An Autistic Person Responds to Jubilee's Autism Video
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- Special thanks to Nukaele and Seth for sending me Jubilee's original video. I liked it a lot. So much so that I figured I should do a video response to it.
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God damn it, Ken. :P
@@maxderrat I'm suprised no one in comments was rude in that video. Very nice of community. I don't think special is offensive. I think autistic is offensive. I've had a sadist friend who would call people Sub-Human and autistic.
But I feel like most of the internet agreed with these people because... They aren't mostly social. And are softies.
That's what internet people... Generally... Are...
But great to let people know they aren't alone.
Also about Masking. Lots of gamers are shy. And they prefer to stay incognito. Like that browsing history...
They are afraid of becoming predictable.
You shouldn't MASK yourself. It will overload, and break you.
The longer you keep at it the more you will become that. Just a mask. Now imagine you have to mask at school at home at work. Not expressing your personality. I personally believe will damage your brain.
Even I sing and do memes when my parents aren't at home sometimes. To express myself. Otherwise you know they'll just think i'm a creep for being a social being. Infact they can mistake it with these modern memes we consume.
You shouldn't MASK yourself. It will break your nerves.
I think every person sets their low. Their low point. For example. I bet in past you did something very efficently. And then that work got automated.
As you gained more wealth and worries. And now you can't even do it. What might be absolute struggle for someone. For other it might be a cake.
You get used to this new mindset. And now you can't even step back.
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“i know a guy with max derrat”
I am on the *Max Derrat* spectrum.
your view on people's use of words in relation to the intent is so mature
i applaud you for this - i forgot to think about that possibility and was quite often unnecessarily offended
thank you for making me reflect on that!
I am personally offended when someone uses autism as an insult. It puts us in a state where we seem smaller and less important, and people who dont exactly know what it means to be differently wired identify it with something that makes us less of a person.
Edit: I am not exactly offended by the insult, more so people's ignorance. People's ignorance eventually does turn into trouble.
Im an asshole and im not offended when it gets used as an insult.
Damn snowflakes...
Crazy How every people on this comment section defines himself as autistic or part of the spectrum.
@@amuserearflap1031
I'm NOT an asshole, but I'm also not offended when it's used as an insult. Deal with it you pansies. Grow up, get thicker skin. Getting upset over "autism" used as an insult is one of the reasons the normies call us snowflakes.
Kovlad Exactly! It makes it hard to open up to people about it because they don’t understand.
justin fwibber Idk you kinda sound like an asshole lmao
I feel the same way about pity as that girl with the eye make-up. I mask so well as an adult that no one knows I'm on the spectrum except my husband who sees the majority of my meltdowns. And when I try to explain the difficulties I have to people, they say things like "oh, well, I think a lot of people struggle with that! It just takes practice!". They mean it in an encouraging way and to make me not feel on the outside, but it actually just makes me feel more isolated because they obviously don't understand what I'm trying to say. It's well meaning, but definitely hurtful sometimes.
I would like to pursue a diagnosis, but most people don't realize that if you're over 18 and in Canada, it's $2000 ish to get it done, and as someone assigned female at birth, I've had actual doctors say it's impossible for me to be to autistic. When I did pay the over $1K for the ADHD test, the psychologist said she wasn't convinced I have ADHD, but rather a combination of autism with my chronic fatigue/dysautonomia, which I'd love to explore further, but there's so much sexism within the medical world in regards to disability and neurodiversity.
aspi here, I just wanted to say ❤ o everyone, nerotypical or not.
Being on the spectrum has cause me a lot of problems. Bullying, sensory overload, being looked down on, struggling in university because i had no one to study with, social isolation, the list goes on. And yet as much as I wish I wasn't autistic, it'd mean I wouldn't have my boyfriend. He's also on the spectrum, and one of the reasons we hit it off so well is because he can relate to my struggles with being autistic. I never got the help I needed like he did so he's determined to help me, at my own pace, in a way that doesn't get me too far out of my comfort zone.
Masking is preferable as somewhat of a routine, but when routine is broken and an unexpected event shows up the whole thing falls apart and it's easier to try to just casually shimmy out of there as inconspicuously as possible. This makes conversation difficult with others not on the spectrum.
As a child the thing that I was most pissed off about was the fact that despite appearing and displaying 95% neurotypical behavior, adults still treated me as if I was for the most part atypical. It was so frustrating my primary anger was at their inability to concile my human touch with their need to make me subservient to them. Ironically apparating in some of the minds of paras/substitutes was the most depraved form of pity I ever saw in the subconscious of a human being, and such destructive masking disturbs me, in which they shielded themselves from the true human in children to treat us as some object/objective of which their job was made for. Other people in the same job, generally far older people or people just past high school age got more along with me, because they were at times in their lives where the human condition touched them the most. Ironically I am now as old as those high school graduates, but living through that and seeing your own half autistic parents act the same way, trust me you’ll never understand what that had on me, to become convinced your parents love you and no doubt yours do, but then to find out they threaten you with the taking of all your possessions that you associate with your identity, including the only home you’ve known, just so you can complete another school day. I had a morning like that, and ever since I know my parents have something more to them, a sense of greed and nihilism. And that made me question everything.
