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- In today's Smile with Prachi, when tempers rise, financial troubles begin and life suddenly throws you more lemons than you can make lemonades out of.
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I am a disabled human with abselutely healthy parents and siblings. Disability is a curse i have to breath, sleep ,walk and just exist with.
No one should suffer this bad. Their is no harm in adopting a child or just be a part of NGO to see growing other underprivileged children.
But if a disabled life wants to experience parenthood it should be a well discussed with docters. Just because someone wish to be a mother she has abselutely no right to make a baby who will suffer all his life and would curse his parents decision. No matter how much parents provide to that child that child will stilll suffer disability.
Thanks for sharing such an insightful view on this :)
Ikr. What's wrong with adoption?
true ,
if that women will give birth to many children , and then slowly slowly it would grow as a disease in part of humanity.
not saying hitler was right , but we can at least avoid births .
also its not liek we have a shortage of kids and population anyway so .... ye
She made very wrong decision of having seven children.
One was enough.
There is no point of making your own basket ball team.
Just because she likes to be mother doesn't mean she will produce so many.
Being an adopted kid I love & respect ur thought about not having children.
I love my parents who chose not to bring a child in this world instead adopted me.
More power to you, and your parents! :)
My cousin also adopted a girl child 🥰we all love her unconditionally
God bless ! 😊
if u are adopted , i wanna ask u
in movies and everywhere .. its shown when someone get to know he/she is adopted they feel bad .
I dont understand why ? u should be happy u are not a mistake at least .
and someone wanted u
@@ASH-bb4sg yes. Iam happy & thankful. But in movies they feel bad even I don't understand why
The woman could have adopted if she really wanted a baby. Those three disabled kids dont deserve to live their life like that.
Yess exactly
I totally agree sam didi........why would our baby suffer the mistakes we did?......... It's totally unfair.......... It's like a curse to them from birth which they'll have to live there entire life .......the longer they live they'll only see pain,suffering and futility in this world
@@prasannajeetojha432 or the said child could actually live a very normal and successful life. I'm sure everyone knows about Stephen Hawking. There are many disabled people who go on to live better and more accomplished lives than normal people do. Although I do see how it would be unfair to the child to suffer something so severe, but at the same time forcing a disabled woman or man for that matter to give up their basic choice of having or not having children would be inhumane. Their really is no right or wrong opinion on this , and I don't think we actually do have the right to have an opinion on this... And while many people think that people born without sight must be struggling to even go through a day, we forget that it's their normal . It's how they've always experienced things, without sight. So they, like any other human, learn their abilities and disabilities. While they would be at a disadvantage like not being able to drive, that doesn't necessarily mean they can't go through a single day without feeling miserable.
OMG Prachi your thoughts about adoption and all are so similar to mine I'm so glad to finally see someone with thoughts like mine about how many kids don't have parents and are waiting to be adopted.
It's a new movement, called 'antinatalism'. There are a lot of people now who assign a negative value to birth. One of the biggest advocates of this theory, none other than Lord Buddha himself :)
I am also the one having the similar opinion after 7 years of marriage.
Because you commented about adoption I would also like to say that....I am 21yrs old I don't have any problem but yeah I have decided that I am not going to be a biological mom but gonna adopt or take responsibility of a child who needs me ❤️
Exactly I felt the same ❤️
That like mindness
To mobile,
After u break-up, if she tries to get back together again *DO NOT* entertain her! Absolutely NOT. Repeat this over a 1000 times in ur head.
When you fall in love with someone you accept the person the way they are and if your partner constantly directly or indirectly judges you for your looks then you might not be with the right person!
I'm a dusky girl but I never wear any makeup bcz I want to look natural and all my friends appreciate that ✨
Someone did the same to me and now I have blocked him. I would rather be single and happy than living a miserable life with such a moron. Never take anyone for granted.
@@sanjanasinha7634 So true! If someone loves you then they'll be with you no matter what and if they don't they'll keep making unnecessary excuses.
@@farheenkhan3406 bedsides I don't have the time to focus on beautifying my external appearance. I am in a profession that has nothing to do with looks
@@sanjanasinha7634 No profession should be linked to looks but there are few professions such as Cabin crew jobs for women where they only hire fair skin girls and I never understood the logic behind it.
@@farheenkhan3406 well, the truth is, apart from academia and govt jobs and technical areas , you will find some sort of preferential inclination to better looking candidates with lower avg or avg qualification . This is what I have experienced so far, just that other talented people eventually become more successful with sheer hard work. Just stick to your passion and hard work that's it.
Isn't Prachi just genius with her idea of telling the first writer to tell the dad that she's in debt and needs a loan to get connected to those people who are giving the money 👏👏👏
The vicious loan cycle just doesn't stops 😪
"Look there are two sides to every story, I have respect for her so I'm not gonna wash my dirty lenin out in public" 👏👏 This is my new standard.
When a child in the womb is diagnosed with disability, it is better to abort. Because if something happens to the parents, neither can the child take care of itself nor can anybody else. It is difficult for anybody to adopt a child with disabilities because not all families who are willing to adopt will have the money to bare the medical expenses.
