I felt that way when I first heard 'You Are The Reason' by Calum Scott, but now that I've heard this, I don't think I could think of a better song for that purpose.
Marcus McLeod Thats exactly what I thought! I was like “I just want someone so this can be our song, our wedding song and everything”
Mine was a choreographed routine to Toxic by Brittney but now I may have to reconsider
This and Ease my Mind
I don't know if you've ever loved someone who struggles with the demons of manic depression but there is a detaching they do when they hit their lows- a pushing away as they wrestle with all of the worst solutions to a battle they feel like they never win. The first time I heard this song, it had me in a ball on the floor. I wanted to call my daughter, immediately, and play it for her. This is what I feel every time she goes to that dark place. I get that this was written from the perspective of two people in a romantic relationship but I will never see it as anything but a mother begging her daughter to just keep holding on. That she doesn't have to go to the dark places alone.
Oh, I believe there are more people than you know who relate to this song in a similar way. I pray for you and your daughter. You are not alone.
Wow this comment just broke me 😭
I'm bipolar, and I know this so well. Thank you for continuing to show up for your daughter. And from both of us - it means everything.
You’re the light in her darkest night. Hope you’re all alright.
Wow. Your comment really got to me. You're a good mama. We could all use a mom like you 😊
A perfect relationship is not perfect, it's just that both people never gave up. If you want a realatioship that looks and feels like the most amazing thing on Earth, you need to treat it like it is the most amazing thing on earth. You don't need someone to complete you. You need someone to accept you completely.
This just makes me cried so hard . Ugh i stan u sis!
Write me a good book.
OMG YASS!!❤ I share your view 100%. Couldn't have said it any better.
I like this comment. I’m listening to this song. As I’ve just recently been hurt, and everything that he sung is what we said.
Thank you for this... ❤️❤️❤️
I’m sorry, but the way Ben is just trembling at the end fills me with so much heartbreak. Like, he just stares off into the distance as the director talks to the crew, and then he says “Ben? We good?” And he just snaps out of it and says “yes. Good.” And just darts away
Jfc Ben please stop making me cry ilysm
Oh No Rose Ben is so precious is hurts
When he cries I cry. It's just a mess of damage.
What makes it worse is the dancing in the video because it kind of shows that someone left him even tho that person was basically a part of him and that them leaving (by the rough kind of quick hard dancing) was not easy :’(
I wonder if is in character...
He’s channeling his inner Evan
That, "Yes. Good." Though. I can't stress enough how important good acting is to musical performance. Ben is absolutely stunning in this area. Can't wait to hear the rest of the album!
It reminds me so much of Evan (the character he played in dear Evan Hansen) like the song made my eyes water but as soon as I heard that one line at the end I started sobbing
THE DANCERS ❤!!!!!💯
THE WAY HE LOOKS AT THE DOORWAY WAITING FOR HIS SOMEONE TO COME THROUGH AT THE END GETS ME EVERY TIME
Underrated.
It makes me tear up each time. I can feel and see the pain in this song. It's so poignant and honestly one of my favourites. I've watched it over and over and I will watch it over and over for as long as I can.
@@Kai-ob6hd i agree, I wish I could hug Ben at the end. I also think about my past experiences.
That's when the tears get heavy! Amazing acting
I don’t know why at that scene it felt like he was the one who left and now lives to regret it so he stares at the door where she used to wait
Me and my wife grew up together and have known each other since we were 5. We were friends then enemies, lovers, then parents. We now have a baby boy and have grown to learn so much from each other and about each other. Love is not agreement but acceptance and appreciation. This song speaks so much to us that I learned it and sang it for my 9 month pregnant wife who I still love with all my heart from 20 years ago :)
Wow 😍
Awwee. Now that's a special kind of love
actual goals wow
Love is not agreement but acceptance and appreciation. That’s a great advice hope all people acknowledge it and to be aware that love is hard work not something easy.
Good luck with the child be safe and have a great life with your wife.
Just sitting here crying listening to this magical song and Ben
not me being in my feels at the same time as the Cheryl Porter
Samee
We can cry together
Teach me to sing pls
all the time and seeing ben tear makes me flood
If u made it here.
Your taste of songs is real good.
Ben is one of those rare select artists where anything he's in no matter what, is good.
