I learned to let others be who they are and I had to fight not wanting to fix them! Let it be!!! I had to fight my own empathy for them and stop the need to pour into them to make them feel better. And take care of myself first.
Something,,, Iyanla said in an older video was a game changer for me . ' YOU get to CHOOSE, wether or not you want to participate in the relationship and HOW you will participate in the relationship. If there is an issue , address it, if cant be fixed , set healthy boundries or walk out the door .
@@erica679because of your comment, I rewatched this video and it was a nice reminder , she does state the point, you are correct, I realized that because of certain " roles" that people play in my life I expected them to treat me a certain way, instead of being honest with myself and looking at the nature of relationship and choosing if I want to participate, sometimes circumstances make it a challenge and I guess that's were the boundaries come in. I wish you all the best on your journey 🙏
@@injoyinmyself2018 yes, I agree with you I think a lot of my issue is expectations and not accepting the reality of the relationship. I wish you the best on your journey as well ❤️
Amen.. I’m understanding that people may have different beliefs, and they see things differently. I working on seeing people as God sees them. No more judging .
Amazing - Message of a reminder if known OR just learned now is "beware of your playlist" we have in our minds, what is being done to "me' is what we have deep inside our souls. POWERFUL !! Thank You Iylana and so glad you have your own stream shows, genuinely you are one of the best life teachers ever.
IYANLA!!! This is why I adore you so much... ((HUG)) I say my prayers and then you deliver the words I need to hear. I appreciate you more than I can ever express. Thank you for being my angel.
Wow, I'm only at 7:01 of this and all I can think of is she right, I focus on others rather than myself as a distraction and I do need to be more understanding compassionate it's just I need to be that to myself and that's what's so hard forgiving myself for real for believing other people were responsible for seeing my hurt lost and wounds because I been ignoring them like everybody else 😞 it's time to focus on myself and what I can do to be a better me and to heal the trauma I suffered at my owe hands. Thanks Ms. Ivanla for reminding me what I was not accepting and loving; myself.
Thank you, Iyanla.😊 I needed this lunch break moment of positivity. I admit to being guilty of negative thoughts as well. Yes, I agree that we should be mindful of our triggers.
Amen to alllll this! When you feel something is off or you see blatant toxicity, take your leave. A queen always plans their escape and no one needs to know your plans. Just do it, while also self reflection. “Don’t be afraid to set boundaries & cut people off” without explanation bcuz NO is a complete sentence🙏🏾❤️🔥💝
Don't be afraid of creating boundaries dont be afraid of cutting ties I learned that letting others be who they are and what the opinions are and how they want to act in their behavior does not mean that I need to change anybody it just means that they are moving and they are operating in the perspective of they know how but I do get to choose how I be in relationship with people
This is so good Ms. Iyanla, I really need to hear this. Your insight on this is so different than what I expected. You’re actually telling me to look at me and sometimes it’s hard to face the reality of what I need to face
I love it. Thank you sis. The big picture for me is. I see myself in this narrative. So I will stick right there and see ME while I check myself. Correct me and APPLY the word of God in my life. Like Michael Jackson’s song IF I WANNA MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE, TAKE A LOOK AT MYSELF AND MAKE A CHANGE. Amen.
Your message is so clear, and I never even saw it the way you speak and clarify things just becomes a new awareness to me and I want to thank you for sharing your experience strength and hope and I love the fact the way that you speak I learned a lot from you keep talking and please keep sending the message that you’ve always sent all about love and especially loving ourselves. I love you.
I used to be around lots of negative people back in 2019,2020,and 2021.I have decided to set boundaries between they and I in 2022!😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😍😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜☺☺☺
This message came right on time! I am having a tough time policing my thoughts, myself when I am made to feel uncomfortable or vulnerable for harm as a result of other's actions. This is some hard work! But I'm thankful for this because I have observed myself as being both polar opposites of the types of people Ms. Iyanla described! I really have been traumatized and so I am pretty much" trigger happy" 😩. I am trying my best to be healthy spiritually, mentally and have good intentions towards others despite my trust issues. 🙆🏾♀️ Im trying.
