I'm late 50's, children grown. There's a woman that works in the same building as I do (not the same job). She arrived about 3 years ago. Ever since I laid eyes on her, I cannot get her out of my mind. We've made eye contact a couple of times, smiled, but nothing more. I've seen A LOT of attractive women in my time that I haven't thought twice about, but this is far different. It's hard to explain....I feel a connection to her like never before, even though I've never officially met her to talk to. I see the way that she interacts with others, her upbeat attitude, her smile, her energy.....I love my wife (been together for 16 years), but cannot get her out of my mind. Never felt like this before. Sometimes it's painful thinking about her, wondering if I've found "the one" too late..... do you consider this Limerence? It's not possible to completely avoid her, as we both work in the same building. Ugh....
Been waiting 6 months for my LO to be single. It's been agonizing. :/ She said "I always enjoyed talking to you and always thought you were kind of cute". And "I know what you are going through, it's okay." When I disclosed my limerence to her. We both agree we can't talk because she is with someone else.
It's great that you both talked this out before parting ways. Parting ways is inevitable in such situations but doing that gracefully is such a big deal!
If both of you are single then yes. But one needs to find the right way to disclose. I say do not admit obsession or mad desire. Ask them to date, a real date? Tell them they look sexy? Tell them you'd like to see them topless or shirtless? Or maybe tell them they likely look hot naked? If the attraction is sexual than these are ways to disclose attraction without the baggage of limerence, obsession, or craziness imo. I would issue a complement like the jeans looks very hot on you! Then you may get rejected and that's fine. You didn't disclose your deep rooted and troubling L to the person. Then you can move on or they can move on and you did your part by not staying silent and suffering alone in the silence. That is exactly what I did. We are still friends, but things are different now of course. We are slightly more distant and I think it's helped me move on the best I can. Normal people do just that, they make a pass to who they are interested in and if they get rejected they move on. All of my LOs I have been very sexually attracted to. They were all good looking, hot, smart, educated, fun, intellectually curious, single, and appeared interested in me at least as a friend. Sometimes I think they were sexually teasing me. The tight fitting jeans and seemingly not noticing my stares, or pretending not to notice my observations. In those cases one must make some kind of pass.
Oops, apologies for not replying to the question I missed that. I sometimes have problems with attending to details. The drama Triangle video is at the moment only available on my online training series on overcoming limerence. I may do one another time for general consumption
I'm late 50's, children grown. There's a woman that works in the same building as I do (not the same job). She arrived about 3 years ago. Ever since I laid eyes on her, I cannot get her out of my mind. We've made eye contact a couple of times, smiled, but nothing more. I've seen A LOT of attractive women in my time that I haven't thought twice about, but this is far different. It's hard to explain....I feel a connection to her like never before, even though I've never officially met her to talk to. I see the way that she interacts with others, her upbeat attitude, her smile, her energy.....I love my wife (been together for 16 years), but cannot get her out of my mind. Never felt like this before. Sometimes it's painful thinking about her, wondering if I've found "the one" too late..... do you consider this Limerence? It's not possible to completely avoid her, as we both work in the same building. Ugh....
Yes this is limerence
Been waiting 6 months for my LO to be single. It's been agonizing. :/ She said "I always enjoyed talking to you and always thought you were kind of cute". And "I know what you are going through, it's okay." When I disclosed my limerence to her. We both agree we can't talk because she is with someone else.
It's great that you both talked this out before parting ways. Parting ways is inevitable in such situations but doing that gracefully is such a big deal!
Hi please I am trying to go no contact with this guy for 18 months now. I am ashamed please help. He is not available he has someone.
How is it going?
Disclose if you can. Get rejected. It will help.
If both of you are single then yes. But one needs to find the right way to disclose. I say do not admit obsession or mad desire. Ask them to date, a real date? Tell them they look sexy? Tell them you'd like to see them topless or shirtless? Or maybe tell them they likely look hot naked? If the attraction is sexual than these are ways to disclose attraction without the baggage of limerence, obsession, or craziness imo. I would issue a complement like the jeans looks very hot on you! Then you may get rejected and that's fine. You didn't disclose your deep rooted and troubling L to the person. Then you can move on or they can move on and you did your part by not staying silent and suffering alone in the silence. That is exactly what I did. We are still friends, but things are different now of course. We are slightly more distant and I think it's helped me move on the best I can.
Normal people do just that, they make a pass to who they are interested in and if they get rejected they move on. All of my LOs I have been very sexually attracted to. They were all good looking, hot, smart, educated, fun, intellectually curious, single, and appeared interested in me at least as a friend. Sometimes I think they were sexually teasing me. The tight fitting jeans and seemingly not noticing my stares, or pretending not to notice my observations. In those cases one must make some kind of pass.
Another excellent video!! Can you give me the link to the drama triangle video please. 🙂
appreciate the feedback
That did not answer my question...lol
Oops, apologies for not replying to the question I missed that. I sometimes have problems with attending to details. The drama Triangle video is at the moment only available on my online training series on overcoming limerence. I may do one another time for general consumption
Ok thanks David!! 👍👍