I already loved Beth, but after hearing her discuss how feminine sexuality is inextricably linked with patriarchy I love her even more. She’s right about the beauty industry too, and I say this as someone who rarely leaves the house without a full face of makeup that I wear “for me.”
I never wear makeup. When I do, not only, can I not wait to get home and take it off, I’m also surprised at how many people look at me like they are looking at me for the first time like wow. I get comments about how beautiful I am when I have make up on. But I feel more beautiful when I don’t.
I've always been one thst couldn't leave the house without at least eyeliner. Then I got an infection in my eye and couldn't wear eye makeup for 6 months. Now I'm more comfortable being barefaced.
I just saw her on another podcast, maybe Whitney Cummings, wearing the same dress. I wonder if she had to shoot everybody’s podcast in the same day or if that is just her favorite dress.
The cut after "a lake of squirt" was so awkward and freakin hilarious and immediately makes you think "okay, what just happened that they had to cut out a whole section and leave a strange cut in its place lol.
I know the Dad doesn’t do feelings but it sounds like he just needs reassurance that you love him and that when you meet your actual Dad it will take nothing AT ALL away from your relationship. It sounds like he is just scared. But it’s coming from a place of love.
Jamie, you have every right to meet your biological dad and not feel guilty about it. Your parents both clearly knew, deep down. At the very least, you deserve to know that side's health history. When you go to therapy with your mom, do it with no ulterior motives (like getting your dad on board eventually). It's great that your mom is willing to go and this could end up creating a deeper bond with her.❤
If anyone’s down here reading about period stuff, please don’t ever just rip a diva cup out by the stem. I made that mistake. You gotta use a finger to break the suction first, otherwise big ow
I feel like you created a vacuum on your cervix and thats why it hurt. It does create a seal, so you use your finger to pop the seal otherwise you are basically sucking your cervix out if you just pull it out but I believe the same thing can happen when putting it in.. Like how cupping works.. So make sure it expands all the way in there before you create the seal, otherwise that baby sucking out the cerv. I also agree with the pad idea that it feels like it gets it all out. I hate pads but after being lifelong tampon girl, I used period underwear and I SWEAR my period was over in just one or two days, as opposed to 5 with tampons period underwear are great. They don't feel like pads at all
Tampons, until even the jumbo size couldn’t stop the flow. Every time I was out of the house I’d have to check behind me for blood. Ruined so many uniforms and underwear. Pads were hideous back in the day; the humongous absorbent logs came with weird flaps on the front and back-with zero explanation-which evidently used to attach to an actual belt back on my moms day… ugh. They chafe, leak, slip, clump. No thanks! So happy to be in full menopause due to removal of my ovaries and uterus. Turns out the heavy flows and random clumps were due to scar tissue binding my lady parts to the wall of my abdomen. Ouch. Love being a woman. Adore being a mom. Relieved women are finally talking!!! Happy to be free of the mess and the pain. 😬
There’s definitely a learning curve with a menstrual cup, but once you get how it works with your anatomy it makes life so much easier. I had a lot of issues with leaking and discomfort until I figured it out and now I’m so glad I didn’t throw in the towel. Besides the environmental and health implications, you also save moneyyy!
Yeah the suction is the main issue. It creates a seal so knowing that you have to break the seal when removing it, I feel like you could easily accidentally squeeze all the air out of it when putting it in so if it opens a certain way, it could create a suction too. I experience the same thing that she described once with a diva cup and I had no idea why it hurt SOO bad compared to all the other times but now I think it probably was because there was some sort of suction happening inside
...a like ; uno...😁😂...2:33... in the song " Flakes ," Zappa describes a verse : " the plumber said : 'never flush a tampoon ... ' from the album ' Shiek Yer Bouti .'
I LOVE YOU, RACHEL💕 i didn't hear "oversharing" (I am a scorpio moon), i heard someone that wanted to be heard, and thas totally fine )and Rachel's totally fine too 💅🏾). Speaking our truths out loud assist us with finding solutions. Ms. R wanted input from smart women. I totally get it. The first caller was totally fine too, just sayinnnnn.
