Dad promises to come home for dinner on Christmas but doesn't [Part 2] | K-DOC
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Maria from Ecuador and her Korean husband seem to have different approaches on raising kids.
Maria’s all about taking responsibility for one’s actions and treating them with love, whereas the former soccer player husband is harsher on them. Find out more about Maria’s smart parenting skills as well as home care and investment skills!
All edits and translations done by Eunjae Lee.
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이웃집 찰스 [My neighbor Charles]
에콰도르 마리아 Air Date: 2021.12.28
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Again the dad trying to pin his sons feelings to puberty! I'm so glad the panelist corrected him and said HE was the one making him feel that way!
This panelist usually is a funny man, but in this episode he was really mad with the dad’s behavior
Ikr the sons are talking so calmly like that and nonchalantly saying they don’t care about their dad, how is this puberty tho
The dad shows no realization of his actions...keeps dismissing what everyone is telling him... the kids will grow up distant from him ... by the time he realizes it... it will be too late.
He will still blame the kids being ungrateful..🤷🏻♀️
Exactly!
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That's Korean/ Asian culture in general, the man of the house is always right, don't like it? Don't move there.
@@Cxs1a3 It being culture doesn't justify it as something good, and who said anything about moving there? People are free to criticize whatever they want, and especially in this case with the father being neglectful. This "Don'T lIke IT? DoN't Do It." mindset is just a cop out and prevents you growing as a human being, although it seems you are either a troll or a bad person based off your replies in this comment section. I wont waste anymore of my time. I hope you can do better.
Your wife chose to live in your country
Chose to speak your language
Carry your surname
Takes care of your children
Adapts to your culture
Why aren't you doing your part?
Your wife should never beg for a bare minimum.
@@Cxs1a3 Isn't marriage a two way relationship? When you decide to marry someone of other ethnicity, as a person with high functioning brain, conforming with each other's cultures & beliefs is a must. That is how you respect a person you vow to be with for the rest of eternity.
@Dosia what my comment pinpoints is HOW HE SHOULD CHANGE. Patriarchy has long been existing across the world since the beginning, I am fully aware of that. I just want him to change since it's taking a toll to their family relationship to the point that his own child call him a liar. He should widen his mindset not stick to a 2000 BCE belief that women should always adjust for men. Come on it's the 21st century!. Again, I advise him to change.
EXACTLY!!!
Amen! Preach sister. Can't stand men like this.
What a sucky dad. A lot of dads on this show are like this I swear.
whether the oldest is going through puberty or not, the way he talks shows how much put down he was by his dad. that fact doesn't change. a child saying I don't care means he's gulping up a lot of his thoughts. that dad shows no respect to himself and others lol
You can see the older one has been hurt a lot and gets it while the younger ones still want dad to be around/excited by his presence.
Hes just not really "dad material".
In this ages its when i could argue would be the most important stages in your life that defines so much of your persona any kind of stimulus its gonna affect you in a positive or negative way, i think that one should be hugely careful in how you treat and raised your childs its gonna leave him scars if one its not careful with it
I really like the mother. She is always so happy, making her kids happy and always defending her husband. Although the father may not be the best at being a parent, but it seems like the mother sure is!
i understand that christmas is not an important holiday in korea but if a korean is going to marry someone who is not korean then most likely christmas is a very big holiday for the foreign person. so the father needs to celebrate christmas the same way they celebrate korean thanksgiving together with the family
Also in korea christmas are for couples
@@mintstudent9442 oooh I know about that part
Where is the mother from?
Ecuador
exactly
Putting the topic off the dad for a sec, can we appreciate how lovely the mother is, I really enjoy how she considers literally everything and she just emits such a positive vibe, ughhhhh, I love her.
