This was me a few months ago. I was severely depressed and didn’t get out of bed for months. My hair was completely matted and I was so embarrassed by it that I wouldn’t leave the house and the cycle of depression and embarrassment continued. I finally got the courage to dial up a local salon and tell them the details, they said they understood so I came on down. I told them I didn’t want to trouble them with brushing it and told them they could shave it. They lady told me that she wanted to brush it all out because she could see that deep down I didn’t want it shaved. So there we were, combing and cutting the absolute mess that was my hair. After 1 week we finally got it out and I feel so much better with myself. Depression had taken over my life and it finally felt like I was taking that first step. Sorry for the long story, this came into my recommendations and it hit close to home
What a wonderfully compassionate service you provide! I'm a white girl who 40 years ago was a patient in a mental facility. A much younger (also white) girl was admitted for severe depression and suicide attempts. The staff was going to shave her neglected matted hair and she was terrified. At my insistence, they allowed me to try to save her hair and her dignity. I began by using an entire large bottle of heavy conditioner (the only option available) to comb through the layers before it could even be shampooed. Hours and hours later, her hair and her mood completely transformed! I still have the thank you card from her delighted parents. So yea, I do know first-hand what it means to care for someone in need of a little goodness. Thank you for all that you do to help make this world a better place, one strand at a time.
Your compassion will be remembered by her and the other patients there with you both as an act of love. As a past patient for severe depression, I learned more about recovery through love from fellow patients than I did from the staff. There’s something about receiving acts of kindness from others who understand what you’re going through that heals our hearts more than most every doctor I met ( the nurses I had were actually incredible caring people).
There is empathy and there is self care. Regardless of what you are going through there is no excuse at this age to not run a comb through your hair once a day or even once a week.
I hate when ppl say “how could you ever let your hair get like that” bc it’s not that hard for it to get like that- especially with curly hair- like I’m doing rlly bad rn and might have depression and I have not brushed my hair in a month- yes I know it’s bad but it’s just SUPER hard to do just the “small easy” stuff
@@astrammd yeah, in a way. But Ive been told that magicians are evil and stuff I AM NOT SAYING SHE IS EVIL SHE SOUNDS LIKE A VERY NICE PERSON I am just saying-
I remember when I was going through it and my hair was really matted, and super long. I couldn’t even reach the Matt’s to help myself. I hid it however I could. I finally reached out for help from a therapist and she had the nerve to shame me. I was appalled and it certainly didn’t help my mental state. My mom was willing to try and help me. She spent many hours over the course of two days and finally got it all out. Great big hugs to anyone and everyone who suffers inside.
Your therapist should NEVER have done that to you... That's a symptom of depression!!! You really should turn your therapist in... I want you to know that people care!!! Hugs to you!!! I 100% understand how you feel!!! You're amazing, and wonderful, and fantastic, and, I think you understand what I'm saying... Be blessed!!!
So many people wear their mental health and distress. You can see it in weight, hair, and hygiene. It’s so great that this is done. I loved her explanation about what “just cut it” would mean to her. It was eye opening.
I understand. I too suffered from depression, But; by me being a very public well known figure in my city mu mental health moreless came out in my putting on ot gaining weight.. I am working on getting it off now. 🙏. God bless
My sister's hair got really matted once, when we were kids. My mom had 5 kids before she was 30, and she was overwhelmed. Sometimes the hair went neglected for both of us. My mom tried to detangle it, but my sister cried and cried. A family friend tried, but shamed my mom and my sis. I told my mom I would do it. It took a long time, and she lost a little hair, but after a haircut, she was so much better, physically and emotionally. You are a blessing to these people.
Because of this video, I was able to get my hair detangled. I lost alot of hair but it will grow back. Thank you for inspiring me to endure depression. I just lost my mom last week and I'm devastated. I was tired of wigs not fitting on my head and people were laughing at me. This was a painful process. I so glad there are extensions to help me get my hair back. Again I thank you
I saw your videos June last year and got the courage to detangle my hair after it had spiralled into a 1.5year old mat. It was so bad that I could neither see nor feel my scalp back then but your videos gave me hope that it was possible to get my hair back without having to shave it all of. I tried one section and the sheer size of the task broke me! I then spent almost a year trying to save up so I can fly out to you but got hit with an emergency and had to use that money for something else. Fast forward to this morning at 6am with me taking out the final knot after almost 3years with hair depression. I could've cried, I was so happy! It took me 17days and almost a bucket full of shed hair, 3 bruised fingers and two bottles of conditioner but I made it. Thank you for giving me hope and inspiring me to take back control of my hair and by extention control of my life. To anyone going through something similar. You can do it, take your time and be kind to yourself. Do it one small section at a go and you'll get there. Tips I learned along the way: use a sturdy rattail comb with firm teeth to comb through the mat more efficiently. Get a medium/large safety pin to use on the small knots. Get a conditioner with a LOT of slip. Use a plastic bag over your head overnight to soften the knots and also restore some moisture and elasticity back into your strands. Get a sharp pair of hair scissors to help you cut through those shedded hairs that form the horizontal strands binding your hair sections together. Lastly be patient, if you get tired or frustrated, take a break and comeback later. You got this!
My hair currently looks like this. I also haven't combed it in 2 and a half years. My teeth and skin are also suffering. I completely get it. You are a angel for doing this. And the woman getting her hair done is inspiring and amazing.Thank you and your colleague.
I really appreciate how you protect the identity of your clients. Not outing or judging them but telling their story and doing your best to help them. That is some beautiful work ya'll did and the transformation is incredible!
Try showing her this video. Do it on accident. Mom's are nosy. LOL, if she sees you looking interested in a video, she's sure to look over your shoulder.
It's hard to let people help you. Especially when you don't know what will help. Just keep being there for your mom, and do what you need to take care of yourself. You can't pour out of an empty pitcher.
I hope people can understand that this often happens because of depression. Thankfully I never let it get this bad with my hair but I struggle to get out of bed every day. It’s so bad that I’ve lost all of my muscle and get tired from walking. Depression is different for everyone so please be understanding and kind
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I sincerely wish the best for you, and all who are in a similar situation as you. You are loved, so so loved by God who created us all and also by people in your life, be it friends, family or otherwise. You are worth it, and the dark won't last forever. Praying for you and many others facing a tough time, God bless you In Jesus Name ❤️❤️❤️
Same I have beaten my depression but still have a hard time going outside and out of bed because I feel lost, I get up and walk to the kitchen and my legs and arms are shaking, I have back problems so I have been doing yoga, I recommend yoga with Adrienne it's very low impact and Low to the ground (the ones for tight hips and lower back, and lower back one) it focusses a lot on what *you* can do and not having perfect poses, so far it's helping me to just move a bit and soften my back pain
LITTERALLY, I relate to her story on such a deep level, 100%! The first thing that I neglected when I was in a dark place mentally was my hair. I neglected my 4c hair for a straight 5 months, and I wish I had someone like this lovely lady here in NC. :( I’m NOW trying to detangle my hair. I felt hopeless and tiresome, so I searched and found this video in hopes of encouragement that I can make it through too. 😢💔
How's it going? All this hair in my pic (down to lower back) is now in that exact same state. I have severe physical medical issues, I pray I can live long enough to see it untangled 😢🙏🏼. I pray you succeeded, may GOD be with you always 💛💝
@@Michelle-pn9xt extra weight like all the hair that would of normally fallen off was all still stuck on her head. She was probably more comfortable sleeping to cause you can position individual strands so your head is comfy. You sound uneducated.
