I used to have a playlist called “happy” and it just consisted of songs that had a positive tone or just made me happy in general. It got deleted so maybe I should make another one.
Even though it's not something I usually listen to, I have an entire playlist of female rappers and songs by lizzo that make me feel like a powerful woman and it comes in handy whenever I'm feeling down on myself
My therapist actually told me that the brain can't process words like "not". So if you want to have a better relationship to your self internally saying "I don't like myself" at the beginning is the first step to saying "I like myself". For me personally this really works... I start with the negative one and try figuring out how to make it more and more positive very slowly. (Sorry for maybe bad English I'm not from an English speaking country)
Whenever I'm feeling overwhelmed I make it a point to find things in my favorite color around me in order to distract myself. I do like to say to myself "it's just a bad day/moment, not a bad life" or "I'm doing all I can do, I am only one person." It can help prevent an anxiety attack at times.
This is a wonderful and weird tip I've never heard! I notice now I tend to wear more green when the bad days come. Thanks for bringing it up. Colours also bring me happiness
@@AspienPadda i were all black, as i think many here may. But i add the color to my makeup. My color is PURPLE. Fav color blue. But not on my face, lol
Sure thing @@hmpz36911 but first off I know for sure not all Black Friday's subscribers wear black all the time, take me for example. I have this theory that these non goth subs are subs because of either latent gothic desires or to gawk, me being the first of those two options. Second, I believe the tip was to look for specific colours to distract from a meltdown or a panic attack or the like. It's a form of grounding. I do enjoy discussions on favourite colours though. My favourite colour is actually padda which is frog in my mother tongue so basically all the colours frogs can be but mostly that lovely brownish green that frogs here are.
Me: *feeling the after coffee sadness start to kick in* Freyja: "5 ways to feel instantly happier" Me: *clicks immediately* ♡♡♡♡ Edit: I have depression and anxiety and my mind has been in a really dark area lately and this video was really helpful and I feel a lot more hopeful. Thank you so much for filming this!❤
hope you feel better soon ❤️ remember to take deep breaths when your anxiety gets bad and dont be ashamed to step away from a situation to calm yourself if you need to. prioritize your mental health! i’m in that depression & anxiety boat with you, you’re not alone
I hope your depression gets better soon or at the very least you can deal with it. I've had really bad anxiety lately so I get it. I have been having frequent panic attacks. if you're on any kind of medication maybe talk to your doctor because the medication may not be right for you
I saw this on a tee shirt, if you feel like you walking through hell, walk like you own the place. When I saw it, it really clicked for me. Glad your back, I missed you. Stay happy, healthy, and safe. Blessed be
My favourite positive self-affirmation is: "I am loving, loved and loveable." Helped me get through some really tough times in my teenage years, even more powerful if you can say it to yourself in the mirror with conviction 💕
I've always said intelligence is both a blessing and a curse, highly intelligent people suffer more with depression due to being more aware of the world around them, we see the world differently. On a another note, I'm SO happy to see you're uploading again, your videos always bring me happiness 🖤
"In your chair, don't slouch-" She says as I try to avoid drawing attention to myself in what can only be described as a reverse gargoyle position in my office chair.
Tip #6: Eat chocolate! It always makes me happy when I'm sad or depressed. Tip #7: Hug/kiss a cat or dog. I don't know why this makes me feel good but it does.
Also, something that really helps me is try your best to keep your space clean and as organized as possible. Some simple tidying up can make a lot of difference ❤️
Lol I just commented that! Also yourself. Clean your teeth or even whole body. I find brushing my hair to also be a quick fix but our goth queen might not feel the same lol
Smiling is good. Laughing helps too. People come to me when they're having a bad day because I make them laugh. My coworker told me about her bad day, and ended with "today can't get worse." I told her "yeah it can. You can poop your pants."
I find i was that go to person. Yet in private i am truly manic depressive. Funny how one can hide things. My only small joys were helping others. Well & my music, in a depressive way mostly (as not to feel ao alone) Then the constant using started hurting too bad. My money dwindled. My own problems got too serious for all to be around. My whole life was mostly juat all so one sided. Left all alone. Yet still desire to help others. Maybe part of my sickness? Maybe looking to hurt myself more some say? When one can look past differences and get drawn to strangers whilst out & somehow i sum up solutions to help them and they just leave. No connections to fail me so to go. & yet i still can not help my self... 😵
just seeing your video made me smile. missed you. I've been in that state all day. laying in bed.. and not wanting to do anything. depression sucks. I've need this today. thank u. 🖤🖤🖤🖤
Thank you! I have found that massive doses of vitamin D and getting a physically demanding job in a coffee shop has helped my depression go from overcast to partly cloudy. I'm wishing you the best🖤🖤🖤
Deep in your video archives is a set of 4 videos that has helped me tremendously at varying times when I am feeling a bit more consistently down than I should. They are the responding to hate comments rounds 1 through 4 (found in the "nobody knows" playlist if anyone is interested) They are an excellent example of how we should be viewing such negativity about ourselves regardless of whether they come from someone else or deep in our own anxieties about ourselves and yes, I have replayed them many times when going through a rough time emotionally and no doubt they will continue to help again if I need them. Thank you they really have helped.