Stepping back, I reckon that I was already quite intelligent being capable of overwhelming my autism with a new sense of self having replaced the old one. Because of my parents and of those teachers I had forced a new personality within myself but at great cost: the past that haunts me. Seeing both sides is a rare opportunity but I wish i didn’t have to put so much of my energy constructing a new personality that pushed harder on me as teachers forced me to accept that personality.
14:05 100% agree with you. That's why I watch your videos. It's so relaxing to talk/listen someone that is autistic too
I love how mjuch they stand on the lines versus the clear answer spaces between the lines. ME TOO!!!!! They are making clear decisions that relay info deeper then the 5-7 choices given.
Congrats on 100,000 subscribers btw
Thank you very much!
If I notice that a person trusts me so much that they dont feel the need to waer a mask for me, that is one of the biggest complimets to get.
I know I very dear friend who told me once she has to ceep distance because she feels the need to wear a mask that doesnt work for/with me. That in a way was one of the most terrible things a person ever told me, if this makes any sence.
Dont fear to trust. Find someone that loves you as you are and trust. A friend or a significant other. Doesnt matter.
Stay yellow everyone.
Over the years I've grown accustomed to people using "autistic" as an insult on the internet, but what upsets me more than anything are people who claim they can reverse their child's autism. I see a lot of this on Reddit; I've been personally attacked/downvoted by the masses for correcting these "facts" but it's common to see in other communities as well. While as for myself I don't consider autism a gift, it's not something you should feel disappointed about for your child as a parent. Accept someone how they are, even for our imperfections. It's what settles the difference between being a perfect robot and a human. I'd rather be myself than "perfect" to everyone else.
hey max, thank you, your video resonate with me A lot.
This unlocked something for me, want to say more, can't, thank you.
My little town in Oklahoma has zero help for my son, they sent him home from public school two years ago. Now 15 and he has severe depression and always talks about hurting himself. I would give the world for him to have more resources other than "mom".
Sent him to a new school no joke he needs to learn to how to be social with new people
I also have autism and dahm it feels good to see this video
Autism has not been properly defined, therefore it cannot be properly diagnosed.
What is the resourcepack and shaders?
Hey! So the shader I used for most of the video was "Sildurs Vibrant Shaders". I briefly used the "SEUS Renewed" shader from 1:37-2:18, but I wouldn't recommend using it for more than a minute. Otherwise, the entire world starts to glitch out for some reason.
The texture pack I used for the entire video was "Pulchra Revisited 256x". Let me know if you have any problems. :)
nevermind the resource pack, who made that map. it is gorgeous!
Which map? I used three maps.
@@maxderrat Well, they are all nice looking so all of them maybe? :P
@@maxderrat Thanks, just saw this reply.
Hey to bring up Jai (the person in the Black hoodie) is Non Binary and goes by He/They pronouns. Yoni (who goes by Yoanna now) also identified as non binary but currently goes by She/Her pronouns (this was a year ago but Jai did go by these pronouns at the time this was posted. Also not sure if Yoanna still identifies as a trans woman or non binary since I haven't checked their Insta in a while she just recently popped up in a video about Jewish people)
EDIT: To add I hope I am not coming off negatively I am just stating this. Also I just checked Yoanna's Insta and their pronouns are listed as She/They but hey it's their life
Very out of context, but what Shader pack are you using in this video?
Hey! So the shader I used for most of the video was "Sildurs Vibrant Shaders". I briefly used the "SEUS Renewed" shader from 1:37-2:18, but I wouldn't recommend using it for more than a minute. Otherwise, the entire world starts to glitch out for some reason.
The texture pack I used for the entire video was "Pulchra Revisited 256x". Let me know if you have any problems. :)
@@maxderrat Thanks a lot for the reply! :D
Honestly I do consider "special" offensive but context matters with anything.
Lmao I couldn’t give a fuck a less about ableist insults or whatever
I’m just tired of being poor
4:00 hit it on the target
Minecraft looks beautifull like that
Enjoying the video; it is very fun to answer these questions
anyway does anyone have Emo Queen Amidala's phone number
The mask didn’t work with my parents but does work with my friends if i known them for a while
I want to do this video too because I'm autistic but I'm scared
Being "offended" has gotten a bad rap but replace it with "hurt", do you feel hurt when someone says that, I do, and I'm not ashamed of my feelings of being hurt anymore, when other people caused the hurt.