The oldest son already knows what his dad is like but the younger ones still have faith in their dad That’s honestly so sad
Reminds me of my father actually (my parents have been divorced for years- it was messy) I’m the oldest and I don’t have any hope or faith in my father but I always see my younger siblings have hope in him, especially my sister. I have to wait for them to realise themselves that he won’t do anything for us for them to accept it themselves. But I HOPE this dad changes because this behaviour causes trauma
I don't want to dismiss the sons behavior as "puberty" because they looked so let down by their father. Many boys will go through it without resenting or feeling detached from their dad, I doubt that they feel the same way towards their mother who always puts family time first. Their mom is doing a good job being present in their lives, but again its tiring to see these mothers doing all the emotional/literal heavy lifting for their kids. Childcare is a partnership.
It's good that the dad came to the show so he can see the damage he causes for his family. I hope he will fix it to become a better husband and better dad
All what I see from this father is breaking promises and bullying their children.
I just finished the whole episode and wow. Hes worse then I thought!
He owns his wife 5000$ and he complains when she wants it back for the coffeeshop he encouraged her to built but when she asks how much she needs to pay hes like:Pay 10.000$ to me lol
Wtf. He also tells her , her Coffeeshop will never get any costumer. He gets drunk often. Why she dates a guy like that.
exactly!
Problem is drinking is highly normalised. Addiction isn't good at all!
@@mirroruniverse9331 facts
I wann say,, I REALLY LIKE THIS WOMAN!! she´s active and she doesn´t wait for her husband to reach a goal!
2:17 "Why did my mom scold me then", here we can appreciate how toxic parenting continues generation after generation 💁♀️ that's why it's important to put and end to what we faced to build something new, to feed well our seeds, as a loving and caring family, no matter what our parents did, we can do better, just improving ourselves.
Nah...he knew he was pissing off the host. To avoid embarrassment he passed that comment off as a joke and excuse. He was trying to both save face and clear the air.
Ya, because scolding your kids when they do something wrong is "toxic parenting". Go kick rocks.
@@MatthewGantt have u watched it all? Because the context wasn't in general, there was a particular situation where is isn't necessary to do that...
I know notice ppl from Hispanic/Latin culture really value family time and I love that the mom is so warm and always very smart too. How do you owe your wife $4,000 lmao he better let her have a coffee shop. Men in general need to grow out of the way they were raised and try to be more compassionate especially if they have kids. Too many ppl grow up and resent their parents bc of their stand off-ish behavior
Is the $4000 usd or won?
There should be no "owning money to your spouse" situation in the first place. Woman in general should grow up and not expect men to pay for everything and then get angry when they can't come home from work.
@@Jazie143 i think $4,000 usd equals 4 million won
@@plzleavemealone9660 you completely missed the mark here. The money he owes her is money he borrowed from her for PERSONAL use. If it was for the family then yeah, no one needs to pay up but this was for his personal use. Also, the only reason why the mon wants the money is to open up a coffee shop. Maybe men like you should grow up and stop being so judgemental.
I feel the resentment. He will seriously regret it when the boys grow old and want nothing to do with him. I just hope they become better men and fathers.
Broken promises are the worst especially from a parent 🤢
Awww I hope she teaches her kids Spanish, it'll be too sad if they loose their mom's language.
it's definitely the clash of cultures: in Latin America family is EXTRA IMPORTANT, it comes first; while in Korea it is often ask to put professional duties first, your JOB is your life
It's a sad standard in most Asian countries for sure. For a lot of these places overtime aren't even paid! They're just to show the company that you're reliable to be asked to do more. They work you to the bone and always makes sure you remember how replacable you are.
I personally chose to work for EU/US-based companies after quitting local jobs because I get encouraged to go on holidays and I get overtime pay.
for many people, it has to do with the fact that without their job they wouldn’t be able to take care of or support their family. it doesn’t mean that their family is less important just because they are also prioritizing their job. they need the job to take care of their family, so in a way they are still putting their family first.
I dont think culture matters when u have children and u promise them something
@@fjp9 i understand your reasoning; but there are always other ways to go to provide for the family while being there for them. It’s clear here that he chose work over family on a day such as Christmas. And his clients who went to see him on that day late after work. They probably could have gone another day, to spend time with their family instead of work (if it’s matters that can be pushed)
Not all families are like that in Latin America. I'm a Bolivian girl and families here do also have many problems. We consider our families to be important but for example I grew up in a family like the one of this video. I had an absent father because of his job. Financial stability is also important in Latin America.
