I completely agree the first one is about Apple. I have two little ones with ADHD and autism, and I have two older children. One is 16 and one is 21. I have never asked them to sacrifice in order to take care of their siblings. They didn't bring these children into the world
"While the dress, or costume in this instance, is expensive, the memories are priceless." It's sad that the mom couldn't see passed the money, that wasn't even coming out of her own pocket.
2:51 your child is your responsibility, never the responsibility of another one of your other children (exceptions for actual emergencies). You need to find reliable babysitters that your son can work with, there are groups that specialize with special needs children. Then she said her other daughter was going to be recovering from a recent surgery and I lost it, this mother really needs to get her priorities straight. She said herself she’s had weeks to plan this. Her eldest is going to leave and never look back because she’s just your babysitter at this point, a forced co-mom, not your child. One of my good friends in high school couldn’t do any extra events, often had to cancel last minute for plans made months in advance, etc because his sister was disabled and his parents used him as free baby sitting. He’s doing wonderfully now that he’s an adult on his own and he doesn’t talk to his parents anymore.
I feel like story #1 isn’t black and white. *I have no kids lol* I too have known people who had to take care of their siblings. I view it as part of being in a family. Full transparency, it hasn’t been for a girls trip. It’s been more out of necessity not a weekend trip. I do agree and find it weird that the mom hasn’t found providers for her son prior to this. Overall I just feel like there could’ve been a balance to make everyone happy. Always up for more perspective tho!
I agree. My aunt is autistic and has special needs, she definitely can’t be left alone for more than 10 minutes because a lot could happen. My grandparents (who are her parents and take care of her) have a babysitter who works at a special needs school and they’ve known for years and years and years. My mom (my aunts sister) does watch her sometimes but it’s always voluntarily and she gets paid for it I understand the conflicting emotions of wanting to do something fun but also having a special needs person in your care, but it’s not right to force a child to watch their siblings just so you can have fun if they don’t want to
@@loganhenderson650 I agree with most of what you’re saying but I do want to point out as both the sibling who was taken care of in non-emergencies and the sibling who had to take care of another sibling in non-emergencies it can be a genuinely traumatic thing, for a long time my older sister resented me because she essentially had to act like another parent to me when she was so young, and when I was taking care of my younger brother because I was still a kid I didn’t have the patience to really treat him right Emergencies are one thing, but making your kid be a parent because you want to do something is wrong in my opinion, now if this is an isolated incident even then I could give some leeway to the parent after all everyone deserves a little fun here and there but in many cases these aren’t isolated incidents and the moment they comfort themselves with the idea of your kids taking care of your other kids very commonly they begin to take advantage of it, I don’t trust this parent to not take advantage of it now and in the future, you know?
as the oldest of 5 siblings I can 100% guarantee that it's a terrible idea to leave your other kids in the care of one of your kids, even if they are significantly older. forget the resentment that it breeds while they grow up, the biggest issue is that you're leaving them in a dangerous situation... with hindsight I can identify the constant danger my siblings were in because I had no idea what I was doing!
I 100% agree! I am the oldest of 10. When I was still living at home, there was only 9 of us but my parents would have me and my sister babysit all the time. And at least once a year, they would go on a week long trip while we babysat our siblings
For story #2, the craziest part to me is her repeatedly saying the daughter would only wear it once for a few hours. I still have dresses I used for costumes in high school that I reuse for halloween now and I am 36. I kept the fairy and angel wings i had until they were no longer wearable. Costumes can be worn again.
Yeah I'm 33 I have several costumes from over the years and my favorite one is one I got in 11th grade!! It's a floor length dress with a vampire neck collar and it's kinda stretchy so it's grown and shrunk with me over the years!
I agree! My 9 yo son bought a $60 Dino costume with his birthday money. Was it a waste? Maybe. But you know he has worn it to see Jurassic world at the movies. He wore it to a Super Bowl Sunday at church. He wore it to trick or treat this year. Money well spent.
That second story is just.... wow. You're not allowing your daughter to wear a costume SHE bought with HER money? Let her have fun with her friends! Bad apple!
I have a mom like this where she believed she had control over my money. If I bought something she didn't like, she would often hide it, break it or sell it & I wouldn't know until later. I had to get a secret account with Amscot (as they were the only ones to allow a 16YO to have anything similar to a bank account without a parents permission) to keep my money safe until I turned 18 & moved out.
I've heard the first story before and I still believe that mom is a monster. I am a parent, and I can't envision tossing all my responsibilities onto a teenager while I go galavanting off with my friends, especially if I'm also stealing one of my child's biggest firsts at the same time. On top of that, you know this didn't come out of nowhere. I'll bet she's been parentifying Bindi for a long time, and she can look forward to her finding a distant college and never seeing her again. I'm waiting for "AITA for trying to make my daughter stay local for college? She needs to help me with her siblings."
Honestly the first OP makes me FURIOUS. What the hell kind of mother makes her problems her child's problem. This is outrageous. Parent #2 made me pissed, too.
@@joaopedrofabrisdiasdesouza It means original poster, the person who wrote the post. I guess it helps differentiate between that person and other people in the story. Some stories can get quite complicated, it can get hard keeping track of who did what.
Story 3: I fully believe that anxiety can come out of nowhere I have severe social anxiety and I had my first panic attack while getting out of the car to go to school I’ve been struggling with mental health ever since. It’s not fair to say that “well you should know your kid better” because it can just come out of absolute nowhere.
While I do agree anxiety and panic attacks come out of nowhere a lot of the time (I have anxiety and panic attacks too) I just think here it wasn’t just an out of the blue panic attack. It was clearly caused by the dad and sister scaring him. While I do think an argument can be made that maybe he just had a panic attack from being scared out of nowhere, i do also see it being possible that the dad knew he was more easily scared and would know to an extent that his child could freak out about this. I don’t actually think it’s a stretch to say “he should’ve known his kid better”.
Additional point on part 4, OP went to the community and they agreed, as a whole, to add extra security for Halloween. OP didn’t hire security themselves, Good Apple for sure
Yup. And there are PLENTY of other girls’ trips you can go to. And she’s making her child cancel HER plans for her minor girls’ trip. Honestly the hypocrisy in this is just beyond me.
My Dad scared me and my 6yr old friends when we came to my house trick or treating by jumping out in full Freddie Cougar costume and we ran screaming down the street. My Mom was pissed because I was afraid to come home and he apologized my entire childhood every year.
This actually happened to me a bit ago. Over the summer I had cochlear implants surgery, and my parents were going to an Ed Sheeran concert during my second week of recovery. However, that had been planned for a full year, and my surgery got pushed back so it wasn’t planned at all. Besides that, they actually found someone to watch me, unlike this mom. Golly goose indeed. 😅
I can already see what apple one is going to be. Your daughter had surgery which is a huge thing imo. And a Halloween dance sounds like a really fun idea!!! I would like to know where the dad is if he still around. Cancel the trip or hire a babysitter. Bad apple!!!! Apple 2: Have you seen how much costumes cost these days?! I get its 80 dollars but thats her money. Bad apple!!
If anything happened to her children while she's away on vaction.....could that trigger a CPS investigation? Rebecca a woman with no children, figured it out. The mother is very selfish. Even if there was no dance, the mother shouldn't leave them alone.
@@Samantha.K.S.Simpson I'm a cat Mom too. I take care of my cat just as if he was my human son. What's sad is that mother treated her children almost like an outdoors cat. Just put out some food and water, they'll take care of everything else.
Story #4 I felt so hard. I grew up in one of those rich neighborhoods and was there until I was grown so I had been on both sides. While we knew that people drove their kids in and we had to get a few more bags of candy it was never as bad as she described. I cannot even imagine. The closest is when I was driving home from work and the street was filled with people. Luckily they realized that I was a car and moved so I could get home. But honestly if it was the way she described. I would have done the same as her. Also..I don’t think kids really care about what neighborhood the trick or treat in. It-s free candy from stranger and getting to dress and play make believe for a day.
Agree on everything! With the fourth story, I also had to go to another neighborhood but we respected the neighborhood. We didn't leave trash, we didn't disrupt those who lived there - in fact they enjoyed having us there because we were all good kids! These kids were disrespectful and no longer get the privilege of trick or treating there. Good apple!
The way that you suggested on how to split up the money in the second story (pay whatever bills that the teenager had, put half away and spend the other half) is exactly what I did last summer when i got a part time job. I saved almost a thousand dollars by doing it that way.
1st story : yes I do understand you can’t always find a babysitter for Simone who is autistic I get that. But as the mom you made these kids you take care of them! Kids come first !!!!! Sorry mom you can’t go on the trip. 2nd Story: if daughter used her own money then you have no say
Story #3 - I love scary movies and haunted houses, but if I walked into my house and wasn't expecting someone to jump out and scare me, I'd probably have a panic attack too assuming I didn't accidentally attack them. Story #4 - I am sad this Halloween because only had 2 sets if trick or treaters because everyone goes to the big neighborhoods in my town
Most of the people in my neighborhood sit on chairs in their driveway handing out candy on Halloween. No pets are disturbed by ringing doorbells and we get to see all the kids going from house to house. It didn't bother anyone that it was 40 degrees when trick-or-treating started tonight.. The kids loved it when it started snowing. I heard one child say this was the best Halloween ever.
Men du må forstå. At hun kanskje har den babyen like Jeg vil ikke si at jeg bioing gjemme kroppen droppe den er ikke det verste kanskje i stedet for å si at hun er bedre invitere en venn og fikk så kan hjelpe meg med å passe på .