I have a "Depression" playlist on my phone which has songs that help me when I'm depressed most are happy and empowering but there are also a few that are about depression and that help me to cry and actually feel when my depression gets to the point that I'm just numb because sometimes it's easier for me to feel sad first then happy when I'm that far gone down to rabbit hole of depression
Goth mama is back!!!!!! I’ve missed you so much, I’m so happy you’re doing better (if only a little). You were incredibly influential to me at a difficult time in my life (5 years ago now!) as you were for so many others. Your audience will always be here, I’m glad you know that you can take as much time off as you need to. Love you goth mom 🖤🖤🖤
darling, this video now is in my top of your best videos. So kind and so nececcary for all of us, who feel like their world is about to break. thank you.
I found your channel a few months ago and it was instant connection! Your videos feed my soul. This one is no different! I just turned 50 and I cant wrap my head around it. Getting to know you through your videos has been so good for me! I'm glad to see you posting again! 😃💖🌹🌼💐
I love the fact that you're talking about feeling bad/sadness. Lots of people have these issues more during the holidays but following your tips about coping with them make me feel better about myself and my life/friends/family. So get out there and do something once a day for yourself. It could be anything just something that makes you feel better about yourself.
this is a wonderful upload. i have MDD and panic disorder, so i'm very used to hearing the "make yourself exercise" when i feel like sometimes my exercise for the day is getting out of bed and showering. these are realistic things that are easy to do even when you feel so sad that we may not take the time to actually do. or rather, think to do. i hope you feel better soon
Glad you posted. Was just thinking about you the other day. I’m 43 & not goth at all but I love watching you because you have a sweet personality & seem genuinely honest in your vids.☺️🖤
I have missed you! When I was feeling overwhelmed recently with things going on in my life I have no control over, I controlled what I could. I spent hours cleaning and organizing and I felt so much better. I accomplished something and didn't just sit on the sofa all night.
ur back!! and this is the video i needed right now, thank you for talking about how being sad just means you’re alive, and how depression is an illness. i really needed this today :)
Thank you for sharing this. I'm dealing with MDD, anxiety and PTSD and some days it's hard to get out of bed. All of your suggestions may seem simple and very obvious, but when you are struggling with depression, you don't think of doing a lot of these things. Lots of love!
Oww my god 😭😭😭 I missed you freya !!! The sister I always wanted 🥰❤ ... Don't apologize for anything ...we all here are just happy to see that you are okay and I think you look very very good😊
For me I will take a few deep breaths and tell myself that I’m okay. Because I am okay. Also picking up my guitar and having a jam. I’ll try and not worry about the notes and just play. Even just looking at my guitar helps. As someone who goes to therapy, being able to talk in a non judgmental place is pure gold. It’s nice to see you! Looking forward to some more vids!
Girl you don't know how much I needed this right now. Some guys on insta were sending sexual harassment and death threats earlier, calling me a "stupid goth bitch," and just generally being nuisances. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, this helped a lot.
I've thought that I've had depression for the past year. A lot of stuff has happened and these past 5 days have been the absolute WORST. This video was exactly what I needed,Thank you so so much.
You're so adorable ♥️. I missed you in yt and im glad you're finally a bit better with depression and can help yourself with it. I hope it goes better and better everyday 🌹I think the biggest thing you can do to deal with depression is trying to avoid isolation. When you have depression you tend to isolate yourself and stay at home, watch movies you dont even like but still do, forget about your hobbies and even you stop liking what you used to like, etc. It is really hard to break that cycle but one thing you can do is go outside as you said (first with friends if you feel uncomfortable alone) and start reconnecting with your hobbies and your interests. I think keeping yourself occupied and finding new things that make you happy can really improve your situation. So...learn to play an instrument, start painting, learn how to skate, start singing, do a volunteer, whatever you like. In depression, we tend to think we are boring people with no interests but if we analize ourselves a bit we can see we have so much to give to people. Lots of love and support for everyone 💕
I seriously want to thank you for planning to make a video about panic disorders/anxiety. This video alone was a tremendous aid, and as a young person with Panic, I cannot describe how helpful it feels to have someone that I've looked up to for ages make me feel less alone. You are an incredible person and a beautiful bright light in this world (loving that irony). I support you! Thank you for being you, and I know that you will be able to work through this❤
I love you, it's been rough this year with my seasonal depression in the northwest US and your upload couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you so much for being awesome and being honest with your subscribers.
My baseline emotion in stark fear. I also am being treated for depression, panic disorder, and PTSD. Have been for decades. No running away from it: remember: no matter where you go, there you are. Just don’t give up or give in. Keep on keeping on. Good job Freya!
