@@Saberdud this, I was surprised to see in those "talk to Japanese" videos how many people (both men and women) don't consider it cheating if it's done with a sex worker
It's not like the western world is so much better at "honest communication". Well, they DO communicate more, but the honesty is severely lacking in many cases....
This is what it really comes down to. It's hard to be attracted to someone who you have unresolved issues with, or even resentment. I think the vast majority of couples and marriages out there suffer from this problem. In no society are we really taught how to communicate properly, how to have difficult conversations with people, and how to hear difficult things from our partners.
Basically the culture of "saving face" is SO STRONG in Japan, that many people won't even drop that notion for the supposedly the closest person in their entire lives: their spouse. So whenever a sexual related problem arises, it simply festers & snowballs until sex life is completely destroyed. Crazy how something so significant is rooted in something so simple: talk.
they don't really talk about it...sex..i find that surprising myself because i would communicate my needs and desires with a partner naturally so that we will both know how to make each other happy and what we lack as wel... it all boils down to good communication i think. every relationship needs that, honest and open communication which something almost impossible for some reason for japanese people
I'm a dude. Just wanted to point out that the desire to feel attractive and wanted works both ways. So it is something that both partners need to work towards achieving. Not one side or the other.
Rinka: My friends marriage and family was destroyed by her cheating Also Rinka: I don't tell my husband anything about what I do and I have no regrets... In the business we call this; "Foreshadowing"
@@zetaplus7911 Seems like. This is usually how single mothers are made. Thank god Japan is usually more in favor of the father over the mother in family court, unlike the west.
@@sselemaNrM I mean, to feminists everything is sexist against women. Your alarm clock annoys you? Probably sexist. A bird poops on your car? Probably sexist. Eventually everything will be sexist to the point it becomes obvious, not everythings sexist.
On a separate note in one study they had Japanese kids drawing their mothers. A non- negligeable proportion of the children depicted an angry mom reprimanding them. Maybe all can be related to a high pressure to perform in all the Japanese society that don't allow people to breathe, listen to or express some feelings. Instead everyone is exporting negative feelings and stress to their close relatives.
@justavideodiary both are to be blamed here in this context. Men should be more sexually active despite the tiresome life and women should be shaping up and keep herself fit for her man. Both should compliment each other and I am saddened on the story on the wife that had gone to point because her man was such a prick.
Man, it's tough having to see how Japan is taking relationships and I know it's also becoming drastic outside of other countries including where I live. I get that a rare bunch could succeed in a sexless marriage, but having intimate sex might be what makes one partner understand each other in ways that they can't do such with others. It's cheesy to say this, but I do believe it's something sacred that yes it could be done with anyone, but it's meaningful when it actually means something important between two people that only they can truly get. To have a sexless marriage may bring the worst in themselves or the spouse and as a result could either bring doubt, hatred, and/or more negative emotions, feeling more like a shell instead of a somebody to them. A lack of communication is very telling from this segment and I feel it might not get any better. Hope I'm wrong on this, but thanks for spreading this out there, Nobita.
11:55 If she got into porn without the consent of her husband, that's basically cheating. Especially if she didn't tell him anything about it. You cannot pretend that is okay to have sex with other people just because is your job. It would be different if her husband was okay with it. Though, I highly doubt a relationship like that would work at the long run.
I think it's industry marketing, I doubt any woman enjoys having sex on a porn set. Strong light, cameras, crew, all scripted, no intimacy. Even if public sex turns someone on, most of the above conditions preclude satisfaction. It's more about money.
imagine being against cheating because it destroys families, then proceed to get payed to sleep with strangers while being married, without the husband knowing, in front of a camera for hundreds if not thousands of dude pleasuring themselves while watching her, i hope her child(ren) are already old enough to not hear someday "i saw your mom doing nasty stuff", and she still believe it won't destroy her family if her husband or kid(s) find out what she's doing
The Japanese often don't view paid sex work as cheating. It goes both ways, many men who are married don't view fuuzoku as cheating because it's an exchange of money for services. I don't agree with it personally but it's very common here.
"I found its often all about lack of communication", "I got into porn and my husband doesnt know about it" Call me naive because I have no experience with relationships, but why does every video about these type of topics with relationships in Japan just sound like... people literally don't talk to each other. They just got married, had kids and then they find out they dont actually like each other and don't actually fit together. I am honestly so confused anytime I watch your videos on these topics. Do these people just like... not communicate? How do you even get into a relationship with someone where these levels of trust or communicating with the partner are just completely by the wayside? It's really really sad, cause all of these issues would be a no-go for me, whats the point of being close and together with someone as your partner, when you can't talk about issues and find a way for both sides? I just get unnecessarily angry seeing these videos with both people in these relationships not being able to talk to each other WHILE THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND SHOULD BE ABLE TO CONFIDE IN EACH OTHER. Its so frustrating to watch, I swear to god. I cant listen to all these things they list after "im done as a women, he doesnt see me as a woman anymore", this sounds like its some anime level misunderstanding plot where the whole world is against these women because neither partner is able to speak to the other. And dont even get me started on stuff like "oh I wanted to get better at dealing with women, so I became a male prostitue". Im not judging him, he can do whatever he wants - but that sounds so weird to me.... Why is it always about getting into porn/satisfaction business over there..
Well welcome to "Japanese culture" mate :D Its exactly as you describe. People in Japan/ asia live like robots. They have a specific rule to everything and if they dont, well just "dont bother others" or "šhoganai" and be miserable (but dont bother others...again). I will give you an example. If you are a worker in some company as a "administrative person", yo dont have name/ personality, you will dress as a "administrative person", you will work as a "administrative person", you will eat as a "administrative person", you will go on a holiday where a "administrative person" would go, you will mary another person in a way a "administrative person" would do :D :D and im not kidding. Thats how "orderly" Japanese culture is. If you are diferent...well the GREAT HAMMER OF SHAME will go down on you. its theire way of living, theire culture and its sad 😞cuz instead of fixing some problems, they just invent "solutionsů like the "NEW AGE ANIME/PR0N INDUSTRY" and as long it makes money its okaaaay...just dont disturb others... I find Amerykan and Japanese culture fascinating...so many dire social problems and still nobody cares to fix them :D :D and everybody is miserable but "misery loves company" so its okay I guess...
You lost me there in the anime plot. The anime is much better. They got used to do the old ways of the society expecting them do stuff without being told a lot of the countries communication often comes from indirect and non verbal cues which isn't always effective. People are often told to not stand out therefore voicing out opinions can be seen as being rude or stubborn. And what more in the world globally where too many says stuff in the internet that's actually crazy. This will somehow gonna push them to stay quiet even more. It's more than individual problems they are hard wired and trained to keep things themselves which is exactly what they don't need right now.
As far as personal relationships are concerned. I don't see it being wise to use cultural behaviors to appear in personal situations; more importantly the bedroom.
It’s a lack of communication but also a lack of understanding on all levels. You might have heard about the lack of mental health understanding in Japan, where you literally have doctors telling them to make a foreign friend because we have a better social and cultural understanding of the subject and that will somehow rub off on them. It’s something similar with relationships and sex, there is 0 education or communication on this subject from society at large throughout their lifetime. So in a way they’re just guessing and that has all the problems you’d think it does and more.
This is a very difficult problem due to many factors - communication, respect, understanding expectations, personality, stress, quality of sleep, quality of food, scheduling, other time demands, etc. If both partners are willing and have good communication but seem to actually be missing the actual “drive” - I would highly suggest completely removing all vegetable oils, sugar, and soy products from the diet and consuming more natural foods especially with cholesterol like eggs or meat. This should help. Not eating late and sleeping at a consistent schedule should help too. In any case, there are many different ways to express your love for one another, and to have fun with each other and it always starts with communication (listening intently>talking) and respect. I’d love to see another video that explores this from the reverse situation if you haven’t made one already. I think there is a unique difference in that situation.
"If both partners are willing" this is the biggest problem I found in current times. I have many friends who are like me, are single and can't find partner. It's not that we don't want to, we just can't find anyone who is willing to open to us like we do, nor they will sacrifice themselves like we do, nor they give us respect like we do. Being ghosted 99% of the times by my dates is also not a good look, nor it will make dating any better. I wouldn't say changing your diets will make it better because from the looks of it, guys are really stopping to care about women, like women stopped caring about men. It's a huge and strange movement, mostly thanks to feminism. Sadly, if women won't start doing what women did years ago, nobody will be getting married and more than half of the people will be alone, single and depressed.
How do you explain the fact that back in the 1960's you could literally buy a wife, start a family and flourish? With far more variables then you mention earlier these same people thrived and rebuilt a war torn country into the Japan we witness today?
I know sex isn't everything in a relationship, but there is something very fulfilling condlfidence wise when the deed is done. 1. For both partners, there's the feeling of closeness in the passionate embrace. 2. Emotionally sex can be freeing, especially when you're with the one you want to make love to. There's a release of being with someone who sexually arouses you and knowing that person can be yours for the rest of your life. The action shouldn't just be used and exploited for selfish reasons. It should be something special between two people...Also, I do think Japanese men might want to take care of this issue before it really gets out of hand. They're not going to like it if suddenly foreign men come in and their women suddenly become aroused at the thought of having an affair with them.
Well it is everything because if two people aren’t physically attracted to each other it spells the death of the relationship. Since this desire for intimacy is not there for someone that you don’t find attractive; and we need that intimacy and closeness as humans.
@@pointthirteen2234 Of course humans need to touch, but if you make sex everything, then the relationship has nothing to stand on should something to you, or your partner. There needs to be love too. Sex plays an important role granted, but without love and some form of connection outside of the bedroom, then you're both wasting your time and energy.
@@MrTobi013 As the commenter below alluded to, sex has such an important part of the relationship that it should not be underestimated. Without being attracted to your partner there can be no love in a romantic relationship. Sex for a relationship is like food for life itself. You would be right in saying that life is much more than just eating and acquiring food; but you can say this only because you get food. If you don't easily find something to eat then your life DOES become about eating food 24/7 and all your concerns are surrounding that. Without physical attraction the relationship dies in the same way.
When I see these kind of content about japan I always get shocked. That's something so sad and weird to me at the same time, I mean this kind of problem regarding sexeless marriage and the escape valvule they use to deal with that. I think the main issue in japan, if I could generalized, is a human problem, in a antropologic meaning of the term... the fear to express honest fellings of love and kindness creates an envoriment without affection that hurt to much the human heart, and that makes people despair and seek for affection and validation in some places and situations that in reality degradate their value as a person, like into porn or prostitution. The need for love is so big that people are willing to accept anything to satisfied this lack of love. That's create a "chain effect" of social and human problems. It seems people in japan are forgetting how to love in a romantical and sexual way, and that's huge problem in my point of view.
Good point but moreso not wanting to stand out so they're trained to keep it to themselves because the last time they did ww2 happened. And so many outside people still blames them for that it created a cycle of staying quiet and endure because they don't feel the right to be heard. Unlike in the past where Porn in Medieval Japan is prominent but they don't have this problem because there's a balance. Modern Japan don't have that and they value work without questions more than other things
Nobita-san, thank you for shedding light on this topic. Please, can you make another video with the perspective of men, who are in a sexless marriage. It would be very interesting to understand their views on that matter.
Absolutely. Porn is worse than prostitution. If you do porn, you are always in porn, even if you decide to quit . They've got you on film, and regardless of the law, they will find a way to use your previous videos. You can never escape. And almost all women never have an orgasm while doing porn, but they're told to fake it for the camera. What a hoax.
well, many japanese men view their wives as mom or maid only.. everything is left to the wife to handle, everything including financial management, the whole children education, as well as the house chores of course.. the wife needs to be a superwoman handling everything.. while the husband only needs to focus on his job & attending nomikai with their colleagues at night, usually abandoning the family. what nonsense is this..
Honestly I think lots of people probably use all their sex drive on porn. We know how big the industry is. Also my theory is that as people are waiting longer to have marriages and relationships, it gives them more time to feel like they need porn or casual sex, and when people get used to that, they are less likely to be turned on by normal sex with their partner because they are too used to getting turned on by other methods and potentially cant do it without strange fetishes. This isnt just about Japan btw.
I agree. I live in Jp and noticed that and it is an improvement part of the equation. The problem should be that wives complain about their husband “just wanting s”, not avoiding it. Stress has little to do with it. In a good relationship, sex is what relaxes men. Not to mention most of these men release themselves before going to sleep anyways.
The verbal abuse part is huge part in my opinion. I feel so many women do not grasp that as they abuse their man more and more he associates her with bad times and not good times
That is true. Especially when kids are enter the picture there is lots of problems to complain about and limited time/energy to create positive interactions when woman plays the role of a girlfriend. This would cause the men to treat the wife a mother, as all of his interactions with wife are just maintaining home. There is porn addiction as well that has to be mentioned.
