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Rumination is really common after these kinds of crazy-making relationships end. It's totally normal and I feel you. I've been there. I'm here to tell you that it does get better with time. You just have to give yourself grace. This terrain is tricky to navigate, but once you start to figure it out, it gets easier going forward.
I look at it as a sort of the healing process BUt also part of my future defense . It may have happened once but once I escape it’ll never happen again cause I’m out at the first flag even if the man can literally walk on water and heal the sick.
It feels like a lot of time spent on the subject, but I NEED THIS. I need someone to vocalize what my intuition has been trying to say to feel “not crazy”
Always an emergency of “ she needs money.” I scrolled through all of our messages and every single one was hey how are you then can I borrow money.” She’s known me for 7 years, knows I can’t drive cause of my health. I’ve asked many times hey can you give me a ride ( ahead of time,) and that I will pay for a full tank of gas.” Nothing ever. But she runs out of a box of cigarettes it’s can I have $30.” She knows my boundaries on that, I explained short and sweet last year. Doesn’t matter. Told her bye and blocked her finally.
He would always be willing to listen to how i felt. We'd have discussions about it, and i mistook his willingness to listen to mean he actually cared. However, as time progressed, it was always the same conversations, the same issues. There was no real resolution or compromise. My feelings were heard and summarily dismissed. I was expected to adjust my feelings and reactions, while allowing him to continue doing as he pleased, as he didn't see an issue with his hurtful behavior.
One thing to bear in mind is that neuro divergent people can use Stories about themselves to relate to the story you tell. This is very different from always making the conversation about them, but easy to confuse for it.
I don't make an effort to be in touch with this person but they seek me out and send me text messages asking me to do them favors constantly, then after I've done the favor they make some kind of an insult by saying that I am weird and gross but they say that everything is weird and gross constantly, ad nauseam. anything I say is gross and you can see the sneerer on their face before I've even utter the words that they just have the word gross trembling on their lips ready to spill it at me.
My “friend” said the reason she’s not texting me or conversing is because she’s depressed and anxious. I have the same issues but it doesn’t affect my friendships. I met this person at work. I had benefits because I was full time and she wasn’t. I bought her lunch on numerous occasions and told her not to worry about paying me back. I bought her two pairs of running shoes. I brought her extra food that I had from the previous nights dinner. I gave her migraines meds every month because she couldn’t afford them. And now she rarely txts me. I was in the hospital a while back and she knew this. Do you think she could even txt me to see if I am okay. I really think she’s using me. What do you think?
Thing is if hes good looking she doesn't care. Until it becomes her problem, then hes a narc...no you knew the whole time, you used him too because if he wasn't good looking you would have ran from the start.
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I hate how I think about this stuff excessively when I could be doing other things with my time.
i was just thinking that sigh we gotta do better yall
Rumination is really common after these kinds of crazy-making relationships end. It's totally normal and I feel you. I've been there. I'm here to tell you that it does get better with time. You just have to give yourself grace. This terrain is tricky to navigate, but once you start to figure it out, it gets easier going forward.
No, we just don't wanna listen to your f****** insecurities. And you crying, I'll f****** day.
I look at it as a sort of the healing process BUt also part of my future defense .
It may have happened once but once I escape it’ll never happen again cause I’m out at the first flag even if the man can literally walk on water and heal the sick.
It feels like a lot of time spent on the subject, but I NEED THIS. I need someone to vocalize what my intuition has been trying to say to feel “not crazy”
Always an emergency of “ she needs money.” I scrolled through all of our messages and every single one was hey how are you then can I borrow money.” She’s known me for 7 years, knows I can’t drive cause of my health. I’ve asked many times hey can you give me a ride ( ahead of time,) and that I will pay for a full tank of gas.” Nothing ever. But she runs out of a box of cigarettes it’s can I have $30.” She knows my boundaries on that, I explained short and sweet last year. Doesn’t matter. Told her bye and blocked her finally.