It breaks my heart to think that someone was in such a place mentally. She deserves to feel good about herself again and I’m glad there are people who are able to help get her there.
The face shield you have to give them privacy and the care and why you talk about all the clients is truly heart warming. Thank you for just being you. 💜
I had severe postpartum depression after my son, and if I hadn’t have been a straight haired white person, this definitely would have been me and I’m so thankful there is someone like you out there here to help my curly haired sisters that have gone through something similar. Thank you for everything you do. It doesn’t go unseen or unappreciated ❤️
This has happened to my friend and she is a pretty straight haired white person, seems it can happen with all hair types! I hope you're feeling better now! Sending lots of love your way 💖
All people who have 4c hair are heroes for me. Me too was in dark place after my kids were born, sometimes it seemed that I can hardly get up from bed. I literally did only necessary things around the house and all that baby needs, almost totally forgetting about myself. I would wash my hair once a week and sometimes even could leave them uncombed for couple of days. I always wanted thick hair, but if I had, they would definitely get matted. Mine just needed some conditioner with next washing. Depression and lack of energy, both physical and emotional, can be very dark and difficult
Thank You for being a compassionate hair stylist, a lost art of the profession. Hats off to you for the conscious effort of awareness of reflecting Love. I quit a hair stylist because I didn’t feel that love towards me or my hair.
I have severe chronic health issues that keep me on the couch or in bed most days. The fatigue to so severe, just getting up to go to the restroom feels like climbing a mountain. Brushing my hair? That happens on good days. Washing my hair takes all the energy I have on a good day. This is my reality, and there are many more people like me. So i DO understand this beautiful woman's situation. BUT, thank goodness there are angels out there like YOU and your ASSISTANT. You videos are so moving and encouraging to me, and I thank you so much❤️
Please do the following things: - make sure to take sun baths because it will give you energy - clean your environment because it will make you feel much better - drink bissap/hibiscus tea : it is full of antioxidants and apparently it fights depression - last but definitely not least, workout. It has proven benefic effects on mental health. It does not matter if you can't do a lot at first. It will provide your brain with serotonin and endorphin which will make you feel better. You will go through this !!
@@princessenzinga528 These are definitely things I strive to do. But with chronic pain autoimmune diseases it is almost impossible to be consistent. Through mindfulness I have been able to avoid depression. I just keep any negative thoughts OUT. But thank you so much for your suggestions as it is always good to see them in writing to remind me of what I need to work towards doing!!
@@Patti-1962 I am glad to read that you're avoiding depression. You should try to eat yam it is full of vertues. You should look it up on the internet. Anyway better days are coming ! Have a nice day ✊✊
@@Patti-1962 hey there ! Not exactly. Yams are specific to African food so if you can find some African store somewhere ask for it. It is brown and kind of looks like a big branch (do not confuse it with cassava /manioc, this one has sugar in it). It's full of good things but don't abuse of it. If you can, I advise you to consult a nutritionist to guide you.
I would never judge. After five years of caring for an elderly parent with dementia, I have rooms in my house I would never show to outsiders. Things get shoved behind closed door to keep the public areas decent. I get it, I really do. I wish your clients could show their beautiful faces at the end without fear of bring attacked.
I’m not sure how I stumbled across your channel but watching you help these women while treating them with the dignity and compassion they deserve is incredibly moving. It is so much more than just doing hair; you are really giving them a gift. If there’s somewhere I could donate to help you with the cost of supplies I’d love to.
This was me! WHEW!! The things we go through behind our hair. It hadn't been 2 years, but long enough to have matting and mental distress behind it. God bless you AND your hands Girl!! Yaasssss 🙏
Her note at the end really spoke to me. Some of us give away all our empathy and care to everyone else with the hope that they’ll give it back to us. That’s not a healthy way to think. You must treat yourself with love and compassion and empathy and forgiveness.
You are so kind and gracious to do this for these folks. Depression is so complicated. I had someone tell me not too long ago to just "stop it", I was speechless. If only it were that simple. Much love ❤️❤️
I know how you feel, they think it's like turning off a tap and it's easy, so buck up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. This is why it takes so long to feel good again, it took me years. ❤
This sucks, and I'm not talking about the video. It sucks that there is no love button on here. To go through such a trying time in life and to hold on and not give up, there is so much love needed. Keep your head held high and wear your crown with pride queen. Sending so much love from Texas your way.
It’s fascinating how unique our experiences are. I was stressed out and it caused my hair to shed and thin so much my hair became just another thing going wrong. Shaving it to a buzz cut was my way of taking control. For this lovely lady maintaining as much of her hair as possible was the right answer and I am so happy she found you to help her take control back.
I watch a ton of art conservation videos and somehow found myself here through TH-cam recommendations. The similarities are astounding. The curiosity, compassion and patience you have for these humans truly makes the world a better place. Never give up on people!
I saw this on IG, and just had to subscribe to your channel. I will fly from Louisiana to you just for you to do mine. Life has hit, and depression is real. It's so refreshing to know there are hairstylists out here that truly love what they do and are patient, and non-judgmental.
We did this for a patient. Lots of oil and several hours and some cutting. We had a respiratory therapist who was a former hairdresser and she led the effort. Patient and family were happy. That was the goal.
If I did hair this is the job I would like ! Just make people feel amazing . Not judge for any matted hair . Listen to them . Cry with them laugh with them. You are amazing.
This was the thing I needed to see today, I have had the worst case of depression I’ve had in years and absolutely no one at home cares about me, not mom, not dad, not even my eldest sister. I’ve been struggling with self image issues and as a result; I’ve stopped taking care of myself. Whether it be doing my hair, showering and simply brushing my teeth… Hearing her story gave me a little more hope.. In a world where it feels like no one cares if I died… maybe if I stayed a little longer, I’ll find something brighter… thank you…
Your story made me cry I’m currently struggling with anxiety and depression and it’s hard, really hard to wake up and get up in the morning or do anything at all You’re an inspiration when you said said you’re beyond worth it I felt that Thank you 🙏 for being so brave, I’m sending lots of love and prayers your way 💕
I know this was a long time ago, but I hope you are feeling much better today. I'm old now but I had many depressing days through the years. I almost didn't make it too see another day. But just hang in there, usually things do get better. Try listening to some upbeat music and dancing around be silly. Chase those dark days away. Watch a comedy? Just try anything to lighten the mood. But just keep on keeping on. Life is so worth it.
Hope you feel better now. I’m at this stage right now, and I’ve just started CBT. I feel less worthless and angry towards myself, it’s still there, but finally with help of psychologist and psychiatrist I’m sure I’ll get through this 😊
@@peppermint_Pepe I KNOW EXACTLY how you feel! For me, prayer and my faith has been what has gotten me this far (mid 40's) I will pray for you and all going through this. You CAN get through to the other side! We will always have some hard times but that's life. What's important to remember is that it never lasts forever and you WILL feel better especially if you're working on it!!!! You matter!! You're worth being here!! GOD gave you this life for a reason, if not you wouldn't be here!! I pray you find your purpose and FLY!! Mentally can be free!! I'm here if you want to talk🙏🏼💝💛💝
Thank you so much for caring and to even ask for an update. I am doing better thank god, i have learned coping mechanisms to help with my depression and anxiety. Learning to be in the present not the past and knowing that god is always with me has helped tremendously 🙏 I hope whoever reads this knows, it truly gets better just have to take it day by day, sometimes even minute by minute just have to keep going. You’ve got this!
