How to Exit Your “Lazy” Girl Era & Change Your Life | You're Not Lazy or Unmotivated
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Hey Girls!
Welcome to another girl, let's talk. Happy October 1st, I hope September was a good month for you all. I didnt plan on making this video this week but it's something I felt like I needed to get out so I hope it reaches all the right people. There's not that much time until 2024 and I want you guys to go into the new yeart with the confidence that comes along with doing the things you said you would do. I've struggled with consistency for a long time and I'm sure it's something a lot of us struggle with. The way I overcame it is something I've never heard anyone talk about and I felt the need to sit down and share it with you guys, hope it helps. Love you all! ✨🧚🏽♂️
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♡ Contents Of Video ♡
00:00 - Intro
01:43 - The Reason Behind “Starting Over”
07:42 - The Very First step - Build Your Vision
10:26 - Build Your Vision - Pick 4 Areas to Focus On
11:32 - Build Your Vision - Scripting
14:09 - Build Your Vision - Goal Setting Method
16:00 - Build Your Vision - Monthly Reflection & Vision Boards
18:37 - Become Stubborn & Make Your Vision Attractive
21:18 - What To Do When you Want To Give Up Again
21:31 - Step 1: Don't Let Yourself Drown In That Moment
23:44 - Step 2: Remind Yourself of Your Vision
24:16 - Step 3: Remind Yourself of Your Anti-Vision
24:45 - Step 4: Build an Environment
25:54 - Hold Yourself Accountable
26:41 - Stop Trying To Do More Than Your Supposed To
27:43 - Outro
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Honestly you know when they say God sends people in your life for a reason, I feel like God put you on my fyp for a reason 💖 the way I sat down with my journal taking notes, all I can really say is Thank you 💝❤
My heart can't takeee it 🥹🥹🥹 I love you sooo much and I'm so grateful to god that he's lead you here. I pray we can grow together and if we don't unite in this life than the next i'a 🩷
Ameen 😭😭💖 ily too
I literally had the same thought when I clicked on this video!
Exactly what I came to say
felt this ❤
"You are nothing less than the other person who is able to do it." 🥺❤
your not 🫶🏾
This ❤
Watching this on 28th APril done nothing this month I'm feeling defeated but i don wanna give up this . As a candidate i need to hear this . I believe this is my year . Wish luck
to all the girls we got this babes
Yesssss we dooo 💪🏾💪🏾
May Allah reward you immensely for helping me and the community- thank you, you are an angel. I am a law student and I really needed this
Allahumma ameen! Thank you so much for the kind words and Allahumma barikk, may Allah allow for you to succeed in all that you embark on 🤍
Wow it’s December 17th and I’m seeing this and it resonates with me. I keep dragging my feet to get things done. I’m so close to the end and then I get lazy and tired. This video was meant for me.
There's a Rumi poem that embodies what I hear you saying about feelings at 6:26 -
“This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honourably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.”
❤
I'm writing this at the end of my journal, InshAllah (God willing). I love it❤ thank you for sharing ✌🏽
I keep nodding for every point she talks,,as a 17 yr old feeling like I was losing again,,I needed this, thankyou,,
This video came at the perfect time. Lately I’ve been following something called the 12 week year and it’s helped me achieve a major goal. Looking at your big goals and turning them into smaller goals definitely helps and focusing on a few things at a time. You honestly don’t need to wait until the new year to start. I think a lot of us fall victim to saying we’ll start “tomorrow.” Start today!
Where can I find the 12 week year pls
That’s such a good concept 12 week year ! 😊
I just started back reading the book. I did really good the first part of the year, but then fell off.
