I needed that discussion on social anxiety. I’ve dealt with anxiety for years, this talk really reached me. Thank you for the video! Felt like I was hanging out with a friend. ❤
I’m so happy to hear that you found this video helpful. Thank you for joining me and for being vulnerable with me. It sounds like you’ve been dealing with anxiety for a while which must be so draining.🪫I like the idea of us supporting each other so we don’t have to feel like we’re struggling alone!
oh wow. i was at the wonderpen dsily journalling event with you. your beautiful VP Pen started a side conversation on fountains pens. thank you for making the evening so enjoyable
This video was amazing and definitely resonated. I was at Helen's journaling session Saturday night and like you, was nervous. I had met Helen before, go to Wonder Pens all the time, love journaling, and yet, I was a bit of a hot mess beforehand. I even had thoughts of not showing up 😔. I went and had such a great time. I am considering going to one of WPs journal meet ups as a way to put myself out there in a way that isn't too drastic! Thank you for creating a safe place to discuss our vulnerabilities and for sharing some practical tips too.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with me! I had similar thoughts about not going to the event (and every other event I’ve attended), even though I have enough evidence supporting how great these events are at this point! I’m so glad you had a great time! They do a great job of hosting events. I haven’t gone to one of the journaling or letter writing meet ups yet (I saw Paper Plus Cloth offer them, too!), but it’s on my listen of events to try out in the future. If you ever see me at an event, please done hesitant to say hi. I am shy, but I really do love meeting others in this stationery community!
What you said about Journalling is why I went day free - not daily, sometimes use more than one page... BUT I am not sure it is for me, I miss the dates... It's not even January. I'm hoping the weekly TN will be my fix - so it will no longer be my meal planner. Planning on a weekly TN for that. (I'm hoping to get the whole family involved and the TN seems less intimidating for them to use.) My holiday stickers are too big for the monthly boxes - I used to put them on the dailies - I forgot about that when I went day free. I own my urge/desire to use stickers & wash tape.
I have come to appreciate the dates so much! While I’ve been journalling since I was young, I wasn’t as consistent as I am now. And, now that I see the benefits of reflecting daily, I’m more motivated to keep that up and I think having something dated will help me! It sounds like you’ve got some good ideas to experiment with before the new year starts. The best combo is the one you will use!
Man you discussion on social anxiety was so close to me... (I'm ok at work, once I get there because I have "warned up." I know the people and the space & my job...BUT I do still get nauseous if I have to present my findings - rather that the gathering and analyzing. I do use a script, right down to "Hi my name is..." Thankfully my presentations are on zoom & probably will be until I retire. Flexible work environment and offices across the USA.)
One piece of advice I got from some presentation training was to nail down your intro! So sometimes, that is still something I will practice because it helps me start off my presentations with a more confident tone. I try to ignore the little voice in my head that says I go downhill from there. Having the ability to present remotely has its advantages for sure! I also think it depends on the type of presentation we do. I notified for the big company-wide talks my company used to do, they would also have a script and would practice for days leading up to it. That’s a bit different from a quick debrief (and those are the “unpredictable” ones I’d get most anxious about!)
I really relate to your experiences with social anxiety. Something that has brought me a lot of peace is the concept of recovery not as a linear path but as a spiral. We might end up in the same place as before, but this time we have more tools to handle it. Another great video ❤
Thank you for this message! That idea of recovery being a spiral, rather than something linear really resonates with me. It’s a good reminder to focus on progress, not perfection!
I’m glad to hear that you’ve had a good time and that you’re able to overcome your social anxiety, or at least work with it. Helen has been very open about her new diagnosis of ADHD and her anxiety which has been very helpful to me.
Thank you! I’ve been working on accepting that this is a part of my experience and instead of striving for a future where it doesn’t exist, I’m focusing my energy on developing healthy coping strategies to increase my window of tolerance. Ironically (or maybe not?), I’ve made the most progress in workplace settings, but I think that’s probably because I had to adapt! I’ve appreciated that she’s been open to sharing her diagnosis and experience with it.
Enjoyed this video - thank you for sharing! I can relate to the social anxiety, it's not easy to be able to dive into events... but at the same time, it's so wonderful... ahhh!
Thank you so much, Linda! I used to be quite hard on myself about struggling to go to events… and while I still experience the anxiety, I’ve gotten somewhat better at going anyway. I’m still surprised at how much energy it takes out of me, through - between the anticipation for the meet, during, and after it’s over. 🪫 I agree with you - they’re always so wonderful!
