This is literally the whole point about reputation. All it looks like is that she got pregnant by a ons as her proclivity pronounced her. She doesn't want to go for a dna test to catch the perpetrator and bring him to justice. Her sudden shyness just gives thought of this girl finally is having consequences of her actions catch up to her and now she's lying to get sympathy. The logical question is why no dna test to at least catch the grape. In the end it will likely end up as 2 drunk people hooking up and she's making up for sympathy.
@demonvictim because he can claim parent's rights over the baby and mess up the adoption. I would love the grapist to go to jail, but I also understand OP's reason to leave that on the past
@n0.123 that's the trade off and the importance of reputation. If the situation is that you are loose enough that your friends hubby can be the father then that is a massive failing on your part to maintain your reputation. She has no social credibility that the crazy guy who showed up might actually be the father and he thinks she is trying to sell his kid.
Police probably told him, “if you are father you are rapist… if you are gonna be sex convict and that dosent disappear, and thanks to the girl you have other option walk away dont mess up again, because next time you do something there is no one be second option”
I mean it could work, the problem is that if the man DOESN’T end up in jail he could try for parental rights(not saying he would succeed, but since he never signed away his rights or anything of the sort, he could at least try). And realistically speaking we probably shouldn’t have someone who did something like that in any space alone with a child. That’s just generally a terrible idea
@@Nox.x_ARTYES! The rapist shouldn’t have any right to their child. Even if they wanna be a parent or already a parent. You remember the father who forced his child to run to his death on treadmill in New Jersey right? Did you ever wondered where his mom was? His mom was raped by that father, got pregnant, started having mental problems and fell into drug addiction. Now how does a rational person resolve this situation? Take the child away from the mother, give the mother therapy, but under no circumstances give the child to a sex offender who caused the mother to be in this situation, right? But that's not what happened. The child was taken from the mother and given to the father. Even if the mother made improvements later on, the child remained with the father. This is the result. This is one of the reasons why rape victims do not report. They say, "I shouldn't report that asshole, God damn him, as long as he has no legal right over my child."
That is one of the many reason why it is nice to have 5-6 months of maternity leave as in EU. In most EU countries you have some degree of choice on how to arrange your maternity leave. If you have a tough situation, you can just bail at the 4th month before it is visible and come back after delivery.
Two things I want to say to you. 1. You misspelled it. It's vult, not velt. 2. Literally saying that God wanted this woman to be r*ped- as Deus Velt means 'God willed it', is absolutely sickening. You're a disgusting person and you can read the Bible all you want but that doesn't makes you a good person.
That reads like you're homophobic, and especially against gay couples adopting. This might not be the comment section for you, but I'm sure there are others that'll echo your concerns. Hope you find such a place and inner peace along with it ❤
But if it's a party guy who got SAd everyone would be all "I'm so sorry", "you didn't deserve that", "you were just trying to have fun". OP was wasted therfore not able to consent. Well done for outing yourself as a r*pe apologist. Idc if someone chooses to sleep around, doesn't make r*pe okay.
Some people can't imagine real growth because they haven't grown as people themselves. I'm happy OP has taken steps to protect her peace.
Best friend and boss are real ones. Glad OP could turn something bad that happened to her into something wonderful she could do for that couple.
I'm glad she's doing better, she really went through it and deserve a little happiness
Tbh i get why op didn't report or disclose. She was surrounded by foul ass ppl outside of the boss and friend. I'm glad she moved too
OP was surrounded by the worst type of people... sheesh. :/ I'm sorry OP.
Birds of the same flock and all that (or whatever the saying is).
@@Yue_Jin Birds of the feather always flock together...
Old saying but true, especially today.
And this is why you don't insert yourself into other peoples business. You never know the story behind it.
It really sucks that the longer a situation goes unexplained the more wild the takes get
speculation leads to absolutely unhinged assumptions
She was surrounded by villains ngl
This is literally the whole point about reputation. All it looks like is that she got pregnant by a ons as her proclivity pronounced her. She doesn't want to go for a dna test to catch the perpetrator and bring him to justice. Her sudden shyness just gives thought of this girl finally is having consequences of her actions catch up to her and now she's lying to get sympathy.
