"You are not responsible to make other people happy" Sounds so simple but yet it is the hardest lesson to learn in a marriage. So true. The minute I stopped outsourcing my happiness to my spouse, we became much happier together. So strange how that works.
That is definitely something I thought as well! For me, is about balance instead of going to the extremes. The video I uploaded "Truth & Trust" may be more tuned to this angle
Nah, if you just focus on yourself, you will find yourself becoming happy, which will naturally bring joy to others. Ironically, once you've reached that state, it doesn't quite matter too who the receiver is. Not to sound like a prick, but why should only specific people receive your joy but not others, including strangers?
@@elliotlee9577 Incorrect logic. By this logic, a random stranger should receive the same amount of joy as the person who gave birth to you? Or that the people you don't necessary enjoy being around should receive the same amount of joy as the people you admire and respect? We take care of ourselves so that we can provide joy to the people we know, like, and respect. Don't jump on the liberal, western bandwagon, drinking the koolaid that everyone is equal. Group think. This is how pigs get slaughtered after their last big meal. That is incorrect logic by any societal and personal standards. If everyone should be treated with equality, then should you respect the likes of Mother Teresa or Mahatma Gandhi the same way you would a child rapist or a mass murderer? Let's use some common sense here, please. And by the way, you're not being a prick...just a little bit naive when it comes to that line of thinking. You're welcome ;)
@@theAMi88 groupthink? More like how the aghoris think. Yes the people who practice cannibalism. Why do you think they do it? Because they want to destroy the separation between good and bad to reach the ultimate. Extreme? Perhaps. But perhaps there is a lesson in there.
I see some people annoyed by the "do not spend your time making other people happy” statement. I assume what he means is that you need to take care of yourself first. That may seem selfish, but if you're giving away all your time to other people there's a good chance you'll end up burnt out and bitter. Especially if you realize people aren't appreciating your efforts. Also, if you just follow his logic it means if doing things for other people, i.e. volunteering at a homeless shelter, truly brings you fulfillment and happiness then that's a good use of your time by your own principles. The point is, don't let yourself be used by others. TLDR; don't waste your life doing what other people think you should do: doing stuff with friends that you don't like to do just because you don't want to upset them and think "you should be social", appeasing the culture, following trends to impress people, etc.
Oh Ravi.. You have achieved a lot along the way... I hope you are happy. For me my family is also important. And also the time i spending in making others happy... Because that's where true joy comes from. Otherwise.. Wise words worth following 👍
@@PickingNuggets @Allen Jacob I think Naval includes this point of view in his logic/philosophy of not wasting time. He also said, roughly in his words that "its okay to spend time on what you want to spend time on. Like this periscope video I am making" So spending time with family/service to others gives you happiness and your choice, so I guess it fits well with his philosophy.
@@archak737 yes.. I think as we grow the law of 33 percent.. I forgot who originally quoted it.. But it says.. Spend 33% of the time spent with others on people better than you.. 33% on people like you and 33% on people who are along the way you have already crossed.. There's things to learn from others as well.. Agree?
I was doing this without anybody telling me that is the way without realising this is not so much 'normal' in a society. Only many years after i realised how me leaving dinners and parties in the middle of action was shocking for some people.
How many of you were in a similar situation - at an event, meeting or gathering they felt was utterly pointless, but too polite to leave? Although in defense I have to say sometimes you can make it worthwhile by embracing the situation and making it interesting with action - do something crazy, leave your comfort zone.
@Picking Nuggets Hi I’m from Silicon Valley, Bay Area in California and I just discovered your channel yesterday. I just want to acknowledge that this is a gathering of very valuable gems you are putting together. Please continue this as I am sure many others will begin to follow you as well. PS. I keep replaying the ending of this video because of how soothing the piano / guitar music is. What is the name of the music/song ? 🙏
True. because eventually infinite leverage can make you billions in a single day, but for that stop wasting time and build specific knowledge and judgment instead :))
lol the dude left a blindfolded dinner party. Said he went with his wife too meaning he just left her there. Blindfolded is the best since she was probably talking to him the whole night not even knowing he was gone
"If you are not learning or earning then what the **** are you doing?" should be included in the notes. But now I realize that commenting on any youtube video is a waste of time, unless you are asking a question and you need an answer. Until I am earning 6 figs, I am not going to comment in any youtube video. Mark my words. So, bye for now, I will be busy getting that $$$$$$.00. Please pin this comment. Thanks.
