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- A wedding videographer explains the bizarre economics of your big day.
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The attitude of avoiding talking about price makes me furious. It's just disrespectful to the customer.
It's better to say nothing and just shock them with the bill afterwards. They won't complain because they are still in awe of the wedding.
yes that made me so mad!
and it’s gonna waste your time when you tell me you charge $3000 and my budget was $1000. I’ve had this happen on multiple occasions and end up feeling guilty about it even though they are the ones beating around the bush when I just want the price to know if I need to move on.
I have a personal policy when it comes to purchasing anything. If a particular vendor fails to provide a unit price for goods or services where one could reasonably be provided, I will find another vendor. When I'm beginning a project, I build a budget for it. I will end up purchasing from the vendor who gave me a price point out of the gate, because there are no surprises.
A family member of mine is a wedding vendor... They have a price range on their website but they really can't give a proper estimate without knowing exactly what the couple wants, and even then a demanding client can take hours more work than planned after the contract is signed. It's a tricky industry on both sides!
If Americans think their weddings are expensive, wait till you see the Indian ones!
People go bankrupt after them, and I'm not even kidding
Ab Sir True XD
And I'm sure the arranged brides can be quite expensive as well
Guilherme C. actually it's the other way around.
***** but still, they don't care. All that matters is how expensive the wedding was - for most Indians.
Ab Sir the 3 day celebrations?
If you think a wedding is expensive, wait till you get a divorce.
Lmao get a prenup
And pre-nups aren't even legally binding in some countries!
lololololololol
Prenups should come as default in marriages. Opting out of prenup should be a hassle instead of getting one.
MAYBE THAT IS THAT PLAN,HEHE...
my 'ancestors'?? Did she mean my 'descendants'?
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i didn't even notice that Intel now
until*
The pics definitely is of an ancestor.
If you ancestors are unhappy with the choise of you wedding dress, they rise from their graves and claw your eyes out, obviously. Thats why you have to spend at least 2000$ on the dress..
My wedding cost almost nothing. We had a reception at our church (free to book) with just a few snacks for people to come and go whenever they pleased, family made the cake and helped decorate the reception area, and we had a simple wedding breakfast with just close family at an inexpensive buffet restaurant. I have never understood the mentality of spending thousands of dollars on a wedding.
Stijn Van Halen Replace the word smart with cheap and I agree with you!
***** Actually they found that couples who splooge on their weddings have a higher divorce rate
www.cnn.com/2014/10/13/living/wedding-expenses-study/
David Ripplinger Mine too!! in a prom dress at a park. Music via youtube. Gourmet appetizers and fancy cupcakes for 25 people. ;)
+David Ripplinger Friends of mine did a very similar thing. They had the wedding at their church, close friends of the bride let them use their property for the reception, they just had a big marquee with fairly inexpensive decor. The most amount of money they would've spent was on the catering and their clothes (the dresses, suits, etc.). Friends of the husband filmed the whole thing, so they probably got mate's rates on that as well.
+David Ripplinger Smart move, it is never worth getting into debt when you are just starting your life with someone.
And we wonder why millennials don't bother with marriage.
The wedding business is killing the wedding.
Oh, I think it is more to do with millennial seeing too many divorce horror stories. The cost of the wedding itself is the least of their concerns.
carultch it's a concern to me! I've got 35,000 in student loan debt. If I'm getting married it better cost under $2000!
What I mean is that when you look at the cost of the wedding itself, it is a drop in the bucket compared to the lifelong cost of a marriage as a whole. Plus, you have a lot more control over the cost of a wedding than the cost of childcare or court-ordered child/spousal support.
Also marriage itself is kind of useless unless you have some laws wherever you live that gives some benefits for married couples. Other than that it's useless.
Same with children. They wonder why we aren’t having children. It’s expensive to even give birth in the us
In most asian cultures, wedding is where families who wed their children. "show-off" their wealth buy inviting large amounts of people (consists of close relatives, distant relatives, colleagues, families that were brought by the guests, and so on), heck it can even reach to more than 400-ish people came to the wedding event. also renting a big ballroom in hotels or someplace, hiring a reputable catering service, wedding gifts for guests that came to the wedding, music/band, photo/videographer and so on.
All of this can cost up to $100k-$150k and can be even more!
Same with many African cultures.
I think its only white people who don't to that XD
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same in my country, poor families even borrrow money so they can have a "decent" wedding party for their children but it's an unwritten rule that everyone invited to the party has to put an at least "acceptable" sum of money in the pink envelope that contains their invitation letter in the first place and put it in a box at the wedding, other kinds of gifts only optional, you can actually profit from that and people kinda have to pay to go to your wedding so if there is anything they don't like, they'll probably talk about it behind your family's back and everything is just ugly and annoying
Quốc Tiến Hà
yes indeed, I totally forgot the whole envelope with the money inside thing, it's considered a "wedding gift" lol. Most of the time, all the money that were given by the guests only cover some of the costs. I rarely see someone profited from them.
It's funny to see people say "Invite only a dozen" clearly you don't have an Arab or Latin family... Am I Right?
Just invite your immediate family only.
or African
Latin as in ethnically Latin (the descendants of central italian city-states), Italians, Spanish, Spanish-speakers, or Romance language speakers? The whole term is a load of ambiguity.
+robert owuor True
I guess he meant latino (as in from latin america), but italian and spanish people are usually very familiar too.
The 3 biggest rip off industries:
Weddings, Homes and Funerals.
You forgot printers
олен specifically ink cartridges
@@snowpawzvideos and razors (specifically the blade refills)
Brian Johnson
Make that 5. Add healthcare and higher education/student loans.
My husband is a mortician. Go to a family owned business. They will work with you to make sure that it’s affordable.
Your ancestors are going to see your wedding photos? Do you have a time machine, because that is awesome!