HI BEN YOU'RE NOT GONNA SEE THIS BUT I LOVE YOU
Since i lost my wife, i have been seeing her right next to me while i talk to the imaginary "her". Sometines I see her smile, sometimes i see her cry, giving me a cheer of encouragement or waving goodbye to me. Its so real sometimes that i felt a moment of comfort seeing her there...
But i know how Ben feels at the end of the video... cause thats how i tear up when i reality hits me. When I know that shes actually gone.
De Minions 😥
Take care buddy
Damn man...💜 hang in there.
everything will be ok buddy
❤
I sent this song to my ex when he was distancing from me and when he said he needed to be alone from now on. He replied that he feels bad for me that I still have hope. It broke me. This song beautifully summarized my feelings and my heart goes out to everyone who’s going through a hard time. I’m with you
I'm so sorry, I hope you find the person who will be there for you when you need them in future - because if they wanted to, they would. I'm in a similar situation. We'll both be okay
Just got dumped tonight because she didn’t want to grow together. It really sucks feeling unwanted by someone that you love.
Just happened to me feb/8/23 i leave this mark here i hope i find this comment someday and see how far ive gotten
I hope to heal and love myself
There are two types of people in this world:
People who love Ben Platt
People who don't know Ben Platt
and i’m sorry for the last ones ;(
He was in the move pitch perfect lol
agreed
The third one: idiots
Yes exactly
Two years ago, I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and felt broken. This song kept me from breaking up with my boyfriend. It took the words he had been trying to tell me for so long and put it in a song. After hearing this song, I let him love me just where I was. We grew together.
We’re getting married in December :)
Edit: Thank you all for the kind words! We decided last night that this HAS to be the song we dance to for our first dance. No other song is as meaningful!
That’s wonderful! Congratulations!
wow that's great... congratulations
@@thenardiersiblings I'm so happy for you! Congratulations!!
I’m crying this is amazing
Congrats!!
It became one of my favorite songs ever on the firsts 20 seconds
Omg YAS it's now my fav pop song
Mário de Carvalho OMG! Agree!
I love this song. We got married when we were 19 years old. Going on 16 years now. Grow as we go!
This is probably the first time I've truly experienced having the thought of "You know, the world would honestly be a much better place if more people were aware of this person's music." Ben Platt genuinely has the voice of an angel and the world is truly affected positively by his presence in it.
Yes, 100%. Ben’s voice is so special. It’s one of the many reasons I love DEH. Also, it’s helped me get through my depression
Same here, I'm currently going through depression.😟
I saw this in my reccomended and wasn't going to click on it, and for some reason I don't know, I did, and now it's literally my favourite song.
Crappy Vlogger +1 💕
Me too!
Same bro
I did the same! I think mostly I came back cause his character in pitch perfect wasnt accepted First thing lol
Sameee
This song reminds me of when my boyfriend broke up with me. We went our separate ways for a year and somehow found our way back to each other and now we're getting married at the end of this year :')
Congratulations. I'm so happy for you...
Have a happy marriage :')
Aww congratulations 😁
Congratulations
god i hope this happens to me.
Today marks the third anniversary with the love of my life, Colleen Michelle. She wrote me a beautiful card and mentioned this song, which I had sent to her. Being from Michigan while she is from California, sending songs was our way of expressing love while we were apart. I would sit alone, moved to tears as I chose songs that conveyed our feelings. This particular song touched me deeply because of the distance and the challenges we faced. Over the past three years, we have grown together through both wonderful and difficult times. Colleen has opened my eyes to many of my selfish tendencies, showing me what true love is and helping me grow as a person. It’s not always easy to confront your faults, but it allows me to understand what I truly want in life-to grow with the love of my life, Colleen Michelle. Always and forever, happy three years. I love you so much.
Who's here because they appreciate ben platts music and absolutely adore this song
Most everyone? Unless for some inexplicable reason we have hate watchers...
I'm technically here because I'm in a melancholy love song war with my younger sister and this is what she sent me, but I would imagine I'm in the minority.
Just you. Everyone else who is here, hates this song and they hate Ben Platt. That's why they're here, clearly.
Avery ALS WHO IS NOT
@@hamzavohra. Exactly! I hate this song so much I listen to it every day.
So this came up in my recommends but I'm pretty indifferent about Ben and his song. No idea if this helps.