I've been a physician for a good number of years and I still get nervous talking to families about their lovedones cause you never know how they might take it However one of the places I have no fear at all is in a stationary or pen store like whens the last time anyone had a fit in a stationary store ... coffe shop, fast food ... all the time but almost unheard of to have unfriendly people in a pen store ... sometimes when I'm have an unplanned conversation where someone will say something to me that makes me think I will actually stop and think about it and kind of look around like I'm trying to find the answer and that kind of gives people the idea that you are searching your brain library for the file where the information is being stored and that usually distracts them from my mumblings and sometimes the answer is right there... the only other thing I can suggest is remember that someone who is having a conversation with you is probably just as nervous to talk to you as you are to talk to them :) HOpe that helps take care
Thank you so much, for sharing your experiences and those tips! I agree that there’s something nerve wracking about the unpredictability of the response from someone you don’t know personally. You’re so right as well about pausing. When others pause and think, I don’t think twice about it. It’s another good reminder to take a few breaths before reacting! Thank you, again. It helped a lot! 🥰
Hopping in with some commentary about anxiety and ADHD. Anxiety, while commonly diagnosed as a condition on its own is usually a symptom, and things like social anxiety can crop up from things like, sensory overload, forgetfulness (like not remembering people's names), and guilt and shame that can come from social situations when people dont know the hidden "rules". If someone is dealing with anxiety it's worth interrogating what about the situation is activating you, and you might be able to use that in conversations with a therapist or doctor, or help yourself unpack it and make yourself more comfortable for next time (like wearing loop headphones or whatever else would make you more comfortable) For me, I get super emotional about being vulnerable, and worried about how people will perceive my emotion (will they think im weird/overbearing/creepy?) and that's just something I have had to start cherishing and appreciating about myself.
Love this!! Thank you so much for sharing this. I agree that it’s important to understand the root cause of what is activating me. I’m going to look into loop headphones - I’m interested in learning more about them! Thank you as well for sharing your own experience. As an emotional person myself, I appreciate interacting with others who are open and vulnerable! I’m glad it’s something you’re cherishing and appreciating about yourself!
a chat about stationery and social anxiety? possibly the perfect video :)
I’m so glad you feel similarly to me! 🗒️📓📕✏️🖋️Stationery has always been my happy place, so I turn to it often to counter my anxiety! ☺️
I needed that discussion on social anxiety. I’ve dealt with anxiety for years, this talk really reached me. Thank you for the video! Felt like I was hanging out with a friend. ❤
I’m so happy to hear that you found this video helpful. Thank you for joining me and for being vulnerable with me. It sounds like you’ve been dealing with anxiety for a while which must be so draining.🪫I like the idea of us supporting each other so we don’t have to feel like we’re struggling alone!
oh wow. i was at the wonderpen dsily journalling event with you. your beautiful VP Pen started a side conversation on fountains pens. thank you for making the evening so enjoyable
😮 that’s amazing! Thank you for the kind words. It was a fun evening and everyone was so nice. Maybe I will see you at future Wonder Pens events? :)
This video was amazing and definitely resonated. I was at Helen's journaling session Saturday night and like you, was nervous. I had met Helen before, go to Wonder Pens all the time, love journaling, and yet, I was a bit of a hot mess beforehand. I even had thoughts of not showing up 😔. I went and had such a great time. I am considering going to one of WPs journal meet ups as a way to put myself out there in a way that isn't too drastic! Thank you for creating a safe place to discuss our vulnerabilities and for sharing some practical tips too.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with me! I had similar thoughts about not going to the event (and every other event I’ve attended), even though I have enough evidence supporting how great these events are at this point! I’m so
glad you had a great time! They do a great job of hosting events. I haven’t gone to one of the journaling or letter writing meet ups yet (I saw Paper Plus Cloth offer them, too!), but it’s on my listen of events to try out in the future. If you ever see me at an event, please done hesitant to say hi. I am shy, but I really do love meeting others in this stationery community!
What you said about Journalling is why I went day free - not daily, sometimes use more than one page... BUT I am not sure it is for me, I miss the dates... It's not even January. I'm hoping the weekly TN will be my fix - so it will no longer be my meal planner. Planning on a weekly TN for that. (I'm hoping to get the whole family involved and the TN seems less intimidating for them to use.)
My holiday stickers are too big for the monthly boxes - I used to put them on the dailies - I forgot about that when I went day free. I own my urge/desire to use stickers & wash tape.
I have come to appreciate the dates so much! While I’ve been journalling since I was young, I wasn’t as consistent as I am now. And, now that I see the benefits of reflecting daily, I’m more motivated to keep that up and I think having something dated will help me! It sounds like you’ve got some good ideas to experiment with before the new year starts. The best combo is the one you will use!
@@LittleCocoStudio I got a date stamp, so maybe I'll be 1/2 & 1/2.