Story 1: it’s called parentification (sp), and it’s considered abuse. YTBA Story 2: her money, her choice. YTBA Story 3: You are the adult. You are the father. You should know your son well enough not to pull this. ALSO, the reaction to a full-blown panic attack was “oops! My bad!”? YTBA Story 4: I don’t blame the OP. If the visitors are disrespectful of the people being nice, they miss out. Good Apple I think Halloween bad apples should be poison apples, good apples are candy apples, crab apples are wet apples (from people bobbing for apples)
Second story, I mean, if the daughter was working and saving up the money for the costume, who cares how much she spends? It's her money to spend how she wishes.
I agree with most of these, just struggling on the dad scare one. I'm kinda leaning more towards crab apple only because he probably thought that it genuinely wouldn't frighten him so much. I know that there are times where I jumped out at my siblings (mainly my younger sister) and she has been more startled than normal, and that chicka watches horror flicks like they're romcoms!!! So I can see how he thought it would go over well. He didn't mention comforting his son but he could have, he just said his wife came shortly after it happened and was comforting him. I can also see why he would still be questioning her about still being mad at him when he didn't mean it harmfully. All in all people are just jerks sometimes and even if you do know someone really well, they could have had a fright before you frightened them which made it worse. 🤷🏾♀ Also, I ask all the time but would you be willing to do an updates video? I know some of those have more context in the comments or updates so that would be nice or maybe links to the posts?? Thanks!
I think he is a bad apple. He literally thinks giving his 9 year old kid a panic attack is not a big deal. Our homes are a space where we should feel safe. They even put masks on and that kid could as well think they are intruders. This could really be traumatic for a child and he doesn't seem to realize the consequences of his actions.
Im leaning toward crab apple too. I live in a household where we scare each other all the time. It started when i was younger than OPs children. At first i hated it but now its one of those, who can scare who better (side note: my dad still wins that). We apologize when things get out of hand but other than that its just something fun. Where the dad is in the wrong is not apologizing or trying to comfort. However i cant say hes a bad apple at all. I agree with crab apple
#4: Completely agree with good apple! I would be so mad if I had to wait hours to take my kid to the ER so their reaction was completely justified. Also, why are people driving from a larger city to come trick or treating in their neighbourhood. I had under 100 kids at my house and I couldn’t imagine paying for candy for hundreds of kids. Even getting it down to 300 is wild to me. I just moved into my neighbourhood and I was so pleasantly surprised by how respectful the parents and kids are. I didn’t see a single kid walk across a lawn and people left out bowls of candy and kids would just take one or two pieces each! Having people parked on lawns and walking across my lawn would drive me crazy!
Story 4: I agree; Good Apple. It’s not like they’re gathering in a public space designated for public events. People just can’t run amuck in private residential areas.
As a type 1 diabetic who has been in a situation where if I hadn’t gotten to the hospital in a timely manner I would have died I’m with you on the medical emergencies should be more important than finding the best neighborhood for Halloween
My school had a gun threat this week, it was our first time ever getting a gun threat and for some reason the school was still open the day that it was meant to happen. They caught the guy and he said it was a joke. Half of our 1600 person school wasnt there. I was terrified the entire day and the only reason i stayed was because I'm in a lot of APs that were still doing things. It's not a joke when 1600 children live in fear for the whole day.
That first parent is so revolting, omfg. I've heard that story so many times over the last couple of years, and it always gets ticks me off. I mostly agree with all of the judgements this week. I might would call OP from #3 a crab apple, only because the question was whether he was the bad apple for telling his wife to get over it. He seemed to know he was the bad apple for the prank itself. I see why he's upset, because I also don't think this is something he should be continuously punished for, but I also understand becoming a mama bear over your kid. I don't have kids, but I 100% mama bear over my niece. I don't think bad apple is necessarily wrong, but I could also see an argument for crab apple.
1:59 I have a lot of issues with the phrasing of “severely autistic” it feels like it’s in the same vein as “high functioning” as an autistic person who is fully verbal, and generally NT passing, I recognize my experience is different from this kid. My cousin is autistic and he really struggles to communicate, (he also has DMD but hasn’t yet lost mobility to the extent of a wheelchair). I recognize the difficulty in finding someone to look after your son but this girl will be gone for what? 3 hours? You can’t have someone come over and have the 14 year old help? My littlest sister has type one and my parents ALWAYS make sure I’m okay to babysit and don’t assume I’ll do it without consulting me. I don’t think this is fair on the 17 year old but that’s just from my experience
I have never heard someone get upset about being called high functioning that seems polite. I am not sure what you would call an autistic child besides that. I am disabled and care about other disabilities my favorite to learn about is the neurodiverse community! So if I am wrong let me know but it seems respectful.
@@Lets_B_Uniqueit is considered insulting because the way it is phrased isn’t true. A “high functioning” autistic person doesn’t automatically just function better. They’re just able to mask their autism better. Calling people high functioning can be deemed to be invalidating of the very real issues they experience but are just able to mask. We aren’t functioning better internally, we just seem like it from the outside. It’s generally more polite to say someone has higher or lower support needs and that has been more recognized in the community within recent years
@@Hellofrosh Thank you! I appreciate the insight and I am sorry for not realizing that. I will do better in making sure I don’t speak like that. As well as thank you for not getting mad at me for the comment.
@@Lets_B_Unique To add to what she said, the term also stems back to Hans Asperger, the guy who is credited for saving autistic kids from Nazis. Turns out, he really didn't save that many kids and was complacent with the Nazis.
Story 1: Bad Apple, instead of going on a girls trip, stay with your kids. Story 2: Bad Apple: the daughter used the money of HER own to get the costume, and she barely sees her friends.
Story 3: I do disagree a little, just about the part that he should have known his son better. My daughter loves pranks that involves an adult hiding and jumping out at her to give her a fright. She *loves* it. But there are occasions where it catches her a little more off guard and she gets a much bigger fright than intended. She's six. I don't think there is anything inherently bad with jumping out at people. I do agree it was handled badly after the fact, he should have comforted his kid, but I also don't think those pranks are that bad, some people enjoy it, some people don't.
@@avathegryffinclaw well it's described in the story as "trembling and crying for a long time" that doesn't necessarily equal full blow panic attack and, yes, my daughter had definitely responded to a prank that way. The difference is, the person who played the prank on her immediately apologized and comforted her, I think if the dad in this story had done the same then the boy would have been fine. It was his dismissive attitude that made him wrong. I genuinely don't think he could have predicted how the kid would react. But he should have dealt with it better once he did know.
@@pixiesouter9461 if they are trembleing and crying you have gone too far when i was 9 my dad did something like this to terrify me and i was scared to open doors for a long time because he hid behind my door
Thank you Rebecca. I struggle with this myself. I have had to block multiple people on LinkDen because they disagreed with me on things and they resorted to harassment and threatened to “expose me” and screenshot my comments for disagreeing with them. I am being bullied online by these people. I’m afraid to comment on anything or post online anymore out of fear of being bullied. I’m autistic and feel like I’m not allowed to have an opinion. 😢
In story 3. "Knowing your kid" CAN be a touchy thing. My 6 year old, depending on his mood, will either scream and run and hide and freak out OR scream and then laugh hysterically! And it's so hard to know which it will be when you surprise him when you've been separated I say crab apple because I would have and have done this to my son. Where this dad messes up us in not sitting and helping his son calm down and feel better. When i do this to my son and he reacts badly, I sit with him and cheer him up and 90% of the time in about a half hour he asks us to scare him again and when we do he laughs SO hard
I don’t have kids with special needs but I do have kids. I would never leave them for a weekend without an adult, especially after surgery (even a minor one). A girls trip can wait.
I agree with all your picks for the reasons you gave esp as a parent of 3 disabled children. As for the 3rd story I was that kid. My mom loved tp jump out and scare me and i hated it. She said that I loves it and giggled but I remember the gut dropping fear and screaming. Because I have such I visceral memory of this I tried very hard to not scare my kids. Happy Halloween 🎃 👻
Story 4 is 100% a good apple. As someone who lived in a bad neighborhood and couldn't trick or treat there for safety reasons, my friends and I were ALWAYS in other neighborhoods and we'd be on foot and respectful. We would even go on to the military base. It's not hard to be a kid that loves Halloween and be respectful to the areas you're going to
Well, I had a disabled grandma with dementia and I cared for her through my teenage and my young adulthood. Me and my parents would make turns and adjust our skedules so she would never be alone, yet nobody would miss it's chance to have events or trips. Communication people!
#3 I agree 1000%. I have cptsd and have security issues. If that happened to me, I honestly might be in the ER. If my father and sister did this knowing my security trigger, I'd honestly never feel safe with them again. Maybe that's extreme but that's the way my security issues work. Something happened to me at work, this guy would come up behind people and put his hands on their shoulders. He did that to me and I was so scared that I screamed bloody murder. He was turned into HR, not by me, and counseled not to touch people without their permission.
The Legend of Stingy Jack in Ireland is supposed to be where the Jack o Lantern originated from. Been hearing it from my dads side of the family since I was little
Apple 3- Crab Apple....to the direct question. OP did not know how son would react. That being said, in the aftermath is where OP was the Bad Apple for not comforting his son & doubling down on not apologizing
Commented once but commenting on the last story. My uncle and aunt live in 'rich neighbourhood' Over the years more and more people flood the streets in their neughbourhood. When we lived with them (I was 12) I trick or treated with my sibling and my two cousins. It was crazy then. 19 now, 18 last year. I went to help set up decorations, and help my younger cousin (seven) trick or treat. The cars drive wildly, there's got to be thousands of kids ruining decorations, it's genuinly a hazard. My cousin almost got RUN OVER BY A FREAKING CAR! I had to jank him into the yards multiple times because people in hay wagons and CARS just drive to insanely to get from house to house. It's the same this year, my cousin was taken to trunk or treat instead because it's safer for many reasons. it's honestly pretty unfortunate, but that woman ws 100% in the right. Good apple. Her poor daughter.