So it is better to abort the child.
Totally agree
I am a doctor & I too have a genetic disablity that my father passed on to me..... it's a dominant trait & so I've decided to adopt children instead of giving birth, also, m a huge animal lover so, m gonna have animal babies too !! 😇🤗
I'm 20 and I totally agree with you on not having kids. I too wanna give adopted kid a very good life with me. I'm so happy that you have someone in your life who has same opinions as you. Having no kids or adoption is still something our society isn't okay with. I don't know if I'll ever be in a position (or be lucky enough) to find a guy with same opinions as mine.
Just wait for a while, ur ideology will change
Wow you are just like me 🔥🔥🔥 I also think that I will never find a guy wow girl
@@rajeevborah143 why do u think that, and what exactly do u think will change, the opinion of not having one's own biological children?
@@rajeevborah143 No!Not at all
Same ...
Yeah it would be really harsh to put legal restrictions on people with disability
But it is even more unfair for the child to suffer layer for no wrong of theirs.
So, In my opinion they should consider adopting..
Recently completed a course on Disability Literature where we discussed a lot of neglected issues relating to ndisability. We mainly focus on how that disbale individualw ill survive or of his/her medical condition but what we largely ignore is that he/she has sexual needs or desires that "normal" (physically at least) people have. So what do we do? we tend to ignore that completely, pitiying them for their condition and move on. We never take account of their desire to being in a love reltionship or to raise kids or to have their own families. It is so unfortunate. I got to learn a loy from that course.
Now to answer that if a disable woman shoud have kids or not, according to me, she has strong motherly insticts so she should have her own kids but also it is not fair for the child's life if that child comes out with that same disbaility as well without his/her own choice. The lady could adopt a child if she wanted to be a mother so stroingly but sometimes people prefer birth child over adopted one, for that the lady could have 1 birth child if she wanted to (I know there is a high risk of that baby being a disbaled but with 1 kid, and since she also is a disbale person as well, it gets easier to manage and if gets lucky that child could be risk free). My point is why giving birth to 7 children when you know the risk factor, it is so insensitive and inconsiderate for those children's future! Even after having 1 child, if she still wants to be a mother, she should adopt because then the chance of genetic disbaility would be zero and she could be a mother too where the child's right and future can be protected too.
well said :)
@@SmileWithPrachi Thank you di
Totally agree on that point 🤝❤️"why seven kids if u really wanted ur own child to sirf ek hi bachha enough tha ...
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As a daughter of a MS patient who passed away a year back, even though I thankfully did not inherit my mother's disease, I faced a lot of other problems in life due to an incomplete family. I'd also live the rest of my life scared whether the MS is gonna show up in me sometime or the other. I have wished several times to have not been born.
So my opinion in that person's case is that she shouldn't have put her children's lives at risk however maternal she feels like. It's much better to adopt children and raise them. It's not completely wrong to put up that law regarding them not giving birth, but they should be allowed to adopt after evaluating their case.
Also Prachi, please help me out regarding another issue. I've mailed you few hours ago.
Yeah ditto, I also don't want a child in future but my reason is pure selfish, I want to use all my resources for betterment of my life and my wife (if I find one with same thinking like that in future 😅) and just have a hassle free life ahead and regarding that lady with a disability I think it is like gambling because clearly the doctor warned her in first place and yet she went for it, like she could have also adopted someone no? Why bring a child into this cursed world and that too giving him disability making his life twice as hard..
A selfish choice is always better than a thoughtless action.
@@SmileWithPrachi thanks 🙂
I have same thinking, I want to spent resources on myself and I think i and my other half would be able to live this life without needing anyone. I don't my childrens to feel the pain which I had felt and still feeling for these 23 years of my age. When you don't have right conditions and people around, this life is not less than any hell inside your mind. Everything may look normal but the battles going on inside that head sometimes seems never ending with new warzone everyday. I don't want my child to be like that, be like me in a way.
Don’t consider it selfish. Consider it your decision.
Because when you yourself call it selfish, the society will make use of it as a word.
It is a decision and your freedom to choose to have children or not have or adopt or even virtually adopt a child(sponsor for needs).
@@CharicatureCharicature thanks 🙂
Prachi di,
I will turn 18 this year. My dad is so toxic. Sometimes I am so frustrated because of him that I end up hurting myself. And I wanna become financially independent asap. Can anyone of you suggest any part time job so that I can afford my stuff without depending on any family members???
I am sorry to know that you are going through all these, but please don't hurt yourself... You are a strong girl...
Some part time jobs like...
1. Tuition teacher
2. Baby sitter
3. If you enjoy cooking, you can make something like pizza, cakes and sell them in reasonable rate with good quality. Ofcourse not a full time but 2 Pizza or 2 cakes a day.
4. Make ghee at home and sell.
5. If you are good at crafts, make stuffs and sell.
6. Start a blogging channel.
7. Start a cooking channel.
Wow in this section I found many people like me
If you are student and have books then you can provide books on rent to other students and can make money.