Man you discussion on social anxiety was so close to me... (I'm ok at work, once I get there because I have "warned up." I know the people and the space & my job...BUT I do still get nauseous if I have to present my findings - rather that the gathering and analyzing. I do use a script, right down to "Hi my name is..." Thankfully my presentations are on zoom & probably will be until I retire. Flexible work environment and offices across the USA.)
One piece of advice I got from some presentation training was to nail down your intro! So sometimes, that is still something I will practice because it helps me start off my presentations with a more confident tone. I try to ignore the little voice in my head that says I go downhill from there. Having the ability to present remotely has its advantages for sure! I also think it depends on the type of presentation we do. I notified for the big company-wide talks my company used to do, they would also have a script and would practice for days leading up to it. That’s a bit different from a quick debrief (and those are the “unpredictable” ones I’d get most anxious about!)
this was so cozy to listen to and i appreciate that you talked through your anxiety thoughts here!!
Thank you so much for your kind words! 🥰
I really relate to your experiences with social anxiety. Something that has brought me a lot of peace is the concept of recovery not as a linear path but as a spiral. We might end up in the same place as before, but this time we have more tools to handle it. Another great video ❤
Thank you for this message! That idea of recovery being a spiral, rather than something linear really resonates with me. It’s a good reminder to focus on progress, not perfection!
I’m glad to hear that you’ve had a good time and that you’re able to overcome your social anxiety, or at least work with it. Helen has been very open about her new diagnosis of ADHD and her anxiety which has been very helpful to me.
Thank you! I’ve been working on accepting that this is a part of my experience and instead of striving for a future where it doesn’t exist, I’m focusing my energy on developing healthy coping strategies to increase my window of tolerance. Ironically (or maybe not?), I’ve made the most progress in workplace settings, but I think that’s probably because I had to adapt! I’ve appreciated that she’s been open to sharing her diagnosis and experience with it.
Enjoyed this video - thank you for sharing! I can relate to the social anxiety, it's not easy to be able to dive into events... but at the same time, it's so wonderful... ahhh!
Thank you so much, Linda! I used to be quite hard on myself about struggling to go to events… and while I still experience the anxiety, I’ve gotten somewhat better at going anyway. I’m still surprised at how much energy it takes out of me, through - between the anticipation for the meet, during, and after it’s over. 🪫 I agree with you - they’re always so wonderful!
I am so jealous that you got to go to the journaling workshop. I'm obsessed with coffeemonsterzco!
I feel very lucky! 🥹 And I can understand why her brand and characters are so loved!
I've been a physician for a good number of years and I still get nervous talking to families about their lovedones cause you never know how they might take it However one of the places I have no fear at all is in a stationary or pen store like whens the last time anyone had a fit in a stationary store ... coffe shop, fast food ... all the time but almost unheard of to have unfriendly people in a pen store ... sometimes when I'm have an unplanned conversation where someone will say something to me that makes me think I will actually stop and think about it and kind of look around like I'm trying to find the answer and that kind of gives people the idea that you are searching your brain library for the file where the information is being stored and that usually distracts them from my mumblings and sometimes the answer is right there... the only other thing I can suggest is remember that someone who is having a conversation with you is probably just as nervous to talk to you as you are to talk to them :) HOpe that helps take care
Thank you so much, for sharing your experiences and those tips! I agree that there’s something nerve wracking about the unpredictability of the response from someone you don’t know personally.
You’re so right as well about pausing. When others pause and think, I don’t think twice about it. It’s another good reminder to take a few breaths before reacting! Thank you, again. It helped a lot! 🥰
Hopping in with some commentary about anxiety and ADHD. Anxiety, while commonly diagnosed as a condition on its own is usually a symptom, and things like social anxiety can crop up from things like, sensory overload, forgetfulness (like not remembering people's names), and guilt and shame that can come from social situations when people dont know the hidden "rules". If someone is dealing with anxiety it's worth interrogating what about the situation is activating you, and you might be able to use that in conversations with a therapist or doctor, or help yourself unpack it and make yourself more comfortable for next time (like wearing loop headphones or whatever else would make you more comfortable)
For me, I get super emotional about being vulnerable, and worried about how people will perceive my emotion (will they think im weird/overbearing/creepy?) and that's just something I have had to start cherishing and appreciating about myself.
Love this!! Thank you so much for sharing this. I agree that it’s important to understand the root cause of what is activating me. I’m going to look into loop headphones - I’m interested in learning more about them! Thank you as well for sharing your own experience. As an emotional person myself, I appreciate interacting with others who are open and vulnerable! I’m glad it’s something you’re cherishing and appreciating about yourself!