Japanese men, like all men around the world... Are sick of listening to your silly shit. It's not interesting and slowly turns men off. Sure, they'll listen to it for a long time. But the more grown women act like little children and continue to "nag"... The more men will become less interested in that woman. It builds up over time. It's not what you did recently. It's a built up from what you said and did months ago. Women... really aren't as interesting as they think they are. So it's no surprise that a man, who is generally speaking one of the horniest animals on the planet, doesn't want to have sex with them over time, because women have literally turned these good honest men off with, unnecessary stupidity. How about just cooking a nice meal when we get home. Hug your man. Give him a good blow job. And let him have a good decent sleep afterwards! Watch how your lives will improve with this simple advice. Men really are not that complicated.
Just talk to each other. It is so stupid. Why does it go this far your married. You shouldnt be afraid to talk to them. If they say no ask whyyyyyy. Its so silly and frustraiting to hear because the answer is so easy to do. Yet they are very willing to ask strangers on the street for sex? What???? Edited: spelling.
I don't know what they talk in free time or at night 😂. And also They didn't think about children. What if their children friends find out about them involving in industry and bully their children . This is messed up
So I'm really the only one that thinks it's absolutely WILD that the first girl was just casually saying "when I was 34 or 35" meanwhile she looks like she's in her early 20's?
I'm Japanese.I think they are exceptions. Because quite a few wives confess it's creepy to have sex and they usually avert husbands' approach. Japanese have the least frequent sexual contacts according to the international survey, actually. Both husbands and wives don't want them ethnically and for having become family.
yeah sorry to say but you guys are going to have to get over that little cultural trait since it seems to be hurting your society as a whole. If I marry a woman yes you are apart of my family but you became apart of my family through mutual attraction and a relationship that needs to be tended to and maintained. You will always be my wife first and my family/childs mother second. We can't just stop seeing each other romantically because we have a kid or have been married a few years, that isn't a healthy relationship
4:36 I hope I misunderstood, but it's as if Mayumi is implying that women want sex only for procreation. I sincerely hope that couples in Japan can separate sex and procreation. I also find it kind of oppressing that the man and woman in a heterosexual couple are referred and refer to each other by their parental role once they have children ("mama" and "papa"). To me, it sounds almost as if they stop being man or woman and that their role as a parent is the only thing that matters. I also don't understand why it could be shameful for a women to have and express sexual desires. The fact that many women are still financially dependent on their husband makes it extremely difficult to leave, separate or divorce if the relationship doesn't work for them regardless of the cause. I'm willing to be that is a major cause of women enduring unhappy or even violent marriages.
It’s kinda crazy the level of self destruction or self sabotage Japan is when it comes to relationships. I’m not saying not all do follow the footsteps but this is crazy. It has to be because of how they try to “keep the peace” or “harmony” in certain things but does it really work out in the long. I’m very aware that the mindset of Japan is “it is what is” or “it can’t be helped” but really? You don’t try to challenge anything of the social norms? It’s like they are aware of having more communication but they don’t actually try to even do it and find some other way which is highly illogical. Social pressure and the low self esteem is also a thing too. They care too much what other ppl think that’s why they don’t get divorced. Low self esteem doesn’t make people have self respect and makes them passive as hell. It’s just so immature and selfish, I get that Japan is all about “reading the room” but that can only do so much, you have to be verbal and forthcoming in any relationship. They gotta learn how to assert themselves. And the porn thing is just crazy. Imagine you’re a good husband not being aware of what your wife is doing, she’s not vocalizing anything about the relationship, she’s just passive. Then you stumble across a video of your wife getting gangbanged by 8 dudes for work. That’s heartbreaking.
Japan is really a bizarre place. So many cool things about it and then there's these extremely fucked up aspects that are right out of some perverted movie.
In the case of Rinka’s husband, he literally has told her that he doesn’t want to have sex with her and has affirmed this decision for years on end. I honestly would prefer she get divorced but in the face of such dereliction of duty from her husband, I have nothing but sympathy for her. He deserves the pain he’ll feel from seeing a video of his wife and I say that as a fellow man.
@@genghiskhan6809 Even if he doesn't want to have sex, that doesn't justify her actions. If she really wanted to do the right thing, she would honestly confront him and end the relationship if things didn't change.
@@1000rogueleader that brings the issue of divorce in Japan though. Women who get a divorce are ostracized by society, to the extent that she's better off to stay married while doing porn. It's just bizarre how some of the things in their society and culture have turned out and that they don't seek to change it when it's destroying their society (e.g with the low childbirths and overworking to death)
It is not happening only in japanese community. It is a common problem now. It is not just a fault of man or women. Before my marriage, I was having my own time for training, relaxing and sleeping. After my marriage, there are a number of problem I need to think about more intense than sex. I never thought I have to deal with such as, some unstable psychological problem, have to take care of kid because she doesn't want to be disturb, have to play many role for many problem. When I look at my wife, I will think about the problem I have to solve which have way higher priority than sex in real life and takes way more energy. I believe she have her list of many problem too. I realize I will have more sex energy if I do not have a big responsibility on female. marriage des take a away huge amount of mental and physical energy from man and women. Maybe it is the reason for those type of sex services exist.
I guess they are rich and free time they have and They didn't think about children. What if their children friends find out about them and bully their children . This is messed up
There is one for both before. It''ll lead to just societal expectations of men to work hard and provide. Like literally less time for family, even good husbands rarely get any break from work because a lot of companies don't let them. Often times women tend to be the most affected in terms of self esteem since a lot of the times they're viewed as housewives. And the 30 year economic decline of Japan doesn't really help to stabilize finances as well
@@pauloazuela8488 How do you want to know who is objectively more affected psychologically? You can only say that women feel like they are most affected.
This video touched on something that needs to be investigated more, when it comes to men and sexual desire: Men who are emaculated, overly criticized, or verbally abused by their wives, stop LIKING the woman he is married to. But, he can't divorce, and it's cheaper to keep her. So a lot of men who don't sleep with their wives, have equipment that work just fine; They watch porn or go to soapland, etc. Women, if you want your man to make love to you, then RESPECT your husbands. It's no guarantee, but I'll bet it would help a lot of women.
I understand them honestly. Probably not the best way but when you are not appreciated phisically anymore by your partner because he thinks " your body changed , you are not attractive anymore, etc " all this bs, a woman doesn t feel satisfaction and need validation by other men who will find her attractive and sexy. It is basic human nature , pure and raw instinct.
And instinct can be controlled to a degree with intelligence. If you plan on getting validation from somewhere else and you can't control the urge, then just get a divorce and be on your merry way.
@@saianvesh3753I honestly don't see the rationality on sex. It's something so animal like, if my wife's thought process was like this I would immediately divorce 😂
@@saianvesh3753 Getting a divorce is easier said than done in Japan. There’s too much stigma involved and getting into porn is actually the better option.
To this day, I still find it weird how many people click onto these videos just to talk shit over situations they have zero clue about. As an aside, I actually feel for a lot of the women in a lot of these stories. Call me crazy, I guess, but if you're going to refuse sex to your partner and otherwise not treat them as a significant other, and instead just treat them as an "other" in your household, I'm not even sorry in saying you probably deserve to be cheated on. This coming from the guy whose relationship is relatively sexless by choice of both parties, as we both came from places of trauma in which prior relationships have had zero concern for consent being a deciding factor. I'm also of the mindset that, while nobody owes their partner a sexual relationship because of bodily autonomy and all that, it's also just incredibly messed up to deny your partner sex "just because" as I've also experienced. Not because there's no more love, or not because of some other motive like being tired. Just, "just because." Even asexuals are capable of a healthy sex life and then some people just choose to be cruel about these things.
@@1000rogueleader Never said it was justified, just that I don't feel sympathy for it happening if the other party behaves the way that has been outlined. Also, many people throughout the world and especially in Japan do not simply "just divorce." Women are ostracized for getting divorced, as potential partners going forward can look at her as undesirable or that she must have done something wrong or be crazy for being divorced. It sounds asinine, I know, but that is a big reality not just in Japan but around the world still. It might not seem like much if you live in a western society where divorce rates are comparatively astronomical.
It seems to me that Japanese people have difficulties being open, honest and forthcoming. Japanese people seem to struggle to speak their minds, say how they feel, and tell people their expectations etc. etc. I think a problem Rinka Tahara has is that she derives her value from how others see her as a woman, which is problematic as she cannot love herself for herself, only so long as her porn fans continue to consume her content will she be able to continue to love herself, I also think she should tell her husband, and probably get a divorce. When it comes to self-appreciation, that needs to come from within, and you shouldn't rely on others, such as people who only see you as a sex object through your pornographic work. I have also noticed that generally speaking, women desire and need more interpersonal validation than men; I have also heard that women's libido increases as they get older instead of decreasing. I think a problem that Japan faces is that men and women do not know how to treat each other desirably, and both men and women treat their partners poorly in Japanese relationships.
That’s actually true, the older a women gets the more hornier she becomes And yeah that’s facts! She’s getting all this external validation and to a degree that helps out with self esteem But real genuine confidence comes from within I’ve heard similar response to another women that became a pornstar It seems to me that many people in Japan really do have low self esteem man, it’s so self destructive.
It's probably sexless because the marriage is usually out of convinience even if both partners are attractive, boredome or the negative aspects of entering covenant with an incompatible person can cause a myriad of negative physical, mental, and spiritual status. Being fulfilled sexually or through experiencing love is a noble outcome, but caution is to be considered regarding everything involved in it's persuit...Source knows wants and needs pertaining to everyone, but loosh comes first for the envious hateful one's.
"i'm not going to cheat as that destroys families" prceeds to cheat on him with multiple guys and girls and publishes it online for everyone to see, the mental gymnatics is wild...
It's sad to hear from men that once their wives reach a certain age and become unattractive in their eyes, they lose their interest in intimacy. Everyone grows old and no one is exempted from that. Even men will eventually lose their beauty as they age. I believe that the foundation of marriage or any relationship should be more than physical attraction. Love and friendship usually grow stronger with time. If that is not the case, why stay in marriage if you fell out of love with your spouse because he/she becomes unattractive because of age?
@@backyardaviator2920 indeed, the stress of working in Japan makes it difficult to get it up. Also, if you have children, they will wear you out... We don't even have time for a shower! It is that bad. Personally our family has also not a lot of time of 2 of us only. The baby needs us. Or at least one of us. Plus many of us don't have relatives that could help us.
Many of these men are addicted to porn. This is an important factor that is rarely mentioned and all of these interviews should start with asking about porn habits. Obviously all marriages are complex systems and have to be treated as such. Saying that, a man who is not watching porn would cause a problem of wanting when wife doesn’t want. This is a much better problem to have.
If women refuse sex its normal, accepted by society and nobody bats an eye. But if men do the same everyone loses their minds - and of course its the man's problem, just like if the women refuses sex. So she just gets into the porn industry to "feel like a woman" again and did not tell her husband, but at the same time does not want to cheat. This is beyond fucked up...
Agreed. At least in western society if a women doesn't want to sleep with her husband it's totally acceptable and the man is supposed to just deal with it. If he watches porn or goes outside of the relationship simply for sex he is a terrible person and my even end up divorced. A married man wanting to have sex with is wife is now starting to get called marital gRape. As you stated it's the total opposite for women.
@OptimusSeveren3870 that's not what martial rape is lmao. It's when one spouse forces the other to have sex with them, whether by violence or by intense coercion/nagging and emotionally manipulsting to the point that they wear down their spouse into giving in. Saying that "men wanting to have sex with their wives is being called martial rape" reeks of misogyny. Some men will get angry, moody, and hateful if their spouse doesn't give in and will pressure them for hours on end until they get what they want, sweeping that under the rug to pretend it's simply desiring their wife is not okay.
@@OptimusSeveren3870 I agree, except of the rape-part. Rape = violently forced sexual intercourse. I know, all kinds of stuff gets labelled "rape" nowadays, but that does not change any facts. If the husband wants sex, his wife still has to go for it willingly.
From my country statistics, they say that "every second male is single, not married and depressed, while every third female is single, not married and depressed." I have many of male friends around my age, who can't find a partner, who is "willing" to open up to us, become our second "soul", sacrifice themselves to make both sides happy, many are very selfish and entitled, many don't care about anyone else, but themselves, many don't try to change their ways, when they see how sad their life is. Sadly, I would say women are main reason why it fell down, why both sides stopped respecting each other, which caused to making this huge divide between both sides. Dating is pretty much dead, with majority of women constantly ghosting men, being picky about every small element, while guys just want a good person. This had led to what we have now, which is lowest birth rates, people living alone with 10+ cats, using Internet to validate their own existence and much more. I have met so many women, who would not dare to start first the conversation or discussion. I have met only one woman in my entire life, where she was the first to call me, have a chat, spend some time and overall cared about being friends. How many more women like this one are out there? Two, three, or maybe this was the only one? There's a lot of reasons why our society is crumbling, why we have so many single people and we can't have only one side keep trying, while another one awaits prince charming on a white horse. I'm just a dude, who sees what's going on around him, and can tell where the problem lies. However, others are blind to these issues and keep blindly following their own broken roads. It's sad, where I and many more are standing because nobody deserves lives in depression and loneliness.