Omg! She had enough dead hair for someone else...mental health on my SISTA'S is crazy overwhelming...I pray for those who go through this disease..TY HADASSAH for being a amazing stylist
I’m always amazed at the patience and time and love u put into helping detangling instead of cutting it all off. I know these women are extremely grateful. So beautiful ❤
Katrin Karlsdottir My hair used to matt up like (even when braided) that overnight as a child. I am also very tender-headed. I learned to sleep on satin or silk pillowcases and with my (naturally straight) hair in braids. I oil the ends of my hair and brush with a boar bristle brush before braiding every night as well. It helps the knots slip out as they form. I am so glad that you are very kind and supportive, having matted hair is both embarrassing and physically painful. I also appreciate that you let the client hide their face for the videos so they won't be harassed later. Fantastic job!
This happen to me when I was in second grade after my mother passed away. And I have the same texture hair and I will say even when I go a week in a half with a Afro and it gets matted. And it doesn’t help that I’m tender headed. It’s the 4a/4b/4c all combined that this happens too the most. You did an amazing job and was so patient with her it’s amazing.
She is very blessed with a nice hairline. Wearing my hair in a high bun, often very tangled has caused me traction alopecia. Im finally starting to take better care of my hair and hoping my hairline will grow back a bit. Edit: Wow the final result is amazing!!
Judge Free Zone. I love that. Not hair relate but 2 days ago I was hard bullied and it brought all the old pain back. I can relate to the pain your clients carry. You are a blessing, Hadasa. Miss, I read it all and blessings to you. Virtual hug.
I love this channel. I have been in the pit of depression and often those who have never experienced it don’t really understand what it does to a person. I am so glad you survived and you, the hair dresser are a miracle worker. Thank you for this content. ❤️❤️❤️
Awwww! I love this so much! I’m glad she didn’t “just cut it off” I can’t imagine that helping the situation. Instead she made this decision, closed the door on a difficult past and walked into her future looking like a friggen rock star! You are beautiful and inspiring, thank you for sharing your story. Nobody’s life is always perfect and when we share our stories of overcoming difficult times, it gives hope to those who are in the pit of it, still searching for a way out
I truly pray that this gives her back her strength to find happiness and peace! Beautiful hair and such a brave lady! Your skills, patience and nonjudemental soul are such a joy for all! So much can be learned from your videos!💕💕🙏🙏
Wow. WOW. I cannot imagine the strength and determination it must take to not only ask for help with something like this, but to be willing to share it, even anonymously, online with thousands of people. What an incredible person, and so glad Hadassa exists in this world, cause we all need people like that in our lives!
Just watched the clients notes at the end. Beautifully worded. Inspirational! Sometimes i wish all the high and mighty could fall, so that they can gain some understanding and compassion - but then also i dont want anyone to struggle like that because it is a dark and lonely place that is unforgiving. I'm so glad you're finding your way forward. Hugs from south africa! ❤
To the wonderful client that took the time to write about her experiences and share her perspective with us: You're beautiful. Before and after, you're beautiful. Your strength is inspiring and your words are a bright glow through dark times. I'm sure you're already aware, but it bears repeating that you aren't alone either. I've been there personally and I know what a toll it takes, but you found the will to fight for yourself and I'm so incredibly proud of you for the person you are. Thank you for sharing your highs and lows with strangers on the internet who may really need to see them to remind themselves of what's possible. Nicki Minaj was your breakthrough inspiration, and I know that with this video you'll be someone else's 💙 You're incredible. Please remind yourself of that every day.
Thank you so much for this, I literally just untangled my own hair that I had not combed or touched in 6 months. I also had the thought of cutting it but then felt like I would be giving up if I did cut it. I fight this depression each passing day because I refuse to give up. It’s not easy but I’m doing it. Thanks to the host for the empathy and judgment zone free place she opened up on her platform. Thank you host for sharing this story with us. May God continue to bless you and your kind heart ❤️
This year my longstanding depression and quarantining made it hard to get out of my bed, my hair got really matted on multiple occasions and i had to resort to ripping lots of it out and my mom spending hours trying to detangle it. This video made me cry because you gave her some hope to start new, and took all the shame and weight off her shoulders. When we stop caring for ourselves, it’s so so hard to leave that cycle. This kind of kindness means everything to those who struggle.
I completely understand. This brought tears to my eyes just thinking about my battle with depression. I'm so proud of the both of you. Her for not giving up and you for helping these ladies.
I have so much love and respect for you and what you do! ❤ I am white and work in childcare and watching your videos and others inspired me to learn how to style African American hair so I can style all my sweet students hair. Sometimes the parents or guardians can't get their babies hair done all the time for one reason or another and I never judge or ask questions. I just love your attitude about the situation and having your hair done changes you so much! Even toddlers feel it! My students white, Asian, Hispanic, or African can all feel loved and beautiful because of wonderful people like you inspiring others. Thank you for all you do 💜
I don't know why this video popped up on my feed but I’m glad it did. Her message at the end was inspiring but I must admit my favorite part was watching the two women hug. After over a year of social distancing and connected virtually it was amazing to see the human aspect of them embracing in celebration was heart warming.
I'm Caucasian and my hair gets matted very easily. I feel her pain.i suffer from depression and fibromyalgia, and there are days I can't run a comb through my hair just from pain alone in the rest of my body. The pain makes me physically ill. Depression on top of that makes things even worse. I'm lucky to get dressed on my days off from work let alone do my hair. I totally get it. I wish her well in the future.
I struggled with depression and to this day I have bad days with it... having curly hair is not a friend in these times. You think of all the work and the care it needs and you just have no mental capacity to stand in the shower and take a comb through it, wash, rinse, condition, dry.. when getting out of bed is a struggle, that can make you feel like climbing a mountain. My hair is not nearly as curly, but every couple of weeks it will get to be one big block of tangles on the crown on my head, after leaving it in a bun for weeks at a time. Funny thing is I can even get away with it cause my hair doesn't get oily almost at all, or smelly. So no social motivation there either and in isolation like we are now it is so easy to just let that slip.. when it all gets too much the hair salon down the block is a salvation, I honestly feel sorry for the poor girl who has to detangle the mess but that emotionally is less taxing somedays than having to come through it myself. Or some days I just wished I had straight hair temporarily cause it would be easier to handle.. I feel her so much... trying to overcome your mental health struggles is so so hard and you just let yourself go..
Until I stumbled upon your channel, I had no idea this was something so many people could benefit from or that someone having the patience and ability to remove mats from hair was rare. I've got a 6 year old, long beautiful wavy curly hair, so so so thick though, and it mats up so bad so quick. It got really bad this past winter, I was dealing with a massive depression and she just refused to brush her hair. It was one big mat all in the back of her head, only her bangs (Self given because she decided to cut her own hair a while back) were free from the massive mat. It took 2 days, but I managed to remove the mats. I've had to do the same to my own hair a few times from sheer laziness/depressive episodes, whatever the reason, my hair just mats so easily.... I'm on a tangent now. Anyways, just wanted to say I love the amazing work that you do!
To have cut your hair would have been criminal, it is the most beautiful colour and looks stunning, stay strong and know that you are unique and amazing ❤❤
Your client's words were so beautiful, I'm so grateful for her sharing them with us. I wish I could hop on a plane and come help you! I've been where your clients have been and I want to pay it forward.