I finally told my Dad I want to be part of the gothic subculture! I just want to say thank you because your videos encouraged me to be myself! Thank you!
@@Pixie-gp3zu wow did I forget about this comment! But that being said, wonderfully, this subculture has made me so happy! And I'm lucky enough my Dad was supporting of that ❤
So glad to know you're doing things to take care of yourself 🖤. I have depression as well and it's challenging at times to get through even one day. I'm happy for you while watching this. You're glowing 😊. One tip for me is taking a shower. When in a funk, something as basic as personal hygiene seems impossible. When I do take a hot shower, it does have a cathartic effect. All the gunk and negativity literally and figuratively gets washed down the drain and you emerge clean, fresh, and ready to begin again. Love you, hon 😊
I’m so proud of you for posting. Trust me some of us NEEDED a video like this from you. I’ve been watching you for years and you’ve inspired me to be my best version of myself and knowing that someone that I look up to is able to have the strength to help us out even when things aren’t going perfectly for you just really warms my heart.
YES YES YES YES YES and YES!!!! Thank You! I am so sharing this on all of my Mental Health pages! you are inspiring, and as a fellow sufferer of mental illness, I agree with what you have said so much xxxx
Just found you! A woman after my own heart! 🖤 Thank you so much for this video! Lots of useful information and tips. Loving your music too. I have many happy memories dancing to Deliverance! Listening to The Mission always make me happy. 🕷🕸🖤
Thank you blackFriday 🥰... people with genuine depression will get that the little things really do make a big difference. Thanks for making this video it definitely helped me xx
Never clicked a link so fast. I've missed you, and I hope you're doing okay! 🦇🖤🦇 I've been having a rough bit of it, too. And it's so true what you said about depression at the beginning.
Yes! Theres a difference in being sad & being depressed!! Thank you for putting that out there!! & Your tips aren't stupid, thank you for sharing! I always like watching kevin hart 😄
This is so very helpful. Because sometimes I feel like I'm stuck or I'm in a rut. I try meditation, going for long walks getting some fresh air. The one thing I enjoy when I'm feeling down is going on a nature walk. Go into the woods and enjoy the beauty of nature. I also find solace in painting, drawing coloring. To me those things help me a lot. Missed you as well. Hope to see another one of your videos soon. Love you!
You may not have meant for it to be funny, but this video in general made me smile. especially the self affirmation part. I can imagine you just walking around with wide eyes and a huge grin going "Everything's fine. Everything's fine." lmao.
Not only did I click so fast to watch because, like everyone here, I’ve missed watching your videos, but also these few months have been hard. Hope you have been better and continue to be well. Xoxo
I needed to see this. I was just mourning how my career isn’t where I want and some of my colleagues don’t take me seriously. I often feel undesirable. Thank you, thank you for reminding us about how much the little things can help.
So sorry you are going through a real rough time, sometimes it feels like everything happens at once. I know deep breathing helps and self help, but besides my very deep faith; I make up stories in my head about myself in a different world with different scenarios, it's great you can go anywhere, be with anyone, say all you need to say, anything at all. It's a get away trick to relieve you weary mind a while. Also if you have a pet or an old favorite stuffed animal hug or pet them. I am all alone, my only child a son, the love of my live suddenly died and I used all of these things all the time, I sleep with an old teddy bear that is well loved, it comforts me, and of cause my faith. Sending love your way. 🌻 ❤️
Forcing yourself to smile, really does help to lighten your mood. And I find listening to music I love also helps. Another thing that helps lift my mood is getting enough sleep. If I'm tired, I'm cranky & everything seems to go down hill from there. Even a lil nap will help.
Ty for the video def been needing this lately it’s like one day on depressed af to the point where I stare at my razor blades contemplating going down the street and the next day it’s like I’m comfortable but the ppl I care about are down n I do my best to keep everyone’s glass full that I care for but we all end up in our dark caves all day. I’ve always been told to do the positive affirmations but w me they always end up w me in tears or calling myself the absolute worst things anyone has thought of or couldn’t even imagine. I normally have like the office or a show that I love on to jus have good background n make me chuckle when my guard is down n that normally helps or I make a song or write a story or a poem or go for a walk. Point is I’ve def missed your vids and I’m so glad you’re back w something like this when a lot of us need it. I have to send this to someone I really care about that’s going through a lot atm. Ty so much!! You’re and always have been amazing!!