When I was in Japan I was very shocked by the culture, regarding sex. There were clearly underage sex dolls being sold in quite a lot of places, with the whole school girl aesthetic. Many sex toys and devices that I have not seen in any other country before and I used to live in Amsterdam lol. Even in some convenience stores I saw magazines with sexual content involving fictional characters that had very child like features and they were in places where even children could see them. There were also maid cafe's (open to tourists) and host clubs (most not open to tourists) with all kinds of fetishes where you would pretend that the server or host was your gf/bf. They seem to be more into fantasy and fictional characters than they are into humans.
When women refuse sex they are fighting toxic masculinity and the patriarchy. When men refuse sex, their sexuality is questioned and are not even heard. Double standard, much? Ef off.
Obviously the extreme work culture plays a huge part. I mean why would a huge chunk of men not want to have sex anymore when they are wired to do so (a bit more than women even). I know that’s not the only reason, but being in the country where people sleep the least due to work stress will tear a dude to bits
It is a part of it. When the man is very tired all the time, the motivation to have sex is much lower. The motivation to even try to have some form of intimacy is lower because during that same time he could be napping or watching a movie on the sofa. Based on what I've seen actually living here, that is a factor. It is not the only one but it is a very important one.
@@ZEoJEROMENATOR25 Yeah but if we trace back why they got that addiction it'll generally come back to their brutal work culture and harsh living conditions like finances and added more about the communication problems. People will normally seek alternative if they can't find a solution and that goes to porn, red light district, gambling, affairs.
i hope those who did or are still doing porn don't have kids...because their kids may will be bullied just like that 13 year old kid who was bullied by his classmate with pics from his mom's onlyfan account...the kid commited suicide because he couldn't handle it anymore and was too depressed...he didn't even get support from his mom who considered doing onlyfan like a normal job and from adults of his school who didn't stop the bullying
I dont think the mother is the problem. Sex work isnt the only job that is looked down upon. I think it’s more japan’s culture that expects a woman to be a perfect wife who commits no sin or indulge. So the problem stems from, in my opinion, japan’s rigid traditional values that do not keep up with the rest of the developed world. It is unfortunate the boy committed suicide but we shouldnt place all the blame on the mother for going against life’s script for her. Just because she’s chooses an unconvential job does not mean she’s not worthy to raise a child.
I see this as a problem in relationships in the US after being married for so long. I feel this might even happen to me, which is why I put off marriage until I find a woman who I will never leave, but who also never leaves me. Perhaps the solution is finding a woman who I will always be sexually attracted too? Same for my wife!
And how can you predict that? Many think they love the other so much that they would never leave, for the first several years :)) or even a decade. Everything can change even after twenty years of being together
@@soulharm5532 you're right. Life is unpredictable. No one married wants divorce later. I would say I'm very faithful and I would definitely never cheat because I find it dirty and just terrible. Luckily my dad or mom never cheated so it hasn't affected me. I am more worried if my wife cheats on me. If I ever get married, I will be with her until I die. There is no other viable option for me at that point
Don't wait for the perfect woman to create the perfect relationship with. Relationships are made, not found. No matter who you marry, she will change as you will also change. You can marry the most beautiful woman in the world and be bored with her in a few months as she might be bored with you in a few months. Instead, build a relationship based on those things that are most important to you both. If you do this, your love will grow. Don't take your relationship for granted as so many couples do. Do things together without stopping. Be kind and loving with each other always. Usually what happens is that couples take their relationship for granted. They stop doing things together. They stop nurturing the other person. Eventually, the relationship fades, sex stops, intimacy of all kinds stops, and the relationship is over, even if the couple continues to live together and pretends that they are a couple.
The timing for this video couldn't have been greater as I'm doing research on this topic for my studies and need some TH-cam sources. This is a great and informative video, thank you!!
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm a 51 year old American man who needed to understand that not all Japanese women are cold and don't want sex with their husbands because they do. I've been married to a Japanese -Brazilian woman for about 19 years now living in Rio and she has shut down completely from me. No cuddling, no hugging, no holding hands, no kissing most of the time, and especially, no sex. It stinks to be in the same bed with someone that you can't touch and want to share love with only to feel alone and abandoned; or even rejected. You're faithful to them and don't cheat at all; and still you're treated as garbage. I don't know how my wife can just shut off her libido like that and doesn't have any desire to be close at all. She never gets the weakness to let go of herself and just grab me to want to kiss or touch at all. It is so heartless and loveless. I started to think that most Japanese women were like this, but thanks for sharing this, I know different now. I sympathize with these Japanese women who are not loved by their men. Such beautiful women. That is so sad. I can definitely relate. Know that there are many men who, also, are going through this, also. It's so heart-breaking. Do you that even though she hurt me I still would've had sex with her again? I told her that she was beautiful to me, but she never felt beautiful to herself. She's in her late 50's. She's missing so much. By the way, I don't hate her. I just hate what she did. I've forgiven her. God bless you for sharing this!
@danielnovak4284, you are not alone. Japanese wives going cold, especially after the children are born is VERY VERY Common. It happens to Japanese women who marry foreign men as well as Japanese women who marry Japanese men. This is a very well-known and common characteristic of Japanese wives. Japanese wives are not the golden treasure that their image suggests. You are in your fifties. It is not too late for you to divorce your Japanese wife and find a better partner who is more affectionate. You will be glad you did. A MUCH better life awaits you.
Sitting here, in America, watching these gorgeous Japanese women say their husbands don't love them, don't want to have sx with them... it's almost surreal. And very sad.
The work culture is so extreme for Japan that's a big part of the problem why Japan's birthrate has been disintegrating for years. Now what I'm about to say is just a rumor I heard and saw online the Japanese Government has started issuing 'BREEDING PASSPORTS' to certain foreigners that qualify Nd that's all there is to that.
I can attest to the statement made about *Canadian* men. We Canadian men love women (30's, 40s, 50s etc) and have no showing our affection. So if you're a Japanese woman who's in need of *the deed,*Try a Canadian!
As a guy, i have a high sex drive so im always interested in having it with my partner. However, its really easy to feel hurt if there is a miscommunication or the feeling of rejection is felt (both ways). My girl and I are very open eith sex talk so its not an issue for me but i was in a situation where cheating killed my sex drive. Its a delicate situation for sure. Communication is key.
No communication brings disaster in the household. Women don't want sex if they don't feel comfortable. Men don't want sex if there are problems with work.
It is interesting that Rinka said that husbands have wives around their age, but they prefer porn(7:48). According to Mari, Japanese men say that their wives' body is unattractive(6:21). Perhaps the men are not being honest about the real reason they find their wives unattractive. I have heard from another Japanese channel that Japanese woman turn into another person after marriage. On Nobita's channel, their was a guy he interviewed that said he avoided being at home as much as possible. He said his wife was constantly attacking him and making him feel unwelcome in his home. I highly doubt he and his wife have an active sex life. Her attitude is so hostile that he does not want to come near her. Perhaps this is true for other Japanese men. Their wives may be attractive, but their behavior is a huge turn off. I know a lot of guys that will not touch a 9 out of 10 if she has a hostile attitude.
This is the underlying reason I’ve found as well. I was just in Japan over the spring spending time with friends and colleagues and the men more often than not are owned and emasculated by their wives. Something as simple as why a guy who could afford a slightly nicer car doesn’t have one is because his wife would not question the money aspect but why would he want something outside his allowance? Essentially asking him why would you want to move above your place? Every single man I know with a Japanese wife has confirmed that dramatic shift is real.
@@thenigerianfile- Why do men allow women such abusive behaviour? Like handing over their entire salary or letting the wives insult them. I've read comments like yours many times but nobody ever gave a reason as to why these Japanese guys let themselves be treated like shyte. It's baffling. And horrific.
I'm a bit of a recluse in Japan, but among sexless couples I have encountered (Western men married to Japanese women), it's the Japanese woman in the relationship who cuts sex off once a child is born. They have no concept of balancing the role of "loving mother" and "loving wife" and it tips way too far over into the mother category. One Australian guy I know (now divorced) finally was able to get his wife to make love again after their first child, then after the second child was born, it was back to being a fridge. Despite the high divorce rate in the West, we still have more opportunity to grow up seeing our parents as loving couples. Japanese youth grow up seeing their parents ignore each other, or see their mothers constantly running their fathers down. You need communication and you need necessary arguments to make your positions known.
It goes both ways. How a woman treats a man influences how confident they feel and how sexy they perceive their wives. On the other hand, the same goes to for the man, how they treat the woman affects how sexy they feel and their confidence as well. If one side is lacking, it becomes a negative feed back loop and nothing changes. Both need to do their part in being a manly man and a feminine woman to drive these emotions and sexual energy/tension.
Very interesting topic. I was really surprised to hear that men don’t feel attracted to their wives anymore. I cannot say the reason, I mean, in every culture things like this happen, but what I know is that some marriages are together for a mutual social convenience, as having a family in order to fill expectations, and economic stability. So maybe not having strong and loving ties could be one of the reasons of lack of communication. Also, if I’m correct, Japanese society tends to give a lot of weight to a person’s physique instead of feelings, which for me, are more important than the other; I really like to seat with my partner and hear what he wants and needs to say, to speak out honestly, but always taking care of not hurting my feelings. And this has to be in both directions.
This entire video just feels like "he's just your husband, not your friend" there can't be that many people who find their wife unattractive it's gotta be a deeper societal problem
Men having to work 12 hours a day then forced to go drinking with their bosses and team might have something to do with it. That or the easy answer - Anime waifus are hotter than your real wife.
I’ve been on several Tinder/Bumble dates with women in Tokyo that turned out to be in sexless relationships. They’re typically professional women in their early to mid thirties with partners that are similarly focused on their careers. The truth always came out post-intimacy, leaving me feeling bad for their guys, and bored of having more of my time wasted. They'd describe having exhausted, lost, often workaholic partners. And who can blame them. Tokyo is exhausting. The lack of sympathy towards the guys was, unfortunately, not at all surprising. In one case, a guy at a FAANG company I happen to know (not closely) was very reasonably asking that they give things time to settle down. Guy was hustling his career, just like her. A slightly older woman that wanted to get pregnant and seemed to think her man wouldn’t notice when a half Japanese kid popped out. It wasn't like it hurt me, but finding out was a letdown and made me respect them less. After they got what they wanted, they'd ghost. Throw in the tendency for women to have lower and less predictive sex drives with the reluctance of many Japanese women to initiate, and you end up with a lot of tired, let-down guys dating or married to women looking for fun on dating apps. Shame.
ED and communication? Yeah, right. Interestingly, all those men don't have ED when they go to the adult district and book younger, more beautiful women than they are married to. And guess what? Communication is the last thing you need there.
As long as there is porn always available in private moments/hours men will caught in nearly exclusive relation with their right hand, held voluntary prisoner by the behavior conditioning principles of Ivan Pavlov, principles which used to go to physical marriage bonding.
You will find that sexless marriages are common throughout the world, not just Japan. Sometimes the husband loses interest. Sometimes the wife loses interest. It is very sad when this happens to young people early in the marriage and they wait for five, ten, or more years before finally putting an end to the marriage and moving along. They spend precious time in their lives being celibate just to conform to the rules of marital fidelity. It is tragic, really.
Nobida-san: please make a video on how porn addiction destroys marriages. The issue should be Japanese men want sex without emotional intimacy and are selfish in bed. It should not be wives complaining about the lack of interest from their husbands.
How is it that she can talk to 10’s of thousands of people around the world and tell them that she wants to have s3x, but she can’t tell her husband? That seems insane to me.
because those 10's of thousands of ppl r numbers on a screen for her. She doesn't actually see them irl, or know them personally. It's way easier to tell someone online something important that it is to tell someone you have a relationship with, whether it's platonic or romantic. Especially if you don't wanna mess up that relationship. It's like asking people on reddit for advice, and watcing em give their answers. Not that I agree with her but yeah.