The children are so beautiful! The mom is wonderful
Lmao he is definitely cheating. Christmas is a couples holiday in Korea so even if you didn't want to spend time with your family noone would purposely work late bc they want to go date or be with their partner.
Oh my gosh! my cousin and I thought the same too!
Exactly what i thought!
Christmas is traditionally celebrated with family world wide too, like i thought the same to be honest what kept him away from his children and wife on a very “special” time of the year… it seems he resents his family esp the children…
Thought so too…
Not gonna lie that what i thought. Even if not really important day for korean its still Christmas, everyone around the world will come home early. no one really want to see client, no client want to see you
I totally understand his children's feeling. I wouldn't care about him if he was my father either. He is the perfect example of a man who should NOT have children. He has NO business whatsoever in raising the next generation. If their children grow up to be good people, 99% of the reason is because of their mother. The dad is responsible of showing them the things they are NOT supposed to do if they decide to have children one day. As long as they DON"T DO what their father does, they will be fine as human beings.
The dad will come to regret prioritizing his work before his family. He'll wake up one day and realize he has no connection with his teenage/adult kids. There's no turning back the clock.
Im sorry, but episode after episode I see a pattern of all these Korean husbands always being so toxic or feeling somehow that they are the superior one in the household and is getting a bit old. Toxic masculinity is real.
Definitely, I remember being a newbies in Kpop and Kdrama thinking I would get those moments if I go there. These videos like this slap some sense into me.
I wish new Kpop Stans realized that before it's too late
Toxic femininity is real too
It's telling when asked about her husbands character the wife says that he's kind but he likes to drink. Having watched 3 parts of their videos I don't think that the father is a really kind person. I feel like as soon as you describe a person as "nice" or "kind" that this person is either 1) boring or 2) not even that nice and therefore there isn't much (especially good things) to say. + These series also showed me, once again, how low the bar is for men. But my utmost respect to the mum, she's awesome! She's so caring, smart and driven.
This seems like an episode of Hello Counselor, where the person who's doing the bad thing doesn't realize that they're doing anything wrong and they have to try to knock some sense into them to understand what's actually going on.
The way he treating his oldest son is just disgusting. That man already lost a son and if he treats the others like that he will lose the rest of them.
wait he lost a son?
@@winterdreambell not physically but emotionally. You can already see the distance between the dad and the oldest child. I should’ve worded that better.
To all the parents out there, no amount of money can buy back the time you spent with your family. Unless, you want your kid to grow up as stranger in your house. For example, the 11 year old child in this show. His father doesn't know it yet, but he already loss a son.
I used to be like the father in this show, now my teenage child doesn't even want to talk or do anything with me. It's like having a stranger living in your house. One time, out of anger, he told me when he was a little child, he cried a lot at night waiting for me to come home. Now, I have a nice house, nice car, buy anything I wish. But the only one thing I can not buy is the loss time with my son. Please, don't make the same mistake. 👨👩👧👧 1st
You can have all the money in the World but that won’t mean anything if you don’t build relationships/spend time with the people you love the most. Thank you for your Wisdom 🙏
Thanks you, I wish parents learn Material and just providing can't heal problem or trauma the kids had at school or home
Well. Someone has to pay the bills, the clothes, the food, the transportation experiences, the school, the healthcare and so on.... I'm sorry but that's just not realistic for most people.
@@plzleavemealone9660 Did you ever learn about sociology or Social Studies in School or College? Socializing, meeting emotional/psychological needs, Meeting education needs etc is part of the Family Function.
@@sa5m225
Yes. However you can't meet those needs when the financial needs aren't met. Ideal isn't possible for most families. Most don't make enough money for that. And especially in countries like Korea not showing up to work and not overworking will make you lose your job. Adding to that that his wife is acting like a loan shark he's obviously stressed and trying to make as much money as possible. It's what society expects him to do, and if he doesn't, he won't have a job or a family.