I think they meant descendants
+Kennedi Crafter Pshhh
I ain't even see my grandma or greatgrandmother in her wedding dress
overrated
+Catherine Rose ikr
I don't know what the point is.
This may be mean
But they're dead anyway.
Ancestors are those that were here BEFORE you. Descendants are those that will come after. I hope they are all great and that they appreciate all we have done for their benefit, don't you?
Hahahaha
Descendants, right?
And then they divorce afterwards. A huge waste of money! Marriage is way more important than the wedding.
totally agreed!
true lol
But the wedding is important to get married.
+Smellycharly ROBLOX no. no its not. its all a scam like mining companies make us think diamonds are rare when there have mountains of them
Nvm you are right, the only thing needed to get married is a man and a woman and God of course
As a former wedding photographer, I listed the price range on my site. The clients appreciated the transparency and I avoided all the tire kickers.
30k?
You can get a all expenses paid year round vacation with that money...
+Uncrowned And instead you spent it on a party that few people will really remember a year from now.
+krim7 lemme just invite my third cousins current fling
Year round? Maybe a year in a poorer country.
+MJW238 If you do odd jobs here and there and cut cornes money can go a long way
+Tunaland Gaming the point is wedding money could go to something better
Remember the wedding lasts one day but the marriage lasts a lifetime. Save on the wedding and splurge on your marriage ;)
my ex and I got married in the park and had a BBQ afterwards. cost about $500. we divorced 8 years later so I am glad I did not waste 10's of thousands on a silly wedding.
LOL.
Marten Dittmann in a way it’s true lol
Dexxter 😂😂 this is my favourite comment
but she is not tho. LOL
Marten Dittmann
spending money=/=love
Weddings are expensive because society, especially women, have taught young women that being princess for a day is so dang important.
What's wrong with that?
key crum
Because they are not princesses. Ever consider how one sided weddings really are?
For me, it is a major waste of money. The man and woman love each other they can get married for a reasonable cost and put that money towards better use.
+mrbandishbhoir THIS! ALL THIS! I strongly agree with you and OP.
I'm a woman, and I definitely agree. Huge waste of money, the marriage is more importantly than the wedding. Why spend so much money on something that'll last for a day? Just get married at the court house and call it a day..
*important
we did a backyard wedding - 75 people.. wife's dress was from a second hand wedding store - we rented a pizza truck and we hired a dj who was cool to not overcharge.. it cost us under 7k including the dress and my outfit.. everything! we had an excel spreadsheet :)
Awesome....
nice!
pizza?????? really
OneHourShower i love this idea! I Wanna do all the decorations and stuff myself. My mom got married recently and she had a tiny budget and the wedding was still super nice. the only thing Im going to splurge on is an open bar 😂
American channel: Weddings are expensive.
Me: *laughs in Indian*
my ex and I got married in the park and had a BBQ afterwards. cost about $500. we divorced 8 years later so I am glad I did not waste 10's of thousands on a silly wedding.
Are Indian weddings inexpensive thanks to Ethnic tradition?
Edit:
Nope.
People spend half there life savings on wedding 😂
It's actually sad😭😭
It's almost 1-10 lakh rupees (1000 dollar+ basically for middle class people) and if it goes to west, it inflames to
50,000 Dollars, noice.
cause the guest list is your entire bloodline or, and if so otherwise it’ll be an insult to your entire race.
I think that last bit of advice is a good one. Rather than being like "This is what I need, what are your prices?" saying "This is my budget, what can I get with it?" will give a salesperson less of a reason to give you the most expensive thing possible, and make them think of the best thing within those limitations. I used to work for a wireless service provider, and when selling a phone I would always ask them their budget first, because my commission was usually the same no matter what they chose. When the money you make is directly proportional to the money the client is spending, however, you're going to want to do what's best for the business and try and entice them to buy more.
Starting a marriage with a huge (unnecessary) debt doesn't sound smart. It will just create stress and unhappiness later on.
I wonder how much a Red Wedding will cost.
Boogster Su At least $10,000 on the clean up alone.
Boogster Su An arm and a leg.
Boogster Su It cost a kingdom. In cash.
Boogster Su I know it's enough to lose your head over it.
Boogster Su Your first unborn baby...
I don't understand why people think weddings are always expensive. You literally choose how expensive its going to be. It could be $200 if you wanted
The problem here is that the same thing for wedding is more expensive then if it's not related to wedding. Remember when I saw some hair decoration in various colors and it was also very cheap. The seller had like all the colors... except white. The same item, but in white color was available only in wedding specialized shop not far away but ten times more expensie.
Its about the venue. we all want a nice placement for a wedding. but all the venues charge heavily and not a single venue charges less than $2000 for 50-150 guests
Not going to go through all of this ceremonial crap. I'm going to make the honeymoon the actual wedding. And get a drone to photograph and film all of our experiences. Problem solved.
awesome idea.
I wish everyone's like you.
nice! congrats
Weird
Smart choice👍🏻
try a Chinese wedding. you get red packets from guests and this way the it pays for the wedding itself plus you get extras. Chinese are smart :)
True lol
At a nigerian wedding double the fun, u get money sprayed on you and traditional gifts
Then it settles it I'm getting married at a courthouse and throw a small party for friends and family afterwords in the back yard complete with cake I baked myself.
+L. T C. Bet your cakes better anyways
+L. T C. Hey, my wife and I did this 42 years ago. It worked fine.
+chefranden i salute to you sir!
I got married in June and it was very small! I only invited 25 people, the party took place in my in-laws their backyard. Food consisted of fries with Flemish beef stew and the only thing ordered was the dessert table which only was 50 euros). We decorated the place ourselves and my sister-in-law served as the photographer. It was a small and inexpensive wedding but I would never trade it for the big lavish weddings these people in this video have. My advice is just plan the wedding you want and invite the people you want. Who cares if someone gets offended? Someone will end up offended no matter what, at least let it be on your terms.