Been avoiding this on my recommended list. I knew it. It was gonna break my heart but I can't stop listening to this now
Same. Ive been listening to it off and on all day at work and have cried more than once. This song invokes such strong feelings.
same goes for me
Yep today is my first watch and I’m devastated
rona kriszelle jauculan I’ve listened to it 6 times in a row now
rona kriszelle jauculan it's like you went throught a breakup without actually in a relationship 😭
"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."
- Dr. Seuss
Fun fact: Dr. Seuss was a really shitty husband. He had a mistress, and neglected his wife. When she killed herself, he married the mistress.
@@savvysherlockian5668 oop-
Savvy Sherlockian For Pete’s sake
@@savvysherlockian5668 not the mention the wife had cancer during all of this
@@savvysherlockian5668 don't forgot he was very racist
If someone reads this in the future, I'm still getting over the best love story in my life that is full of surprises, divine timing, coincidences, laughter and tears with my soulmate whom I had multiple pastlives.
I have waited for 37 yrs to meet her, should have crossed paths in 2014 during my EU tour - we should have accidentally met but I had a detour to another country, was single for 8 yrs before I finally met her in 2023, could have met in person finally in 2024.. Grow as we go
There's just something so human in all these songs. I feel like a lot of times we trust people to be there when we jump. That they will open themselves to grow with us as we travel through life. That perhaps they will understand why small things like music videos and harmonies change and shift the universe. Yet some people choose to stand alone. But we're not alone. None of us.
I don't know if you did it on purpose but those last 2 sentences really reminded me of the musical Dear Evan Hansen
Or it can also be just me haha
@@sunfacingflower Me too, i read them in the voice from you will be found, the static one
@@sunfacingflower I totally did XD
#You will be found!
I’ve always loved how while singing Ben can also communicate through his facial expression. Like how when he focuses on some notes he closes his eyes and shakes his head. It’s really sweet and endearing. Also his riffs are amazing.
I totally agree. His voice and emotion make me want to cry his voice is just making my heart break because it's beautiful
I thought you said his "sniffs" :3 Overall, I agree. He is one of a kind. Ben- you just. Jeez, these feelies.
This song strikes a chord. I've always pushed people and relationships away, thinking I can only be with someone once I've fully come into my own and know where I'm going and what I'm doing in my life. It often leads me to feel so lonely because as the years pass I still can't seem to figure life out. This song makes me think that maybe I don't have to have it all figured out in order to be in a relationship--that it's okay to fall in love, and even if I don't have clarity about life, we can figure it out together. Thanks Ben!
I can relate to you too. Im in a relationship where we are both still figuring things out. My girl had depression and she pushed me away back then since she doesnt want to burden me and my family. But i keep coming back to her. I ask her that its okay to be together, I keep assuring her that I can help her grow and she helps me grow too. Because we can change together for the better. She cried and cried. And now we are planning alot of things for the future. Uncertain but still trusting each other. We havent even met yet hehehe but its gonna be in a month and im so excited.
@@JoeMama-sd2kl I'm happy for you guys. I also was in a relationship but I pushed my gf away for the second time because I wanted to figure things out but now it's lonely and I regret pushing her away and not communicating with her like talking about things and everything just sucks now.
I feel the same way.. thank you Lady Amalthea. I need to make a change in my life
Same that’s how I feel .
You are me looking in the mirror.
If my 3 years ex sees this. Pls know that I'm happy seeing u happy right now. Just do what you want and stop thinking about what other people will think about what you did, you always overthink too much. Just relax and trust yourself okay
am i the only person that thinks this song could be both heartbreaking and filled with love? i mean most clearly it's about one of those heartwrenching breakups where nothing's innately wrong it's just one person wants something different. but i feel like it could be sang also like a love song/serenade with one person reassuring the other person that they'll grow as they go.
absolutely,I see it as reassuring the other person that you both will continue to grow together
You're not the only one. It's both reassuring and heartbreaking. I find this song very beautiful, and it's one of those that makes me tear up everytime I hear it.
Well.... I showed this song to my lover today. We both are 16 and have this big exam in front of us. And he just found out that a lot of things need to change in him. I am really scared that I might lose him in this journey of him growing out of his past self. He one day told me that he'll leave if he fails. So I showed him this song and told him this expresses all the things that I want. I want both of us to grow together.