The logical question is why no dna test to at least catch the grape. In the end it will likely end up as 2 drunk people hooking up and she's making up for sympathy.
@demonvictim because he can claim parent's rights over the baby and mess up the adoption. I would love the grapist to go to jail, but I also understand OP's reason to leave that on the past
@@n0.123 also the victim blaming is crazy on that guy
@n0.123 that's the trade off and the importance of reputation. If the situation is that you are loose enough that your friends hubby can be the father then that is a massive failing on your part to maintain your reputation. She has no social credibility that the crazy guy who showed up might actually be the father and he thinks she is trying to sell his kid.
She was one herself.
This poor woman
Yeah, let that guy do a DNA test to prove the grape. 🙄
She deserves to heal. Hope she no long has to deal with those aholes
Police probably told him, “if you are father you are rapist… if you are gonna be sex convict and that dosent disappear, and thanks to the girl you have other option walk away dont mess up again, because next time you do something there is no one be second option”
I mean it could work, the problem is that if the man DOESN’T end up in jail he could try for parental rights(not saying he would succeed, but since he never signed away his rights or anything of the sort, he could at least try). And realistically speaking we probably shouldn’t have someone who did something like that in any space alone with a child. That’s just generally a terrible idea
@@Nox.x_ARTYES! The rapist shouldn’t have any right to their child. Even if they wanna be a parent or already a parent. You remember the father who forced his child to run to his death on treadmill in New Jersey right? Did you ever wondered where his mom was? His mom was raped by that father, got pregnant, started having mental problems and fell into drug addiction. Now how does a rational person resolve this situation? Take the child away from the mother, give the mother therapy, but under no circumstances give the child to a sex offender who caused the mother to be in this situation, right? But that's not what happened. The child was taken from the mother and given to the father. Even if the mother made improvements later on, the child remained with the father. This is the result. This is one of the reasons why rape victims do not report. They say, "I shouldn't report that asshole, God damn him, as long as he has no legal right over my child."
Telling the truth to those who matter and lying to the rest would have been the most efficient way
That is one of the many reason why it is nice to have 5-6 months of maternity leave as in EU. In most EU countries you have some degree of choice on how to arrange your maternity leave.
If you have a tough situation, you can just bail at the 4th month before it is visible and come back after delivery.
People peaked in HS and need other people drama in their lives.
op did right.
how did the man from the bar know where she lived
God please take away all her pain, double it, and gave it to taylor swift
"Party girl". Okay we must believe everything. Deus Velt.
Two things I want to say to you.
1. You misspelled it. It's vult, not velt.
2. Literally saying that God wanted this woman to be r*ped- as Deus Velt means 'God willed it', is absolutely sickening. You're a disgusting person and you can read the Bible all you want but that doesn't makes you a good person.
Jesus this woman
"who are the kindest MEN" oh god.
Whats wrong with that?
@@lunaeclipse7717 what isn't?
@ oh youre just homophobic trash lol
@@lunaeclipse7717 This pos called the victim of SA a villain under another comment. It’s a worthless trash troll.
That reads like you're homophobic, and especially against gay couples adopting.
This might not be the comment section for you, but I'm sure there are others that'll echo your concerns. Hope you find such a place and inner peace along with it ❤
Man OP couldn’t do one thing right.
Party girl. LOL, reap what you sow.
The moment I heard party girl I press x for doubt about the circumstances of the supposed unwanted pregnancy.
She did the right thing by giving the baby up for adoption. Both get fresh start
But if it's a party guy who got SAd everyone would be all "I'm so sorry", "you didn't deserve that", "you were just trying to have fun". OP was wasted therfore not able to consent. Well done for outing yourself as a r*pe apologist. Idc if someone chooses to sleep around, doesn't make r*pe okay.
Saying that about r*pe is vile. I hope your parents are ashamed of your behavior, I know I would be if you were my child.
@inferiorinferno8859 great because he isn't.