Right. He said it this ep. He said she belittled him, and was better than him. All of it was in his head. The only thing we saw Emem do is ask serious questions about his expectation and type of marriage he wants and how do they create that together. He talking like a playa saying, I just want to go with the flow. I feel this was a complete publicity stunt. No one should buy his book, no one, don't even check it out in a library. After this he is going to have to use a pseudonym
The scary part is he passed ALL the interviews, assessments, and evaluations for getting on that show, to be someone's HUSBAND!! These abusers sure know how to MASK!
@sherriew36 Nah, the process just isn't as stringent as they try to make it seem. The producers recruit people based on the storylines they want to create.
I've said it before and I'll say it again. IKECHI IS DANGEROUS!!! Men like him will ruin your reputation and degrade you in order to protect his own reputation. He doesn't care about being honest since he goes into victim mode and as such, his partner become the villian all because he is never ever in the wrong. He needs therapy. He definitely does not need a wife.
I highly commend Shawn on doing an outstanding job with meticulously explaining, defining, & clarifying some of the terms & issues that were discussed. I am extremely grateful for your participation on the panel & your contribution to the Little Black Book 91 Family. You have repeatedly shown up in spite of your challenges.
The only “thing” Enem did was go on a show to find love when, history shows, these shows never do right by black women! She seems to be the most prepared woman here and it just proves that you can have all things and still not be enough. Granted she’s not enough because it’s toward the wrong man but when I tell you this type of stuff chips away at your confidence and spirit when it’s constant? I pray that Enem comes out of this situation stronger than before and he can do downstairs to the hot space.
This is what women talk about when they say men intimidated by their success/intelligence/wealth This DOES exist. I dont care how much men claim there's no such thing as a man being intimidated by a woman. There is. This illustrates how it plays out. Character assasination, smart comments, slander, name calling (often escalating to physical attacks), isolation, public embarassment, sabotage, triangulation, diminishment, and degradation. This is how you see accomplished women who simply want love, ending up as headlines at the hands of jealous, envious, and insecure male partners. And there will still be people that dont believe he was capable of doing it.
100% he asked for exactly what she is and what she stands for . The moment he saw her condo he stopped wanting to be a part of the work. He love bombed her from the start, set the tone and then ran from the tone he set and painted her as a crazy person. SMH
@gorgeousfrazier5903 Truth is people that are fraud assume everyone else is a fraud too. Often, men want a woman that is pretty and not an airhead enough to make them look good but not too much and definitely not smarter or more accomplished than them. I think Emem tried hard to downplay herself but facts are still facts.
100%! It is REAL. Plenty of successful women have experienced the same thing no matter what these men try to deny. Their dynamic was extremely hard to watch.
@brianal7143 The sad part is people will be bent on trying to pin some blame on her.. as if he didn't act as a free independent agent. When in actuality she debunked the common complaints men claim about successful women: Not submissive- She submitted to too much Inflexible- She was willing to contort to his whim Flaunting her achievements- I never heard her even mention them. Putting him down- She boosted his ego and affirmed him even when there was no basis for it. So now what? We need to finally acknowledge the behavior of hating, catty, insecure, jealous envious men..🤷🏾♀️
I experienced this first hand with a guy friend, who was a friend with benefits. Constant belittling, disrespect, smart comments, character assassination. 7 years of stupidity. I stopped associating with him in 2021. Popped up at my home unannounced in 2022. Texted me in 2023. Last contact was 2023. Blocked. Wouldn't leave me alone. He was extremely insecure, broken, narcissistic, a**hole ...especially after I completed my first masters.
Emem’s Cuz peeped him EARLY. And in that moment that he was peeped Ikechi was visibly shaken sitting across from Cuz. Go back and look. Eyes got wide with slight body shudder. Cuz straight forwardness shook him.
Ike is a danger and he hates Emem. Emem needs to stop and LEAVE. He called her an a**hole for no reason. This man is abusive and sick. Em needs to wake up and stop trying.
Unpopular opinion Phill nailed it- he wanted Emem to blow up so he can say see I told you she was aggressive and she took the bait. I would’ve been done with that ninja episodes ago. The signs have been LOUD at least to me
When we say "YAL H@TE US" listen to us! I know it's not ALL, but I have experienced this 3 times in a row since 2020. I acknowledge I have work to do, but this behavior is COMMON and RAMPANT from. BM to BW. As a BW who has prioritized work and is now properly jumping in the serious dating pool, this has been very damaging and jarring. I appreciate this panel so much.
I don’t care what any one says, things didn’t change when he wouldn’t have sex with her. It changed when he saw her house. He is a horrible little man.
Definitely! After that he became very mean. And this past episode he made a comment about how he’s not gonna deal with someone who thinks they are better than him(paraphrasing). But he is very intimidated by her and jealous.
Yes! I noticed that too. He wanted someone he thought was underneath him. He is definitely intimidated by her success. She unintentionally makes him feel small. When he went to her apartment he was envious of everything in there. To play devils advocate though, she did seem a lil clingy in the beginning/honeymoon. She was overly excited to finally have a husband. I think the fact that she was so into him & he wasn't feeling her like that was a turn-off for him. Because she definitely was a little pushy in the beginning. Kept saying "oh my husband, my husband".