Story 3: Crab Apple, borderline Bad Apple. The only things saving this man from Bad Apple, are the lack of malicious intent, and his empathetic remorse. Still, he REALLY messed up by not only refusing to confront his son, but also taking the joke too far. Why couldn’t they have just jumped out at him saying “boo”. The dimmed lights and the masks are where I draw the line.
The last one would make me go crazy. Over 1,000 kids?! That’s WAYYYY too much! And those parents are so oblivious that that neighborhood is NOT theirs! It’s not theirs to trash and park in ppl’s yards! So yes she is the good apple.
I totally agree with you on the pranks. Honestly I don't understand why people find it entertaining to watch others suffer. The sad part is we are trained even when we are growing up that we are supposed to enjoy it with slapstick comedy and such. But it's just wrong. Here is a little story of how my eyes were opened to this. When I was a teenager we had the whole family over for Thanksgiving and we were all helping to get the meal together. My brother-in-law, Kris, bends down to get something from the vegetable drawer. I go to get some ice for the drinks from the freezer above him. He manages to stand up just as I am opening the door and banged his head horribly. I start to laugh because from I had learned from TV and movies, that was what you did. My whole family looks at me and asks what is wrong with me. Kris is in horrible pain and this is no time to laugh. That is when it hit me and I realized, anything that causes someone harm, discomfort, embarrassment or anything is just not funny and should not be laughed at or make fun of. All you have to do is put yourself in the other person's shoes and you can see these things aren't funny. Just be kind to each other people. That is the best way to live.
I remember spending $80 on a costume years ago... I reckon with inflation that's actually a fairly reasonable price these days (and generally girls costumes cost more when you factor in makeup, kneesocks/stockings, etc.).
I grew up as an older child who had to care for their autistic sibling, starting at around 12 years old. Of course, there is more to the story, but I am an adult now who is resentful of my lack of childhood and I try not to take it out on my family now but it just wasn't fair. Now my family is having difficulty dealing with the fact that now that I have an actual choice, I am unwilling to continue to make sacrifices for the family. I will always love them, but no is a complete sentence.
Me and my mom recently went to a halloween swing dance. Absolutely wonderful night, we can both dance our butts off and this was an amazing opportunity to dance the night away AND dress up. I work, and my father teaches me about money in a HEALTHY way, because he's thousands of dollars in debt. So each paycheck, I put 2% into a savings account. Other 98%? I get to do what I want with. Typically, yeah I save it anyway. And when me and my mom went out costume shopping, she got a hat, a suit, a cane, all the pazazz to be a mobster. And I got a flapper dress, a headpiece, and gloves. Yk how much my costume was? Around 90 bucks. My dad congradulated me on it, he's always gonna be proud when I make good decisions with my money. And two nights ago me and my mom danced the night away and it's a memory I will NEVER forget. So fun. I did my makeup, curled my hair, and wore the costume for the dance, and then tonight when I was passing out candy to kids. I understand the mom wants her to be responsible. But this is HER MONEY. That she is working SO HARD for. Sure, you can teach her how to be responsible with money, while also not preventing her from having very important teenage-girl moments. Bad apple all the way, one hundred percent agree Mrs. Rogers. I think mom had good INTENTIONS, they just were not what she thought they'd been. Hopefully mom and daughter will be able to makeup for this.
Not sure if it's a generational trauma thing, but having been put in a similar spot as the 17 year old, that one hit me in the core. Yeah, bad apple. Making it up "someday," is a nice thought, but someday never comes
I was hoping you were going to do story #4.😊 I heard it earlier from a different content creator and was curcious about your thoughts. OP was definitely a good granny smith 🍏 apple.
I have three younger brothers with special needs and as the oldest child (10 years or more older than each) i have often been asked to help with babysitting. While i completely understand this mother im having a hard time finding someone to banysit someone whonis difficult, my parents never forced me to babysit over doing something fun unless it was an absolute emergency. The first story just made me so angry becuas eintoonjad moments when i believed my parents prefered my siblings becuase they got more attention than me, buty parents were always quick to correct me and help me better understand situations. The mom in the first story is definitely in the wrong and needs to find propper care for her aon becuase someday her oldest daughter will go away to college or to live her own life. Even though im away at college now, my parents still jave someone to care for my siblings, and wouldnt even think about forcing me to stay and watch them.
1st apple: Totally on the wrong like, those are special moments one want to have no? Bad apple 2nd apple: So the money isn't the mom's, the daughter know the price and all, and you feel entitled to deny her own choices and make her miserable on a supposedly fun day? Bad apple 3rd apple: Bad apple. I know the feeling of a bad prank or a joke, and when it goes too far, it goes too far. It's hard to forgive even if the intentions are good, but i do think that not admiting to have messed up is pretty bad. 4th apple: Good apple for sure. I mean, what do you expect, it's a hazard to have that many people in such a small space, not only can people have problems in their houses cuz of trick-or-treaters, but it can also cause all the problems OP mentioned. Agreed fully with u Rebecca, I'm glad, what fun stories we had today :D
My mom gets upset when I spend any of my money, even if it is reasonable. I'm 20, I make my money, but she gets mad at me in a frustration when I spend my money. To where I feel bad that I Spend my money.
I want to point out regarding the second story with the mom who was mad her daughter spent $80 on a costume. How much exactly is a wedding dress? Ik they're not exactly the same thing but by her logic of "it's an overpriced outfit you wear for a few hours on one day" a wedding dress fits that criteria. Even if the OP wore a dress from goodwill it's really not her business what her daughter spends HER MONEY on.
For story number three I agree with your take on pranks but I genuinely don’t believe it was meant to disrupt anything. My family plays similar pranks on each other all the time and honestly I think it’s one of the most harmless pranks you can do. That being said I think the scary masks and dimming the lights was a-bit much for it but other then that.
@@marieangels6 I’m not saying he couldn’t have. The outcome was horrible because of the type of kid he was and the dad should have known that this was a bad idea! I’m saying that the orginal notion of just scaring him wasn’t come up with by the daughter for malicious intent. It just should have been done with the lights on and with no masks
I know you no longer do we can't make this stuff up but for your podcast i think it would be interesting to hear what a 911 dispatcher has to deal with
My parents had to cancel date nights and friend days because of things. Whether that be as "small" as my youngest brother having a boxing match, or as big as graduation. They knew that they'd have to sacrifice things for us. There was even times my dad had to call off work, which he's big on perfect attendance, to be in a waiting room for us during surgery. (Tonsils and adenoids.) Edit: and yes, I did cancel some of my plans to help out. But 1. that was completely my choice, and 2. you have to give to get.
The fourth story reminded me of something that happened last year. I went to a town for Fourth of July and we were trying to leave before the parade but people wouldn’t move and a bunch of cars. We missed our reservation for the restaurant we were going to and had to wait over an hour. Not nearly as bad as the fourth story though
The first two I agree with, but personally I don’t think the third one anxiety and panic attacks are not super predictable and it’s not necessarily something u can predict when it comes to that. And I think that ur right in saying that it’s not funny to upset or disrupt someone’s day but I think the father only expected a bit of a jump and for him to laugh it off. Fully see where you’re coming from tho, so I’m kind of conflicted. Great video though. Keep up the great work.
You always say you don’t have kids but I’d like to point out that you DO have parents. I think everyone can have solid opinions on parenting because we were all affected by parenting ❤️
Apple #1: Totally agree...it had me fooled for a bit because everything was worded very reasonably...all of it made sense to me until I realized...at the base of the issue it comes to the parent...putting her good time...over her daughters...were this something necessary I would get it...but its not...its a girls trip to have some fun...so yeah be as reasonable as you want...theres no getting past first principles and thats that in this parents mind Mom>Daughter...and thats kinda messed up
1st story, 100 % bad apple. Parents are always 100% responsible for all kids. Only have 1 kid, but if we do 2, they would never be responsible for each other. If no baby sitters or family members (adults) can help look after kids, then fun time isn't happening, as crappy as it sounds. I've missed celebrating my own bday the way I'd like to since no one was available, but its the sacrifice you have to make when you have children.
Story 3: Something tells me this dad is the "fun parent" while the mom is actually the serious one. Dad's the kind of parent that's just immature, thinks playing with kids and actually taking care of them are the same thing. First, pulling that kind of prank on a 9 year old. Then, not even knowing his kid was gonna have this kind of reaction, does he just not take care of them? And finally, the wife having to do the comforting and not even apologizing to his own child. Yeah, this is one of those dads that just does not act like a parent and just leaves the actual parenting to his wife.
For #3, I think the father probably felt bad about what he did, his issue was more with his wife. It happened, it's in the past and he can't change it now. Being mad at him for days on end doesn't help the situation and I may have told her the same thing tbh. I agree with #4. I took my kid to another neighborhood for trick or treating because ours was all apartment buildings; so we went where there were houses. Over the years, I could see the numbers increasing alarmingly so I do understand the OP's actions.
