The "frenemy" in this story had low self esteem and needed to put others down to boost herself up. If the main character actually did get thin by dieting and exercise even if she did a full 360 and ended up in shape to rival an olympic gymnast the "frenemy" would just find a DIFFERENT area to insult her with, she would find some other "flaw" to exploit. Putting others down actually DOES boost self esteem but it is to one's emotions and mental state what eating a candy bar is to their physiology. IF you rely on candy bars for chemical energy for your body you DO get a sudden rush of energy which could help you in the short term but before long your health will deteriorate from poor nutrition. IF you are NICE and NURTURING towards other people it does for your self esteem what healthy, well balanced meals do for your physiology, it makes you mentally healthy for long term.
In my opinion a "frenemy", someone who abuses, exploits, or plans to betray you but PRETENDS to be your friend is EVEN WORSE than someone who is just an enemy flat out and does not pretend otherwise. I would much rather have some horrible bully target me as their victim without any dishonesty than a sleazy person act nice to me and pretend to be my friend when they are really planning to victimize me. A "frenemy" is EVEN WORSE than an ENEMY is.
A friend does not demean, belittle and emotionally/mentally/verbally abuse you! Also just because your outside is beautiful does not mean you are, some of the ugliest people have a gorgeous shell for a body!!
To me people like that are not even beautiful on the outside. Once I am disgusted by a person they do not look as good to me. The physicality does not change but my perception of them does.
@@Zurround I agree, I was just stating that she thought she was beautiful and to an ordinary bystander she may be but people who are ugly on the inside eventually show that.
I hope she gets so depressed from her life falling apart that she lets herself go and uses junk food as a drug and gets very fat and at the same time her former friend gradually gets into better shape and when they run into each other a few years later the mean one weighs 400 pounds and her victim is rail thin and streamlined. That would be the ultimate poetic justice.
This sounds all too familiar about the baby weight mocking. After I had my twins, I had maybe 20 lbs that I struggled to get rid of. My sister (10 years older than me) mocked me passive-aggressively. After my second, I was about 50 lbs away from my goal, (20 from twins, 30 from 2nd) after giving birth. Again, my sister mocked me and teased that I might now find a nice BM gown for her 2nd wedding in 10 months. We lived in different states, so we didn't see each other often. Now, when I had the twins, they were premature and could not latch, so I was only able to pump breast milk for 6 weeks. However, my youngest took to breastfeeding like a little champ. Well, my sister never breastfed her kids, so she knew nothing of the breastfeeding "secret," which is omen lose weight very quickly when they exclusively breastfed, the weight melted off like butter in a hot pan, because the baby literally sucks most of your eaten calories away. Imagine her shock when I turned up for her bridal shower, and she saw I lost all my baby weight plus an additional 20 lbs, which put me at the weight I was before I even had the twins. She started to try and spread rumors that I must have had weight loss surgery. But, everyone at the party shut her down, because for one they saw I was nursing, and told her THAT was why I lost weight, and second, no doctor would do weight surgery on a nursing mom, let alone for only 40lbs.
Ooooo that is one nasty sister. I also suspect that she’s jealous and envious. Instead of focusing on your beautiful babies and your health, she chose to shame you. Idiot. I’m sorry you went through that crap but glad you showed her up. Good for you
when I was pregnant with my twins the doctor told me I could not gain more than 20 lbs for the whole pregnancy. I ended up dropping him and getting a new doctor (nicest doctor I ever had). My mother in law on the other hand would not shut up about how the babies would be premature, blah blah blah. Meanwhile I ate my weight in unsalted saltines turkey breast and boiled eggs, with an occasional strawberry pie with whipped cream slice. I still love them
If she's already been an ass to you why would you want to go to her wedding why would anyone put themselves through that You just asking to be belittled
Just don't go to the wedding, write to her abd say you have something to do that day and never have her intivtie you to anything of her, because she used harassment on you and others, she let jeolusly go to her head
Nobody gets down on their knees just to apologize lol. And why would anybody get compensation, let alone her husband? She didn't even do anything to him.