@@jimams_jamz5518 I would feel the exact opposite. In intimate relationships I can share my thoughts but when it comes to tons of people I would be more wary. It’s weird.
theres SO much to unpack here--but i really think what's at the root of all these issues is how japan views women, and the work life (of usually men) that cause them to be less interested, etc. there was even a study at a japanese company where they allowed workers to go home earlier, and it resulted in a boost of paternity leave (basically the husbands went home, got it on, and had babies). but as for the video, so many red flags in this. it seems a lot of women equate their worth to how attractive they are to others. that's a very human reaction, but i dont think women would ever be happy with themselves if this is all they relied on. its definitely an international problem as well. in a perfect world, women (and men) would find love for themselves from within, not determined by someone else. unfortunately, i also understand what its like to be in their position. we weren't married, but pretty much he had no attraction for me (due to his pxrn addiction lol.) that 100% wasn't my fault, but i immediately questioned my self-worth and attractiveness, when it was really his problem in the end. it TORE me up inside. i questioned so many things, i got depressed, i was so unhappy. but thank god, the relationship ended. i realized it was COMPLETELY not my fault at all, and that i was still attractive, loveable, etc. but i had to leave and do some thinking to realize that. so, i have to say i completely understand their position. and i could not even imagine living in a japanese society on top of that, where you feel you cant voice anything. in japan especially, youthful appearances is insanely more valued. its almost like the second a woman turns 30, she's undesirable. when i studied abroad in japan, i met a few japanese mothers. we (the students) were getting our pictures taken by them. to be nice, i asked if they wanted a picture too. they all laughed it off and called themselves "old women," "it'll be a grandma photo." these women didn't even look old. they were all still beautiful. but because of their age (and the society) they didn't see it that way. its so sad. because of the society, i feel like most women are just taken for granted. ive also talked to some japanese students and they were ALL dissatisfied with their love lives. even my closest friend got her heart broken by a guy that just led her on for fun. japan needs to rework so many gender dynamics (if thats even possible) if citizens ever wanna feel truly happy. it'll just get worse. its such a complex problem, but i hope japan decides to change.
It isn’t impossible for a man to refuse the bedroom fun. It’s not talked about as much cuz you don’t hear about it as much but it is possible. There’s various reasons for this: busy with career, sleep deprived, the foods consumed (ex. Junk food), past trauma from a former partner, pr0n use, could’ve found someone else, or just lost interest for whatever reason. In the times we’re living in now, life seems hectic, people are overworked, and they have to provide for their families. It’s not out of the realm of possibility that the men are just stressed. I’m sure there’s more to it but either way thanks for the video TJR.
Or more like "She kept saying didn't want to do it when I was horny, so why am I giving her my time at her request when I'm stressed, sleep deprived and not feeling it".
It feels reassuring that women do in fact feel sexual desires. As a guy that is starting a relationship, I feel happy that I would not feel guilty when asking for sex in the future. I thought for the longest of time men have higher libidos compared to women, but this video proves that it is not the case.
People need to be much clearer to each other *before* getting into a relationship. People are destroying their relationships by not being clear with each other. Maybe people should be more open to returning to things like matchmaking (either professional or the "meddling aunts" version), and being clear to the matchmaker what you're looking for in a relationship, and the matchmakers encouraging that clarity.
That really wouldn't fix the problem. The problem is lack of communication, which will remain the issue whether you are get married via a matchmaker or not.
I don’t think the problem is that middle-aged men are suffering from ED. I think the problem is that males, regardless of age or nationality, are hardwired to be sexually attracted to (1) young women and (2) novel partners. A man’s middle-aged wife is neither. It’s not the wife’s fault but there’s little she - or he - can do about it. It’s part of the human condition - an intractable problem.
I not sure what these men expect. Everyone ages and its pretty rude to tell your woman that she isnt attractive anymore because she looks like a middle age woman (maybe because she is?). Kinda crazy perhaps all the sexual advertising doesnt help and creates a false fantasy in both men and woman since they have services like watching porn, host clubs, and more
I don't understand why do you need to have sex 7 days a week and 52 weeks a year? It's absurd. I will never marry If I have to have sex that many times. Once or twice a month is alright.
Perhaps I'm missing something but it's hard to form a side other than calling the situation sad. The women want sex, is that truly a bad thing especially if their husbands won't want it or don't see them as attractive anymore? Where else should they turn to? "Just divorce then" also doesn't seem right either given how the yen is falling the last I've heard, so trying to make a living on their own seems like the lesser choice, especially if they have kids and the parents really want their needs covered. The only issue I fail to understand is why the men don't want it besides ED or abuse. If the wife is that unflattering to you, why would they care what she's doing? It's not like the husband were going to touch her Maybe it is just all a miscommunication issue like of the interviewers said which just a societal issue that hopefully get better with time
I think Japan can lead to a deeper understanding of the complexities surrounding intimate relationships in modern society. Engaging in constructive and empathetic conversations can help generate potential solutions that promote healthier, more fulfilling relationships and contribute to the overall well-being of individuals, couples, and the broader community.
That woman who got into porn without telling her husband and claimed it was better than cheating needs a slap in the face. How did she even arrive to that twisted conclusion? Why hasn't she divorced her husband yet, if working in porn has given her what she wanted? It's probably because she still wants money from her husband. That money plus what she earns from prostituting herself gives her the ability to afford luxuries she otherwise wouldn't be able to afford. I could be wrong here, but I'm probably right.
life is tough for a divorced woman in Japan, economically and socially, especially if moving back home w/parents is not an option. If her porn career makes good money she could do it but I don't think porn is a long lasting career.
Divorce is not really an option for women in Japan, as there’s far too much stigma and “loss of face” involved. Also, porn isn’t really seen as cheating there because there is an exchange of money. We can’t judge an Asian society by Western values.
@@richerDiLefto I'm Asian, although not Japanese. Only logical fallacies can lead one into believing he/she loses face from a divorce but not from doing porn. The exchange of money for sexual service is referred to as prostitution and the provider of such service is called a prostitute. Prostitutes are seen as garbage in Asian cultures. The stigma is much worse.
in the usa, having sex is a marital duty, failing to do it is grounds for divorce. if you dont want to have sex w your person, then just move on, sex is required for any healthy relationship. if my chick dressed like a sloot in public, had an instagram, or had any male friends, she wouldnt be my chick. i wouldnt even be friends w a girl who does porn, my standards for dating are miles apart from anything 'adult entertainment'. if she ignores her health, gets fat, is complaining constantly, is annoying to be around, starts fights....those are symptoms of a worthless female; you cant blame him for not wanting her.
It's funny how people find ways to justify anything instead of take responsible desicions, seriously the framing is awesome, ohh poor woman she was push, almost force into porn, come on, it's time to stop that, porn maKe money and it's easy, accept it, the excuse isn't the reason
Couldnt overworl be one of the causes of erectile dysfunction then? If the men are working long hours and too tired to function, it makes sense that there would be an overwhelming frequency of occurence of ED.
When you take accountability and vow and marry someone there should be a level of appreciation for one another's Inner Being, regardless of what life phase they are in be it young, middle age or old. True Love is Deeper than just the superficial surface. It's supernatural. This individual will forever satisfy you emotionally, you share pain, a history and you don't fear opening up to them and expressing vulnerabilities because they truly get you. So there should first and foremost be a High level of Respect for each other's Soul journey... this is the Foundation, the head. With out that knowledge and understanding, It's no surprise that the Relationship is unfulfilling. ❤
Women need to stop abusing their husbands. If you are yelling at your husband so much that he refuses to have sex with you, you are in the wrong. Do better.
4:34 "the wife is still willing to have sex *and have another child."* There it is. Men have no say once the woman is impregnated, so they just refuse to have sex.
He still does good stuff but unfortunately he has financial difficulties and seems to get sponsored to do publicity for porn companies, at least if I am understanding correctly what he said in the comment section of a video a good while ago. From how he frames the questions it is obvious that he is very socially conservative if not reactionary but my impression he has kids so it is quite likely that putting food on the table is the priority, personally I think he should set up a patreon and make the sort of good content he seems to want to make.
@@vorynrosethorn903 So the porn companies pay him to advertise their content because they know so many of his viewers are also theirs? Savvy. They know their audience.
Hearing "let's listen to what she has to say" moments before I skip forward into the video to avoid having to hear that shit actually made me chuckle. I didn't it unconsciously and it didn't hit me to afterwards. Either way, to that I say "I don't think I will". 1:34
While the video is well made I do notice a clear lack of testimonies from men. I'll be honest, to me these women are living a comfortable but boring life as housewives while their husbands are slaving away at work and pleasing their bosses. Do you think men have the energy to "do it" after all that?
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If your wife got into porn because of sexless marriage, would that be acceptable to you?
No, it wouldn't. More importantly, it's essential to talk about those things early on so that it never gets to that point, for both of them.
no
It would turn into a sexless divorce real quick.
No.
If your partner became a porn actor or actress then that is unfaithful to their partner. So that would probably lead to divorce immediately.
"I don't want to cheat on my husband, so instead I became a porn star without telling him!" holy shit what kind of thought process is this
welcome to japan
@@Saberdud
this, I was surprised to see in those "talk to Japanese" videos how many people (both men and women) don't consider it cheating if it's done with a sex worker
Tried my best to be empathetic to her after hearing her initial story, but then the truth came out.
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modern problems require modern solutions
The lack of honest communication (and maybe even close friendship) in many of the marriages is shocking. 😞
We're all gonna antisocial even More
Will welcome to realty 😊
It's not like the western world is so much better at "honest communication". Well, they DO communicate more, but the honesty is severely lacking in many cases....
This is what it really comes down to. It's hard to be attracted to someone who you have unresolved issues with, or even resentment. I think the vast majority of couples and marriages out there suffer from this problem. In no society are we really taught how to communicate properly, how to have difficult conversations with people, and how to hear difficult things from our partners.
大丈夫、イヤンフ旅行行けばいい100億スワップしましたから。
韓国男性美形だし、平和の8年間がパ－だ。
Basically the culture of "saving face" is SO STRONG in Japan, that many people won't even drop that notion for the supposedly the closest person in their entire lives: their spouse. So whenever a sexual related problem arises, it simply festers & snowballs until sex life is completely destroyed. Crazy how something so significant is rooted in something so simple: talk.
It’s not like it’s all that different in the West. Pretty similar actually.
@@mark9294 Uhhhh, not in my part of the West it isn't. Does it happen? Sure. Is it the norm? Not at all.
Open honest conversation is not their strength.
they don't really talk about it...sex..i find that surprising myself because i would communicate my needs and desires with a partner naturally so that we will both know how to make each other happy and what we lack as wel... it all boils down to good communication i think. every relationship needs that, honest and open communication which something almost impossible for some reason for japanese people
I'm a dude. Just wanted to point out that the desire to feel attractive and wanted works both ways. So it is something that both partners need to work towards achieving. Not one side or the other.
could not agree more brother
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Right.... BOTH Ways.. Agreed.
Rinka: My friends marriage and family was destroyed by her cheating
Also Rinka: I don't tell my husband anything about what I do and I have no regrets...
In the business we call this; "Foreshadowing"
Yup, seems likely she’ll end up like Mika’s case like the other video
@@zetaplus7911 Seems like. This is usually how single mothers are made. Thank god Japan is usually more in favor of the father over the mother in family court, unlike the west.
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@@noctisthehumanslayer777 Japan is also more patriarchal and sexist against women as well. So not exactly a good thing
@@sselemaNrM I mean, to feminists everything is sexist against women. Your alarm clock annoys you? Probably sexist. A bird poops on your car? Probably sexist. Eventually everything will be sexist to the point it becomes obvious, not everythings sexist.
On a separate note in one study they had Japanese kids drawing their mothers. A non- negligeable proportion of the children depicted an angry mom reprimanding them.
Maybe all can be related to a high pressure to perform in all the Japanese society that don't allow people to breathe, listen to or express some feelings.
Instead everyone is exporting negative feelings and stress to their close relatives.
My mother visited Japan recently from Europe.
After few days she told me: “looking at how women treat their husbands, I bet they are not having it”.
It's kind of funny because so many men in western countries view Japanese women as the ideal wife.
@@Raphanne Its just an irrational outsider perspective. "The grass is always greener on the other side" as they say.
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they are misinformed.
They are mixing GF experience with a wife experience.
Stop blaming women for men's actions.
@justavideodiary both are to be blamed here in this context. Men should be more sexually active despite the tiresome life and women should be shaping up and keep herself fit for her man. Both should compliment each other and I am saddened on the story on the wife that had gone to point because her man was such a prick.
Porn addiction also is an issue amongst women and needs to be investigated. It's not just a problem for men
They have responsibility too .
Women that are lazy and don't improve themselves.
Porn addiction is this generations unspoken epidemic
💯 …. the rate at which women are buying sex toys is nothing short of evidence that they are definitely indulging way more than they let on
Yes, but on average women turn to porn due desperation and men stop f.. their wifes because of porn.
I used the word on purpose.
