My advice is to a young person who is looking forward to marriage some day, that seek God first,make him your foundation meaning he has to direct all your steps l mean all your steps.And when you have achieved that ask him to find one who will marry you and l repeat let him find we are so busy trying to do the job which doesn’t belong to us coz Adam didn’t search God gave to him.Why am l saying this:Satan is constantly busy engaged in influencing those who are wholly unsuited to each other to unit their interests.He exults in this work for by it he can produce more misery and hopeless woe to human family than by exercising his skill in any other direction.Should you know the kind of marrying and giving in marriage is one of Satan’s special devices and he succeeds in his plans almost every time.Thus if men and women are in the habit of praying twice a day before they contemplate marriage they should pray four times a day when such a step is anticipated and that can only be done by one who is deeply rooted on Christ.Marriage is something that will affect and influence your life,both in this world and in the world to come.#Step aside and let God do his work.
I feel so sorry for Ntando. You can tell she’s someone who loves fully and is family orientated. Seems like Khaya was never ready for marriage to begin with. Maybe he had pressure from parents and church
I think so too. As women, many of us when that time comes, we are always focused. And remember we are the ones who are prepared more for marriage than guys while we are still young. I pray that they both heal as they part ways.
Honestly I don’t blame any1 in their situation. There’s a thin line between being prepared and being desperate. And unfortunately concerning marriage many women we tend to claim ready , due and prepared whenever we get desperate for marriage, because marriage is “marriage” in our society. Point is if it was so clear to society that there was something offish about their union how much clear should it have been to Ntando if she was readily prepared? When you are prepared for things and not just desperate you approach situations more calmly, you take your time assess if what you getting is really what you looking for and if it’s not just excitement numbing the “red flag” feelings. Ready people take their time constantly involving God in their decisions and they are never scared to let go of what seems to be not right. Our instincts communicate very fairly.
Khaya is just a pastor because his father is and it’s a way to make money . This is the same man who was engaged to Nomzamo and cheated with Jessica Nkosi. He’s speaking as if marriage is a game.. a trial run. Becareful of these “men of God” ladies !!
You're speaking nonsense!! You people don't understand and busy judging khaya; Listen carefully on what he's saying; You will get the point; Black people u have a problem of being quick to respond before u even understand what has been said; Shameless u people who always wanna judge people, Only Khaya & His Ex Wife knows the truth!! Learn to mind your business and fix your marriages or relationships because u have a lot than khaya and you're busy using khaya's issue to mourn your problems!! Instead of criticizing him u should be busy praying for him and his ex wife, that's the best u can do!! What if they get back together, what will u say?
How can Khaya encourage married couples not to give up when he failed to encourage himself? Are people ever gona take that serious!? If there's something he should have done was to say NO when he was handed over a big church to pastor when he was not ready. Pastoring is a calling, not a legacy... I would rather leave pastoring the church and go build my family 1st, and if i am really called only then would I start working on my own ministry... He's fighting demons bigger than his faith! Start from the ground up!!! How do u pay attention to running a church of 5500 members and fail to pastor a family of 3!?
Moses Ntsieni You don’t know how long he’s been struggling with this. He obviously pushed until he couldn’t anymore. Don’t judge the book by its cover. You don’t know what internal struggles they were going through.
@@kamosehapi2778 Maybe u don't get it, whenever a Pastor says he has struggles and won't detail them, he's exalting Sin above The Saviour. Khaya would rather leave Marriage and choose to be Gay, Cheat, e.t.c... (is an example)... BUT he won't quit as a Pastor!!! A real Man of God would come out and say I have sinned, this is what I did, forgive me, I will take some time off while working on my marriage or healing.... But no, 5500 members is all he cares about! Meanwhile the issue is not dealt with!!! Bishop Eddy Long died because of this... We MUST learn!!!
You are so right! Even the word says.. (for if a man does not know how to manage his own household, how will he take care of the church of God?). 1 Timothy 3:5 AMP It's also true, it's a calling not a legacy. If these senior pastors would get that. Because most of them they get their sons and daughters to lead churches when they're not even called!
David wasn't removed as king of Israel even though he had commited serious sins because he was repentant. Failure doesnt mean you can't encourage anyone not to do something because you did it. Khaya still has to deal with the spiritual ramifications of divorce and in hindsight he wouldn't have divorced. I like his attitude. He ran to God post the sin instead of hiding it or blaming his wife.