It is possible that "on their knees" is a FIGURE OF SPEECH for profusely apologizing and not meant to be taken literally like "raining cats and dogs". Also, sometimes when a person ruins a wedding or bails at the last minute you can sue them in civil court for wedding costs. Its possible that her behavior was so beyond the pail cruel and disruptive that the judge and/or jury of the civil court could decided that she had wronged him so badly by behaving in such an atrocious manner that she can be blamed for ruining the wedding. Its my best guess since I don't really know how that kind of lawsuit works.
It is my personal belief that whenever a person uses their wedding as a WEAPON to exact revenge or humiliation on someone they do not like or enjoy tormenting (videos like this) that said person does NOT love their spouse. What a wedding REPRESENTS, its PURPOSE is a SACRED CEREMONY (I am an Atheist but "sacred" to me means a high degree of happy and proud emotion and moral and ethical importance. The term does NOT need to only be religious) to symbolize and celebrate 2 people who love each other enough to want to spend the rest of their lives together AND to by extension unite their 2 families. A wedding should be the 2nd most sacred experience in a person's life after giving birth to their children. IF I was marrying a woman and she were to use our wedding as a WEAPON to ATTACK another person (possibly even IF the other person was a bad person who deserved it, admittedly not the case in this story) I would believe that she does not truly love ME because if she did then the ceremony that is supposed to celebrate and symbolize that love and devotion would NOT be used as a tool to enact cruel pettiness on some other person. I stand by my belief that a spouse cannot truly LOVE their husband or wife AND use their wedding as a weapon against another person.
Yes, stand frim of the samething that you just said, I am a Christian and belive that if a person is horrible, then you really should move yourself away from her or him and get a better group of friend
I’m a Celtic Pagan & to me..SACRED simply means Important to One’s HEART. In fact…Any VOWS, no matter WHERE they are Said, Should be Held Sacred between the Couple. If that makes sense..lol Also…this pathetic excuse for a human being, was Never OP’s Friend!! She’s just a Hateful & Miserable person.
I would have said, that I had no recorrcetion of the person's name, that she should take me off her calling list, never use harssment agaisnt me or my family Ever again
Oh I would come. However, it would be to SABOTAGE the wedding and hopefully prevent the groom from marrying her which would be a mercy for him. She wanted her "friend" to make a speech and I would make a speech where I explain what kind of a person she really is using either voice recordings or the text messages or both as proof and part of my speech would be warning the groom NOT to marry her.
I would rather be conspicuous by my absence! Why lower yourself to her level? Sooner or later she will trip herself up, and hubby will find out what a monster she is.
They got married but the hubby is going to break up with her because he can't marry someone who treats their friend like that? Does this channel even read the story line before taping it?
If you have to degrade and humiliate your friend and call her cruel and insulting names "to make yourself feel good in front of someone you like," and "make yourself feel beautiful" by calling her "fat" and "ugly" (WHICH SHE IS NEITHER FAT NOR UGLY, so you need to have your eyesight checked, as well as your ego. This young lady is BEAUTIFUL, and unlike you, her CHARACTER is ALSO beautiful. You are hurling insults at her, but she is treating you with respect) then you aren't a very good friend, in my book, and this young lady would be VERY WISE to discontinue her friendship with you IMMEDIATELY and find a BETTER friend who will treat her with respect and friendship. You call yourself her "best friend"....I would NEVER EVER EVER tell one of my friends this cruel things that you have told this young lady or treat my friends with such cruel disrespectful malice....or tell them that they can't come to my wedding just because they are fat and they look like a pig in their dress. And then you have the UNMITIGATED GALL to say that its HER FAULT you are treating her like this...because she didn't lose weight after having a baby. SHAME on you. You DO NOT DESERVE HER FRIENDSHIP, you vile, vicious, cowardly monster. I honestly enjoyed her friend's payback to her. She deserved it.