This is from a reviewer on Amazon about Ike’s book. Speaks volumes. I liked it. …Until I got to the letter about how his wife can’t be smarter and more successful than him. She must be dumb enough to add to his already inflated sense of self importance or else he will belittle her and call her names, because he is such a little, little man. I knew it was about that house. Everything changed after that.
At what point does the producers, therapist or whomsoever just put a stop to it! Yes, its good tv but its at her mental and emotional expense. This educated, beautiful woman seems to be broken sometimes by this joker! There is NO way in HELL!!! Just sue me bc i am breaking this contract!
Exactly! Which makes me wonder what is actually in MAFS contract vs the other shows because they are almost stuck in these shows abs afterwards, the people still never talk about what happens.
Chris did tell Paige she wasn’t his type. He should have removed himself because Paige lacked the will to do it herself. He continued to exploit her instead. IMO
If this guy is this monstrous to a stranger he essentially married for TV, on TV, I shudder to think of how he treats a girl he actually met organically and developed feelings for, without the cameras and the show.
As a therapist as well, I concur!! I see an angry, traumatized man! He definitely has a few other possible diagnoses and needs therapy or a deliverance session! 🙏🏾 Who hurt you sir?! Go somewhere and heal!!!
I’m friends with Ikechi online. Prior to him being on the show he had an off putting personality on social…very “I’m the prize” energy. It was odd and I couldn’t figure out what about him seemed off especially being that attractive I thought to myself man, black men are a hot commodity what is it with him. This show validated for me exactly why he was single and why his posts on social felt off putting and unattractive to me.
What makes you say black men are a hot commodit The only women that love black men are black women. Other non black women see black men as ! fetish and also if they can get some money. White men are the hottest commodity out there. I don't date white men, but because they have the power and the resources and money they are the hottest commodity.
He’s going way too far and it’s actually dangerous at thing point. This is where the experts needs to say enough is enough and have them dissolve this marriage and let them go their separate ways. It’s very irresponsible on all their parts Shame on them
The only man that scares IKe is Emem cousin, Ike need men in his life that hold him accountable..and I’m mad that none of the men at the table didn’t stand up. For Emem and checked him, the “experts” need to step in because he is verbally abusing her and this isn’t the purpose of this show..great conversation
In fairness, I do think the men at the table tried except Juan who seemed to take Ike's side. But they are limited in how hard they can go bc they dont have all the facts.
He’s gotten away with it because he’s “well spoken” and can always get ahead of whatever story he wants to portray. So in the 30 plus years he’s been dating, every single woman has been the problem? According to him, yes so if he’s spinning the truth, I can see why his folks aren’t as in tuned with him
Ikechi is one of those men that just doesn't like women. I don't mean he's gay, I mean he genuinely does not like women, especially those who are more successful than him. What kind of mentor is he I wonder. He offered no safe space to this black woman.
You guys hit the nail on the head with this one! Watching that scene in how he sat there, gaslit her before she went to the restroom had me hot! And told the men see…horrible
Thank you Phil when he accused her of SA it should have been OVER‼️I was thinking everything he was saying. I thought about the kids in the school system too.
Emem’s Cuz peeped him EARLY. And in that moment that he was peeped Ikechi was visibly shaken sitting across from Cuz. Go back and look. Eyes got wide and slight shudder.
Bottom line is he meant what he said at the end of the episode: he FEELS small and inferior next to Emem so he needs to go back to his tiny life to feel better about himself. She’s not doin anything to make him feel that way, it’s all projection. Which is why when ppl ask him to give examples like Allen did), he deflects and gives vague answers. Because she’s not doing anything!
This is exactly his energy. I was friends with him online prior to him being on the show and his posts on social were very “I’m the prize”it was very unattractive. Very narcissistic.
actually, it's giving me bipolar and lashing out I dated a guy like this.....was never satisfied even though I was doing everything nice and sweet for him and us he was always on edge and freaked out and left I found out later from his ex-wife he was unmedicated and not letting me know the depth of disorder there was nothing I could have done and it was never my fault his ex-wife was real with me and I thank her for that....the unexplainable lashing out its giving mentally unstable anxiety disorder he's emotionally and verbally abusive and needs a therapist ofc asap
The ICK was her condo, he saw her as masculine. He wasn’t that into her anyway, she wasn’t his type and wasn’t attracted to her. So if you’re not attracted to someone and they are financially and education wise is more intelligent and far along in her career he has resentment for her.
Ikech is a Broky and he is intimidated by Emem's success. I find it hard to believe Emem was touching him because he had been hostile and unapproachable.