That’s sweet
My wedding, and dress cost my husband and I about $1,500 for 110 guests. There was no way on earth we were going to start off our lives together in debt by throwing a party for people who would forget every detail the next day. We took a week long honeymoon in an expensive hotel in the mountains of Colorado to celebrate US. We have never been in debt, we travel the world with our son, and wouldn’t change a thing about our wedding day.
Yeah I'mma just use that 30k for vacations and Start ups
plot twist: you dont have those 30k anyways
lmao
If you work and make money your going to make $30k any way what matters is where it goes. I work and I'll be to making that 30k in a couple of months so.. Plot twist that. And last time a checked anything that has to do with money and a contract is business, that is an investment not worth risking to me , but that's my opinion to each his own.
Breaking News no we arent
tip #1: make your own dress or wear your job interview dress same for tux
tip #2: make your own cake
tip#3: learn to make paper flowers
tip#4: you can make beautiful decoration with things from dollar tree
tip#5: go to a courthouse for the actual marriage part and just have an after party
tip#6: Call everyone to see if they would bother attending before sending invites
tip#7: There are plenty of photography students at community colleges who want money and charge less
tip#8: use a small local park as a venue just like people do for birthday parties
Sounds like a sad wedding 😂
@@zozhang7478 But happy weddings literally cost a fortune these days. A marriage would not start well if the couple has to go into debt just for a glorified party.
Heck no!!! 15,000 dollars? In that case I will have a nice little ceremony with family and close friends, i mean close, at my home church. Then rent out an affordable reception hall, maybe one in an inexpensive hotel. Food, cake, fam, friends, dj, photographer, videographer. No extra. That's what I see at weddings. A lot of extra things done for just one day. One main thing for is having flowers as the center pieces to be honest. Guest will be less than 70 people and that's pushing it. Have a cheap wedding and then go somewhere nice for your honeymoon, at least for me that's what I want. I love traveling. You can have a beautiful, cheap wedding.
that's the point of the video...vendors will charge MORE just because you tell them it's for a wedding. i'm a photographer trying to steer clear of the wedding industry, for this exact reason. if i underprice what everyone else does, then people think they aren't getting good photos. You can buy a cheap bouqet of flowers from the grocery store, but a centerpiece for a wedding will cost more. JUST because it's for a wedding. you want to book a venue for 70 people for an afternoon? don't say it's for a wedding (although i dont know if they require that information) because it WILL cost more for the same thing, because it's a wedding. you CAN have a beautiful cheap wedding, but any services you use will cost more than for a same sized party, and anything else you want, you'll need to DIY it.
That's the problem though, usually the "inexpensive hotel" or "affordable reception hall" does not exist. I am from Orlando FL and most places around here just for a reception (no ceremony or catering included) is still a few thousand dollars. It's ridiculous.
Princess Lunar, totally agree. When planning our wedding, we were firstly just going to hire a small marquee and have a backyard wedding, but the price we got quoted for just the hire and set up of the marquee was more than the beautiful wedding venue we ended up going with (who don't often do weddings and therefore their prices weren't crazy high). So our idea of having "a cheap backyard wedding" was pretty quickly extinguished...
Princess Lunar That is ridiculous!! I will find a way to have a cheap but beautiful wedding lol.
Echaka Monjok What You just descibed is considered an expensive wedding, here in Denmark. Usually people go to the ceremony in the Church/City hall (more often than not in a rented dress) and Then heads straight for the couple's home or the local community centre. No photographer. No hotel. No videographer. Wedding decorations made by yourself, a friend or bought for cheap. There's usually 30-50 guests.
For some reason I've always hated economical plots and strategies in general. Makes it feel like you sell a little of your soul or sacrifice some of your empathy for others in order to make greater profit.
+Ricardo Camacho welcome to capitalism :-(.
+Joseph Ang I don't want a good product at low price, I want a good product at normal price and I want you to believe in what you're selling and help me. I'm a software salesman. I don't try selling our software, I try helping the people who I believe would most benefit from the software. As a bonus I get a sale from that, but my main goal isn't selling, It's helping others. A purchase still happens, we still need an exchange in value so the world keeps spinning, but it becomes a different thing when you apply reasonable prices to your product and seek to help others rather than trick or fool or use psychology to encourage other human beings to purchase your overpriced stuff. That's dishonest and only cripples our social development as an empathic and kind race.
+Ricardo Camacho you are a sweet sweet man. marry me
+bluefavorites that will cost $30,000
honestly, if you can afford it, why not? I don't see any reason to shame a couple who wants to go full out, same goes to those that don't.
I don't think there's a need to shame, so long as the choice is informed!
There's a bit of an inverse relationship between the amount spent on wedding and the length of a marriage, unfortunately. If we are looking to stick to those marriage vows then encouraging people to curb a little might not be a terrible idea. (source: papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2501480)
Interestingly having lots of guests is correlated with longer marriages as well, so courthouse/elopement might not be ideal either :D balance!
(And of course there's the fact that every few thousand dollars might save/radically change the life of someone less wealthy, which is worth considering....)
The problem is pressure to do more than you can afford. I had a friend that I had to talk out of getting a loan for her wedding. No one should feel like they should be going into debt to put on a celebration. But some people do. And it's not good for the relationship
I agree
@@heyerj I agree
Have you just said: If you can afford to be scammed by wedding industry, why not?
REALITY CHECK: Weddings do NOT have to be so damn expensive. All you *have* to pay for is the marriage license, which costs around $20 - $100, depending on where you live. Everything else (the rings, ceremony, gown, suit, food, afterparty, etc) are things *you* choose to purchase and you are under no obligation to spend a certain amount on any of it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
One of the reasons I loved my florist is that when she saw pictures of what I want see immediately warned me about the prices of the flowers. We then talked about substitutes for the really expensive ones so I could get the look without the cost. That kind of thinking and consideration of my budget is why I recommend them to everyone in my area. And the flowers were great! But she was one of the only people who were honest and upfront about price.