Spend your time earning and learning I agree with that but “do not spend your time making other people happy”? That’s the definition of a selfish person. Life and love are meant to be shared and you have to give up some of your time to others to bring happiness to them. If you don’t want to bring any happiness to others then you could become a monk i and just live in isolation.
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"You are not responsible to make other people happy" Sounds so simple but yet it is the hardest lesson to learn in a marriage. So true. The minute I stopped outsourcing my happiness to my spouse, we became much happier together. So strange how that works.
Thanks for sharing!
Sounds codependant.
Probably the best Life Advice out there!
I agree except sometime we do things to make loved ones happy - just to make them happy.
That is definitely something I thought as well! For me, is about balance instead of going to the extremes. The video I uploaded "Truth & Trust" may be more tuned to this angle
Nah, if you just focus on yourself, you will find yourself becoming happy, which will naturally bring joy to others. Ironically, once you've reached that state, it doesn't quite matter too who the receiver is. Not to sound like a prick, but why should only specific people receive your joy but not others, including strangers?
@@elliotlee9577 Incorrect logic. By this logic, a random stranger should receive the same amount of joy as the person who gave birth to you? Or that the people you don't necessary enjoy being around should receive the same amount of joy as the people you admire and respect?
We take care of ourselves so that we can provide joy to the people we know, like, and respect. Don't jump on the liberal, western bandwagon, drinking the koolaid that everyone is equal. Group think. This is how pigs get slaughtered after their last big meal. That is incorrect logic by any societal and personal standards.
If everyone should be treated with equality, then should you respect the likes of Mother Teresa or Mahatma Gandhi the same way you would a child rapist or a mass murderer? Let's use some common sense here, please. And by the way, you're not being a prick...just a little bit naive when it comes to that line of thinking.
You're welcome ;)
@@theAMi88 groupthink?
More like how the aghoris think.
Yes the people who practice cannibalism.
Why do you think they do it?
Because they want to destroy the separation between good and bad to reach the ultimate.
Extreme? Perhaps.
But perhaps there is a lesson in there.
Loser
I see some people annoyed by the "do not spend your time making other people happy” statement. I assume what he means is that you need to take care of yourself first. That may seem selfish, but if you're giving away all your time to other people there's a good chance you'll end up burnt out and bitter. Especially if you realize people aren't appreciating your efforts. Also, if you just follow his logic it means if doing things for other people, i.e. volunteering at a homeless shelter, truly brings you fulfillment and happiness then that's a good use of your time by your own principles. The point is, don't let yourself be used by others.
TLDR; don't waste your life doing what other people think you should do: doing stuff with friends that you don't like to do just because you don't want to upset them and think "you should be social", appeasing the culture, following trends to impress people, etc.
Well said !
Agreed. I don't think he means to be careless, but rather not to reach... you need to take care of yourself first, then help others.
@@PickingNuggets hey your content is excellent, and the song at the end is very addicting...what's the name of that music/song piece?
Legend has it that Naval’s parents left him in the woods in order to save time from having to raise him.
These last words, I have to inject them in my life!
This is really good advice !!! Wasted time makes you feel wasted !! 😢
Value your time it is all you have
Oh Ravi.. You have achieved a lot along the way... I hope you are happy. For me my family is also important. And also the time i spending in making others happy... Because that's where true joy comes from. Otherwise.. Wise words worth following 👍
Thanks for the comment! Me as well find joy in serving/helping other people
@@PickingNuggets @Allen Jacob I think Naval includes this point of view in his logic/philosophy of not wasting time. He also said, roughly in his words that "its okay to spend time on what you want to spend time on. Like this periscope video I am making" So spending time with family/service to others gives you happiness and your choice, so I guess it fits well with his philosophy.
@@archak737 yes.. I think as we grow the law of 33 percent.. I forgot who originally quoted it.. But it says.. Spend 33% of the time spent with others on people better than you.. 33% on people like you and 33% on people who are along the way you have already crossed.. There's things to learn from others as well.. Agree?