Damn youtube be deleting messages
Man, it's tough having to see how Japan is taking relationships and I know it's also becoming drastic outside of other countries including where I live. I get that a rare bunch could succeed in a sexless marriage, but having intimate sex might be what makes one partner understand each other in ways that they can't do such with others. It's cheesy to say this, but I do believe it's something sacred that yes it could be done with anyone, but it's meaningful when it actually means something important between two people that only they can truly get. To have a sexless marriage may bring the worst in themselves or the spouse and as a result could either bring doubt, hatred, and/or more negative emotions, feeling more like a shell instead of a somebody to them. A lack of communication is very telling from this segment and I feel it might not get any better. Hope I'm wrong on this, but thanks for spreading this out there, Nobita.
Those women doing the adult video work aren't having intimate relations with anyone.
incredibly explained. Thanks
11:55 If she got into porn without the consent of her husband, that's basically cheating. Especially if she didn't tell him anything about it. You cannot pretend that is okay to have sex with other people just because is your job. It would be different if her husband was okay with it. Though, I highly doubt a relationship like that would work at the long run.
yeah she is weird and not normal
I feel like I'm in bizarro world watching this video, I cannot empathize with this woman at all.
I think it's industry marketing, I doubt any woman enjoys having sex on a porn set. Strong light, cameras, crew, all scripted, no intimacy. Even if public sex turns someone on, most of the above conditions preclude satisfaction. It's more about money.
imagine being against cheating because it destroys families, then proceed to get payed to sleep with strangers while being married, without the husband knowing, in front of a camera for hundreds if not thousands of dude pleasuring themselves while watching her, i hope her child(ren) are already old enough to not hear someday "i saw your mom doing nasty stuff", and she still believe it won't destroy her family if her husband or kid(s) find out what she's doing
The Japanese often don't view paid sex work as cheating. It goes both ways, many men who are married don't view fuuzoku as cheating because it's an exchange of money for services. I don't agree with it personally but it's very common here.
"I found its often all about lack of communication", "I got into porn and my husband doesnt know about it"
Call me naive because I have no experience with relationships, but why does every video about these type of topics with relationships in Japan just sound like... people literally don't talk to each other. They just got married, had kids and then they find out they dont actually like each other and don't actually fit together. I am honestly so confused anytime I watch your videos on these topics. Do these people just like... not communicate? How do you even get into a relationship with someone where these levels of trust or communicating with the partner are just completely by the wayside? It's really really sad, cause all of these issues would be a no-go for me, whats the point of being close and together with someone as your partner, when you can't talk about issues and find a way for both sides? I just get unnecessarily angry seeing these videos with both people in these relationships not being able to talk to each other WHILE THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND SHOULD BE ABLE TO CONFIDE IN EACH OTHER. Its so frustrating to watch, I swear to god. I cant listen to all these things they list after "im done as a women, he doesnt see me as a woman anymore", this sounds like its some anime level misunderstanding plot where the whole world is against these women because neither partner is able to speak to the other.
And dont even get me started on stuff like "oh I wanted to get better at dealing with women, so I became a male prostitue". Im not judging him, he can do whatever he wants - but that sounds so weird to me.... Why is it always about getting into porn/satisfaction business over there..
Well welcome to "Japanese culture" mate :D
Its exactly as you describe. People in Japan/ asia live like robots. They have a specific rule to everything and if they dont, well just "dont bother others" or "šhoganai" and be miserable (but dont bother others...again).
I will give you an example. If you are a worker in some company as a "administrative person", yo dont have name/ personality, you will dress as a "administrative person", you will work as a "administrative person", you will eat as a "administrative person", you will go on a holiday where a "administrative person" would go, you will mary another person in a way a "administrative person" would do :D :D and im not kidding. Thats how "orderly" Japanese culture is. If you are diferent...well the GREAT HAMMER OF SHAME will go down on you. its theire way of living, theire culture and its sad 😞cuz instead of fixing some problems, they just invent "solutionsů like the "NEW AGE ANIME/PR0N INDUSTRY" and as long it makes money its okaaaay...just dont disturb others...
I find Amerykan and Japanese culture fascinating...so many dire social problems and still nobody cares to fix them :D :D and everybody is miserable but "misery loves company" so its okay I guess...
You lost me there in the anime plot. The anime is much better. They got used to do the old ways of the society expecting them do stuff without being told a lot of the countries communication often comes from indirect and non verbal cues which isn't always effective. People are often told to not stand out therefore voicing out opinions can be seen as being rude or stubborn. And what more in the world globally where too many says stuff in the internet that's actually crazy. This will somehow gonna push them to stay quiet even more. It's more than individual problems they are hard wired and trained to keep things themselves which is exactly what they don't need right now.
As far as personal relationships are concerned.
I don't see it being wise to use cultural behaviors to appear in personal situations; more importantly the bedroom.
It’s a lack of communication but also a lack of understanding on all levels. You might have heard about the lack of mental health understanding in Japan, where you literally have doctors telling them to make a foreign friend because we have a better social and cultural understanding of the subject and that will somehow rub off on them.
It’s something similar with relationships and sex, there is 0 education or communication on this subject from society at large throughout their lifetime. So in a way they’re just guessing and that has all the problems you’d think it does and more.
@@jaskarvinmakal9174 Interesting, this is a new information for me. Thank you.
This is a very difficult problem due to many factors - communication, respect, understanding expectations, personality, stress, quality of sleep, quality of food, scheduling, other time demands, etc.
If both partners are willing and have good communication but seem to actually be missing the actual “drive” - I would highly suggest completely removing all vegetable oils, sugar, and soy products from the diet and consuming more natural foods especially with cholesterol like eggs or meat. This should help. Not eating late and sleeping at a consistent schedule should help too.
In any case, there are many different ways to express your love for one another, and to have fun with each other and it always starts with communication (listening intently>talking) and respect.
I’d love to see another video that explores this from the reverse situation if you haven’t made one already. I think there is a unique difference in that situation.
"If both partners are willing" this is the biggest problem I found in current times. I have many friends who are like me, are single and can't find partner. It's not that we don't want to, we just can't find anyone who is willing to open to us like we do, nor they will sacrifice themselves like we do, nor they give us respect like we do. Being ghosted 99% of the times by my dates is also not a good look, nor it will make dating any better. I wouldn't say changing your diets will make it better because from the looks of it, guys are really stopping to care about women, like women stopped caring about men. It's a huge and strange movement, mostly thanks to feminism. Sadly, if women won't start doing what women did years ago, nobody will be getting married and more than half of the people will be alone, single and depressed.
How do you explain the fact that back in the 1960's you could literally buy a wife, start a family and flourish? With far more variables then you mention earlier these same people thrived and rebuilt a war torn country into the Japan we witness today?
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I know sex isn't everything in a relationship, but there is something very fulfilling condlfidence wise when the deed is done. 1. For both partners, there's the feeling of closeness in the passionate embrace. 2. Emotionally sex can be freeing, especially when you're with the one you want to make love to. There's a release of being with someone who sexually arouses you and knowing that person can be yours for the rest of your life. The action shouldn't just be used and exploited for selfish reasons. It should be something special between two people...Also, I do think Japanese men might want to take care of this issue before it really gets out of hand. They're not going to like it if suddenly foreign men come in and their women suddenly become aroused at the thought of having an affair with them.
Well it is everything because if two people aren’t physically attracted to each other it spells the death of the relationship. Since this desire for intimacy is not there for someone that you don’t find attractive; and we need that intimacy and closeness as humans.
@@pointthirteen2234 Of course humans need to touch, but if you make sex everything, then the relationship has nothing to stand on should something to you, or your partner. There needs to be love too. Sex plays an important role granted, but without love and some form of connection outside of the bedroom, then you're both wasting your time and energy.
“When sex is good, it’s 10% of the relationship.
When it’s bad, it’s 90%”.
I heard this somewhere on YT and I agree with it.
@@valdius85 Well, it's not wrong.
@@MrTobi013 As the commenter below alluded to, sex has such an important part of the relationship that it should not be underestimated. Without being attracted to your partner there can be no love in a romantic relationship. Sex for a relationship is like food for life itself. You would be right in saying that life is much more than just eating and acquiring food; but you can say this only because you get food. If you don't easily find something to eat then your life DOES become about eating food 24/7 and all your concerns are surrounding that. Without physical attraction the relationship dies in the same way.
When I see these kind of content about japan I always get shocked. That's something so sad and weird to me at the same time, I mean this kind of problem regarding sexeless marriage and the escape valvule they use to deal with that.
I think the main issue in japan, if I could generalized, is a human problem, in a antropologic meaning of the term... the fear to express honest fellings of love and kindness creates an envoriment without affection that hurt to much the human heart, and that makes people despair and seek for affection and validation in some places and situations that in reality degradate their value as a person, like into porn or prostitution.
The need for love is so big that people are willing to accept anything to satisfied this lack of love. That's create a "chain effect" of social and human problems.
It seems people in japan are forgetting how to love in a romantical and sexual way, and that's huge problem in my point of view.
Good point but moreso not wanting to stand out so they're trained to keep it to themselves because the last time they did ww2 happened. And so many outside people still blames them for that it created a cycle of staying quiet and endure because they don't feel the right to be heard. Unlike in the past where Porn in Medieval Japan is prominent but they don't have this problem because there's a balance. Modern Japan don't have that and they value work without questions more than other things
Nobita-san, thank you for shedding light on this topic. Please, can you make another video with the perspective of men, who are in a sexless marriage. It would be very interesting to understand their views on that matter.
Agreed... Would love to hear what Men are saying whom are in a Sexless Marriage....
I can't believe anyone decided to do porn because of the lack of sex in a relationship.
Absolutely. Porn is worse than prostitution. If you do porn, you are always in porn, even if you decide to quit . They've got you on film, and regardless of the law, they will find a way to use your previous videos. You can never escape. And almost all women never have an orgasm while doing porn, but they're told to fake it for the camera. What a hoax.
I've seen women on the internet say this. To get paid for it was icing on the cake.
@@timbattle4035 The declarations of most of these women are industry marketing.
@@malkontentniepoprawny6885 Women will think of every excuse to come up as a victim, as innocent.
Why not? Legalize prostitution and men will have no reason to marry!
This channel needs to be at 1M subs already.
Sooo Underrated!!!
I'm confused by the woman who doesn't consider doing porn cheating on her husband lol
emotional cheating is perceived as more serious compared to psychical satisfaction in a legitimate working environment i guess.
well, many japanese men view their wives as mom or maid only.. everything is left to the wife to handle, everything including financial management, the whole children education, as well as the house chores of course.. the wife needs to be a superwoman handling everything.. while the husband only needs to focus on his job & attending nomikai with their colleagues at night, usually abandoning the family. what nonsense is this..
Honestly I think lots of people probably use all their sex drive on porn. We know how big the industry is. Also my theory is that as people are waiting longer to have marriages and relationships, it gives them more time to feel like they need porn or casual sex, and when people get used to that, they are less likely to be turned on by normal sex with their partner because they are too used to getting turned on by other methods and potentially cant do it without strange fetishes.
This isnt just about Japan btw.
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I agree. I live in Jp and noticed that and it is an improvement part of the equation.
The problem should be that wives complain about their husband “just wanting s”, not avoiding it.
Stress has little to do with it. In a good relationship, sex is what relaxes men.
Not to mention most of these men release themselves before going to sleep anyways.
You are telling the truth...And it's a HUGE problem!
Agreed.
often overlooked but this is the core issue
The verbal abuse part is huge part in my opinion. I feel so many women do not grasp that as they abuse their man more and more he associates her with bad times and not good times
That is true.
Especially when kids are enter the picture there is lots of problems to complain about and limited time/energy to create positive interactions when woman plays the role of a girlfriend.
This would cause the men to treat the wife a mother, as all of his interactions with wife are just maintaining home.
There is porn addiction as well that has to be mentioned.
It should be a no-brainer.
Japanese men, like all men around the world... Are sick of listening to your silly shit. It's not interesting and slowly turns men off. Sure, they'll listen to it for a long time. But the more grown women act like little children and continue to "nag"... The more men will become less interested in that woman. It builds up over time. It's not what you did recently. It's a built up from what you said and did months ago.
Women... really aren't as interesting as they think they are. So it's no surprise that a man, who is generally speaking one of the horniest animals on the planet, doesn't want to have sex with them over time, because women have literally turned these good honest men off with, unnecessary stupidity.
How about just cooking a nice meal when we get home. Hug your man. Give him a good blow job. And let him have a good decent sleep afterwards!
Watch how your lives will improve with this simple advice. Men really are not that complicated.
If only they would realize this😂
Just talk to each other. It is so stupid. Why does it go this far your married. You shouldnt be afraid to talk to them. If they say no ask whyyyyyy. Its so silly and frustraiting to hear because the answer is so easy to do. Yet they are very willing to ask strangers on the street for sex? What???? Edited: spelling.
It's that simple❤
Japanese culture is extremely non confrontational, it's very different than the U.S or Europe.