@@layalkate4806 you have a whole life ahead of you. Something I learnt is nothing is permanent.
its both, my ex said he would grow as we go and reassured me but eventually he left because we wanted different things and di not want to anymore
This song needs to remain a secret or else the radio stations will milk it dry of it's potency
And tik tok
@@aurorarieder6058 tiktok ruiend all I want by Olivia Rodrigo which is a really good song, but it doesn't need to ruin this one too.
@@katherinestinson1551 same reason i now loathe tiktok
Best comment of the day.
Am I the only one that thinks that that is a sick choreography? You can see the emotion conveyed in the movements, the emotion is almost tangible!
Azlan Yaacob Yes the choreography is sensational.
Except when she is running by herself. She is a normal clumsy girl. It is when she meets up with him that they are so in sync. I love dancing like this, my daughter would live it too. Always reminds me of so you think you can dance, this couple did bleeding love, that show had wonderful choreography too...the dancers sing with no words...
why would you possibly think you're the only person who likes this dance piece?!? are you like, the only muhfuh with taste on the whole planet? nearly 7 million people have watched this, but YOU are the only one who can see the beauty in this? get over yourself, dude...
@@olddirtytattooedwarhorse7772 I dont speak for other people, ergo, I won't assume what other people think. And I suggest you do the same.
@@azlanyaacob4737 you have 105 people who liked your comment enough, that dude is just looking for something to hate on positive comments for. What a weirdo. I wonder what he says to the commentors who just love asking if anyone else is watching it in their current year. Well, everyone that sees their comment, of course, but that is just not important. Trolls are everywhere. Every positive statement and comment is like an open target to them. All that condescension when he could just skip it and get a freakin life.
Beautiful song ❤
i’m fully convinced there’s nothing that you can’t do, ben.
You say there’s so much you don’t know
You need to go and find yourself
You say you’d rather be alone
Cuz you think you won’t find it tied to someone else
Who said it’s true
That the growing only happens on your own
They don’t know me and you
I don’t think you have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you’re high I’ll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we’ll take it slow
And grow and as we go
Grow as we go
You won’t be the only one
I am unfinished
I’ve got so much left to learn
I don’t know how this river runs
But I’d like the company through every twist and turn
Who said it’s true
That the growing only happens on your own
They don’t know me and you
You don’t ever have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you’re high I’ll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we’ll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
I don’t know who we’ll become
I can’t promise it’s not written in the stars
But I believe that when it’s done
We’re gonna see that it was better
That we grew up together
Tell me you don’t want to leave
Cuz if change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you’re high I’ll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
We’ll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
+
You can see that he wasn't acting. You can feel it too.
yeah, he was preparing weeks and months to make this take.. that is why it goes straight to the ❤️
Even our favorite people, who we think have their lives all put together, are human. broken. Imperfect. Damaged. They are beautiful, yes. But they are broken. Just like you and me. That's what keeps them human. Anyone who says that they have their life together is a liar, by saying that, they are claiming to be perfect. NOBODY is perfect. If you could switch lives with anybody in the world who you think have their lives together, you would be both disappointed, and you would change your world view. The way people perceive things changes everything. One woman might hate men because as a child she was abused by one, perspective. My dog, for instance was abused by her former master, a man. She hated every man in my family until 3 years after we got her. during those 3 years though, a FedX Man came to drop off a package, I opened the door and she ran out and bit the mans hand. Luckily, I'm a nurse, and this was when COVID-19 Wasn't a real threat yet. I managed to help the man and only come off with a warning and fine. Now, she's the sweetest dog anyone could ask for. I cried watching this video because I had just recently went through a divorce. I will always be a theater kid at heart.
@@maddison2989 you know, you have a great heart, hopefully people around you could make you stronger
He actually wrote this from the perspective of the SO because he was the one who needed space
WAIT OH MY GOSH.. this makes me want to cry even more
I was here about 5 years ago. But today this music pop up on my page, reminding me about my dark days before finally found my turning point.
Turns out no matter what happen in our life, it always depend on how we assume our life would be. And here I am, forgot what it feels like drowning in sorrow. Because I owe my life, and it deserve to be happy ❤
For those who struggle bad days, hope one day you'll also get your turning point. Good days still exist and waiting for you ❤
I hope so 😞
I had to choose whether I wanted to watch this or the new jonas brothers song first........I chose this.....it was a good decision
Same
Mood
Same but I'm glad I choose this first now I can't stop watching it
I chose this before Heathers Cast album
Same ahahhaahahaha
Oh man. If only we were smart enough to not make permanent decisions under the influence of temporary emotions.
daniel britt jr Great comment.