Man I love these videos. To the woman who got her hair done, you are strength personified. I admire you courage and resilience, you are an inspiration to so many who are struggling. Caring for thick long hair is a full time job and when things get hard it feels like another monumental hill to climb. So proud of you for exercising the love of self, and reaching for help in love. It takes courage I wish I had at times. Blessing to you, and always remember what you overcame. 💕✨ The hair healer, you have gods gift in those hands. Your impact is far reaching, I am amazed at your talent. Blessing and love to you 🙏🏽💕
There are so many of us, both men and women, battling "Dark depression". I know, the hair literally growing into the beanie, no showers, barely brushing teeth; tears upon tears falling onto our pillows from pain and experiences that leave us immobilized! All ages, races, ethnicities & genders! I applaud you. Not only is my hair constantly matting, but so is my spirit! I'm so exhausted with severe domestic/emotional abuse, that I am becoming not only mentally, but physically ill. Love yourself because everyone watching does! I'm 68 and my encouragement is watching this video. God help us all.
What an amazing transformation!!! Her BEAUTIFUL hair was trapped and you set it free! I cried during her story. It resonated with seasons of pain that I have been through. We must hold on to that one thread of hope! To the Goddess in the video: You have overcome! I am so proud of you for continuing to push through, even when it felt impossible. May the blessings pour over you!
I know exactly what she is going through. I’m glad she was able to get help. I wasn’t I have to comb out my hair by myself. It took me basically a year. Because I’m not a physically healthy as most able bodied people, so I had to rest in between. I feel so free now, and my confidence and self esteem has come back.
I wanted to cry towards the end. Through many years of depression my hair (which at the time was about 3a/3b) would matte up & It would be way too much energy to fix. I’m so glad she was able to have this done & I’m so glad to see you do this for people. Her transformation is amazing & her texture is beautiful ♥️
I suffer from chronic depression and I’m only now realizing how difficult the past 1-2 years have been and the toll they have taken on my sense of self. Though it’s easier for me to deal with my hair (fine 2c) after not washing it for a while, I know how painful it can be to see the love you have for yourself slipping away. Thank you for what you do for these women. Having someone care about you enough to help you achieve your goals means so much. I relate to this woman’s story deeply. Her strength and determination makes me cry. I hope she knows how admirable she is.
It says in the Holy Scriptures that a woman's hair is her crown and glory. And that's what we see here. A woman's crown and glory being restored, healed and made beautiful again. This is a great gift that this beautiful lady has. God bless you always sister. Gorgeous results.
That "100% Detangle Turn-Up" with you and your very much relieved and revived client will always be my favorite part of your client transformations! God bless you!
I think I went 6 months to a year. One day I tried to comb and just gave up! I was twisting and loccin everyone else's hair and neglecting mine. Aloe vera and homemade flaxseed gel helped me finally with the process. This video is motivating me to finally twist out my hair. God bless 🙏🏿❤🖤💚🙏🏿
Thank you everyone on here; I feel like folks didn't take depression as a very very serious illness; it is! It is debilitating and can take your life in many different ways. It is real! God help us all who suffer from it.
I feel you lovely 🌺 I’m bed bound most days with a physical disability that affects my mental health badly. It takes me days to build up the strength not just physically but also mentally, to have a shower and I can only wash my hair once a week... Depression takes over and I often can’t wash my hair. You are amazing for sharing your story and letting us all know we’r not alone 🙏🏼❤️
This is such an amazing channel and I am in tears and in awe of how women can be each other's life line. I'm just speechless at the courage it took for these strong women to share their experiences. You are amazing Hadassah and thank you for sharing this.
I love that you do this! I constantly have to fight to keep my hair managed, but cutting it would break me. This is so valuable and I wish more people would do it.
When I feel exhausted and anxious in the evening after work, I also find it hard to keep up my daily routines like skincare etc. I might not be able to fully imagine what this lady and sadly many other people had to go through to find themselves in such a dark place but I certainly understand the beginnings of it. It's vicious. But I hope this strong woman is now able to start living the amazing life she deserves!
This had me crying. Thank you to your client for the message at the end. It meant so much. I can only imagine the satisfaction you all felt at the end. The relief, the joy. It inspires in my own stuff I’m going through, not to give up. 🙏🏼❤☺️
Wow. The way her hair just springs back and tries retangle is intense. I can fully understand why people with this hair type might choose to just leave it. I have very easy hair to work with and i can inagine if ure going through a rough patch - just not being able to afford the product u need to help this hair stay tangle free would be intense. New respect for peoole who manage to keep this hair type looking so fabulous and way more understanding for those that struggle to fight their way forward. Grear channel. Officially subscribing❤
This was me a few months ago. I was severely depressed and didn’t get out of bed for months. My hair was completely matted and I was so embarrassed by it that I wouldn’t leave the house and the cycle of depression and embarrassment continued. I finally got the courage to dial up a local salon and tell them the details, they said they understood so I came on down. I told them I didn’t want to trouble them with brushing it and told them they could shave it. They lady told me that she wanted to brush it all out because she could see that deep down I didn’t want it shaved. So there we were, combing and cutting the absolute mess that was my hair. After 1 week we finally got it out and I feel so much better with myself. Depression had taken over my life and it finally felt like I was taking that first step. Sorry for the long story, this came into my recommendations and it hit close to home
So glad you're better. 😊
❤️ thank you for sharing
Glad you’re okay ❤️❤️❤️
God bless you hun. Jesus loves you ❤️
I have been there feel better
What a wonderfully compassionate service you provide! I'm a white girl who 40 years ago was a patient in a mental facility. A much younger (also white) girl was admitted for severe depression and suicide attempts. The staff was going to shave her neglected matted hair and she was terrified. At my insistence, they allowed me to try to save her hair and her dignity. I began by using an entire large bottle of heavy conditioner (the only option available) to comb through the layers before it could even be shampooed. Hours and hours later, her hair and her mood completely transformed! I still have the thank you card from her delighted parents. So yea, I do know first-hand what it means to care for someone in need of a little goodness. Thank you for all that you do to help make this world a better place, one strand at a time.
Your compassion will be remembered by her and the other patients there with you both as an act of love. As a past patient for severe depression, I learned more about recovery through love from fellow patients than I did from the staff. There’s something about receiving acts of kindness from others who understand what you’re going through that heals our hearts more than most every doctor I met ( the nurses I had were actually incredible caring people).
It always puzzles me when 40+ years old call themselves girls
@@_stillborn why are trying to deflect from what they are saying?
@@jonesy642 im just saying mate. Yeah it doesnt have anything to do with their point but so what?
@@jonesy642 dont worry you let misery enjoy themselves @stillborn obviously doesn't have common sense
" Empathy and Compassion are free" Say it louder for the folks in the back sis!
You never know what someone is going through. A little kindness goes a long way and it doesn’t cost you a thing 💜
How much do you get for this service?
@@yorkiesrule4ever seriously
@@nadiajahee367 it was just a question it’s ok to ask questions😁
There is empathy and there is self care. Regardless of what you are going through there is no excuse at this age to not run a comb through your hair once a day or even once a week.
I hate when ppl say “how could you ever let your hair get like that” bc it’s not that hard for it to get like that- especially with curly hair- like I’m doing rlly bad rn and might have depression and I have not brushed my hair in a month- yes I know it’s bad but it’s just SUPER hard to do just the “small easy” stuff
This woman is a poet, a warrior and a winner. God bless you, anonymous sister.