Well.... better than the funeral industries.
Also a "once in a lifetime" experience (literally) but the cost of caskets, embalming and services are super high with no reason being why. The funeral industry is basically a cash cow. This industry target extremely unstable and emotionally vulnerable just like the wedding industry (yes, i just said wedding couples are unstable. Its true sometimes!) to get a shit ton more cash. There's a circle called Greed in hell just for them.
That's what cremation is for lol I'm not going to burden my children with a funeral cost and an expensive as hell box.
Kevin Jones or donate your body to science
I'm going to build my own casket and buy a simple block of granite. I'll have my children bury me in the back garden, and they can carve and etch the stone in whatever way they like, using the stone working skills I taught them. I will live in a way that hopefully gives them a reason to make a beautiful headstone.
@@hamnchee in some countries that would be illegal.
It is because it is embarrasing to argue about cash in front of your spouse on your wedding day.
I'm so glad I didn't make the big mistake of paying $31,000 on my wedding. My husband and I only spent about $3500 on our small, DIY church wedding and only invited families and friends. It might not have been the grandest wedding, but we had the time of our lives. Honestly, the way I see it, what makes a wedding day memorable is finally being able to marry the love of your life and being surrounded by the people that truly matter. People spend thousands, sometimes even millions, of dollars to have their dream wedding, only to divorce soon after. In the end, it's the quality of your marriage that matters not the quantity you spend on your wedding day.
My fiancé and I had set a budget of $4000 for our Harry Potter themed wedding thinking 'yeah that should be enough'. Little did we know looking for vendors that our entire budget would be the down payment for one place. At first we thought 'are we crazy, but does $4000 for a single vender sound too much?' After watching this video we realized that 'YES' it was too much. We think it's absolutely horrible that certain vendors take advantage of new couples just because we drop the 'W' word. Going into shopping for the rest of our wedding, (were still in the process of planning it), we are supper careful when using that word, and now we know the truth of why they are so expensive.
p.s. Still considering elopement as an option!
Maybe do a wedding like the one in harry potter at the weasley's house where there is a tent outside? That wedding was super pretty!!!!
Both my parents have been married several times and they've gotten cheaper prices from caterers and other vendors by calling the event a "party" rather than a wedding, some companies really do take advantage
we needed a hotel room for after the wedding before we left for our honeymoon. we asked for the wedding night package (whatever it was called) which was supposed to include stuff like rose pedals, champagne, candles, late check-out, his and her robes, etc.. the hotel didn't do any of that so I figured ok they just put us down for a normal suite and ordered a bottle of champagne via room service. next morning they slid the paper under the door at normal time and when we went to checkout they still charged us the special wedding price like 300 buck MORE than a normal suite. unbelievable.
petal*
pedal= bike
That's just sad.
Well, my husband and I spent maybe $3000 for our wedding, and honestly, it was just as amazing as those $25,000 weddings. Heck, my wedding dress was $750 alone.We didn't get a wedding planner, we were only engaged for 6 months, and it went really smoothly. Both our families were involved and helped out a lot and we were able to find amazing deals. It may be my inner cheap Mennonite heritage coming out, but I think people really don't need to spend so much on a wedding.
I wonder how many people get divorced why they are STILL paying off the wedding? OUCH that's gotta suck
I rather have one of those backyard home weddings
many years ago, my girlfriend was planning her wedding and she noticed when she called around for prices if she said it was for "a party" the prices were quite a bit lower than if she said it was for "a wedding" for the same exact thing.
Weddings are a ripoff, why spend all that money when there's student loans and mortgages to be paid?
you can go get married at the town hall for less than $100. Nobody ever said you have to invite 100 people to your wedding and spend $30,000. it's your choice.
lol 120-115 ppl wedding? lol that's less than half the helpers involve in an average Indian wedding.
+Indian Anime Guild True, my sis went to a cousin's wedding and there were soooo many relatives in the pictures but it looked awesome.
LMAO true my sisters wedding had 1,000+ guests and 200ish workers
Best 4 Less yeah exactly. Not to mention that Indian weddings take place for days and the preparations start 1/2 months before the wedding.
@@shravastisarmah5363 1-2 months ? more like 6 months lol
The most un-original comment in the comment section:
"Save your money, don't get married."
which is complete bullshit because you'll spend that money anyway on some other stupid thing
lol down payment on a house? business start up? investments? you kid's college fund? a long honeymoon? a new car? "stupid things"
Marriage is basically a scam
A difference between not getting married and not having a wedding. Getting married at a court house is under $100. Weddings are the expensive thing. Unfortunately people think if you get married you have to have a wedding.
Silver Linings Un-original maybe, but still true.
Unpopular opinion down below, if you get upset then sorry ⬇⬇⬇
Weddings are highly unnecessary. Tons of money, making a hundred people come see it, some words and a kiss, immense pressure. Another reason humanity is very unintellectual. What does it do for you? A little less than half of married couples are unhappy with their relationship at some point in the future. Going to a fancy restaurant (or your house if your comfortable with that), having yourselves a feast, and having a close friend ask those magical questions would be much better
How is that unpopular,
Everyone here thinks the same.
You know what I'm going to do,have a nice dinner at my house,
And we make dishes together or apart,
And then we put them on the table and try out the dishes,
Then we go to city hall.
Yes. It's just a really expensive dinner party
PREACH
Clearly it was worth it for those other half of married couples.
I also think you mean "wedding reception". A wedding is basically a contract between two people. Yes, a piece of paper.
c4
Absolutely
did anyone else think the intro was an ad?
In business, that's called “catering to your costumer.”
+princess jellyfish I love your profile pic and name!!!! ^-^
I was waiting for the ad finish
Screw weddings , why in the hell are funeral so damn expensive! I think they prey on the families . Same as they do for weddings.
all about FEELINGS! So what is the price for YOUR feelings?