@@mochaleaves David repented, he said "I have sinned against the Lord", he acknowledged his sin and he paid for it, read 2 Samuel 12:13 and the chapters after God punished him. These days people just talk about their struggles with sin and forget to admit that they have done wrong against God (sinned) and repent.
This is a cry for help. We need to pray for both of them. All the issues they are dealing with, for God to guide them. I like his honesty. Pretending like all is good, doesn't help at all.
Yes love, let's keep them in our prayers especially now that he is even a Pastor. There is so much that our ministers are going through, some are just dying painful deaths. Thank you Nandi for such a wise and positive comment.
If it was a woman would you have still liked her honesty? I think not. Christianity is a sham and a big joke and we are just watching because so called Christians are exposing themselves everyday and their double standards dont go unnoticed
@@katendlovu7535 I wouldn't have any problem with it cc. When a person is feeling pressure, gender means nothing. Life has taught me hard. I honestly don't have time to be biased because of gender and I am still learning everyday. I ain't a person who who thinks women shouldn't do certain things but men can. We are all the same before God.
@@Amahle361 then i truly commend you sisi. Then you truly believe in God. Ive just had enough of many SA black women's double standards. It's like they love to see another woman in pain and will do anything to protect a man's honout. Honestly i find it hard to respect a lot of women these days.
Please my Brother, if you love your son and also, your wife, go back to them and work on your marriage. You are talking about the Grace of God, but you can't let God heal your marriage. Fight for your marriage. I was there, where you are Brother. I almost gave up on my marriage, but with God's grace we are still together. I still have struggles as a man, but I constantly allow God to work on me. You have lots of young people following you in RSA, around Africa and the world. Go back to your wife, beg for her forgiveness even if you have to quit ministry for until you are ready. Your son that you so dearly love needs you now, your wife more than ever. I wish you could hear and feel my pain for you. PLEASE RECONSIDER YOUR DECISION, I BEG YOU.
He failed dismally & all he’s doing here is trying to justify his lack of wisdom & utter failure to love a woman who left her province and her family to be joined with him. While the woman was almost 9 months pregnant, he was already having plans to walk away from his marriage how pathetic and his audience applauded him for chronic foolishness. Marriage is about perseverance & willing to be led & corrected otherwise he will keep divorcing until his last day on earth Disappointing message I must say
I couldn't have said it better. Funny how people do things in private and want to justify their reason of doing wickedness in public and still demand to be heard. The pulpit has now become a confession stage for diabolic acts!
Divorce is allowed in a religion, christianity is a religion. But not in the kingdom of God.... you can't submit your own reasons in the kingdom of God, but u can debate marriage in religion....
So true. Looking at other people's marriages on social media it's always tempting to think you got the bad end of the stick. Everyone looks more beautiful and happy than you. At least that's how I feel.
Ruth you saying exactly my same words... I couldn't agree with you more. Speaking the greatest HEAVENLY ENGLISH of him infront of the Church with all Amens doesn't make it right. It is so early and he should be focusing on the divorce. Too early to be standing in the podium as if nothing is wrong, or is taking advantage... The same as the guy that lost his wife who sings for one group: He went immediately to the social media and act like he's grieving his lost of his wife with a long essay. My concern was he was supposed to be with his family mourning for his late wife instead of being on social medias as if it was a relief. Everyone was wow you loved your wife man. but I was the only to say, wow you are so bold and I don't believe you mean what you are saying about your wife. Too early to post on social media about your best being gone...wow these days...
U people don't understand and busy judging khaya; Listen carefully on what he's saying; You will get the point; Black people u have a problem of being quick to respond before u even understand what has been said; Shameless u people who always wanna judge people, Only Khaya & His Ex Wife knows the truth!! Learn to mind your business and fix your marriages or relationships because u have a lot than khaya and you're busy using khaya's issue to mourn your problems!
U can't talk about grace which ur defiling and dishonouring, marriage is a covenant this has nothing to do with u but God and ur job is work it out, u can't wake up being done with marriage I think someone need to be told the truth Complete commitment to your marriage provides a foundation of dependability and trust. It takes you through tough times and steers you toward godly solutions. A lack of commitment erodes your strength, determination, and resourcefulness. It can lead to tragedy. Marriage can be compared to a marathon race. If you don’t commit yourself to running the distance, your chances of dropping out along the way increase. But if you are determined, you will find unforeseen strength to overcome every obstacle.