A magician too
@@astrammd yeah, in a way. But Ive been told that magicians are evil and stuff I AM NOT SAYING SHE IS EVIL SHE SOUNDS LIKE A VERY NICE PERSON I am just saying-
@@Mari-gq2jp yeah lets not
@@Mari-gq2jp Magicians can be good and cool too.
AMEN
I remember when I was going through it and my hair was really matted, and super long. I couldn’t even reach the Matt’s to help myself. I hid it however I could. I finally reached out for help from a therapist and she had the nerve to shame me. I was appalled and it certainly didn’t help my mental state. My mom was willing to try and help me. She spent many hours over the course of two days and finally got it all out. Great big hugs to anyone and everyone who suffers inside.
You can report the therapist to her employer or regulatory body.
Your therapist should NEVER have done that to you... That's a symptom of depression!!! You really should turn your therapist in... I want you to know that people care!!! Hugs to you!!! I 100% understand how you feel!!! You're amazing, and wonderful, and fantastic, and, I think you understand what I'm saying... Be blessed!!!
So many people wear their mental health and distress. You can see it in weight, hair, and hygiene. It’s so great that this is done. I loved her explanation about what “just cut it” would mean to her. It was eye opening.
100th like :) and yes it was so amazing
Yesss signs of depression
I understand. I too suffered from depression, But; by me being a very public well known figure in my city mu mental health moreless came out in my putting on ot gaining weight.. I am working on getting it off now. 🙏. God bless
Yup. Messy house, not bathing, not washing hair. Those are a few of my symptoms. Its an everyday struggle.
My sister's hair got really matted once, when we were kids. My mom had 5 kids before she was 30, and she was overwhelmed. Sometimes the hair went neglected for both of us. My mom tried to detangle it, but my sister cried and cried. A family friend tried, but shamed my mom and my sis. I told my mom I would do it. It took a long time, and she lost a little hair, but after a haircut, she was so much better, physically and emotionally. You are a blessing to these people.
Because of this video, I was able to get my hair detangled. I lost alot of hair but it will grow back. Thank you for inspiring me to endure depression. I just lost my mom last week and I'm devastated. I was tired of wigs not fitting on my head and people were laughing at me. This was a painful process. I so glad there are extensions to help me get my hair back. Again I thank you
Hugs friend.
A hair straightener even over the mats may help a comb out.
Thank you. It was painful but I got all the Mats out. My scalp is so sore
My thoughts are with you darling, you're strong and you've got this!
Sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you and your family. God bless you all 🙏❤
I saw your videos June last year and got the courage to detangle my hair after it had spiralled into a 1.5year old mat. It was so bad that I could neither see nor feel my scalp back then but your videos gave me hope that it was possible to get my hair back without having to shave it all of. I tried one section and the sheer size of the task broke me! I then spent almost a year trying to save up so I can fly out to you but got hit with an emergency and had to use that money for something else. Fast forward to this morning at 6am with me taking out the final knot after almost 3years with hair depression. I could've cried, I was so happy! It took me 17days and almost a bucket full of shed hair, 3 bruised fingers and two bottles of conditioner but I made it.
Thank you for giving me hope and inspiring me to take back control of my hair and by extention control of my life.
To anyone going through something similar. You can do it, take your time and be kind to yourself. Do it one small section at a go and you'll get there. Tips I learned along the way: use a sturdy rattail comb with firm teeth to comb through the mat more efficiently. Get a medium/large safety pin to use on the small knots. Get a conditioner with a LOT of slip. Use a plastic bag over your head overnight to soften the knots and also restore some moisture and elasticity back into your strands. Get a sharp pair of hair scissors to help you cut through those shedded hairs that form the horizontal strands binding your hair sections together. Lastly be patient, if you get tired or frustrated, take a break and comeback later. You got this!
You're amazing 😭
My hair currently looks like this. I also haven't combed it in 2 and a half years. My teeth and skin are also suffering. I completely get it. You are a angel for doing this. And the woman getting her hair done is inspiring and amazing.Thank you and your colleague.
Please seek help
Your choice of a Jussie Smollet avatar suggests you see the world through not-clear eyes. I pray for you and your recovery.
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I can relate. I really hope you get better. I had to cut off my hair the end of last year. I still struggle with similar issues to you.
@@dramacoma6786 yes I know. It's just so hard. Thank you.
I really appreciate how you protect the identity of your clients. Not outing or judging them but telling their story and doing your best to help them. That is some beautiful work ya'll did and the transformation is incredible!
My mom is going through this right now. Depression and she has let herself go. But she won't let me help her. But I'm going to keep trying.
Good luck. You’re a good daughter 🙏🏽
Try showing her this video. Do it on accident. Mom's are nosy. LOL, if she sees you looking interested in a video, she's sure to look over your shoulder.
Any developments? If not, that's okay because the future can still be better 😊
It's hard to let people help you. Especially when you don't know what will help. Just keep being there for your mom, and do what you need to take care of yourself. You can't pour out of an empty pitcher.
@@blaquehippie 😂😂😂
Oh her poor scalp probably hurt so much 😭 the relief must be amazing ❤
I hope people can understand that this often happens because of depression. Thankfully I never let it get this bad with my hair but I struggle to get out of bed every day. It’s so bad that I’ve lost all of my muscle and get tired from walking. Depression is different for everyone so please be understanding and kind
Praying that relief comes soon.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I sincerely wish the best for you, and all who are in a similar situation as you. You are loved, so so loved by God who created us all and also by people in your life, be it friends, family or otherwise. You are worth it, and the dark won't last forever. Praying for you and many others facing a tough time, God bless you In Jesus Name ❤️❤️❤️
@@to_yin3405 thank you so much, I appreciate it a lot. I hope you’re doing well and I’m glad u have a good relationship with god💕
@@jazminyz Thank you! You can have one too, He's always available to those who seek him ❤️ wishing you the best, hang in there!!
Same I have beaten my depression but still have a hard time going outside and out of bed because I feel lost, I get up and walk to the kitchen and my legs and arms are shaking, I have back problems so I have been doing yoga, I recommend yoga with Adrienne it's very low impact and Low to the ground (the ones for tight hips and lower back, and lower back one) it focusses a lot on what *you* can do and not having perfect poses, so far it's helping me to just move a bit and soften my back pain
LITTERALLY, I relate to her story on such a deep level, 100%! The first thing that I neglected when I was in a dark place mentally was my hair. I neglected my 4c hair for a straight 5 months, and I wish I had someone like this lovely lady here in NC. :( I’m NOW trying to detangle my hair. I felt hopeless and tiresome, so I searched and found this video in hopes of encouragement that I can make it through too. 😢💔
I hope things worked out well for you, Regine. 💛
I hope you get through this! I believe in you!
How's it going? All this hair in my pic (down to lower back) is now in that exact same state. I have severe physical medical issues, I pray I can live long enough to see it untangled 😢🙏🏼. I pray you succeeded, may GOD be with you always 💛💝
Prayers going up Blessings raining down
Oh man! I can't even imagine the relief in just getting rid of all that extra weight on your head! I'm sure she slept better!
Extra weight??? That was her hair!!!!!!!!!
@@Michelle-pn9xt hair is heavy
@@Michelle-pn9xt extra weight like all the hair that would of normally fallen off was all still stuck on her head. She was probably more comfortable sleeping to cause you can position individual strands so your head is comfy. You sound uneducated.
@@Michelle-pn9xt anyone who has cut substantial length from their hair knows you head feels about 5 pounds lighter.
Sis, I'd love to donate to your efforts. As a former hairstylist, your service has moved me.