Thank you for these words. We are using the program Character Strong and your quote about giving yourself permission to feel all the emotions is one we were focusing on this week. I am having my middle schoolers listen to this video as a follow up. Thank you for your positivity that you share out to all.
Iylana I remember you being around my grandparents I'm healing from trauma and you use to be my Healthy Start caseworker I am so very proud of you this is Bernadette Parker I told you that you was going to do something big look at now I am so proud of you
*#*I PRAY THE UNIVERSE GRANT YOUR HEARD DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX THROUGH THE GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR DANIEL, WHO HELPED ME RESTORED MY BROKEN HOME. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE*#*##?
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I learned to let others be who they are and I had to fight not wanting to fix them! Let it be!!! I had to fight my own empathy for them and stop the need to pour into them to make them feel better. And take care of myself first.
THIS! Amen.
AMENNNN🙏🏿
I’m taking my a screenshot of your message! Thank you
God bless Angel
This comment was SO on point and on time thanks for sharing that sis
the amount of work you done on yourself is a reflection in your ability to accept people's humanity.
Something,,, Iyanla said in an older video was a game changer for me .
' YOU get to CHOOSE, wether or not you want to participate in the relationship and HOW you will participate in the relationship.
If there is an issue , address it, if cant be fixed , set healthy boundries or walk out the door .
I literally connected that same message to this message. Great point.
@@erica679because of your comment, I rewatched this video and it was a nice reminder , she does state the point, you are correct, I realized that because of certain " roles" that people play in my life I expected them to treat me a certain way, instead of being honest with myself and looking at the nature of relationship and choosing if I want to participate, sometimes circumstances make it a challenge and I guess that's were the boundaries come in.
I wish you all the best on your journey 🙏
@@injoyinmyself2018 yes, I agree with you I think a lot of my issue is expectations and not accepting the reality of the relationship. I wish you the best on your journey as well ❤️
AMEN! With those types of people around you, who needs enemies?! Protect your personal space!
I believe it's the same people who feel like they have no control at all who thinks they need to be in control 💯
As the tears stream down my face all I can say is God shows up on time. I needed to hear this message right NOW! I receive it. Ashe'
Amen.. I’m understanding that people may have different beliefs, and they see things differently. I working on seeing people as God sees them. No more judging .
Me too
Ase’ thank you for this, it made my day.
I must protect my life, peace, and well-being. I choose to keep my vibration clear and boundaries appropriate to enhance joy in my life.
I agree!
Tru
Amazing - Message of a reminder if known OR just learned now is "beware of your playlist" we have in our minds, what is being done to "me' is what we have deep inside our souls. POWERFUL !! Thank You Iylana and so glad you have your own stream shows, genuinely you are one of the best life teachers ever.
Right on time!!!! I have some cleaning up to do within myself!!!! Amen!!!!! Thank you beloved Iyanla!!!!!🙌🏽🙏🏾❤️
Dont be afraid to cut lose and back up and create boundaries
IYANLA!!! This is why I adore you so much... ((HUG)) I say my prayers and then you deliver the words I need to hear. I appreciate you more than I can ever express. Thank you for being my angel.
Wow deep I Love THIS there is no such thing of negative people the truth maybe we/they are hurt
Wow, I'm only at 7:01 of this and all I can think of is she right, I focus on others rather than myself as a distraction and I do need to be more understanding compassionate it's just I need to be that to myself and that's what's so hard forgiving myself for real for believing other people were responsible for seeing my hurt lost and wounds because I been ignoring them like everybody else 😞 it's time to focus on myself and what I can do to be a better me and to heal the trauma I suffered at my owe hands. Thanks Ms. Ivanla for reminding me what I was not accepting and loving; myself.
That was so good. I saw myself doing this and didn't realize I should be looking at myself ! Thank you!! I love your messages!!!