I knew a girl as this bully in high school, she was taught by her mother, that she was better then all the kinder, prettyer girls, myself intcoed, and she was just horrible, acting fake nice to everyone
I'm having a hard time understanding why she was even dealing with her?.. that is NOT a friend.. friends don't tear you down to boost themselves up...stop calling everybody a "friend"
While the friend deserved some karma(like the wedding being cancelled & people calling her out online) I feel it went a little too far. I don't want to be on the "friend's" side but from what I understand asides from insulting OP all their lives she's also insulted her in a speech & made OP eat dishes for two. It'd be enough to end the engagement/cancel the wedding & for people to stop talking to her.(Along with maybe getting shamed online) I don't think it's enough reason for her ex-groom to demand compensation. Maybe at best pay for part of the wedding fees but not compensation.
Never associate yourself with someone who mocks you for fun, so that others can laugh at you.
No, Never do this. Its bad for your mental heath
With that so-called friend calling her "fat," she doesn't need enemies!
This girl is jelous of op and other women who are much prettyer and kinder then she is
The "frenemy" in this story had low self esteem and needed to put others down to boost herself up. If the main character actually did get thin by dieting and exercise even if she did a full 360 and ended up in shape to rival an olympic gymnast the "frenemy" would just find a DIFFERENT area to insult her with, she would find some other "flaw" to exploit. Putting others down actually DOES boost self esteem but it is to one's emotions and mental state what eating a candy bar is to their physiology. IF you rely on candy bars for chemical energy for your body you DO get a sudden rush of energy which could help you in the short term but before long your health will deteriorate from poor nutrition. IF you are NICE and NURTURING towards other people it does for your self esteem what healthy, well balanced meals do for your physiology, it makes you mentally healthy for long term.
She's not your friend. A real friend would boost you up not hold you back. Be happy with yourself first and always ❤
Yes please
In my opinion a "frenemy", someone who abuses, exploits, or plans to betray you but PRETENDS to be your friend is EVEN WORSE than someone who is just an enemy flat out and does not pretend otherwise. I would much rather have some horrible bully target me as their victim without any dishonesty than a sleazy person act nice to me and pretend to be my friend when they are really planning to victimize me. A "frenemy" is EVEN WORSE than an ENEMY is.
@@Zurround I agree with you on that 💯💯
@@Zurround Everyone has had one of those in life
This would be a very short story for me. After her first sentence, she'd be told "F OFF" and then blocked. Easy!
Absolutely! Just don't go!
A friend does not demean, belittle and emotionally/mentally/verbally abuse you! Also just because your outside is beautiful does not mean you are, some of the ugliest people have a gorgeous shell for a body!!
To me people like that are not even beautiful on the outside. Once I am disgusted by a person they do not look as good to me. The physicality does not change but my perception of them does.
@@Zurround I agree, I was just stating that she thought she was beautiful and to an ordinary bystander she may be but people who are ugly on the inside eventually show that.
What a horrible person and friend! She deserves everything bad that happened to her.
I hope she gets so depressed from her life falling apart that she lets herself go and uses junk food as a drug and gets very fat and at the same time her former friend gradually gets into better shape and when they run into each other a few years later the mean one weighs 400 pounds and her victim is rail thin and streamlined. That would be the ultimate poetic justice.
@@Zurround Lets hope so
A true friend wouldn't talk to another friend like that...don't take the abuse!
Learn how to say NO!
Tell the female person to Back Off and she has No power over people, its done Now
Bridezillas always feel that only they are the center of the known universe. Attending the wedding of someone like this a complete waste of time.
Hate to say it, anybody that talks to you that way, is not in fact your friend.
Exactly. They never were your friend and (if you’re smart) they never will be a friend.
Exactly
Don't know why you would hate to say it, you speak only the truth
@@Fcutdlady it’s more like I hate to have to tell you this but… with less words.
