90% of the time, when you implement your communicated boundaries regarding money to Family members, they either accept you or abandon you. Therefore I relate to Tat'Mseleku when he says his Family abandoned him because of his success.
I think it has to do with Sne's rape remember it was mentioned that Sne was raped by a family member yakwaMseleku and such issues they really break the family Into pieces
I get what you are saying but it’s always easy for an outsider to say “they need to fix things” when families have differences. There is a lot that goes on between family members for them to reach a place where the relationship is broken down. a lot is said and done that contributes. Some people are not willing to take back things said or done, or even apologise to make the journey of healing possible. It’s not that simple and your opening statement is correct “he is the one who knows what happened”. That’s why there’s an adage that says “only the owner of the shoe knows where it is pinching them”. Healing and restoring relationships is a very long and difficult journey that requires a lot of emotional intelligence.
Hello Mamgo❤ I do believe into yokuba mhlambi his family yavele yacinga uba uMseleku uthwele so, bazibhekelisa kuye. Because let's be real xa usoyika uba kuthwalwe ngawe uye uzikhuphe because ungafuni uzibona sowugaxeleka nawe. But still abanye abantu xa bekubona uphumelela bavele babe nomona ngawe. Bangafuni nto edibiniselene nawe and mhlambi kwayena uMseleku waba cut.a off emveni kokuba waphumelela. Coz ezinye iFamily xa zikubona uSuccessful ziye zifune ukubona usokola ungenamali and ungeyonto. Iya confuse.a wethu. Because ke naye akazange acacise gcaa ukuba kanye kanye yintoni le eyadala iFamily yakhe izikhuphe kuye emveni kokuba ephumelele. Its NdweDWE. AmaXhosa athi "Ndwendwe" referring to visitors AmaZulu athi "NdweDwe" referring to a location in KZN. Wona AmaZulu athi "Abavakashi" meaning visitors.
The visible uyibeke kahle kakhulu. It’s very unfortunate that as blacks we always form the idea that when one family member succeeds more than another it means uthwele. I think his mother’s passing makes them feel like that. It’s as if we believe people are immortal and should live forever. We love our family members but it’s only God who knows the number of days he has given each of us. Even when it comes to gifts, talents and success. They are not hereditary, it is God who gives according to his will. We can be siblings, even twins, but it doesn’t mean our destiny will be the same. We need to accept that and just be happy for each other. Not everyone is blessed with the mind of building a business and making it succeed. We still need a lot of education in that area as abantu abamnyama. Enye inking esinayo bandla umona. Yeyi umona and comparing ourselves will destroy us. That’s all I wanted to add because usho konke in your comment. 🙌🏾
@@mandyishername nailed it mntaka ma. One thing about Black people they will love you when you are at your lowest, but the moment you are at your highest hololo let me leave it at that. When you were struggling and trying to make ends meet. They are there to witness that. But when you succeed they start acting like you went to go fetch "muthi for success kwaMhlabuyalingana"
2:35 akusondeleki klk kite Mamgo cause unabafazi nabantwana abaninzi. I got my degree then my brother who is 5 years older than me an phithi he w an at to go study and do engineering kodwa all l this time ubebusy enxila engahoyi ubomi bakhe. Zange auigqibe nalo degree yakhe iyalenga lenga umana ngondifuna imali. Uyakucinga unentsaba phandle kanti ubulawa apha kokwenu by the same people ozama ukubanceda ke phofu…
@ wenzelwa amayelenqe ungoyiswanga ke if I tell u😂 abantu babazii time ticking bombs 💣 at the sight of u. De babuze why uphumelela wedwa kule family inkulu kangaka🤦🏽♀️😂
Ow mntase iyakulahla ingakufuni family xa uphumelela😢ndingonye wabobantu vha cc, I blv Musa😊 Bakwakhele amayelenqe, yonke ethethwa ngawe ibeyiyo…I tell u now it happens. I’m with my immediate family jst like Musa😂 If I was a man I’d also take isithembu to build a family for myself 😂❤
@@mamgobhozitv awugezi 🤣🤣🤣 Enkosi shlobo sam I’m healing nicely cc. This whole year I had chronic anxiety disorder bcz of my family attacking m for nothing …blv it or not😉
No, I don't think that true....usually abantu abanemali emndenini they like to control everything using Financial muscles unnecessary, I think the family disagreed with him over something and told if he doesn't listen what the family says, he can disappear with his wealth.