Apple 2: Bad Apple. It was the daughter's money. She can spend it how she likes. That is brass tacks. (Also, kinda tied to my point with Apple 1: i think it's weird that people will be like "a part time job is ok, but babysitting younger siblings isnt" when babysitting is an actual job)
I think the only point I disagree with is not being able to go to the dance. Which of course doesn’t change the fact OP is a bad apple but it isn’t the reason she is one. She is one because she’s leaving a fresh out of surgery child, a heavily autistic child in the care of another child to go away on a girl’s weekend. There are many good reasons for someone to have to miss a dance but a mom wanting to go away for a weekend isn’t one of em. Everything else however is spot on and I also have 3 bad apples and 1 good apple
i was prepared to go bad apple on that last story just based on the title but honestly, yeah, good apple because the neighborhood had become a hazard and they couldn't leave until hours later when they had a medical emergency! thank goodness it was a broken arm and not something like anaphylactic shock, but still! part of me feels hypocritical because i was also one of those kids who went to different neighborhoods, but that's mostly because there weren't a lot of houses in my own neighborhood, so we'd go park at my dad's job and trick-or-treat at the houses around there, but that area actually has street parking so it never became so congested that people couldn't get through. and as far as an ambulance getting in, sirens and lights are only effective if the drivers are in, or at least near, their cars. empty cars can't move themselves in an emergency. also, since i started this video on halloween and finished it the next day, i only just remembered the mom who wouldn't let her daughter go to a halloween dance because she had to watch her siblings while the mom went on a girls trip. that mom is guilty of poor planning, if not straight up negligence. what if the older daughter had a job and had to work instead of wanting to go to a dance? would you tell her she has to call out of work because that weekend was the only time one of your sisters could go on the trip for a while? would you risk your daughter's job just so you wouldn't have to wait, what, a few more months? i agree with Bex*, if your son's disability is that severe that he can't be left without you or your older daughter for even a few hours, you should have looked into more professional care for him, and you definitely shouldn't leave your younger daughter when she just had surgery! your older daughter is not their parent and therefore not responsible for watching your kids while you go out of town on an elective trip! siblings are not obligated to make sacrifices for their siblings. she didn't choose to have siblings, it's not like she birthed them herself. _you_ chose to have children, and since their dad doesn't seem to be in the picture for whatever reason, _your_ kids are solely _your_ responsibility. *i hope you don't mind me calling you Bex, but if it bothers you i'll absolutely stop ❤
The returning the costume story. I completely agree with her choice, this mom was definitely in the wrong on that story. If it was really that important to her that her daughter didn't spend $80 on a costume, then have her return it after the party and after she's had the fun with her friends. I feel like this mom is going to be one of those parents that questions why their kid doesn't call, or text them after they move out. If the mom has done that, then who knows what else she has done that are similar
17:06 I don’t agree that it was bullying, however I do agree that it was a teachable moment. Dad should sit down with both and say hey this made him upset and we should apologize. Tell them both mistakes don’t make us bad people and we need to learn that when we make mistakes like this it’s important to take inventory and grow moving forward.
On the third bad apple well when u said “u said that the mom came home and comfort him why did u not?” Well he probably tried but the kid did not probably want to talk and also some dads do not know everything I have a dad that does not even know my favorite color because he works a lot and I only see him sometimes but that is beside the point the kid probably did not want to talk to the dad because he was mad and upset with him and only wanted to talk to his dad hope the tip helps :)
On the last story, I just don't get why OP could drive if cars were "lining the streets", which would mean there should be at the VERY LEAST, one lane's width to drive on. You can just honk your horn to get people to move out of the street. All of the other reasons for not wanting trick or treaters make sense, but I'm more concerned that OP let their kid stay at home with a broken arm for hours longer than they needed. They probably waited in the ER for hours, too, when urgent care could have been an option earlier in the evening.
In story number 3 I think more torwards the crab apple because the other child thought it wouldn't do harm and she didn't mean to hurt the kid. Plus, I think the dad shouldn't have been punished just because he wanted to be a good dad and he generally didn't know.
If you haven't thought of it, get a ring doorbell! That way you can turn of the ringer and juat have a notification on your phone when the doorbell rings. We had the Camera open on the app all night and saw whenever kids arrived
For the last 1 She is definitely and I mean definitely a good appleapple! The people littering And not moving for a medical emergency And parking their cars everywhere and I mean everywhere are bad apples!
In reards to the first story, as the oldest of 4 by 11, 15 and 18 years, I often was used as a babysitter to my siblings. That being said, I didn't mind most times, but I would not be happy either if I was asked to miss a once in a lifetime event that I wanted to go to, to watch kids that were not my own and thus not my responsibilty! I am not a parent, but if I were, I would never expect my older children to make sacrifices to babysit their younger siblings just because I wanted to go out. It is the parent's responsibilty to find child care for their kids, when they want to have a night/weekend out.... it is not the responsibilty of the older siblings to always be available to watch their younger siblings for the parent...
Wow, story #1 I'm the mom to a profoundly autistic 10 year old. I understand that life. Absolutely, they should have special care givers. It is expensive, but when we go somewhere without our kids, that absolutely is part of the saving up. I would never ask my other child to babysit him until at least 18, and then I would pay her just like everyone else. She doesn't have any responsibility for her brother. We chose to be his parents (literally because we adopted him), but she did not, so it is never going to be her responsibility to care for him just because she is a part of the family.
Story 2: Bad apple. Everyone is talking about the money side of it and I agree, it's the daughters money to spend how she wants so long as she is responsible - which at 16 is not an easy thing, and almost an easier lesson to learn the hard way when younger - but the part that irked me the most was the consistent repetition of "she's only going to wear it a few hours." So what? Once again its her money to spend on something she wants and enjoys with her friends and unless its something very, very specific she will probably be able to wear it, or at least parts of it again in the future, or it can be resold second hand, or passed to a sibling/cousin/friend etc. 10+ years later and I still have costume pieces from high school that I can wear. My mom made costumes for me when younger than that and probably put as much money and time in to it with no chance of re-wearing it because I'd have grown to much and it was sewn to my measurements. Mini rant to make the point that the mom almost seems bitter about the holiday and how short a time the daughter might wear the costume for, rather than letting her enjoy the celebration with friends.
With apple #2, if the parent was really that concerned about the daughter spending $80 of her own money, my suggestion would be to take a page out of my late mother's book and say, "hey...I know you bought this costume for this event with your friends...but how about you and I go out this weekend (or whatever time) and see if we can recreate that same costume for less?" My mom was the queen of "I'll make it as good or better for half the cost or less!" And the best part of that is that I would have a fun afternoon with my mom going all sorts of places and working together to make something both frugal AND awesome! ❤
*Apple #1:* Absolutely Bad Apple ALL The Way Around… You Explained It Perfectly No Need For Elaboration. *Apple #2:* Yup BAD APPLE ~ Her Money Not The Parent’s Money. 🙄🤦🏻♀️ ~Side Note: What Is Wrong With These Parents?!?~ *Apple #3:* Bad Apple, I honestly don’t hear any bad intentions from the sister or the Dad, however his lack of understanding of his wife’s reaction is bad, plus his lack of how he handled his son after the “prank” was absolutely horrible. *Apple #4:* Good Apple. I don’t think this person did anything wrong. I agree that is a HUGE hazard when a neighborhood is that congested.
I love the last story because I live in a city and in the historic part of said city. Down here there are a lot of big house and old Mansions but my husband and I live in one of the few multiple families homes. But my one neighbor and I both love halloween and are so happy we live in an area that get children for Halloween. With that being said we no one in my building have a lot of many and we can only give so much candy pre child for that reason. We went to Costco and got 2 BIG bags of candy each but within 2 hours there was no more candy and I felt bad. We had children being rude because they didn't get more than one or two pieces of candy. We even had one mother yell at us more than an hour later when we were cleaning up. Next year we are planing to get more candy but still can't do what other in my area can do. Like whole table setups and letting the children pick out toys one bag of chips, a pack of cookies and a tiny bag of candy. I do think people realize that not all of these are single families home or I don't think the grown ups care they also make it hard for people to get to the er over here too.
All potential good apples for this episode will be considered candy apples
All bad apples will be considered poisoned apples. 😊
@@JessicaClark-lq4gwAbsolutely
@@JessicaClark-lq4gwSnow White vibes much?
Need some for Thanksgiving and Christmas. LoL ❤😂
And crab apples Carmel apples
I completely agree the first one is about Apple. I have two little ones with ADHD and autism, and I have two older children. One is 16 and one is 21. I have never asked them to sacrifice in order to take care of their siblings. They didn't bring these children into the world
Wish my mom did that
I think you should try doing 5 apples in these videos mabey.
"That's alot of money for something you'll only wear once."
Are you gonna say that about her prom dresses?
Bridesmaids dresses?
Her WEDDING GOWN?
EXACTLY
"While the dress, or costume in this instance, is expensive, the memories are priceless."
It's sad that the mom couldn't see passed the money, that wasn't even coming out of her own pocket.
2:51 your child is your responsibility, never the responsibility of another one of your other children (exceptions for actual emergencies). You need to find reliable babysitters that your son can work with, there are groups that specialize with special needs children. Then she said her other daughter was going to be recovering from a recent surgery and I lost it, this mother really needs to get her priorities straight. She said herself she’s had weeks to plan this. Her eldest is going to leave and never look back because she’s just your babysitter at this point, a forced co-mom, not your child. One of my good friends in high school couldn’t do any extra events, often had to cancel last minute for plans made months in advance, etc because his sister was disabled and his parents used him as free baby sitting. He’s doing wonderfully now that he’s an adult on his own and he doesn’t talk to his parents anymore.
I feel like story #1 isn’t black and white.
*I have no kids lol*
I too have known people who had to take care of their siblings. I view it as part of being in a family. Full transparency, it hasn’t been for a girls trip. It’s been more out of necessity not a weekend trip.
I do agree and find it weird that the mom hasn’t found providers for her son prior to this.
Overall I just feel like there could’ve been a balance to make everyone happy.
Always up for more perspective tho!
