Home is clean, body is clean. Haven't drank alcohol or soda in years. Gym 3 days a week, work full time. Single. Can't complain. I have a cousin who is married, two kids, and looks soulless, and it reminds me I'm doing just fine.
This is great to hear! Everyone is living their own life. the thing I would ask and am curious about do you think he looks soulless because if you were in his shoes you would be soulless?
@bendthemasses Yes! He isn't the same guy I remember. He hardly talks, doesn't laugh like he use to. When my mother and I visited him two years ago, he didn't give us the time of the day and we drove to visit him and his family. That's when we agreed he just isn't happy anymore. Which is better for me because, I was never one to visit people that don't appreciate it. I also would never be married or have kids since 1. I'm gay, and 2. not looking to partner with anyone. I've dated different guys and realized in my life, people bring problems. So I've been single for 8 years and doing fine!
@@DakotaCrimsonDR People do bring problems. and that is one of the best thing that can come into our life. We get to have the highs and the lows. better to have some people problems makes life more exciting. maybe you already have people to do things with which more power to you there I do have a question, and if this is too much I do want to apologize in advance. Most of my life I grew up being told it is okay if you are Gay, as I wasn't dating any girls and would love on everyone. Plus had an experience when I was younger that came back up in college and got me to thinking that hmm, maybe I am gay because I haven't had a serious relationship with a women and I seem to seem them as objects. plus I didn't seem to be in to all the things the other guys where in to. And didn't get invited to a lot of places. So I was like hmm I must be gay because people had always told me it is okay if you are. Then I would get upset when people would say Fag or queer. I did also have a friend at the time who was gay which got me thinking about hmm maybe since all my friends are gay that makes me gay too. However, I have never been attracted to a dude, have never wanted to sleep with one. didn't really have the urge. I did have a threesome with a dude and his girl, yet the guy and I didn't do anything. I also kind of forgot he was there during the whole process. I guess my question to you is, and you don't have to answer, Have you always been gay? Did others make you feel a certain way which then made you be like oh I must be gay because I can't get a girlfriend? Of where you accepting of others and dressed nice so people thought you were gay so you decided to accept this as a fact about yourself? To be clear I don't care if you like dudes or not. I am only curious and am curious about this type of thing because I want to better understand it. Plus in psychology in the DSM 5 If i recall correctly psychologist can't talk about a person sexual orientation which seems kind of odd to me because a lot of it I believe comes from trauma and a coping mechanism. I don't want to see you be single and alone for another 8 years or the rest of your life even though you say you enjoy this. and you don't have to answer any of the questions. Only curious to learn how others thinks. And a little aside if I did say anything that did trigger or upset you, I would look at it like I have in my personal life as I was and am not here to keep you being the same. I am here to help you grow. It's why you had been attracted to my video. There is a block you have and I am here to help you remove it. If you so choose that is.
@bendthemasses I appreciate your questions, firstly though I will say, I'm not messaging you because i think you are gay or not, I only was messaging to share my background to better explain my answer. I will say for me, I knew I was gay since I was about 8 years old. I also kissed a girl when I was about 9 and didn't like it at all. She even got upset with me and I was like, I don't like girls. Anyway, I have been with guys since my 20s, I'm almost 40 now. I'm attracted to guys, and have slept with them so that def makes me gay. The only reason why I'm single is because I've had terrible relationships, they were only in it for one thing, and I was looking for more. Unfortunately, that is life. Most guys just really want to have fun and get laid, and I'm more of a sensual person, so I like the emotional part to a connection, whereas most guys want and only care for physical connection. I will say, I don't know if it's nurture or nature, but if it counts for anything, my parents divorced when i was 7 and I lived with my mom for the rest of my youth. I don't know if not having a father all those years transformed me into how I am today in that manner. Of course I don't want to be single all my remaining life, but from what I've seen and I've dated all types, they really are all the same. Just boring, uninteresting individuals that are into drugs, being lazy and thats not how I grew up. I've been a hard working person since I was young to help my mom raise my younger brother, be the good son, etc. I've been employed since I was 18 right out of high school. Hope this helps!