Hi Freyja, I like your personality, your a very good soul : 3 Maybe I have a 6th tip for everyone who need one more: It could be sound very very stupid especially to write this below your vids BUT for me, and its very my own personal opinion and I dont want to hurt somebody, I've had reaally bad depression times in my life and one step that helps ME to feel better is to thinking about what I wearing and most importanly what Im thinking and feeling when Im wearing it. Im a goth too - in some way, i guees ^^" But you cant deny that most people think about gothic style sh*ty things like "they wear black clothes because they want to die" Of course we dont think this but I think in some way it has an influence of ourself what is connected to a color. What Im trying to say is, even I you only do it when your alone, at day, when you laying in your coffin to sleep, try to wear some colorful clothes. Its because in a subconcious way color means happy. I guess its like the smile thing. Even If you dont belive in it our brain needs in some way color to feel good. Like I said, its my personal opinion and I wearing most time black things too, but, I also wear blue and red stuff. And yeah of course you might wear already colorful things because to be a goth doesnt mean to wear only black, I know that xD Its just an advise if nothing else help. When your at a point you feel that it cant be better, forget the gothic style for some time. When your veeery depressed you shouldn't think about death. Thats all. I love you, be yourself and take care of yourself.
So many of your videos are so insightful and helpful to me and so many people... Thank you so much. This video I know o will be watching many times-- this is a wonderful help and a reminder of how to keep depression under control rather than the other way around. The panic disorder one, I am also VERY happy to hear you will be making as I know that one will also be a big help. Your "the power of makeup" video is another favorite of mine. That one helped me out a lot in feeling confident in myself. You are a wonderful and like I said insightful person. You are really helping a lot of people and your videos give people a sense that they are not alone in these kinds of things that are so close to the heart. Thank you so much, I can't say it enough :) keep doing what you're doing :) you are helping so many people
While watching this I drew a quick sketch in colored pencils of a flower on a Lily pad surrounded by vines and tiny flowers, and then inked in "I am fine" in red ink. Thank you for inspiring me throughout the years
I'm sharing this with my mum, a month ago she went to a hospital that is for mental health, stayed a little over a week and was diagnosed with bi polar so I feel like this will help her out a bit. Thanks for sharing, hope you are feeling a little happier now, I've missed your videos :)
Am I wrong when I think Black Friday is our goth sunshine? Because seeing her brings me joy!! She is my antidepressive!
I used to have a playlist called “happy” and it just consisted of songs that had a positive tone or just made me happy in general. It got deleted so maybe I should make another one.
Thats a good idea.
I have one too
Even though it's not something I usually listen to, I have an entire playlist of female rappers and songs by lizzo that make me feel like a powerful woman and it comes in handy whenever I'm feeling down on myself
My go to song is Uptown Funk with Bruno Mars, what's yours?
@Dawson Walker INTJ
Hello fannibal !
and it's important to only use POSITIVE affirmations.
So avoid words like: I'm "NOT" "WORTHLESS" -> turn it into: I am worthy.
Yeah, been trying it all... not working...
My therapist actually told me that the brain can't process words like "not". So if you want to have a better relationship to your self internally saying "I don't like myself" at the beginning is the first step to saying "I like myself". For me personally this really works... I start with the negative one and try figuring out how to make it more and more positive very slowly. (Sorry for maybe bad English I'm not from an English speaking country)
Whenever I'm feeling overwhelmed I make it a point to find things in my favorite color around me in order to distract myself.
I do like to say to myself "it's just a bad day/moment, not a bad life" or "I'm doing all I can do, I am only one person." It can help prevent an anxiety attack at times.
This is a wonderful and weird tip I've never heard! I notice now I tend to wear more green when the bad days come. Thanks for bringing it up. Colours also bring me happiness
@@AspienPadda I hope it helps you, it's saved me a few times when I feel myself spiraling into a panic attack. 🧡
Thanks for sharing that, I will try it!
@@AspienPadda i were all black, as i think many here may. But i add the color to my makeup. My color is PURPLE. Fav color blue. But not on my face, lol
Sure thing @@hmpz36911 but first off I know for sure not all Black Friday's subscribers wear black all the time, take me for example. I have this theory that these non goth subs are subs because of either latent gothic desires or to gawk, me being the first of those two options. Second, I believe the tip was to look for specific colours to distract from a meltdown or a panic attack or the like. It's a form of grounding. I do enjoy discussions on favourite colours though. My favourite colour is actually padda which is frog in my mother tongue so basically all the colours frogs can be but mostly that lovely brownish green that frogs here are.
Me: *feeling the after coffee sadness start to kick in*
Freyja: "5 ways to feel instantly happier"
Me: *clicks immediately* ♡♡♡♡
Edit: I have depression and anxiety and my mind has been in a really dark area lately and this video was really helpful and I feel a lot more hopeful. Thank you so much for filming this!❤
Same..
hope you feel better soon ❤️ remember to take deep breaths when your anxiety gets bad and dont be ashamed to step away from a situation to calm yourself if you need to. prioritize your mental health! i’m in that depression & anxiety boat with you, you’re not alone
I feel the same😊
I hope your depression gets better soon or at the very least you can deal with it. I've had really bad anxiety lately so I get it. I have been having frequent panic attacks. if you're on any kind of medication maybe talk to your doctor because the medication may not be right for you
Same here, I have MDD & anxiety. I hate the way it makes me feel and not like doing things that I used to do & love. Hope you feel better soon! 🤜🤛
Who else felt relieved and calmed instantly because of her kindness? I literally overcame a breakdown
I saw this on a tee shirt, if you feel like you walking through hell, walk like you own the place. When I saw it, it really clicked for me. Glad your back, I missed you. Stay happy, healthy, and safe. Blessed be
My fiancé passed away on September 10th. My life has been a living hell since then. I need ways to feel happier
Awww I really hope u feel better times will get better 💖💖💖💖🐇
Im sending hugs your way. It does get better, I promise. Just hold on!