It breaks my heart to think that someone was in such a place mentally. She deserves to feel good about herself again and I’m glad there are people who are able to help get her there.
The face shield you have to give them privacy and the care and why you talk about all the clients is truly heart warming. Thank you for just being you. 💜
I had severe postpartum depression after my son, and if I hadn’t have been a straight haired white person, this definitely would have been me and I’m so thankful there is someone like you out there here to help my curly haired sisters that have gone through something similar. Thank you for everything you do. It doesn’t go unseen or unappreciated ❤️
Hugs friend 😘 love and prayers.
This has happened to my friend and she is a pretty straight haired white person, seems it can happen with all hair types! I hope you're feeling better now! Sending lots of love your way 💖
I have seen plenty matting hair vids on TH-cam on Caucasian hair
@@user-ry6jj6kx2s all hair mats. Even dog hair
All people who have 4c hair are heroes for me. Me too was in dark place after my kids were born, sometimes it seemed that I can hardly get up from bed. I literally did only necessary things around the house and all that baby needs, almost totally forgetting about myself. I would wash my hair once a week and sometimes even could leave them uncombed for couple of days. I always wanted thick hair, but if I had, they would definitely get matted. Mine just needed some conditioner with next washing. Depression and lack of energy, both physical and emotional, can be very dark and difficult
All of what this beautiful woman was going through was in the hair. Stored up energy. Glad you are in a better place.
The "it would mean that I lost the battle for control of my life" made me cry; this detangling videos make me so emotional!
I still can not understand why getting a short hair cut is not out of choice for these customers ?
@@Ramparts2009 it isn’t, they just wanted to save the hair, instead of starting over
Thank You for being a compassionate hair stylist, a lost art of the profession. Hats off to you for the conscious effort of awareness of reflecting Love. I quit a hair stylist because I didn’t feel that love towards me or my hair.
I have severe chronic health issues that keep me on the couch or in bed most days. The fatigue to so severe, just getting up to go to the restroom feels like climbing a mountain. Brushing my hair? That happens on good days. Washing my hair takes all the energy I have on a good day. This is my reality, and there are many more people like me. So i DO understand this beautiful woman's situation. BUT, thank goodness there are angels out there like YOU and your ASSISTANT. You videos are so moving and encouraging to me, and I thank you so much❤️
Please do the following things:
- make sure to take sun baths because it will give you energy
- clean your environment because it will make you feel much better
- drink bissap/hibiscus tea : it is full of antioxidants and apparently it fights depression
- last but definitely not least, workout. It has proven benefic effects on mental health. It does not matter if you can't do a lot at first. It will provide your brain with serotonin and endorphin which will make you feel better.
You will go through this !!
@@princessenzinga528 These are definitely things I strive to do. But with chronic pain autoimmune diseases it is almost impossible to be consistent. Through mindfulness I have been able to avoid depression. I just keep any negative thoughts OUT. But thank you so much for your suggestions as it is always good to see them in writing to remind me of what I need to work towards doing!!
@@Patti-1962 I am glad to read that you're avoiding depression. You should try to eat yam it is full of vertues. You should look it up on the internet.
Anyway better days are coming !
Have a nice day ✊✊
@@princessenzinga528 Are yams different from sweet potatoes? I eat those quite often.
@@Patti-1962 hey there ! Not exactly. Yams are specific to African food so if you can find some African store somewhere ask for it. It is brown and kind of looks like a big branch (do not confuse it with cassava /manioc, this one has sugar in it). It's full of good things but don't abuse of it. If you can, I advise you to consult a nutritionist to guide you.
I would never judge. After five years of caring for an elderly parent with dementia, I have rooms in my house I would never show to outsiders. Things get shoved behind closed door to keep the public areas decent. I get it, I really do. I wish your clients could show their beautiful faces at the end without fear of bring attacked.
I love the face mask you give your clients, to allow them some dignity ❤️
We never know what is around the corner...be nice 💕
you can see how heavily she's breathing telling her story, it's still raw to her. I'm glad she's on a road to recovery now
I’m not sure how I stumbled across your channel but watching you help these women while treating them with the dignity and compassion they deserve is incredibly moving. It is so much more than just doing hair; you are really giving them a gift. If there’s somewhere I could donate to help you with the cost of supplies I’d love to.
This was me! WHEW!! The things we go through behind our hair. It hadn't been 2 years, but long enough to have matting and mental distress behind it. God bless you AND your hands Girl!! Yaasssss 🙏
Her note at the end really spoke to me. Some of us give away all our empathy and care to everyone else with the hope that they’ll give it back to us. That’s not a healthy way to think. You must treat yourself with love and compassion and empathy and forgiveness.
And your comment spoke to me. ♡
Me asf
You are so kind and gracious to do this for these folks. Depression is so complicated. I had someone tell me not too long ago to just "stop it", I was speechless. If only it were that simple. Much love ❤️❤️
I know how you feel, they think it's like turning off a tap and it's easy, so buck up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. This is why it takes so long to feel good again, it took me years. ❤
This sucks, and I'm not talking about the video. It sucks that there is no love button on here. To go through such a trying time in life and to hold on and not give up, there is so much love needed. Keep your head held high and wear your crown with pride queen. Sending so much love from Texas your way.
It’s fascinating how unique our experiences are. I was stressed out and it caused my hair to shed and thin so much my hair became just another thing going wrong. Shaving it to a buzz cut was my way of taking control. For this lovely lady maintaining as much of her hair as possible was the right answer and I am so happy she found you to help her take control back.
I watch a ton of art conservation videos and somehow found myself here through TH-cam recommendations. The similarities are astounding. The curiosity, compassion and patience you have for these humans truly makes the world a better place. Never give up on people!
She has such shiney beautiful hair and now she can start enjoying her hair again.
I saw this on IG, and just had to subscribe to your channel. I will fly from Louisiana to you just for you to do mine. Life has hit, and depression is real. It's so refreshing to know there are hairstylists out here that truly love what they do and are patient, and non-judgmental.
I hope it happens and you get the treatment you deserve!
@@1917yee thank you💝!!!! I pray so soon. Finances are the holdup, but I know it'll happen soon.
Don't give up. Call on Him and He will answer. Praying for you.
@@nadiar.7788 amen!!! Thank you so much!!!💝
@@Freein2024 💗💗💗
We did this for a patient. Lots of oil and several hours and some cutting. We had a respiratory therapist who was a former hairdresser and she led the effort. Patient and family were happy. That was the goal.
If I did hair this is the job I would like ! Just make people feel amazing . Not judge for any matted hair . Listen to them . Cry with them laugh with them. You are amazing.
This was the thing I needed to see today, I have had the worst case of depression I’ve had in years and absolutely no one at home cares about me, not mom, not dad, not even my eldest sister. I’ve been struggling with self image issues and as a result; I’ve stopped taking care of myself. Whether it be doing my hair, showering and simply brushing my teeth… Hearing her story gave me a little more hope.. In a world where it feels like no one cares if I died… maybe if I stayed a little longer, I’ll find something brighter… thank you…
I know she probably feels like weight was lefted off her shoulders and she has a breath of fresh air.
Your story made me cry I’m currently struggling with anxiety and depression and it’s hard, really hard to wake up and get up in the morning or do anything at all
You’re an inspiration when you said said you’re beyond worth it I felt that
Thank you 🙏 for being so brave, I’m sending lots of love and prayers your way 💕
I know this was a long time ago, but I hope you are feeling much better today. I'm old now but I had many depressing days through the years. I almost didn't make it too see another day. But just hang in there, usually things do get better. Try listening to some upbeat music and dancing around be silly. Chase those dark days away. Watch a comedy? Just try anything to lighten the mood. But just keep on keeping on. Life is so worth it.