Thank you for sharing ❤
What a legend
I am also very cautious about how I spend my time. But I find it difficult to leave a place when I don't want to. I have to work on that..
1:40 I need to copy that from his book. I don't want to make my friends assume I enjoy something that I don't
Dont waste your time in making other people happy its their business , if you are happy they are happy ! so reliving
Every minute of yours is highly highly precious
Big thank you!!!! ☺❤👏
I was doing this without anybody telling me that is the way without realising this is not so much 'normal' in a society. Only many years after i realised how me leaving dinners and parties in the middle of action was shocking for some people.
Never disappoint me ... 👍
When he speaks, I don't have the courage to put it in 2x.
Next time you see a guy speeding on the freeway, it has to be Naval. He drives fast so he does not like to waste time!
How many of you were in a similar situation - at an event, meeting or gathering they felt was utterly pointless, but too polite to leave?
Although in defense I have to say sometimes you can make it worthwhile by embracing the situation and making it interesting with action - do something crazy, leave your comfort zone.
Agree!
Leave immediately , give no time to Formality, Dont waste time your time is very precious DONT WASTE IT FOR OTHERS !
coi trọng thời gian của bạn là tất cả những gì bạn có
quan trọng hơn tiền của bạn
quan trọng hơn bạn bè của bạn
ghét chờ đợi, ghét lãng phí thời gian
I have a request will you please paste that note part in description 😊
For sure! I'm on a travel until Tuesday so when I come back I will add it :)
Description updated!
whats the background music pls
Song: Before I go
Artist: RKVC
Cheers !
why is the song so sad at the end
Nice move, for that dinner party sounded very ridiculous.
@Picking Nuggets
Hi I’m from Silicon Valley, Bay Area in California and I just discovered your channel yesterday.
I just want to acknowledge that this is a gathering of very valuable gems you are putting together.
Please continue this as I am sure many others will begin to follow you as well.
PS. I keep replaying the ending of this video because of how soothing the piano / guitar music is. What is the name of the music/song ? 🙏
Thank you!! :) , the song is called Before I Go (from RKVC)
My guy leaving his wife at the party to do some periscope 😂
Don't know if I could do that with my broke ass
Anybody knows where I can find these video from Naval?
True. because eventually infinite leverage can make you billions in a single day, but for that stop wasting time and build specific knowledge and judgment instead :))
Where is the original video
Hey! You can check it on the video description
There's no video linkk
Hahaha love it
Where was this? Was this an INSTAGRAM LIVE ?
Periscope!
@@PickingNuggets What is periscope? I got my hands on the whole video but is periscope an app, website, what is it?
I believe is an app! But I have never used it!
@@PickingNuggets No worries. I got to the bottom of it. I assumed you the source from where your content comes from
3:14
lol the dude left a blindfolded dinner party. Said he went with his wife too meaning he just left her there. Blindfolded is the best since she was probably talking to him the whole night not even knowing he was gone
The music part is a bit annoying, cringy at best. Good video though!
Sounds like a cheesy 90s wedding video 😂
what is he drinknig
"If you are not learning or earning then what the **** are you doing?" should be included in the notes.
But now I realize that commenting on any youtube video is a waste of time, unless you are asking a question and you need an answer.
Until I am earning 6 figs, I am not going to comment in any youtube video. Mark my words. So, bye for now, I will be busy getting that $$$$$$.00.
Please pin this comment. Thanks.
Nice. Didnt like the music though.
Thank you Jimi !
I switched to another video and disliked this. When i figured out that he is talking slow and wasting my time...
Spend your time earning and learning I agree with that but “do not spend your time making other people happy”? That’s the definition of a selfish person. Life and love are meant to be shared and you have to give up some of your time to others to bring happiness to them. If you don’t want to bring any happiness to others then you could become a monk i and just live in isolation.
Time more important than your friends? What? You have it wrong my friend, without friends your time is almost useless.
This is why you're poor. keep flipping my burgers.
You are that same person who is probably afraid to live in your own company. Second guess with whom your spending your time with.🤔
Time is more important than low quality friends
Really?!
He sounds rude
Would you rather be polite than successful
Remind me to never invite you to a party