No, that is Not a friend, she is a horrible person
This sounds all too familiar about the baby weight mocking. After I had my twins, I had maybe 20 lbs that I struggled to get rid of. My sister (10 years older than me) mocked me passive-aggressively. After my second, I was about 50 lbs away from my goal, (20 from twins, 30 from 2nd) after giving birth. Again, my sister mocked me and teased that I might now find a nice BM gown for her 2nd wedding in 10 months. We lived in different states, so we didn't see each other often. Now, when I had the twins, they were premature and could not latch, so I was only able to pump breast milk for 6 weeks. However, my youngest took to breastfeeding like a little champ. Well, my sister never breastfed her kids, so she knew nothing of the breastfeeding "secret," which is omen lose weight very quickly when they exclusively breastfed, the weight melted off like butter in a hot pan, because the baby literally sucks most of your eaten calories away. Imagine her shock when I turned up for her bridal shower, and she saw I lost all my baby weight plus an additional 20 lbs, which put me at the weight I was before I even had the twins. She started to try and spread rumors that I must have had weight loss surgery. But, everyone at the party shut her down, because for one they saw I was nursing, and told her THAT was why I lost weight, and second, no doctor would do weight surgery on a nursing mom, let alone for only 40lbs.
Ooooo that is one nasty sister. I also suspect that she’s jealous and envious. Instead of focusing on your beautiful babies and your health, she chose to shame you. Idiot. I’m sorry you went through that crap but glad you showed her up. Good for you
Your sister is crazy. Ice bucket please.
when I was pregnant with my twins the doctor told me I could not gain more than 20 lbs for the whole pregnancy. I ended up dropping him and getting a new doctor (nicest doctor I ever had).
My mother in law on the other hand would not shut up about how the babies would be premature, blah blah blah. Meanwhile I ate my weight in unsalted saltines turkey breast and boiled eggs, with an occasional strawberry pie with whipped cream slice. I still love them
Your sister was jealous of you even before you lost the weight.
@@Jerseybytes2 The pie or the kids? 😉🤣
Why are you still associating with her? Why do you even pretend she's a friend? She's nothing but a bully.
If she's already been an ass to you why would you want to go to her wedding why would anyone put themselves through that You just asking to be belittled
Just don't go to the wedding, write to her abd say you have something to do that day and never have her intivtie you to anything of her, because she used harassment on you and others, she let jeolusly go to her head
That’s why western beauty standards are fouled up! ⭐️
In beauty standards actually are screwed up ttytt
What do you mean by "western"? Why be so specific? Are you implying that over weight people are not mistreated in other parts of the world too?
Nobody gets down on their knees just to apologize lol. And why would anybody get compensation, let alone her husband? She didn't even do anything to him.
It is possible that "on their knees" is a FIGURE OF SPEECH for profusely apologizing and not meant to be taken literally like "raining cats and dogs". Also, sometimes when a person ruins a wedding or bails at the last minute you can sue them in civil court for wedding costs. Its possible that her behavior was so beyond the pail cruel and disruptive that the judge and/or jury of the civil court could decided that she had wronged him so badly by behaving in such an atrocious manner that she can be blamed for ruining the wedding. Its my best guess since I don't really know how that kind of lawsuit works.
It is my personal belief that whenever a person uses their wedding as a WEAPON to exact revenge or humiliation on someone they do not like or enjoy tormenting (videos like this) that said person does NOT love their spouse.
What a wedding REPRESENTS, its PURPOSE is a SACRED CEREMONY (I am an Atheist but "sacred" to me means a high degree of happy and proud emotion and moral and ethical importance. The term does NOT need to only be religious) to symbolize and celebrate 2 people who love each other enough to want to spend the rest of their lives together AND to by extension unite their 2 families. A wedding should be the 2nd most sacred experience in a person's life after giving birth to their children.
IF I was marrying a woman and she were to use our wedding as a WEAPON to ATTACK another person (possibly even IF the other person was a bad person who deserved it, admittedly not the case in this story) I would believe that she does not truly love ME because if she did then the ceremony that is supposed to celebrate and symbolize that love and devotion would NOT be used as a tool to enact cruel pettiness on some other person.
I stand by my belief that a spouse cannot truly LOVE their husband or wife AND use their wedding as a weapon against another person.
Yes, stand frim of the samething that you just said, I am a Christian and belive that if a person is horrible, then you really should move yourself away from her or him and get a better group of friend
I’m a Celtic Pagan & to me..SACRED simply means Important to One’s HEART.
In fact…Any VOWS, no matter WHERE they are Said, Should be Held Sacred between the Couple. If that makes sense..lol
Also…this pathetic excuse for a human being, was Never OP’s Friend!! She’s just a Hateful & Miserable person.