This particular video was taken way before the divorce. This is ONLY. A snippet from the entire video. He goes onto say that he worked on his marriage.
Even though there is something happening on the background... Lapha kusothandweni intozakhona zihlala ziqxakile. Izokhulu lendoda ibe strong coz he has acknowledged that he had a problem so uzoba ryt.
Khaya loves God so much and he never planned what happened to him. I think we as Christians need to pray for him for healing and so that he can move forward with his life. We did not come to this world to just married. If he failed in marriage it doesn't mean he has failed his God given mission to this world. I love you bro Khaya and I believe your God will carry you even through this tough time.
Also love alone won’t sustain/ solidify/ concrete/ the marriage... there are lots of factors to be considered before ushade... Marry for love statement is not enough... my opinion though.
Before I even heard his story, i agreed with your statement. After listening to it I realised tat he doesn't understand what marriage is and that it entails loving someone through thick and thin. How can he tell God that he thoughtof leaving when his wife was pregnant. So sad and wen the baby is born u are all joy really now😂
Unscriptural divorce almost always brings painful consequences. Not only do you distance yourself from God when you divorce, you also damage your spouse, wound your children, injure other family members, hurt friends, set the stage for future pain for yourself, and bring shame upon the name of Christ. When you do things God’s way, things work out best. On the other hand, when you disobey God, problems eventually come. If you divorce for unscriptural reasons, the odds are high that you will regret it before you die. You are certain to regret it when you stand before God. Never say, “Let’s divorce” Suggesting divorce without scriptural reasons opens the door to sin. When you are broke you would never say, “Let’s rob a bank.” Along the same lines, when you are unhappy, do not say, “Let’s divorce,” “I don’t see why we should stay married,” or “You’d be better off without me.”..... May God help us keep marriage honorable
It’s easy to leave everything and walk away! In Khaya’s case it’s easier for him to leave his marriage than it is to hold on and work things out! In simple terms leaving is the easiest way out, staying requires work and hard work Hope I’m clear enough
@@lindarose591 actually he is making reference to scripture Genesis 2:24 "For this reason a man shall Leave his mother and father and Cleave to his wife and they both shall become one flesh. So it was easy for him to leave his parents but harder for him to become one with his wife in every respect.
Just because you are fluent in English and you have some boomber words to say the made you a youth leader 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣antichrist... Reveal yourself sikhathele lamaxoki Nkosi 💔
I can feel your broken heart bra. I know people think your taking this casual your not hurt not knowing ukuthi being a man of God you had to act strong each and everyday it was not easy decision. May The spirit of God comfort you. You don't have to be in broken marriage it will affect your son more rather be a good parents to him . Only God knows your your scars but as you'll enter in 2020 God will heal you. Most of people rather die with depression than coming out from the broken marriage . May God heal you and Ntando . Nalesi isimo sizondlula😢
Mandi pose I Lizwi mntakethu, mna Khaya from my Side I will pray for your happiness, Cause I know you have Joy that Joy comes from the Lord. I'll pray that God heals your heart and what ever else is broken so you can be the best dad possible. I will also pray for you ex wife that she finds peace and heals, I don't know the problems of your marriage and I don't care to know but I do know this if we can all talk together to God about your lives and our message is the same you'll be fine. We as the church, the body of Christ need to so that through your gift you can heal many.
To all who're negative about this issue, when Jesus said "May the one who's without a sin throw in the 1st stone" He meant something like your comments. Khaya is human like all of us. Who are we to judge? Are we sure that he's the one who's at fault? If so, why are we not praying for his marriage instead of judging him? Another thing is so many pastors preach somethings which they don't practice. Take note, it may be God's message directed to you through someone who's no longer respected or imperfect. Just take the message and stop judging.
Martha Baloyi you’re making a judgment with your comment. We actually have a right to judge. The Bible says to judge RIGHTEOUSLY. If no one could judge, then Khaya ALSO has no right to judge, there should be no judicial system, and preachers can’t preach. They make judgments throughout their sermons. There’s also two books in the Bible named Judges. I can’t stand when ppl abuse this scripture. How can you remember this one (where it’s CLEAR that we DO have a right to judge) but not the others?