My fiance passed away in June 2015. I promise it gets better ❤
Sending a positive hug your way
I am so sorry, that's horrible. I don't suppose you have any pets? Dogs and cats are invaluable helping you heal from grief.
Never clicked so fast in my life!! I missed you!!🖤
Same..
Saaaaame
Same!😆
Likewise
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My favourite positive self-affirmation is: "I am loving, loved and loveable."
Helped me get through some really tough times in my teenage years, even more powerful if you can say it to yourself in the mirror with conviction 💕
I've always said intelligence is both a blessing and a curse, highly intelligent people suffer more with depression due to being more aware of the world around them, we see the world differently. On a another note, I'm SO happy to see you're uploading again, your videos always bring me happiness 🖤
As a psychotherapist and Counsellor, these are definitely good tips! Blessed be xox
"In your chair, don't slouch-"
She says as I try to avoid drawing attention to myself in what can only be described as a reverse gargoyle position in my office chair.
Eyyy, it's a good time to have tuned into TH-cam, you've been missed!!
Tip #6: Eat chocolate! It always makes me happy when I'm sad or depressed. Tip #7: Hug/kiss a cat or dog. I don't know why this makes me feel good but it does.
Good ones! 👍
Not if you suffer with comfort eating to self medicate depression
@@elishevatauber8914 Well, you could at hug or kiss a cat or dog....right?
I woke all three ferrets and watched the ensuing antics, always a way to feel better.
@@elishevatauber8914 if you cut back n choose that to be your only & not in excess. All about control ...
I am one of the people who smiled when you said to smile 😁
Me too haha
Also, something that really helps me is try your best to keep your space clean and as organized as possible. Some simple tidying up can make a lot of difference ❤️
Lol I just commented that! Also yourself. Clean your teeth or even whole body. I find brushing my hair to also be a quick fix but our goth queen might not feel the same lol
I've been watching you for years now and you never fail to remind me that we are all human and individuality exists ❤🖤🖤 glad you're okay and well
Welcome back I missed you 😺
from a depressed person this kind of content is really validating. 🖤🖤
Smiling is good. Laughing helps too. People come to me when they're having a bad day because I make them laugh. My coworker told me about her bad day, and ended with "today can't get worse."
I told her "yeah it can. You can poop your pants."
I find i was that go to person. Yet in private i am truly manic depressive. Funny how one can hide things. My only small joys were helping others. Well & my music, in a depressive way mostly (as not to feel ao alone)
Then the constant using started hurting too bad. My money dwindled. My own problems got too serious for all to be around. My whole life was mostly juat all so one sided. Left all alone.
Yet still desire to help others. Maybe part of my sickness? Maybe looking to hurt myself more some say? When one can look past differences and get drawn to strangers whilst out & somehow i sum up solutions to help them and they just leave.
No connections to fail me so to go. & yet i still can not help my self... 😵
just seeing your video made me smile. missed you. I've been in that state all day. laying in bed.. and not wanting to do anything. depression sucks. I've need this today. thank u. 🖤🖤🖤🖤
I'm a nihilist. The thought that ultimately nothing matters always cheers me up a bit
Me too.
What's a nihilist? What does that mean? Never heard that word before
@@alyssamartinez7690 a nihilist is a person who believes life has no inherent meaning
#6: Reach outside of yourself, for help or support or human connection to something you enjoy, or to feel heard.
Thank you! I have found that massive doses of vitamin D and getting a physically demanding job in a coffee shop has helped my depression go from overcast to partly cloudy. I'm wishing you the best🖤🖤🖤
Deep in your video archives is a set of 4 videos that has helped me tremendously at varying times when I am feeling a bit more consistently down than I should. They are the responding to hate comments rounds 1 through 4 (found in the "nobody knows" playlist if anyone is interested) They are an excellent example of how we should be viewing such negativity about ourselves regardless of whether they come from someone else or deep in our own anxieties about ourselves and yes, I have replayed them many times when going through a rough time emotionally and no doubt they will continue to help again if I need them. Thank you they really have helped.
