Nothing like being in a violent toxic relationship and being blind to it because you revert to the good times in hopes of resurrecting them, best of luck to any of you going through this.
Worst part is the long times after it falls apart where all you can do is look back on the good times which just become bitter ones. Then you have to look back and realize that even the best times were really just you trying to in vain to make the best of it and force yourself to push passed the gnawing thought of how awful it will all be when everything comes crashing down. This song perfectly captures that feeling and thats what hurts so God damned much.
Last year ended a relationship with a guy I was involved with it was really bad and even though I slowly got over it. Once in awhile I get memories sometimes good sometimes bad but I know at the end of the day I never want to be with him. It was draining the whole time always arguing and now it feels like old memories. And ever since it ended I feel so much happier and it's like I never even knew him.
I want a relationship that dosen't feel this way for once, just once, so I'm guessing going single is the only answer. Nobody to hold you back, or miss, or let you down when shit gets real. Idk if there's even men left in my town or city or state that exists here anymore. I give up on the fantasies of love.
Had a stormy relationship but the girl I fell in love with it start off good but we became lovers before we were friends and we started to argue all the time that was the time this song came out and we're not together no more and I wonder if she thinks about me sometimes cuz I always realize how it was going to be when she don't know me no more
Finally leaving a super abusive boyfriend after 4 horrible, nightmare years. I totally get it when he says "cus I don't care..." Love isn't real. It's a trap. This has been the worst 4 years of my life.
This never gets enough credit for being one of the worlds best ever break up/broken heart songs ever written. "...the hammock by the doorway we spent time in, swings empty...". Fucking golden lyric! Thank you for posting, Dicholas Tayllen, and thank you 3EB.
My father has Alzheimer’s, he use to be happy and fun. Now he is scared and angry all the time. Watching his brain die slowly is killing me inside. One day he’ll wake up and not know my name. I can’t take this
Or you just never noticed the words before. This is why I like lyric videos. I heard this song as a teen... And I never paid attention to the words. Now I'm older and really listening to the words and my heart feels completely shattered. 😞
Hahahahahahahaha, oh wow you missed out on the 80s, champ. Maybe the 70s. Or the 40s, when they actually played instruments rather than this electrical stuff and computer processing crap that fluffs things up
@@snowman-pv1vg I do agree, a band should be able to play their music on their instruments. Timing for pyro and effects can be thrown off without a digital backup, but just in case, I think a band worth listening to should be able to play without those. Yeah it's not gonna be as good a show with no lights and pyro but at least have some cool pedals
When i say outloud, "I wanna get out of this." I wonder is there anything Im gonna miss. When the bad outweighs the good, run for your life! We get one chance to walk this earth and if someone is holding you down, its best to move forward to those who truly love you. As much as it hurts, it will feel 100 times better once you have broken free. ♡
SImple understandings like this can be so important cuz even when you think it, you may not be hearing it, thinking it and telling yourself are 2 different things and its lot easier to see the significance when someone else not only says what your feeling, but shows they feel it too. Only problem is, in my case I was on the other end. I caused someone to feel like you may have when posting this, its my biggest and only regret in life and after losing that part of my life and heart Ive only sought out to better myself every day since so I never put myself or someone else in that spot again. Please people dont be the person I was, oppressive and one sided in the relationship. Unfortunately, her leaving me was the best thing that ever happened to me. It allowed me to see, to grow, to understand, to love the right way, and to appreciate her that much more. Imagine if I understood this before my best friend and I split paths. Leona Walker, she HAD to break free. Im proof that you can think it and not hear it. Im proof of the consequences on the side at fault.
I'm 32, never dated anyone more than 3 months... This song hits me because I mourn that deep love I imagine in my head with someone special, but have never experienced in my life...I can't even explain it....
Honestly, be glad you haven't. Once you have exposed your true self and all its flaws to someone you deeply connect with and love; then boom, one day, it's just all over; its like a part of you will be forever missing. You truly wonder how life will continue without someone you wanted to marry, someone you knew better than anyone at that time, someone whose body you have explored every inch of, and would have given your life for. It's hard, and I don't care what anyone says. You don't ever really get totally over it, although you learn to live and love again, You wish happiness and peace for the other, but nothing will ever replace that feeling of staring into your lovers eyes not saying word, just adoring them and them doing the same. That's why songs like this exist. For a brief moment in time, we can be transported back to the happy times with the one that got away, only to slam back to earth, knowing that they may have been the one, and you will go through life with them turning into a stranger.
