Cat, thank you so much❤️❤️❤️ I have been following you since Nov23. At first, it was challenging to understand. However, I was in so much pain that I didnt have any other choise. Now, it really seems that my whole life changes. DM seems to be coming back. But what is even more important, I got my family back. I healed my relationship with my kids. I am also healing traumatised relationship with my father. I cant understand these miracles happening to me. I thank you so much for all your support and emphasis on this all🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
Yes! I had thought that, also. The behaviors are the same. What was different for me was the intensity of the breakup, the DNOTS, Soul shock, obsessive thinking. Never a breakup like this!.. Not even the breakup with my husband. Yep, heart chakra.... Stabbed with a knife...Strong feelings for no reason. Hours of inner work. Then the spiritual growth that follows. II am focused on myself. Not concerned about DM, no soulmate, just me! This journey is the next step in my spiritual awakening. I think it began decades ago when I began to meditate. Meditation opened the door to the metaphysical, then to the spiritual.
I've been through it all. It's definitely not a journey for the faint of heart. Thank You Cat for all of the amazing work that you're doing in helping those that are on the twinflame journey. It truly helped me. Thank You Sending you lots of Love ❤❤❤
I know I went through this 2019-2021. From the moment we met my life just went crazy. My thoughts…. I thought I was dying. Thought I had died. I cried so much. I over thought everything. I was in physical spiritual and emotional pain. Never felt anything like it in my life. I feel like I have come through the other side from last year. I know where I stand and no longer feel the pain I use to feel in my TF relationship. It’s been magnificent. I trained and launched my business. Everything was going great but lately though I feel like I am stuck. Nothing is moving including my physical body. I have detached from my TF emotionally but not physically. I no longer dance or go to the gym and literally feel like I am lost in space..
I went through the same. I almost died a couple of times and got back to myself. This happens in the Twinflames journey. Stay strong and surrender it to the Divine. God bless you.
My DM is an FA and I just watched a video by Adam Lane Smith called 'Biochemistry of Avoidant Attachment Style'. They lack oxytocin, vasopressin, GABA and serotonin, because of this they are restricted to a dopamine/cortisol teeter totter, they are unable to bond to anyone because of this biochemistry. It explains so much, and now I don't expect him to deliver the impossible. Low GABA is also linked to alcohol addiction, another revelation.
@@espiritualidadetarot3779 I think it starts with increasing magnesium and things that increase GABA, then the psychological issues around childhood trauma need to be addressed.
@@alanabowker1363 This was so enlightening, thank you. Nothing I can do to change it, but understanding him is helpful to my forgiveness process. It has been a challenge to get there. The layers of my anger don't seem to end.
I have been through all you are talking.. for very long time i didn't know how to get out.. and now I'm in the place where I'm so grateful for the shift that happened within me..excited about working together with the devine and receiving messages and guidance..discovering opportunities that comes my way..love that ability to see clearly..🙏❤️ thank you so much for another amazing confirmation message..I was definitely guided to come across your channel..🥰 have a blessed and divinely protected day..🙏
I wish I had this information years ago. My experience was exactly how you describe. I remember wondering why I kept feeling like I was kicked in the stomach all the time. Especially when I saw him. I thought why am I not feeling this in my heart chakra. I spent sooo much money on psychics because I just couldn't understand why this was happening. It took me years to not be triggered when I saw him or talked to him. I remember thinking it would never end and I was just going to have to move away so I didn't have to deal with the pain of seeing him. Thankfully, I shifted finally and can be grateful. We are lightworkers and the planet desperately needs us right now to channel light and love.
