Just watching this 2 minute video I WANT to have you as my therapist. There's something so inviting and comforting about your presence. Thanks so much for this insight into that pattern and some shifts that help with the processes of reactivity!!
I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make amends be happy for them.
Thank you so much for this video. I have seen therapists who want you to come in, take their drugs, and "get over it". When one has faced something that caused PTSD and to live in fear when awake or asleep? We WANT to "get over it" more than anything else in life!! How do we get therapists to understand our anger, grief and fear?
I totally understand what you mean. My exhaustion, fatigue, depression, anxiety, and grief are with me all the time. If I could think of something to get my mind off my problems - I WOULD!!! Too bad most therapists don't understand this basic reality of being a wounded human being. They just don't get it.
@@chinookvalley well one small observation I can see is just the language you spoke. When you refer to yourself as a wounded human being it reinforces the thoughts you have about yourself. What if you shifted it and said something like I'm a person who has been through very difficult circumstances but now I'm going to find ways to empower myself. Not saying you haven't been working on it but just noticing the language you use because that reinforces your thoughts.
This brings to mind the idea that it isn't the trauma that causes the problem but the reaction to the trauma. I think this can make letting go of things seem impossible in certain severe cases, such as religious abuse or emotional incest and covert traumas that people aren't even conscious of for many years.
Just watching this 2 minute video I WANT to have you as my therapist. There's something so inviting and comforting about your presence. Thanks so much for this insight into that pattern and some shifts that help with the processes of reactivity!!
I love how you took back your words "get rid of" and changed it "shift". Great advice and I will be using this for sure!
Great video, you're going to feel what your gonna feel. Thanks
I appreciate this succinct, well-spoken, well thought-out video.
I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make amends be happy for them.
Thank you so much for this video. I have seen therapists who want you to come in, take their drugs, and "get over it". When one has faced something that caused PTSD and to live in fear when awake or asleep? We WANT to "get over it" more than anything else in life!! How do we get therapists to understand our anger, grief and fear?
Extremely important content
This helps, thank you.
A fine understanding of these issues..
Wonderful trip 👍👍👍
I feel that when I am resentful just to think of anything else is too much work
I totally understand what you mean. My exhaustion, fatigue, depression, anxiety, and grief are with me all the time. If I could think of something to get my mind off my problems - I WOULD!!! Too bad most therapists don't understand this basic reality of being a wounded human being. They just don't get it.
@@chinookvalley well one small observation I can see is just the language you spoke. When you refer to yourself as a wounded human being it reinforces the thoughts you have about yourself. What if you shifted it and said something like I'm a person who has been through very difficult circumstances but now I'm going to find ways to empower myself. Not saying you haven't been working on it but just noticing the language you use because that reinforces your thoughts.
This brings to mind the idea that it isn't the trauma that causes the problem but the reaction to the trauma. I think this can make letting go of things seem impossible in certain severe cases, such as religious abuse or emotional incest and covert traumas that people aren't even conscious of for many years.
❤️
My reaction to resentment is hoping to see this person in misery!