Home tuitions are great option as well.
You can also do some internships it will help in your career as well and at the same time you can earn.
At last No matter how hard things get, have faith and stand strong. All days are not same 😊👍
All the best
Hey I also went through hell for almost 4 years. My dad created such dire situation at home that even when at school or at tuition, I used to worry what is happening at home? Is he again verbally abusing my mother? Which my very honest and no-shit-taking mother won't stand at all and will fight back with words on point (you know valid points need no cursing and blackmailing, only weak ones do) and then dad will physically attack her and after returning from school, I'll see cuts or bruises due to that on her... I couldn't sleep at nights sometimes, he used to curse whenever his inner insect start dancing... I really really hated him, I still do fear him, he still does fight now sometimes, but now I'm much older right? So although I feel the same emotions of helplessness and so so bad for mom and outrageous in lieu of her, I do think I can manage the situation better. I was in class 8 then, before that everything was normal, even when someone asked me whom do you love more, I used to say my dad😅, but seeing his demonic nature then for the first time, I remember saying my mother to divorce him, which is not even considered in our social circle btw. I still do love him, why won't I, but he is better off as a father only, not as a husband AT ALL.
You know I never shared such details with anyone, ever. Literally with no one, not my close friends, not with strangers online... never. I remember him slapping me also just bcz I went in between them and shouted to stop, mom never ever loses herself, never. He even then said one day, when mom was taking me out for a tuition, he said, "never come back, I'll throw acid". His curses knows no limit, and they are the worst, but in rage, he called even me a slut. Yeah, this is embarrassing to admit, that I have such a father, but it is what it is... He loves me, very much so, I feel he is connected with mom too, like in a way of a 25 year old togetherness, but he is so horible and illogical and selfish and hurting whenever he is in the slightest mental pressure. And he won't take help, still let's see, I'll try once after some more years.
Btw, about your problem, stay strong and yeah be financially independent as soon as you can and get out of that toxic environment. And about the jobs... do you like problem solving? You can try enrolling in Chegg as a mentor.
I am glad you brought up this topic of disabled people having kids. My brother is mentally retarded, has autism and cerebral palsy so he can't get married or have kids legally and I am in complete support of that law because I know what my family has gone through raising a child like him and to expect similar kids to grow up with a father like him would be brutal for everyone. I think if a person, like you mentioned, so wanna have kids then why not adopt kids rather than cursing them with the disabilities she still struggles with. I think having a child is way bigger deal than it seems in India where it is a given to have kids but I don't think everyone who can reproduce has the ability to take care of a child or simply just doesn't want to. I think having a child should be a privilege not a right cause that's how much of a big deal it is to shape a whole ass human being. I am completely normal but I might have epilepsy genes in me and in future if I am told there's even a slightest chance of it passing I won't have kids or adopt. To conclude: if kids are born with disorders without the knowledge of parents then that's unfortunate but if you go ahead knowing your kids might be mentally or physically compromised then that's just unfair and selfish. I am a leftist but on this I squeeze my conclusion from personal experience of a special family.
'having a child should be a privilege not a right'...very well said.
I agree with you cent percent! wonderfully said!!
Second that👍
My mom is with some mental disability so she got married to a poor person(my dad). And now, they are not able to take care of my studies and me. That is why my grand parents raised me up. But being a child to my parents and depending on other persons (even they are my grand parents), it reduces my freedom to live and take my decisions on my own as I am depending on them. So. I am requesting please don't have children if you are not able to take care of them and please don't have children just to make them to be raised and to be dependent on other family members. But as a child of my parents, that freedom to live life on my own has stuck for me now. If I have been at my parents' home, the scenario would have been different. In the same way, I am suggesting the mother with disability also to adopt an unwanted child like me if she wants to have kids in her life. So that she can keep lights in that child' s life also as she really wants to raise a child on her own.
Thanks for sharing your story vidya. Very brave of you, it will help a lot of people get clearer perspective on things
I think that having children itself is selfish. Anyone who comes on earth will have to suffer, even if it's just a bit. They will have bad days, heartaches, etc. Parents know that and still have kids.
If I want kids in the future, I'll adopt- maybe from the middle east because I want them to have a better life.
from middle-east? nice thought :)
This is exactly my thinking, suffering is unavoidable and choosing to bring it upon someone just because it will give me a little happiness is very selfish.
@@AniketBasak, exactly!
Having children is not selfish, yes it is nice to give a home to some child that needs it but you have every right to have one of your own as well. Having children who will have disabilities is a completely different argument then having one at all. Yes all children will have problems but they will also have happiness, joy . They will become adults who will accomplish something, maybe they will grow up to be someone who does greater good then we can even imagine, or maybe they will just be happy and content adults and that is just as important. My point is that weather you want to have children of your own or want to adopt it’s up to you, but saying that having children is selfish is not something I can agree with,
@@user-sh11 let us then agree to disagree.