The fearful or dismissive avoidant, because they are desperately and subconsciously seeking a healthy partner, often attracts people with anxious attachment styles, which is usually the unconscious and core wound of the DF, in the twinflame dynamic. An avoidant will also suddenly leave, discard, and ghost their partner with little to no provocation. The anxious partner will be left devastated and often chase and / or go looking for answers to help explain why the avoidant left. Also, the avoidant will come back after the anxious gives up chasing, initiating reconciliation or wanting answers. Based on the information in this video, it's still not clear to me the difference between the two. Or is that all twinflames are avoidant/anxious, but not all avoidants/anxious are twin flames? Lastly, something that I don't understand about TFs, since the journey is a solo journey, the ascension of the individual twin, why do twinflame coaches talk about union with the DM? And why would the DF, after healing their core wounds, want to reunite with DM?
Good questions and analysis. I have often wondered, also, since the DM and avoidant behaviors are the same. My ex FA ( at the time I didn't know of twin flames, I thought he was FA) monkey branched to another after four mostly good years with me. This woman, karmic, was a victim of narcissist abuse. Avoidants often feel safe with emotionally damaged people.The similarity is amazing. Anyway, after a year of hours of inner work in solitude, I am making progress along my spiritual journey. I have no idea what DM is doing now.
I kinda have to laugh about my thoughts. From the outside looking in, seeing my poor DM being this poor bloke that just knows he spent a great 6 weeks with this amazing person, and she suddenly turned into a psycho hose-beast. I won't blame my DM for that either. Geeze. Sorry, DM. I was not in my right mind.
Ive watched a lot of break up videos here on youtube. While in the beginning i thought it is a "normal" break up essentially i figured that those videos were just scratching the surface. You just know it is deeper. The understanding of the situation is deeper. I cant explain. Those videos on "how to get an ex back" seem very similar to a twin flame dynamic in where one stops to push and the other stops to run. But again. its deeper. Normally one would just continue with their life after the grieving process and eventually the other person would return or maybe not. But in a twin flame connection you cant just continue to live your life.. you are constantly being pushed to self-reflect and surrender fully!! as if you are going crazy!! you are driving your car and all of a sudden you are crying because the love for this connection just overflows you. like wtf.
So very true. Reminds me of my situation. I would watch those videos also. I have made great progress since watching Cat. I have shifted, surrendered, and nearing my inner Union. Your last statements hit home. Although I am neutral most of the time, I have moments of being overwhelmed with love for my twin and thoughts of the times we spent together.
OMG CAT , seriously this is a question totally been bothering me because my twin seems like a demented avoidant man from the 3d perspective but I had this KNOWING that there's something different....because in all other aspects he seems so involved in every part of my life !! And every thing you described is EXACTLY as played out in my experience. I had to pause the video to comment !! I was so excited to be understood !!! Even the pain I felt is exactly like you described . Thank you for saying it's going to end soon !! Thank goodness I'm not going insane !!
Thanks cat❤ I've been there, 3 years ago. Been tru everything.. this last break up was the worst... I didn't even had that breakup with my ex husband.. Tis was insane and mental.. In the beginning its very hard, I've been tru a dark night of the soul for months.. but now 3 years later, I'm doing great! Still no contact with my person, but that's oke☺ I'm happy with or without him❤ He went back to an ex, and I stayed alone. I don't know if he's ever coming back.. But I'm oke, with not knowing 💜😘
Yep on it like I exploded evey single core wounds surfaced felt like bandage ripped off heart chakra but you can’t shift instantly it coukd take years ..it’s just too much to do fast
Cat when you say solar plexus pain feels like you been kicked in the stomach, do you mean almost how your stomach clenches and tightens? Almost like right before you throw up.
For me it was close to this, unrelenting clenching is the best terminology I’ve been able to come up,then the heart/high heart also being in a choke hold, all while having to “human in the 3D” I just wanna stay in astral/ my dreams 💔 we’ll get through it.
Cat really defines the experience here, you can be in the most beautiful place on earth, still you will feel halved/broken when you are still in the DNOT stages.
For me the solar plexus pain is like there is a rock sitting there with lots of nausea with an occasional pulling/ yanking feeling like something is trying to pull my insides out.
@@whimsicalicicle9091 yessss thank you! I’m out of it for the most part now, but that was exactly what I experienced for months! Once in a while I’ll feel it again around the moon cycles. But the nausea too was terrible!!