Nah that has nothing to do with puberty. The son just accepted that his father doesn't care about their promises and doesn't get his hopes up. The only thing that has to do with puberty is that the son probably denies his feelings and bottles them up instead of talking about it with his parents. The whole assumption that kids don't care when they are going through puberty couldn't be more wrong. It's just that before they were more expressive with their feelings and talked about it and with puberty they keep more to themselves.
There is nothing better than keeping your words as a father and taking good care your children so they respect to you or else you lost everything what do u want when your future u lived as single life all the your life
He is just too immature to be a good parent. This is common all around the world, so most women have to be THE parent. Never have a baby unless you are sure you can be THE parent without the help of the sperm donor.
The kids are so cute!
He is having an affair. It's clear based on this video
I thought the same. Having no compassion and even kindness for your family sometimes means you’re showing it to someone else 🤷♀️
Or either he is selfish or just doesn't like to show off feelings
Same thoughts
If that's what truly makes him happy, why be loyal to misery?
@@Cxs1a3 All of your ridiculous comments continue to pop up. Why would you get married or into any relationship romantically if you are going to want to be with somebody else or if you are going to cheat, break up. There is no need to string somebody along. If it makes them happy, then they can go, but they're n asshole for screwing over everybody else's life. It's irresponsible.
This made me so sad... Kids are way smarter and more perceptive than most people give them credit for, and I can almost guarantee you that this will cause a rift in the relationship between the dad and his sons. They may also grow up either emulating his promise-breaking, or grow up becoming cynical and withdrawn. I hope that doesn't happen of course, but far too often it does.
I love small kidssss. The smallest baby sister so cuteee
If i were in this situation, I would show my parents what’s puberty😂
this made me sad :( the mom & kids deserve better !!
Wow I thought the dad was bad in Part 1 but it's even worse here. He's just useless.
I really hope the dad has changed. You can tell the oldest is hiding a lot of his true feeling. You can tell the oldest expects nothing but the least from his dad. This is really saddening. If the dad doesn’t change his kids will grow more and more distant from him.
the kids are so cute ☹️
I mean it's fine if you're coming home late, but don't constantly make promises you cannot keep, you'd think someone who consults with clients would know that. I personally don't celebrate Christmas, but I know it means a lot to people and it's a very important family time, since thanksgiving is only celebrated in the US. Kind of sad he didn't spend time with his family and showed no care. I can't imagine my parents dismissing my feelings as puberty, rebelling, being immature or disrespectful, so for his children to be constantly told "it's just puberty" I can only imagine how sad they really are inside.
I really like this family because it is also a lesson for the viewers. Wish they will release more episode. 💟
Not the dad blaming it on puberty when the child said that he don't really care is just so disappointing to me! He really don't realize he's not fulfilling his duty as a Dad! I feel so sorry for the boys for going through such hard times even at such a young age !
She and I both act the same way. 😂 My family calls me a loan shark because I ask for what they owe me plus interest.
Plus interest?
Abshahah i do the same thing with my family 😂
Its normal to ask for money that ppl own u
I was like this with my mom when she borrowed my money but then she'll be like "you also have to to give me back everything you owe me from the moment you're born" then I'll just shut up cause that's fair point.😭
i thought my father was distant and didnt show any affection but after watched that i find that my father was really affective
i know there is people who dont show their love but here he really act like someone who doesnt care about his family...
Her children are so handsome and cute. I think all mixed babies are so cute. Their father might not express his love for them but we do! They are special kids. ❤
The dad needs to get priorities in line.
Well, father must come home to his kids specially boys need their father when they are growing up…
hes gonna wonder why his sons put him in a retirement home at 60
This makes me angry ! This man probably is not attracted to his wife anymore and makes close to no effort to quit his damaging bad habits .
It sounds like his “work” is his priority and he doesn’t even show any love or compassion to his sons !
I’m happy their mom is so loving but this scares me how can we marry someone that treats us that way !? I guess people change but he surely is unhappy with himself and makes everyone else unhappy how selfish
I know! And she has so much to offer! Such a lovely lady and she doesn’t even yell at him lol, I’d be telling him off
Someone said he's having an affair. If not he's just going for soju and "karaoke room ladies". Something normal in Korean culture.