This man Ikechi can handle that his wife has a good job , at the picnick him looking like wow she really did it again i can top this , because of her status and intelligence he feels belitteld, she does nothing only wants a real response
👑Kojo👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️ you to the entire Black Kings panelist for protecting us Black Queens, we truly appreciate you🫂 💫KARMA💫Ikechi is a clear example of what it looks like to witness when one's heartless soul is experiencing a self-induced karmatic revelation due to him projecting an ugly heart towards Emem. Ikechi's insecurities, psychological abuse/disrespect, projection and jealousy for Emem, entrepreneurial success and livelihood made him realize he is NOT the smartest person in the room. Ikechi intentionally choosing to defame Emem's character thus harming her business reputation is pure evil. ikechi dusplays sociopathic behaviorism. 👀God doesn't like a SELFish 💟
Emem needs to really stop… she just has no idea on how to withdraw herself and to STOP pursuing this man. He’s not interested and her continuing to open herself to him and invite him in, she continues to subject herself to rejection. He’s a jackass and it’s been evident and has only worsened yet she still expects something else from him. All of that double, triple, quadruple texting when he isn’t responding like girl be LESS AVAILABLE. He knows that he has the upper hand and controls the temperature in that situation and she’s allowing it because she wants a man so bad. This is what he means by aggressive because she just doesn’t know when to quit. She isn’t even allowing space for him to warm up to her because she’s forceful as hell. I almost wanted to cry for her when he spoke so poorly to her on their anniversary. She should’ve withdrawn a while ago
I think she is withdrawn. She is just respecting the process of which she decided to participate. I believe she is checked out, she is just respecting production, but ultimately she is trying to protect her image and her business. He is trying to destroy her with no evidence and will probably try to say "the cameras are not always around". She not interested in ikechi, she just getting through the process
this does not excuse his behavior. if he’s disinterested, HE’S the one who needs to leave and remove himself, not berate her out of spite. he’s insecure and intimidated by her and doesn’t want to just say that Emem makes him feel small - that’s why he’s lashing out and that’s the real problem.
@@sashaalexa8518who excused him??? And at the first red flag yes she should’ve left. We watched this progress in the worst way I’m not blaming her for his actions
@@exquisite921 periodTTT. How do they cast these people so perfectly for DRAMA??! Because i wouldve laughed in his clown face and given him my arse to kiss....he has been a joke since the first few interactions with her and i dont get how she can tolerate it. Like i would have literally said "hey, you've gone too far with the word calling". She needs much better boundaries for herself.
Agree. If she would have left him alone a long time ago, he wouldn’t have the opportunity to call her names. Ike is very manipulative and dangerous. There’s no working it out with someone like him.
He gives Bipolar-ish behavior. One minute things were cool the next minute he flips on her. ORRRRRR It could be this hear me out!…. He was intimidated by her (which he showed when he saw her apartment) and when he looks at her and her personality maybe his arrogance makes him feel that she doesn’t deserves what she has compared to him and his insecurities caused him to lash out. It’s like his knee jerk reaction to his insecurity was to tear her down.
Chris is and will remain the worst on MAFS in my eyes. He involved God in it, colorism, he degraded Paige, literally called her ugly, manipulated her all while sleeping with her and having a whole other pregnant ex-fiancee he was still wanting to be with. This was way more (in my opinion) than just being a player. I was soo triggered by that season, my interest towards that show went really low after and since.
You don't want to say it, but I will... He's a narcissist! I was married to one, and he exhibits all of the same characteristics. Call it traits or whatever, but he's definitely exhibiting Narcissist behavior!
Lets be real he is trying to portray her as all the blk woman tropes that spark people to disrespect blk women to say "see this is why they aren't marriage & dating material." Typical & can be seen from a mile away but there will be people that will look at this and say "see, we told yall about them"
This is some crazy behaviour. If he doesn’t come to the reunion with an explanation of specific examples of things we may not have seen as viewers then this is diabolical. This amount of disdain makes zero sense based on what we have seen yet he is so hell bent on making her out to be the villain.
I wouldn’t be surprised if he actually has been to therapy, but he’s one of those people who didn’t actually want to do any work on themselves, went to have their feelings affirmed and learned the language. Those people…dangerous
Ikechi can’t follow-up the majority of the statements he makes, because he’s lying and exaggerating about most of the things he says. He has perfected the art of gaslighting!!
Once EKG realized Emem was far out of his league. He decided to break her down & reject her 'before' she could dump him! What a truly sad, pathetic excuse for a man!
MAFS is all about ratings. After season 3, I didn't watch it again until season 10 with that piece of work "Brandon", and now this season. Why is this show still on? Out of 69 couples only 11 have remained married?
Ikechi is an unhappy man and how he called Emem out in front of the couples was terrible. Thomas, David and Allen step in to let him know they did not like it. He is very disrespectful and yes he is worse than Chris because Chris never called Paige out of her name. He tried to get on MAF several times and they finally put you on the show and you are showing your butt! Everything you said Black Book is on point. She never disrespected him and he has did it continuously! When the ladies came back from the ladies room, what did he do got up and left. He should have left before they came back to the table.
I think this is an accurate reflection of some of the dating experience(s) Black women face. A man will dislike you and treat you like crap because he doesn't think you deserve love.
He's just like that other dude thst did the same thing to that girl back three or four years ago. I can't think of either one of their Names. But they need to do more research on these tired little boys wasting you sistas times. And these young sista don't need to beg no man. These guys are just too triflin. It's a lot going on with these black males.
I agree 1000% with Phil. How will you get to know anyone without questioning them?? Ikr is definitely intimidated by Emem and he’s not attracted to her. I hate she is being so thirsty for his love and attention. He doesn’t deserve her and she needs to realize that. He sat there & told a bold face lie to everyone explaining how she was acting, when in fact he was describing himself. Such a b*#^%+ arse move on his behalf smh.