Yeah, totally. Because it feels unpleasant to think about the bad, but it helps one realize that mistakes were made. And by thinking about our mistakes, we can draw lessons from these mistakes. We live and we learn! Thinking about the good too much might feel all good and giddy, but it also makes one want to run back in anticipation of feeling those good feelings again, completely disregarding the bad feelings and their consequences. I feel you 100% sister, as much as I want to run back to my ex, I know that we're just not good for each other and us being apart is for the best
Reminds me of my first wife. There's not a day that's gone by that I don't regret not fighting for that woman. I've moved on only because I've had to. But I will forever regret that we are strangers now.
I’m going through a similar situation right now. Going through a divorce and it’s been killing me. I just simply don’t know how to let her go. 12 years together and now it’s over. All intimacy is gone. We barely talk anymore. Only about bills and stuff related to our kids. I pray we will find each other again whether in this life or the next.
@@Aqua.man045 - That's how I feel too...like we shifted to an alternate reality some time in the last decade or so and practically everything is worse.
This song really resonates with you if you've been in a REAL committed relationship. When you let go you really do wonder how it will be without this person in your life.
I need some help brothers, I just had to let go of my gf of 2 years cause she just wouldn't change for the better. I know I'll move on but it hurts bad rn
Rchl Glvz/ Is a Masterpiece song "How is going to be" by "3 Eye Blind" We was requesting this son in the Radio all the time like others songs too from this first "3 Eye Blind" DC it was a long time Hit in the Billboard top 40's then was a #1in the top 10 of the late 90's this CD was a Multiple platinum in 1998 and 1999. They release this "3 Eye Blind" first Discography work with the same band title "3 Eye Blind" in February 10 of 1997
type "sound" in your start menu to bring up "sound" selections, click it to open the box, on the playback tab select the icon that represents your headphones and right click it and select "properties." Now, in properties look for the "ehancements" tab, select it, then check the box that says "loudness equalization." and this will increase your volume output substantially for headphones and speakers. Sometimes you will need to uncheck it to get louder sound oddly enough but for the most part it will normally increase the volume.
I miss my old relationship partner. And we same situation of this song. Now we both have family. But my feelings and memories will never forget about our past.
I remember the producer of the NBA on NBC playing this song as they rolled the credits and played slow motion highlights of the Chicago Bulls at the conclusion of the 1998 NBA Finals, in which the Bulls won their sixth championship in eight years. The expectation was that this was "The Last Dance" for one of the greatest dynasties in NBA history, led of course by Michael Jordan. It turned out to be the last dance, and the song being played at that moment was very powerful, I thought
This hits different when you actually live it, crazy. As a teen I used to relate this to getting out of my mom’s house she was pretty abusive, but this is the theme song to my toxic relationship. 😅
Yeah they do. Maybe you should move past the glory days of yesterday. Because you sound like the old people who grumbled about this music back when it came out, when they recalled the days of the 1960s and 1950s when music was truly about emotions and real feelings.
This song is still as honest, sad yet beautiful as it was when I first heard it as a kid!!! Thank you Richard's Liquor Store for playing this when I walked in and for reintroducing me to such an amazing song and for reassuring me I'm not alone and that I'm not the only one who had a failed relationship!
I guess he finally knows “How’s it going to be”... now. I locked him out of my life...because he decided to keep secrets from me... Told him I can’t be ok with that... never looked back. . I’d be lying if I said I don’t still shed a tear now and then...when my family doesn’t know...Every day I wonder how he is .. . And I cannot know the answer, aside from our prayer and soul connection. He My best friend, he was... OH HOW I sometimes wish we had never developed romantic feelings for eachother! ...BUT we did. I don’t want him back in my life, now... But I do still ache for everything we shared as soul-mate best friends... I don’t let anyone so close as I did him... This song lets me feel the hurt ... We shared so many songs together and I had to remove them from all of my playlist it’s just still too hard
I spent 5 years with a verbally, emotionally abusive man then came the cheating. I finally woke up and decided I didn't deserve that life any more. If someone is taking you for granted and breaking your heart.run as fast as you can.
When me and my girl friend broke up back in 1999 after being together for 2 years, I listened to this song and it hurt so much. I sat in my bedroom for the rest of the night, didn't even want to move.
I was in absolute Hysteria when my then boyfriend, first love and I broke up. That was 19 years ago. I have thought of him every time I have heard this song throughout the years and it broke my heart everytime. I got the news last year through social media that he had lost his life due to a drug overdose. First time I've heard this song since then and it's gonna be a hard night.