Mask and present. welcome to my life.
What texture pack is this??
No it doesn't solve a gigantic puzzle solved for the first time. It just convolutes with more information that maybe contradictory.
^this
its more like a doctor that opens the lid of of the puzzlebox and says: Now go and fix this puzzle.. im kinda dissapointed with these candidates.. it seems like most of them were on the high functioning side instead of the classic autism spectrum.
I’m new to the channel, could someone please send me the discord link?
Here we go
2:40 i dont find it offensive, i dont get offended all that easily. More so i find the term... misleading. Everyone is special, and its not like some people are more special than others. So in all reality its just sugarcoating that people are outstandingly different. Which is kind of offensive, but not really that offensive. So id just go one step left.
4:55 it depends on the situation. If im approached by someone else, i dont have trouble socialising for that first time, but for them to ever contact me again is... rare... But once ive made long term friends its long-lasting so i dont often *need* to make new friends. Then you put me in a place like VR Chat where i can be almost 100% sure i wont ever see these people again and even if i somehow do they almost definitely wont recognise me and i can suddenly be a bit of an extravert, just hanging out with random people.
7:28 idk how, because i was diagnosed at a young age, but im sure it did. Unlike those who were diagnosed later in life i never did go through a "why is this happening?" sort of questioning. I just knew "okay this is autism, and i hate it, but at least i know what it is" so theres that.
8:12 hmm this one depends on the situation. When they have an ulterior motive and they are only talking to me because i look like a sad lonely loser, yeah im kinda bothered. It just tells me i need to work on my image a bit but thats just a struggle i still have. Its kind of whatever though, its nice in a way, even if they are just doing it to feel better about themselves more than for me. These are like the situations where im approached by someone else, im pretty sure they are pitying me, and thats probably why i never see them again.
9:10 guh, masking. I kinda hate the term in the autistic community. Trying to behave in a certain way around people isnt putting on a mask, its just natural behaviour. Everyone does it.
9:45 i had the opposite, going along with this "masking" term, i would go to school and adapt to that, mind you i didnt do this until around middle school, but i did "mask" when i realised how people reacted to my actions, how i shouldnt act on impulse. Just at home it was so much easier to fall into other behaviour. I mean my family has been dealing with me for all my life i dont think theres really any reason to change my behaviour with as much mental acknowledgement as i do in a public situation. So thats my thing.
11:35 kinda. If i could start life over, no keeping memories or anything, basically just be a different person, yeah id rather not have autism. But since this is the life i have, and ive lived it for so long, well i didnt work this hard learning how to live life with this condition just for it to be magically taken away. I may not want to deal with it, but im dealing with it and i wouldnt want that taken away from me. Thats my view on that anyhow.
12:12 idk that idea never checked out to me. As of IQ im middle of the road 108 (mind you that was my only official test at the end of middle school, idk if high school made it drop a few points) and i dont *think* im any smarter than the average person. And even then how do you even define intelligence? IQ on its own doesnt really do it, but what other measures could you have? Its one of those more subjective things in life, even if people try to make it objective.
13:27 this is going to sound kinda bad but im going to have to disagree. Maybe on full-on *strongly* disagree, as i understand the struggle, but i dont feel quite, "connected" to others. Moreso i just understand and in that i can make more of a connection. But i also have some mental hangups on that, because as a kid i went to a lot of therapy and i attribute at least some of my behaviour as a kid to being negatively influenced by the other kids in therapy so i have a bit of an adversity to the whole thing.
But to end on a more positive note with my large comment, thanks for reading, hope my perspective was interesting. Overall i liked this video, hearing some opinions, and all that. Was a nice watch.
interesting ideas. always been confused about the term masking as well.
Anyone else wanna date the cute goth aspie girl?
You don’t even know lol
%101 Real [NOT FAKE !!!] Pussy lmao
14:55 YES JOIN DISCORD SERVER NOW PLEASE
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaautism
"Self-identify". Immediately invalid.
4:00 "The cute goth girl..."
"Question 20: Do you consider the term 'goth' offensive?"
No?
@@maxderrat I was asking the goth girl, lol.
The virgin goth vs the chad Trve Kvlt Black Metal dork
@@_Nekronos_ my man
As someone on the spectrum with feelings very similar to those expressed not only in that video but also in the reaction, I wondered what exactly the statement the 'goth girl' was making. I'll be perfectly honest, I don't really like goth, as to me it's kind of like holding up a big empty sign. That got me thinking, if I'm so like-minded with many of these people, why is this specific fashion statement something I'm entirely missing?
Can someone answer this for me?