Sorry, Rachel. The women of the podcast didn't pass the vibe check. This isn't just about Patriarchy Or Nah (speaking to Beth's view). It's about Women Envisioning New Modalities Of Owning Our Sexualities. And just because they didn't affirm that quest, which many women of all ages are engaged with (Miranda July's new novel is an example), doesn't make Rachel wrong, it just makes Beth & Natasha unqualified to hold space for these new frontiers. ❤
They do! My periods were a like 5 days to a week using tampons my whole life and then I went to period underwear and they're like 2 days now. It's crazy
Do the period underwear work for overnight protection ? I am so upset that I just leaked blood all over my sheets and I was wearing a tampon!@@Naejakire3
I think that is the big difference with cis men and cis het women, is that men were boys where doing what feels good and it being fun for them was not nearly as shamed about it in their upbringing as cis het women. ALSO, in the days when sex ed and birth control was no where to be found, men could insist that a pregnancy was not their doing and/or run from the responsibility and women were pretty well stuck with going to term with the pregnancy, then expected to raise the kid or give it up for adoption (or sometimes the child taken away to be aborted after birth by a family that could not stand the social stigma), which was psychologically damaging to the child...all while the bio-dad is going around fucking other people without a care. So women have been brought up culturally and by evolution to have a sense of the _heavy_ responsibility that they could be saddled with. But, since women are not a monolith, some women can have sex for fun and still feel secure in that all involved are doing their part in protecting each other. I'm sure they still feel the heaviness in the back of their mind of _what if..._ which might enhance sex with a sense of danger or "naughtiness?" And all that is just if the sex is consensual.
Tampons are uncomfortable. Also, they cause infection, dry you out, etc. and they’re difficult to get out. They expand and it’s much larger and more uncomfortable as the time goes on. Pads are easy. I’ll use a tampon in an emergency or situation that warrants it. Period panties are okay for lighter days. The cup is too intimidating. You have to reach in there with more than one finger to pull it out?!
I can imagine the cup is painful, because when you get a Pap smear you get that cramping pain. And if anyone’s ever had an endometrial biopsy, that’s like someone with daggers fighting their way out of your uterus. I threw up from the pain. I’m not sure why they don’t give patients painkillers or put them under for that. Probably because we’re not men 😅.
I just recently found out that you're not supposed to flush tampons too Natasha!?! All these years and I can't believe I never knew this??? Oops... 🤫😂❤️✨
I don’t understand unless you actually never used a public restroom in your life. There are signs everywhere that say “don’t flush tampons /feminine products/ sanitary napkins”. Can’t miss them.
Same. I knew you don't flush pads but tampons? No idea until recently. I thought the signs meant pads. It feels so weird to dispose of a blood soaked tampon in the garbage..
I never see signs that say, don’t flush tampons. I’ve been flushing tampons for over 30 years, except for when I lived in Spain, and when I lived in Mexico.@@JDMimeTHEFIRST
Hm, except he’s loved her all this time and she’s been another man’s bio child that whole time. Also, Jamie said he’d made a comment thinking out-loud that maybe he suspected on some level but pushes that thought away. His greatest fear seems to be losing his daughter to the other guy-no longer being her bff, losing their connection.
Beth I just wanted to let you know that when I where pads, my period lasts for 5 days. When I use tampons it lasts for 4. Having the cotton inside seems to draw it out faster for me.
I just want to know where the hell my period went. Mine usually only lasts a few days, regular flow for 2-3 days, then very light and ends at least 5. But at the beginning of August, I had a period and then spotting for two weeks.! And since then, nothing. Like wtf? Was that the grand finale? I’m younger than Natasha. I should still be getting a period.
Try having a bicornuate uterus. (I think Beth also has one) 😊. I always wondered why I bleed for more days than most women report. I was like “3 days? I wish”
i feel badly for the second caller. they did not help literally at all. natasha was really judgmental and also rushing her off the phone. they probably shouldn’t have taken that call though. if it were just moshe, maybe. but beth and natasha? the worst ppl to go to for that scenario. they asked a ton of questions (only to derail and judge the explanations) that took up the time and didn’t give any advice except “organize your time” lol that was the worst call i think so far
The second caller was exhausting. All this talk about the different sexual terms was totally unnecessary and seemed kind of juvenile. She seemed like she needs attention, sorry. Otherwise I loved Beth being back.
I know better than to comment mid-listen, but good god this story RN with Jamie/23andMe Dad Discovery...it's so heartwarming!! I bet non-bio-dad is just afraid of losing his girls. 🥹 That was wonderful.
@@jaimie547holy shit, didn't expect to find you in the comments! I'm so happy it all turned out well! What was your bio-dad's reaction to this revelation?
I already loved Beth, but after hearing her discuss how feminine sexuality is inextricably linked with patriarchy I love her even more. She’s right about the beauty industry too, and I say this as someone who rarely leaves the house without a full face of makeup that I wear “for me.”
