People can only meet you as deeply as they've met themselves. A great lesson I learnt over time. It's helped me not to attribute everything people do to malice..
Yaani Perfect timing, I Am going through a friendship break and this time my feeling is done we've been on and off but this time it's different I feel like I no longer tolerate it. Because I am done, I feel like I am always in the wrong.
Very few people rise to the level of self-awareness that you obviously have. They haven't learnt to deal with themselves and their issues. You have very deep insight, and emotional intelligence. So you're operating from a higher level that others in your life can never understand, and never access.
Interesting perspective on the healing journey. I understand the communication aspect of letting your loved ones know you are taking some time away to process whatever it is you are going through. However, what does your absence mean in this other person's life? Can one just disappear from a friendship whenever they have to and show up again once healed? Plus, does healing even end? Isn't it in a sort of way controlling the trajectory of the friendship? You can dip in and out whenever.... If that is the case, then also extend the same grace if the person wants to end the friendship instead of looking at it as being gaslit. I'm not an expert though... so idk, i guess we're all learning and growing 😊
Please talk about friendship break-ups, it's hardly discussed and it's really painful. I just went through one, I wish my friend communicated she needed time to heal or process or whatever it was. I would have given her grace. I did reach out countless times and waited for 10 months approx. for her to get back. I had to go to therapy to release the friendship and learn to move on for mental peace.😢
When my partner and I broke up, I only told people in my life that I could trust. There are those in my life who I chose not to share the information with until I was strong enough to deal with how they'd deal with the information. Deep down I knew they were the kind of people that would try to punish me for my pain. My younger self would not see sense in having a relationship with the latter group. Right now I open myself up to different types of relationships/friendships, but they have different fences. Not everyone gets to experience me or access all of me, including my time. I've learned to create proper boundaries in such a way that you will know it is not your place to question me about this or that.
I think it's more of lack of empathy.... Love is so wide. Alot of Kenyans will judge you based on their own experiences or based on their own fears hence project it to you
Such a good insight What i really loved is about the finishing bit that when you are coming out from your a healing phase,you might not get all that you left behind so you have to learn to make peace with that.......And the journey continues
When you are surviving, it's good for people to know that it's not about them, it's about you. You do not want to talk about what you have gone through But want to process'..this is deep.
There is hardly unconditional love with friendship honey… it’s a give and take thing. People who may love you unconditionally in your in’s and out’s May be your parents.
When somebody keeps referencing themselves and only speak of I and understand problems when only they are in it as victims, it comes off as self-centred and honestly selfish
People can only meet you as deeply as they've met themselves. A great lesson I learnt over time. It's helped me not to attribute everything people do to malice..
Hi dear am your silent follower n a student, from your school of life. It's really powerful and so healing to me
Yaani Perfect timing, I Am going through a friendship break and this time my feeling is done we've been on and off but this time it's different I feel like I no longer tolerate it. Because I am done, I feel like I am always in the wrong.
Feeling like you are personally talking to me.Thankyou for the topic discussion
We need a conversation of Lydiakm and Janet mbugua
Powerful
resonating with this!!!
I like your blazer 😄
Very few people rise to the level of self-awareness that you obviously have. They haven't learnt to deal with themselves and their issues. You have very deep insight, and emotional intelligence. So you're operating from a higher level that others in your life can never understand, and never access.
Interesting perspective on the healing journey.
I understand the communication aspect of letting your loved ones know you are taking some time away to process whatever it is you are going through. However, what does your absence mean in this other person's life? Can one just disappear from a friendship whenever they have to and show up again once healed? Plus, does healing even end?
Isn't it in a sort of way controlling the trajectory of the friendship? You can dip in and out whenever.... If that is the case, then also extend the same grace if the person wants to end the friendship instead of looking at it as being gaslit.
I'm not an expert though... so idk, i guess we're all learning and growing 😊
Please talk about friendship break-ups, it's hardly discussed and it's really painful.
I just went through one, I wish my friend communicated she needed time to heal or process or whatever it was. I would have given her grace.
I did reach out countless times and waited for 10 months approx. for her to get back.
I had to go to therapy to release the friendship and learn to move on for mental peace.😢
When my partner and I broke up, I only told people in my life that I could trust. There are those in my life who I chose not to share the information with until I was strong enough to deal with how they'd deal with the information. Deep down I knew they were the kind of people that would try to punish me for my pain. My younger self would not see sense in having a relationship with the latter group. Right now I open myself up to different types of relationships/friendships, but they have different fences. Not everyone gets to experience me or access all of me, including my time. I've learned to create proper boundaries in such a way that you will know it is not your place to question me about this or that.
THIS! 💯
I resonate with this💯..I took the the same approach recently after my seperation
I think it's more of lack of empathy.... Love is so wide.
Alot of Kenyans will judge you based on their own experiences or based on their own fears hence project it to you
Healing is a lonely journey sometimes 😔
I found this very therapeutic to listen to. True leadership in the area of mental wellness which most of us ignore. God bless you Janet.
I get this. I too have moments where it's like my soul just wants to pull out and go in it's own cocoon.
Such a good insight
What i really loved is about the finishing bit that when you are coming out from your a healing phase,you might not get all that you left behind so you have to learn to make peace with that.......And the journey continues
Very true,healing is a journey and its also very ruthless ❤
When you are surviving, it's good for people to know that it's not about them, it's about you. You do not want to talk about what you have gone through But want to process'..this is deep.
Just a lack of emotional intelligence.
There is hardly unconditional love with friendship honey… it’s a give and take thing. People who may love you unconditionally in your in’s and out’s May be your parents.
When somebody keeps referencing themselves and only speak of I and understand problems when only they are in it as victims, it comes off as self-centred and honestly selfish
Am becoming wiser everytime I listen to you. May the great Lord continue to expand you beyond your thoughts and expectations.
Very honest discussion better days are ahead of you vumilia
How is your bro though
You are making sense
Thank you I needed to hear this
Thank you for this.
2:08 Currently living through this, even though I had talked about my need to take 5 when I was going through a rough patch.