Lady Hawk yes! I watch a lot of morticians on TH-cam lol they always talk about how funeral homes pressure families to embalm the deceased for viewing without giving alternatives
3:14
If there's ever one picture your ANCESTORS have of you, it's the one in your wedding dress.
Man, I wish my ancestors had photos of me. Maybe I should mail some back to 1758...
Maybe ancestors up to two or three generations up...
We spent under $1000 (including our clothes, rings, licences and everything) to elope at the courthouse in NYC. It was great and we had fun!
I spent $0 and didn't get married. It was great and we had fun!
sorry, in America it is not "once in a lifetime".
Not just America now. Unfortunately
My wife and I got married by the justice of the peace at the courthouse. It cost $75. We bought no flowers, no new clothes, no cake, no reception hall, no wedding planner, no professional photographer, no DJ, no catering and we didn't fly anybody in from out of town. We JUST GOT MARRIED. We wanted to be able to focus on getting our mariage right, rather than obsessing over the details of just one day. Not only did we save ourselves a ton of money, we saved ourselves a ton stress!
I bought a long white lace dress from TJ Maxx for like 30 bucks and got married in that. Didn't stick out at all because people don't wear those poofy dresses from the 90s anymore. The wedding dresses of today are just white, long cocktail dresses.
Now, people WANT to spend that money on that dress. They want to feel "special". Of course the woman who asked for a 5000 dollar diamond ring won't feel special with a cheap dress. It has to cost more than anyone else's dress in the room. I understand that and respect that. If you feel good doing that, hey who am I to talk.
What I am trying to say is, it isn't just the fault of the companies that mark up the prices and rip you off. People want to be told that what they are wearing that day is incredibly special. And they actually want to pay a very big amount to feel like they got what they were looking for.
My wedding was under $1k. I refuse to participate in this ridiculous cultural status-flaunting ritual. It was beautiful and fun and that is all you're gonna care about in 20 years. Also, the rest of my life with my spouse is more valuable and important than one day. I will have happier days I spent $0 on!
As a photographer, I do charge extra for weddings. A few reasons why as well as how I set my prices
1) I know their budget is higher as the event. I plan my prices based on overall budget of an event. The impact is minimal, but it is there. The local band will pay less than the big AAA.
2) I don't charge by the hour. I charge one off fees, tax included. So I want to know exactly what you want, and base myself accordingly. I will provide what was agreed upon and nothing more. Weddings demand more. You have specific moments that needs shooting, client usually wants the photos on an album, etc etc. The more work there is to do, the more you'll pay. If I feel there's going to be more than you initially ask for, I'll quote higher. Gonna avoid the annoying "U didn't pay me enough for that" moments.
3) Weddings are not fun. Simple. You get a discount if I get to enjoy the event. The more professional I need to be, the more I charge. And oh god are weddings rigid and professional. Compare that to a concert/nightclub where I get AAA pass, +1 invite for my friends and free booze from the backstage minibar and you wonder why the price doubled.
4) To quote the CEO of Luxotica "everything is worth what people are willing to pay". Photographer isn't that well paying, so i'll grab every penny I can by charging as high as I can. That's simple business. Rule of thumb is, if you get a job too easily, you're priced too low.
5) Finally, time of the event. If I have to re-schedule or cancel something, I'll add extra for it. High demand hours where I know I almost always get booked, or vacation times will cost more. Book me on April 20 (By bday) Halloween, Xmas, NYE or the day of a festival I planned to go to and it will be astronomical.
I don't up charge by thousands. But hundreds can easily rack up.
So, your wedding, Assuming it's 50 miles from where I live, with a 3 hour shoot and 200 photos with basic editing. would go as follow.
Travel £50 (50p per mile, return included)
Hours x3 £300 (Base of 100 per hour)
Proper photoshoot and portraits, £50 per portrait.
Book or album. £25+ price of printing.
Price of all materials at your expanse. Includes film rolls, processing, polaroids etc if you want those.
Your photos done in 24 hours is an extra £50 or more depending on the when, else it's 5 business day.
Then there is a + or - 25 to 50% ish on the price depending on how demanding you'd be. The less formal, the more free food and champagne I get, the cheaper I go. If I have to follow a tight schedule and strict guidelines, that's extra. On the extreme, I will charge you for the dry cleaning of my tux if I have to wear one.
On a standard pricing, I do a shared rights license. Meaning You and I own all rights to the images and I can use them for promotional purposes. In practice it means I'll use 10 photos (including 2 portraits) on my website and social media as a way to promote myself and enlarge my portfolio. If you refuse that and want to be the sole owner of all rights, there is a 100% extra fee to the shoot.
Editing and taxes included.
I gather all of this over the phone or emails and would give you quoted. So for you.... that'd be in the 400. Or 800 for all rights transferred to you+raw files.
I don't every want to get married, but I think its unfair for people to judge others on what they spend for their wedding (providing the couple can afford it). I mean, even though the idea of marriage to me is ghastly, I still understand that for others its very important and their wedding day is expected to be one of the highlights of their entire life, surely that justifies a couple trying to make it as perfect for them as possible, and that means high costs are almost always inevitable.
There's a bit of an inverse relationship between amount spent on wedding and length of marriage, unfortunately, so if we are looking to be wedded forever then encouraging people to curb a little might not be a terrible idea. (source: papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2501480)
Interestingly having lots of guests is correlated with longer marriages as well, so courthouse/elopement might not be ideal either :D balance!
You must be dirtpoor. Lol
Or, get married and don’t have a wedding. Just get legally married.
@@kittypixie.x You don't even have to do that
Hey, thanks for that! As a wedding vendor I’d like to add that besides we get more work as you explained, in my point of view there’s a key factor that goes within the price: operations.
The team that we need to set for a wedding has always to be way more experienced that a regular gathering. Because you don’t have the right to do any mistakes. You HAVE to be PERFEC to achieve a bride expectation and that’s ok, it’s in the job description of a wedding vendor!