Your smile, your voice,, and beautiful eyes , that's All I need.
A humble acknowledgement of this truth. We come from and will return to a Most Divine Source!
Thank you Mother Ilyana. 💞
Hurt people like to hurt other people
Iyanla clearly speaks from the heart and mind. That self-reflection is definitely needed. Thanks for sharing with us.
Aunty Yanla!!!! This was it! I needed this today. Thank you always for your word 💜
Love you, Mama Lyanla! I’ve definitely collected a lot of gems from you over this past year now! 🙏🏽
Mrs. Iyanla.. This is a powerful message that speaks directly to me. I receive this & will continue to do my work. Blessings to you! 💜😊
How to deal with disagreeable people,bless them continually with love and rob them of their ammunition.
Thank you that helps me to deal with the negative people in my life. No more labeling of people it's time to step away
Thank you, Iyanla.😊 I needed this lunch break moment of positivity. I admit to being guilty of negative thoughts as well. Yes, I agree that we should be mindful of our triggers.
Amen to alllll this! When you feel something is off or you see blatant toxicity, take your leave. A queen always plans their escape and no one needs to know your plans. Just do it, while also self reflection. “Don’t be afraid to set boundaries & cut people off” without explanation bcuz NO is a complete sentence🙏🏾❤️🔥💝
I can’t hear you- THE GLASSES!!! Yes!! 😍 Love you. Your generosity is epic
Thank You Iyanla!!!! Thank You Very Deeply Much!!! "Call a thing a Thing".
I'm working on it.....-Everything.
Thank you for this!! I really needed this!! Especially since my therapist is not the best!! But im not giving up!!
Don't be afraid of creating boundaries dont be afraid of cutting ties I learned that letting others be who they are and what the opinions are and how they want to act in their behavior does not mean that I need to change anybody it just means that they are moving and they are operating in the perspective of they know how but I do get to choose how I be in relationship with people
This is so good Ms. Iyanla, I really need to hear this. Your insight on this is so different than what I expected. You’re actually telling me to look at me and sometimes it’s hard to face the reality of what I need to face
The truth will set you free .. What a blessing
Ma'am, please stop seeing me so loudly...wow! This video/her message is one to keep coming back to again & again.. Appreciated.
I love it. Thank you sis. The big picture for me is. I see myself in this narrative. So I will stick right there and see ME while I check myself. Correct me and APPLY the word of God in my life. Like Michael Jackson’s song
IF I WANNA MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE, TAKE A LOOK AT MYSELF AND MAKE A CHANGE.
Amen.
This was right on time and I'm grateful for it.
This is so true, we need to have empathy, not judge people as negative. I learn a lot from your videos! 🙂
Timely reminder. Thank you🙏🏽
I truly admire your gift and your dedication to giving and sharing you gift with us!
When they act up look at triggers in me how do I feel that’s deep Mrs. Vanzant thank you
This thinking is on another level! Great stuff
Thank you so, so much for these words! I really needed to hear this today. I love you so Much Ms. Iyanla thank you for being who you are.
This is so true 🙏🏽
Thank you for the reminder! Puts things in better perspective for me.
Your message is so clear, and I never even saw it the way you speak and clarify things just becomes a new awareness to me and I want to thank you for sharing your experience strength and hope and I love the fact the way that you speak I learned a lot from you keep talking and please keep sending the message that you’ve always sent all about love and especially loving ourselves. I love you.
I used to be around lots of negative people back in 2019,2020,and 2021.I have decided to set boundaries between they and I in 2022!😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😍😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜☺☺☺
why do I feel offended and how do i love on myself 😮😢. This is so deep I need to listen to this message a few more times.
This is what I needed to hear. Thank you Iyanla.