I don't know what they talk in free time or at night 😂. And also They didn't think about children. What if their children friends find out about them involving in industry and bully their children . This is messed up
So I'm really the only one that thinks it's absolutely WILD that the first girl was just casually saying "when I was 34 or 35" meanwhile she looks like she's in her early 20's?
I'm Japanese.I think they are exceptions. Because quite a few wives confess it's creepy to have sex and they usually avert husbands' approach. Japanese have the least frequent sexual contacts according to the international survey, actually. Both husbands and wives don't want them ethnically and for having become family.
外人には理解できないと思うわ。しょうがいしゃ並の知能しかないし
yeah sorry to say but you guys are going to have to get over that little cultural trait since it seems to be hurting your society as a whole. If I marry a woman yes you are apart of my family but you became apart of my family through mutual attraction and a relationship that needs to be tended to and maintained. You will always be my wife first and my family/childs mother second. We can't just stop seeing each other romantically because we have a kid or have been married a few years, that isn't a healthy relationship
No wonder your country is dying
4:36 I hope I misunderstood, but it's as if Mayumi is implying that women want sex only for procreation. I sincerely hope that couples in Japan can separate sex and procreation. I also find it kind of oppressing that the man and woman in a heterosexual couple are referred and refer to each other by their parental role once they have children ("mama" and "papa"). To me, it sounds almost as if they stop being man or woman and that their role as a parent is the only thing that matters.
I also don't understand why it could be shameful for a women to have and express sexual desires.
The fact that many women are still financially dependent on their husband makes it extremely difficult to leave, separate or divorce if the relationship doesn't work for them regardless of the cause. I'm willing to be that is a major cause of women enduring unhappy or even violent marriages.
It’s kinda crazy the level of self destruction or self sabotage Japan is when it comes to relationships. I’m not saying not all do follow the footsteps but this is crazy. It has to be because of how they try to “keep the peace” or “harmony” in certain things but does it really work out in the long. I’m very aware that the mindset of Japan is “it is what is” or “it can’t be helped” but really? You don’t try to challenge anything of the social norms? It’s like they are aware of having more communication but they don’t actually try to even do it and find some other way which is highly illogical. Social pressure and the low self esteem is also a thing too. They care too much what other ppl think that’s why they don’t get divorced. Low self esteem doesn’t make people have self respect and makes them passive as hell. It’s just so immature and selfish, I get that Japan is all about “reading the room” but that can only do so much, you have to be verbal and forthcoming in any relationship. They gotta learn how to assert themselves. And the porn thing is just crazy. Imagine you’re a good husband not being aware of what your wife is doing, she’s not vocalizing anything about the relationship, she’s just passive. Then you stumble across a video of your wife getting gangbanged by 8 dudes for work. That’s heartbreaking.
Japan is really a bizarre place. So many cool things about it and then there's these extremely fucked up aspects that are right out of some perverted movie.
In the case of Rinka’s husband, he literally has told her that he doesn’t want to have sex with her and has affirmed this decision for years on end. I honestly would prefer she get divorced but in the face of such dereliction of duty from her husband, I have nothing but sympathy for her. He deserves the pain he’ll feel from seeing a video of his wife and I say that as a fellow man.
@@genghiskhan6809 Even if he doesn't want to have sex, that doesn't justify her actions. If she really wanted to do the right thing, she would honestly confront him and end the relationship if things didn't change.
@@1000rogueleader that brings the issue of divorce in Japan though. Women who get a divorce are ostracized by society, to the extent that she's better off to stay married while doing porn. It's just bizarre how some of the things in their society and culture have turned out and that they don't seek to change it when it's destroying their society (e.g with the low childbirths and overworking to death)
It is not happening only in japanese community. It is a common problem now. It is not just a fault of man or women. Before my marriage, I was having my own time for training, relaxing and sleeping. After my marriage, there are a number of problem I need to think about more intense than sex. I never thought I have to deal with such as, some unstable psychological problem, have to take care of kid because she doesn't want to be disturb, have to play many role for many problem. When I look at my wife, I will think about the problem I have to solve which have way higher priority than sex in real life and takes way more energy. I believe she have her list of many problem too. I realize I will have more sex energy if I do not have a big responsibility on female. marriage des take a away huge amount of mental and physical energy from man and women. Maybe it is the reason for those type of sex services exist.
I guess they are rich and free time they have and They didn't think about children. What if their children friends find out about them and bully their children . This is messed up
Now do a video on how a sexless marriage effects men.
It would turn into women most affected very quickly.
@@nocturnaljoe9543 There should be an entire chapter in the DSMMD devoted to Japanese women. 😒
@@67Stu I don't see why. They are in no way more insane than our women in the west.
There is one for both before. It''ll lead to just societal expectations of men to work hard and provide. Like literally less time for family, even good husbands rarely get any break from work because a lot of companies don't let them. Often times women tend to be the most affected in terms of self esteem since a lot of the times they're viewed as housewives. And the 30 year economic decline of Japan doesn't really help to stabilize finances as well
@@pauloazuela8488 How do you want to know who is objectively more affected psychologically? You can only say that women feel like they are most affected.
This video touched on something that needs to be investigated more, when it comes to men and sexual desire:
Men who are emaculated, overly criticized, or verbally abused by their wives, stop LIKING the woman he is married to.
But, he can't divorce, and it's cheaper to keep her. So a lot of men who don't sleep with their wives, have equipment that work just fine; They watch porn or go to soapland, etc.
Women, if you want your man to make love to you, then RESPECT your husbands. It's no guarantee, but I'll bet it would help a lot of women.
It's women fault too , not just the man. 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
Men and women need to be loving and respectful towards one another
@@ashesandposies True
@@ashesandposies exactly. They're supposed to compliment and make up for each other's weakness, not compete because of it.
Well said. It's a two way road too. The women must be protected and cared for. Treat men like men, and treat women like women.
I understand them honestly. Probably not the best way but when you are not appreciated phisically anymore by your partner because he thinks " your body changed , you are not attractive anymore, etc " all this bs, a woman doesn t feel satisfaction and need validation by other men who will find her attractive and sexy. It is basic human nature , pure and raw instinct.
And instinct can be controlled to a degree with intelligence. If you plan on getting validation from somewhere else and you can't control the urge, then just get a divorce and be on your merry way.
@@saianvesh3753I honestly don't see the rationality on sex. It's something so animal like, if my wife's thought process was like this I would immediately divorce 😂
@@saianvesh3753 Getting a divorce is easier said than done in Japan. There’s too much stigma involved and getting into porn is actually the better option.
To this day, I still find it weird how many people click onto these videos just to talk shit over situations they have zero clue about.
As an aside, I actually feel for a lot of the women in a lot of these stories. Call me crazy, I guess, but if you're going to refuse sex to your partner and otherwise not treat them as a significant other, and instead just treat them as an "other" in your household, I'm not even sorry in saying you probably deserve to be cheated on. This coming from the guy whose relationship is relatively sexless by choice of both parties, as we both came from places of trauma in which prior relationships have had zero concern for consent being a deciding factor. I'm also of the mindset that, while nobody owes their partner a sexual relationship because of bodily autonomy and all that, it's also just incredibly messed up to deny your partner sex "just because" as I've also experienced. Not because there's no more love, or not because of some other motive like being tired. Just, "just because." Even asexuals are capable of a healthy sex life and then some people just choose to be cruel about these things.
Cheating is never justified. If the relationship is going that poorly, have the self-respect to just divorce.
@@1000rogueleader Never said it was justified, just that I don't feel sympathy for it happening if the other party behaves the way that has been outlined. Also, many people throughout the world and especially in Japan do not simply "just divorce." Women are ostracized for getting divorced, as potential partners going forward can look at her as undesirable or that she must have done something wrong or be crazy for being divorced. It sounds asinine, I know, but that is a big reality not just in Japan but around the world still. It might not seem like much if you live in a western society where divorce rates are comparatively astronomical.
@@1000rogueleader In Japan, women getting divorces is hugely stigmatized. Stop projecting Western values on an Asian society.
It seems to me that Japanese people have difficulties being open, honest and forthcoming. Japanese people seem to struggle to speak their minds, say how they feel, and tell people their expectations etc. etc. I think a problem Rinka Tahara has is that she derives her value from how others see her as a woman, which is problematic as she cannot love herself for herself, only so long as her porn fans continue to consume her content will she be able to continue to love herself, I also think she should tell her husband, and probably get a divorce. When it comes to self-appreciation, that needs to come from within, and you shouldn't rely on others, such as people who only see you as a sex object through your pornographic work. I have also noticed that generally speaking, women desire and need more interpersonal validation than men; I have also heard that women's libido increases as they get older instead of decreasing. I think a problem that Japan faces is that men and women do not know how to treat each other desirably, and both men and women treat their partners poorly in Japanese relationships.
That’s actually true, the older a women gets the more hornier she becomes
And yeah that’s facts! She’s getting all this external validation and to a degree that helps out with self esteem
But real genuine confidence comes from within I’ve heard similar response to another women that became a pornstar
It seems to me that many people in Japan really do have low self esteem man, it’s so self destructive.
Women are usually at highest libido after age 30
*She* should get a divorce? 🤣What a Monty Python skit the modern world is.
It's probably sexless because the marriage is usually out of convinience even if both partners are attractive, boredome or the negative aspects of entering covenant with an incompatible person can cause a myriad of negative physical, mental, and spiritual status. Being fulfilled sexually or through experiencing love is a noble outcome, but caution is to be considered regarding everything involved in it's persuit...Source knows wants and needs pertaining to everyone, but loosh comes first for the envious hateful one's.
Many of these men are addicted to porn
"i'm not going to cheat as that destroys families" prceeds to cheat on him with multiple guys and girls and publishes it online for everyone to see, the mental gymnatics is wild...
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Japanese logic
It's sad to hear from men that once their wives reach a certain age and become unattractive in their eyes, they lose their interest in intimacy. Everyone grows old and no one is exempted from that. Even men will eventually lose their beauty as they age. I believe that the foundation of marriage or any relationship should be more than physical attraction. Love and friendship usually grow stronger with time. If that is not the case, why stay in marriage if you fell out of love with your spouse because he/she becomes unattractive because of age?
because they dont have religion.
The husbie doesn’t know she’s doing porn and she’s open to talk about it on camera to the whole world to see? Doesn’t make sense at all.
Strange every couple i know is in a sexless marriage because of the wife.
This video is an attempt to gaslight
@@LAinLA86 Nah, Japan is really like this.
Yeah but why do men in Japan don't like having sex I'm confused 🤔
Because his needs are satisfied by something or someone else...maybe~
Prolly have to do with their overly strenuous work hours in which most could last more than 18hrs a day
@@backyardaviator2920 indeed, the stress of working in Japan makes it difficult to get it up. Also, if you have children, they will wear you out... We don't even have time for a shower! It is that bad. Personally our family has also not a lot of time of 2 of us only. The baby needs us. Or at least one of us. Plus many of us don't have relatives that could help us.
Long work hours and stress reeks havoc on the libido. Also, there are plenty of quality av around.
You want to eat the same food for the rest of your life?
Many of these men are addicted to porn.
This is an important factor that is rarely mentioned and all of these interviews should start with asking about porn habits.
Obviously all marriages are complex systems and have to be treated as such.
Saying that, a man who is not watching porn would cause a problem of wanting when wife doesn’t want. This is a much better problem to have.
If women refuse sex its normal, accepted by society and nobody bats an eye. But if men do the same everyone loses their minds - and of course its the man's problem, just like if the women refuses sex. So she just gets into the porn industry to "feel like a woman" again and did not tell her husband, but at the same time does not want to cheat.
This is beyond fucked up...
Agreed. At least in western society if a women doesn't want to sleep with her husband it's totally acceptable and the man is supposed to just deal with it. If he watches porn or goes outside of the relationship simply for sex he is a terrible person and my even end up divorced. A married man wanting to have sex with is wife is now starting to get called marital gRape. As you stated it's the total opposite for women.
@OptimusSeveren3870 that's not what martial rape is lmao. It's when one spouse forces the other to have sex with them, whether by violence or by intense coercion/nagging and emotionally manipulsting to the point that they wear down their spouse into giving in. Saying that "men wanting to have sex with their wives is being called martial rape" reeks of misogyny. Some men will get angry, moody, and hateful if their spouse doesn't give in and will pressure them for hours on end until they get what they want, sweeping that under the rug to pretend it's simply desiring their wife is not okay.
@@OptimusSeveren3870 I agree, except of the rape-part. Rape = violently forced sexual intercourse. I know, all kinds of stuff gets labelled "rape" nowadays, but that does not change any facts.
If the husband wants sex, his wife still has to go for it willingly.
From my country statistics, they say that "every second male is single, not married and depressed, while every third female is single, not married and depressed."