Have you all checked your lives?? What I'm trying to say in my previous comment is that before you judge others check yourself first n instead of judging, do something good to help instead of continuing damaging that person's image
The position his on makes it hard for people to question his actions or their action, we as a society shift the blame to the devil or call it Gods plan but if this was black coffee speaking so many stones would be thrown. The church has a secrecy problem and sugar coating things.
Judging someone from a distance / with no facts is a serious foolish mentality one can display in this platform.... so let me put this in the table and let you continue to judge. Do you think as a 28/29 year old you can cope being a singer, pastor, performer, husband, director, businessman, father.... can you honestly cope with all that and be perfectly fine? think about it than come back and call this young guy names it’s on your conscience. Lots of 28/ 29 year olds are busy enjoying life, hustling to better lives order. It’s easy for you to type negative things about someone when you are on the other side of the fence.
Never bite and chew more than u could swallow!!!it's jst a lame excuse to put all those things as excuses to divorce,most of us r holding down many jobs n tasks n hustles but we r not throwing out marriages away, there 4,this young man is not being honest enuff to tell us ukuthi flop yakhe nowakwakhe ibe kuphi...it's either bedroom or money...
You can cope if God has called you into it. You can’t do the work of God if you’re not called as a pastor, you have a homosexual spirit , spirit of lust, you’re struggling with sin and do not acknowledge that you need deliverance in order that God may order your steps as you live righteously... Here, Khaya is justifying his sins because he did things prematurely? Surely not... He needs to be a man and he needs to be delivered from all these things tormenting him.
Khaya is not the first person to get married and be entrusted with much. He won't be the last. Days are coming where the true sons of God will do it all.
Tf this one got divorced after all the lovey dovey messages they used to post on social media????😭😭😭😭😭😭😭am Kenyan and got to know this dude through joyous celebration.......it's so sad how many members from that group have broken marriages 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭,it's hard for some of us not understanding the native language but the comments are helping to understand his issues
Let God deal with him personally and spiritually and that will make him grow in his own way and I believe he will have spiritual wisdom at the end. After the process I believe all will be well which ever direction God leads him he will be understanding himself better. For those who remember to please let's pray for him and also others who are in this kind of dilemma. Let's not judge.
"Don't you believe that the Father is living in Me and that I am living in the Father? Even My words are not My own but come from My Father, for He lives in Me and performs His miracles of power through Me." (John 14:10)
This is proof that a pastors child cannot also be a pastor.He says he has "hot blood" meaning that he wants to be intimate with other women😂lets not judge it shows these born again people are normal people nothing special about them.we are all sinners.Having said that the brother needs to also stop playing games with our beautiful women.If you are not ready to settle down and commit dont do it just because daddy said so. Pastors and fathers STOP forcing your kids to live lives they are not ready for!!!!Umfundisi sometimes akamzali omunye umfundisi
All public figures should act and live human ,be true to yourselves and dont try to live unrealistic lives .. coz wen reality sach as this strikes you cant swallow t down .. thats wen depression strikes n suicides
My honest opinion is marriage is not hard ans difficult if your life is to first please God... yes being with another human being is not easy and it takes work and lots and lots of communication but marriage is beautiful... married for almost 10yrs and i wouldnt have it any other way... choosing my husband everyday.... l dislike how when a marriage fail then its perceived as hard, it is 2people who needs to make ig work, not 1 but both parties that made th covenant.... marriage is beautiful
@@rebajardine9544 thank you so much,I may not be married as yet,but I share your view through and through,I believe marriage is beautiful otherwise God would not have created that Institution.
And the truth is if you live a life to suit people or paint a certain picture and not being real, it backfires.... so my comment in this video is that i dont think anyone gets married to fail but it happens and who are we to judge.... but also what disappoint us is the expectations we put on others. If you want to get married, you model should not be anyone but Jesus and his love for humanity..♥️
Rebaone Jardine, true. And marriage is a lifestyle not just a beautiful wedding day. You have to be prepared to leave your single ways behind, forever & focus inwards on this lifestyle of building your home with the help & blessings of your creator. Youngstars are never ready for the hard work sometimes. It doesn’t just automatically happen on its own cos you “love each other”. Sad. I love these 2.
I am so glad you were able to talk about it. Depression is real. If this helps you to heal who are we to judge, may you find healing and happiness in your life.
This one is no different to so called fake Pastors! Being a Pastor is not a legacy it is a calling. We are in a generation where the calling of God is reduced to profane operation! The pulpit has now turned to a confession stage, and ignorance has made us believe that it is the move of God. What?! This guy is currently an utter broken healer wanna be. What a confusing voice!