I wouldn’t have done it if I had kids tho lol
I agree. My aunt is autistic and has special needs, she definitely can’t be left alone for more than 10 minutes because a lot could happen. My grandparents (who are her parents and take care of her) have a babysitter who works at a special needs school and they’ve known for years and years and years. My mom (my aunts sister) does watch her sometimes but it’s always voluntarily and she gets paid for it
I understand the conflicting emotions of wanting to do something fun but also having a special needs person in your care, but it’s not right to force a child to watch their siblings just so you can have fun if they don’t want to
I had the same thought about her going no contact when she’s able too.
@@loganhenderson650 I agree with most of what you’re saying but I do want to point out as both the sibling who was taken care of in non-emergencies and the sibling who had to take care of another sibling in non-emergencies it can be a genuinely traumatic thing, for a long time my older sister resented me because she essentially had to act like another parent to me when she was so young, and when I was taking care of my younger brother because I was still a kid I didn’t have the patience to really treat him right
Emergencies are one thing, but making your kid be a parent because you want to do something is wrong in my opinion, now if this is an isolated incident even then I could give some leeway to the parent after all everyone deserves a little fun here and there but in many cases these aren’t isolated incidents and the moment they comfort themselves with the idea of your kids taking care of your other kids very commonly they begin to take advantage of it, I don’t trust this parent to not take advantage of it now and in the future, you know?
as the oldest of 5 siblings I can 100% guarantee that it's a terrible idea to leave your other kids in the care of one of your kids, even if they are significantly older. forget the resentment that it breeds while they grow up, the biggest issue is that you're leaving them in a dangerous situation... with hindsight I can identify the constant danger my siblings were in because I had no idea what I was doing!
I 100% agree! I am the oldest of 10. When I was still living at home, there was only 9 of us but my parents would have me and my sister babysit all the time. And at least once a year, they would go on a week long trip while we babysat our siblings
For story #2, the craziest part to me is her repeatedly saying the daughter would only wear it once for a few hours. I still have dresses I used for costumes in high school that I reuse for halloween now and I am 36. I kept the fairy and angel wings i had until they were no longer wearable. Costumes can be worn again.
Yeah I'm 33 I have several costumes from over the years and my favorite one is one I got in 11th grade!! It's a floor length dress with a vampire neck collar and it's kinda stretchy so it's grown and shrunk with me over the years!
The parent upset with their daughter for buying a costume that cost $80... isn't that like the average price for a store bought costume now?
I agree! My 9 yo son bought a $60 Dino costume with his birthday money. Was it a waste? Maybe. But you know he has worn it to see Jurassic world at the movies. He wore it to a Super Bowl Sunday at church. He wore it to trick or treat this year. Money well spent.
no its not
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her OWN money
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huh
also 8:51
The costumes are actually more like $30 for a full costume but if you make it it could be a little extra
It depends upon the costume. Some are sold in pieces, and the more elaborate ones can cost up to $150.00.
That second story is just.... wow. You're not allowing your daughter to wear a costume SHE bought with HER money? Let her have fun with her friends! Bad apple!
I agree she worked for that money. She is the bad apple.
I have a mom like this where she believed she had control over my money. If I bought something she didn't like, she would often hide it, break it or sell it & I wouldn't know until later. I had to get a secret account with Amscot (as they were the only ones to allow a 16YO to have anything similar to a bank account without a parents permission) to keep my money safe until I turned 18 & moved out.
I feel like she should've taught her how to spend money responsibly
@@ATW10MINVERSIONTV say that when she buys her wedding dress.
I've heard the first story before and I still believe that mom is a monster. I am a parent, and I can't envision tossing all my responsibilities onto a teenager while I go galavanting off with my friends, especially if I'm also stealing one of my child's biggest firsts at the same time. On top of that, you know this didn't come out of nowhere. I'll bet she's been parentifying Bindi for a long time, and she can look forward to her finding a distant college and never seeing her again. I'm waiting for "AITA for trying to make my daughter stay local for college? She needs to help me with her siblings."
Honestly the first OP makes me FURIOUS. What the hell kind of mother makes her problems her child's problem.
This is outrageous. Parent #2 made me pissed, too.
Me too it is just a dance. Ummm no 17 it is probable the last few high school dances.
What does OP mean again??
@@joaopedrofabrisdiasdesouza It means original poster, the person who wrote the post.
I guess it helps differentiate between that person and other people in the story. Some stories can get quite complicated, it can get hard keeping track of who did what.
@@graciep.6984 Tysm! It cleared things up for me now.
Story 3: I fully believe that anxiety can come out of nowhere I have severe social anxiety and I had my first panic attack while getting out of the car to go to school I’ve been struggling with mental health ever since. It’s not fair to say that “well you should know your kid better” because it can just come out of absolute nowhere.
While I do agree anxiety and panic attacks come out of nowhere a lot of the time (I have anxiety and panic attacks too) I just think here it wasn’t just an out of the blue panic attack. It was clearly caused by the dad and sister scaring him. While I do think an argument can be made that maybe he just had a panic attack from being scared out of nowhere, i do also see it being possible that the dad knew he was more easily scared and would know to an extent that his child could freak out about this. I don’t actually think it’s a stretch to say “he should’ve known his kid better”.
Additional point on part 4, OP went to the community and they agreed, as a whole, to add extra security for Halloween. OP didn’t hire security themselves, Good Apple for sure
5:23 I completely agree bad apple. Your girls' trip is not a family sacrifice.
(ik im late on this but)
exactly.
6:02
Yup. And there are PLENTY of other girls’ trips you can go to. And she’s making her child cancel HER plans for her minor girls’ trip. Honestly the hypocrisy in this is just beyond me.
My Dad scared me and my 6yr old friends when we came to my house trick or treating by jumping out in full Freddie Cougar costume and we ran screaming down the street. My Mom was pissed because I was afraid to come home and he apologized my entire childhood every year.
Wow did y'all finally let him off the hook
Did yall like.. forgive him yet? He seems very regretful of it
2:24 GIRLY, why the golly goose are you TRAVELING when your kids need support and are having surgery???!!
HELPP THE GOLLY GOOSE
@@chrissyj_ 🪿
This actually happened to me a bit ago. Over the summer I had cochlear implants surgery, and my parents were going to an Ed Sheeran concert during my second week of recovery. However, that had been planned for a full year, and my surgery got pushed back so it wasn’t planned at all. Besides that, they actually found someone to watch me, unlike this mom. Golly goose indeed. 😅
I can already see what apple one is going to be. Your daughter had surgery which is a huge thing imo. And a Halloween dance sounds like a really fun idea!!! I would like to know where the dad is if he still around. Cancel the trip or hire a babysitter. Bad apple!!!!
Apple 2: Have you seen how much costumes cost these days?! I get its 80 dollars but thats her money. Bad apple!!
If anything happened to her children while she's away on vaction.....could that trigger a CPS investigation? Rebecca a woman with no children, figured it out. The mother is very selfish. Even if there was no dance, the mother shouldn't leave them alone.
@@janejones7638 true. Thats why i said cancel the trip or hire a babysitter
@@janejones7638She _has_ children. They have fur legs, fur and says "Meow"
@@Samantha.K.S.Simpson I'm a cat Mom too. I take care of my cat just as if he was my human son. What's sad is that mother treated her children almost like an outdoors cat. Just put out some food and water, they'll take care of everything else.
@@janejones7638 i have cats that have freedom to go anywhere. They love it.
Story #4 I felt so hard. I grew up in one of those rich neighborhoods and was there until I was grown so I had been on both sides. While we knew that people drove their kids in and we had to get a few more bags of candy it was never as bad as she described. I cannot even imagine. The closest is when I was driving home from work and the street was filled with people. Luckily they realized that I was a car and moved so I could get home. But honestly if it was the way she described. I would have done the same as her. Also..I don’t think kids really care about what neighborhood the trick or treat in. It-s free candy from stranger and getting to dress and play make believe for a day.
Agree on everything! With the fourth story, I also had to go to another neighborhood but we respected the neighborhood. We didn't leave trash, we didn't disrupt those who lived there - in fact they enjoyed having us there because we were all good kids! These kids were disrespectful and no longer get the privilege of trick or treating there. Good apple!
The way that you suggested on how to split up the money in the second story (pay whatever bills that the teenager had, put half away and spend the other half) is exactly what I did last summer when i got a part time job. I saved almost a thousand dollars by doing it that way.
1st story : yes I do understand you can’t always find a babysitter for Simone who is autistic I get that. But as the mom you made these kids you take care of them! Kids come first !!!!! Sorry mom you can’t go on the trip.
2nd Story: if daughter used her own money then you have no say
Story #3 - I love scary movies and haunted houses, but if I walked into my house and wasn't expecting someone to jump out and scare me, I'd probably have a panic attack too assuming I didn't accidentally attack them.
Story #4 - I am sad this Halloween because only had 2 sets if trick or treaters because everyone goes to the big neighborhoods in my town
Most of the people in my neighborhood sit on chairs in their driveway handing out candy on Halloween. No pets are disturbed by ringing doorbells and we get to see all the kids going from house to house. It didn't bother anyone that it was 40 degrees when trick-or-treating started tonight.. The kids loved it when it started snowing. I heard one child say this was the best Halloween ever.
I have a feeling this is going to be all bad apples perfect for halloween. Happy halloween Rebecca.
Men du må forstå. At hun kanskje har den babyen like Jeg vil ikke si at jeg bioing gjemme kroppen droppe den er ikke det verste kanskje i stedet for å si at hun er bedre invitere en venn og fikk så kan hjelpe meg med å passe på .