Good job ❤🙏
Stay strong and keep working on your boundaries. Ik it's not easy
I BROKE MY WRIST AND MY NARC TOLD ME WE WILL GET BACK TOGETHER WHEN I AM BETTER!😮
I agree . Once you think that somebody is using you, it is your gut telling you it is true. Thank you Christina❤
He would always be willing to listen to how i felt. We'd have discussions about it, and i mistook his willingness to listen to mean he actually cared. However, as time progressed, it was always the same conversations, the same issues. There was no real resolution or compromise. My feelings were heard and summarily dismissed. I was expected to adjust my feelings and reactions, while allowing him to continue doing as he pleased, as he didn't see an issue with his hurtful behavior.
Omgosh, where were you 30 years ago? So true! To little, to late, for to long!
Learned this the hard way, and i messed up cause i was too open and don't like masking.
One thing to bear in mind is that neuro divergent people can use Stories about themselves to relate to the story you tell. This is very different from always making the conversation about them, but easy to confuse for it.
I AM WORTH MORE AND I DESERVE BETTER!!!!
This is really good information for autistic people avoiding becoming vulnerable to others
They use their children in their games, since they LOVE NO ONE. This should not be a shock to you.
4:06 I knew this from the beginning it took me along time to come to terms with it and trust myself.
Thanks for sharing this wisdom with us and shedding light on narcissism ❤
JUST the video I needed! Thank you!
This happened to me a lot when I was in middle and high school. I’ve been used for homework a lot.
Absolutely this has happened to me , Everything you talked about in this video ❤
I don't make an effort to be in touch with this person but they seek me out and send me text messages asking me to do them favors constantly, then after I've done the favor they make some kind of an insult by saying that I am weird and gross but they say that everything is weird and gross constantly, ad nauseam. anything I say is gross and you can see the sneerer on their face before I've even utter the words that they just have the word gross trembling on their lips ready to spill it at me.
You had me locked in until you said 'divine guidance'
My “friend” said the reason she’s not texting me or conversing is because she’s depressed and anxious. I have the same issues but it doesn’t affect my friendships. I met this person at work. I had benefits because I was full time and she wasn’t. I bought her lunch on numerous occasions and told her not to worry about paying me back. I bought her two pairs of running shoes. I brought her extra food that I had from the previous nights dinner. I gave her migraines meds every month because she couldn’t afford them. And now she rarely txts me. I was in the hospital a while back and she knew this. Do you think she could even txt me to see if I am okay. I really think she’s using me. What do you think?
Hey Christina!! I hope you’re well!! 🙏😉♥️
Hi Pete!! 🙏❤️
Thank you for another great video Christina 😊God bless you❤
I do wonder if I was a target. Some people even said that early on but I took it more as loose talk.
Thanks dor this video
Yes! I agree!
This is very helpful Thank you
Same here about the tinder stuff 10:23
This is like my before always have fight to my girlfriend and then we leave she always want me to help but she don't want to help me
Thanks for information I knew someone like that he took advance of my husband when he was alive
Moving goalposts 😆 some people love doing that.
7out of 7
Ty for what you do 😁
Thing is if hes good looking she doesn't care. Until it becomes her problem, then hes a narc...no you knew the whole time, you used him too because if he wasn't good looking you would have ran from the start.
And how do we handle these type about people?
Can a 14 yr old be one
I am not stupid I know these people in this shelter are using me to provide vouchers for punky as
"...Sirs, what must I do to be saved? And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house. "-Acts 16:30-31 KJV
“As it is written, ‘There is none righteous, no, not one.'” (Romans 3:10, KJV)
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23, KJV)
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8, KJV)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13, KJV)
“Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.” -Acts 2:38
Why did you feel the need to add that silly text in the ‘TV screen’ rather than just speaking the words? Spoiled the whole video for me.
Wrong choice of words, sorry
How
how?
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Everyone doesn’t just call when they want/ need something
@@yvettegonzalez5928 she never said everyone. not once.