You also have to be careful of "Plutoarian" relationships which in astrology is a "false twin flame" or karmatic relationship. I'd say have an astrologer look at your birth chart and theirs to see. To be honest I do think that TF relationships are just an avoidant person wasting other people's time with their drama. I had to let my relationship go gladly with no tears or drama, I dont actually want a relationship like a TF one, I'll settle for a soul mate anyday so much more peaceful. Stop letting that avoidant waste your time!! If you know he is an avoidant especially a fearful avoidant.... Drop him.💯
So we all were as of toxic dfeminines and we have to become healthy in holy spirit /antisin and then we will jave our dMasculine , I'm the right place the righteous way and all things holy . Uff . That changes stuff a bit .
It's weird. How tull he finds hoky spirit within heals his feminine and then be comfortable to be in masculine qnd feminine. I with holy spirit have to treat him as a feminine lady. Haha . And I have to shut my feminine in a way as she/i needs to be patient and in my masculine and holy spirit within me. as he in his tauma of sin . And opposition. And never knew how to treat feminine without lust and how to be treated and how to give and feom where and what etc .and this is an obvious point why somebody can not be together. Foe they are not together. themselves. If you know what is written /mean.
Cat, thank you so much❤️❤️❤️
I have been following you since Nov23. At first, it was challenging to understand. However, I was in so much pain that I didnt have any other choise. Now, it really seems that my whole life changes. DM seems to be coming back. But what is even more important, I got my family back. I healed my relationship with my kids. I am also healing traumatised relationship with my father. I cant understand these miracles happening to me. I thank you so much for all your support and emphasis on this all🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
This is so lovely to read and it warms my heart keep rising beautiful soul xx
Yes! I had thought that, also. The behaviors are the same. What was different for me was the intensity of the breakup, the DNOTS, Soul shock, obsessive thinking. Never a breakup like this!.. Not even the breakup with my husband. Yep, heart chakra.... Stabbed with a knife...Strong feelings for no reason. Hours of inner work. Then the spiritual growth that follows. II am focused on myself. Not concerned about DM, no soulmate, just me! This journey is the next step in my spiritual awakening. I think it began decades ago when I began to meditate. Meditation opened the door to the metaphysical, then to the spiritual.
THIS IS ALL TRUE/ KEEP THE FAITH IN THE DEVINE AND HEAL OURSELVES AND HEAL OTHERS ON THIS EARTH.
I've been through it all. It's definitely not a journey for the faint of heart.
Thank You Cat for all of the amazing work that you're doing in helping those that are on the twinflame journey.
It truly helped me.
Thank You
Sending you lots of Love ❤❤❤
I know I went through this 2019-2021. From the moment we met my life just went crazy. My thoughts….
I thought I was dying. Thought I had died. I cried so much. I over thought everything. I was in physical spiritual and emotional pain. Never felt anything like it in my life.
I feel like I have come through the other side from last year. I know where I stand and no longer feel the pain I use to feel in my TF relationship. It’s been magnificent. I trained and launched my business. Everything was going great but lately though I feel like I am stuck. Nothing is moving including my physical body. I have detached from my TF emotionally but not physically. I no longer dance or go to the gym and literally feel like I am lost in space..
I went through the same. I almost died a couple of times and got back to myself. This happens in the Twinflames journey. Stay strong and surrender it to the Divine. God bless you.
It sounds like you are in the void energy which I am in also, just before a new shift happens 😊
My DM is an FA and I just watched a video by Adam Lane Smith called 'Biochemistry of Avoidant Attachment Style'. They lack oxytocin, vasopressin, GABA and serotonin, because of this they are restricted to a dopamine/cortisol teeter totter, they are unable to bond to anyone because of this biochemistry. It explains so much, and now I don't expect him to deliver the impossible. Low GABA is also linked to alcohol addiction, another revelation.
Did he say if there is a solution?