IKECHI IS TRYING TO COME ACROSS MAJESTIC….BUT HE IS SHOWING HIS TRUE MENACING NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY🤔IS A DANGEROUS LIABILITY!!!! NO RESPECT FOR THIS SHOW 😢
Can not believe I’m talking positive about Chris but he never painted Paige as a predator. IKEA problem is that when that foot is to the fire he become a total butt hole at the end of the they both same playing field he caint find love the traditional way.
Yeah if Ike wants to be famous this ain’t it. Did you want to be famous for being an azz and treating a woman like that? If you did then I don’t think it is going to play out the way you think. You are unliked even hated. Nothing good will come out of this. You better get right, apologize, take accountability and man up. I wouldn’t take ya back but I would accept the apology.
I agree with Shawn! I'm mad at MAFS, they clearly didn't do their due diligence! It wouldn't take much to see through this guy, a damn Kindergartner could've picked up on his bullshit
Ikechi is a fraud and that's why he hates her. He's has nothing to stand on and he doesn't want to be questioned bc she will realize his bull crap. So he is creating a narrative to deflect and make her seem as the problem. That's all that is going on. He also recognize people are catching on to his game.
Spoiler alert from Chicago: Emem is happily engaged today and it's not to Ike. Thank God.
We peeped that on the after party lol. We saw the 💍 & I love her for that ❤
For real? 😊 good for her!@@Dani84409
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So happy for her. She was too good for that gaslighter!
Wow I’m happy for her. Look at God!
Textbook example of a man being intimidated by a woman's intelligence + success so much so that he can only disrespect her + tear her down. Insanity.
Right. He said it this ep. He said she belittled him, and was better than him. All of it was in his head. The only thing we saw Emem do is ask serious questions about his expectation and type of marriage he wants and how do they create that together.
He talking like a playa saying, I just want to go with the flow. I feel this was a complete publicity stunt. No one should buy his book, no one, don't even check it out in a library. After this he is going to have to use a pseudonym
I wouldn't even look at the cover of his book!@@SuperNovaTraveler
The truth is always in the manifesto.@SuperNovaTraveler
The scary part is he passed ALL the interviews, assessments, and evaluations for getting on that show, to be someone's HUSBAND!! These abusers sure know how to MASK!
@sherriew36 Nah, the process just isn't as stringent as they try to make it seem. The producers recruit people based on the storylines they want to create.
I've said it before and I'll say it again. IKECHI IS DANGEROUS!!! Men like him will ruin your reputation and degrade you in order to protect his own reputation. He doesn't care about being honest since he goes into victim mode and as such, his partner become the villian all because he is never ever in the wrong. He needs therapy. He definitely does not need a wife.
He's a very dangerous man. Emem has done absolutely nothing to him we are watching and cannot see anything.
Definitely a man jealous of you is a very dangerous man.
I was cracking up when Camille was like ' Whats really good!'😂😂 Camille dont play and I am here for it!😂😂
Camille is smooth and seems like a ride or die friend
Frfr… She had Em’s back!!! Can’t wait for “reunion”…
I don’t think Ikechi likes women and is in denial about that…
He definitely acts like a down low but he doesn't respect anyone either
He needs Diddy!
@@vryan000 Agreed. He needs an old fashioned spanking for being ugly to his peers. 😂
I loved how Allan , was clocking Ike.
I highly commend Shawn on doing an outstanding job with meticulously explaining, defining, & clarifying some of the terms & issues that were discussed. I am extremely grateful for your participation on the panel & your contribution to the Little Black Book 91 Family. You have repeatedly shown up in spite of your challenges.
I agree! Shawn is my fave! I always appreciate his contributions.
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The only “thing” Enem did was go on a show to find love when, history shows, these shows never do right by black women! She seems to be the most prepared woman here and it just proves that you can have all things and still not be enough. Granted she’s not enough because it’s toward the wrong man but when I tell you this type of stuff chips away at your confidence and spirit when it’s constant? I pray that Enem comes out of this situation stronger than before and he can do downstairs to the hot space.
This is what women talk about when they say men intimidated by their success/intelligence/wealth
This DOES exist. I dont care how much men claim there's no such thing as a man being intimidated by a woman. There is. This illustrates how it plays out.
Character assasination, smart comments, slander, name calling (often escalating to physical attacks), isolation, public embarassment, sabotage, triangulation, diminishment, and degradation.
This is how you see accomplished women who simply want love, ending up as headlines at the hands of jealous, envious, and insecure male partners.
And there will still be people that dont believe he was capable of doing it.
100% he asked for exactly what she is and what she stands for . The moment he saw her condo he stopped wanting to be a part of the work. He love bombed her from the start, set the tone and then ran from the tone he set and painted her as a crazy person. SMH
@gorgeousfrazier5903 Truth is people that are fraud assume everyone else is a fraud too.
Often, men want a woman that is pretty and not an airhead enough to make them look good but not too much and definitely not smarter or more accomplished than them. I think Emem tried hard to downplay herself but facts are still facts.
