Makes so much sense as to why guys (immature ones) fall off and ghost once they see they’ll have to put in some effort/work and go at a pace to build an actual relationship
Thank you Fareen! I have experienced chasing behavior recently and it's very unsettling. It's like they've decided they like me and want me in their life before they even know me. It doesn't make me feel valued it makes me feel like prey. Thank you for putting words to why I felt the way I did. ❤️
I can’t handle the chasing energy, it’s very ungrounding. And yeah it’s true it’s like they’re trying to get something from you in order for them to feel better about themselves.
@@fareenashofficial yesss right it’s not authentic! So would you say that when they chase they don’t really like you.. they’re just trying to get something from you for the time being?
@@fareenashofficial uhh yes!! I was recently dating this guy and this is exactly what happened. It was all too much too soon and I was trying to slow it down but i was really triggered by it all, I felt like I could not relax in my feminine energy 😢 And it’s definitely not a good feeling. Oh thanks girl 😊I love your content! 🤍🤍🤍
Don’t allow that to trigger you. You can simply move on! It’s a really good sign that this behavior didn’t sit well with your nervous system! You’re on the right track. Don’t let anyone take away your peace 🤍🤍
@@prussiansocietyofamerica except that women can get by on their own just fine nowadays without having to depend totally on a man for support as in past times... plus in a genuine loving relationship, don't you think both parties should value and respect one other? Seems you're just setting up a double standard rule with no solid basis to back it up other than wishful thinking...
I feel like I am able to actually understand and see the difference between genuinely feminine women, and women who are not feminine, from having watched your videos, and now I’m seeking out examples, to tune in with it more, and if anyone else is looking for examples like I am, I just found Emily Noel’s makeup TH-cam channel today, randomly, and she felt so radiantly feminine to me that I searched for any videos of her and and her husband, and there are several, and sure enough the one I watched is so touching and beautiful, and frankly, instructive, for someone like me, on this journey. Just in case someone else reads this and could use some more real life feminine-masculine couple inspiration and examples. Love your channel, Fareen, and I’ve read both books and am starting the inner work course, and you and your work is 100% changing my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏
I absolutely loved the examples of the two different men you went on dates with and how you approached both those situations! Keep the examples coming 😘❤️❤️🙏🙏
I once matched with a man of the second category. I gave him my number and when he texted I said "hey! Who is this?". He got angry and asked if i couldn't keep all the men i was talking to separate. 🙄. I am an attractive, social woman and i meet lots of people men and women. I wasn't sitting around waiting for this guy to text me so I i wasn't sure it was him! I should have blocked him then but we kept talking for a few days and he became crazy insecure and possessive and we had never even met. I stopped talking to him and he still sporarically contacts me on social media eighteen months later.
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Wait I have so many questions, when do you actually get physical and do you do other things? Because my boyfriend told he was okay waiting for me but then he would also say that he felt “rejected” when I would tell him that I wanted to wait until I was sure. How does me respecting my boundaries make you feel rejected?
You forgot to include the part that talks about today's generation...in the U.S. Many women in the U.S. simply use men for food, attention, validation or other things. They secretly brag about it to their best female friends...and the simp guys have no clue. Men need to date with a purpose and vet the women (i.e., make the women qualify for their time and attention). Of course, that assume's the man has made himself into a high-value person and worthy of a real woman (i.e., he understands how to be a good man and husband material). By the way, any made that takes a woman on a NINTH date without knowing/understanding her true intentions is a simp.