Hope you feel better now. I’m at this stage right now, and I’ve just started CBT. I feel less worthless and angry towards myself, it’s still there, but finally with help of psychologist and psychiatrist I’m sure I’ll get through this 😊
I pray things have gotten better for you, please give us an update, we care!🙏🏼💛
@@peppermint_Pepe I KNOW EXACTLY how you feel! For me, prayer and my faith has been what has gotten me this far (mid 40's) I will pray for you and all going through this. You CAN get through to the other side! We will always have some hard times but that's life. What's important to remember is that it never lasts forever and you WILL feel better especially if you're working on it!!!! You matter!! You're worth being here!! GOD gave you this life for a reason, if not you wouldn't be here!! I pray you find your purpose and FLY!! Mentally can be free!! I'm here if you want to talk🙏🏼💝💛💝
Thank you so much for caring and to even ask for an update. I am doing better thank god, i have learned coping mechanisms to help with my depression and anxiety. Learning to be in the present not the past and knowing that god is always with me has helped tremendously 🙏 I hope whoever reads this knows, it truly gets better just have to take it day by day, sometimes even minute by minute just have to keep going. You’ve got this!
Omg! She had enough dead hair for someone else...mental health on my SISTA'S is crazy overwhelming...I pray for those who go through this disease..TY HADASSAH for being a amazing stylist
I’m always amazed at the patience and time and love u put into helping detangling instead of cutting it all off. I know these women are extremely grateful. So beautiful ❤
Black hair is so time consuming. I admire all that you do and all the time you have to put into this.
Katrin Karlsdottir
My hair used to matt up like (even when braided) that overnight as a child. I am also very tender-headed. I learned to sleep on satin or silk pillowcases and with my (naturally straight) hair in braids. I oil the ends of my hair and brush with a boar bristle brush before braiding every night as well. It helps the knots slip out as they form. I am so glad that you are very kind and supportive, having matted hair is both embarrassing and physically painful. I also appreciate that you let the client hide their face for the videos so they won't be harassed later. Fantastic job!
This happen to me when I was in second grade after my mother passed away. And I have the same texture hair and I will say even when I go a week in a half with a Afro and it gets matted. And it doesn’t help that I’m tender headed. It’s the 4a/4b/4c all combined that this happens too the most.
You did an amazing job and was so patient with her it’s amazing.
She is very blessed with a nice hairline. Wearing my hair in a high bun, often very tangled has caused me traction alopecia. Im finally starting to take better care of my hair and hoping my hairline will grow back a bit.
Edit: Wow the final result is amazing!!
The fact that you got the slick press to turn out that way after 2 years of damaged hair and ends is amazing,
Judge Free Zone. I love that. Not hair relate but 2 days ago I was hard bullied and it brought all the old pain back. I can relate to the pain your clients carry. You are a blessing, Hadasa. Miss, I read it all and blessings to you. Virtual hug.
I love this channel. I have been in the pit of depression and often those who have never experienced it don’t really understand what it does to a person. I am so glad you survived and you, the hair dresser are a miracle worker. Thank you for this content. ❤️❤️❤️
Awwww! I love this so much! I’m glad she didn’t “just cut it off” I can’t imagine that helping the situation. Instead she made this decision, closed the door on a difficult past and walked into her future looking like a friggen rock star!
You are beautiful and inspiring, thank you for sharing your story. Nobody’s life is always perfect and when we share our stories of overcoming difficult times, it gives hope to those who are in the pit of it, still searching for a way out
I truly pray that this gives her back her strength to find happiness and peace! Beautiful hair and such a brave lady! Your skills, patience and nonjudemental soul are such a joy for all! So much can be learned from your videos!💕💕🙏🙏
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Amen 🙏🙏🙏
You're amazing for what you do. Not only for giving her back her hair, but also hope and love 💜
Wow. WOW. I cannot imagine the strength and determination it must take to not only ask for help with something like this, but to be willing to share it, even anonymously, online with thousands of people. What an incredible person, and so glad Hadassa exists in this world, cause we all need people like that in our lives!
Just watched the clients notes at the end. Beautifully worded. Inspirational! Sometimes i wish all the high and mighty could fall, so that they can gain some understanding and compassion - but then also i dont want anyone to struggle like that because it is a dark and lonely place that is unforgiving. I'm so glad you're finding your way forward. Hugs from south africa! ❤
To the wonderful client that took the time to write about her experiences and share her perspective with us: You're beautiful. Before and after, you're beautiful. Your strength is inspiring and your words are a bright glow through dark times. I'm sure you're already aware, but it bears repeating that you aren't alone either. I've been there personally and I know what a toll it takes, but you found the will to fight for yourself and I'm so incredibly proud of you for the person you are. Thank you for sharing your highs and lows with strangers on the internet who may really need to see them to remind themselves of what's possible. Nicki Minaj was your breakthrough inspiration, and I know that with this video you'll be someone else's 💙
You're incredible. Please remind yourself of that every day.
Thank you so much for this, I literally just untangled my own hair that I had not combed or touched in 6 months.
I also had the thought of cutting it but then felt like I would be giving up if I did cut it.
I fight this depression each passing day because I refuse to give up. It’s not easy but I’m doing it.
Thanks to the host for the empathy and judgment zone free place she opened up on her platform. Thank you host for sharing this story with us. May God continue to bless you and your kind heart ❤️
With your energy the client had no choice but to turn up as well. That was my favorite part.
This year my longstanding depression and quarantining made it hard to get out of my bed, my hair got really matted on multiple occasions and i had to resort to ripping lots of it out and my mom spending hours trying to detangle it. This video made me cry because you gave her some hope to start new, and took all the shame and weight off her shoulders. When we stop caring for ourselves, it’s so so hard to leave that cycle. This kind of kindness means everything to those who struggle.
I completely understand. This brought tears to my eyes just thinking about my battle with depression. I'm so proud of the both of you. Her for not giving up and you for helping these ladies.
I have so much love and respect for you and what you do! ❤ I am white and work in childcare and watching your videos and others inspired me to learn how to style African American hair so I can style all my sweet students hair. Sometimes the parents or guardians can't get their babies hair done all the time for one reason or another and I never judge or ask questions. I just love your attitude about the situation and having your hair done changes you so much! Even toddlers feel it! My students white, Asian, Hispanic, or African can all feel loved and beautiful because of wonderful people like you inspiring others. Thank you for all you do 💜
I've dealt with depression where the hair sheads I pray for you to find peace joy and love in your life. My sista and brother. God Bless you..
Good to know there are people out there that don't judge and just help support people. Thank you guys you're the best!!!!
I don't know why this video popped up on my feed but I’m glad it did. Her message at the end was inspiring but I must admit my favorite part was watching the two women hug. After over a year of social distancing and connected virtually it was amazing to see the human aspect of them embracing in celebration was heart warming.
I'm Caucasian and my hair gets matted very easily. I feel her pain.i suffer from depression and fibromyalgia, and there are days I can't run a comb through my hair just from pain alone in the rest of my body. The pain makes me physically ill. Depression on top of that makes things even worse. I'm lucky to get dressed on my days off from work let alone do my hair. I totally get it. I wish her well in the future.