@@espiritualidadetarot3779 I think it starts with increasing magnesium and things that increase GABA, then the psychological issues around childhood trauma need to be addressed.
@@alanabowker1363 This was so enlightening, thank you. Nothing I can do to change it, but understanding him is helpful to my forgiveness process. It has been a challenge to get there. The layers of my anger don't seem to end.
@@espiritualidadetarot3779 Isn't it freeing to understand that their hormones are the limiting factor? Take care.
I have been through all you are talking.. for very long time i didn't know how to get out.. and now I'm in the place where I'm so grateful for the shift that happened within me..excited about working together with the devine and receiving messages and guidance..discovering opportunities that comes my way..love that ability to see clearly..🙏❤️ thank you so much for another amazing confirmation message..I was definitely guided to come across your channel..🥰 have a blessed and divinely protected day..🙏
I wish I had this information years ago. My experience was exactly how you describe. I remember wondering why I kept feeling like I was kicked in the stomach all the time. Especially when I saw him. I thought why am I not feeling this in my heart chakra. I spent sooo much money on psychics because I just couldn't understand why this was happening. It took me years to not be triggered when I saw him or talked to him. I remember thinking it would never end and I was just going to have to move away so I didn't have to deal with the pain of seeing him. Thankfully, I shifted finally and can be grateful. We are lightworkers and the planet desperately needs us right now to channel light and love.
Many many people say this too me, but remember everything shows up on perfect timing on the journey sending you love x
The fearful or dismissive avoidant, because they are desperately and subconsciously seeking a healthy partner, often attracts people with anxious attachment styles, which is usually the unconscious and core wound of the DF, in the twinflame dynamic. An avoidant will also suddenly leave, discard, and ghost their partner with little to no provocation. The anxious partner will be left devastated and often chase and / or go looking for answers to help explain why the avoidant left. Also, the avoidant will come back after the anxious gives up chasing, initiating reconciliation or wanting answers. Based on the information in this video, it's still not clear to me the difference between the two. Or is that all twinflames are avoidant/anxious, but not all avoidants/anxious are twin flames? Lastly, something that I don't understand about TFs, since the journey is a solo journey, the ascension of the individual twin, why do twinflame coaches talk about union with the DM? And why would the DF, after healing their core wounds, want to reunite with DM?
Good questions and analysis. I have often wondered, also, since the DM and avoidant behaviors are the same. My ex FA ( at the time I didn't know of twin flames, I thought he was FA) monkey branched to another after four mostly good years with me. This woman, karmic, was a victim of narcissist abuse. Avoidants often feel safe with emotionally damaged people.The similarity is amazing. Anyway, after a year of hours of inner work in solitude, I am making progress along my spiritual journey. I have no idea what DM is doing now.
I can't believe you explained all of the things that happened to me physically. My goodness I'm so glad I was guided to you.
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That’s exactly how I felt. It was awful. It really does get better and you are better for it.
I kinda have to laugh about my thoughts. From the outside looking in, seeing my poor DM being this poor bloke that just knows he spent a great 6 weeks with this amazing person, and she suddenly turned into a psycho hose-beast. I won't blame my DM for that either. Geeze. Sorry, DM. I was not in my right mind.
Ive watched a lot of break up videos here on youtube. While in the beginning i thought it is a "normal" break up essentially i figured that those videos were just scratching the surface. You just know it is deeper. The understanding of the situation is deeper. I cant explain. Those videos on "how to get an ex back" seem very similar to a twin flame dynamic in where one stops to push and the other stops to run. But again. its deeper. Normally one would just continue with their life after the grieving process and eventually the other person would return or maybe not. But in a twin flame connection you cant just continue to live your life.. you are constantly being pushed to self-reflect and surrender fully!! as if you are going crazy!! you are driving your car and all of a sudden you are crying because the love for this connection just overflows you. like wtf.