Go barefaced babe❣️You’re beautiful just as you are
I never wear makeup. When I do, not only, can I not wait to get home and take it off, I’m also surprised at how many people look at me like they are looking at me for the first time like wow. I get comments about how beautiful I am when I have make up on. But I feel more beautiful when I don’t.
@@HH-gv8mx you’re perfect just as you are 💜
I've always been one thst couldn't leave the house without at least eyeliner. Then I got an infection in my eye and couldn't wear eye makeup for 6 months. Now I'm more comfortable being barefaced.
She is hilarious live, and her Netflix special is great, too.
EXCELLENT callers, coupled with a Top 5 guest (Beth Stelling) ... maybe the best show of the year? Keep doing what you're doing, producer Laura 👏
I just saw her on another podcast, maybe Whitney Cummings, wearing the same dress. I wonder if she had to shoot everybody’s podcast in the same day or if that is just her favorite dress.
1:14:05 "I ... feel ... tired." God I love this podcast!
Beth really is one of the best stand ups out there.
The cut after "a lake of squirt" was so awkward and freakin hilarious and immediately makes you think "okay, what just happened that they had to cut out a whole section and leave a strange cut in its place lol.
I lost my dad last year. Just make sure your parents know how much you love them, don’t let potential misunderstandings fester.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your Dad is still with you always 💜
Holy guacamole! The last caller was exhausting. Moshe summed it up perfectly!
Jamie might be the best caller you’ve ever had. Seriously. ❤
This is Jaimie, thank you so much ❤
Beth is the damn best. Needs to be so much more of her around this web. ❤
I had no idea what the point of the second caller was, felt lost and dazed at the end of it lmao 😂
But fun episode nonetheless!
(Goin' waaay back) ..to "Tubbin' with 'Tash" on JASH, the 2:23 Flick was part of S.Silverman's demo of making "Folk Art" on the neighbor's windshield
The way Moshe said “no I don’t SPOON my Mom” omg this episode is sending me
I love the callback to the gen z vocab episode
@@gingerhitzke9185 omg nice catch!! hahaha we got that Riz, no cap 🧢
I could listen to period talk all day (b/w Tash & Beth.)
I love how you can see Beth say “holy shit” at the very end
1:14:42 the way you can see Beth saying HOLY SHIT at the end because of that 2nd caller hahahaha
omg I wish I could have listened to their after-pod conversation!!! Holy shit is right!! And they cut out a bunch too!
I was just watching the last Beth Stelling podcast were mayor cutie puked behind her and now there is a new episode with Beth ✨✨
omg I literally watched that yesterday
Omg I had totally forgotten about that 😂
watched beth’s special in the middle of this, and it was great 👍 several killer lines
I know the Dad doesn’t do feelings but it sounds like he just needs reassurance that you love him and that when you meet your actual Dad it will take nothing AT ALL away from your relationship. It sounds like he is just scared. But it’s coming from a place of love.
This 100%!
Natasha Legerro is my favorite native american italian jewish comedian ❤
Jamie, you have every right to meet your biological dad and not feel guilty about it. Your parents both clearly knew, deep down. At the very least, you deserve to know that side's health history. When you go to therapy with your mom, do it with no ulterior motives (like getting your dad on board eventually). It's great that your mom is willing to go and this could end up creating a deeper bond with her.❤
Thank you so much! I met him (he’s amaze) and my parents and I are all going to therapy (both their choice!) so we’re making it through ❤
Everyones glasses are great
If anyone’s down here reading about period stuff, please don’t ever just rip a diva cup out by the stem. I made that mistake. You gotta use a finger to break the suction first, otherwise big ow
Love this episode being a Ghanaian! ☺️☺️☺️
I feel like you created a vacuum on your cervix and thats why it hurt. It does create a seal, so you use your finger to pop the seal otherwise you are basically sucking your cervix out if you just pull it out but I believe the same thing can happen when putting it in.. Like how cupping works.. So make sure it expands all the way in there before you create the seal, otherwise that baby sucking out the cerv.
I also agree with the pad idea that it feels like it gets it all out. I hate pads but after being lifelong tampon girl, I used period underwear and I SWEAR my period was over in just one or two days, as opposed to 5 with tampons period underwear are great. They don't feel like pads at all
This episode should have been called Warm Wife
Her special was really good. Her jokes are nonchalantly on top each other.