Thank you for saying this. It's something I needed to hear from someone else...you gave me closure in some strange way.
@@ShilohKeeling I know exactly how this feels... I don't know what you're going through but I hope that everything gets better from now on ❤
@@liviamaria535 person I don't know, I thank you for that. It truly has been better. It's kind of a nice feeling when someone somewhere says exactly what you needed that someone else couldn't say it in the way it was said.
200th like :)
You ever hear a song for the first time at just the right time in your life and it opens up a part of your soul that you didn't know was closing?
Yeah... this is my favorite song.
My best friends' dad has just died, and this song just appeared in front of me and made me think of her.
yes, here i'm now
Literally, yes! A guy I was getting to know was getting really close to me. Things felt like they were taking a serious turn. I don't let people in easy and he knew that... I started pulling away from him. Before I could really do that though, he sent this to me early one January morning. It was the first thing I heard after waking and I literally got chills, cried, and let go of so much emotion. I have felt so much lighter since that day. I decided to give it a shot. Give him a shot. Best decision I've ever made. We've been together since then and I pray it never ends. I mean I don't know if we're forever, things can change, but he's opened my heart in so many ways. I'll always be grateful to him, and to Ben for this beautiful and touching song. I still get goosebumps when I listen to this, thinking back to that morning.
One of the best songs ever made!
Can still listen to it on loop after so many years!
OMG I CAME SO FAST TO WATCH THIS
i came so fast watching this
undeadman7676 thereeee it is 😂
a fellow tøp fan who likes good music
Checked the replies to see if someone made a cum joke. Was not disappointed.
I stopped reading after fast and I was so confused
I love the dance, but part of me just wants to see the entire clip of Ben singing to the camera and slowly breaking down in tears.
Clara Brandão YES YES YES
yeah, because all i want is to bawl in front of my computer screen:)
I thought I was the one
That sounds creepily sadistic, but I get it...
i understand that the song is about romantic relationships more than anything else but holy shit does it speak to me on a really personal level; it feels like a lesson to avoid isolating yourself from significant others, close friends, and family members, that you don’t have to develop by yourself but rather with others, instead. thank u ben platt for sharing such a healthy message through such a lovely music video
I love this! So true :)
I'm not crying. You're crying.
Wow what a song.
This is the most mature song I've ever heard
yes
definitely. it's a great perspective. controversial to many songs today
That moment at 2:05 when he says "But I'd like the company"
His expression kills me. That moment of, I don't have the answers, but please just stay so we can find them together.
Ikr it's so poignant. It's like he feels pathetic but is trying not to care
Jeremy Moore i was thinking the same thing, his face tells thousands of experiences in a second
I didn’t think anyone else thought that too!
"Grow As We Go"
[Verse 1]
You say there's so much you don’t know
You need to go and find yourself
You say you'd rather be alone
'Cause you think you won’t find it tied to someone else
[Pre-Chorus]
Ooh, who said it's true
That the growing only happens on your own?
They don't know me and you
[Chorus]
I don't think you have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
[Verse 2]
You won't be the only one
I am unfinished, I’ve got so much left to learn
I don’t know how this river runs
But I'd like the company through every twist and turn
[Pre-Chorus]
Ooh, who said it’s true
That the growing only happens on your own?
They don't know me and you
[Chorus]
You don't ever have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I’ll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
[Bridge]
I don't know who we'll become
I can't promise it's not written in the stars
But I believe that when it's done
We're gonna see that it was better
That we grew up together
[Chorus]
Tell me you don't wanna leave
'Cause if change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
We'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
Thanks 😊
the comment I was searching for, Thanks!!
thank you ? :)
Thanks man
now this is what we called art
My wife played this song for me a few years ago it was very moving as we have been together since we were 15 and we have two wonderful children. She passed away two weeks ago at 36 years old after a valiant battle with breast cancer. I and my young children are so very shattered.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is an irreparable loss. Take care of yourself and the children in such a moment.