Prachi dii a suggestion from my side- Set up a discord( another social media platform) server where people can share their experiences and have a coversation one to one or with everyone among your community. Even you can hold some events where limited people(unlike youtube which has such a large audience) can connect with you. Its just a different level thing. Please do consider it.
Yeah.... that'd be great🔥🔥
@@swathisree5130 i hope she considers this!!!
If a person with defective jean shouldn't be allowed to have a child, then a person with (very) poor background also shouldn't be allowed to have a child?? Because that child didn't choose to be poor.
In both the cases it's unfair to child.
But making such rules is unfair to the person with defective jeans.
genes*
Yes but in case of poor that child will have the ability to change his/her future by working hard. But a disabled child will always be disabled. He can’t change that. It is not about having problems, everyone has problems, it’s about not being able to solve them by any means no matter what you do.
Prachi. You are a wonderful human being and let me tell you. From the perspective of the collective consciousness, not having a child is actually the need of the times. It's perfectly fine to adopt instead of believing "I am the last generation of dinasour and if I don't reproduce, the human species might get extinct". Whatever your decision will be, just go with it but at the same time be ready (mentally and emotionally) to face the repurcassions of it (in terms of societal judgement, family pressure etc). I have said this earlier too but lemme repeat you are doing great work for the society.
i saw tuns of video of yours
you are a very amazing person prachi
i really really love you talks
keep doing , always support you
Prachi di can u pls make a vdo on therapy...like how could teenagers go for therapy and when is it exactly needed or how to bring up this topic in front of parents etc....I think we haven't talked about this topic yet...thanks in advance ❤❤❤
let me see :)
@@SmileWithPrachi 🥰❤
@@SmileWithPrachi Yes dii, please make one video on this topic that how can teenager go for therapy with or without ( in case) parents and all the things related to that... ❤️
@@SmileWithPrachi yes much needed one :)
4:30 if you both mutually agreed on this term nothing is better than that in today's scenario...
the best way was to adopt children this would have helped her and even those little orphans
I am really glad to know your views on childbirth, Prachi. Bringing children into the world is an Indian obsession bcoz women don't want to be perceived as barren and parents want a son to carry on the family line or any child (though daughter is an indulgence and not a need like a son) ki ghar mein bachhon se raunak aati hai. Often a child is the only reason a married couple stays together and the pivot of a woman's life who has never learnt to think for herself. Many women make terrible moms, controlling and abusive or lazy and uncaring, but these things are not talked about bcoz of all the myths surrounding mothers. So women should become mothers - biological or adoptive - only if they are truly maternal. Else they just shouldn't. Unfortunately, for many women, their value and standing at their in laws' house depends on their ability to bear children. Also they fear being poor and uncared for during old age. Because they don't know abt or won't have money for assisted living facilities in old age.
Great work Prachi as you are solving or giving suggestions to people with different problems. Love from Bengal. 💗
Some of the problems are similar to me to some extent and I'm with the solutions now. 🙂
At the age of 22 she is earning that much
I wish i could do something 😭
I don't know what to do
Not eveyone could go in same pace,few of my friends got job when they are 21 nd i got at 23 , they earn more and i earn less right now am 25 my friends are getting married tbh few have kids i feel horrible when they say you are getting old do something better, get married and all the shit things in the world but i know i am not at all ready for marriage my goal is to have six figure salary that am gonna get in some next two years..don't worry you will do fine just little late but better
@@pcy6141 thank you for your kind words. I hope so too
Have a good life❤️
Hii prachi di,
I'm glad to hear that we both share same opinion on adopting a child with disability and raising her/him.
Hi Prachi di on the topic of genetic diseases I would like to imply this fact. So Im working research projects on genetic cancers where just like you mentioned there are possibilities that the kids might inherit the gene disorder from their parents. So there is one option for parents who still want to have their own biological kids and that is IVF. So as we know in IVF we harvest eggs and sperms to produce more than one embryo. So what the Dr advices is that there are certain IVF facilities in India that are govt authorized to perform genetic testing on the embryo. So these people test the embryos that are formed and select an embryo that did not inherit the genetic disorder from the parent and implant it into the mother’s uterus. However this procedure is costly for the time being but with proper genetic counselling things like this are still possible.
The best thing to do (apart from adoption) would be ART(assisted reproductive technology) or as people call it "test tube baby". Where the defective gene of the mother could be replaced by a donor.
Well, I am 17. But I will be adopting a child when I am financially stable and mentally ok. And there are so many kids out there who don't have parents and I would like to become a mother to one such kid. And I think that what the mother did here was bit selfish because she could have adopted a child instead of giving birth to those kids knowing the fact that her kids can also get effected by her genetic disease.
Even my bf told that My dark skinned and fat. He had left for other women because she is very beautiful.
Even my dad told my not beautiful.
You are beautiful we just live in a judgmental society. Plz don't let these judgments destory your confidence. Tell them " 'beauty' is not everything. There are soo many things to do than just being beautiful." And most importantly, love yourself ❤️
I am sharing my thoughts on the question you asked at the beginning.