@@NANa-sn2rhit’s a book. It’s a really great concept
@@fitnessa4747get back to it, now is the time 😊
I’m a woman and straight. Girl. I’m mesmerized by your beauty 😮 Wow
You’re makeup is on point every.single.Time😍🔥🔥
Thank you sooo much 😩 might have to do a updated tutorial 🩷
I'm just binge watching my sweet Bhaja! I am at work going through all of of this Playlist because THIS is that year that we move the needle and change the record. Thank you love for just being you!❤
I got that same feeling when starting out with the gym. Every single time before going in, so many negative thoughts tried to make me turn around and go home. However, I decided to keep going regardless and now it's part of my routine
I hope this becomes me 😭😅. I get so much anxiety and feel like everyone is staring at me 😅
I literally set this video at speed 1.75. I have a test week in 3 days and I really have to work hard now. This video is literally all the information I learned last school year and this school year with the guidance I receive through school. I really appreciate this video, especially when I am at home and my supervisor cannot remind me to do my best (after years of working too hard i got into a burnout and lost most of my dicipline so i am trying to gain that back now. Also, i am in my last year of school before going to college so this is litterally my last chance of getting my diploma because this is my third last schoolyear (first last year i was burned out so i stopped certain subjects, second last year I tried working hard again but still failed exam because of procrastination as usual and now this is my last year and i am in my first period ). thank you a lot🌸🌸🌸
Awe your around the same age as my little sister 🥺 I'm so glad you found this helpful! I pray for your success in school and everything you peruse afterwards. Be kind to yourself, be patient and stay hopeful! Rooting for you 🥹🩷
You got this
I am also having the same problem burnt out to the extent I can't study and keep on procrastinating, even if i wanted to do those things
I am glad you made this comment that i could see I am not alone
Let's work together and to our best! Thank you so much
You are a blessing in our life💗 what I want right now is literally just financial freedom
Aweeeeeee, you're a blessing in mine! I promise you if you get extremely clear on what you want and you think and feel positively about it, and you cultivate patience you will have it. Pray for it and take action towards it and inshallah you will see it manifest into your reality.
Me too
Your are honestly one of the best people i love to watch when i need that lil push!!
I needed to hear this so bad 😭may Allah swt bless you part2 pls!❤️
This is exactly what I needed. I appreciate you for this!
Bahja this is the second video of yours that has helped me during my time of transition. I’m really grateful for you. Thank you for being a light and thinking of all of us ❤
This is exactly what I needed to hear, Thank You
girl, you are spitting straight-up facts. loved this video
This video came at the perfect time for me! Today I got really tired of constantly breaking my own promise, so I got up early and did everything I told myself I would do. Thank u so much for ur wise words Bahja, they truly inspire me to always keep going and work towards my dreams
You just blessed me in so many ways. As a Virgo, I just love how you organized this. Everything feels so clear now.
The new year 2024 is coming soon and this video came just in time! ❤ Thank-you
this is the most beautiful, comprehensive approach to manifestation, introspection, goal setting, mindful living, and overall choosing a better life and greater presence i have ever seen. thank you so so much for your work, i now have a framework for moving forward after floundering for so long. thank you so so much!! 💕
Thank you for this video and piece of advice. Tbh this is exactly how I’ve been feeling and I’ve been stuck in a constant cycle and it’s driving me insane. I have been deeply craving change but I could never carry it out completely and this video really taught me a lot. To whoever else who reads this, you are not alone❤️.
I'm so happy you found this video helpful. Im proud of you and I'm rooting for your success 🩷
When you mentioned speak as your highest self got to me emotionally. I need to do it more often. New subby. Thank you🩵
You literally put into words all my problems, i thought it was only me
thank you for this! i came across this video exactly when i needed it
Oh my God Bahja I really needed this today thank you
thank you for being such a big inspiration bahja
I love self help kind of content and it’ll be so amazing and refreshing seeing it from a fellow Muslim can’t wait to binge watch all your videos and achieve all my goals along with you!!
May Allah allow us to reach our full potential, Allahumma ameen. 🥹🩷
This video got me to finally get up and clean my room. For me that’s a big step on moving forward and taking accountability!
Proud of you 💕💕
Absolutely adored this video, thank you so much for sharing your light and wisdom with us. I am so excited for this month!
Yayyy I'm excited as well! I love you more than life 🩷
Thank you bahja, I think God sent you to me in the right timing, I'm going to throw a hard time not knowing what to do with my life and then you popped up in my youtube page, it's meant to be for me to hear your words.
God bless you
Hello from Uzbekistan❤. I just wanted you to know that you are making those, who you do not even know, motivated and eager to live with activeness. You are so perfect and energetic lady🤗.