So sorry for your loss, and your children’s. Ben Platt has another song that may be of comfort to you - “So Will I.” My daughter is 37 and battling brain cancer; she has 3 little ones. My heart goes out to you.
My condolences 😢
Wow... So beautiful man.. Blessed experience of divine love
im so sorry this comment actually got me into tears I hope youre better now
I can feel his pain through this song, such a beautiful song.
me too
Definitely! 😢
I can't tell if he's one of the best actors of our generation or if he feels everything in his soul. Either way, I'm here for it.
both!
Both. I mean it's his music, he has the strongest connection to it. One of the things about being an actor is feeling the feelings your character feels. If you are in character whatever made them sad might make you sad. When I'm singing Michael In The Bathroom at three in the morning and am really trying I usually end up crying.
To myself:
I know being vulnerable with anyone is so difficult. Remember that it is not your fault. But you owe it to yourself to fight for your own freedom. You deserve to feel safe, to express your emotions, and to love deeply. Do not settle. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and fight for yourself!! Loving someone is difficult but letting someone love you is so terrifying. But you deserve it. Fight for it
I feel like this song isn’t so much a proposition to grow together, but him begging to stay together, to not leave him behind. It sounds like excuses and reasons as to why they should be staying together. And in the end, no matter how much he’s asking and how many reasons he gives. Whoever he’s singing to doesn’t stay
yes, it's a song of absolute despiration
this is the way I took it too, especially with how emotional he gets
That gave me chills. I think you’re right
Sometimes you're the tree, and sometimes the vine, desperately clinging to and suffocating the tree. Vines need something (or someone) to cling to; trees don't. They grow and thrive on their own.
I always chased younger trees, but we didn't grow together, they always grew apart, reaching for the sun. Then I found an older tree, who was mature and mostly done growing. He was cold and alone, and I offered to wrap myself around him and never let go, if he'd let me, and he let me. His trunk is my strength and my leaves have brought new life to his old limbs.
Ben seems like a fellow vine. I hope he finds his tree one day, and they do grow as they go. 🌿🌳
As a serial runner, I suspect this is true.
one thing that's really translated over between Dear Evan Hansen and his solo material (this video in particular) is Ben's emotional access. he has such a knack for being able to really cut to the heart of the material and expose those parts of ourselves that we usually try to guard emotionally... it's really a privilege to see, and it only makes me more excited about what else is to come.
Yeeees!!! 💛💛 This album will be the highlight of my 2019
How am I just discovering this song?! It’s so freaking beautiful and the dancers were amazing. Beautifully interpreted ❤❤❤❤
You're not alone on that thought Lucy, I'm surprised I haven't heard this song until recently. It's a beautiful and heartfelt song. How are you doing Lucy?
This seems to come directly after "Ease My Mind" in the longer narrative Ben Platt is telling across the videos for this album. (He's wearing the same clothes at the end of "Ease My Mind" as he is in this video.) In the previous video, Ben's boyfriend has just left him, for no given reason, and this song seems to be the explanation -- the boyfriend, a photographer, thought he needed to grow on his own. Ben's face reflects his own internal monologue, because the song is his plea for his boyfriend to stay. He is also represented by the woman dancer, constantly and tenaciously seeking the male dancer who is both with her and trying to get away from her, and who disappears more and more frequently before vanishing completely, while at the same time Ben himself starts tearing up around 4.01 and has a tear streak on his face by 4.08. The female dancer runs through the building and looks into the doorway where Ben is singing, and he looks at the doorway. He sees her and recognises her as the expression of his own longing, and when we look back at the doorway, she is gone, a figment of his imagination. Ben's face melts into a tiny, sad, tender smile, because he's looking at his own lost hope.
this has to be my favorite comment in the history of youtube... Great analysis!
I honestly wish I could upvote this comment one hundred times
I give you props cause that actually makes sense
I had finally managed to almost control my tears after watching the video a hundred times, and now I read your comment and I just broke down again.... such a powerful message really
Yes! And Bad Habit's definitely a third plate in the narrative although how it is sewn in--either as prologue or coming after GAWG--is still unclear to me.
If the story follows the sequence in which the videos were released (it most probably does), it makes it all the more crushing to go from desperately clawing your way out of an addiction to a love lost, to moments of sweet remembering, to softly pleading for an alternative (growing together). We are taken to walk with Ben in his most intimate journey of heartbreak and at the same time witness the reflection of our own pains unfolding in these vignettes.