I'm a high functioning autistic and I feel people dont realise how difficult it can be. Because I function physically normally and arent low functioning I'm expected to act like everyone else. Which is really unfair in my eyes and for everyone else who's autistic. But even though theres alot of struggle I am glad to be who I am. I wouldnt change it not for a second. Because everyone has flaws and I dont want to change my flaws because I am my own person i dont want to change that for people. Hope you understand what I mean :)
I want to ask you something: if you had the choice between starting at the paralympics and starting at the olympics, with the paralympics being a guranteed gold, and the olympics being the almost certain last place. Which one would you choose?
I don't think it is unfair that people expect from you to behave the same as everyone else if you want to participate like everyone else. Not for you not for everyone who is autistic. Actually I think it would be unfair for everyone who isn't autistic.
And while everyone has their flaws, flaws are not meant as an tool for self-identification. You are not your flaws. Your flaws are metaphorically speaking your individual "hero's-journey", "your dragon to slay" you have to overcome them to fully grow as an individual to eventually become your own person. Before that you are merely controlled by your flaws... Flaws are for certain nothing to be kept.
@@xhawkenx633 That's a very silly question I wouldn't do either. But obviously I'll do the Olympics since I'm not disabled or at a disability.
@@xhawkenx633 I think you missed the point. I wasn't talking generally. I'm talking about how people expect me. To just deal with my overloads. Like I'm just having abit of stress. That's when it isn't fair on High Functioning Autistic people. Since we act like everyone else just have overloads and other issues individually. How is that exactly unfair to anyone? It isnt!
@@xhawkenx633 ik I'm not my flaws. And I do deal with them. And have had to overcome things ofcourse. Just some things are harder to overcome or impossible like overloads will always happen. I am who I am. Always try to be the best you can. But I don't need to prove that to anyone. And it's okay to have flaws. Flaws are part of being human
@@FPS117 it really isn't a silly question, it is a parable about your mindset...
As an Aspie who had to deal with the special ed program in America, other kids babied me. Even those who already knew and befriended me before my diagnosis. And that was very hurtful. Maybe even as hurtful as bullying. But I did get something out of it: a little flame of aspiration. A desire to prove TO MYSELF what I can accomplish.
Now, I just need to figure it all out.
I know I’m over a year late but isn’t weird how sometimes being caring can hurt people? On paper it sounds so dumb, yet it happens every day to so many people
13:46 less eye contact, more meaning
being REAL with others means I am going to stare at rocks when saying the big things.
As an Aspie I don't think I am entitled to special treatment from anyone. I just wanted to know from a very young age that I am different, so I should not act "naturally" among people I don't know or that I have nothing to do with.
Whenever I get called autistic by a person with the intention to offend me I just respond with "Yeah! :D"
Lmao either that or I would say "you're pretty slow to figure things out aren't you?"
Same, it’s a sure fire way to tell whether or not someone’s either just joking or an ignorant idiot. Either way, you can have a little fun with them
A massive benefit of being autistic is that if I got called the r-word, I could hit them with "Yeah, of course"
I was just diagnosed this month at 30 and omg the amount of relief I felt after processing and learning more about what autism actually is, has been life changing. My anxiety has decreased significantly and I’ve been able to treat myself with so much more compassion.
I originally went in for an ADHD assessment only but got diagnosed for ADHD and autism. At first I was very shocked and confused. But binging videos from autistic youtubers and reading tons of blogs, I realized that wow this is me!! I’ve always felt like an alien trying to mimic the ppl around me. I also always felt like my sensitivity dial was set to max 10 and all the other “humans” around me had their dial set to 3.
I highly agree that you should try and seek a professional diagnosis. It def helps you. a.) learn more about your self. b.) accept yourself. c.) help you realize you’re not broken and help start the healing process. 💜💜💜
I like spectrum people because they aren't liars and are generally interested in something.
Aww thanks.
Well, thank you, but that really ain't true in my case.
A lie way too much for my own good...
Above average intelligence in a very narrow way.
My frontal lobe very specifically is very well established. Most of that is being european, we have the largest by ratio of all modern humans, and FYI, IQ doesnt really care. Its heavily loaded toward representing the parietal and temporal regions because language, math, and spatial predominantly process these batteries. Even ashkenazi gave up some brains, and east asia. Remember neurological cubic displacement does not always scale evenly due to testosterones relationship with testosterone, which to has a relationship with neuronal metabolic rate.
Its an entire ocean of so called sentience wrapped up in the novelty of existence, but generally totally without a great deal of curiosity for the subject and question: what is intelligence? To me there is no more fascinating a computation of concept.
I also think to some extent it can be induced. Particularly by people who raise their children and find their development an inconvenience to their vampiristic tendencies. If youre susceptible, you might not develop these sorts of quantum awareness based abilities. The only sort i ever developed is a connection to jungs collective in regards to language. Its probably a muscle we can to some extent kindle, like with taboo substances.