Thanks so much,you are the big sister we never had
I was feeling so unmotivated and was so disappointed in myself this past month because i just finished hs and uni classes in our country hasn’t started and I’m always lying in bed and watching tiktoks everyday which i lost interests too because i knew this wasn’t me and this days i was trying to motivate my self and work on myself and get closer to my religion too but i lose motivation easily and today i was so tired of going from apps to apps so i opened youtube and I found your video and for some reason i never take videos like this seriously but when i was your video I literally just brought my journal and started writing what you saying and I’m one pf this people who don’t have vision or don’t know what to do in life and what there purpose is but i feel like this vid helped me alot and I wanted to thank you🩷 i hope you live long beautiful and happy life🫶🏼
Excuse my spelling🤭
Oh my god I love you and your modesty. I am in a struggle phase girl, I am stuck, I am in phase the enter in depression, I plan so many things but at the same time I doesn't do any thing
SubhanAllah sister, I was literally feeling as if I was in a constant rut and have been asking Allah to help me with my terrible procrastination. Through His Mercy He guided me to this video, you're such a star, thank you for sharing your wisdom I'm definitely going to subscribe ❤️ may Allah reward you for your beautiful efforts!
Awwwn your vulnerability here is powerful❤ I hope we’ll all be able to be consistent
You absolutely can be angel! And every time you fall get your butt back up 😭🩷
What's so crazy is I've literally been in such a rut....so depressed. And this was posted on my birthday, I needed to see this.
I literally need this! Thank you so much!
This really motivated me to not give up on myself thankyouuu ❤❤❤
You know what ( wish you read this )
Just yesterday i opened my planner note book to planning i found that the last time i did a to do list is on 2 October , I felt frustrated and said to myself that I am an undisciplined person and will never be like that.
Today I found your video and that was just like a light in the dark , Thank you bahja so much ❤
Thank you sooo muchhhhh
I have never been understood by anyone as much as by you and it's my sign, i believe to get working and reach where i have always desired!!
You sooo soo welcome! Believe it or not a lot of us go through similar struggles and I knew that if I shared this it would reach people who also need it so this makes me really happy 🥹🫶🏾
You hit the nail on the head. Very helpful video.❤
WE Appreciate your help❤ thankyou so much😊
This is the first time I’ve seen you on my home page and I instantly decided to follow you because even just this video was so inspiring
Aweeee I'm so happy you found it inspiring and it's an honor to have you be apart of our little community 🥹🫶🏾🫶🏾
i wanna say '' you are gorgeous'' bahja😍
Thank you so much for this wisdom 💜💜💜 Helps me 1000%
Thanks for making this video, it's really helpful and inspairing ❤
Watching this in the middle of November but I have to make a change and STICK to it. I’m so tired of stoping and starting
I needed this, especially before the new year. Thank you for being so motivational, May Allah bless you.
Allahumma ameennn !! I'm so glad 🫶🏾
Inspiring video! I came across it just at the right time, thank you girl :)
Thank you so much for this video! I’ve been feeling so down mentally lately it was very hard not to give up. You reminded me that I moved to a foreign country all alone to chase my dreams and not mop around
wow, you already did something that would be extremely hard for a lot of us to do. Im proud of you, please be gentle with yourself and pick yourself back up every time. I'm rooting for you 🥹🤍
Bahja thank you for this. I love youu❤❤❤
I love you sooooo much more 🤍
Truly amazing video! Just what I needed to hear.
Love this so much! Really helped me
Thankyou so much for sharing all your knowledge! Love you and your videos, you make my day🩷
Aweee I love you dearly. Seeing your comments really make my day, thank you for the kind words 🥺🩷
I feel the bahja when I see you 🥺 keep going girl you really do inspire us ❤ all the love from Morocco to you 🇲🇦🤍
I love you so muchh!!!!
Thankyou so much Bahja its Sayneb i've been quiet recently but forever wishing you success in silent , don't ever stop Ma Sha Allah.❤
I love you so muchhhh sayneb! Thank you for the endless support, it means the world to me. 🫶🏾🫶🏾 my fav girl
I love how in all your videos it sounds like we are talking and your sister/friend who is encourages me to do better. May allah bless you immensely💕
Allahumma ameen! Awe y'all are literal sisters and I love you so much 🫶🏾
I literally needed this I been missing work Constantly n need prayers laziness leave my body
I just started the video but girl, this scarf was made for you! ✨✨✨
Ahhh thank you! I actually stole it from my mom lol so imma tell her "it was made for meeee" 😭🩷
manshaAllah thank you sis this was so helpful ❤❤
I had to rewatch the video because first time i was too distracted by your beauty 😭
Jazakallah khairan ❤
Thank you so much for this video ❤
Thank you Bahja for the tips and motivation
I got you always 🩷🩷
first of all, you are absolutely Gorgeous (just had to say it) & thank you so much for your advice. The timing of me running into this video couldn't have been more perfect. I will be trying the scripting method.
