I could relate to all your talking about as you never forget all of what happened especially because it happened daily,not being able to escape having to endure intensely causing anger also because of the humility,and shame,later afterwards causing anxieties,ocd’s,addictive behaviors,,social anxieties,etc.
My first incident happened three days after my 15th birthday, so I am never sure whether this is still childhood or not, but even if not, I hope that it is maybe ok to reply because so much of what you said resonated with me. I felt reassured hearing you say that it is not only the first trauma that has an impact, but that what followed also could have had an influence on my mental health. I have support, and my therapist also says the same things, but hearing this outside therapy feels validating, and I’d just like to thank you for that.
It is absolutely ok (and appreciated) for you to reply. You're not alone in the uncertainty of how to categorize various experiences. I would say, at 15, it is childhood trauma. You mentioned "first incident" at 15 which suggests there were others which compound the impact of the previous ones. I'm glad you've found a therapist and are getting the support you deserve. I think it can often be helpful to hear things from more than one more source and certainly more than once. Thank you for watching and sharing. ❤️
@@PeggyOliveiraMSW You are right, there was more than just this first incident. And thanks to therapy, I also learned that what happened after the first time also had an impact. Thank you for being so validating, I really appreciate that so much!
Thanks for your very informative video!😊 I was someone who would have said that I wasn't a person who worries or was anxious. I learned during my own healing that while I'm not a worrier that sharing myself at a deep level brought up huge anxiety for me. So much so that at times I didn't recognise myself. My coping of closing down and being highly independent protected me from that. The more I have learned to stay present and connected to myself and to others the more anxious I became. I've definitely healed some of that early attachment wounding which was really tough at times. I am a planner. I am very organised. I don't feel I'm trying to control another. I haven't had someone say that to me. However, learning to recognise another's way of doing things is OK and it doesn't mean I'm wrong and that they are right and vice versa is and has been helpful for me to recognise and accept. You have me thinking now!😂😊
Thank you for sharing your experience. ❤️ Planning and having things in order is definitely not about trying to control others. It's about trying to mitigate opportunity for something unexpected to happen (which in our traumatized body and mind can feel like a threat). It's ultimately more about trying to be prepared, much like people who worry.
Mrs. Peggy I truly appreciate what you do for us here on this platform. It has helped me tremendously. Please dnt stop if possible. I thank God for you and allowing me to find your channel in 2016! 💖💛💖💖🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thanks for coming Forward bringing this video on to better understand about it all that happened,and had to endure to get a better understanding of about all the symptoms left with depression/anxieties,ocd’s,social anxieties,humilities,shames,addictive behaviors,left with to get better understanding of what’s needed to help with it all🥵☺️
Thank You For Bringing This informative Video With Truths To Get Better Understandings Of It All,And What Can Happen,And What Can Do If This Should Take Place,And Happen To Knowing More About All Of It,And If You Can Go Further Explaining With Another Video😘❤️
I could say your definitely left with a great amount of anxieties afterwards having difficulty overcoming from all the traumas that had endure ,and then doing your best to reduce to a minimum to cope with it all that happened 🥵
Sometimes, you can turn on a sixpence, with anxiety as it can come and go like waves , and other times, the wave is big and grips you for longer . We have to ride the waves, I think , however big or small they are .
I could relate to all your talking about as you never forget all of what happened especially because it happened daily,not being able to escape having to endure intensely causing anger also because of the humility,and shame,later afterwards causing anxieties,ocd’s,addictive behaviors,,social anxieties,etc.
I'm both sorry and glad you were able to relate to what I shared. Thank you for commenting.
My first incident happened three days after my 15th birthday, so I am never sure whether this is still childhood or not, but even if not, I hope that it is maybe ok to reply because so much of what you said resonated with me. I felt reassured hearing you say that it is not only the first trauma that has an impact, but that what followed also could have had an influence on my mental health. I have support, and my therapist also says the same things, but hearing this outside therapy feels validating, and I’d just like to thank you for that.
It is absolutely ok (and appreciated) for you to reply. You're not alone in the uncertainty of how to categorize various experiences. I would say, at 15, it is childhood trauma. You mentioned "first incident" at 15 which suggests there were others which compound the impact of the previous ones. I'm glad you've found a therapist and are getting the support you deserve. I think it can often be helpful to hear things from more than one more source and certainly more than once. Thank you for watching and sharing. ❤️
@@PeggyOliveiraMSW You are right, there was more than just this first incident. And thanks to therapy, I also learned that what happened after the first time also had an impact. Thank you for being so validating, I really appreciate that so much!
Thanks for your very informative video!😊 I was someone who would have said that I wasn't a person who worries or was anxious. I learned during my own healing that while I'm not a worrier that sharing myself at a deep level brought up huge anxiety for me. So much so that at times I didn't recognise myself. My coping of closing down and being highly independent protected me from that. The more I have learned to stay present and connected to myself and to others the more anxious I became. I've definitely healed some of that early attachment wounding which was really tough at times. I am a planner. I am very organised. I don't feel I'm trying to control another. I haven't had someone say that to me. However, learning to recognise another's way of doing things is OK and it doesn't mean I'm wrong and that they are right and vice versa is and has been helpful for me to recognise and accept. You have me thinking now!😂😊
Thank you for sharing your experience. ❤️ Planning and having things in order is definitely not about trying to control others. It's about trying to mitigate opportunity for something unexpected to happen (which in our traumatized body and mind can feel like a threat). It's ultimately more about trying to be prepared, much like people who worry.
Mrs. Peggy I truly appreciate what you do for us here on this platform. It has helped me tremendously. Please dnt stop if possible. I thank God for you and allowing me to find your channel in 2016!
💖💛💖💖🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I'm so, so glad you find the videos helpful. I'm grateful you found my channel too and appreciate you being part of this incredible community. ❤️
Thanks for coming Forward bringing this video on to better understand about it all that happened,and had to endure to get a better understanding of about all the symptoms left with depression/anxieties,ocd’s,social anxieties,humilities,shames,addictive behaviors,left with to get better understanding of what’s needed to help with it all🥵☺️
You're very welcome. I hope it's been helpful. Thank you for commenting. ❤️
Thank You For Bringing This informative Video With Truths To Get Better Understandings Of It All,And What Can Happen,And What Can Do If This Should Take Place,And Happen To Knowing More About All Of It,And If You Can Go Further Explaining With Another Video😘❤️
I'm glad it resonated with you. Thank you for watching and sharing. ❤️
I could say your definitely left with a great amount of anxieties afterwards having difficulty overcoming from all the traumas that had endure ,and then doing your best to reduce to a minimum to cope with it all that happened 🥵
So true and part of the reason it's so important to have support. ❤️
Sometimes, you can turn on a sixpence, with anxiety as it can come and go like waves , and other times, the wave is big and grips you for longer . We have to ride the waves, I think , however big or small they are .
We ride the wave or we get pulled under. 😊 It can be hard to not fight against though. 😊 Thank you for sharing. ❤️
@@PeggyOliveiraMSW . Yes, we get pulled under,but we come back up again, each time a little bit stronger