Tampons, until even the jumbo size couldn’t stop the flow. Every time I was out of the house I’d have to check behind me for blood. Ruined so many uniforms and underwear.
Pads were hideous back in the day; the humongous absorbent logs came with weird flaps on the front and back-with zero explanation-which evidently used to attach to an actual belt back on my moms day… ugh. They chafe, leak, slip, clump. No thanks!
So happy to be in full menopause due to removal of my ovaries and uterus. Turns out the heavy flows and random clumps were due to scar tissue binding my lady parts to the wall of my abdomen. Ouch.
Love being a woman.
Adore being a mom.
Relieved women are finally talking!!!
Happy to be free of the mess and the pain.
😬
Ow ow ow so sorry to hear you endured that for decades
There’s definitely a learning curve with a menstrual cup, but once you get how it works with your anatomy it makes life so much easier. I had a lot of issues with leaking and discomfort until I figured it out and now I’m so glad I didn’t throw in the towel. Besides the environmental and health implications, you also save moneyyy!
Yeah the suction is the main issue. It creates a seal so knowing that you have to break the seal when removing it, I feel like you could easily accidentally squeeze all the air out of it when putting it in so if it opens a certain way, it could create a suction too. I experience the same thing that she described once with a diva cup and I had no idea why it hurt SOO bad compared to all the other times but now I think it probably was because there was some sort of suction happening inside
lmao I literally made the exact same joke to myself as that caller said "i took a DNA test..."
Sheesh.. Natasha caked up 17:40 😍🥰
Diva Cup for life!!
I wear menstrual panties and it’s been a game changer
No leakage?
“Those are made from wood, like clogs” - Moshe I love you
...a like ; uno...😁😂...2:33... in the song " Flakes ," Zappa describes a verse : " the plumber said : 'never flush a tampoon ... ' from the album ' Shiek Yer Bouti .'
Hey!!! I'm a Sagitarrius.....you're right!
who wrote the theme song
it’s so good
I LOVE YOU, RACHEL💕 i didn't hear "oversharing" (I am a scorpio moon), i heard someone that wanted to be heard, and thas totally fine )and Rachel's totally fine too 💅🏾). Speaking our truths out loud assist us with finding solutions. Ms. R wanted input from smart women. I totally get it.
The first caller was totally fine too, just sayinnnnn.
Sorry, Rachel. The women of the podcast didn't pass the vibe check.
This isn't just about Patriarchy Or Nah (speaking to Beth's view). It's about Women Envisioning New Modalities Of Owning Our Sexualities. And just because they didn't affirm that quest, which many women of all ages are engaged with (Miranda July's new novel is an example), doesn't make Rachel wrong, it just makes Beth & Natasha unqualified to hold space for these new frontiers. ❤
Beth loves that dress.
I'm definitely with Beth that tampons prolong your period.
They do! My periods were a like 5 days to a week using tampons my whole life and then I went to period underwear and they're like 2 days now. It's crazy
Do the period underwear work for overnight protection ? I am so upset that I just leaked blood all over my sheets and I was wearing a tampon!@@Naejakire3
I think that is the big difference with cis men and cis het women, is that men were boys where doing what feels good and it being fun for them was not nearly as shamed about it in their upbringing as cis het women. ALSO, in the days when sex ed and birth control was no where to be found, men could insist that a pregnancy was not their doing and/or run from the responsibility and women were pretty well stuck with going to term with the pregnancy, then expected to raise the kid or give it up for adoption (or sometimes the child taken away to be aborted after birth by a family that could not stand the social stigma), which was psychologically damaging to the child...all while the bio-dad is going around fucking other people without a care. So women have been brought up culturally and by evolution to have a sense of the _heavy_ responsibility that they could be saddled with.
But, since women are not a monolith, some women can have sex for fun and still feel secure in that all involved are doing their part in protecting each other. I'm sure they still feel the heaviness in the back of their mind of _what if..._ which might enhance sex with a sense of danger or "naughtiness?"
And all that is just if the sex is consensual.
We all know this espisode should be called Peg Day
Tampons are uncomfortable. Also, they cause infection, dry you out, etc. and they’re difficult to get out. They expand and it’s much larger and more uncomfortable as the time goes on. Pads are easy. I’ll use a tampon in an emergency or situation that warrants it. Period panties are okay for lighter days.
The cup is too intimidating. You have to reach in there with more than one finger to pull it out?!
