Hey Dr. Phil , I was told if I cannot simply Multi task at work then I am not going to be able to keep employment. Maybe you could get this message through the Heads of Employers who push us to the point of where we end up in hospital due to burn out. We can't afford to keep losing our job due to Bosses pushing us to multi task to the point where we can't remember what we were doing from one minute to the next PLease get them to Stop pushing Multi tasking on the Employee..
A narcissist at work claims her multitasking 'ability' is what makes her a better performer than the rest of us, but she makes loads of mistakes and makes everything more complicated for the rest of us so we feel like we have to run just to keep up. The thing is, management believe her and treat her like an honest upstanding person.
As a child and teenager, my dad didnt call me by my name. He called me Useless, Stupid, Ugly, Pimples, or Fatso. He liked to kick me with his workboots. He would mock me if i cried or protested. My mom had many long episodes of mental illness. My sister was treated much better had it easier that way. But i survived somehow and my mom's workers couldnt believe that. I attribute survival to some special favour of God, whom i thank regularly. I am almost 70 years of age, and am mostly okay. Thank you Dr. Phil for your work on behalf of those who go through such hard times.
This was great. Spoke to me on many levels. The funny thing is, I listened to it while doing laundry, cleaning, reading my mail, and thinking about some family drama I experienced over Christmas. Lol
At age 14 my dad told me I was too fat to eat a donut. I was 5'4 and 112lbs. When I left home at 19 I became anorexic, it took me until I was 57 years old to be comfortable in my own skin.
at 62 yrs. old I agree. But 10 yrs ago I could multi task and complete all my tasks. Funny I came across this because I am trying to NOT multi task and having a hard time doing it.
That is my problem. I have about 5 things going at a time (in my brain and actively) and sometimes I don't finish them. I told myself that I would try to get three things done daily to get past this, and so far so good. I have become more productive (sometimes i don't get 3 things done but 4, sometimes 2. The next area that I must work with is getting the things done that I hate to do. I 'm still trying to make the list a habit
I feel many occupations require multitasking. Being a Flight Attendant for 30 years I always had at least 5 things going on at a time. Being present and mindful is something I’m working on.
My Dad always used to poke at my belly and say I had a belly.... I pretended it didn't bother me because I wanted him to love me and it was really the only thing we had
I believe this was one of the conclusions from the landmark study "Gorillas in our Midst". There's this famous video from it just youtube "white ball passing"
when I was in high school I had a boy tell me I had a gymnist body not realizing why he was telling me that. I was not big chested nor did I have a big behind. I was really small and in between a size 0 and a size 3 but yet I took it as a compliment because I didn't know what he was saying. I actually thought he was complimenting me 😂 I didn't realize he was in a sense body shaming me. When I actually realize what he was saying I was already a full grown adult and was able to laugh about it. But it's very sad to think that one comment from one person can affect someone so deeply that it will follow you throughout your whole life.😏
Now as far as the multitasking that's me 100%. I feel like I'm constantly multitasking stressing myself out getting overwhelmed with everything that I have to do. Do I get it done absolutely. Am I stressed out and overwhelmed when I'm done 200%. It's really difficult for me to unclutter my mind of all my responsibilities and things that need to be done. It's extremely difficult. I have found what has worked for me is listening to meditation music that is supposed to help you clear your mind as you're falling asleep. does it actually do the job I'm not quite sure. What I have noticed from doing that is it has helped me sleep better, fall asleep faster and wake up feeling like I have a fresh mind.
I’ve notice I often feel the need to control others and the situations around me. I hate that about myself! However I’m not sure how to really handle it. Any advice or help?
Oftentimes people who do that were not encouraged as children to think out their own decisions but instead always told what to do. They then associate love with forcing one's ideas on others because as children we assume that because our parents love us that all their attitudes and behaviors toward us constitute loving attitudes and behaviors. Recognizing that that is not actually loving behavior is the first step in conquering it. The reason, most likely, you can't stop is that deep down you are afraid if you do that you'll love them less or they'll perceive you love them less, but since controlling isn't loving behavior that fear is unfounded. People are responsible for their own lives. Even if you perceive they're going to get hurt or whatever if you don't steer them in "the right" direction learning to wait for people to ASK for your opinion will become its own reward. They'll feel as if you are finally letting them breath and be themselves and you'll reap the obvious relationship reinforcement from that positive experience that will lead to. If control and love are entwined you'll need to work on detangling them to have success with this. Best wishes and happy New Year!
Hey Dr. Phil , I was told if I cannot simply Multi task at work then I am not going to be able to keep employment. Maybe you could get this message through the Heads of Employers who push us to the point of where we end up in hospital due to burn out. We can't afford to keep losing our job due to Bosses pushing us to multi task to the point where we can't remember what we were doing from one minute to the next PLease get them to Stop pushing Multi tasking on the Employee..
A narcissist at work claims her multitasking 'ability' is what makes her a better performer than the rest of us, but she makes loads of mistakes and makes everything more complicated for the rest of us so we feel like we have to run just to keep up. The thing is, management believe her and treat her like an honest upstanding person.
As a child and teenager, my dad didnt call me by my name. He called me Useless, Stupid, Ugly, Pimples, or Fatso. He liked to kick me with his workboots. He would mock me if i cried or protested.
My mom had many long episodes of mental illness. My sister was treated much better had it easier that way.