I think it is always a mother's right to decide whether to have children or not. I wouldn't judge her and respect her choice.
As for me, I would never give birth if I were her. In general, me and my husband also don't want to have children atleast for now and we have our family decisions similar to yours. We are really happy being plants and pet parents and we love our relatives and friends' children but we don't want our own. Bringing a life is a big responsibility and we wouldn't want that until we are sure that we would be able to provide the best life to the child that we can.
Even as a medical student you are generally told to be just professional in such cases(not letting trend or our own emotional/personal opinion given to patient) as it's gray zone ... Even the real world is full of color not white and black only .... The best I can think of in case of Congenital disease is telling her about all the aspect of her diseases , probability , prognosis (in child if same thing present) , without giving suggest what to do as in this case .
I said its just for fun to my gf. I said her she is ugly and say about my best friend( one of our common friend) is beautiful than him. She replied me I am also ugly. So she is with me. 🤢
We me I want to adopt the children, Even I don't have children. Prachi your very lucky because Gaurav is very open minded.
@smile with prachi , I have heard that it's not a easy process to adopt the child in India..
Ur English inspires me❤️
I feel I agree with the latter opinion which states it shouldn't be legal to give birth to a child who has high chance of having genetic disorder. I feel it's truly selfish.
Why bring the same fate upon the child? For the sake of "I want a child".
And if you want a kid so bad then please go ahead and adopt.
I feel it's selfishness rather than love.
Btw love u Prachi di! 💕
Why is our society so bad, patriarchal and unfair
The thing is they are seeing alliance for my brother (arranged) and why have to it be like an interview like this may sound silly but how much he earns? which job he does? What caste he is? it's frustrating, he's cool about it but as his sister I don't know, I will be next it's making me feel like nowadays they only see what guy is doing but not what person he is, his character according to them if he earns good he will look after you good is the norm am I the only one who don't understand this or is it the generation gap.
And for girls she should be white, good looking and knows to do all house hold work that's it (I'm not so sure about it, but I have heard it from my friends) This society makes me feel like we are walking corpse or dead bodies who can't take any decision of our own, I'm afraid of this.
I told patriarchal because my mom stopped working after marriage and father is one who says everything we should do,
we can't do anything against even if it's for good, my mom can't talk anything against him or else he will tell you are a women what do you know? Seeing this kills me everytime don't get me wrong, with me he's good but I can't see him talking like that with my mom it happened many times, I feel very bad for my mom constantly getting degraded sometimes so guilty we are the one she left her dream and job for but treating her like that is not fair. When I was young I didn't feel this way I thought whatever he does is right, but now I am questioning everything, it feels weird like it feel lifeless.
And after watching your videos on toxic parents I came to know all of the things you have mentioned in the video they did it to me and brother, from beating us everyday as kids for the small things we did and for disobeying when we are kids to overly being there for me especially (because I am a girl) overprotective I guess my dad did that, that they used to control my friendship, from allowing to talk opposite gender to both of us( I started having fear against men because of this and never talk to them but now realising it makes me sad and that I have to understand men more and I have missed a lot opportunities because of my parents) and also cut down most of friends (all) because of them poking their nose, especially my dad doesn't even allow me out even with my girlfriends, he used hang out with me and my friends even my mom also do that, which makes me and my friends uncomfortable. All my friends came alone, and me with my parents imagine this happened when I'm 17 years old, my friends used to tell it's a teenagers meet and your parents are here it's so weird I used to feel so uncomfortable thinking what can I tell, they are like cameras should always watch me it's less now I'm 20 years now but still there I can't even take my own decisions. They don't have anything to do other than watching me. So I lock myself inside my room and never come out very rarely I come, because I don't want to be around them anymore. My mother keeps the food outside the door and I will eat it that's all, I refuse eat with them, I feel very uncomfortable when I'm eating with them, they always looking at me I don't know whether this is normal so I also eat in my room nowadays.
Now after my Undergrad I'm planning on going abroad for studies my dad was really against it, but with my mom (she agreed maybe she didn't want me to go through the same thing she went) once I go there I planning to settle down there, that's what I'm planning now, I also want to earn little now as to I'm also studying currently so, to save for my entrance exams and all that but I can't fully afford the fees it I also need financial help from my dad which he agreed
I also don't like the fact that my brother is getting arranged marriage i want him to find love, but I know I shouldn't control all that it's his life anyways if he's okay with it I'm fine and I'm happy as long as he is so I am keeping my mouth shut but still I just really am afraid he will live a life like our parents for the society and go into the cycle of loveless adjust, adjust arranged marriage because for the society.
Be independent financially. On last video of prachi talk about this in starting. Take note on, apply on ur life. Best of luck. More power to you. 🤞🏻❤️
You are asking all the right questions.
Which means they wont have answers.
This also means you have to write your own story when the time comes. I hope you will do the right thing for yourself and break the patriarchal rope before it ties you up.