This song is a long time favorite of mine. First concert my husband took me to I was so excited I never had a life until I met my husband So it makes the memories so much more bitter sweet now that he is battling cancer
Hows it gonna be when you dont know me anymore... when you see the changes and know that shes leaving you and this time instead fighting to hold on to something that was never yours, you realize... this time, you have to let go.
my muzzikk/ We was make people at radios stations crazy because we was requesting "3 Eye blind" songs all the time specially This one "How is going to be" was a long time Hit in the top 10 and then #1 two like Seni changed life too in the Alternative Rock category. Amazing band.
I used to rock the hell out of this song never really paid attention to the words but for some reason I woke up with this playing in my head so I listened to it and it just fits my current situation, weird
me and fiancee been fighting.. hasn't been the best week for us and now is Christmas eve... I'm a person who shows so much love and affection. .. idk what's going on we barely been living together since october.... this bring tears to my eyes
milo vela I'm kinda going through the same thing, my boyfriend and I aren't exactly together at the moment, but I miss him dearly. But if we're just going to be fighting all the time, as much as it hurts, we might just have to go our separate ways.
My boyfriend of 5 years abandoned me Christmas time. He had already cheated on me by this point. I didn't know till a few days ago. I never loved a man as much as I loved him, and I've never been hurt by a man as much as he hurt me when he did that. I feel like a 10 year old version of myself that wants to go hug my dad
Thought of this in my room before college and wanted to know how everyone leaving the high school years would end up. Nearly 10 years later, found out I’m schizophrenic and bipolar and realized I was for much of my life. High school lunacy just buried it. Managing could be worse. I miss my friends and glad I made new ones in college. Idk anything but this song right now.
I'm sorry, dude, but I am going to be brutally honest with you here... The "Never moved on from highschool" type are just about the absolute WORST of humanity.
It’s funny how the choice wording in the song, happens to be “oblivion”, legend has it that the “Spear of Death” held at the gates of heaven guarding the entrance… and is feared by even the devil himself… He is well aware… if the tip of that spear, so much as touches anyone or anything It will “obliterate” it from existence …instantly… and for forever !! So, the lyrics “so how’s it gonna be , when you don’t me anymore” Actually means a whole lot more than realized in this sense Just thought I would share this with you all
when i want to see and hear the lyrics of a song, thats what i want. im sure you thought your editing to the lyrics was cool. it wasnt, it was annoying.
How it's gonna be ???? Miss everything about him good or bad trust I wasn't perfect. Till this day I still love him and have no regrets ❤️ because I've been blessed to know what true love is . I just didn't know how to handle it then but now I do . You learn from your mistakes .
this song hurts so much worse now that he died. i always used to think about how it would be if we had ever stopped talking and walked away from each other permanently. we were really toxic to each other but i still wanted to spend my life with him in it. as much as i hated him, i loved him even more. and now ill never see him again.
Just got out of a toxic relationship of 13yrs. I myself held on to what I thought when good times in hopes that they would resurrect only to find out that sadly I was blinded by my own instincts. So now that it's over.....I don't care how it's gonna be because I'm much happier without him.
Peaceful now , no longer toxic , when there was nothing to hold onto anymore , & that person controlled your life , freedom becomes overwhelming , there was never anyone else , and won't be for several years , knowing you gave everything to a man who saw you as an object , when you leave you can finally breathe , for that I'm grateful ! What is Love , really ?
Leona Walker is right. We get this one chance, at this one life. Even if you believe in reincarnation, there will never, ever be a life like this. Love yourself. Never look outside yourself to find the pieces to "fill you in". You are complete, you just need to find those lost pieces. Otherwise, this is a fucking great song.
You don’t care is exactly what YOU initiated , I haven’t been around due you YOUR DOING for quite some time and I know exactly who’s initiating this . Quit playing twisted games with me because it’s leaving me angry I absolutely have NO weakness now and that’s what you’ve been using thus far . Be an adult and communicate correctly.
After 30 yrs of marriage and having my heart ripped from my body believe me I'm in no hurry to feel that pain again. very cool tune. God is with the Broken Hearted always!!!!!!!
This song, absolutely was inspired by a woman for sure. A real life relationship he must of had that obviously went bad and ended.. and that inner struggle after letting go and feeling both happy and sad about it. Its human nature to reflect on the good times as well.
My story in songs goes, Where Have You Been- by Reel Big Fish. Then, Self Esteem- by The Offspring. Finally with this song How’s It Gonna Be. I’m writing a note telling her to say out loud, “Alexa play how’s it Gonna be.” Then she can read the lyrics by her self. “Cause I don’t care!”
can we not have the emo stitched hearts and shit.. makes me embarrassed to listen to this. I bet you are to young to know when this actually came out. And there was only one way for poor people to keep music
Good song but the video was distracting from the song itself which it shouldn’t because we are here for the song not animation that although cool are distracting
Nothing like being in a violent toxic relationship and being blind to it because you revert to the good times in hopes of resurrecting them, best of luck to any of you going through this.