I have a "Depression" playlist on my phone which has songs that help me when I'm depressed most are happy and empowering but there are also a few that are about depression and that help me to cry and actually feel when my depression gets to the point that I'm just numb because sometimes it's easier for me to feel sad first then happy when I'm that far gone down to rabbit hole of depression
I find that surrounding yourself with things that make you happy like a favorite stuffed animal or pretty pictures can help too 💕
Goth mama is back!!!!!! I’ve missed you so much, I’m so happy you’re doing better (if only a little). You were incredibly influential to me at a difficult time in my life (5 years ago now!) as you were for so many others. Your audience will always be here, I’m glad you know that you can take as much time off as you need to. Love you goth mom 🖤🖤🖤
darling, this video now is in my top of your best videos. So kind and so nececcary for all of us, who feel like their world is about to break. thank you.
Upvoted for the Hitchhiker's Guide recommendation.
I found your channel a few months ago and it was instant connection! Your videos feed my soul. This one is no different! I just turned 50 and I cant wrap my head around it. Getting to know you through your videos has been so good for me! I'm glad to see you posting again! 😃💖🌹🌼💐
Me: Sees its black friday uploaded new video
Also me: Watches it 20 times
I love the fact that you're talking about feeling bad/sadness. Lots of people have these issues more during the holidays but following your tips about coping with them make me feel better about myself and my life/friends/family. So get out there and do something once a day for yourself. It could be anything just something that makes you feel better about yourself.
As someone who deals with anxiety every day, thank you for these tips.
God I have missed you! I love you so much. I am so glad you make videos about how it is normal in feeling sad and all. Thank you.
I personally like to spin in a circle until I'm dizzy, it's fun and makes me smile naturally
this is a wonderful upload. i have MDD and panic disorder, so i'm very used to hearing the "make yourself exercise" when i feel like sometimes my exercise for the day is getting out of bed and showering. these are realistic things that are easy to do even when you feel so sad that we may not take the time to actually do. or rather, think to do.
i hope you feel better soon
I literally love you. There is something magnetic about you, no matter what vid you post, I already feel better. I love to watch you ❤️
Glad you posted. Was just thinking about you the other day. I’m 43 & not goth at all but I love watching you because you have a sweet personality & seem genuinely honest in your vids.☺️🖤
OMG I MISSED YOU SO MUCH MY GOTH QUEEN. I missed your adorable face and sweet voice 😭😭😭
I have missed you!
When I was feeling overwhelmed recently with things going on in my life I have no control over, I controlled what I could. I spent hours cleaning and organizing and I felt so much better. I accomplished something and didn't just sit on the sofa all night.
Same here. I feel way better if I get things done instead of sitting around
I’ve missed you!! So good to see you back 🖤🖤🦇
2020 was such a year, and 2021 has been a lil rough. This was needed
Did you literally read my mind... holy cow.
ur back!! and this is the video i needed right now, thank you for talking about how being sad just means you’re alive, and how depression is an illness. i really needed this today :)
Say “teetant meenage needle teedles” 5 times. Instant laugh guaranteed :)
Not really
Thank you for this 🤣🤣
It made me giggle.
Or try to say bubbles in an angry voice
@@itmakessenseincontext889 YES. That's the one I do!
Thank you for sharing this. I'm dealing with MDD, anxiety and PTSD and some days it's hard to get out of bed. All of your suggestions may seem simple and very obvious, but when you are struggling with depression, you don't think of doing a lot of these things. Lots of love!
Oww my god 😭😭😭 I missed you freya !!! The sister I always wanted 🥰❤ ...
Don't apologize for anything ...we all here are just happy to see that you are okay and I think you look very very good😊
Way to be instantly happier Black Friday uploads a new video I missed you so much !!
OH MY GOTH... I love you, thank you so much for coming back... we miss you!!!!!!
For me I will take a few deep breaths and tell myself that I’m okay. Because I am okay. Also picking up my guitar and having a jam. I’ll try and not worry about the notes and just play. Even just looking at my guitar helps. As someone who goes to therapy, being able to talk in a non judgmental place is pure gold.
It’s nice to see you! Looking forward to some more vids!
The presence of cats in my life is a huuuuge help, I can't even describe how grateful I am for being their human
Sometimes just hearing positive words just does a little something. Thankyou for the reminder.
Tea, music, talking to a friend who makes you smile or laugh.
Girl you don't know how much I needed this right now. Some guys on insta were sending sexual harassment and death threats earlier, calling me a "stupid goth bitch," and just generally being nuisances. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, this helped a lot.
Holding/being with a cat has been proven to help anxiety because their heart rate is slower than ours so it can calm us down :):):)
I've thought that I've had depression for the past year. A lot of stuff has happened and these past 5 days have been the absolute WORST. This video was exactly what I needed,Thank you so so much.