Taboo subjects are almost always the case because we dont want to scrutinize the details that appreciate our evolutionary strengths and weaknesses cognitively which we all possess regardless of race.
www.scmp.com/news/china/article/2054126/why-do-asians-have-bigger-brains-europeans-or-africans
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6625506/
"The SBM analyses revealed that compared with Caucasians, the Chinese population showed larger cortical structures in the temporal and cingulate regions, and smaller structural measures in the frontal and parietal cortices."
You cant really find data for ashkinazi except IQ but they are very lopsided in the temporal lobe favoring the left hemisphere and the left parietal lobe. I wouldn't be shocked if other language centers in the brain were also disproportionately larger.
Do not worship the graven image. To their credit, language, and mathematics are parallelizable across generations. Origami not so much. Its why east asia militarily has copied the west, but before contained projectile accellerants they were essentially uninvadeable because spatial is directly linked to how scary you are with edged rainbow trajectoral weaponry.
We should understand and celibrate our differences and abandon war, and unrestrained random mutation.
My answers to the question:
1. It definitely depends on the circumstance. If one tries to use "special" to belittle or talk down to me, than yes.
2. I feel very lucky to be able to say that I'm very good at making friends. True I do fall a little bit on the awkward side in conversation from time to time, but it's mostly a matter of practice and finding your right circle.
3. That's such a hard "yes" that it's almost a "no duh".
4. Pretty much what you just said. All I'm looking for is a little understanding, while people still respect my sense of agency.
5. I can confidently say that I am proud to have autism and wouldn't have it any other way. Even in the times where being autistic has felt like too big a burden to bear, especially in a world that seems ouvertly obtuse about it at times. But I've always persevered to come out on the other side, because I know that there are others who are struggling with it, and I feel the need to be one of those people who can prove that I am stronger than the storm, to teach others to be as well. Imagine where we would be today if autistic people throughout history just gave up and succumbed to the image of what society has branded them with.
6. An absolute "yes"!
Same here
now we know Max got the hots for gothic chicks, nice
also its that your minecraft world? looks amazing
Ye no
14:00 “I generally _hate_ any type of social interaction” 💀 Total mood. You just develop a general phobia of socializing with people you’re not completely familiar with.
I have mixed feelings on the concept of "pity." I reject the way we tend to talk about pity in society. When we use the word "pity," there's an implication that for someone to feel bad for you is inherently condescending, and as such for someone to feel bad for you is a blot on your pride. I reject that notion because I truly believe that if someone sees your pain and feels sadness for you, that is at worst neutral, at best positive. There is nothing wrong with that in my eyes. It is simply a reality of living with other humans. But I do hate the mindset that often accompanies NT pity for Autistics (that we are lesser and therefore should incite pity) and the way pity often manifests as someone wanting to be a hero and step in to fix your problem without bothering to consult you on the issue and how it should be remedied. To put it simply, if someone sees that I'm uncomfortable and feels sorrow for me (even if they are misinterpreting discomfort where there is none, which happens to me quite often), I am not offended. However if someone tries to "fix" a problem that I may or may not have without consulting me then I am frustrated, and if someone feels sorrow for me because they see me as lesser then I am offended. All of that is unfairly connoted with the word "pity," but I don't take offense to the core notion of someone feeling sorrow for my pain. If anything, I take offense to societal pressure to reject compassion from others, and to view it as a blot on one's pride.
I think pity should not be confused with compassion. Pity is distancing yourself from the bad situation of another person, compassion is saying you want to move toward them to help them, no need to distance or separate yourself from them. You might pity a person living on the street, but compassion is shown through actions like giving that person a ride to a shelter for example (giving them help with whatever it is they need).
From Quora:
"A person practicing "compassion" follows the golden rule: she treats you as she would like to be treated by others if she were in your situation. A person practicing pity look for examples of failure in you (which may or may not exist) to feel better about themselves.
Compassion embraces, and pity rejects. That's the difference."
Tbh, I loved that video a lot. I got diagnosed by a therapist. But even if I have an official diagnosis, I don’t let the label “autistic” dictate who I am. As far as I’m concerned, I’ve always just been _me._ And I loved how in the Jubilee video some of the people made that statement. I don’t find it too offensive when some people say I’m “special ed” since I kinda am and I know the specific people who say that have no ill intent.
Idk as a millenial, I feel like kids of my generation often used "special" as an adults-are-looking euphemism for "retard" so I don't like the use of one because it's just a substitute for the other in the NT trash talk language game.
5:56 I personally am repulsed by this sort of person because they are just TOO nice
Ok, this is quite interesting. I think this type of videos suits you quite well.
Self identify can either mean they use tumblr or just don't want to pay for a clinical diagnosis
Don't want to pay, or CAN'T pay, or lives with parents that won't allow it, or live somehwere where insurance won't cover it, or your gp denies the possibility or are scared of doctors or or or or many reasons.