Agreed all my relationships been fucked up
I was in one of those once. Not good.
Worst part is the long times after it falls apart where all you can do is look back on the good times which just become bitter ones. Then you have to look back and realize that even the best times were really just you trying to in vain to make the best of it and force yourself to push passed the gnawing thought of how awful it will all be when everything comes crashing down. This song perfectly captures that feeling and thats what hurts so God damned much.
Feeling that. Well said
@@chrissilliker8633 stay strong it might hurt like nothing before but just like any strong storm it will blow over and the rest of your life begins.
If someone is treating you badly and breaking your heart it's time to run and never look back.
Thankyou.🙏
something borrowed movie brought me here
Last year ended a relationship with a guy I was involved with it was really bad and even though I slowly got over it. Once in awhile I get memories sometimes good sometimes bad but I know at the end of the day I never want to be with him. It was draining the whole time always arguing and now it feels like old memories. And ever since it ended I feel so much happier and it's like I never even knew him.
I want a relationship that dosen't feel this way for once, just once, so I'm guessing going single is the only answer. Nobody to hold you back, or miss, or let you down when shit gets real. Idk if there's even men left in my town or city or state that exists here anymore. I give up on the fantasies of love.
Bem loko !!!!
Had a stormy relationship but the girl I fell in love with it start off good but we became lovers before we were friends and we started to argue all the time that was the time this song came out and we're not together no more and I wonder if she thinks about me sometimes cuz I always realize how it was going to be when she don't know me no more
How its gonna be? :-'(
Finally leaving a super abusive boyfriend after 4 horrible, nightmare years. I totally get it when he says "cus I don't care..." Love isn't real. It's a trap. This has been the worst 4 years of my life.
Lol
Crazy how we loved this song as a kid just from hearing. Now that weʻre older, it takes on a whole deeper meaning.
Indeed!
Hell ya;(
💯
Seriously
Very true. Two different songs? Or more likely, I’m two different people and nowhere near the person I was in my younger years. For better or worse.
This never gets enough credit for being one of the worlds best ever break up/broken heart songs ever written. "...the hammock by the doorway we spent time in, swings empty...". Fucking golden lyric! Thank you for posting, Dicholas Tayllen, and thank you 3EB.
In times of despair, music reminds us, we are not alone.
Absoulfuckinglutly. I just got catfished hahahahaha. The worlds inhabitants can be very cruel.
Right on. That's why I'm here.
Like right now.
I needed to hear this 💜
Literally a song about being alone.
When you realized you miss her more then she does you lmfao, ouch that hurts.
My father has Alzheimer’s, he use to be happy and fun. Now he is scared and angry all the time. Watching his brain die slowly is killing me inside. One day he’ll wake up and not know my name. I can’t take this
I'm so sorry. My father was the same. It hurt when he only knew me by my 1st grade picture. And he hit me but he didn't know. I miss him so
So sorry I went thru this with mine for 7 years except he was mean for 50...sick for 7. Love and miss you dad
Saddest love story ever. Love you dad like he loved you and remember who he was, not who is now 💙
so true, going through this with my mom..and now during corona virus i can't even see her.
💕💕
If this song doesn't make you cry then you've either got no soul or never really been in a relationship
That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.
Or you’re completely numb to it all...
Or you just never noticed the words before. This is why I like lyric videos. I heard this song as a teen... And I never paid attention to the words. Now I'm older and really listening to the words and my heart feels completely shattered. 😞
Or ya know... You're just not a pussy.
I've never been in a relationship like THIS and it still makes me cry. Superb lyric writing.
Anyone who was alive during the 1990's can very confidently say they were there for the greatest decade in the history of music.
Hahahahahahahaha, oh wow you missed out on the 80s, champ. Maybe the 70s. Or the 40s, when they actually played instruments rather than this electrical stuff and computer processing crap that fluffs things up
@@vidmasterK1 Ok boomer
@@vidmasterK1 damn boomer get off of TH-cam😂
@@vidmasterK1 maybe don't comment next time since you have no valid point
@@snowman-pv1vg I do agree, a band should be able to play their music on their instruments.
Timing for pyro and effects can be thrown off without a digital backup, but just in case, I think a band worth listening to should be able to play without those. Yeah it's not gonna be as good a show with no lights and pyro but at least have some cool pedals
What is most personal is oftentime most universal.