100%! It is REAL. Plenty of successful women have experienced the same thing no matter what these men try to deny. Their dynamic was extremely hard to watch.
@brianal7143 The sad part is people will be bent on trying to pin some blame on her.. as if he didn't act as a free independent agent.
When in actuality she debunked the common complaints men claim about successful women:
Not submissive- She submitted to too much
Inflexible- She was willing to contort to his whim
Flaunting her achievements- I never heard her even mention them.
Putting him down- She boosted his ego and affirmed him even when there was no basis for it.
So now what? We need to finally acknowledge the behavior of hating, catty, insecure, jealous envious men..🤷🏾♀️
I experienced this first hand with a guy friend, who was a friend with benefits. Constant belittling, disrespect, smart comments, character assassination. 7 years of stupidity. I stopped associating with him in 2021. Popped up at my home unannounced in 2022. Texted me in 2023. Last contact was 2023. Blocked. Wouldn't leave me alone. He was extremely insecure, broken, narcissistic, a**hole ...especially after I completed my first masters.
Emem's cousin needs to roll up on 'Ikky'! Cuz saw thru him at the start, he was just giving him grace to prove himself.
Cuz got right down to business when asking him questions! And it was still bothering Ikechi when they had the house warming party 😅!!
Emem’s Cuz peeped him EARLY. And in that moment that he was peeped Ikechi was visibly shaken sitting across from Cuz. Go back and look. Eyes got wide with slight body shudder. Cuz straight forwardness shook him.
I thought about that too lol.
Em's cousin drf clocked it at the reception ‼️ Ikky gives "grand rising queen" toxicity. He wanna be healed so bad but he needs INTENSE PSYCHOTHERAPY
Ikechi needs serious help for his issues before he emotionally abuses any more women.
Ike is a danger and he hates Emem. Emem needs to stop and LEAVE.
He called her an a**hole for no reason. This man is abusive and sick. Em needs to wake up and stop trying.
He's very abusive. Men like him chip away at a woman's self esteem.
It’s clear he never liked her. Hell, he may not even like women if we really keep it 💯
Kojo your teeth are looking GOOD 😁 love it!!!
Unpopular opinion Phill nailed it- he wanted Emem to blow up so he can say see I told you she was aggressive and she took the bait. I would’ve been done with that ninja episodes ago. The signs have been LOUD at least to me
Ikechi, is a very angry man. When the cameras are off he goes off. I would be very worried to be alone with a man like that. He seems so abusive.
He seems like he could be an ab&ser behind closed doors.
When we say "YAL H@TE US" listen to us! I know it's not ALL, but I have experienced this 3 times in a row since 2020. I acknowledge I have work to do, but this behavior is COMMON and RAMPANT from. BM to BW. As a BW who has prioritized work and is now properly jumping in the serious dating pool, this has been very damaging and jarring.
I appreciate this panel so much.
Yet the ones who date outside the race don’t do that to their preferences. IMO
They most definitely do it to non black women.
Ike is verbally abusive. I’m concerned about Emem being accepting of this behavior. MAFs should intervene and remove these people when it happens.
It’s refreshing to hear HEALTHY BLACK MEN SPEAK 🫶🏽.
Yes it was refreshing to hear that I was just seeing things from a female view!!! They are calling him out & holding him accountable… LOVE IT!!! 👏🏽🫶🏽
Ikechi can forget about selling a book....no sane person will support his business.
I don’t care what any one says, things didn’t change when he wouldn’t have sex with her. It changed when he saw her house. He is a horrible little man.
Definitely! After that he became very mean. And this past episode he made a comment about how he’s not gonna deal with someone who thinks they are better than him(paraphrasing). But he is very intimidated by her and jealous.
Yes! I noticed that too. He wanted someone he thought was underneath him. He is definitely intimidated by her success. She unintentionally makes him feel small. When he went to her apartment he was envious of everything in there. To play devils advocate though, she did seem a lil clingy in the beginning/honeymoon. She was overly excited to finally have a husband. I think the fact that she was so into him & he wasn't feeling her like that was a turn-off for him. Because she definitely was a little pushy in the beginning. Kept saying "oh my husband, my husband".
@@LindseyShields88 exactly.
@@bkbabyqnzlady but he said my wife. See my comment below.
This is from a reviewer on Amazon about Ike’s book. Speaks volumes.
I liked it.
…Until I got to the letter about how his wife can’t be smarter and more successful than him. She must be dumb enough to add to his already inflated sense of self importance or else he will belittle her and call her names, because he is such a little, little man.
I knew it was about that house. Everything changed after that.
He's trying his best to gaslight her and the other married couples.
You don’t have to be a doctor to observe traits of narcissism .. exactly Shawn. Don’t have to diagnose NPD but definitely can observe the traits.
At what point does the producers, therapist or whomsoever just put a stop to it! Yes, its good tv but its at her mental and emotional expense. This educated, beautiful woman seems to be broken sometimes by this joker! There is NO way in HELL!!! Just sue me bc i am breaking this contract!
Exactly! Which makes me wonder what is actually in MAFS contract vs the other shows because they are almost stuck in these shows abs afterwards, the people still never talk about what happens.