Thank you so much 🥹💕
GURL!!!! Youuuu are speaking HAQQ!!! 🥰😍🥹
You dont know how much of an impact your having on us ❤❤❤❤ as a young muslimah it is obvious to encounter challenges, one way i like to cope is by watchibg vedios of muslimahs that i cab relate to , and to this day honestly, your vedios are tge best i have come by , also this vedio is really good and informative i loveeeee it ❤
Subscribed in 2 seconds😍 you're GORGEOUS mashallah❤️
OBSESSED WITH THIS HIJAB AND IM NOT EVEN A HIJABI BUT I HAVE BEEN CONTEMPLATING WEARING IT FOR A WHILE NOW. PLEASE DO A TUTORIAL ON THIS BABEEEE
i feel it's not enough to listened without taking note i need to take note 😩 thanks ❤
Period! You so welcome angel 🤍
So excited to see the Cameroon vlog 🥹❤️🇨🇲🫶🏽
This is the first time I come across your Channel and I want to say thank you for this video and god bless you 🤲✨
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I needed this!!!! Thank you!
I really needed this video to get off my couch
Omg everything you said is exactly what I've been going through for so long😭
I can't believe you have only 10k subs. Wtf? You are golden.
12k today!
18.9k subscribers today!
20 k✨
26.7k 🎉❤
I am a young muslim ambitious so it is really a blessing to discover you and your teaching meant alot thank you keep going the good work love you
Love you 🤍 your video helped so much!! Thank you, thank you! May Allah bless you 🤍
JazakAllah khair ❤️
Blessings to you.. very inspiring 🎉
decided to watch this while I do laundry, because as you said it so well, I am exhausted from bouncing back to square 1 on my goals.
her aesthetics: 💅disney princess vibes 💅
💖 Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video. So many people need this. It’s pretty tough when the goalpost of your life goals and ideas, is constantly being moved. Chronically giving up early is something I’m trying to break free from. I’m hoping that I can start again and actually win this time too. “The feeling will come, and it Will pass.” Thank you for that reminder!
Also! Question: what camera & lens are you using? And are you using lumecube lighting? Thanks in advance!
I am really tired of starting all over again after putting in so much effort. I was thinking about listening to some podcasts that would help me in this regard, and from nowhere, your video popped up in my TH-cam feed. Thanks! ❤️ And you gained a new subscriber.
🫶🏾🫶🏾 I'm rooting for you
@@BahjaAbdi Thanks! ❤❤❤
really appreciate you sister 😊
Imagine i need this n i saw my fyp by accident May allah bless this gurl
Hello Bahja !
This is the first time for me watching your videos and i loved this video and the way you talk
Thank you for this 💙
i love you so much because i relate to you a lot especially since i never see any hijabi “that” girls, you got a new subscriber ❤❤❤
Aweee this makes my heart so full 🥺🫶🏾
TYSM for this i LOVE your tiktok ac im so happy you are on youtube, ur advice is so beneficial it helps me to get started and stop procrastinating. Inshallah all the hard work will pay of ❤❤.
Ahhhhh I love you so much and it makes me the happiest in the world to know that my content has a positive impact on your life 🩷
Honestly, you are saving my life right now! hahah :) Thanks so much! xoxo
I got you boo 🤍
Loved this, mashallah great words ❤
I saw this video and wasn’t going to watch it as I didn’t know if I wanted to, but I clicked on n found the first few mins interesting, picked up notebook n pen n wrote consistent notes through the whole vid. I’m very thankful I came across ur channel new sub now too
Glad you enjoyed it 🥹🩷
You are absolutely stunning!
Thank you so much Angel 🩷
You’re Amazing! I Am Encouraged! Thank You For This!#LetsDoThis!!!!!
I really like your videos💕💕 your content is soo good❤💪