Such an underrated comment
Well said.
Damn, that hit me, def an underrated comment 💜
Who's here in 2022,wanting to rewind time
When i say outloud, "I wanna get out of this." I wonder is there anything Im gonna miss.
When the bad outweighs the good, run for your life! We get one chance to walk this earth and if someone is holding you down, its best to move forward to those who truly love you. As much as it hurts, it will feel 100 times better once you have broken free. ♡
Needed to hear that, thank you
SImple understandings like this can be so important cuz even when you think it, you may not be hearing it, thinking it and telling yourself are 2 different things and its lot easier to see the significance when someone else not only says what your feeling, but shows they feel it too. Only problem is, in my case I was on the other end. I caused someone to feel like you may have when posting this, its my biggest and only regret in life and after losing that part of my life and heart Ive only sought out to better myself every day since so I never put myself or someone else in that spot again. Please people dont be the person I was, oppressive and one sided in the relationship. Unfortunately, her leaving me was the best thing that ever happened to me. It allowed me to see, to grow, to understand, to love the right way, and to appreciate her that much more. Imagine if I understood this before my best friend and I split paths. Leona Walker, she HAD to break free. Im proof that you can think it and not hear it. Im proof of the consequences on the side at fault.
Leona Walker I always yell “fuck no!” After that line. 😂
Leona Walker
Not sure how to move forward knowing I took 27 lives in Iraq. Haunts me daily. This song fks me up. Duty called and I suffer for ever😭😭
Leona Walker 89
I'm 32, never dated anyone more than 3 months... This song hits me because I mourn that deep love I imagine in my head with someone special, but have never experienced in my life...I can't even explain it....
it happens when its meant to, don't be discouraged. One day you'll have a love thats even better than you could have ever imagined
Same boat brother same exact boat. Finding Jesus helped
Oh, don't feel bad. You are just saving yourself a lot of completely unnecessary grief and aggravation.
Honestly, be glad you haven't. Once you have exposed your true self and all its flaws to someone you deeply connect with and love; then boom, one day, it's just all over; its like a part of you will be forever missing. You truly wonder how life will continue without someone you wanted to marry, someone you knew better than anyone at that time, someone whose body you have explored every inch of, and would have given your life for.
It's hard, and I don't care what anyone says. You don't ever really get totally over it, although you learn to live and love again, You wish happiness and peace for the other, but nothing will ever replace that feeling of staring into your lovers eyes not saying word, just adoring them and them doing the same. That's why songs like this exist. For a brief moment in time, we can be transported back to the happy times with the one that got away, only to slam back to earth, knowing that they may have been the one, and you will go through life with them turning into a stranger.
90s kids know this is a classic.
Trying to remember the bad times so I don't think about the good. Easier said than done in the end...
Yeah, totally. Because it feels unpleasant to think about the bad, but it helps one realize that mistakes were made. And by thinking about our mistakes, we can draw lessons from these mistakes. We live and we learn! Thinking about the good too much might feel all good and giddy, but it also makes one want to run back in anticipation of feeling those good feelings again, completely disregarding the bad feelings and their consequences. I feel you 100% sister, as much as I want to run back to my ex, I know that we're just not good for each other and us being apart is for the best
@@icecreampimpdeux amen could not have broke it down better myself.
Rchl Glvz stay true& positive someone loves you
Rchl Glvz this is my life!!! 😞😔😞😔
Embrace the good times and the bad times it hurts a little bit but eventually you'll be stronger and won't make the same mistakes
Reminds me of my first wife. There's not a day that's gone by that I don't regret not fighting for that woman. I've moved on only because I've had to. But I will forever regret that we are strangers now.
I show you the steps to her again
Roman’s 10:9
Acts 2:38
Matthew 19:21
@@sydneemiller6091stop
😢 sorry to hear that. That’s gotta be tough!
I’m going through a similar situation right now. Going through a divorce and it’s been killing me. I just simply don’t know how to let her go. 12 years together and now it’s over. All intimacy is gone. We barely talk anymore. Only about bills and stuff related to our kids. I pray we will find each other again whether in this life or the next.
How can you not love 90s music?
This takes me back being 20 yrs old on the beach with my friends in 1998. Times truly flies.
Yes feels like a completely different world.
@@Aqua.man045 - That's how I feel too...like we shifted to an alternate reality some time in the last decade or so and practically everything is worse.
@@nkw19859/11 was the turning point imo
@@vhscopyofseinfeld - I think you're right.