1.Its not clear what Khaya is actually saying in this clip.We can allude to the fact that he was testifying (not preaching) and shared his personal challenges that he encountered in 2019 and the reason he was giving the advice of "never give up" is because at this point probably he /they had not yet given up and he hoped things would were gonna stay that way. 2.Timeline ,the title is a bit misleading ,according to someone here on comments ,this was taken 1st week of December at a church in Sandton,announcement on Insta 23rd and this video the following day.
Guys try to be your self don't ever ever look up to someone else because other people that we saw on television we think that they don't have problems, think that even them they are people same as u, even if u saved but problems is there for u...I can't blame him about his decision because we don't know what is behind, don't takes marriage as peanuts there is a challenges that u face on marriage then u must be strong.
I was at this event it was the first week of December(before the anniversary and announcement ya divorce ) and i think before you say anything about this you have to hear the full testimony but ke because it's social media you always jump to your own conclusions. What he was saying was this year had been tough on Him in all spheres of his life he even considered divorce but he didn't go through with it (well until now)
Marriage is hard, life is hard, but we keep, pushing on. I'm glad that Khaya and his wife took time privately and work on their pain and the ordeal that lead them to go separate ways. She released a statement, Kuaya is talking about the issue. Yes people will judge others. But I'm yet to see a human being with a perfect life. What ever happens is their decision , their life.
I disagree, marriage is not hard at all, the problem is we enter in to marriage unprepared, being immature and without the founder of marriage who is God. In may 2020 will be doing 10 years in marriage and I don't regret even a single minute of getting married.
@@noreenm5018 I'm not saying I have a perfect marriage, there is no such thing as perfect marriage. Being married doesn't mean we don't have arguments and disagreements as a couple, but to model Christ, He left everything He has from God and chose to die for us. That is what we are doing everyday, dying to self, submitting to one another and allowing God to be the driver of our marriage.
And none of this suggests that Khaya isn’t called as a pastor. He’s saying he was ordained too early, (maybe while God is still preparing Him, maybe before his called time). When Jesus’s mom asked him to perform his public miracle he told her it’s not time yet. She probably spoke coz of what she’s seen him do privately but He felt dat wasn’t yet the hour.
So what about those who did it at an even younger age? Today they are running ministries, it's not about age, of it was, then Jesus would have never said, there will be those who do exploits more than him. Khaya is hiding something, and soon it will pop out.
May GOD's grace heal both the Pastor and his wife. May they experience GOD's loving arms around them. I know what it's like to fail GOD and how you try to fix yourself after that. May you and your wife grow closer to our loving FATHER. May you humble and yield yourself to HOLY SPIRIT and allow HIM to do what only HE can do. 1 Timothy 1:15-16. May GOD Continue to bless you all.
Some of you commenting here and blaming him you not even married let alone you dnt even have health relashinship with your siblings.. He did not say anything wrong about his wife and he said he believe God will heal them
Was Ntando pregnant already when they married? Eish a lot of us go thru such things and never have to tell anyone. But yah, if they didn’t start right (as he says he had a lot of issues pre marriage); then that was a recipe for disaster. A church on top of that and a baby on the way? That is a lot! Marriage is difficult without having to deal with all those massive issues during the teething period. Aaah man! Wish I could give them both hugs! 😢🤗🤗
I was shock that I heard he was divorced............... when we seek God for a wife/husband we need ask God to pick our mate for us! awesome Singer I cover you......He is going through a lot now ............. being on social media.....Lets us keep him in our prayers!
Well mhlampe komele sizifundise ukuhlonipha izinqumo zabanye abantu ngoba only god is allowed to Judge people. Ukuvaleka kwezinto kuwukuvuleka kwezinye bakwethu. Much respect to Khaya and Ntando, izinqumo ezithathwa ngumuntu kusuke kungezakhe✊🏿
Khaya is imperfect just like all of us, God is working on him. Why are yall judging, God is a God of broken people, imperfect people, that are ok with failing ..