I said the same thing he reminds me of how Chris treated Paige
I feel like he’s worse than Chris. At least Chris didn’t call Paige out her name.
Chris did tell Paige she wasn’t his type. He should have removed himself because Paige lacked the will to do it herself. He continued to exploit her instead. IMO
@@HerzogenVonBallen I’m not defending him in any way, but saying someone isn’t your type and calling someone out their name aren’t the same.
@ I was agreeing with you and adding to you comments
If this guy is this monstrous to a stranger he essentially married for TV, on TV, I shudder to think of how he treats a girl he actually met organically and developed feelings for, without the cameras and the show.
They evaluation process for this show sucks.
Spot on
A Narcissist is not capable of loving anyone except himself.
Look im a therapist. He fits all the criteria for a narcissist according to the diagnostic manual
As a therapist as well, I concur!! I see an angry, traumatized man! He definitely has a few other possible diagnoses and needs therapy or a deliverance session! 🙏🏾 Who hurt you sir?! Go somewhere and heal!!!
You right. This is not the first woman he hurt. It's clear he definitely needs to heal @@lhill80
Third therapist here and we are all in agreement!
I’m friends with Ikechi online. Prior to him being on the show he had an off putting personality on social…very “I’m the prize” energy. It was odd and I couldn’t figure out what about him seemed off especially being that attractive I thought to myself man, black men are a hot commodity what is it with him. This show validated for me exactly why he was single and why his posts on social felt off putting and unattractive to me.
He's typical red pill/manosphere. Hater of women. They are not suitable for partnership, not even with a dog.
What makes you say black men are a hot commodit The only women that love black men are black women. Other non black women see black men as ! fetish and also if they can get some money. White men are the hottest commodity out there. I don't date white men, but because they have the power and the resources and money they are the hottest commodity.
Didn't Emem's male cousin call it...
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“In this joker ass suit”… 😅😂🤣 I chuckled so hard!
Kojo, your arms are ARMIN!
Keep up the hard work!
He’s going way too far and it’s actually dangerous at thing point. This is where the experts needs to say enough is enough and have them dissolve this marriage and let them go their separate ways. It’s very irresponsible on all their parts Shame on them
Purposefully trying to kill her spirit and the emotional and mental manipulation is wild .
He doesn’t want EMEM, he wants AMAN‼️
The only man that scares IKe is Emem cousin, Ike need men in his life that hold him accountable..and I’m mad that none of the men at the table didn’t stand up. For Emem and checked him, the “experts” need to step in because he is verbally abusing her and this isn’t the purpose of this show..great conversation
In fairness, I do think the men at the table tried except Juan who seemed to take Ike's side. But they are limited in how hard they can go bc they dont have all the facts.
Emem's cousin needs to swing around and have a conversation with Ikechi!
He’s gotten away with it because he’s “well spoken” and can always get ahead of whatever story he wants to portray. So in the 30 plus years he’s been dating, every single woman has been the problem? According to him, yes so if he’s spinning the truth, I can see why his folks aren’t as in tuned with him
@Emmadaniels100 the cousin is the first one who really saw him for who he is!!
@lanedelon6414 And I thought the way he handled him was beautiful every time because Ikeche was playing games...
Ikechi is one of those men that just doesn't like women. I don't mean he's gay, I mean he genuinely does not like women, especially those who are more successful than him. What kind of mentor is he I wonder. He offered no safe space to this black woman.
He came with a stink attitude then waitied till the ladies returned to leave. He wants attention so bad
I noticed that too. It’s all about views and attention for that narc.
Exactly he would have left earlier
You guys hit the nail on the head with this one! Watching that scene in how he sat there, gaslit her before she went to the restroom had me hot! And told the men see…horrible
Then he waited for her to come back and sit down before he stormed out.
In the same breath Ike called her an azzhole and said he has been respecting her. Diabolical.
Thank you Phil when he accused her of SA it should have been OVER‼️I was thinking everything he was saying. I thought about the kids in the school system too.
Shawn!!!! Thank you!! 🙏🏾
The whole purpose of the show was to be open and ready to love and stay married to a complete stranger. Ike came on the show to push his book.
Emem’s Cuz peeped him EARLY. And in that moment that he was peeped Ikechi was visibly shaken sitting across from Cuz. Go back and look. Eyes got wide and slight shudder.
Bottom line is he meant what he said at the end of the episode: he FEELS small and inferior next to Emem so he needs to go back to his tiny life to feel better about himself. She’s not doin anything to make him feel that way, it’s all projection. Which is why when ppl ask him to give examples like Allen did), he deflects and gives vague answers. Because she’s not doing anything!
Ikechi think he is the prize and Emem should have left the show when he first insulted her personality and integrity.
This is exactly his energy. I was friends with him online prior to him being on the show and his posts on social were very “I’m the prize”it was very unattractive. Very narcissistic.
Shawn Bravo on your opening statement!!!