But i survived somehow and my mom's workers couldnt believe that. I attribute survival to some special favour of God, whom i thank regularly. I am almost 70 years of age, and am mostly okay.
Thank you Dr. Phil for your work on behalf of those who go through such hard times.
Sorry to hear. I can relate ❤
Not by my dad, but school bullies.
This was great. Spoke to me on many levels. The funny thing is, I listened to it while doing laundry, cleaning, reading my mail, and thinking about some family drama I experienced over Christmas. Lol
What you give power to, will have power over you. Let us Declutter our minds! Great advice, Thank you dr Phil.
Less likely to make mistakes too. right Doc Phil.
I'm the queen of multi tasking. No problems with it at all.
It's so nice to hear this. I have never been a multi-tasker and those arrogant multi-taskers need to hear this! lol
Dr. Caroline Leif, neuroscientist, has asserted that multitasking actually causes brain damage.
Unfortunately most corporations don’t see it this way.. so many places i’ve worked I was told if you can’t multitask go work somewhere else🙄
This podcast, Dr. Phil’s latest podcast is confirmation from God for me, I was having revelation about this subject just recently🙌🏻☀️
At age 14 my dad told me I was too fat to eat a donut. I was 5'4 and 112lbs. When I left home at 19 I became anorexic, it took me until I was 57 years old to be comfortable in my own skin.
I had body image issues too. Still do.😢
Sending love and healing thoughts to you, from a 45 year old anorexic in recovery.
Respect and regards from India
Dr. Phil who fills my subscription feeds ;)
at 62 yrs. old I agree. But 10 yrs ago I could multi task and complete all my tasks. Funny I came across this because I am trying to NOT multi task and having a hard time doing it.
That is my problem. I have about 5 things going at a time (in my brain and actively) and sometimes I don't finish them. I told myself that I would try to get three things done daily to get past this, and so far so good. I have become more productive (sometimes i don't get 3 things done but 4, sometimes 2. The next area that I must work with is getting the things done that I hate to do. I 'm still trying to make the list a habit
Got to do a brain dump every morning to control your mind in a positive way 👍😂👍🕇
Ha! I usually have you on at home while I do 2 other things!
I feel many occupations require multitasking. Being a Flight Attendant for 30 years I always had at least 5 things going on at a time. Being present and mindful is something I’m working on.
Amazing information that I was just having revelation about 🙌🏻☀️
Thank you💚
My Dad always used to poke at my belly and say I had a belly.... I pretended it didn't bother me because I wanted him to love me and it was really the only thing we had
I believe this was one of the conclusions from the landmark study "Gorillas in our Midst". There's this famous video from it just youtube "white ball passing"
I had to stop what I was doing to listen to this. 😉
i will try and try again.
so basically you are saying i am RARE ! got it!
you're ok.
Facts
when I was in high school I had a boy tell me I had a gymnist body not realizing why he was telling me that. I was not big chested nor did I have a big behind. I was really small and in between a size 0 and a size 3 but yet I took it as a compliment because I didn't know what he was saying. I actually thought he was complimenting me 😂 I didn't realize he was in a sense body shaming me. When I actually realize what he was saying I was already a full grown adult and was able to laugh about it. But it's very sad to think that one comment from one person can affect someone so deeply that it will follow you throughout your whole life.😏
Now as far as the multitasking that's me 100%. I feel like I'm constantly multitasking stressing myself out getting overwhelmed with everything that I have to do. Do I get it done absolutely. Am I stressed out and overwhelmed when I'm done 200%.
It's really difficult for me to unclutter my mind of all my responsibilities and things that need to be done. It's extremely difficult. I have found what has worked for me is listening to meditation music that is supposed to help you clear your mind as you're falling asleep. does it actually do the job I'm not quite sure. What I have noticed from doing that is it has helped me sleep better, fall asleep faster and wake up feeling like I have a fresh mind.
How does a person NOT multi-task when there is so much to do? (work, home, etc.)
You are right. I purposely make my life simple as can be because I just can't do it all.
@@lisadiconti appreciate you mentioning that. I try to do that also but it's tough to keep it simple.
I just looked at that bronze thing throughout the video in left. What is it?
I’ve notice I often feel the need to control others and the situations around me. I hate that about myself! However I’m not sure how to really handle it. Any advice or help?
Oftentimes people who do that were not encouraged as children to think out their own decisions but instead always told what to do. They then associate love with forcing one's ideas on others because as children we assume that because our parents love us that all their attitudes and behaviors toward us constitute loving attitudes and behaviors.
Recognizing that that is not actually loving behavior is the first step in conquering it. The reason, most likely, you can't stop is that deep down you are afraid if you do that you'll love them less or they'll perceive you love them less, but since controlling isn't loving behavior that fear is unfounded.
People are responsible for their own lives. Even if you perceive they're going to get hurt or whatever if you don't steer them in "the right" direction learning to wait for people to ASK for your opinion will become its own reward. They'll feel as if you are finally letting them breath and be themselves and you'll reap the obvious relationship reinforcement from that positive experience that will lead to.
If control and love are entwined you'll need to work on detangling them to have success with this.
Best wishes and happy New Year!
If I couldn't multitask my twins would have not survived...just saying.
Multitasking doesn’t work and neither does open-plan office space.
Being ADHD, it's an everyday problem. 🙄
🙏
I don't think this is referring to mothers... JS