@@fridarossnilsen3196jeg tror at du svarte på feil kommentar
Story 1: it’s called parentification (sp), and it’s considered abuse. YTBA
Story 2: her money, her choice. YTBA
Story 3: You are the adult. You are the father. You should know your son well enough not to pull this. ALSO, the reaction to a full-blown panic attack was “oops! My bad!”? YTBA
Story 4: I don’t blame the OP. If the visitors are disrespectful of the people being nice, they miss out. Good Apple
I think Halloween bad apples should be poison apples, good apples are candy apples, crab apples are wet apples (from people bobbing for apples)
The first story , bad apple for sure ! She kept saying “ doing this for the family “. But actually it’s just for you !
Second story, I mean, if the daughter was working and saving up the money for the costume, who cares how much she spends? It's her money to spend how she wishes.
I agree with most of these, just struggling on the dad scare one. I'm kinda leaning more towards crab apple only because he probably thought that it genuinely wouldn't frighten him so much. I know that there are times where I jumped out at my siblings (mainly my younger sister) and she has been more startled than normal, and that chicka watches horror flicks like they're romcoms!!! So I can see how he thought it would go over well. He didn't mention comforting his son but he could have, he just said his wife came shortly after it happened and was comforting him. I can also see why he would still be questioning her about still being mad at him when he didn't mean it harmfully. All in all people are just jerks sometimes and even if you do know someone really well, they could have had a fright before you frightened them which made it worse. 🤷🏾♀
Also, I ask all the time but would you be willing to do an updates video? I know some of those have more context in the comments or updates so that would be nice or maybe links to the posts?? Thanks!
I think he is a bad apple. He literally thinks giving his 9 year old kid a panic attack is not a big deal. Our homes are a space where we should feel safe. They even put masks on and that kid could as well think they are intruders. This could really be traumatic for a child and he doesn't seem to realize the consequences of his actions.
Im leaning toward crab apple too. I live in a household where we scare each other all the time. It started when i was younger than OPs children. At first i hated it but now its one of those, who can scare who better (side note: my dad still wins that).
We apologize when things get out of hand but other than that its just something fun.
Where the dad is in the wrong is not apologizing or trying to comfort.
However i cant say hes a bad apple at all. I agree with crab apple
#4: Completely agree with good apple! I would be so mad if I had to wait hours to take my kid to the ER so their reaction was completely justified. Also, why are people driving from a larger city to come trick or treating in their neighbourhood. I had under 100 kids at my house and I couldn’t imagine paying for candy for hundreds of kids. Even getting it down to 300 is wild to me. I just moved into my neighbourhood and I was so pleasantly surprised by how respectful the parents and kids are. I didn’t see a single kid walk across a lawn and people left out bowls of candy and kids would just take one or two pieces each! Having people parked on lawns and walking across my lawn would drive me crazy!
Story 4: I agree; Good Apple. It’s not like they’re gathering in a public space designated for public events. People just can’t run amuck in private residential areas.
I just love how your kitty just sleeps so peacefully while you doing your great video sweetest thing ever 💞💞💞❤
As a type 1 diabetic who has been in a situation where if I hadn’t gotten to the hospital in a timely manner I would have died I’m with you on the medical emergencies should be more important than finding the best neighborhood for Halloween
Apple 1 - TOTAL Bad Apple! It’s not the child’s responsibility to raise the other children!
My school had a gun threat this week, it was our first time ever getting a gun threat and for some reason the school was still open the day that it was meant to happen. They caught the guy and he said it was a joke. Half of our 1600 person school wasnt there. I was terrified the entire day and the only reason i stayed was because I'm in a lot of APs that were still doing things. It's not a joke when 1600 children live in fear for the whole day.
That first parent is so revolting, omfg. I've heard that story so many times over the last couple of years, and it always gets ticks me off. I mostly agree with all of the judgements this week. I might would call OP from #3 a crab apple, only because the question was whether he was the bad apple for telling his wife to get over it. He seemed to know he was the bad apple for the prank itself. I see why he's upset, because I also don't think this is something he should be continuously punished for, but I also understand becoming a mama bear over your kid. I don't have kids, but I 100% mama bear over my niece. I don't think bad apple is necessarily wrong, but I could also see an argument for crab apple.
Story 4: if u dont respect someone elses space, you dont get to come back
1:59 I have a lot of issues with the phrasing of “severely autistic” it feels like it’s in the same vein as “high functioning” as an autistic person who is fully verbal, and generally NT passing, I recognize my experience is different from this kid. My cousin is autistic and he really struggles to communicate, (he also has DMD but hasn’t yet lost mobility to the extent of a wheelchair). I recognize the difficulty in finding someone to look after your son but this girl will be gone for what? 3 hours? You can’t have someone come over and have the 14 year old help? My littlest sister has type one and my parents ALWAYS make sure I’m okay to babysit and don’t assume I’ll do it without consulting me. I don’t think this is fair on the 17 year old but that’s just from my experience
I have never heard someone get upset about being called high functioning that seems polite. I am not sure what you would call an autistic child besides that. I am disabled and care about other disabilities my favorite to learn about is the neurodiverse community! So if I am wrong let me know but it seems respectful.
@@Lets_B_Uniqueit is considered insulting because the way it is phrased isn’t true. A “high functioning” autistic person doesn’t automatically just function better. They’re just able to mask their autism better. Calling people high functioning can be deemed to be invalidating of the very real issues they experience but are just able to mask. We aren’t functioning better internally, we just seem like it from the outside. It’s generally more polite to say someone has higher or lower support needs and that has been more recognized in the community within recent years
Agreed
@@Hellofrosh Thank you! I appreciate the insight and I am sorry for not realizing that. I will do better in making sure I don’t speak like that. As well as thank you for not getting mad at me for the comment.
@@Lets_B_Unique To add to what she said, the term also stems back to Hans Asperger, the guy who is credited for saving autistic kids from Nazis. Turns out, he really didn't save that many kids and was complacent with the Nazis.
Story 1: Bad Apple, instead of going on a girls trip, stay with your kids. Story 2: Bad Apple: the daughter used the money of HER own to get the costume, and she barely sees her friends.
Story 3: I do disagree a little, just about the part that he should have known his son better. My daughter loves pranks that involves an adult hiding and jumping out at her to give her a fright. She *loves* it. But there are occasions where it catches her a little more off guard and she gets a much bigger fright than intended. She's six.
I don't think there is anything inherently bad with jumping out at people. I do agree it was handled badly after the fact, he should have comforted his kid, but I also don't think those pranks are that bad, some people enjoy it, some people don't.
but she probably doesn't go and have a panic attack because she got scared he did and he was terrified so his dad should have known better
@@avathegryffinclaw well it's described in the story as "trembling and crying for a long time" that doesn't necessarily equal full blow panic attack and, yes, my daughter had definitely responded to a prank that way. The difference is, the person who played the prank on her immediately apologized and comforted her, I think if the dad in this story had done the same then the boy would have been fine. It was his dismissive attitude that made him wrong. I genuinely don't think he could have predicted how the kid would react. But he should have dealt with it better once he did know.
@@pixiesouter9461 if they are trembleing and crying you have gone too far when i was 9 my dad did something like this to terrify me and i was scared to open doors for a long time because he hid behind my door
It was just a prank that didn't well he is a 9 year old boy he got to figure it out because no one is going to feel bad for him on this world
@@stevengrvp my dad did a similar thing to be i was scared to open doors
his parents should care about him and comfort him
Thank you Rebecca. I struggle with this myself. I have had to block multiple people on LinkDen because they disagreed with me on things and they resorted to harassment and threatened to “expose me” and screenshot my comments for disagreeing with them. I am being bullied online by these people. I’m afraid to comment on anything or post online anymore out of fear of being bullied. I’m autistic and feel like I’m not allowed to have an opinion. 😢
In story 3. "Knowing your kid" CAN be a touchy thing.
My 6 year old, depending on his mood, will either scream and run and hide and freak out OR scream and then laugh hysterically! And it's so hard to know which it will be when you surprise him when you've been separated
I say crab apple because I would have and have done this to my son. Where this dad messes up us in not sitting and helping his son calm down and feel better.
When i do this to my son and he reacts badly, I sit with him and cheer him up and 90% of the time in about a half hour he asks us to scare him again and when we do he laughs SO hard
I don’t have kids with special needs but I do have kids. I would never leave them for a weekend without an adult, especially after surgery (even a minor one). A girls trip can wait.
Story1: BAD APPLE!! Leaving your daughter that's recovering after surgery...what is wrong with OP!!
I agree with all your picks for the reasons you gave esp as a parent of 3 disabled children. As for the 3rd story I was that kid. My mom loved tp jump out and scare me and i hated it. She said that I loves it and giggled but I remember the gut dropping fear and screaming. Because I have such I visceral memory of this I tried very hard to not scare my kids. Happy Halloween 🎃 👻
Story 4 is 100% a good apple. As someone who lived in a bad neighborhood and couldn't trick or treat there for safety reasons, my friends and I were ALWAYS in other neighborhoods and we'd be on foot and respectful. We would even go on to the military base. It's not hard to be a kid that loves Halloween and be respectful to the areas you're going to
Well, I had a disabled grandma with dementia and I cared for her through my teenage and my young adulthood. Me and my parents would make turns and adjust our skedules so she would never be alone, yet nobody would miss it's chance to have events or trips. Communication people!
I am so jealous of that pikachu costume. It looks comfy and adorable. ❤
About apple 2. Made me think about what people spend on Wedding dresses. Way more than 80 dollars to only wear once
#3 I agree 1000%. I have cptsd and have security issues. If that happened to me, I honestly might be in the ER. If my father and sister did this knowing my security trigger, I'd honestly never feel safe with them again. Maybe that's extreme but that's the way my security issues work. Something happened to me at work, this guy would come up behind people and put his hands on their shoulders. He did that to me and I was so scared that I screamed bloody murder. He was turned into HR, not by me, and counseled not to touch people without their permission.