Graduation year for me
This song really resonates with you if you've been in a REAL committed relationship. When you let go you really do wonder how it will be without this person in your life.
Or, you are suddenly thrust into life without them. I can tell you from experience, it leaves a hole you can drive a Peterbuilt through.
Or it’s so bad you don’t care how it’s gonna be. You just gotta go.
You gotta crank up the volume and reminisce. Glad I moved on quickly.
Cant look back just gotta go next
I need some help brothers, I just had to let go of my gf of 2 years cause she just wouldn't change for the better. I know I'll move on but it hurts bad rn
We will never hear music talent like this in today’s music
Need my headphones to go louder please.
Rchl Glvz/ Is a Masterpiece song "How is going to be" by "3 Eye Blind" We was requesting this son in the Radio all the time like others songs too from this first "3 Eye Blind" DC it was a long time Hit in the Billboard top 40's then was a #1in the top 10 of the late 90's this CD was a Multiple platinum in 1998 and 1999. They release this "3 Eye Blind" first Discography work with the same band title "3 Eye Blind" in February 10 of 1997
type "sound" in your start menu to bring up "sound" selections, click it to open the box, on the playback tab select the icon that represents your headphones and right click it and select "properties." Now, in properties look for the "ehancements" tab, select it, then check the box that says "loudness equalization." and this will increase your volume output substantially for headphones and speakers. Sometimes you will need to uncheck it to get louder sound oddly enough but for the most part it will normally increase the volume.
I miss my old relationship partner. And we same situation of this song. Now we both have family. But my feelings and memories will never forget about our past.
I remember the producer of the NBA on NBC playing this song as they rolled the credits and played slow motion highlights of the Chicago Bulls at the conclusion of the 1998 NBA Finals, in which the Bulls won their sixth championship in eight years. The expectation was that this was "The Last Dance" for one of the greatest dynasties in NBA history, led of course by Michael Jordan. It turned out to be the last dance, and the song being played at that moment was very powerful, I thought
I literally told my family this weeks ago. We have the same memory and feeling!
This is a great Break up song to get anger out at someone who broke your heart.
Underated song lyrics are amazing
Wow 1997-98! This brought me back to my first love J. Darcy
RIP 💔
Where we used to laugh,there's a shouting match
Crissy brat can u reply to this comment
😭😭😭
They may not have played this song at my wedding. But...they sure as hell should have played it at my divorce hearing.
Uhm why in the hell would anybody play this song at a wedding? 😂
This hits different when you actually live it, crazy. As a teen I used to relate this to getting out of my mom’s house she was pretty abusive, but this is the theme song to my toxic relationship. 😅
Hope your heart has healed and you're in a better place now, Dicholas.
They just don’t make songs like this anymore... This song will always be the absolute gem that it truly is & will ALWAYS be. No questions asked.
I miss the 90's musicians and bands.... great memories
Yeah they do. Maybe you should move past the glory days of yesterday. Because you sound like the old people who grumbled about this music back when it came out, when they recalled the days of the 1960s and 1950s when music was truly about emotions and real feelings.
There are good contemporary songs, you just have to dig for them :)
i actually was reminded this song existed from a playlist with songs like that from 1980’s to today 🤷♀️
When you are 10 and you got your scooter, battery powered radio/flashlight, and enough change for some Pringles n a pop from Sav A Step
This song is still as honest, sad yet beautiful as it was when I first heard it as a kid!!! Thank you Richard's Liquor Store for playing this when I walked in and for reintroducing me to such an amazing song and for reassuring me I'm not alone and that I'm not the only one who had a failed relationship!
lmao what kind of liquor did you buy
Love you Dad. Tryna learn how it's gonna be not having my bff around. Miss you dad. Rip.
I show 3 steps to paradise
Roman’s 10:9
Acts 2:38
Matthew 19;21
Hope your doing ok… life sucks, and is the greatest at the same time huh…
50 and no children. This song kept it real. How’s it going to be. Great deterrent.
God, this song is tear-inducing. Not gonna lie.
Agreed! Every time I hear this song, and "Standing at the edge of the earth" from Blessid Union Of Souls, I can't hold back.
No doubt to funny
Yes sir
I guess he finally knows “How’s it going to be”... now.
I locked him out of my life...because he decided to keep secrets from me...
Told him I can’t be ok with that... never looked back.