Show me a marriage the doesn't have problems and storms. No man no....... I think that you were supposed to stay. You call yourself a man of God. God called man to love us as Christ loves His bride. I know loving a woman won't be easy but with God it is possible. I wish them both well and for God to really touch and heal their hearts
Beautiful english words very opposite to the vows that were made the day of the marriage. Commitment is easy to pronounce but its actually a doing word
I do feel sori 4 u pastor wat u going through t not a nicest thing being divorce bt i pray to almighty to strengthn u nd keep u in life nd even ministrate we lv u pastor after all no one is perfect only above who s so just be strong nd keep on believing in him he s still almighty even in difficul situation,lv u pastor with all my support u goner be fine,hallelua! in da name of Jesus
All things work together for our good, according to them that do love God, whether good or bad in all circumstances give thanks to God, God can turn your worst nightmare into blessing.
Ppl are very judgmental jesooo,,,,as bona bamsulwa,,,,,khaya is human and muncane,,,,,who are we to judge him anyway,,,,ZIBUZE LOKHO BEFORE U OPEN UR MOUTH AND JUDGE,,,mnxnmmmmmmm
The reason why people end up murdering each other in marriage is because of this mentality we have as Christians. God hates sin period. If a marriage is not working, leave before it gets more toxic. Do not stay trapped in anger, hurt, bitterness and betrayal. God is a God of love. Sometimes you have to walk away in order to heal. Your heart is all you have. Do not burden your heart with toxicity just to please church members. When all those pent up feelings burst you might end up doing something that you will regret for life.
Anyone who is condoning what Khaya has done and call themselves Christian is a liar. Christianity is a religion which means it must be practiced religiously. Failure to do so means you are not a Christian. That's what religion is all about. This modern Christianity is a sham and a joke. But qhubekani. We are watching.
@@omphemetsechake2839 keep saying that. Understand first the meaning of the word religion and its not 'religion' because it's already been outlined in the bible and the teachings. This flip flopping of so-÷called Christians is a big problem. When you can't live up to something why not just leave it. O i know why because it allows for you to get respect and collect coins from unsuspecting people.
2.00-2.16 the whole pastoring thing was premature, thot calling was Divine nt human appointment. Is it just me or he's blaming someone for wrong choices he made.
@@manthakoanamokoena5709 the problem being that he was playing pastor and playing house, and all this coz of his parents? He's basically glorifying his weakness justifying bad decisions. M nt judging him but I sense some form of pride nt the honesty that he claiming
U people don't understand and busy judging khaya; Listen carefully on what he's saying; You will get the point; Black people u have a problem of being quick to respond before u even understand what has been said; Shameless u people who always wanna judge people, Only Khaya & His Ex Wife knows the truth!! Learn to mind your business and fix your marriages or relationships because u have a lot than khaya and you're busy using khaya's issue to mourn your problems!! Instead of criticizing him u should be busy praying for him and his ex wife, that's the best u can do!! What if they get back together, what will u say?
Susan, this video was shot way before the announcement or the divorce. In the full video, which was a sermon by the way - he states how they both are working on fixing the marriage. Research kucala then post, with context.
Hebanna Ausi this video is the only video thay was released. Full video bathi it is being edited. This was preached on 1Dec before divorce announcement. Then this video was released after the divorce announcement. I am waiting for full video, ordered it from the church. Relax before fighting with me for nothing.
I’m not fighting with you over anything. I’m just stating an important fact here, this was not the gist of the message - hence I say it’s not in context. Give us something full so that we can decipher kahle what exactly happened. You have controlled the narrative here, to already paint this man as a horrible husband by just using this snippet. Journalism 101... Once again I’m not fighting. You posted this video for public opinion and critic. Don’t get personal. Enjoy your day, GOD bless...
God bless you too. Like I said: I am waiting for full video which is being "edited" meaning possibility of removing certain things but I shall post it after receiving it.
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My advice is to a young person who is looking forward to marriage some day, that seek God first,make him your foundation meaning he has to direct all your steps l mean all your steps.And when you have achieved that ask him to find one who will marry you and l repeat let him find we are so busy trying to do the job which doesn’t belong to us coz Adam didn’t search God gave to him.Why am l saying this:Satan is constantly busy engaged in influencing those who are wholly unsuited to each other to unit their interests.He exults in this work for by it he can produce more misery and hopeless woe to human family than by exercising his skill in any other direction.Should you know the kind of marrying and giving in marriage is one of Satan’s special devices and he succeeds in his plans almost every time.Thus if men and women are in the habit of praying twice a day before they contemplate marriage they should pray four times a day when such a step is anticipated and that can only be done by one who is deeply rooted on Christ.Marriage is something that will affect and influence your life,both in this world and in the world to come.#Step aside and let God do his work.
janet sikhangele love it great advance
Thank you
Thank you
janet sikhangele Siyabonga
Wish I got your advice a year ago...