@@thecelticcrone7927 You got that right~~Blessed Be!😊
Why would you go to some ’friends’ wedding when their opening line is -hey you’re still coming to my wedding even if you’re fat, aren’t you?
I would have said, that I had no recorrcetion of the person's name, that she should take me off her calling list, never use harssment agaisnt me or my family Ever again
Oh I would come. However, it would be to SABOTAGE the wedding and hopefully prevent the groom from marrying her which would be a mercy for him. She wanted her "friend" to make a speech and I would make a speech where I explain what kind of a person she really is using either voice recordings or the text messages or both as proof and part of my speech would be warning the groom NOT to marry her.
I would rather be conspicuous by my absence! Why lower yourself to her level? Sooner or later she will trip herself up, and hubby will find out what a monster she is.
@@carolroberts4614 Yes, don't lower yourself to where this girl is At All, she is going end up being old and alone until she dies
The online version of Merriam Webster's dictionary needs to include link to this video as an example when the word "frenemy" is defined.
INTERESTING STORY TOO MY FRIEND
Thanks for the video
Chi kid isn’t being a friend, calling her “friend “ fat.
You know, this isn't the 1930s, 40s or 50s when women quit their jobs when they got married. 21st century now.
That's some friend
No, this girl isn't anyone's friend at all
New villain for the next book!
Why you are Not leaving a so called friend
They got married but the hubby is going to break up with her because he can't marry someone who treats their friend like that? Does this channel even read the story line before taping it?
A person is not disowned for this, probably told to let things cool off before coming around, but not disowned
If you have to degrade and humiliate your friend and call her cruel and insulting names "to make yourself feel good in front of someone you like," and "make yourself feel beautiful" by calling her "fat" and "ugly" (WHICH SHE IS NEITHER FAT NOR UGLY, so you need to have your eyesight checked, as well as your ego. This young lady is BEAUTIFUL, and unlike you, her CHARACTER is ALSO beautiful. You are hurling insults at her, but she is treating you with respect) then you aren't a very good friend, in my book, and this young lady would be VERY WISE to discontinue her friendship with you IMMEDIATELY and find a BETTER friend who will treat her with respect and friendship. You call yourself her "best friend"....I would NEVER EVER EVER tell one of my friends this cruel things that you have told this young lady or treat my friends with such cruel disrespectful malice....or tell them that they can't come to my wedding just because they are fat and they look like a pig in their dress. And then you have the UNMITIGATED GALL to say that its HER FAULT you are treating her like this...because she didn't lose weight after having a baby. SHAME on you. You DO NOT DESERVE HER FRIENDSHIP, you vile, vicious, cowardly monster. I honestly enjoyed her friend's payback to her. She deserved it.
Yes, this is a prefect exmple of this story in a nut shell
Losing weight has NOTHING to do with 'will power' and everything to do with metabolism. You exercise to increase your metabolism.
The mother of this video should have seen a doctor to explore the possibility of a diet-after-childbirth-plan.
I have to ask, do people actually go around saying ''It's because I'm beautifull?''
Yes, yes they do.
@@islajadepierre9060 Narcissism when taken to that much of an extreme should probably be categorized as a MENTAL ILLNESS.
I've never met anyone like that! I've met a few horrible people who say" I'm too nice for my own good" though!
I knew a girl as this bully in high school, she was taught by her mother, that she was better then all the kinder, prettyer girls, myself intcoed, and she was just horrible, acting fake nice to everyone
I'm having a hard time understanding why she was even dealing with her?.. that is NOT a friend.. friends don't tear you down to boost themselves up...stop calling everybody a "friend"
While the friend deserved some karma(like the wedding being cancelled & people calling her out online) I feel it went a little too far.
I don't want to be on the "friend's" side but from what I understand asides from insulting OP all their lives she's also insulted her in a speech & made OP eat dishes for two.
It'd be enough to end the engagement/cancel the wedding & for people to stop talking to her.(Along with maybe getting shamed online) I don't think it's enough reason for her ex-groom to demand compensation. Maybe at best pay for part of the wedding fees but not compensation.