Emem “You in Danger Girl!” *in my Whoopi voice* (From the movie Ghost)
🤣 Right!
actually, it's giving me bipolar and lashing out I dated a guy like this.....was never satisfied even though I was doing everything nice and sweet for him and us he was always on edge and freaked out and left I found out later from his ex-wife he was unmedicated and not letting me know the depth of disorder there was nothing I could have done and it was never my fault his ex-wife was real with me and I thank her for that....the unexplainable lashing out its giving mentally unstable anxiety disorder he's emotionally and verbally abusive and needs a therapist ofc asap
The ICK was her condo, he saw her as masculine. He wasn’t that into her anyway, she wasn’t his type and wasn’t attracted to her. So if you’re not attracted to someone and they are financially and education wise is more intelligent and far along in her career he has resentment for her.
Ikechi seems like he is on the spectrum.
Thank you Shawn!
Ikech is a Broky and he is intimidated by Emem's success. I find it hard to believe Emem was touching him because he had been hostile and unapproachable.
This man Ikechi can handle that his wife has a good job , at the picnick him looking like wow she really did it again i can top this , because of her status and intelligence he feels belitteld, she does nothing only wants a real response
Phil speaking truths! ✊🏽
Yes, describe behaviors vs labeling. So many social media psychologists misusing clinical terms
I don't think Emem is going back to Ike. I think Alan & Emem are going to connect. Clearly, David & Alan's wife are up to some kinda cheating.
The wrong people get chosen for this show.
They're curating a show not setting up marriages.
If MAFS continues to do this, not intervene when someone is in trouble and someone gets hurt, they are opening themselves up for a lawsuit. IMO
👑Kojo👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️ you to the entire Black Kings panelist for protecting us Black Queens, we truly appreciate you🫂
💫KARMA💫Ikechi is a clear example of what it looks like to witness when one's heartless soul is experiencing a self-induced karmatic revelation due to him projecting an ugly heart towards Emem.
Ikechi's insecurities, psychological abuse/disrespect, projection and jealousy for Emem, entrepreneurial success and livelihood made him realize he is NOT the smartest person in the room.
Ikechi intentionally choosing to defame Emem's character thus harming her business reputation is pure evil.
ikechi dusplays sociopathic behaviorism.
👀God doesn't like a SELFish 💟
Preach Shawn! 👍🏽
Emem needs to really stop… she just has no idea on how to withdraw herself and to STOP pursuing this man. He’s not interested and her continuing to open herself to him and invite him in, she continues to subject herself to rejection. He’s a jackass and it’s been evident and has only worsened yet she still expects something else from him. All of that double, triple, quadruple texting when he isn’t responding like girl be LESS AVAILABLE. He knows that he has the upper hand and controls the temperature in that situation and she’s allowing it because she wants a man so bad. This is what he means by aggressive because she just doesn’t know when to quit. She isn’t even allowing space for him to warm up to her because she’s forceful as hell. I almost wanted to cry for her when he spoke so poorly to her on their anniversary. She should’ve withdrawn a while ago
I think she is withdrawn. She is just respecting the process of which she decided to participate. I believe she is checked out, she is just respecting production, but ultimately she is trying to protect her image and her business. He is trying to destroy her with no evidence and will probably try to say "the cameras are not always around". She not interested in ikechi, she just getting through the process
this does not excuse his behavior. if he’s disinterested, HE’S the one who needs to leave and remove himself, not berate her out of spite. he’s insecure and intimidated by her and doesn’t want to just say that Emem makes him feel small - that’s why he’s lashing out and that’s the real problem.
@@sashaalexa8518who excused him??? And at the first red flag yes she should’ve left. We watched this progress in the worst way I’m not blaming her for his actions
@@exquisite921 periodTTT. How do they cast these people so perfectly for DRAMA??! Because i wouldve laughed in his clown face and given him my arse to kiss....he has been a joke since the first few interactions with her and i dont get how she can tolerate it. Like i would have literally said "hey, you've gone too far with the word calling". She needs much better boundaries for herself.
Agree. If she would have left him alone a long time ago, he wouldn’t have the opportunity to call her names. Ike is very manipulative and dangerous. There’s no working it out with someone like him.
Love Shawn... ao sober and ensuring accountability
His ik began when he saw her apt. & was insecure!!!
I couldn't wait to hear what you would have to say about this
I want to know why Dr Pepper don't pick up on these narcissist before they land on TV??? It's ridiculous this keeps happening to women.
This goes to show you how good Narcs are with masking. They are professional actors.
I believe Ike told so many lies on the application form to get on the show. He was orginally turn down in Houston and follow the show to Chicago.
He's not secure within himself. It's nothing to do with her.
He gives Bipolar-ish behavior. One minute things were cool the next minute he flips on her.
ORRRRRR
It could be this hear me out!…. He was intimidated by her (which he showed when he saw her apartment) and when he looks at her and her personality maybe his arrogance makes him feel that she doesn’t deserves what she has compared to him and his insecurities caused him to lash out.
It’s like his knee jerk reaction to his insecurity was to tear her down.
Chris is and will remain the worst on MAFS in my eyes. He involved God in it, colorism, he degraded Paige, literally called her ugly, manipulated her all while sleeping with her and having a whole other pregnant ex-fiancee he was still wanting to be with. This was way more (in my opinion) than just being a player. I was soo triggered by that season, my interest towards that show went really low after and since.
Right!!!! I agree!!!!!!
Yeah, Chris is hard to beat as worst MAFS husband ever. Ike is a close second.