Women also need to realise how they contribute to a whether guy chases or pursues - when a quality man can feel that you are connected to him and genuinely want to get to know him and will reward his efforts, then he will be much more comfortable patiently pursuing. However, when women drop breadcrumbs and play hard to get or send mixed messages (perhaps because of insecurity) then this can bring out the unhealthy pursuit side of men. It's essentially like random reinforcement, which is highly addoctive and ungrounding. And if a guy thinks he has a chance but you are running away but also sending signals that you may possibly be interested, this sets off a sort of hunting instinct. Often, if you are face to face with a dangerous animal, if you run away they will chase you, because they see you as prey or something to chase. If you stand your ground you appear to be not a threat and not prey. So running away can make a man chase, it's like a hunting instinct. I guess that's why some women use the hard to get strategy, but women who are genuinely trying to get away after initially showing some interest will also find themselves chased. If you are a woman and you want to be pursued, then you have to stand your ground and compell the man to come to you, in the same way a flower, or amy female animals will do to bring in a mate. Imagine you want to get a bear to move: You can draw its attention then run away and it will chase you because it sees you as prey. The trouble is it will keep chasing you even qhen you no longer eant to play the game OR you can stay where you are, get the bear's attention, let it know that you see him, and wait for him to come to you. The bear will initially be confused, but will eventually become intrigued and curious. You are not acting like prey so its predatory instincts won't come into play, and it doesn't know what to make of the situation so it will become curious and go investigate. I know that's probably not what you should do around a bear (don't treat this as safety advice!) but you can replace bear with cat, dog, horse, wolf, or any other not completely domesticated animal. I'm just using it to illustrate a point, which is that sometimes women will encourage 'chasing' instead of 'pursuing' and there are things you can do to make sure a guy pursues and not chases. Some guys only chase and some only pursue but there are many who can swing either way depending on how the woman is behaving. It's important to kmow that the woman plays a role on this, it is not exclusively down to whether a man is someone who ALWAYS does one or the other
Makes so much sense as to why guys (immature ones) fall off and ghost once they see they’ll have to put in some effort/work and go at a pace to build an actual relationship
Yup!!
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If she's not reciprocating the communication effort, not gonna chase.
A masculine men sounds so much more disciplined. This is very appealing.
Very disciplined!
Thank you Fareen! I have experienced chasing behavior recently and it's very unsettling. It's like they've decided they like me and want me in their life before they even know me. It doesn't make me feel valued it makes me feel like prey. Thank you for putting words to why I felt the way I did. ❤️
Yes exactly! You can feel that their intentions aren’t genuine in getting to know the real “you”
I can’t handle the chasing energy, it’s very ungrounding. And yeah it’s true it’s like they’re trying to get something from you in order for them to feel better about themselves.
Yes ungrounded! You said it perfectly - it doesn’t feel good because it isn’t authentic- you got it!!
@@fareenashofficial yesss right it’s not authentic! So would you say that when they chase they don’t really like you.. they’re just trying to get something from you for the time being?
Bingo! It’s subtle and they may not realize, but yes it is more of an egoic taking pursuit - I love your input here!
@@fareenashofficial uhh yes!! I was recently dating this guy and this is exactly what happened. It was all too much too soon and I was trying to slow it down but i was really triggered by it all, I felt like I could not relax in my feminine energy 😢 And it’s definitely not a good feeling. Oh thanks girl 😊I love your content! 🤍🤍🤍
Don’t allow that to trigger you. You can simply move on! It’s a really good sign that this behavior didn’t sit well with your nervous system! You’re on the right track. Don’t let anyone take away your peace 🤍🤍
The other part of the equation is that a woman has to give a man a reason to pursue her. 💯
Absolutely!!!!!!!!
@@prussiansocietyofamerica except that women can get by on their own just fine nowadays without having to depend totally on a man for support as in past times... plus in a genuine loving relationship, don't you think both parties should value and respect one other? Seems you're just setting up a double standard rule with no solid basis to back it up other than wishful thinking...
It's like these men don't have any thing to say about the actual topic of the video. 😂 did you listen at all?
For example???
I feel like I am able to actually understand and see the difference between genuinely feminine women, and women who are not feminine, from having watched your videos, and now I’m seeking out examples, to tune in with it more, and if anyone else is looking for examples like I am, I just found Emily Noel’s makeup TH-cam channel today, randomly, and she felt so radiantly feminine to me that I searched for any videos of her and and her husband, and there are several, and sure enough the one I watched is so touching and beautiful, and frankly, instructive, for someone like me, on this journey. Just in case someone else reads this and could use some more real life feminine-masculine couple inspiration and examples. Love your channel, Fareen, and I’ve read both books and am starting the inner work course, and you and your work is 100% changing my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏
I absolutely loved the examples of the two different men you went on dates with and how you approached both those situations! Keep the examples coming 😘❤️❤️🙏🙏
Oh good!! I’ll use them more 😃
This is such good sharing. Thank you! :)
Nailed it!
Very helpful! Thank you, Fareen!