So very true. Reminds me of my situation. I would watch those videos also. I have made great progress since watching Cat. I have shifted, surrendered, and nearing my inner Union. Your last statements hit home. Although I am neutral most of the time, I have moments of being overwhelmed with love for my twin and thoughts of the times we spent together.
Wow I needed to hear this today! Thanks Kat. You've confirmed my thoughts and put my mind at ease. This is my journey ! Thank You 🙏🏾❤️ X
OMG CAT , seriously this is a question totally been bothering me because my twin seems like a demented avoidant man from the 3d perspective but I had this KNOWING that there's something different....because in all other aspects he seems so involved in every part of my life !! And every thing you described is EXACTLY as played out in my experience. I had to pause the video to comment !! I was so excited to be understood !!!
Even the pain I felt is exactly like you described . Thank you for saying it's going to end soon !!
Thank goodness I'm not going insane !!
Thank you for your calming words
It is not an easy journey - yes I am questioning everything
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Thanks cat❤
I've been there, 3 years ago. Been tru everything.. this last break up was the worst... I didn't even had that breakup with my ex husband..
Tis was insane and mental..
In the beginning its very hard, I've been tru a dark night of the soul for months.. but now 3 years later, I'm doing great! Still no contact with my person, but that's oke☺ I'm happy with or without him❤
He went back to an ex, and I stayed alone.
I don't know if he's ever coming back..
But I'm oke, with not knowing 💜😘
Beautiful, thank you so much 🙏🏻. (When is it ego, abuse or activation/ katalyst for growth?)
Thank you, this is so helpful ❤
So true
Yep on it like I exploded evey single core wounds surfaced felt like bandage ripped off heart chakra but you can’t shift instantly it coukd take years ..it’s just too much to do fast
Cat when you say solar plexus pain feels like you been kicked in the stomach, do you mean almost how your stomach clenches and tightens? Almost like right before you throw up.
For me it was close to this, unrelenting clenching is the best terminology I’ve been able to come up,then the heart/high heart also being in a choke hold, all while having to “human in the 3D” I just wanna stay in astral/ my dreams 💔 we’ll get through it.
Cat really defines the experience here, you can be in the most beautiful place on earth, still you will feel halved/broken when you are still in the DNOT stages.
@@Wickedwokemama yesss I had stomach clenching for months! Plus nausea as well. Every doctor I went to automatically assumed I was pregnant lol
For me the solar plexus pain is like there is a rock sitting there with lots of nausea with an occasional pulling/ yanking feeling like something is trying to pull my insides out.
@@whimsicalicicle9091 yessss thank you! I’m out of it for the most part now, but that was exactly what I experienced for months! Once in a while I’ll feel it again around the moon cycles. But the nausea too was terrible!!
You also have to be careful of "Plutoarian" relationships which in astrology is a "false twin flame" or karmatic relationship. I'd say have an astrologer look at your birth chart and theirs to see.
To be honest I do think that TF relationships are just an avoidant person wasting other people's time with their drama.
I had to let my relationship go gladly with no tears or drama, I dont actually want a relationship like a TF one, I'll settle for a soul mate anyday so much more peaceful.
Stop letting that avoidant waste your time!! If you know he is an avoidant especially a fearful avoidant.... Drop him.💯
🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
So we all were as of toxic dfeminines and we have to become healthy in holy spirit /antisin and then we will jave our dMasculine , I'm the right place the righteous way and all things holy . Uff . That changes stuff a bit .
What if i am an avoidant befir ethis and i feel theu are the same ...or is that all nonsense
Is it possible that I meet my twin just to awaken? Nothing else?
It's weird. How tull he finds hoky spirit within heals his feminine and then be comfortable to be in masculine qnd feminine. I with holy spirit have to treat him as a feminine lady. Haha . And I have to shut my feminine in a way as she/i needs to be patient and in my masculine and holy spirit within me. as he in his tauma of sin . And opposition. And never knew how to treat feminine without lust and how to be treated and how to give and feom where and what etc .and this is an obvious point why somebody can not be together. Foe they are not together. themselves. If you know what is written /mean.