I have many of male friends around my age, who can't find a partner, who is "willing" to open up to us, become our second "soul", sacrifice themselves to make both sides happy, many are very selfish and entitled, many don't care about anyone else, but themselves, many don't try to change their ways, when they see how sad their life is. Sadly, I would say women are main reason why it fell down, why both sides stopped respecting each other, which caused to making this huge divide between both sides. Dating is pretty much dead, with majority of women constantly ghosting men, being picky about every small element, while guys just want a good person. This had led to what we have now, which is lowest birth rates, people living alone with 10+ cats, using Internet to validate their own existence and much more. I have met so many women, who would not dare to start first the conversation or discussion. I have met only one woman in my entire life, where she was the first to call me, have a chat, spend some time and overall cared about being friends. How many more women like this one are out there? Two, three, or maybe this was the only one?
There's a lot of reasons why our society is crumbling, why we have so many single people and we can't have only one side keep trying, while another one awaits prince charming on a white horse. I'm just a dude, who sees what's going on around him, and can tell where the problem lies. However, others are blind to these issues and keep blindly following their own broken roads. It's sad, where I and many more are standing because nobody deserves lives in depression and loneliness.
Exactly, there are statistics and studies to support those claims.
When I was in Japan I was very shocked by the culture, regarding sex. There were clearly underage sex dolls being sold in quite a lot of places, with the whole school girl aesthetic. Many sex toys and devices that I have not seen in any other country before and I used to live in Amsterdam lol. Even in some convenience stores I saw magazines with sexual content involving fictional characters that had very child like features and they were in places where even children could see them. There were also maid cafe's (open to tourists) and host clubs (most not open to tourists) with all kinds of fetishes where you would pretend that the server or host was your gf/bf. They seem to be more into fantasy and fictional characters than they are into humans.
The last sentences seems to be a major clue to this problem.
I was in akihabara city in tokyo next to the arcades were some sex toys and hentei mags lol
AND NO INTERNATIONAL NEWS ABOUT IT. USA media lietrallty support pedophile thing from japan.
When women refuse sex they are fighting toxic masculinity and the patriarchy. When men refuse sex, their sexuality is questioned and are not even heard. Double standard, much? Ef off.
Don't be stupid! Most women are not braindead femenists (especially in Japan). Men AND women want love. Is this hard to understand?!
I hope black guys come to Japan in huge numbers
I’m on my way
weird justification.
If you cheat, it can at least remain between them two. But doing porn means everyone else gets to see.
Obviously the extreme work culture plays a huge part. I mean why would a huge chunk of men not want to have sex anymore when they are wired to do so (a bit more than women even). I know that’s not the only reason, but being in the country where people sleep the least due to work stress will tear a dude to bits
They do have sex lots of it JUST OUTSIDE OF THE HOME
IT’S AN ADDICTION live in Japan you might understand
It is a part of it. When the man is very tired all the time, the motivation to have sex is much lower. The motivation to even try to have some form of intimacy is lower because during that same time he could be napping or watching a movie on the sofa. Based on what I've seen actually living here, that is a factor. It is not the only one but it is a very important one.
I think porn addiction may have something to do with it as well.
@@kingmaafa120 But they also have a lot of virgins , that sex outside of marriage was often the result of that sexless marriage anyway
@@ZEoJEROMENATOR25 Yeah but if we trace back why they got that addiction it'll generally come back to their brutal work culture and harsh living conditions like finances and added more about the communication problems. People will normally seek alternative if they can't find a solution and that goes to porn, red light district, gambling, affairs.
i hope those who did or are still doing porn don't have kids...because their kids may will be bullied just like that 13 year old kid who was bullied by his classmate with pics from his mom's onlyfan account...the kid commited suicide because he couldn't handle it anymore and was too depressed...he didn't even get support from his mom who considered doing onlyfan like a normal job and from adults of his school who didn't stop the bullying
Welcome in "modern" world, where there are no social norms and everything is relative. There are no prostitutes, only sex workers, etc
I dont think the mother is the problem. Sex work isnt the only job that is looked down upon. I think it’s more japan’s culture that expects a woman to be a perfect wife who commits no sin or indulge. So the problem stems from, in my opinion, japan’s rigid traditional values that do not keep up with the rest of the developed world. It is unfortunate the boy committed suicide but we shouldnt place all the blame on the mother for going against life’s script for her. Just because she’s chooses an unconvential job does not mean she’s not worthy to raise a child.
Damn, imagine committing suicide because everyone saw your mom's snatch. Poor kid. I would hate to be him.
I see this as a problem in relationships in the US after being married for so long. I feel this might even happen to me, which is why I put off marriage until I find a woman who I will never leave, but who also never leaves me.
Perhaps the solution is finding a woman who I will always be sexually attracted too? Same for my wife!
And how can you predict that? Many think they love the other so much that they would never leave, for the first several years :)) or even a decade. Everything can change even after twenty years of being together
@@soulharm5532 you're right. Life is unpredictable. No one married wants divorce later. I would say I'm very faithful and I would definitely never cheat because I find it dirty and just terrible. Luckily my dad or mom never cheated so it hasn't affected me. I am more worried if my wife cheats on me. If I ever get married, I will be with her until I die. There is no other viable option for me at that point
But we all become ugly as we age and decay.
@@jacquesmesrine3244funny thing is that's most men but not ALL women, weird how this is but w/e
Don't wait for the perfect woman to create the perfect relationship with. Relationships are made, not found. No matter who you marry, she will change as you will also change. You can marry the most beautiful woman in the world and be bored with her in a few months as she might be bored with you in a few months. Instead, build a relationship based on those things that are most important to you both. If you do this, your love will grow. Don't take your relationship for granted as so many couples do. Do things together without stopping. Be kind and loving with each other always. Usually what happens is that couples take their relationship for granted. They stop doing things together. They stop nurturing the other person. Eventually, the relationship fades, sex stops, intimacy of all kinds stops, and the relationship is over, even if the couple continues to live together and pretends that they are a couple.
The timing for this video couldn't have been greater as I'm doing research on this topic for my studies and need some TH-cam sources. This is a great and informative video, thank you!!
What kind of research are you doing that uses TH-cam as a legitimate source of data?
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm a 51 year old American man who needed to understand that not all Japanese women are cold and don't want sex with their husbands because they do. I've been married to a Japanese -Brazilian woman for about 19 years now living in Rio and she has shut down completely from me. No cuddling, no hugging, no holding hands, no kissing most of the time, and especially, no sex. It stinks to be in the same bed with someone that you can't touch and want to share love with only to feel alone and abandoned; or even rejected. You're faithful to them and don't cheat at all; and still you're treated as garbage. I don't know how my wife can just shut off her libido like that and doesn't have any desire to be close at all. She never gets the weakness to let go of herself and just grab me to want to kiss or touch at all. It is so heartless and loveless. I started to think that most Japanese women were like this, but thanks for sharing this, I know different now. I sympathize with these Japanese women who are not loved by their men. Such beautiful women. That is so sad. I can definitely relate. Know that there are many men who, also, are going through this, also. It's so heart-breaking. Do you that even though she hurt me I still would've had sex with her again? I told her that she was beautiful to me, but she never felt beautiful to herself. She's in her late 50's. She's missing so much. By the way, I don't hate her. I just hate what she did. I've forgiven her. God bless you for sharing this!
@danielnovak4284, you are not alone. Japanese wives going cold, especially after the children are born is VERY VERY Common. It happens to Japanese women who marry foreign men as well as Japanese women who marry Japanese men. This is a very well-known and common characteristic of Japanese wives. Japanese wives are not the golden treasure that their image suggests. You are in your fifties. It is not too late for you to divorce your Japanese wife and find a better partner who is more affectionate. You will be glad you did. A MUCH better life awaits you.
Sitting here, in America, watching these gorgeous Japanese women say their husbands don't love them, don't want to have sx with them... it's almost surreal. And very sad.
The work culture is so extreme for Japan that's a big part of the problem why Japan's birthrate has been disintegrating for years. Now what I'm about to say is just a rumor I heard and saw online the Japanese Government has started issuing 'BREEDING PASSPORTS' to certain foreigners that qualify Nd that's all there is to that.
I can attest to the statement made about *Canadian* men.
We Canadian men love women (30's, 40s, 50s etc) and have no showing our affection.
So if you're a Japanese woman who's in need of *the deed,*Try a Canadian!
As a guy, i have a high sex drive so im always interested in having it with my partner. However, its really easy to feel hurt if there is a miscommunication or the feeling of rejection is felt (both ways). My girl and I are very open eith sex talk so its not an issue for me but i was in a situation where cheating killed my sex drive. Its a delicate situation for sure. Communication is key.
I see
No communication brings disaster in the household. Women don't want sex if they don't feel comfortable. Men don't want sex if there are problems with work.
It is interesting that Rinka said that husbands have wives around their age, but they prefer porn(7:48). According to Mari, Japanese men say that their wives' body is unattractive(6:21). Perhaps the men are not being honest about the real reason they find their wives unattractive. I have heard from another Japanese channel that Japanese woman turn into another person after marriage. On Nobita's channel, their was a guy he interviewed that said he avoided being at home as much as possible. He said his wife was constantly attacking him and making him feel unwelcome in his home. I highly doubt he and his wife have an active sex life. Her attitude is so hostile that he does not want to come near her. Perhaps this is true for other Japanese men. Their wives may be attractive, but their behavior is a huge turn off. I know a lot of guys that will not touch a 9 out of 10 if she has a hostile attitude.
This is the underlying reason I’ve found as well. I was just in Japan over the spring spending time with friends and colleagues and the men more often than not are owned and emasculated by their wives. Something as simple as why a guy who could afford a slightly nicer car doesn’t have one is because his wife would not question the money aspect but why would he want something outside his allowance? Essentially asking him why would you want to move above your place?
Every single man I know with a Japanese wife has confirmed that dramatic shift is real.
@@thenigerianfile I'm totally not surprised that women in the video didn't tell the truth and made it a problem caused by men only (as always)...
@@thenigerianfile- Why do men allow women such abusive behaviour? Like handing over their entire salary or letting the wives insult them.
I've read comments like yours many times but nobody ever gave a reason as to why these Japanese guys let themselves be treated like shyte. It's baffling. And horrific.
I'm a bit of a recluse in Japan, but among sexless couples I have encountered (Western men married to Japanese women), it's the Japanese woman in the relationship who cuts sex off once a child is born. They have no concept of balancing the role of "loving mother" and "loving wife" and it tips way too far over into the mother category. One Australian guy I know (now divorced) finally was able to get his wife to make love again after their first child, then after the second child was born, it was back to being a fridge. Despite the high divorce rate in the West, we still have more opportunity to grow up seeing our parents as loving couples. Japanese youth grow up seeing their parents ignore each other, or see their mothers constantly running their fathers down. You need communication and you need necessary arguments to make your positions known.
Grab some popcorn and be ready for some creepy comments
They’re already all over. Or just people who don’t understand Japanese culture and just watch these videos because of the subject matter.
It goes both ways. How a woman treats a man influences how confident they feel and how sexy they perceive their wives. On the other hand, the same goes to for the man, how they treat the woman affects how sexy they feel and their confidence as well. If one side is lacking, it becomes a negative feed back loop and nothing changes. Both need to do their part in being a manly man and a feminine woman to drive these emotions and sexual energy/tension.
" i didn't watch to cheat because it would destroy our family "
" Gets into porn industry without her husband knowing "
Lol
Sounds like the plot to a porn flick titled "Ms. So and So Does Tokyo". 😂
Very interesting topic. I was really surprised to hear that men don’t feel attracted to their wives anymore. I cannot say the reason, I mean, in every culture things like this happen, but what I know is that some marriages are together for a mutual social convenience, as having a family in order to fill expectations, and economic stability. So maybe not having strong and loving ties could be one of the reasons of lack of communication.
Also, if I’m correct, Japanese society tends to give a lot of weight to a person’s physique instead of feelings, which for me, are more important than the other; I really like to seat with my partner and hear what he wants and needs to say, to speak out honestly, but always taking care of not hurting my feelings. And this has to be in both directions.
They took the "sex is to make kids" too seriously. 1:56 I'm sad for her, maybe love is temporary but respect, comunication and honesty shouldn't be.
This entire video just feels like "he's just your husband, not your friend" there can't be that many people who find their wife unattractive it's gotta be a deeper societal problem
Men having to work 12 hours a day then forced to go drinking with their bosses and team might have something to do with it. That or the easy answer - Anime waifus are hotter than your real wife.