Taking a nap makes me instantly happier 🙂🖤
You sound like my kinda person.. Naps all the way😁
I feel like u comment on every video I watch xD
@@havrefrasss We must both have great taste then 😋🤗❤️
@@jaimereynolds258 haha true gorl 💁😁
You're so adorable ♥️. I missed you in yt and im glad you're finally a bit better with depression and can help yourself with it. I hope it goes better and better everyday 🌹I think the biggest thing you can do to deal with depression is trying to avoid isolation. When you have depression you tend to isolate yourself and stay at home, watch movies you dont even like but still do, forget about your hobbies and even you stop liking what you used to like, etc. It is really hard to break that cycle but one thing you can do is go outside as you said (first with friends if you feel uncomfortable alone) and start reconnecting with your hobbies and your interests. I think keeping yourself occupied and finding new things that make you happy can really improve your situation. So...learn to play an instrument, start painting, learn how to skate, start singing, do a volunteer, whatever you like. In depression, we tend to think we are boring people with no interests but if we analize ourselves a bit we can see we have so much to give to people. Lots of love and support for everyone 💕
Oh my dear, such a joy to see you! ❤️❤️
I seriously want to thank you for planning to make a video about panic disorders/anxiety. This video alone was a tremendous aid, and as a young person with Panic, I cannot describe how helpful it feels to have someone that I've looked up to for ages make me feel less alone.
You are an incredible person and a beautiful bright light in this world (loving that irony). I support you! Thank you for being you, and I know that you will be able to work through this❤
Sending love! It's okay to take your time to recover and be happy. We've missed you ❤
I love you, it's been rough this year with my seasonal depression in the northwest US and your upload couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you so much for being awesome and being honest with your subscribers.
i cook, listening to music, reading a book, and napping help me relax.
My baseline emotion in stark fear. I also am being treated for depression, panic disorder, and PTSD. Have been for decades. No running away from it: remember: no matter where you go, there you are. Just don’t give up or give in. Keep on keeping on.
Good job Freya!
I finally told my Dad I want to be part of the gothic subculture! I just want to say thank you because your videos encouraged me to be myself! Thank you!
Well done! How is it going?❤
@@Pixie-gp3zu wow did I forget about this comment! But that being said, wonderfully, this subculture has made me so happy! And I'm lucky enough my Dad was supporting of that ❤
@@AniMxxo that's wonderful to hear! I'm really happy for you x
So glad to know you're doing things to take care of yourself 🖤. I have depression as well and it's challenging at times to get through even one day. I'm happy for you while watching this. You're glowing 😊.
One tip for me is taking a shower. When in a funk, something as basic as personal hygiene seems impossible. When I do take a hot shower, it does have a cathartic effect. All the gunk and negativity literally and figuratively gets washed down the drain and you emerge clean, fresh, and ready to begin again. Love you, hon 😊
i love listening to you, idk what it is
but it's a good feeling. 😊
I’m so proud of you for posting. Trust me some of us NEEDED a video like this from you. I’ve been watching you for years and you’ve inspired me to be my best version of myself and knowing that someone that I look up to is able to have the strength to help us out even when things aren’t going perfectly for you just really warms my heart.
YES YES YES YES YES and YES!!!! Thank You! I am so sharing this on all of my Mental Health pages! you are inspiring, and as a fellow sufferer of mental illness, I agree with what you have said so much xxxx
Just found you! A woman after my own heart! 🖤 Thank you so much for this video! Lots of useful information and tips. Loving your music too. I have many happy memories dancing to Deliverance! Listening to The Mission always make me happy. 🕷🕸🖤
I’m so happy you are back! Hope you doing fine! I’ve missed you!!
Oh my God Freya thank you so much for uploading this. I have been in like the worst depression ever and just having these simple tips is helping a ton
6:51 "I feel great" **dripping with sarcasm** LOL
Thank you blackFriday 🥰... people with genuine depression will get that the little things really do make a big difference. Thanks for making this video it definitely helped me xx
Never clicked a link so fast. I've missed you, and I hope you're doing okay! 🦇🖤🦇
I've been having a rough bit of it, too. And it's so true what you said about depression at the beginning.
I have a gratitude journal, and when things are rough I write 5 things each day to be thankful for.
Yes! Theres a difference in being sad & being depressed!! Thank you for putting that out there!! & Your tips aren't stupid, thank you for sharing! I always like watching kevin hart 😄
This is so very helpful. Because sometimes I feel like I'm stuck or I'm in a rut. I try meditation, going for long walks getting some fresh air. The one thing I enjoy when I'm feeling down is going on a nature walk. Go into the woods and enjoy the beauty of nature. I also find solace in painting, drawing coloring. To me those things help me a lot. Missed you as well. Hope to see another one of your videos soon. Love you!
Omg I've never clicked so fast at a notification love and miss you girl
You may not have meant for it to be funny, but this video in general made me smile. especially the self affirmation part. I can imagine you just walking around with wide eyes and a huge grin going "Everything's fine. Everything's fine." lmao.