Even now, the grace of God is sufficient for both of you. I’ll keep you in my prayers!
I feel so sorry for Ntando. You can tell she’s someone who loves fully and is family orientated. Seems like Khaya was never ready for marriage to begin with. Maybe he had pressure from parents and church
I hope he will take his time before commiting again.
I think so too. As women, many of us when that time comes, we are always focused. And remember we are the ones who are prepared more for marriage than guys while we are still young.
I pray that they both heal as they part ways.
That's true
I dont think so. I believe both needed counselling on leading a church thats where the big spiritual battles are.
Honestly I don’t blame any1 in their situation. There’s a thin line between being prepared and being desperate. And unfortunately concerning marriage many women we tend to claim ready , due and prepared whenever we get desperate for marriage, because marriage is “marriage” in our society. Point is if it was so clear to society that there was something offish about their union how much clear should it have been to Ntando if she was readily prepared? When you are prepared for things and not just desperate you approach situations more calmly, you take your time assess if what you getting is really what you looking for and if it’s not just excitement numbing the “red flag” feelings. Ready people take their time constantly involving God in their decisions and they are never scared to let go of what seems to be not right. Our instincts communicate very fairly.
I feel like Khaya is so immature. He really needs God!
He need deliverance straight. ayikho le
Ture
True
He lack wisdom
Just because his showing that his a human being , preaching truth , we need more pastors that will relate to our generation instead of acting perfect.
The young man needed time to grow. God is still good in everything that happens to us as we remain rooted in Him.
Amen. So so true
Indeed cc. When he says, the pastoring thing was premature;he is telling the truth.
Khaya is just a pastor because his father is and it’s a way to make money . This is the same man who was engaged to Nomzamo and cheated with Jessica Nkosi. He’s speaking as if marriage is a game.. a trial run. Becareful of these “men of God” ladies !!
He dated the best mos...lol🙌🏌️♂️🤸♂️👏
Lols the best indeed
Who would believe this nonessential sermon. He is hiding the real stuff
You're speaking nonsense!! You people don't understand and busy judging khaya; Listen carefully on what he's saying; You will get the point; Black people u have a problem of being quick to respond before u even understand what has been said; Shameless u people who always wanna judge people, Only Khaya & His Ex Wife knows the truth!! Learn to mind your business and fix your marriages or relationships because u have a lot than khaya and you're busy using khaya's issue to mourn your problems!! Instead of criticizing him u should be busy praying for him and his ex wife, that's the best u can do!! What if they get back together, what will u say?
GG Manzi not my favorite person at the moment
How can Khaya encourage married couples not to give up when he failed to encourage himself? Are people ever gona take that serious!? If there's something he should have done was to say NO when he was handed over a big church to pastor when he was not ready. Pastoring is a calling, not a legacy... I would rather leave pastoring the church and go build my family 1st, and if i am really called only then would I start working on my own ministry... He's fighting demons bigger than his faith! Start from the ground up!!! How do u pay attention to running a church of 5500 members and fail to pastor a family of 3!?
Moses Ntsieni You don’t know how long he’s been struggling with this. He obviously pushed until he couldn’t anymore. Don’t judge the book by its cover. You don’t know what internal struggles they were going through.
@@kamosehapi2778 Maybe u don't get it, whenever a Pastor says he has struggles and won't detail them, he's exalting Sin above The Saviour. Khaya would rather leave Marriage and choose to be Gay, Cheat, e.t.c... (is an example)... BUT he won't quit as a Pastor!!! A real Man of God would come out and say I have sinned, this is what I did, forgive me, I will take some time off while working on my marriage or healing.... But no, 5500 members is all he cares about! Meanwhile the issue is not dealt with!!! Bishop Eddy Long died because of this... We MUST learn!!!
You are so right! Even the word says..
(for if a man does not know how to manage his own household, how will he take care of the church of God?).
1 Timothy 3:5 AMP
It's also true, it's a calling not a legacy. If these senior pastors would get that. Because most of them they get their sons and daughters to lead churches when they're not even called!