I struggled with depression and to this day I have bad days with it... having curly hair is not a friend in these times. You think of all the work and the care it needs and you just have no mental capacity to stand in the shower and take a comb through it, wash, rinse, condition, dry.. when getting out of bed is a struggle, that can make you feel like climbing a mountain. My hair is not nearly as curly, but every couple of weeks it will get to be one big block of tangles on the crown on my head, after leaving it in a bun for weeks at a time. Funny thing is I can even get away with it cause my hair doesn't get oily almost at all, or smelly. So no social motivation there either and in isolation like we are now it is so easy to just let that slip.. when it all gets too much the hair salon down the block is a salvation, I honestly feel sorry for the poor girl who has to detangle the mess but that emotionally is less taxing somedays than having to come through it myself. Or some days I just wished I had straight hair temporarily cause it would be easier to handle.. I feel her so much... trying to overcome your mental health struggles is so so hard and you just let yourself go..
Y’all are some absolute wizards with these people. Just amazing work. I hope she is in a better place now.
Until I stumbled upon your channel, I had no idea this was something so many people could benefit from or that someone having the patience and ability to remove mats from hair was rare. I've got a 6 year old, long beautiful wavy curly hair, so so so thick though, and it mats up so bad so quick. It got really bad this past winter, I was dealing with a massive depression and she just refused to brush her hair. It was one big mat all in the back of her head, only her bangs (Self given because she decided to cut her own hair a while back) were free from the massive mat. It took 2 days, but I managed to remove the mats. I've had to do the same to my own hair a few times from sheer laziness/depressive episodes, whatever the reason, my hair just mats so easily.... I'm on a tangent now. Anyways, just wanted to say I love the amazing work that you do!
To have cut your hair would have been criminal, it is the most beautiful colour and looks stunning, stay strong and know that you are unique and amazing ❤❤
Your client's words were so beautiful, I'm so grateful for her sharing them with us. I wish I could hop on a plane and come help you! I've been where your clients have been and I want to pay it forward.
her story at the end really resonated with me. I pray she stays strong.
Man I love these videos.
To the woman who got her hair done, you are strength personified. I admire you courage and resilience, you are an inspiration to so many who are struggling. Caring for thick long hair is a full time job and when things get hard it feels like another monumental hill to climb. So proud of you for exercising the love of self, and reaching for help in love. It takes courage I wish I had at times. Blessing to you, and always remember what you overcame. 💕✨
The hair healer, you have gods gift in those hands. Your impact is far reaching, I am amazed at your talent. Blessing and love to you 🙏🏽💕
I love that you do this for people. She has such gorgeous hair! She must feel so much better in herself ❤.
I love how much light you bring to black women ❤️💕
"I'm here now"
There is so much power in just those words alone.
What a beautiful journey. And your talent saved that woman's self esteem. And her hair was beautiful
There are so many of us, both men and women, battling "Dark depression".
I know, the hair literally growing into the beanie, no showers, barely brushing teeth; tears upon tears falling onto our pillows from pain and experiences that leave us immobilized!
All ages, races, ethnicities & genders!
I applaud you. Not only is my hair constantly matting, but so is my spirit! I'm so exhausted with severe domestic/emotional abuse, that I am becoming not only mentally, but physically ill.
Love yourself because everyone watching does!
I'm 68 and my encouragement is watching this video.
God help us all.
What an amazing transformation!!! Her BEAUTIFUL hair was trapped and you set it free!
I cried during her story. It resonated with seasons of pain that I have been through. We must hold on to that one thread of hope!
To the Goddess in the video: You have overcome! I am so proud of you for continuing to push through, even when it felt impossible. May the blessings pour over you!
Her testimonial in the end is SO Inspiring.💓💗 Brought me to tears.
I know exactly what she is going through. I’m glad she was able to get help. I wasn’t I have to comb out my hair by myself. It took me basically a year. Because I’m not a physically healthy as most able bodied people, so I had to rest in between. I feel so free now, and my confidence and self esteem has come back.
I wanted to cry towards the end. Through many years of depression my hair (which at the time was about 3a/3b) would matte up & It would be way too much energy to fix. I’m so glad she was able to have this done & I’m so glad to see you do this for people. Her transformation is amazing & her texture is beautiful ♥️
I suffer from chronic depression and I’m only now realizing how difficult the past 1-2 years have been and the toll they have taken on my sense of self. Though it’s easier for me to deal with my hair (fine 2c) after not washing it for a while, I know how painful it can be to see the love you have for yourself slipping away. Thank you for what you do for these women. Having someone care about you enough to help you achieve your goals means so much. I relate to this woman’s story deeply. Her strength and determination makes me cry. I hope she knows how admirable she is.
It says in the Holy Scriptures that a woman's hair is her crown and glory. And that's what we see here. A woman's crown and glory being restored, healed and made beautiful again. This is a great gift that this beautiful lady has. God bless you always sister. Gorgeous results.
The amount of kindness, love and respect you put into your work is incredible!
That "100% Detangle Turn-Up" with you and your very much relieved and revived client will always be my favorite part of your client transformations! God bless you!
I think I went 6 months to a year. One day I tried to comb and just gave up! I was twisting and loccin everyone else's hair and neglecting mine. Aloe vera and homemade flaxseed gel helped me finally with the process. This video is motivating me to finally twist out my hair. God bless 🙏🏿❤🖤💚🙏🏿
Thank you everyone on here; I feel like folks didn't take depression as a very very serious illness; it is!
It is debilitating and can take your life in many different ways.
It is real! God help us all who suffer from it.
She must have felt so amazing after that, thank you for showing compassion to someone who needed it. It means a lot ❤️
You do such a wonderful service for people. It really is a beautiful thing.
You're literally a blessing to these ladies.
I feel you lovely 🌺 I’m bed bound most days with a physical disability that affects my mental health badly.
It takes me days to build up the strength not just physically but also mentally, to have a shower and I can only wash my hair once a week...
Depression takes over and I often can’t wash my hair.
You are amazing for sharing your story and letting us all know we’r not alone 🙏🏼❤️
This is such an amazing channel and I am in tears and in awe of how women can be each other's life line. I'm just speechless at the courage it took for these strong women to share their experiences. You are amazing Hadassah and thank you for sharing this.
I love that you do this! I constantly have to fight to keep my hair managed, but cutting it would break me. This is so valuable and I wish more people would do it.
When I feel exhausted and anxious in the evening after work, I also find it hard to keep up my daily routines like skincare etc. I might not be able to fully imagine what this lady and sadly many other people had to go through to find themselves in such a dark place but I certainly understand the beginnings of it. It's vicious. But I hope this strong woman is now able to start living the amazing life she deserves!
Virtual hugs to you my loves! This is so satisfying. Tomorrow is my own wash day...and I'm ready for the self love!
The end was simply amazing!😲☺
This had me crying. Thank you to your client for the message at the end. It meant so much. I can only imagine the satisfaction you all felt at the end. The relief, the joy. It inspires in my own stuff I’m going through, not to give up. 🙏🏼❤☺️
What a beautiful job you did. I’m in tears with how you helped this lady. The shine you brought out is amazing!
Wow. The way her hair just springs back and tries retangle is intense. I can fully understand why people with this hair type might choose to just leave it. I have very easy hair to work with and i can inagine if ure going through a rough patch - just not being able to afford the product u need to help this hair stay tangle free would be intense. New respect for peoole who manage to keep this hair type looking so fabulous and way more understanding for those that struggle to fight their way forward. Grear channel. Officially subscribing❤