. I’d be lying if I said I don’t still shed a tear now and then...when my family doesn’t know...Every day I wonder how he is .. . And I cannot know the answer, aside from our prayer and soul connection. He My best friend, he was... OH HOW I sometimes wish we had never developed romantic feelings for eachother! ...BUT we did. I don’t want him back in my life, now... But I do still ache for everything we shared as soul-mate best friends... I don’t let anyone so close as I did him... This song lets me feel the hurt ... We shared so many songs together and I had to remove them from all of my playlist it’s just still too hard
I spent 5 years with a verbally, emotionally abusive man then came the cheating. I finally woke up and decided I didn't deserve that life any more. If someone is taking you for granted and breaking your heart.run as fast as you can.
When me and my girl friend broke up back in 1999 after being together for 2 years, I listened to this song and it hurt so much. I sat in my bedroom for the rest of the night, didn't even want to move.
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I was in absolute Hysteria when my then boyfriend, first love and I broke up. That was 19 years ago. I have thought of him every time I have heard this song throughout the years and it broke my heart everytime. I got the news last year through social media that he had lost his life due to a drug overdose. First time I've heard this song since then and it's gonna be a hard night.
Remember there is someone who will be your special love to show up when you least expect it.
Cap
A Sweet Song for Empty heart's 💔
This song is a long time favorite of mine.
First concert my husband took me to
I was so excited
I never had a life until I met my husband
So it makes the memories so much more bitter sweet now that he is battling cancer
I'm only pretty sure that I can't take anymore
This song takes me right back to the spring of 1998.
makes me think of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind...
I was born a year before this song came out and a friend of mine just recently played it for me..it was my first time hearing it. So good.
Your a spring chicken. Glad you got to enjoy some of what the past was to us older folks.
Age less time less..touched you in your soul
Enjoy your youth. Live your young life with zest & an abundance of love.
Reminds me of how I felt going through my divorce
Kristine Sickenius
Same here.
Kristine Sickenius me too, me too :'(
Yes
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Even before that
Hows it gonna be when you dont know me anymore... when you see the changes and know that shes leaving you and this time instead fighting to hold on to something that was never yours, you realize... this time, you have to let go.
my muzzikk/ We was make people at radios stations crazy because we was requesting "3 Eye blind" songs all the time specially This one "How is going to be" was a long time Hit in the top 10 and then #1 two like Seni changed life too in the Alternative Rock category. Amazing band.
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I used to rock the hell out of this song never really paid attention to the words but for some reason I woke up with this playing in my head so I listened to it and it just fits my current situation, weird
me and fiancee been fighting.. hasn't been the best week for us and now is Christmas eve... I'm a person who shows so much love and affection. .. idk what's going on we barely been living together since october.... this bring tears to my eyes
milo vela I'm kinda going through the same thing, my boyfriend and I aren't exactly together at the moment, but I miss him dearly. But if we're just going to be fighting all the time, as much as it hurts, we might just have to go our separate ways.
My boyfriend of 5 years abandoned me Christmas time. He had already cheated on me by this point. I didn't know till a few days ago. I never loved a man as much as I loved him, and I've never been hurt by a man as much as he hurt me when he did that. I feel like a 10 year old version of myself that wants to go hug my dad
yea..well drinking ant gonna solve your broken heart ,love! take it from me.
Ash Moe89 so can relate!
Coldest break up song ever....
Love it...
Ive been Left abandoned homeless and hurt.
Me too
2018 still here
Thought of this in my room before college and wanted to know how everyone leaving the high school years would end up. Nearly 10 years later, found out I’m schizophrenic and bipolar and realized I was for much of my life. High school lunacy just buried it. Managing could be worse. I miss my friends and glad I made new ones in college. Idk anything but this song right now.
I'm sorry, dude, but I am going to be brutally honest with you here... The "Never moved on from highschool" type are just about the absolute WORST of humanity.
"The soft dive of oblivion" TEB lyrics are absolutely gorgeous!
It’s funny how the choice wording in the song, happens to be “oblivion”, legend has it that the “Spear of Death” held at the gates of heaven guarding the entrance…
and is feared by even the devil himself…
He is well aware… if the tip of that spear, so much as touches anyone or anything
It will “obliterate” it from existence …instantly… and for forever !!
So, the lyrics “so how’s it gonna be , when you don’t me anymore”
Actually means a whole lot more than realized in this sense
Just thought I would share this with you all
The soft dive of oblivion.
There's nothing lucky about it it's living loving fighting it's all part of life man it's never perfect anywhere anyway
Does the hammock part ever hit hard to anyone else ?
No
Saw them in Concert last night was absolutely amazing
when i want to see and hear the lyrics of a song, thats what i want. im sure you thought your editing to the lyrics was cool. it wasnt, it was annoying.