@@DakotaCrimsonDR It helps a lot. thank you for sharing. I'm not sure if you have tired this and Idk how well it will work because I don't have all the required training. A lot of what I have seen in my personal life is that the people who come in to my life are a reflection. Someone to help me move forward, someone to teach me a lesson, someone for me to help, someone who shows me something I didn't know before. So, I'm curious, I know you said you are a hard working and are looking for the right person and have dated all types of guys. I wonder have you every thought about what those guys are showing you? Because you said you are more of a person who wants something more interesting and not some dude who is trying to get laid. If you are that type of person who wants real then there is someone else who always wants real. Idk what places you go. Could you not find that person there? I also don't know how the gay community is. or how to know if someone is gay or not. So that could be an added challenge and maybe has been for many years. I have been helping a friend of mine out as well because he is 32 or so and is like all the good women are taken. then when I ask him what are you doing to meet women. he says he goes to these places yet the ones he talks to don't seem to be the type he is looking for. which I bring it back and ask him, well what are you looking for? Have you thought about what they want? how you could build together. What the both of you are interested in? Then I ask why don't you talk to them. He says he doesn't want to. Then I am like how do you expect to meet anyone knew. What I am getting at, is if you are the type of person that isn't wanting to sleep around then there is another one out there as well who will want to build something with you. You have to find ways of meeting him. Maybe try taking sex out of the equation. Maybe you have already done this and it didn't work. Maybe you could try again. and I understand you might have tried a lot of things and think there is no way. well what if there was? What if it was one more conversation? one more ask? one more message? that changed everything for you? you will never be too annoying or too much for the right person.
@@eyepodwalkman6247 Aye I got a friend out there! at least I think she is in Portland. I do know she is in Oregon. heard it rains a lot there and is green almost all year.
Is your inside clean or a mess?
Home is clean, body is clean. Haven't drank alcohol or soda in years. Gym 3 days a week, work full time. Single. Can't complain. I have a cousin who is married, two kids, and looks soulless, and it reminds me I'm doing just fine.
This is great to hear! Everyone is living their own life.
the thing I would ask and am curious about do you think he looks soulless because if you were in his shoes you would be soulless?
@bendthemasses Yes! He isn't the same guy I remember. He hardly talks, doesn't laugh like he use to. When my mother and I visited him two years ago, he didn't give us the time of the day and we drove to visit him and his family. That's when we agreed he just isn't happy anymore. Which is better for me because, I was never one to visit people that don't appreciate it. I also would never be married or have kids since 1. I'm gay, and 2. not looking to partner with anyone. I've dated different guys and realized in my life, people bring problems. So I've been single for 8 years and doing fine!
@@DakotaCrimsonDR People do bring problems. and that is one of the best thing that can come into our life. We get to have the highs and the lows. better to have some people problems makes life more exciting. maybe you already have people to do things with which more power to you there
I do have a question, and if this is too much I do want to apologize in advance.
Most of my life I grew up being told it is okay if you are Gay, as I wasn't dating any girls and would love on everyone. Plus had an experience when I was younger that came back up in college and got me to thinking that hmm, maybe I am gay because I haven't had a serious relationship with a women and I seem to seem them as objects. plus I didn't seem to be in to all the things the other guys where in to. And didn't get invited to a lot of places. So I was like hmm I must be gay because people had always told me it is okay if you are. Then I would get upset when people would say Fag or queer. I did also have a friend at the time who was gay which got me thinking about hmm maybe since all my friends are gay that makes me gay too.
However, I have never been attracted to a dude, have never wanted to sleep with one. didn't really have the urge. I did have a threesome with a dude and his girl, yet the guy and I didn't do anything. I also kind of forgot he was there during the whole process.
I guess my question to you is, and you don't have to answer, Have you always been gay? Did others make you feel a certain way which then made you be like oh I must be gay because I can't get a girlfriend? Of where you accepting of others and dressed nice so people thought you were gay so you decided to accept this as a fact about yourself?