Hats off to that choreographer/dancer and to whoever decided to use a contemporary duet. Beautiful.
Okay are we not gonna talk about how talented these dancers are??
Loved every second of their incredible performances ❤️❤️
Hate the choreographer. Just blech
I meant the choreography. No idea who the choreographer is
@@annierivera7531 588 ppl disagree :) although idc if you disagree, you could’ve said it nicer.
They're incredibleeeeee
What a voice ❤
I like this guy. He’d make a good president one day
I think he'd reply the same way Lin Manuel did, "I'd rather do anything else"
Hehehehehe
Definitely not that’s pretty stupid
Yeeeah that would be funny if he was in a show like...I dont know...The Politician?? Wink wink nudge nudge UwU
damn yall really missed the entire joke.... kudos op
Zero dislike. As it should be
Edit: I could see there's 33 people who disliked it. They just hit the wrong button because their eyes are in tears
lyrics
You say there's so much you don't know
You need to go and find yourself
You say you'd rather be alone
'Cause you think you won't find it tied to someone else
Ooh, who said it's true
That the growing only happens on your own?
They don't know me and you
I don't think you have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
You won't be the only one
I am unfinished, I've got so much left to learn
I don't know how this river runs
But I'd like the company through every twist and turn
Ooh, who said it's true
That the growing only happens on your own?
They don't know me and you
You don't ever have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
I don't know who we'll become
I can't promise it's not written in the stars
But I believe that when it's done
We're gonna see that it was better
That we grew up together
Tell me you don't wanna leave
'Cause if change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
We'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
🙏
Thank you i was looking for it
This guy
Thank you!! ☺️
Crying.
I got pregnant with my baby but it wasn't in plan, I felt like I had made a mistake, I felt like everything was on standstill, achieving my dreams felt impossible, I didn't know what to do with the child but when I listened to this song, it changed everything
You say there's so much you don't know
You need to go and find yourself
You say you'd rather be alone
'Cause you think you won't find it tied to someone else
Ooh, who said it's true
That the growing only happens on your own?
They don't know me and you
I don't think you have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
You won't be the only one
I am unfinished, I've got so much left to learn
I don't know how this river runs
But I'd like the company through every twist and turn
Ooh, who said it's true
That the growing only happens on your own?
They don't know me and you
You don't ever have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
I don't know who we'll become
I can't promise it's not written in the stars
But I believe that when it's done
We're gonna see that it was better
That we grew up together
Tell me you don't wanna leave
'Cause if change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
We'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
Grow as we go
You can live and I can flow
Thanks for taking time and adding the lyrics.
Weebito thankssss
Just Me "You can ebb* and I can flow" is correct.
The line is a metaphor, talking about the movement of water bodies.
Thank u👍🏻 lyrics so meaningful
mmmmmmmm delicious copy pasta
haven’t done anything other than listen to this song and sob uncontrollably for the last two weeks. thanks ben.
Lol same
Same I'm on my 5th daily rewatch
At least 5 to go
fucking same ugh.
what does he say at the end? Yes, it's good.. he is visibly upset.. and i do not think that is acting..
Talking:
(Beginning)
Director: Let's get him in for last looks. And lock it up. Camera ready? Let's role camera. Role sound.
Guy: Scene one, take one marker. (Click)
Director: Ben? You ready? Camera to one. And playback. (Music starts).
Lyrics:
You say there's so much you don't know.
You need to go and find yourself.
You say you'd rather be alone.
'Cuz you think you won't find it tied to someone else.
Who said it's true?
That the growin' only happens on your own.
They don't know me and you.
I don't think you have to leave.
If to change is what you need,
you can change right next to me.
When you're high I'll take the lows.
You can ebb and I can flow,
and we'll take it slow.
And grow as we go.
Grow as we go.
You won't be the only one.
I am unfinished, I've got so much left to learn.
I don't know how this river runs,
but I'd like the company through every twist and turn.
Who said it's true?
That the growin' only happens on your own.
They don't know me and you.
You don't ever have to leave.
If to change is what you need,
you can change right next to me.
When you're high I'll take the lows.
You can ebb and I can flow,
and we'll take it slow.
And grow as we go. (mmmMm)
Grow as we go. (mMm).