You have to set a perfect plan B as well, there’s more risk of being sued (yes!), and all of this comes with a cost.
Of course we have to nail in any event. Everyone deserves to get what they’re paying for. I’m just pointing that brides always need more attention, vendors get more responsibility and a lot more of expectations to achieve. The prices are a fair reflection of all that.
My dad married my step-mom the second month of getting to know her in a courthouse. They married right after my dad got off from work. He wore simple clothing, and he had bought her a simple dress and cheap rings. Small family dinner at a family member's house after the courthouse and that was it. They have been married since 1995 and still going strong. My husband and I didn't care to get married legally but we eventually did after 7 years at the courthouse. We had no rings, I had no dress and it was done right after my husband got off from work. We had no dinner after...nothing. We are still married and have been together since 2008. Remember that a marriage license is a legal piece of paper that doesn't guarantee your marriage will be successful. We always advise to go as simple as possible because if you focus on materials, you take away from the true meaning of marriage which is LOVE.
How great this is to have you, from within this business, come with such a truthful depiction of what is going on and give such honest, blunt advice for future brides and grooms. Thank you. It would be hard to explain here, but this brings me a lot of comfort. I had my wedding last year, in the fall, and it was quite the battle breaking through the marketing techniques to respect my budget.
Nothing destroys marriages more than the wedding industry.
Actually, some study suggests that there's a correlation between money spent on weddings and divorce rate--the more money spent, the higher the chance of divorce.
I can see that. Most couples argue about finances , and if a wedding was beyond their means.. I can see it leading to a divorce. I believe a nice celebration can happen, but people need to be realistic to what their budgets are.
If your Indian or Bengali, you know how huge weddings are and how much of a big deal it is. You have to invite cousins whom you've probably never met before and never will and all those relatives and even multiple events.
Our wedding was pretty modest, planned for 150 people, located in a small town venue, did our own taco bar from Costco, bought flowers from a farmers market, etc. and it was still $10k. Even “cheap” weddings with more than just your immediate family are expensive!
My wedding cost less than $6,000. I bought my dress online (8 months in advance just in case), it was a bbq style reception so I DIYed some mason jar center pieces that had wet wipes and condiments, all of the decor I made by hand. We got married at a Trap Falls in Townsend MA (look it up, it's beautiful) next to the waterfall, and had the reception at my parents house in NH. The most expensive thing was the food, which was about $2,500 for 125 people, and we did a pig roast which was a huge hit. Next most expensive thing was renting the two tents and tables and chairs , which was about $2,000. When I called into book all of the tents, tables and chairs, I did not tell him it was for a wedding, I told them that it was for a family gathering. Because when I called in a week earlier and told them it was for a wedding (for a price quote) they quoted me $4,000. I used to work in a cake shop and I kept in contact with the owner, who gifted us our wedding cake. My dress alteration was done by a family friend as a present too. All in all, we had an unforgettable day, and walked away debt free. We still get messages about how much people loved our wedding compared to other weddings people have been to. It was so much fun the caterer even came back and partied with us when he was done
This is the second or third video that TH-cam has recommended about how expensive weddings are. Like TH-cam is trying to discourage me from having a wedding at all 😭😭
An average Muslim wedding (Qitab) ranges from $1,500-$2,000 for the entire thing. The most expensive thing would mostly likely the mahr (agreement to the bride from groom) itself. The food is probably made the family, and the Imam (Priest) could be free. Mine was really cheap and my mahr was $1,000.
I love the idea that the food is made by the family. It really is a big family party in that case. It's so personal. Nowadays, in bigger cities, for example, where everything is "go go go", it's harder to do that. For us, food was the most expensive thing. We kept the whole thing under 10 000$, but - I mean, me 10 000$, you 1000$ ... heh.
My wedding is in April and with budget of 6,000 we are still 1,000 under budget right now because we refuse to go in debt...DIY is my best friend along with help from family and friends
India has the lowest amount of divorce rates because dude you can't clearly afford another wedding unless you are hella rich. And for those people who don't know Indian weddings can go on for days, 3 days minimum.
Because women want to be a princess/queen for a day. There I just saved yall over 4 mins. You're welcome.
- Sincerely, a woman...who labels herself a queen. DAMN IT EVEN I'M NOT IMMUNE!
Lol
When I get married. I'm getting married in the room/building where we first met. Then we all head home and my mom makes the guest some jerk chicken and we are done for the day/night
+Kennedi Crafter
I have no intention of getting married or even being in a relationship but that sounds really sweet and a lot more special than a standard expensive wedding. I hope you're able to do that one day :)
+Kennedi Crafter you forgot the wedding sex
+The Dynast Queen I'm preparing myself for the wedding, I'm a very pragmatic guy who would go very cheap if I could, but it's her day and I'll bite the bullet.
and then some people don´t go, and you see all that great food going to waste T_T that´s the real tragedy...
Digmer
You know nothing about weddings, or parties in general. There’s a thing called RSVP, it works.
@@parisin45 some weddings and parties don't use that concept, you know
I got married in 2013 at a country club for less than $5000, including the stuff I didn’t pay for such as tuxedo rental and bridesmaid dresses. 50 guests. No one believed how cheap it was. My advice, shop around and be flexible.
I worked for a caterer for 19 years. We did NOT charge extra for different kinds of events.
We were an off-site caterer, meaning we took food to the place where the event was being held-few event halls have complete kitchens.
This means everything, every plate, fork, glass, steak, and appetizer had to be:
Picked out of the warehouse or refrigerator via a packing list, then double checked
Loaded on the truck at our shop.
Driven to the event hall.
Unloaded from the truck and taken inside the event hall.
Unloaded from the bin, racks, and transport boxes, etc., and distributed as needed.
Tables had to be erected, then set.