All potential grinches of Halloween can be called Stingy Jacks
Hi
The Legend of Stingy Jack in Ireland is supposed to be where the Jack o Lantern originated from. Been hearing it from my dads side of the family since I was little
Apple 3- Crab Apple....to the direct question. OP did not know how son would react.
That being said, in the aftermath is where OP was the Bad Apple for not comforting his son & doubling down on not apologizing
Commented once but commenting on the last story. My uncle and aunt live in 'rich neighbourhood'
Over the years more and more people flood the streets in their neughbourhood. When we lived with them (I was 12) I trick or treated with my sibling and my two cousins. It was crazy then. 19 now, 18 last year. I went to help set up decorations, and help my younger cousin (seven) trick or treat. The cars drive wildly, there's got to be thousands of kids ruining decorations, it's genuinly a hazard. My cousin almost got RUN OVER BY A FREAKING CAR! I had to jank him into the yards multiple times because people in hay wagons and CARS just drive to insanely to get from house to house.
It's the same this year, my cousin was taken to trunk or treat instead because it's safer for many reasons. it's honestly pretty unfortunate, but that woman ws 100% in the right. Good apple. Her poor daughter.
Happy Halloween Mrs. Rodgers!! You and Avery looked amazing in your costumes!!
Story 3: Crab Apple, borderline Bad Apple. The only things saving this man from Bad Apple, are the lack of malicious intent, and his empathetic remorse. Still, he REALLY messed up by not only refusing to confront his son, but also taking the joke too far. Why couldn’t they have just jumped out at him saying “boo”. The dimmed lights and the masks are where I draw the line.
The last one would make me go crazy. Over 1,000 kids?! That’s WAYYYY too much! And those parents are so oblivious that that neighborhood is NOT theirs! It’s not theirs to trash and park in ppl’s yards! So yes she is the good apple.
I totally agree with you on the pranks. Honestly I don't understand why people find it entertaining to watch others suffer. The sad part is we are trained even when we are growing up that we are supposed to enjoy it with slapstick comedy and such. But it's just wrong. Here is a little story of how my eyes were opened to this. When I was a teenager we had the whole family over for Thanksgiving and we were all helping to get the meal together. My brother-in-law, Kris, bends down to get something from the vegetable drawer. I go to get some ice for the drinks from the freezer above him. He manages to stand up just as I am opening the door and banged his head horribly. I start to laugh because from I had learned from TV and movies, that was what you did. My whole family looks at me and asks what is wrong with me. Kris is in horrible pain and this is no time to laugh. That is when it hit me and I realized, anything that causes someone harm, discomfort, embarrassment or anything is just not funny and should not be laughed at or make fun of. All you have to do is put yourself in the other person's shoes and you can see these things aren't funny. Just be kind to each other people. That is the best way to live.
I remember spending $80 on a costume years ago... I reckon with inflation that's actually a fairly reasonable price these days (and generally girls costumes cost more when you factor in makeup, kneesocks/stockings, etc.).
I grew up as an older child who had to care for their autistic sibling, starting at around 12 years old. Of course, there is more to the story, but I am an adult now who is resentful of my lack of childhood and I try not to take it out on my family now but it just wasn't fair. Now my family is having difficulty dealing with the fact that now that I have an actual choice, I am unwilling to continue to make sacrifices for the family. I will always love them, but no is a complete sentence.
Me and my mom recently went to a halloween swing dance. Absolutely wonderful night, we can both dance our butts off and this was an amazing opportunity to dance the night away AND dress up. I work, and my father teaches me about money in a HEALTHY way, because he's thousands of dollars in debt. So each paycheck, I put 2% into a savings account. Other 98%? I get to do what I want with. Typically, yeah I save it anyway. And when me and my mom went out costume shopping, she got a hat, a suit, a cane, all the pazazz to be a mobster. And I got a flapper dress, a headpiece, and gloves. Yk how much my costume was? Around 90 bucks. My dad congradulated me on it, he's always gonna be proud when I make good decisions with my money. And two nights ago me and my mom danced the night away and it's a memory I will NEVER forget. So fun. I did my makeup, curled my hair, and wore the costume for the dance, and then tonight when I was passing out candy to kids.
I understand the mom wants her to be responsible. But this is HER MONEY. That she is working SO HARD for. Sure, you can teach her how to be responsible with money, while also not preventing her from having very important teenage-girl moments. Bad apple all the way, one hundred percent agree Mrs. Rogers.
I think mom had good INTENTIONS, they just were not what she thought they'd been. Hopefully mom and daughter will be able to makeup for this.
Not sure if it's a generational trauma thing, but having been put in a similar spot as the 17 year old, that one hit me in the core. Yeah, bad apple. Making it up "someday," is a nice thought, but someday never comes
I was hoping you were going to do story #4.😊
I heard it earlier from a different content creator and was curcious about your thoughts. OP was definitely a good granny smith 🍏 apple.
Op was a miserable old bat karen
I have three younger brothers with special needs and as the oldest child (10 years or more older than each) i have often been asked to help with babysitting. While i completely understand this mother im having a hard time finding someone to banysit someone whonis difficult, my parents never forced me to babysit over doing something fun unless it was an absolute emergency. The first story just made me so angry becuas eintoonjad moments when i believed my parents prefered my siblings becuase they got more attention than me, buty parents were always quick to correct me and help me better understand situations. The mom in the first story is definitely in the wrong and needs to find propper care for her aon becuase someday her oldest daughter will go away to college or to live her own life. Even though im away at college now, my parents still jave someone to care for my siblings, and wouldnt even think about forcing me to stay and watch them.
1st apple: Totally on the wrong like, those are special moments one want to have no? Bad apple
2nd apple: So the money isn't the mom's, the daughter know the price and all, and you feel entitled to deny her own choices and make her miserable on a supposedly fun day? Bad apple
3rd apple: Bad apple. I know the feeling of a bad prank or a joke, and when it goes too far, it goes too far. It's hard to forgive even if the intentions are good, but i do think that not admiting to have messed up is pretty bad.
4th apple: Good apple for sure. I mean, what do you expect, it's a hazard to have that many people in such a small space, not only can people have problems in their houses cuz of trick-or-treaters, but it can also cause all the problems OP mentioned.
Agreed fully with u Rebecca, I'm glad, what fun stories we had today :D
My mom gets upset when I spend any of my money, even if it is reasonable. I'm 20, I make my money, but she gets mad at me in a frustration when I spend my money. To where I feel bad that I Spend my money.
I want to point out regarding the second story with the mom who was mad her daughter spent $80 on a costume. How much exactly is a wedding dress? Ik they're not exactly the same thing but by her logic of "it's an overpriced outfit you wear for a few hours on one day" a wedding dress fits that criteria. Even if the OP wore a dress from goodwill it's really not her business what her daughter spends HER MONEY on.
For story number three I agree with your take on pranks but I genuinely don’t believe it was meant to disrupt anything. My family plays similar pranks on each other all the time and honestly I think it’s one of the most harmless pranks you can do. That being said I think the scary masks and dimming the lights was a-bit much for it but other then that.
It is definitely not harmless for people who scare easy! He could have had a panic attack!
@@marieangels6 I’m not saying he couldn’t have. The outcome was horrible because of the type of kid he was and the dad should have known that this was a bad idea! I’m saying that the orginal notion of just scaring him wasn’t come up with by the daughter for malicious intent. It just should have been done with the lights on and with no masks
I know you no longer do we can't make this stuff up but for your podcast i think it would be interesting to hear what a 911 dispatcher has to deal with
Yes!!!!
I think she did
My parents had to cancel date nights and friend days because of things. Whether that be as "small" as my youngest brother having a boxing match, or as big as graduation. They knew that they'd have to sacrifice things for us. There was even times my dad had to call off work, which he's big on perfect attendance, to be in a waiting room for us during surgery. (Tonsils and adenoids.)
Edit: and yes, I did cancel some of my plans to help out. But 1. that was completely my choice, and 2. you have to give to get.
The fourth story reminded me of something that happened last year. I went to a town for Fourth of July and we were trying to leave before the parade but people wouldn’t move and a bunch of cars. We missed our reservation for the restaurant we were going to and had to wait over an hour. Not nearly as bad as the fourth story though
The first two I agree with, but personally I don’t think the third one anxiety and panic attacks are not super predictable and it’s not necessarily something u can predict when it comes to that. And I think that ur right in saying that it’s not funny to upset or disrupt someone’s day but I think the father only expected a bit of a jump and for him to laugh it off.
Fully see where you’re coming from tho, so I’m kind of conflicted. Great video though. Keep up the great work.
On the second story I'm just baffled by the fact that you can't let them spend their own money. Emphasis on THEIR money.
You always say you don’t have kids but I’d like to point out that you DO have parents. I think everyone can have solid opinions on parenting because we were all affected by parenting ❤️
I agree with your judgement on all four scenarios. Luv ya, Rebecca.
Apple #1: Totally agree...it had me fooled for a bit because everything was worded very reasonably...all of it made sense to me until I realized...at the base of the issue it comes to the parent...putting her good time...over her daughters...were this something necessary I would get it...but its not...its a girls trip to have some fun...so yeah be as reasonable as you want...theres no getting past first principles and thats that in this parents mind Mom>Daughter...and thats kinda messed up
1st story, 100 % bad apple. Parents are always 100% responsible for all kids. Only have 1 kid, but if we do 2, they would never be responsible for each other. If no baby sitters or family members (adults) can help look after kids, then fun time isn't happening, as crappy as it sounds. I've missed celebrating my own bday the way I'd like to since no one was available, but its the sacrifice you have to make when you have children.