As a mom of a son, the oldest is definitely going through puberty and withdrawing somewhat is normal, but more so, mom and dad both need to spend more time with him now as the way he becomes as an adult has the biggest impact at this age. It was very difficult for us as well, but one thing we started was reading as a family night. We read all the Harry Potter books out loud each reading a chapter. Mind you our daughter is four yrs younger and man was that hard lol!!! She took a loooong time to read her chapters🤣🤣🤣. Today she is 26 and finishing her first yr of Med school!!!!
the dad is really just the worst
They're nice couple just the stereotyped upbringing made the dad like that, many men are raised to be tough/heartless for no reason and thus this result and they end up raising their kids that way too. This mom is raising her kids very well, well mannered and caring.
That man knows what he's doing.
shame on him
Then couple years later he asked his sons why they were so distant, smh
I totally get this all my life my parents came home late, made promises to come early never did so now it doesn’t matter because it makes no difference. It’s very frustrating to wait one someone over and over.only for them to never show up.
Bruh the kids are so nice and well behaved i mean, kids that age are much more chaotic and don’t listen well…such a loss to the dad
And dad said the first son is going through puberty when the boy is talking so calmly and minding his own business like that? Ugh
If you're gonna be man enough to bring children into this world, be man enough to be a father...
I don't know with others but this kind of stories really makes me discourage having a family of my own in the future.
She “lent” him money but won’t allow his own wife to open up a coffee shop? This man is infuriating.
this man seems really careless about his family, in latino culture celebrating christmas with your family is so important to us, and he should stop blaming puberty for the emotions his kid is feeling, the way his kid is acting towards him is extremely valid.
She's gonna leave you soon man !!!!!!!!!! Watch out !!!!!!!!
Oldest brother so handsome !🥰
Honestly, i don't like attitude him father look like toxic parent, that's why oldest brother said him don't care whatever doing him father.
the dad is so immature, those kids will definitely talk to him less when they grow up and eventually stop talking to him at all
bru the fact that they dont even care that he comes home late anymore especially on christmas is sad😭😭😭
No lie, dad was good looking when he was younger lol ofc mom was beautiful too. Their kids are going to be some good looking people in the future. But dad's gotta be more intentional and invested in his kids. He's gonna regret it when his kids starts distancing themselves from him.
Tragic father
feel bad for the mama :(
Yep, the dad's a jerk!
She kept track of that loan and he better give her that coffee shop. It’s a trial and error in life and he should support her no matter what… he’s worse to the wide than the kids
I see a few people kind of excusing the father’s attitude because that’s how he was raised. At some point, fathers need to take the advice of others and their wife and become more attentive to their child’s emotions to work against their toxic upbringing. My mom grew up with a strict and verbally abusive mother and an alcoholic distant father yet she became an amazing mother who treats me like a person with feelings and opinions. My father is like this guy, deflects blame and acts very superior; been alive for 60 years and still refuses to change his ways. I refuse to give these fathers the benefit of the doubt.
que pai é esse
THIS DAD???!! I can't believe like FR!! You can't always bring (PUbeRTY!!! Cause of puberty) thing!! GWAAD!!! Ik it's not my place to be angry but having this kind of dad suckks!! You can definitely hear the kids tone talking about their dad like they have given up. YOU AS A DAD YOU HAVE LET THEM DOWN! This is soo sad I feel like crying:((( THE MOTHER!! BLESS HER.. Thank God atleast one of them is present for their kids.
it bothers me how both parents (mostly the dad) keep saying its puberty , they need to realize they should talk to their child and notice that they're upset or not feeling well, i get parents should be a little harsh on their children at some point to not baby them but they have to be smart about it, last video really upset me how he made their children cry, and breaking a promise can mean so much , which can later leave them to having no faith in their dad,(thankful for the other people there for correcting the father) if knowing you cant keep a promise why make it, especially to your children(if any mistakes to my comment please correct!)
They should've been on Hello Counselor and not this show lol the dad needs something that'll finally open his eyes or it'll be too late
Her husband is having an affair.He is showing all the signs of being involved with another woman.And he is a terrible husband and father,,she needs to end the marriage
And go back to Ecuador? You understand that coming to Korea is the main reason for a lot of these marriages right?