Not only did I click so fast to watch because, like everyone here, I’ve missed watching your videos, but also these few months have been hard. Hope you have been better and continue to be well. Xoxo
I needed to see this. I was just mourning how my career isn’t where I want and some of my colleagues don’t take me seriously. I often feel undesirable. Thank you, thank you for reminding us about how much the little things can help.
Needed this bad just had 2 deaths in my life and a friend has cancer and it's the holidays thank you Freyja
So sorry you are going through a real rough time, sometimes it feels like everything happens at once. I know deep breathing helps and self help, but besides my very deep faith; I make up stories in my head about myself in a different world with different scenarios, it's great you can go anywhere, be with anyone, say all you need to say, anything at all. It's a get away trick to relieve you weary mind a while. Also if you have a pet or an old favorite stuffed animal hug or pet them. I am all alone, my only child a son, the love of my live suddenly died and I used all of these things all the time, I sleep with an old teddy bear that is well loved, it comforts me, and of cause my faith. Sending love your way. 🌻 ❤️
Forcing yourself to smile, really does help to lighten your mood. And I find listening to music I love also helps. Another thing that helps lift my mood is getting enough sleep. If I'm tired, I'm cranky & everything seems to go down hill from there. Even a lil nap will help.
Honestly, as cheesy as it sounds - doing or saying something nice towards someone else does wonders sometimes.
Ty for the video def been needing this lately it’s like one day on depressed af to the point where I stare at my razor blades contemplating going down the street and the next day it’s like I’m comfortable but the ppl I care about are down n I do my best to keep everyone’s glass full that I care for but we all end up in our dark caves all day. I’ve always been told to do the positive affirmations but w me they always end up w me in tears or calling myself the absolute worst things anyone has thought of or couldn’t even imagine. I normally have like the office or a show that I love on to jus have good background n make me chuckle when my guard is down n that normally helps or I make a song or write a story or a poem or go for a walk. Point is I’ve def missed your vids and I’m so glad you’re back w something like this when a lot of us need it. I have to send this to someone I really care about that’s going through a lot atm. Ty so much!! You’re and always have been amazing!!
Needed this video! Sending lots of love Goth Queen 🖤🦇
I love that you point out that all emotions are being human. And i always wanted to try out the makeup.
Hi Freyja, I like your personality, your a very good soul : 3
Maybe I have a 6th tip for everyone who need one more:
It could be sound very very stupid especially to write this below your vids BUT
for me, and its very my own personal opinion and I dont want to hurt somebody,
I've had reaally bad depression times in my life and one step that helps ME to feel better is to thinking about what I wearing and most importanly what Im thinking and feeling when Im wearing it.
Im a goth too - in some way, i guees ^^"
But you cant deny that most people think about gothic style sh*ty things like "they wear black clothes because they want to die"
Of course we dont think this but I think in some way it has an influence of ourself what is connected to a color.
What Im trying to say is, even I you only do it when your alone, at day, when you laying in your coffin to sleep, try to wear some colorful clothes. Its because in a subconcious way color means happy. I guess its like the smile thing. Even If you dont belive in it our brain needs in some way color to feel good.
Like I said, its my personal opinion and I wearing most time black things too, but, I also wear blue and red stuff. And yeah of course you might wear already colorful things because to be a goth doesnt mean to wear only black, I know that xD
Its just an advise if nothing else help. When your at a point you feel that it cant be better, forget the gothic style for some time. When your veeery depressed you shouldn't think about death.
Thats all.
I love you, be yourself and take care of yourself.
Hey. You know what made me smile today? Seeing that you uploaded a video!
Welcome back! Missed you so much!💙💙💙
Watching your videos really helps me to feel better my queen and I just want to thank you for you just being you and offering great advice
seeing that Goth Mom uploaded instantly made my day a good day
So many of your videos are so insightful and helpful to me and so many people... Thank you so much. This video I know o will be watching many times-- this is a wonderful help and a reminder of how to keep depression under control rather than the other way around. The panic disorder one, I am also VERY happy to hear you will be making as I know that one will also be a big help. Your "the power of makeup" video is another favorite of mine. That one helped me out a lot in feeling confident in myself. You are a wonderful and like I said insightful person. You are really helping a lot of people and your videos give people a sense that they are not alone in these kinds of things that are so close to the heart. Thank you so much, I can't say it enough :) keep doing what you're doing :) you are helping so many people
AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO JUST WROTE THESE ALL DOWN??? 🖤🖤🖤🖤
While watching this I drew a quick sketch in colored pencils of a flower on a Lily pad surrounded by vines and tiny flowers, and then inked in "I am fine" in red ink.
Thank you for inspiring me throughout the years
I LOVE YOU OML I LOVE WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS 😭🖤
I'm sharing this with my mum, a month ago she went to a hospital that is for mental health, stayed a little over a week and was diagnosed with bi polar so I feel like this will help her out a bit. Thanks for sharing, hope you are feeling a little happier now, I've missed your videos :)