This is what I need to hear, when l hear you talk 👄, wish I was there with you
This message came right on time! I am having a tough time policing my thoughts, myself when I am made to feel uncomfortable or vulnerable for harm as a result of other's actions. This is some hard work! But I'm thankful for this because I have observed myself as being both polar opposites of the types of people Ms. Iyanla described! I really have been traumatized and so I am pretty much" trigger happy" 😩. I am trying my best to be healthy spiritually, mentally and have good intentions towards others despite my trust issues. 🙆🏾♀️ Im trying.
@Nafeesa Rabiu Thank you for your well wishes🤗
I love you. I thank God for you everyday. My soul is so light. My earthly angel. Thank you,thank you, thank you❤
Amen! 19 years old and i receive this message
I needed to hear this
Me as well
U Spoke too me, Thank you ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Your words are speaking POWER!!
I NEEDED THIS TOUCHED ME IN DEEP WAY
You hit it right on the 🎯! I needed
To hear this! Thank you and be blessed
Negative people = intentionally sending out bad energy.. energy of jealousy and to destroy another
I needed every morsel of this!! Thank you for always sharing light. It always removes darkness from my life. Blessings be unto you 🙏🏾
4:00 I view the word “negative “ as meaning, take-away. Especially a take -away from a positive”
Today marks a turning point in my life, thank you very much
Thank you for these words. We are using the program Character Strong and your quote about giving yourself permission to feel all the emotions is one we were focusing on this week. I am having my middle schoolers listen to this video as a follow up. Thank you for your positivity that you share out to all.
Wow thank you for these amazing gems
Thank u for sharing this message, i really needed to hear this!!
POWERFUL POWERFUL message 💜
This is a very powerful video clip. Very grateful to have come across this again today.
Right on time.
You are talking RIGHT TO ME TODAY!
Beautiful message spot on for me and a situation that I am dealing with. Thanks, sis!!
Woooo I just needed this. Thank you …I love you, Major.
Right on time!
Love your messages, always learn a lot from you. Keep doing what you’re doing to help me and a lot of people you’re a blessing.
Thank you iyanla I needed this today
I needed to check myself and create boundaries
Excellent.
you just saved my life (again) ❤🙏❤
I won't allow anyone disturb my peace in 2022: thanks for all the warning signs about staying away from negative people!😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😪😥😢😰😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞
Thanks I needed to hear this for myself 🙏
Thank you 🙏🏼
Wow...needed to hear this in this very moment...🙌ASE
Yes I need this thank you! Ms.V
MOTHER IYANLA... THANK YOU!!!
Very good insights. Worth watching and refreshing
Very helpful reminders to continue to check myself.
Iylana I remember you being around my grandparents I'm healing from trauma and you use to be my Healthy Start caseworker I am so very proud of you this is Bernadette Parker I told you that you was going to do something big look at now I am so proud of you
Oh how I missed you Iyanla.
Thank you Mama Iya I am relearning some of these tools it is a humbling process
Love this! This gives me insight on people.
Young are you are always spot on I want so much from you. Thank you for sharing. I will continue to listen and learn God bless.
God bless you Iyanla Vanzant
Thank you Ms Iyanla for helping me to not only clean up my energy but also my language!! 🤣🙏
Cj Keiwoppp
She's giving negativity a completely different meaning...
Good points. Thanks.
Tha k you for this. I’m working on my negative thoughts. Lots of projection!
AMEN! DEEP BOW
Thank you Iyanla for this insight!
I understand now. However I still had to ghost these people for my sanity
You schooled me today.... #Perspective.. I will definitely be conscious of my words🙌🏾💖
Yes!! Thank you for posting this!
I'm late to this video but this is so good! This will help me in my life immediately. Love you Iyanla ❤❤❤
Thank you for your great words of wisdom and knowledge !!!
I just love you iyanla n thank you. Much needed today🥰💜
I can use this today to further work with myself.
*#*I PRAY THE UNIVERSE GRANT YOUR HEARD DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX THROUGH THE GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR DANIEL, WHO HELPED ME RESTORED MY BROKEN HOME. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE*#*##?
This so amazing