To be clear I don't care if you like dudes or not. I am only curious and am curious about this type of thing because I want to better understand it. Plus in psychology in the DSM 5 If i recall correctly psychologist can't talk about a person sexual orientation which seems kind of odd to me because a lot of it I believe comes from trauma and a coping mechanism.
I don't want to see you be single and alone for another 8 years or the rest of your life even though you say you enjoy this.
and you don't have to answer any of the questions. Only curious to learn how others thinks.
And a little aside if I did say anything that did trigger or upset you, I would look at it like I have in my personal life as I was and am not here to keep you being the same. I am here to help you grow. It's why you had been attracted to my video. There is a block you have and I am here to help you remove it. If you so choose that is.
@bendthemasses I appreciate your questions, firstly though I will say, I'm not messaging you because i think you are gay or not, I only was messaging to share my background to better explain my answer. I will say for me, I knew I was gay since I was about 8 years old. I also kissed a girl when I was about 9 and didn't like it at all. She even got upset with me and I was like, I don't like girls. Anyway, I have been with guys since my 20s, I'm almost 40 now. I'm attracted to guys, and have slept with them so that def makes me gay. The only reason why I'm single is because I've had terrible relationships, they were only in it for one thing, and I was looking for more. Unfortunately, that is life. Most guys just really want to have fun and get laid, and I'm more of a sensual person, so I like the emotional part to a connection, whereas most guys want and only care for physical connection. I will say, I don't know if it's nurture or nature, but if it counts for anything, my parents divorced when i was 7 and I lived with my mom for the rest of my youth. I don't know if not having a father all those years transformed me into how I am today in that manner. Of course I don't want to be single all my remaining life, but from what I've seen and I've dated all types, they really are all the same. Just boring, uninteresting individuals that are into drugs, being lazy and thats not how I grew up. I've been a hard working person since I was young to help my mom raise my younger brother, be the good son, etc. I've been employed since I was 18 right out of high school. Hope this helps!
@@DakotaCrimsonDR It helps a lot. thank you for sharing.
I'm not sure if you have tired this and Idk how well it will work because I don't have all the required training.
A lot of what I have seen in my personal life is that the people who come in to my life are a reflection. Someone to help me move forward, someone to teach me a lesson, someone for me to help, someone who shows me something I didn't know before.
So, I'm curious, I know you said you are a hard working and are looking for the right person and have dated all types of guys. I wonder have you every thought about what those guys are showing you? Because you said you are more of a person who wants something more interesting and not some dude who is trying to get laid. If you are that type of person who wants real then there is someone else who always wants real.
Idk what places you go. Could you not find that person there? I also don't know how the gay community is. or how to know if someone is gay or not. So that could be an added challenge and maybe has been for many years.
I have been helping a friend of mine out as well because he is 32 or so and is like all the good women are taken. then when I ask him what are you doing to meet women. he says he goes to these places yet the ones he talks to don't seem to be the type he is looking for. which I bring it back and ask him, well what are you looking for? Have you thought about what they want? how you could build together. What the both of you are interested in? Then I ask why don't you talk to them. He says he doesn't want to. Then I am like how do you expect to meet anyone knew.
What I am getting at, is if you are the type of person that isn't wanting to sleep around then there is another one out there as well who will want to build something with you. You have to find ways of meeting him. Maybe try taking sex out of the equation. Maybe you have already done this and it didn't work. Maybe you could try again. and I understand you might have tried a lot of things and think there is no way. well what if there was? What if it was one more conversation? one more ask? one more message? that changed everything for you?
you will never be too annoying or too much for the right person.
Where are you? It looks like a super nice area.
Colorado. Winters great would like to bit more warmth
@bendthemasses It looks like a nice place to live. Everyone has nice houses and three car garages.
@@eyepodwalkman6247 That not the case where you are at?
@@bendthemasses Portland Oregon
@@eyepodwalkman6247 Aye I got a friend out there! at least I think she is in Portland. I do know she is in Oregon.
heard it rains a lot there and is green almost all year.