So i am not the only one jiske sath esa hota h 😭😭😭...They are fixing my marriage without knowing my opinion and when i said no to this marriage they are like "hamare pass ab jyada time nhi h or kal isi baat ko lekar behas ho gyi or aaj mere papa hospital m admitted hai ab mujhe unki marji se hi shadi krni padegi 😭😭 .
Because in arrange marriages you cannot judge the character of a person in the very first meeting. Some people are very good at pretending who they are not for a long time and after marriage you see their real faces. So going by character of a person is not possible in arrange marriages. That's why people go for looks, jobs, money, family, status etc. And it is bitter truth that can never be changed.
Tnx prachi ur simply an amazing human iam also a counsellor it helps me a lot
Hey Prachi
Is it necessary to unlove ur ex after break up to fall in love with someone else.??? I broke up a year back I don't hate him I still care for him and love him also but I feel I'm ready to be in relationship with someone else also willingly..... Is it important to unlove ur ex??
In your story there r 3 people involved, you, your ex and your next.
First of all, please be in relationship when you are actually ready, means when you have overcome with you ex, see if you ll come in relation with someone now, you will be in love with 2 people at one time, where your new boyfriend will be in love with you, giving his 100% and in your case it will be divided between two.. do you think it will be fair for your new boyfriend? Where he is giving his 100% but not you, obviously the ex won't be physically present, but he will be in your mind, and in someways effect your relationship.
Be in a new relationship, when you are ready with total of yourself, what has happened in past leave it, and start from new..take time, build yourself..... Else eventually you guys will break-up because of the third person (ex).
Love doesn't go away. We don't move on, we move forward in our life. It's okay to love someone from your past and start with someone new if you are not hurt and healed enough.
I think you need to answer this question for yourself that If your ex comes back will you take him back. If there is even a small part of you that says yes then you need to give it more time. Someone else doesn’t deserve that. Put yourself in their shoes, if someone you love gets back together with their ex how will you feel?
I also want to adopt child but it is very big thing in our family. They are totally against it. I am not yet married..I want atleast the person who comes to my life understand this.
Prachi your thoughts is same to same as mine .. I and my boyfriend also decided not to get own children .. if I wanted to be a mother then we adopt a child ... seriously the earth is over populated ..
I was just waiting. 😇
My opinion is she can have children if chance is 50 percent although amniocentesis should have done as MTP is legal in the specific cases
Can you make a video on love ,
How did you know gaurav was the one?
Great. Childfree person here too sis.
Is forgiving too much correct???
Is it ok to forgive our parents when they question your character or anything more severe than this????
Is it ok to forgive our loved once even though it's somewhere hurting???
Like how can one not forgive the people whom we love the most?
Forgiving is a great way of letting go off the trauma and past experiences.
Forgive not bcz they deserve it forgive bcz you deserve mental peace.
But make sure they don’t use it as a excuse to keep hurting you.
Hi Prachi di..I would like to know about what genetic disorder the woman was affected by and also the disability..I'm an occupational therapist who will be dealing with special children and their parents..so it will be very helpful for me to talk to parents and educate them! Thank u 🙏🏾
Can anyone mention the name of this documentary please
even i feel that she should hv gone for adopting rather than having a child as it is unfair for the child. and as off her wishes she could hv taken care of the adopted child as her own
You just spoke out my own thoughts on this matter loud and clear.😍.. actually about the lady, I think as she really wanted her own children and if it was possible to identify her bad gene in the fetus, she could have gone for that. And then carry on if healthy or abort. And in case that disease is undetectable in a fetus, it would have been better not to take risk of making a baby and instead abort cute little children. There are approx 15 crore of orphan children, the already born ones need to have a good environment first, right?
Prachi ur so. Mature
Love you prachi di💕
It's selfish on her part, motherly instincts doesn't mean that you need to give birth to a child. She could have adopted.
If anyone here knows the name of the documentary please let me know. I would love to watch the documentary.
That girl could have chosen to adopt or any other way (only if that were safe for that disease maybe) if she wanted to be a mother.
i think the disable woman could have adopted her children instead bc i think it is unfair so those 3 kids to leave with such a disablity
Hey ! mobile phone I dont know if you can see this or not. But I hope you see.
I wanted to just hug you for your letter. I am 19 year old too.
My parents are divorced.
I feel you.
But remember at this point you might feel lonely and guilty and so many more things.
But it is completely okay.
That relationship really feels toxic. It is very important to cut off toxic people be it anyone. I did that too. Also never let anyone let you down. No one has that right to hurt you. Stand up for yourself.
Take care.
If someone is too problematic( her friends) you have amazing option - BLOCK.
Omg I also have overpopulated thoughts and want to work for children who are already born😘
Prachi di kudos to you for not having kids. Ithis wrld where the population is hugeee, u r making such big contribution.
These days we can figure out if the fetus as any disabilities by amniocentesis it is performed is to determine whether a fetus has certain genetic disorders or a chromosomal abnormality. Ig every new parents goes through this test and then the parents can decide if want to carry forward the pregnancy.
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Thanks ritika, but these videos are not just about letters. The conversaitions shared before and around the letters are for the soceity and to help bring a change in the way people think.