I must say the wife is naive. The man is cheathing.
@@berryb5474 Yo comment got censored
My dad comes home at 5:00 to cook dinner,then 6:00 - 6:40 we eat,after that he goes to take a bath then goes somewhere but I'm guessing it's drinking
This man is so cold and controlling. He doesn’t see that by working so much, he robs his own wife of her dream because when is she supposed to find the time to do it when she’s looking after the children constantly, plus, marriage is a two way street and he shouldn’t expect her to find that money if he’s borrowing money off of her? Regardless, I think he should be supportive of her dreams. And good on him ig for screwing up his kids, as a child that went through that it’s rough. You completely sever that connection with your kid and people like him never even make an effort to try and fix it :(
that man is definitely doing something shady behind your back…. he is probably cheat- *gunshot*
Usually some people learn parenting behavior from their parents as well. Maybe the Dad had mean parents too. Not defending him but that could explain why he is the way he is. He does need to change his behavior towards his family though.
If another parent say tht we act the way we do because of puberty im gonna lose it.
their kids are all good looking. idol in the making🤩🤩🤩
weirdo
Those kids get feel left out by their father and u think about idols?
Pull your head out your ass. They wouldnt date u anyway. See the real problem here
Yessss that’s what I was thinking with changa! He has the visuals! 😤🫶🏼♥️
What kind of a dad is he...
When he said I’ll be back home late I thought like 11pm? But he said 8pm
My father comes back home every day at 12am/1am and the next morning he’d be out by 9am so I don’t see him alot.
So while watching this I didn’t realise what he was doing was a bad thing until the people sitting next to them scolded him
How can the dad be working so much, to the point of prioritising it in front of his family, but still ask his wife for money 😑
He's a bad person and a bad dad
The dad doesn't respect his wife and children a feelings the wife try's to understand him for he sake of the children and by the kids attitudes the oldest doesn't hate him nor love him he doesn't care abt his dad he's basically a stranger the middle can see that the dad is always late but still wait soon he'll start having the same mindset towards the dad as the oldest has and i don't think the girl is old enough to understand
Yeh he’s suspicious wouldnt be surprised if he’s cheating on her sadly
I wonder if he's cheating on her because that's guys who cheat act like that
i feel like the hosts should call out the dad more. He thinks it us all a jome when his actions are affecting his kids
I don’t know if it’s cultural but I love and cringe how they talk about the people right in front of them. I would rather hear it to my face but most aren’t like that.
I swear I really hate this dad :/
This is so sad his wife bust her ass off to take care of the kids and follow her dreams, the kids are so well mannered and they aren’t troublemakers, yet he can’t make it home for one Christmas dinner?? He’s not even being a father he has no respect for his wife or children like they even waited hour for him to come back home and he chose 1 client over his family.
What episode is this?
She’s from Ecuador? 🇪🇨?
Yes!
Reminds me of my own dad. Hate having an asian father.
That's why i prefer to be single, than having a shitty annoying relationship for the rest of my life.
I don't blame you!
Visiting a client on Christmas? Is that a Korean thing? I’m not religious but in my country nobody does anything at Christmas.
Xmas is a normal working day in Korea, not a holiday.
@@lunalu552 uhm sure but almost no one does overwork for Christmas lets be real. It is a "couples' day" really.
How old is the oldest ? 가장 오래된 나이는 몇 살입니까?
The panelists laugh and giggle too much for me sometimes, some moments are cute and funny on the show. But when there is OBVIOUS red flags or terrible behavior they just laugh and smile and come up with excuses and that concerns me. Then again if they did have real critics and concerns I’m sure they wouldn’t be allowed to fully speak their mind, especially if it’s something that could offend the parents ( even if the need to be told off ) since many things could be scripted too. But it still rubs me the wrong way they laugh and smile about everything when some moments don’t deserve that.
Yall r blind lmao the guy clearly has another life. Hes not in tuned w his family
Poor excuse for a man, husband and father.