Grow as we go (oh-oooOo)
Grow as we go. (oOo).
I don't know who we'll become. (Ahh-ahh-ahh-ahhhh)
I can't promise it's not written in the stars.
(ooooo-ahh-oo-oo) But I believe that when it's done,
we're gonna see that it was better
that we grew up together.
Tell me you don't wanna leave.
'Cuz if change is what you need,
you can change right next to me.
When you're high I'll take the lows.
You can ebb and I can flow,
we'll take it slow.
And grow as we go. (oh-oH-oohh)
Grow as we go. (...woah-oh-ohh)
Grow as we go. (oohhhhh)
Grow as we go.
Talking:
Director: And cut.
(Distant talking in the background)
Director: I think we got it. We good for camera? ... Ben, you good?
Ben: Yes, good.
Why do people do this?
I don't understand this
I can hear fine, but I love to read along or ahead. Sometimes my mind is elsewhere. Also some people might just want to read since captions aren't always 100g accurate
Lea Kratz personally I check the lyrics to the song before I even listen a lot of the time. If the lyrics are shit, doesn’t matter how good the rest of the song is, I need substance to enjoy music. So I personally appreciate this bc it’s saves me time.
Every note is free and straight on
This reminds me so much of my boy bestfriend whom I risked the friendship with to continue as lovers. Although he loved me first, in the end it was me asking him to stay. Two days before our 21st month together, he told me that he wanted to focus on himself first, that we're young and he wanted to do things without thinking about hurting anyone with anything he does. He wanted to improve himself without my help, without my support. That he forgot who he was and changed, felt incomplete. He told me he loved me too much that he forgot to love himself. Now, we've decided to stay friends. I chose to give him what he wanted even though it was nowhere near what I want. I wanted to be selfish, I wanted him for me, I wanted him to stay and grow with me. But I chose to let go cause it's for his happiness :) But the thought of being his world once, and now I'm only a part of it makes my heart ache a lot.
I know you won't see this. But I just want you to know that I love you. And I'm sorry if I'm not the right person who makes you love yourself even more day by day. You ARE the best thing that has ever happened to me. I may not be with you as you grow for you chose to grow alone, but I promise to be here for you and watch you become the best version of yourself. Maybe God has different plans. It was a great rollercoaster ride with you, my love. Never lose yourself again. Maybe someday, we'll be together for the second time. And by then, we'll be ready to grow together and have loved ourselves more than anyone else.
and if the two of you should meet as lovers again, may the two of you be the best possible versions there could be, and bring peace and joy to each others' lives
This hit so terribly hard. You put my thoughts into words. I know how it feels right now, I never thought it would hurt this bad
Andrea Matos I never thought so too. But healing takes time. We may not heal now but we'll get there!
Only mature people can endure this. I'm so proud that you're a selfless human being. Please rediscover yourself as he does it, too. Don't stop growing! Cheer up, babe. You can do it. This part of your journey may seem sorrowful at the moment, but you'll thank this situation in the future. 💖
So beautiful
I've never clicked so fast and loved it so much at the same time holy crap y'all
that ending just hit me way too hard 💔 “yes, good”
Same here!!
This song explained so well about love is never 50/50.
I like how this song doesn’t have a crazy high range like his others songs but a more comfortable baritone range
We can actually sing it lol.😆
Gaara Kurosaki yes
Hell yeah I can actually hope of reaching it someday, also it's my favorite song ever
this is one of those songs you'd play while meditating or waking up/falling asleep because it's so calm and just great in general
What’s unique is how much voice control he has
he is literally SO SO SO SO talented and underrated he’s truly one of the best male singers(in my opinion)
I agree
I cant agree more
Don’t mind me just another song I’m going to cry to 😭😭
THE ENDING BENNNN!! 😭😭
I don't like to listen to this song in public, or share it with friends. because I can't bring myself to explain it. I've attached pieces of my past to the lyrics and I use the melody to go back in time-- when I want to remind myself of the pain and the strength and the growth it took to get here. That grief is a treasure, it's a lesson [but this song is so fucking beautiful it makes me want to cry] so idk maybe this is just me saying thank you to Ben Platt for creating this. there are people like me who hold your words very very close to their hearts and that's got to stand for something. x
Your words resonate with me, except for the fact that I'm still hurting.
You spoke my exact mind and experiences Niharika