Oh I’m happy to hear this 😍😍😍
I once matched with a man of the second category. I gave him my number and when he texted I said "hey! Who is this?". He got angry and asked if i couldn't keep all the men i was talking to separate. 🙄. I am an attractive, social woman and i meet lots of people men and women. I wasn't sitting around waiting for this guy to text me so I i wasn't sure it was him! I should have blocked him then but we kept talking for a few days and he became crazy insecure and possessive and we had never even met. I stopped talking to him and he still sporarically contacts me on social media eighteen months later.
Thanks for sharing❤❤
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Did you say there were a lot of messages between dates?
Watch this next: what is dark feminine energy? (not what you think)
th-cam.com/video/7gUuqNGtJQ4/w-d-xo.html
Download a free chapter of “What Men Want: The Ultimate Guide to a Masculine Man’s Heart:” - fareenash.com/
Wait I have so many questions, when do you actually get physical and do you do other things?
Because my boyfriend told he was okay waiting for me but then he would also say that he felt “rejected” when I would tell him that I wanted to wait until I was sure. How does me respecting my boundaries make you feel rejected?
My books will go deeper into this, specifically “what men want.” You can download a free chapter on the website 🤍
ok chasing v. pursuing, but what exactly is courting?
I get into this more in my book “what men want”
I understand the message you are trying to pass but I think you got the concept of Chase and Pursue incorrectly. They basically mean the same thing.
Thanks for your feedback! If you have a chance to watch the video I discuss the distinctions in there ! Xx
No I don’t think it’s the same thing. There’s a the thin line between these two
Intentionality is what differentiates them.
❤❤❤ wow boys vs men! Boys need their mother to cuddle them in the night 😂
You forgot to include the part that talks about today's generation...in the U.S. Many women in the U.S. simply use men for food, attention, validation or other things. They secretly brag about it to their best female friends...and the simp guys have no clue. Men need to date with a purpose and vet the women (i.e., make the women qualify for their time and attention). Of course, that assume's the man has made himself into a high-value person and worthy of a real woman (i.e., he understands how to be a good man and husband material). By the way, any made that takes a woman on a NINTH date without knowing/understanding her true intentions is a simp.
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Like you didn’t kiss him for 3 months ?
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Women also need to realise how they contribute to a whether guy chases or pursues - when a quality man can feel that you are connected to him and genuinely want to get to know him and will reward his efforts, then he will be much more comfortable patiently pursuing.
However, when women drop breadcrumbs and play hard to get or send mixed messages (perhaps because of insecurity) then this can bring out the unhealthy pursuit side of men.
It's essentially like random reinforcement, which is highly addoctive and ungrounding. And if a guy thinks he has a chance but you are running away but also sending signals that you may possibly be interested, this sets off a sort of hunting instinct. Often, if you are face to face with a dangerous animal, if you run away they will chase you, because they see you as prey or something to chase. If you stand your ground you appear to be not a threat and not prey.
So running away can make a man chase, it's like a hunting instinct. I guess that's why some women use the hard to get strategy, but women who are genuinely trying to get away after initially showing some interest will also find themselves chased.
If you are a woman and you want to be pursued, then you have to stand your ground and compell the man to come to you, in the same way a flower, or amy female animals will do to bring in a mate.
Imagine you want to get a bear to move:
You can draw its attention then run away and it will chase you because it sees you as prey. The trouble is it will keep chasing you even qhen you no longer eant to play the game
OR you can stay where you are, get the bear's attention, let it know that you see him, and wait for him to come to you. The bear will initially be confused, but will eventually become intrigued and curious. You are not acting like prey so its predatory instincts won't come into play, and it doesn't know what to make of the situation so it will become curious and go investigate.
I know that's probably not what you should do around a bear (don't treat this as safety advice!) but you can replace bear with cat, dog, horse, wolf, or any other not completely domesticated animal. I'm just using it to illustrate a point, which is that sometimes women will encourage 'chasing' instead of 'pursuing' and there are things you can do to make sure a guy pursues and not chases.
Some guys only chase and some only pursue but there are many who can swing either way depending on how the woman is behaving. It's important to kmow that the woman plays a role on this, it is not exclusively down to whether a man is someone who ALWAYS does one or the other
Purposeful seduction 👍
I love this!!! Yes!!!! Intention :)
So man nowadays Court?
The good ones do..
If we let them…
I'm just a boy because I want my quick fix😂😂😂