The school district diagnoses you through the IDEA which is mandated through the Department of education. Since in the US, property taxes are collected for schools, poorer districts cant afford and they still have to start diagnosing at preschool and kindergarten, so they purposely misdiagnose them with a conduct disorder like ADHD, PTSD, or if they really want to put the middle finger on you, ASPD so they only give special ed to the most profoundly intellectually disabled.
Formal diagnoses are extremely expensive depending on where you live and some people may not have access to or may not be allowed to see a specialist. There is nothing wrong with an *informed* self-diagnosis. I highly doubt that there's many people who fake autism for attention or to seem "quirky", it's not really a romanticized condition.
literally every time I've talked to a mental health professional about the possibility of a diagnosis I've been told it's just not a realistic option regardless of if I am or not. But alright, be edgy on the internet if that's fulfilling to you
Or can't afford it
I'm 43 and I became aware of the spectrum when I was about 28 and immediately felt like a borderline case. I got tested a year later and it was determined that I did test positive, but weakly, for autistic traits and it was hypothesized that because I was undiagnosed for so long, and experienced many social situations, I had learned some coping mechanisms thru mere trial and error. I have met professionals who initially doubted my diagnosis but after hearing how when I was under 25 I struggled so hard to make real human connections and how I cope, they agree.
To you who is reading this, the point is this. Time, experience and (most importantly) a proper attitude will help you. Not as fast as you probably want, but I believe any improvement is good. I'm rooting for you.
P.S. If you are still reading this, please tell us how old are you now and how old were you when you first suspected and/or discovered you were on the spectrum? I just wanna compare experiences.
I'm in the unfortunate position of not knowing if I'm autistic or not. I was diagnosed as BAP (broad autistic phenotype) rather than ASD because I met every diagnostic criteria except for my childhood developmental history as per my mom's report. It's hard to know if the incongruity between my experience and my mom's POV is due to masking on my part or being juxtaposed against my brother, whose autism is more severe, or the social anxiety I've struggled with to some degree since around high school/middle school.
Sorry to vent, just frustrated.
Your channel has helped me through some tough times, and as someone who is actually on the spectrum I appreciate you so much Max. Much love. Thank you.
I started kissing my knees as an act of self admiration. It feels real nice. I have worlds in my head. I try to learn everything about everything. Good video.
I agree with most of what was said in this video, but using the r*tard and autistic as insults is dehumanizing and otherizing despite their intentions. Some kid might hear your friends using those terms jokingly and think its okay to call someone else that, perpetuating a really gross ableist cycle. It's like saying to a bald person "Ohohohoh you look like a chemo patient xD" it doesn't matter if the intent is there. Good intentions pave the road to hell.
I'd seen the jubilee video earlier, and like in all of their videos, in this too it was clear that although people with autism have this same label and many similarities, we're still individuals. It was interesting to hear your thoughts on these questions, too. 😊
I can very much relate to cute goth girl. I learned very early to mask and mimic very well.
the way I see it, confidence and the ability to listen, understand, and maybe projecting your thoughts play a huge role in making friends, and the rest is up to compatibility. if people are repelled or indifferent with your brand of self, then walk away. don't force a friendship.
what is your experience dealing with authority figures as someone on the spectrum?
Do you have a few hours?
@@maxderrat no, but luckily youtube comments don't disappear after being read.... usually....
I was diagnosed with being "borderline autistic," which I was told meant I wasn't autistic, and it wasn't until years later that I found out that it meant I was technically on the spectrum. It didn't cause much difference for me at first, since I try not to let labels such as that define me, but it became calming after a while and helped a lot, at least with where I'm going in life right now.
But as far as relating to autistic people, I find it really hard, and I seem to struggle with it more than people without autism. Whenever an autistic person in my class blurted something out, I would always cringe, far after everyone else in the class had accepted these outbursts. I always saw my actions towards these people, especially one guy in High school, to be treating them the same as everybody else. If he yelled something in class, I would tell him to stop, if we were in club and he wasn't doing anything besides watching dota on his phone, I would ask him to help or leave the room. I wouldn't do anything if it didn't affect other people; I wouldn't tell him to look me in the eyes or anything, but when I felt he was hindering others, I would step in. There were some instances where I went too far and it entered the realm of bullying, I don't regret some of these instances because I would have treated someone else the same and would not have considered it bullying, the only difference being that he was an easier target, but I also expected him to defend himself if I went to far, which he did, thankfully. The thing I did to him which I regret the most was when I sprayed Lysol in the room he was in. The joke was that all the sweat in the room from everyone in there had made it really stinky (it was a hangout spot in a 10'x10' space), and that we would gas people out of the room to help clean it. He stormed out of the room and said something like "God damn you," and I immediately regretted what I had done. But other instances like teasing or sharing photoshopped images of him I didn't regret. He was a good guy back then, and he was great when you talked to him one on one, but in public with others he could be insufferable, and sometimes cause great damage to others.