Society is way too fucked up man. I gave up on trying to understand it
I’ve been on several Tinder/Bumble dates with women in Tokyo that turned out to be in sexless relationships. They’re typically professional women in their early to mid thirties with partners that are similarly focused on their careers. The truth always came out post-intimacy, leaving me feeling bad for their guys, and bored of having more of my time wasted. They'd describe having exhausted, lost, often workaholic partners. And who can blame them. Tokyo is exhausting. The lack of sympathy towards the guys was, unfortunately, not at all surprising. In one case, a guy at a FAANG company I happen to know (not closely) was very reasonably asking that they give things time to settle down. Guy was hustling his career, just like her. A slightly older woman that wanted to get pregnant and seemed to think her man wouldn’t notice when a half Japanese kid popped out. It wasn't like it hurt me, but finding out was a letdown and made me respect them less. After they got what they wanted, they'd ghost. Throw in the tendency for women to have lower and less predictive sex drives with the reluctance of many Japanese women to initiate, and you end up with a lot of tired, let-down guys dating or married to women looking for fun on dating apps. Shame.
ED and communication? Yeah, right. Interestingly, all those men don't have ED when they go to the adult district and book younger, more beautiful women than they are married to. And guess what? Communication is the last thing you need there.
thank you so much for covering this growing issue!!!
As long as there is porn always available in private moments/hours men will caught in nearly exclusive relation with their right hand, held voluntary prisoner by the behavior conditioning principles of Ivan Pavlov, principles which used to go to physical marriage bonding.
You will find that sexless marriages are common throughout the world, not just Japan. Sometimes the husband loses interest. Sometimes the wife loses interest. It is very sad when this happens to young people early in the marriage and they wait for five, ten, or more years before finally putting an end to the marriage and moving along. They spend precious time in their lives being celibate just to conform to the rules of marital fidelity. It is tragic, really.
Nobida-san: please make a video on how porn addiction destroys marriages.
The issue should be Japanese men want sex without emotional intimacy and are selfish in bed. It should not be wives complaining about the lack of interest from their husbands.
Exactly.
This means the husbands do not see them as sexual objects. Isn't this what women want? Or are these some rare cases? I'm genuinely clueless..
Don't be stupid. If you were a woman, would you seriously want a man that never wanted to make love to you?!
Hello? What were you thinking when you wrote this comment?
There’s a difference between being seen as a sexual object and being seen as a sexual *partner.*
@@richerDiLefto Whoever wrote that comment was off the rocker XD
How is it that she can talk to 10’s of thousands of people around the world and tell them that she wants to have s3x, but she can’t tell her husband? That seems insane to me.
Japanese culture...
because those 10's of thousands of ppl r numbers on a screen for her. She doesn't actually see them irl, or know them personally. It's way easier to tell someone online something important that it is to tell someone you have a relationship with, whether it's platonic or romantic. Especially if you don't wanna mess up that relationship. It's like asking people on reddit for advice, and watcing em give their answers. Not that I agree with her but yeah.
@@akay3787 There was this famous white guy in Japan that was on TV and his famous saying was “Why Japanese people!”
@@jimams_jamz5518 I would feel the exact opposite. In intimate relationships I can share my thoughts but when it comes to tons of people I would be more wary. It’s weird.
theres SO much to unpack here--but i really think what's at the root of all these issues is how japan views women, and the work life (of usually men) that cause them to be less interested, etc. there was even a study at a japanese company where they allowed workers to go home earlier, and it resulted in a boost of paternity leave (basically the husbands went home, got it on, and had babies).
but as for the video, so many red flags in this. it seems a lot of women equate their worth to how attractive they are to others. that's a very human reaction, but i dont think women would ever be happy with themselves if this is all they relied on. its definitely an international problem as well. in a perfect world, women (and men) would find love for themselves from within, not determined by someone else. unfortunately, i also understand what its like to be in their position. we weren't married, but pretty much he had no attraction for me (due to his pxrn addiction lol.) that 100% wasn't my fault, but i immediately questioned my self-worth and attractiveness, when it was really his problem in the end. it TORE me up inside. i questioned so many things, i got depressed, i was so unhappy. but thank god, the relationship ended. i realized it was COMPLETELY not my fault at all, and that i was still attractive, loveable, etc. but i had to leave and do some thinking to realize that. so, i have to say i completely understand their position. and i could not even imagine living in a japanese society on top of that, where you feel you cant voice anything.
in japan especially, youthful appearances is insanely more valued. its almost like the second a woman turns 30, she's undesirable. when i studied abroad in japan, i met a few japanese mothers. we (the students) were getting our pictures taken by them. to be nice, i asked if they wanted a picture too. they all laughed it off and called themselves "old women," "it'll be a grandma photo." these women didn't even look old. they were all still beautiful. but because of their age (and the society) they didn't see it that way. its so sad. because of the society, i feel like most women are just taken for granted. ive also talked to some japanese students and they were ALL dissatisfied with their love lives. even my closest friend got her heart broken by a guy that just led her on for fun. japan needs to rework so many gender dynamics (if thats even possible) if citizens ever wanna feel truly happy. it'll just get worse. its such a complex problem, but i hope japan decides to change.
It isn’t impossible for a man to refuse the bedroom fun. It’s not talked about as much cuz you don’t hear about it as much but it is possible. There’s various reasons for this: busy with career, sleep deprived, the foods consumed (ex. Junk food), past trauma from a former partner, pr0n use, could’ve found someone else, or just lost interest for whatever reason.
In the times we’re living in now, life seems hectic, people are overworked, and they have to provide for their families. It’s not out of the realm of possibility that the men are just stressed. I’m sure there’s more to it but either way thanks for the video TJR.
Or more like "She kept saying didn't want to do it when I was horny, so why am I giving her my time at her request when I'm stressed, sleep deprived and not feeling it".
Woman: "Communucation is important, couples have to compromise and work together to find solutions"
Same woman: does porn without telling her husband
I think the problem here is men watched too much porn
It feels reassuring that women do in fact feel sexual desires. As a guy that is starting a relationship, I feel happy that I would not feel guilty when asking for sex in the future. I thought for the longest of time men have higher libidos compared to women, but this video proves that it is not the case.
Men do have higher libido. If it weren't for that then Japanese or humanity would not even exist.
People need to be much clearer to each other *before* getting into a relationship. People are destroying their relationships by not being clear with each other. Maybe people should be more open to returning to things like matchmaking (either professional or the "meddling aunts" version), and being clear to the matchmaker what you're looking for in a relationship, and the matchmakers encouraging that clarity.
That really wouldn't fix the problem. The problem is lack of communication, which will remain the issue whether you are get married via a matchmaker or not.
I don’t think the problem is that middle-aged men are suffering from ED. I think the problem is that males, regardless of age or nationality, are hardwired to be sexually attracted to (1) young women and (2) novel partners. A man’s middle-aged wife is neither. It’s not the wife’s fault but there’s little she - or he - can do about it. It’s part of the human condition - an intractable problem.
I not sure what these men expect. Everyone ages and its pretty rude to tell your woman that she isnt attractive anymore because she looks like a middle age woman (maybe because she is?). Kinda crazy perhaps all the sexual advertising doesnt help and creates a false fantasy in both men and woman since they have services like watching porn, host clubs, and more
Wow...They get into porn and then the husband stays? Crazy...
I don't understand why do you need to have sex 7 days a week and 52 weeks a year? It's absurd. I will never marry If I have to have sex that many times. Once or twice a month is alright.
You should have written that you didn't want to get married.
Perhaps I'm missing something but it's hard to form a side other than calling the situation sad. The women want sex, is that truly a bad thing especially if their husbands won't want it or don't see them as attractive anymore? Where else should they turn to?
"Just divorce then" also doesn't seem right either given how the yen is falling the last I've heard, so trying to make a living on their own seems like the lesser choice, especially if they have kids and the parents really want their needs covered.
The only issue I fail to understand is why the men don't want it besides ED or abuse. If the wife is that unflattering to you, why would they care what she's doing? It's not like the husband were going to touch her
Maybe it is just all a miscommunication issue like of the interviewers said which just a societal issue that hopefully get better with time
I think Japan can lead to a deeper understanding of the complexities surrounding intimate relationships in modern society. Engaging in constructive and empathetic conversations can help generate potential solutions that promote healthier, more fulfilling relationships and contribute to the overall well-being of individuals, couples, and the broader community.
I wonder if sexless marriages are an issue in couples of mixed nationailities/cultures (as in a Japanese wife and a foreign man or viceversa).
For real. Japanese women n non japanese husbands
I’m glad both the man and woman’s perspective is shown this time. It seems like 80% of the time it’s about blaming the man for everything.
That woman who got into porn without telling her husband and claimed it was better than cheating needs a slap in the face. How did she even arrive to that twisted conclusion?
Why hasn't she divorced her husband yet, if working in porn has given her what she wanted? It's probably because she still wants money from her husband. That money plus what she earns from prostituting herself gives her the ability to afford luxuries she otherwise wouldn't be able to afford.
I could be wrong here, but I'm probably right.
Yea, typical modern woman without any resemblance of accountability.
life is tough for a divorced woman in Japan, economically and socially, especially if moving back home w/parents is not an option. If her porn career makes good money she could do it but I don't think porn is a long lasting career.
Divorce is not really an option for women in Japan, as there’s far too much stigma and “loss of face” involved. Also, porn isn’t really seen as cheating there because there is an exchange of money. We can’t judge an Asian society by Western values.
@@richerDiLefto I'm Asian, although not Japanese.
Only logical fallacies can lead one into believing he/she loses face from a divorce but not from doing porn. The exchange of money for sexual service is referred to as prostitution and the provider of such service is called a prostitute. Prostitutes are seen as garbage in Asian cultures. The stigma is much worse.
in the usa, having sex is a marital duty, failing to do it is grounds for divorce. if you dont want to have sex w your person, then just move on, sex is required for any healthy relationship.
if my chick dressed like a sloot in public, had an instagram, or had any male friends, she wouldnt be my chick.
i wouldnt even be friends w a girl who does porn, my standards for dating are miles apart from anything 'adult entertainment'.
if she ignores her health, gets fat, is complaining constantly, is annoying to be around, starts fights....those are symptoms of a worthless female; you cant blame him for not wanting her.
It's funny how people find ways to justify anything instead of take responsible desicions, seriously the framing is awesome, ohh poor woman she was push, almost force into porn, come on, it's time to stop that, porn maKe money and it's easy, accept it, the excuse isn't the reason
Couldnt overworl be one of the causes of erectile dysfunction then? If the men are working long hours and too tired to function, it makes sense that there would be an overwhelming frequency of occurence of ED.
"milfs are in demand" Guess what Houshou Marine said was true.
When you take accountability and vow and marry someone there should be a level of appreciation for one another's Inner Being, regardless of what life phase they are in be it young, middle age or old. True Love is Deeper than just the superficial surface. It's supernatural. This individual will forever satisfy you emotionally, you share pain, a history and you don't fear opening up to them and expressing vulnerabilities because they truly get you. So there should first and foremost be a High level of Respect for each other's Soul journey... this is the Foundation, the head. With out that knowledge and understanding, It's no surprise that the Relationship is unfulfilling. ❤
Women need to stop abusing their husbands. If you are yelling at your husband so much that he refuses to have sex with you, you are in the wrong. Do better.
How is doing porn not cheating… because it’s a job….
So being a career criminal isn’t crime, because it’s your job??
Women...
Doing porn is not criminalized there.
4:34 "the wife is still willing to have sex *and have another child."* There it is. Men have no say once the woman is impregnated, so they just refuse to have sex.
They can use condoms. That's not the issue.
Re: That one lady whose husband rejected her, it is normal for a woman's sex drive to peak in the thirties or forties, not unusual at all.
What happened to Nobita from Japan??
He still does good stuff but unfortunately he has financial difficulties and seems to get sponsored to do publicity for porn companies, at least if I am understanding correctly what he said in the comment section of a video a good while ago. From how he frames the questions it is obvious that he is very socially conservative if not reactionary but my impression he has kids so it is quite likely that putting food on the table is the priority, personally I think he should set up a patreon and make the sort of good content he seems to want to make.
@@vorynrosethorn903I would literally pay him to stop this shit. Puts me in a bad mood every time.
He is a nice and responsable TH-camr.
@@vorynrosethorn903 I mean where is Nobita now?? I don't see him on TH-cam anymore
@@vorynrosethorn903 So the porn companies pay him to advertise their content because they know so many of his viewers are also theirs? Savvy. They know their audience.
Hearing "let's listen to what she has to say" moments before I skip forward into the video to avoid having to hear that shit actually made me chuckle. I didn't it unconsciously and it didn't hit me to afterwards. Either way, to that I say "I don't think I will". 1:34
She says a bunch of nonsense. Another woman who gets bored with her husband and wants to sleep around.
While the video is well made I do notice a clear lack of testimonies from men. I'll be honest, to me these women are living a comfortable but boring life as housewives while their husbands are slaving away at work and pleasing their bosses. Do you think men have the energy to "do it" after all that?
"In next episode : How sexlessness affects men" and in following episode "Kabukicho Virtual Tour". Stay tuned! ^^