I can imagine the cup is painful, because when you get a Pap smear you get that cramping pain. And if anyone’s ever had an endometrial biopsy, that’s like someone with daggers fighting their way out of your uterus. I threw up from the pain. I’m not sure why they don’t give patients painkillers or put them under for that. Probably because we’re not men 😅.
And they're bleached
I just recently found out that you're not supposed to flush tampons too Natasha!?! All these years and I can't believe I never knew this??? Oops... 🤫😂❤️✨
I don’t understand unless you actually never used a public restroom in your life. There are signs everywhere that say “don’t flush tampons /feminine products/ sanitary napkins”. Can’t miss them.
@@JDMimeTHEFIRST sanitary napkins I thought just meant pads. Idk?
@@JDMimeTHEFIRST I’ll never forget hearing that, in the plumbing industry, they’re called “white mice.”
🐁 What a mental image. You’re welcome;-)
Same. I knew you don't flush pads but tampons? No idea until recently. I thought the signs meant pads. It feels so weird to dispose of a blood soaked tampon in the garbage..
I never see signs that say, don’t flush tampons. I’ve been flushing tampons for over 30 years, except for when I lived in Spain, and when I lived in Mexico.@@JDMimeTHEFIRST
the dads greatest fear is him not being able to love another mans child
Hm, except he’s loved her all this time and she’s been another man’s bio child that whole time. Also, Jamie said he’d made a comment thinking out-loud that maybe he suspected on some level but pushes that thought away.
His greatest fear seems to be losing his daughter to the other guy-no longer being her bff, losing their connection.
Beth I just wanted to let you know that when I where pads, my period lasts for 5 days. When I use tampons it lasts for 4. Having the cotton inside seems to draw it out faster for me.
I just want to know where the hell my period went. Mine usually only lasts a few days, regular flow for 2-3 days, then very light and ends at least 5. But at the beginning of August, I had a period and then spotting for two weeks.! And since then, nothing. Like wtf? Was that the grand finale? I’m younger than Natasha. I should still be getting a period.
@HH-gv8mx well, if you dont feel like you're at an appropriate age for menopause then you might want to take a pregnancy test.
@@HH-gv8mxthe covid vaccines have also affected a lot of women's menstruation
I didn’t notice any difference with my period after I got the shot. But it did go wild after getting sick with Covid last year. @@clevermissfox
@@HH-gv8mx maybe it's the Antibodies whether it's from the virus or the vaccine. Has it stayed wild?
Three Divas 😂😂😂
If you’re looking for all the wrong information, this episode is most definitely for you
1:02:00😅
I'm feeling faint from all the talk of blood
I get it, I’m squeamish _and_ anemic.
🅰️🅱️🆎🅾️💉🩸
Try having a bicornuate uterus. (I think Beth also has one) 😊. I always wondered why I bleed for more days than most women report. I was like “3 days? I wish”
22 yr old pad wearer/period panty wearer. i hate tampons only wear if im swimming
Me too! Your period stops when you’re swimming btw
If your plate is full why try to throw dating into that?
Because she is a whole person with needs
I'm Here (4) Mosher
im a bad girl with toilet paper rolled up the lips u stay dry ladies :)
Dayton in the house!
Condolences
@@randomdude5938 Thanks. I left.
@@camhabibi2217good call.
Thats tight.
What even was the second caller's question
i feel badly for the second caller. they did not help literally at all. natasha was really judgmental and also rushing her off the phone. they probably shouldn’t have taken that call though. if it were just moshe, maybe. but beth and natasha? the worst ppl to go to for that scenario. they asked a ton of questions (only to derail and judge the explanations) that took up the time and didn’t give any advice except “organize your time” lol
that was the worst call i think so far
Maybe im in the minority but I had to turn this episode off towards the end. Beth has very interesting views towards ENM and it’s V judgy.
The second caller was exhausting. All this talk about the different sexual terms was totally unnecessary and seemed kind of juvenile. She seemed like she needs attention, sorry. Otherwise I loved Beth being back.
She sounded excited about her personal growth
I know better than to comment mid-listen, but good god this story RN with Jamie/23andMe Dad Discovery...it's so heartwarming!! I bet non-bio-dad is just afraid of losing his girls. 🥹 That was wonderful.
Yeah, so glad she called in and got some great advice and could process a bit
Thank you so much! I met my bio dad and my parents are working really hard to be okay. Im a lucky girl ❤
@@jaimie547holy shit, didn't expect to find you in the comments! I'm so happy it all turned out well!
What was your bio-dad's reaction to this revelation?