Story 3: Something tells me this dad is the "fun parent" while the mom is actually the serious one. Dad's the kind of parent that's just immature, thinks playing with kids and actually taking care of them are the same thing. First, pulling that kind of prank on a 9 year old. Then, not even knowing his kid was gonna have this kind of reaction, does he just not take care of them? And finally, the wife having to do the comforting and not even apologizing to his own child. Yeah, this is one of those dads that just does not act like a parent and just leaves the actual parenting to his wife.
For #3, I think the father probably felt bad about what he did, his issue was more with his wife. It happened, it's in the past and he can't change it now. Being mad at him for days on end doesn't help the situation and I may have told her the same thing tbh.
I agree with #4. I took my kid to another neighborhood for trick or treating because ours was all apartment buildings; so we went where there were houses. Over the years, I could see the numbers increasing alarmingly so I do understand the OP's actions.
Apple 2: Bad Apple.
It was the daughter's money. She can spend it how she likes. That is brass tacks.
(Also, kinda tied to my point with Apple 1: i think it's weird that people will be like "a part time job is ok, but babysitting younger siblings isnt" when babysitting is an actual job)
Welcome to Wisconsin where it snows in halloween :)
Yup 😔
I think the only point I disagree with is not being able to go to the dance. Which of course doesn’t change the fact OP is a bad apple but it isn’t the reason she is one. She is one because she’s leaving a fresh out of surgery child, a heavily autistic child in the care of another child to go away on a girl’s weekend. There are many good reasons for someone to have to miss a dance but a mom wanting to go away for a weekend isn’t one of em. Everything else however is spot on and I also have 3 bad apples and 1 good apple
i was prepared to go bad apple on that last story just based on the title but honestly, yeah, good apple because the neighborhood had become a hazard and they couldn't leave until hours later when they had a medical emergency! thank goodness it was a broken arm and not something like anaphylactic shock, but still! part of me feels hypocritical because i was also one of those kids who went to different neighborhoods, but that's mostly because there weren't a lot of houses in my own neighborhood, so we'd go park at my dad's job and trick-or-treat at the houses around there, but that area actually has street parking so it never became so congested that people couldn't get through. and as far as an ambulance getting in, sirens and lights are only effective if the drivers are in, or at least near, their cars. empty cars can't move themselves in an emergency.
also, since i started this video on halloween and finished it the next day, i only just remembered the mom who wouldn't let her daughter go to a halloween dance because she had to watch her siblings while the mom went on a girls trip. that mom is guilty of poor planning, if not straight up negligence. what if the older daughter had a job and had to work instead of wanting to go to a dance? would you tell her she has to call out of work because that weekend was the only time one of your sisters could go on the trip for a while? would you risk your daughter's job just so you wouldn't have to wait, what, a few more months? i agree with Bex*, if your son's disability is that severe that he can't be left without you or your older daughter for even a few hours, you should have looked into more professional care for him, and you definitely shouldn't leave your younger daughter when she just had surgery! your older daughter is not their parent and therefore not responsible for watching your kids while you go out of town on an elective trip! siblings are not obligated to make sacrifices for their siblings. she didn't choose to have siblings, it's not like she birthed them herself. _you_ chose to have children, and since their dad doesn't seem to be in the picture for whatever reason, _your_ kids are solely _your_ responsibility.
*i hope you don't mind me calling you Bex, but if it bothers you i'll absolutely stop ❤
The returning the costume story. I completely agree with her choice, this mom was definitely in the wrong on that story. If it was really that important to her that her daughter didn't spend $80 on a costume, then have her return it after the party and after she's had the fun with her friends. I feel like this mom is going to be one of those parents that questions why their kid doesn't call, or text them after they move out. If the mom has done that, then who knows what else she has done that are similar
First story full on bad apple. You nailed it.
No child or sibling owes the family anything. This is the parent's responsibility.
17:06 I don’t agree that it was bullying, however I do agree that it was a teachable moment.
Dad should sit down with both and say hey this made him upset and we should apologize. Tell them both mistakes don’t make us bad people and we need to learn that when we make mistakes like this it’s important to take inventory and grow moving forward.
13:30 I would like to believe that was a nod of agreement from the cat
On the third bad apple well when u said “u said that the mom came home and comfort him why did u not?” Well he probably tried but the kid did not probably want to talk and also some dads do not know everything I have a dad that does not even know my favorite color because he works a lot and I only see him sometimes but that is beside the point the kid probably did not want to talk to the dad because he was mad and upset with him and only wanted to talk to his dad hope the tip helps :)
When I was trick-or-treating, some people gave me weird. Looks when I grab candy because I had a rainbow nail
On the last story, I just don't get why OP could drive if cars were "lining the streets", which would mean there should be at the VERY LEAST, one lane's width to drive on. You can just honk your horn to get people to move out of the street. All of the other reasons for not wanting trick or treaters make sense, but I'm more concerned that OP let their kid stay at home with a broken arm for hours longer than they needed. They probably waited in the ER for hours, too, when urgent care could have been an option earlier in the evening.
I love the pikachu costume
In story number 3 I think more torwards the crab apple because the other child thought it wouldn't do harm and she didn't mean to hurt the kid. Plus, I think the dad shouldn't have been punished just because he wanted to be a good dad and he generally didn't know.
Bad apple Halloween let's get it
If you haven't thought of it, get a ring doorbell! That way you can turn of the ringer and juat have a notification on your phone when the doorbell rings. We had the Camera open on the app all night and saw whenever kids arrived
Happy -apple- pumpkin picking day!
For the last 1 She is definitely and I mean definitely a good appleapple! The people littering And not moving for a medical emergency And parking their cars everywhere and I mean everywhere are bad apples!
In reards to the first story, as the oldest of 4 by 11, 15 and 18 years, I often was used as a babysitter to my siblings. That being said, I didn't mind most times, but I would not be happy either if I was asked to miss a once in a lifetime event that I wanted to go to, to watch kids that were not my own and thus not my responsibilty! I am not a parent, but if I were, I would never expect my older children to make sacrifices to babysit their younger siblings just because I wanted to go out. It is the parent's responsibilty to find child care for their kids, when they want to have a night/weekend out.... it is not the responsibilty of the older siblings to always be available to watch their younger siblings for the parent...
Wow, story #1 I'm the mom to a profoundly autistic 10 year old. I understand that life. Absolutely, they should have special care givers. It is expensive, but when we go somewhere without our kids, that absolutely is part of the saving up. I would never ask my other child to babysit him until at least 18, and then I would pay her just like everyone else. She doesn't have any responsibility for her brother. We chose to be his parents (literally because we adopted him), but she did not, so it is never going to be her responsibility to care for him just because she is a part of the family.
Story 2: Bad apple. Everyone is talking about the money side of it and I agree, it's the daughters money to spend how she wants so long as she is responsible - which at 16 is not an easy thing, and almost an easier lesson to learn the hard way when younger - but the part that irked me the most was the consistent repetition of "she's only going to wear it a few hours." So what? Once again its her money to spend on something she wants and enjoys with her friends and unless its something very, very specific she will probably be able to wear it, or at least parts of it again in the future, or it can be resold second hand, or passed to a sibling/cousin/friend etc. 10+ years later and I still have costume pieces from high school that I can wear. My mom made costumes for me when younger than that and probably put as much money and time in to it with no chance of re-wearing it because I'd have grown to much and it was sewn to my measurements.
Mini rant to make the point that the mom almost seems bitter about the holiday and how short a time the daughter might wear the costume for, rather than letting her enjoy the celebration with friends.
With apple #2, if the parent was really that concerned about the daughter spending $80 of her own money, my suggestion would be to take a page out of my late mother's book and say, "hey...I know you bought this costume for this event with your friends...but how about you and I go out this weekend (or whatever time) and see if we can recreate that same costume for less?" My mom was the queen of "I'll make it as good or better for half the cost or less!" And the best part of that is that I would have a fun afternoon with my mom going all sorts of places and working together to make something both frugal AND awesome! ❤
*Apple #1:* Absolutely Bad Apple ALL The Way Around… You Explained It Perfectly No Need For Elaboration.
*Apple #2:* Yup BAD APPLE ~ Her Money Not The Parent’s Money. 🙄🤦🏻♀️
~Side Note: What Is Wrong With These Parents?!?~
*Apple #3:* Bad Apple, I honestly don’t hear any bad intentions from the sister or the Dad, however his lack of understanding of his wife’s reaction is bad, plus his lack of how he handled his son after the “prank” was absolutely horrible.
*Apple #4:* Good Apple. I don’t think this person did anything wrong. I agree that is a HUGE hazard when a neighborhood is that congested.
I love the last story because I live in a city and in the historic part of said city. Down here there are a lot of big house and old Mansions but my husband and I live in one of the few multiple families homes. But my one neighbor and I both love halloween and are so happy we live in an area that get children for Halloween. With that being said we no one in my building have a lot of many and we can only give so much candy pre child for that reason. We went to Costco and got 2 BIG bags of candy each but within 2 hours there was no more candy and I felt bad. We had children being rude because they didn't get more than one or two pieces of candy. We even had one mother yell at us more than an hour later when we were cleaning up. Next year we are planing to get more candy but still can't do what other in my area can do. Like whole table setups and letting the children pick out toys one bag of chips, a pack of cookies and a tiny bag of candy. I do think people realize that not all of these are single families home or I don't think the grown ups care they also make it hard for people to get to the er over here too.