Dang, yall gonna make me watch this season
@_CPerk bro you gotta tap in! 🙌🏽
Ike 100% is dehumanizing Emem calling her that. Hes beyond immature and disrespectful!!!
I’m pissed too Shawn.
You don't want to say it, but I will... He's a narcissist! I was married to one, and he exhibits all of the same characteristics. Call it traits or whatever, but he's definitely exhibiting Narcissist behavior!
Just because they “MATCHED” she needs to get out now. If you watch the producers control this show and pick the matches. The experts are just props
Lets be real he is trying to portray her as all the blk woman tropes that spark people to disrespect blk women to say "see this is why they aren't marriage & dating material." Typical & can be seen from a mile away but there will be people that will look at this and say "see, we told yall about them"
Experts need to go …,, the fact that pastor Cal advocated for him to be on the show is disgusting
I love you 4 real men holding Ike accountable for his disgusting behavior!
he thriveeeeeddddd. Shawn is 100 percent correct. I mad at MAFS!
This is some crazy behaviour. If he doesn’t come to the reunion with an explanation of specific examples of things we may not have seen as viewers then this is diabolical. This amount of disdain makes zero sense based on what we have seen yet he is so hell bent on making her out to be the villain.
I wouldn’t be surprised if he actually has been to therapy, but he’s one of those people who didn’t actually want to do any work on themselves, went to have their feelings affirmed and learned the language. Those people…dangerous
Ikechi can’t follow-up the majority of the statements he makes, because he’s lying and exaggerating about most of the things he says. He has perfected the art of gaslighting!!
Once EKG realized Emem was far out of his league. He decided to break her down & reject her 'before' she could dump him! What a truly sad, pathetic excuse for a man!
This is probably the most accurate thing that happened, all mental health or personality dx aside.
MAFS is all about ratings. After season 3, I didn't watch it again until season 10 with that piece of work "Brandon", and now this season. Why is this show still on? Out of 69 couples only 11 have remained married?
MAFS is turning out to be horrible reality TV
Ikechi is an unhappy man and how he called Emem out in front of the couples was terrible. Thomas, David and Allen step in to let him know they did not like it. He is very disrespectful and yes he is worse than Chris because Chris never called Paige out of her name. He tried to get on MAF several times and they finally put you on the show and you are showing your butt! Everything you said Black Book is on point. She never disrespected him and he has did it continuously! When the ladies came back from the ladies room, what did he do got up and left. He should have left before they came back to the table.
Okay teef I see you they look really good!
Ikegi was gaslightening the hell out of M!!
I can’t wait until Dr. Pia talk to him.
I think this is an accurate reflection of some of the dating experience(s) Black women face.
A man will dislike you and treat you like crap because he doesn't think you deserve love.
She probably went back so she doesn't have to pay a fine. She is well aware of who he is!
He's just like that other dude thst did the same thing to that girl back three or four years ago. I can't think of either one of their Names. But they need to do more research on these tired little boys wasting you sistas times. And these young sista don't need to beg no man. These guys are just too triflin. It's a lot going on with these black males.
I agree 1000% with Phil. How will you get to know anyone without questioning them?? Ikr is definitely intimidated by Emem and he’s not attracted to her. I hate she is being so thirsty for his love and attention. He doesn’t deserve her and she needs to realize that. He sat there & told a bold face lie to everyone explaining how she was acting, when in fact he was describing himself. Such a b*#^%+ arse move on his behalf smh.
IKECHI IS TRYING TO COME ACROSS MAJESTIC….BUT HE IS SHOWING HIS TRUE MENACING NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY🤔IS A DANGEROUS LIABILITY!!!! NO RESPECT FOR THIS SHOW 😢
Such a great live.. I agree with the panel 1,000%.. Ike is just like Chris.. how dare they go on national tv and degrade a black woman 🤦🏽♀️
ike to me is worse than chris. Chris was not happy about the woman but he just wanted sex. Ike doesnt want emem and seems to want to ruin her
Dang, I missed the live!
Hes definitely Chris 2.0
Can not believe I’m talking positive about Chris but he never painted Paige as a predator. IKEA problem is that when that foot is to the fire he become a total butt hole at the end of the they both same playing field he caint find love the traditional way.
Yeah if Ike wants to be famous this ain’t it. Did you want to be famous for being an azz and treating a woman like that? If you did then I don’t think it is going to play out the way you think. You are unliked even hated. Nothing good will come out of this. You better get right, apologize, take accountability and man up. I wouldn’t take ya back but I would accept the apology.
Ike is worse than Chris to me he’s sooo mean and nasty for no reason ! Chris was a no good man / player but Ike seems like he would be violent
I remember Chris😮
I agree with Shawn! I'm mad at MAFS, they clearly didn't do their due diligence! It wouldn't take much to see through this guy, a damn Kindergartner could've picked up on his bullshit
Unpopular Opinion Phil was on point 1000%
Ikechi is a fraud and that's why he hates her. He's has nothing to stand on and he doesn't want to be questioned bc she will realize his bull crap. So he is creating a narrative to deflect and make her seem as the problem. That's all that is going on. He also recognize people are catching on to his game.