@@SmileWithPrachi i understand and I appreciate the Stories that you share before the letters 😊 but I only tried to help people who are just interested in the letters (just like me).
Prachi I think that lady should not have had any children of her own. If she wanted a child she could have adopted one, or even if she wanted to give birth she could have just limited it to 1 or 2. Having 7 children despite of knowing the fact that their entire life can be ruined for your own selfishness is outright unfair! It was in her hands to stop a whole generation from suffering, to end the defective gene from being passed down there and then, but she didn't. Though I am a girl myself and have seen the similar situation in real life in my family, and I totally understand the sentiments of the woman, but I would still say it was not correct. I am watching a child suffer right in front of my eyes 'cause of the same reason. So speaking as both a biology student and also having experienced similar circumstances in real life, I would stand against her (with all my respect and understanding to her as a woman). Infact, one day if I fall into a same situation myself, I would refrain myself from having children despite of being a doter, as it would be completely unfair to them.
Salute to you Prachi
Hello prachi di 👋🏻
Even I think people stop bringing kids just for their selfish desire world would be better I don't understand why people with genetic disorders and are financially ill should not have kids. I think adoption is more appropriate for people that want kids and financially also fit to have them and can not have them due to some reason
person with disability which cause harm to other person should strictly not be allowed to have kids (like person with some mental desability) . And according (no mental but genetic) to this story the parents they rather adopt the chid if they have stong parental instincts but stictly not allowed to have their own. I think this this fair enought for all the lifes (unborn) (orphan) and parents.
Hey.. Prachi dii. How can I write letters to you? Plz ans me I wanna write something to you.
Maybe they don't let disabled people adopt? Does anyone know?
How can I write to you my question?.
Do you take online counselling? I reAlly need it.. pls help
U r amazing prachi didi .
Aap ko hindi main bhi buhat log sunna chate hai so plz.. Hindi main bhi video banao bcz.. Sab log English main nhi samjhte.. This is my personal request ..
Is it fine if we hide our salary from our elders so that we can save for something serious which might come in future or even for our own expenses . Because I feel to donate is better than using the money for unwanted luxuries,and my family is against this opinion .
It's your own hard earned money.
Do what feels right.
Nobody should expect your explanation for your finances.
That was helpful .Thank you Prachi🙂
Absolutely I always feel like having personal savings or a little bit of earnings hidden is very beneficial in future
I think everyone should hide a particular amount of your salary from family .. but it should be saving not other expenses.. because the first letter is right people in fact our family always thinks if I earn 50k so we should spent accordingly. But nobody knows what lies in future..
kya aapke ma baap ne apko btaya ki vo log kitna kamate h to aap kyu btaoge unko apni finacial chize uhe fir
Hi Prachi its always very motivating seeing your vlogs ,you said very correctly regarding disability ,my opinion would be disability is just a matter of perceptions it does' defines person neither their life people should go back in history and check some examples such as stephen william hawkins,sudha chandra,deepa malik and the list goes on ..who dint loose hope in life and broke the myth of society that anything is possible at any stage of their life being in any conditions, what i believe is if god have made you like that than that god has given you the special power to stand out from society point of view and break the myth that society generally think and react on disability or disabled person ,anything is achievable in life no matter if you are being abled or not if you have courage anything can be achieved being disabled from mind or your attitude is a bigger problem then being from body parts or any kind of symptoms....most of us people think disability is a curse or a sin from past just to cover our own insecurities and this kind of attitude is more often in our society and whenever we see any specially abled person we always see them very emotionally way rather than learning anything from them they are same as we are , we show sympathy and some times makes fun or criticize them ...most cases society neglects this kind of children ..
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i think its OK for her to think about having a child as a women but she could adopt a child too but she gave them birth by herself and fortunately if 4 of her children are healthy then why is there a need of 7 children like u should be thankful for those 4 why to be greedy here for children i mean to say in future 3 of them is going to suffer the same that you (that lady) suffered . so in my opinion u should not take the risk and if if u do then why so many times besides having healthy kids.....
So good video🎥
Glad you think so!
Firstly first!!
I'm a blver of Destiny and God...I mean yess if you're warned and the doctors are clearly telling you it will be dangerous than I agree it's selfish to take risk I know a woman personally who has some health issues and doctors strictly told them to not have babies (they already have 4 kids btw) but they were stubbornly trying and she had 4 miscarriage. So yah that's SELFISH. But also feel at the end of the day it's the child's fate. Ofcrs he didn't choose it but in life we don't get to choose a lot of things in a lot of things we just have to have faith and trust the creator.
Anyway Ik a lot of ppl won't agree but it comes to children I feel like u need to have faith cauz even a healthy mother can't guarantee to have healthy child so why kill the Hope.
Anyway feel free to reply if you think I'm missing a point I'd love to learn:))❤️
I think it was the good thing that she had faith and it was quite amazing that the first 4 of children were healthy even though the doctor clearly explained the condition to her but I mean it was at the end kind of gamble only and, honestly she should have just stopped at one only it seems like she was betting her odds going till 7 and in the end 3 children ended up paying the price though she must have taken care of all the kids but sometimes we have to face reality the way it is cause chances are even creator can say no!