Food finalized (stuff was cooked in our kitchen, but apps had to be re-heated, arranged on plates, etc.)
** The party happens. **
Then everything had to be loaded back into transport boxes
Reloaded on the truck.
Driven back to the shop.
Unloaded from the truck
Washed
Placed back into storage containers.
Restored in the warehouse.
That is a LOT of handling. And someone has to pay for it.
So, why don't catering halls have kitchens and staffs to prepare the food and handle all the stuff? It would save a lot of handling?
Simple. Most event halls only do 1 event a week, maybe 2 in the busy season. And 70% of the business is on Saturday.
How do you hire cooks, warehouse people, dishwashers, and especially servers for 1 days week. These people need to work a 4-5 day week like everyone else. They can't work at more than one event hall, because they are all rented out at the same time, Saturday afternoon and evening, 70% of the time. So we had a full-time kitchen and warehouse staff, and the servers worked part-time.
BTW, one way to save $$ on events, especially weddings, is to do them off season. The Season varies by area, so ask around for when the slow season are, and see if you can get a discount. Also, someplace give discounts on Sunday weddings.
My teacher got married in Las Vegas...in a drive thru wedding ceremony for like $50
Drlittleman23 Is your teacher Britney Spears?
+Drlittleman23 Is your teacher still married? xD
M4d Alex yes. Hes about 60.
Hey Anne Barge, my ancestors are never going to look at photos of me... BECAUSE I WASN'T BORN YET. I'd be wary of purchasing wedding products from someone who gets recorded in an interview about their products using antonyms for what they really mean. Lolz.
Hahaha had to go back and re-listen to hear her say "your ancestors" when she really means descendants! Wow! Good catch!
We spent about 5.000 euros for our wedding in Greece ( for 100 guests ), which was a really good price since most people spend around 20 to 30.000 euros. We got all our money back, since we asked for money as a wedding gift because we didn't need any more stuff to fill the house. We did some diy stuff but not a lot, since the hotel where we had the reception covered the food, the service and the cake. Even if I had a ton of money I wouldn't spend so much money for just a day. We still had a great wedding day and we didn't go broke. Also part of the money we got back from the wedding we will spend to go to Bali for our honeymoon!
We're planning our wedding, and we're presenting it as a family gathering to vendors to get a better price. Also, if you stall or are evasive on pricing, it sounds a loud and clear message to us that your prices are steep, and we move on to the next vendor. This has been especially true for DJs. If any vendor beats around the bush for pricing, we view it as unprofessional, and it makes us feel like they're trying to figure out how much we can afford and milk us for it. We already had a couple vendors at a wedding show try this. The prices we were quoted for DJs, photographers, etc., would have been enough to feed a village in Africa for a year. Or pay for our honeymoon.
We're getting married for $4k. We are doing as much as we can on our own, we have friends and family who are helping with ushering, catering, and photography. We're planning everything out ourselves, and we're shopping for the best deals. So far, we're coming in way under budget. Destination lakeshore wedding, large venue for the reception, beautiful invites, professional photographer, delicious buffet style catering with a WIDE variety of foods from around the world, open bar WITH a bartender, 80 guests, all under $3k so far.
The honeymoon is a different story... We're at $4k and counting... XD Caribbean with a Spa Stateroom, 3 ports, excursions at each port, unlimited drinks package, extra days at the beginning/end port for extra stuff, and we intentionally grabbed flights with 8+ hour layovers so we can see two extra cities and spend a day in them. Even with all that, I'm hitting every sale, every deal, and I used a miles credit card to book first class tickets to and from for free. ^_^
You can get married for under $30k like one couple we know did, under $10k like another we know, or under $5k like we're doing. It is possible. You just have to be willing to hunt down the deals, cut some of the extras, and recruit friends and family to do what they can. In 5 years, your guests are going to remember very little about the specifics of your wedding. The only thing that stands out about any wedding I have been to is one had horrible food, and another I had a lot of fun dancing. Everything else was lost to time. Spend money on what is important, skimp where it doesn't.
Being a millennial I've already thought about it just in case I decide to get married with a party, and one thing is certain: I'm not telling people that I'm planning a wedding.
I could book a venue for a "celebration" and it would cost less than a wedding.
It would cost less to commission a "princess dress" over buying a premade wedding dress, if it's even something I want to keep (what use will I have of it afterwards?).
I could get a cooler and rarer stone in a ring for less than a diamond.
I could get catering and an open bar for a "party" and it would cost less.
In the end I'd rather plan it out so we could spend less on things like a venue, but more on fun stuff for our guests (like an open bar) and a honey moon
when i got married, it wasn't that expensive. i got a cheap beautiful wedding dress from david bridal. photographer was someone my in laws knew. cater was someone the in laws knew and we did the ceremony and reception in one location for cheap. honeymoon was covered.
also our cake was bought by a family friend so we didn't have to pay for it. just find the kind we wanted.
+janitza ayala I know David bridal's,that place is really nice dresses.
A reason I read online was that wedding cakes are typically made differently than regular cakes. Wedding cakes have to sit, usually in un-ideal conditions, for long periods of time. Also, a delivery is preferred so it won't get damaged in transit
the biggest reason for my pricing as photographer is that there are so few days of the year we can possibly work. editing, client acquisition, advertising. It's a full time job. So you have to max out your potential earnings on each wedding. And unlike "family gatherings " weddings are way more stressful.
As someone who worked in weddings for years, I can't agree that people are getting ripped off because they are unaware. It's not that hard to do a little research and there are SO many ways to save money and keep things classy and elegant. The people that lose sight of the meaning of a wedding or are really, really lazy are the mostly the ones who spend thousands and thousands of dollars. The best weddings I've worked are the ones who were chill, happy, kept things simple, and invested in the most important aspects.
Pssh please have y'all seen a brown wedding? At least costs 3x more than the ones in this video.