What I found unacceptable was when this girl made an instagram page to make fun of him and his autistic sister. That was genuinely mean-spirited. I wish I had done more to put an end to that, but it seemed to clear itself up pretty quickly, thankfully. So in that way, I do relate to autistic people and come to their defense. But my way of reacting to and treating other autistic people doesn't say the same thing. Maybe it's a form of sympathetic embarrassment. How I would hate myself if I was doing the same things as them. Maybe people accepting the outbursts in class was their own form of pitying the autistic, accepting that there was nothing that could be done to "fix" them, but I wanted them to stop when they did something wrong. I wanted change from them just like I expect from everybody else.
I am 95% sure I am a borderline case. I think I understand. It must be like what a neurotypical goes thru when dealing with us borderline folk. Frustrating and mildly embarrassing.
I think of that African American guy who uses text to speech to communicate. I'm 43 now and the me 20 years ago would be severely freaked out to have to communicate that way. I think so because I used to be really bad with other mentally divergent people, especially the mentally impaired. I think subconsciously I'd think, "C'Mon, man, talking is scary but it's not that bad... I can do it, you just gotta try...". Now I know my few friends were probably thinking the same thing the few social gatherings we had to go to. But I harbored a lot of self hate so seeing someone struggling like I did and having a hard time of it often made that hate turn outward. Thank god I learned some strategies over the last 11 years.
I also think that I am a borderline case. I don't have this sensory overload like you guys have. I can't stand noise or absolute silence and the feel of some textures but I think many neurotipical people also can't. Besides that I am also socially awkward, not as much as when I am among intelligent people, what rarelly happens now. Because of that, I think I am not entitled to special treatment but I think someone should have told me I was different and it was not my fault when I was very young. This would have made my life so much easier. Unfortunatelly, I not only was told I was different but was very often punished for being different by my malignant NPD mother and alcoholic BPD father. Shit...
Thats like when poor people help other poor people but the Middle class looks down on them pretending they care
Your conduct sounds sociopathic
Seriously you need to see a psychologist for a lot more than Borderline Autism. My mom is a therapist who works with rapists and sociopaths and your indifference to your cruelty is literally textbook sociopathy
Get help
The hot goth girl has a youtube channel called Runaway Germ.
Astrology obsessed vegan doing reviews of clothes. No disrespect to her but I don't think I'll be subbing.
Yeah, I subbed over a year ago when she was just doing the general autism advocacy of a newly diagnosed young adult. I stay subbed as I'm interested to see how she develops personality wise as she finds a place in the world.
I have more trouble trying to hang out with friends more than making them, to be honest
I've thought I was on the spectrum for a few years now. My brother is and I seem to present a lot of the symptoms, I've just never been diagnosed. I don't like self diagnosis either, but it would totally explain a lot if I was lol.
Minecraft sure looks different, I want to try it now, I found this video strangely relaxing.
I think he's got a texture pack active, that said minecraft is definitely different these days
Dude, you can't use beautiful minecraft footage for something serious like this.
It's way too distracting.
This was very enjoyable and fascinating. It’s a topic I realize I don’t know much about. Thanks
Jubilee is a fucking dumpster fire.
I just came across your video, and I have total respect for a fellow Autistic person. I literally got diagnosed at 19, and at first it got me angry but then I realized how much more unique and beautiful I really am. I got super powers dude! Lol
Haha
I’m an Aspie and I haven’t come out to anyone because of the stigma, but I hope that we can get rid of the irrational fear of autism sometime in the near future
I completely agree with your answer to the question about whether we would choose to not have autism.
If I could somehow snap my fingers and not be autistic anymore, I would do it. But as a kid and growing up I think being autistic was an important part of the experiences that forged the person I am today. So I wouldn't choose to go back and be born neurotypical, but if autism was something I could sort of "grow out of" I'd be tempted to do it
Good thing you mentioned eye contact. It so important for people to know why we don't like it so much.
14:03 sometimes I don’t relate strongly to somebody else’s autistic experience but I truth understand the root of it, any time I hear an autistic person (whether it’s a video, a reading or a chat where I can respond) I feel so connected to a deep level. Maybe we’re not duplicates but like damn we have the same “soul” experience-thinking idk how to say but it’s so deep that i just can’t tell it
That is a damn good looking Minecraft world!
This was really fascinating. Thank you for putting this out.
Social anxiety and autism/aspergers are two different things. They don’t go together. Social phobia is not part of the spectrum. Neurotypicals also suffer from social phobia.
Guess I should look at videos about autism(since I too have the case of the aspergers/'Autism spectrum disorder') and react to them too to give some valuable/not so valuable data... I woulda said invaluable, had that term not had the definition of being valuable instead of not valuable. Hope that sentence before this sentence was comprehensible...