P.S. - finding unique names on TH-cam (Like yours one) always feels amazing to me and dp too 😅
i disagree.....i think he should just leave her be and run away. King deserves better and he doesn't need to apolozige . She got what she deserve.
2nd do wat prachi said
I'm completely against the mother's decision of having children.
I understand her strong urge of giving birth to a child.. That's fine but seven.. It's not a game bro.. It seems like you're just testing doctors decision of whether your children will have the same genetic disorder or not and in what percentage n all.. That's selfish.. That's not called mother love.. Having just one child is enough to become a parent and experience parenthood.. I'm totally strongly against her decision of having seven children.. That is so unfair done to the 3 children .. Feeling bad for them.. Without any fault, being so innocent, they don't deserve this punishment for their entire life.. God bless such stupid people!
Prachi di I just have a few thoughts in my mind and let me try to put it out here.
What is suffering? Is there this definition of suffering which is applicable for everyone? I wonder how people born with "perfect" physical and mental health can decide what is suffering and what is not. Disabled children too have their own world. Just because we don't put the effort to see the world through the eyes of such a child, we can't conclude that the child is suffering. Again I don't say the child is alright with being disabled but all I feel is who are we to decide that? Isn't it a personal choice to have children? If the parents are confident about being good parents who are we to decide whether they should have kids or not? A disabled persons should legally be treated equal to a healthy person as they too are citizens. We can't make them feel like they are a liability.
I am completely pro choice and I firmly believe abortion should only be a mother's choice. I'm not sure if I'll have biological children but I will definitely adopt a child with minor special needs. But again here it's a CHOICE. And I think everyone should be given this choice.
And finally Prachi di, I would like to know more about ur views on anti Natalism. I personally support a person's choice to be an anti Natalist but I can't support the anti Natalism movement because I find it as absurd as the pro Natalist movement. Virat Kohli was getting so much hate from anti Natalist for having a daughter as they believed it's "morally wrong". Isn't morality again subjective? We can't force a person to not have kids because we find it morally wrong.
But a small request to all, please have kids only if u can take care of them and u feel u can take such a huge responsibility. I hold similar views as Prachi di in terms of adoption.
I'm sorry if I offended someone. I just tried to write down what I feel. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
Very interesting.
Thank you for sharing :)
I think our thoughts differ a little on disabled child because making them live with a disability seems cruel. But I agree with anti natalist point. I think even after all this debate people still don’t understand the value of choice. I think anti natalist was supposed to empower people who chooses to not have children, but like feminism, extremists have turned it into a bad thing.
Imagine shaming someone because they chose to have kids🤯
Absolutely selfish to have produced so many children with genetic abnormality. Being a mother she wishes her children to go through thr same pain she went through. Misery likes company. If she waz a good mother she would not produce a child only for the child to suffer nd have a substd life. Blind faith on God like entities make people blind, selfish nd cruel. No explanation.
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I am actually not feeling right these days, i feel sick about myself, i feel like m filthy , i deserve to die
Sometimes i want to hurt myself
Sometimes i want to hurt others
I haven't really done anything till now
But i feel like it
M losing my mind
Sometimes i m just normal like other people
And sometimes i dont feel normal
Sometimes i think about doing really bad stuff i keep on imagining shits n then i realise what the heck m i doing.
I really don't know what to do.
Pls help
Just an opinion, pls consider going for therapy and meanwhile you can mail to prachi di for further help and I hope whatever you are dealing with gets resolved soon.
@@Vizorfam i m scared to go to a therapist
What if i get kicked out?
What if he/she says m normal n faking things.
What if he/she laughs at me.
@@grey301k i dont have anyone to talk to
I don't have friends also
@@grey301k i m unable to do anything unable to engage myself in anything
Its so difficult for me to get up
Or go to sleep
Or even go to pee
I keep sitting, laying or doing whatever for much longer time n keep thinking
I find it very much difficult to even do the required things
My room is a total mess
M doing too bad these days that its visible on my face n body
@@grey301k i used to have a clear skin
Now its all full of pimples and acne n its marks
I am 7 th 😆
About the mother child genetic disorder , I don't think anybody is at fault .The child carries its own karma to be born with defect. The mother carried her own karma , whether she chooses it or not , if she is carrying in her destiny the motherhood she will have it .These are things that fate has it for us ,we cant really choose or control them , if its meant to happen it will happen .For the children born defect free , can we put that responsibility on the mother ? No , its child karma's that are born defect free , why don't we appreciate the mother in this case, because its natural .
You choices make into your karma too.
Make choices on your own instead of hoping in destiny
It's not the child's karma or choice it's because of parents choice that the child will suffer entire life ... would you really do that to your child when you know that your child will suffer entire life and with such disabilities generally the mother's health won't be that good and then she has to raise 7 kids and three with disability
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