+Sam Saad As a brown person, it is of a great deal of shame that our culture is so fixated on appearances. Can't just invite the maybe 100 people you like, it has to be the 500 you see once every 3 years.
SpadesHeart I agree. I hate how loud and extravagant our weddings are. I find weddings like the one in the video are so sophisticated and they only invite close friends and family.
+Sam Saad A brown wedding?
+Nido Hime Middle and south east Asian. Heck maybe just Asian in general
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When I get married, I’m just going to go to city hall to sign papers, then go for a celebratory drink
I once witnessed a wedding party at a night club in a sea resort. Their bachelor/bachelorette parties were at the beach the same morning, then probably went to have a regular reception, and partied the whole night in the club. I'm sure it was less expensive than the standard way.
I do not understand why everybody just " gets married" and thinks they have to have this costly wedding. Seriously, you dont have to rent some giant ballroom, have everybody dress like penguins, buy a stupid giant cake and the likes. Just meet all your friends and family at a park and have a picnic, or throw some chairs and food in the back of a car and drive up to the top of a mountain. That would be much cooler and cheaper.
Traditional weddings are silly
I tried convincing my parents to make my sister's wedding more low-key/casual...no such luck :/
They have difficult to pay the flat/house, but forget about the $20000 lost by the weeding.
weddings aren't expensive....people choose to blow too much cash because they aren't being realistic.
In India an average wedding costs around 65k and lasts for 2-3 days.We usual have around 300-500 guests, because it is a once in a lifetime event (divorce is very very rare) which is meant to be enjoyed with all family members and have a good time.
Oh my god. When they brought out the supply-demand graph I lost it.
-Sincerely, an economics major
That's why I'm eloping and spending the money saved on an amazing vacation and maybe a down payment for a house.
In some parts of my country, weddings are a 3 to 5 days of party. This parties tend to be huge with a lot of family, friends and even strangers coming and the couple have to give them a place to stay but also food, drink and music all day. It seemed to me a huge spending just to entertain but there was a catch. In between the dancing and presentation of musicians, the couple will start to present and open the gifts, the bigger were the first to be opened and things like refrigerator, TV, a set of couches, etc. Someone even gave them papers for a new house and another gave them a car in those gift openings. It was really an spectacle to stay just to see what was going to show up next . And get as much people as possible drunk. Then came things like the guests forming a circle with the couple dancing in the center, with drunk guests randomly approaching the couple to put money in their clothes, and all I could see was bills of at least 50 dollars of worth covering them. That's the trick, you have to approach the couple at some point, if you don't put bills, it would seem you are a stingy person in front of the crowd. And that's how I lost a lot of money that week but it was entertaining and amazing to see that after this wedding, the couple is all ready to start their new life with everything they need.
wedding wire is AMAZING! I reach out to multiple vendors offering the same thing and I am able to compare prices pretty well!! Having a LUXURIOUS wedding for 4,000 for 150 guests
I had a small Asian wedding, most extended family were not invited. 80ppl on the wedding evening. Total cost £5k and we had it in London. 3 day event. I did a lot of things myself, hand made decorations etc family and friends helped, friends made my flowers and did my photos, it’s how I kept the cost down. Main point is you don’t have to be OTT!
Historically, wedding comes from religion concept, if you're not religious people (atheist/agnostic) and live in western countries, Why bother??? I know there is _marriage without religious content carried out by a government institution_. But, what for? commitment? prevent breakups? parenthood? There are so many marriage failures out there. In certain (eastern) countries yes the procedures are needed for having a child at least.
Anone Kun Social structure and balance in the household? Can't have people screwing each other and having kids with a bunch of short termers.
In Islam .. wedding have to be simple not 1 million the table...
But the way the pricing discussed in the video talk about how the economic runs the wedding industry. their'S nothing on religion here...
My partner and i spent less than 10k aud total on ours. 60 guests. We had our reception in a private garden of one of our favourite resturants in the middle of our city. It was secluded and cut off from public and traffic noises. I had made a playlist sutible for a chill dinner and party afterwards. With the help of the resturant manager we set up tables, chairs, speakers and whatnot ourselves, no fuss. Simple Australian native greens for decerations, skipped the traditional cake but opted for donuts from our favourite bakery. Do what makes you happy, we did and our dream wedding didnt break our bank account one bit.
Cheap rings, wore sentimental clothes, did my own makeup and nails, eloped at a civic center and was married by a county clerk. My friend and her husband were witnesses. She's a professional photographer and took our pictures and her husband took video for us. A couple of relatives invited themselves, much to our displeasure, it was supposed to be me the groom and the witnesses, but whatever. After the ceremony we went to a nice lakeside sushi restaurant for dinner, then went home. Still married after all these years and we didn't have to start our married life with stress, strife, or debt. Absolutely NO regrets. As modest as it was, it was still beautiful and memorable and I still cherish the photos and memories. You don't need to spend a fortune to be happy.
Me and my husband got married at the court house and spent our money on our house car and honeymoon and our rings. as for photos for once in a lifetime pics we did get wedding photos but I got them done free because I'm a model and know photographers
My wedding cost $2k and I thought that was too much
Hooow!
@@alejandratorres8580 lol I planned it myself and didn’t get super expensive stuff. Our officiant was a friend and we didn’t go to a church
My cousin is a party planner and I help her with some of her projects so I understand some of the time, effort, and energy that goes into events, let alone weddings. If you're having a large gathering, expect a big price cause you have to worry about food, supplies, decorations, and so much more if it's a wedding. But there are a lot of swindlers out there so you have to be careful.
The expensive wedding is a total scam. Imagine what you could do right now with an extra $30,000. Pay off some debt? Buy a new car? Put a down payment on a house? I guarantee you aren't thinking about throwing a one time party/religious ritual/family reunion get together where you only like 5-10 of the 200 people attending, that will be an absolute nightmare to plan and which you won't even be able to enjoy because of how much it stresses you out.