Apologies it’s Ndwedwe Location🙈,the Xhosa in me is thinking about ama “ Ndwendwe” visitors😭🤭.
Mina ngiyamjabulela u Baba umseleku Uma abuyelana ne family,family comes first,ungaba nabangane,omakhelwane kodwa umdeni uyadingeka
90% of the time, when you implement your communicated boundaries regarding money to Family members, they either accept you or abandon you.
Therefore I relate to Tat'Mseleku when he says his Family abandoned him because of his success.
100 💯 and you must
Wayithanda lokhwe yelobola ka VUYOKAZI UMACELE😂😂❤❤❤ ZIYAFANA ZIYELELENE LOKHWE ZABO
😂😂😂
Hayi ibakhona nyani naleyo yolahlwa ngabantu ebebesondele kuwe ngenxa yempumelelo yakho unyanisile ke apho nam ndiyamngqinela Gobhi🤞🏽
I think it has to do with Sne's rape remember it was mentioned that Sne was raped by a family member yakwaMseleku and such issues they really break the family Into pieces
Haaaaaaaibo ayikho le.amanga he knows what is wrong we don't knows what is wrong as a family they need to fix things😮
I get what you are saying but it’s always easy for an outsider to say “they need to fix things” when families have differences. There is a lot that goes on between family members for them to reach a place where the relationship is broken down. a lot is said and done that contributes. Some people are not willing to take back things said or done, or even apologise to make the journey of healing possible. It’s not that simple and your opening statement is correct “he is the one who knows what happened”. That’s why there’s an adage that says “only the owner of the shoe knows where it is pinching them”. Healing and restoring relationships is a very long and difficult journey that requires a lot of emotional intelligence.
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Ndwedwe
Hello Mamgo❤
I do believe into yokuba mhlambi his family yavele yacinga uba uMseleku uthwele so, bazibhekelisa kuye. Because let's be real xa usoyika uba kuthwalwe ngawe uye uzikhuphe because ungafuni uzibona sowugaxeleka nawe. But still abanye abantu xa bekubona uphumelela bavele babe nomona ngawe. Bangafuni nto edibiniselene nawe and mhlambi kwayena uMseleku waba cut.a off emveni kokuba waphumelela. Coz ezinye iFamily xa zikubona uSuccessful ziye zifune ukubona usokola ungenamali and ungeyonto.
Iya confuse.a wethu. Because ke naye akazange acacise gcaa ukuba kanye kanye yintoni le eyadala iFamily yakhe izikhuphe kuye emveni kokuba ephumelele.
Its NdweDWE. AmaXhosa athi "Ndwendwe" referring to visitors AmaZulu athi "NdweDwe" referring to a location in KZN.
Wona AmaZulu athi "Abavakashi" meaning visitors.
Hey Thembsie, hiighly possible leyo yocinga uthwele,inoba ungumntu wesithathu ukutsho apha kwi comment section.Thanks ,i pinned a comment correcting my mistake nge Ndwedwe🤗💕💕🙏🏽.
The visible uyibeke kahle kakhulu. It’s very unfortunate that as blacks we always form the idea that when one family member succeeds more than another it means uthwele. I think his mother’s passing makes them feel like that. It’s as if we believe people are immortal and should live forever. We love our family members but it’s only God who knows the number of days he has given each of us. Even when it comes to gifts, talents and success. They are not hereditary, it is God who gives according to his will. We can be siblings, even twins, but it doesn’t mean our destiny will be the same. We need to accept that and just be happy for each other. Not everyone is blessed with the mind of building a business and making it succeed. We still need a lot of education in that area as abantu abamnyama. Enye inking esinayo bandla umona. Yeyi umona and comparing ourselves will destroy us. That’s all I wanted to add because usho konke in your comment. 🙌🏾
@@mandyishername nailed it mntaka ma. One thing about Black people they will love you when you are at your lowest, but the moment you are at your highest hololo let me leave it at that. When you were struggling and trying to make ends meet. They are there to witness that. But when you succeed they start acting like you went to go fetch "muthi for success kwaMhlabuyalingana"
Kalok Mamgo once wapumelela kuve kuthwe uthwele omnye nomnye oyikele isiqu sakhe ke ngok🤣🤣🤣akho mntu ufuna kuthwale ngaye😂mona
Yazi unyanisile,qho kusweleka umntu uyathyolwa kuthiwe yilanto yakhe ifuna i gazi😭🤣😅.