That minecraft world looks awesome
Hate to seem like a downer, good video as usual, just really don't like what it's a response to. Maybe I'm just taking it too seriously, but this test seems so flawed that it gives up any pretense of being any sort of concrete answer as to whether people with autism think alike, as vague as that question is in the first place. Only a handful of people, all in the same room and influencing each other's answers, so many things wrong with it. I guess at least it makes for a start of an actual discussion. Most questions themselves are ok, but the ones about friends, I feel like that is another flaw right there in that the guy who said it's very easy for him is, well, probably not entirely honest. He might believe it's easy or that each person you go up to is somehow automatically your friend, but it's often the case people will just be polite to you, especially if they suspect you're far too open and agreeable for normal behavior. Perhaps if he knew how many people actually considered him a friend, his answer might have been closer to the others.
The title is just mildly provocative in order to get people to click on the video. Obviously the answer is "no." I agree it's not an accurate descriptor of what the video's purpose actually is
diagnosed at 53. was better that schizoeffectiveperdonslity. and i coulfd not mask. I proropperty taken from me..
There are three things I dream of: overthrowing capitalism, literally being Alexander the Great and meeting a super intelligent goth girl who is also autistic and doesn't already have a boyfriend. Not sure which one is most likely to happen, but I suspect my chances of building a time machine and becoming king of Macedon are greater than my chances of actually getting a girlfriend, so maybe that's where I should focus my efforts.
Also, it's good to get diagnosed in the US for legal reasons. I had to get a medical withdrawal from college when I was 18 due to extreme depression which resulted from my difficulties interacting with people. I had enough trouble as it was: an incompetent psychiatrist and an administrative staff that wasn't particularly worried about helping me get through it resulted in me waiting almost 2 years before I could resume classes (and when I finally started back, the COVID-19 pandemic began). Without prior documentation, I don't know if it would've been possible. I later transferred (after completing 2 years at that institution) to another college, and I've had nonstop issues ever since, many of which are disability related. Fortunately, because I have a diagnosis, they are legally required to provide me with reasonable accommodations, and if they fail to do so I will have grounds to sue them. On at least one occasion, this has saved me from major complications. If you already know you're autistic, getting diagnosed may not do much in terms of affecting your mental state. But it's always good to have a record, because you never know when you might need it.
Whenever someone at school made fun of me for my mannerisms, caused by my autism or not, I would always perform an analysis of that persons strength and will to fight (physically, i suck at debate unless its abt pacrim or dissing the catholic church), and then wait until the perfect moment to strike (ie. A harsh push, seemingly heated moment, or a slur like retard and stuff, etc etc it goes on).
This isn't because I wanted to hurt everyone who wronged me in the slightest, its because I was always ostracized for being weird, and beating up asshat kids who were never put in their place (ie. taught to treat peers with actual respect and not that performative bs yknow) made me a sort of body guard for kids (in elementary, at least), which meant i got to have people who appreciated my services. If only i got paid by the hour...
Argh, I know I've heard that music before but I can't place it. It's driving me crazy.
Edit. I think I figured it out. Dead Rising mall music, right?
I dont know why, but the minecraft backdrop video makes me want to go back into building
And have you
@@XJokermanX for like 2 days then gave up entirely lol
@@akkad7514 aha
Great video MD! Really been enjoying your content (i've only recently discovered your channel).
My blinds fell down today I'm currently trying to calm down about it. 😣 I liked this reaction video it was very chill.
Update: my dad helped put them back up. 🙂
@@ThisGirlReviews Ya!
i hate scales like that. i either agree or disagree. the only in between is when i dont have an opinion.
Power to us autistics! We're superheroes.
13:25 my first time watching your channel I got a strange feeling you were somehow just like me
By 3 minutes in you've earned even more respect from me.
I grew up with the term "retarded" being thrown around but I'd never directly use it against someone who has any form of mental disorder. It's just lingo for my group going back to childhood. Max, you're a pillar of understanding on both sides of the argument. Possibly my favorite youtuber now. Stay Yellow my friend.
Edit: now that I'm thinking about it, I'd probably throw blows at someone mocking a person with a differently wired mind or a handicapped one.
I know I’m a year late but about your edit
I was once in an argument with someone for getting mad at my autistic friend that I was with and I called em a ret@rd and the irony of that genuinely made all 3 of us chuckle and the dude apologized
Love your Simpson personna! Did you draw it yourself?
I am currently undiagnosed but this was interesting to watch as I don't fit with the stereotypes that much, probably like most autistic individuals
I'm autistic and I envy "Normal" people.
I'm autistic and I dislike "normal" "people"
@@localegoist4079 im autistic and i hate them too
I am autistic too
Waiting for the r34 of Max with the "cute goth girl" lmao
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