This is the greatest song ever made I don't care what anyone says
How it's gonna be ???? Miss everything about him good or bad trust I wasn't perfect. Till this day I still love him and have no regrets ❤️ because I've been blessed to know what true love is . I just didn't know how to handle it then but now I do . You learn from your mistakes .
When I got sober and everything changed, what happened to the friends that were there everyday. Where did they go? I wonder, how it gonna be.
Love conquers all someday , I'm still waiting , till then this is How its gonna be !
It was the late 90's favorite song it inthe Billboard for long time the in the top 10's and then it was the #1 Song for 3 week's I believe :)
Is Anyone Listening September 2024?
Absolutely Love "3 Eye Blind" The late 90's multiple platinum Alternate Rock band. 🎸
Well I've been singing this song wrong for 20 years. I'll never sing it right now.
Lol. Crazy how some songs are that good you can change up some of the lyrics and they are still awesome!!
this song hurts so much worse now that he died. i always used to think about how it would be if we had ever stopped talking and walked away from each other permanently.
we were really toxic to each other but i still wanted to spend my life with him in it. as much as i hated him, i loved him even more. and now ill never see him again.
I'm sorry...
Everything u just said. My boyfriend committed suicide in 2016 n I'll never see him again or get to see if we could have built the life we both wanted
Just got out of a toxic relationship of 13yrs. I myself held on to what I thought when good times in hopes that they would resurrect only to find out that sadly I was blinded by my own instincts. So now that it's over.....I don't care how it's gonna be because I'm much happier without him.
Who asked?
When you cant have the person you love because the world doesnt want to.
Don’t think so much- just today 💕.
I want to get out of this
Me too.
Dumpster jump
I love this song... I've been dreaming about this song over and over for the past week. And I wonder what the meaning is.
The soft dive of oblivion...
Peaceful now , no longer toxic , when there was nothing to hold onto anymore , & that person controlled your life , freedom becomes overwhelming , there was never anyone else , and won't be for several years , knowing you gave everything to a man who saw you as an object , when you leave you can finally breathe , for that I'm grateful ! What is Love , really ?
I know exactly what your saying been there
A silence I can't ignore, like the hammock by the doorway
Love it and hate it
Wanna break it so I can fix it
Cause being alone will make you crazy
But being with crazy makes you so alone
Leona Walker is right. We get this one chance, at this one life. Even if you believe in reincarnation, there will never, ever be a life like this. Love yourself. Never look outside yourself to find the pieces to "fill you in". You are complete, you just need to find those lost pieces. Otherwise, this is a fucking great song.
Fuck man, my girlfriend and I just broke up, and this just made me cry for the first time. Hurts man. It hurts.
You don’t care is exactly what YOU initiated , I haven’t been around due you YOUR DOING for quite some time and I know exactly who’s initiating this . Quit playing twisted games with me because it’s leaving me angry I absolutely have NO weakness now and that’s what you’ve been using thus far . Be an adult and communicate correctly.
The soft dive of oblivion.
"The soft dive of oblivion" TEB lyrics are absolutely gorgeous!
something borrowed movie brought me here
Shit I'm going through I swear ....
It's 1998 & I'm listening to the radio just for the chance to hear this song again...lol 😎📻🎸🎶🎤💫
Wow My X wife sent me this and it was the song that was on the radio so long ago when we split!
Dont be in a rush to be in a relationship or you'll have more problems
After 30 yrs of marriage and having my heart ripped from my body believe me I'm in no hurry to feel that pain again. very cool tune. God is with the Broken Hearted always!!!!!!!
This song, absolutely was inspired by a woman for sure. A real life relationship he must of had that obviously went bad and ended.. and that inner struggle after letting go and feeling both happy and sad about it. Its human nature to reflect on the good times as well.
When people say what’s life for it’s this
When this song still stings even after all this years...
Ha !!
All these years later and now I finally know-- "the soft dive of oblivion." Genius.
Tell me what it is, please
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It's easy, fun, and great to fall in love. The softness of falling into oblivion.
My story in songs goes, Where Have You Been- by Reel Big Fish. Then, Self Esteem- by The Offspring. Finally with this song How’s It Gonna Be.
I’m writing a note telling her to say out loud, “Alexa play how’s it Gonna be.” Then she can read the lyrics by her self.
“Cause I don’t care!”
Overwhelmingly peaceful💔
can we not have the emo stitched hearts and shit.. makes me embarrassed to listen to this. I bet you are to young to know when this actually came out. And there was only one way for poor people to keep music
It will be flatline.
Good song but the video was distracting from the song itself which it shouldn’t because we are here for the song not animation that although cool are distracting
Coming out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist, this song just hits a little different.