@mamgobhozitv 🤣🤣🤣🤣inene
2:35 akusondeleki klk kite Mamgo cause unabafazi nabantwana abaninzi. I got my degree then my brother who is 5 years older than me an phithi he w an at to go study and do engineering kodwa all l this time ubebusy enxila engahoyi ubomi bakhe. Zange auigqibe nalo degree yakhe iyalenga lenga umana ngondifuna imali. Uyakucinga unentsaba phandle kanti ubulawa apha kokwenu by the same people ozama ukubanceda ke phofu…
Sana im going through the similar thing with my siblings😢
I’m a living testimony 😂 Mseleku is telling the truth it happens 😂
Hayi umntu umnceda umncede ude nawe woyiswe,ajike abenenqala umntu kodwa nguye odlale ngamathuba😢.
@ wenzelwa amayelenqe ungoyiswanga ke if I tell u😂 abantu babazii time ticking bombs 💣 at the sight of u. De babuze why uphumelela wedwa kule family inkulu kangaka🤦🏽♀️😂
Ow mntase iyakulahla ingakufuni family xa uphumelela😢ndingonye wabobantu vha cc, I blv Musa😊 Bakwakhele amayelenqe, yonke ethethwa ngawe ibeyiyo…I tell u now it happens. I’m with my immediate family jst like Musa😂 If I was a man I’d also take isithembu to build a family for myself 😂❤
Eish yabuhlungu Shlobo sorry🫂,family can be toxic😢.Ungenzi I polyandry nje ubene reality show sithethe ngawe🤣🤭,
@@mamgobhozitv awugezi 🤣🤣🤣 Enkosi shlobo sam I’m healing nicely cc. This whole year I had chronic anxiety disorder bcz of my family attacking m for nothing …blv it or not😉
@loyalallies Out yourself first mntase,undikhumbuza I story sika Keep moving Dadwethu u Ikhona.Andiyazi noba uyamazi na.
😂😂😂😂@@mamgobhozitv
okanye yacaphukela indlela aphumelele ngayo asazi nguue owaziyo
No, I don't think that true....usually abantu abanemali emndenini they like to control everything using Financial muscles unnecessary, I think the family disagreed with him over something and told if he doesn't listen what the family says, he can disappear with his wealth.
That actually makes sense.
Abanye bebakhuluma amanga bathi kulotsholwa u tirelo 😂😂😂😂😂
Bathong eNdwedwe 🤣😭.
Ndiyazile sokufumana inyani apha kuwe enkosi mamgo
Eyyy ayiphelelanga nje naloonyani 🤣😅.
Weeee Cc awuyiyeke lento bazkhulumele abakwaMseleku, ave usilahla Cc
NDW Indwedwe not Indwendwe
It's not Indwendwe, it's Indwedwe
Not Ndwendwe chile 🌚
I pinned a comment correcting that 😭.
Ndwendwe or NDWEDWE
Ndwedwe.
@mamgobhozitv ngyakthanda kodwa wena mango ngyalinda bexoxe ezingekho bese uyafika wena ulungise🤣
@ Eyy ibisisphithi phithi ixoxwa indaba🤣,kodwa nam ndikhe ndidyarhe ndiyixoxe ingeka vuthwa indaba🤭🤣.
@mamgobhozitv but eswaziyo ngawe ubuya ukuthi cha manini ikanjelento bese syahleka singonakhelwan