David wasn't removed as king of Israel even though he had commited serious sins because he was repentant. Failure doesnt mean you can't encourage anyone not to do something because you did it. Khaya still has to deal with the spiritual ramifications of divorce and in hindsight he wouldn't have divorced. I like his attitude. He ran to God post the sin instead of hiding it or blaming his wife.
@@mochaleaves David repented, he said "I have sinned against the Lord", he acknowledged his sin and he paid for it, read 2 Samuel 12:13 and the chapters after God punished him. These days people just talk about their struggles with sin and forget to admit that they have done wrong against God (sinned) and repent.
This is a cry for help. We need to pray for both of them. All the issues they are dealing with, for God to guide them. I like his honesty. Pretending like all is good, doesn't help at all.
Yes love, let's keep them in our prayers especially now that he is even a Pastor. There is so much that our ministers are going through, some are just dying painful deaths. Thank you Nandi for such a wise and positive comment.
If it was a woman would you have still liked her honesty? I think not. Christianity is a sham and a big joke and we are just watching because so called Christians are exposing themselves everyday and their double standards dont go unnoticed
@@katendlovu7535 I wouldn't have any problem with it cc. When a person is feeling pressure, gender means nothing. Life has taught me hard. I honestly don't have time to be biased because of gender and I am still learning everyday. I ain't a person who who thinks women shouldn't do certain things but men can. We are all the same before God.
@@Amahle361 then i truly commend you sisi. Then you truly believe in God. Ive just had enough of many SA black women's double standards. It's like they love to see another woman in pain and will do anything to protect a man's honout. Honestly i find it hard to respect a lot of women these days.
@@katendlovu7535 it's sad cc. We have a tendency of protecting men more than ourselves and always criticize each other.
Please my Brother, if you love your son and also, your wife, go back to them and work on your marriage. You are talking about the Grace of God, but you can't let God heal your marriage. Fight for your marriage. I was there, where you are Brother. I almost gave up on my marriage, but with God's grace we are still together. I still have struggles as a man, but I constantly allow God to work on me. You have lots of young people following you in RSA, around Africa and the world. Go back to your wife, beg for her forgiveness even if you have to quit ministry for until you are ready. Your son that you so dearly love needs you now, your wife more than ever. I wish you could hear and feel my pain for you. PLEASE RECONSIDER YOUR DECISION, I BEG YOU.
It’s easy to say, your situation isn’t the same as everyone else’s
@@Nikolizky yes he is thinking maybe things is easy, Valentino thank's very much for your response
You know what? You are right God sustains us in marriage
@@maxwellchampomuzila4155 yeah, but he can't say everything is possible with God.. but fail on his marriage.. correct me if I'm wrong, it's my opinion
It may be the wife leaving him
He failed dismally & all he’s doing here is trying to justify his lack of wisdom & utter failure to love a woman who left her province and her family to be joined with him. While the woman was almost 9 months pregnant, he was already having plans to walk away from his marriage how pathetic and his audience applauded him for chronic foolishness. Marriage is about perseverance & willing to be led & corrected otherwise he will keep divorcing until his last day on earth
Disappointing message I must say
Well said!
Amen and now he's trying to talk bad about marriage, he failed dismally, he should have invited God into his marriage
He’s a true definition of a fake pastor
I couldn't have said it better. Funny how people do things in private and want to justify their reason of doing wickedness in public and still demand to be heard. The pulpit has now become a confession stage for diabolic acts!
He’s an Irresponsible spoilt brat who doesn’t even understand what it means to be a loving partner and a responsible parent
People of God don't be decieve by devil... marriage it's sweet it depends on de cutlery Yu are using...
Amen
Johanna Nndwa amen
Divorce is allowed in a religion, christianity is a religion. But not in the kingdom of God.... you can't submit your own reasons in the kingdom of God, but u can debate marriage in religion....
Christianity is not a religion it is a relationship with jesus your body is a church
Dankie wena!!! Dankie
I feel there's a bigger surprise to this story..I will wait..zothi ngasho
That "zothi ngasho" just KILLED me 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hei mfazi we shall hear one day.
@@lindokuhlenhlanhla8670 lol kuruff langaphandle
i believe so too
Is he gay?
Everyone is going through something, don't be fooled by social media!!
So true. Looking at other people's marriages on social media it's always tempting to think you got the bad end of the stick. Everyone looks more beautiful and happy than you. At least that's how I feel.
I can't be judgemental we learn by mistake no one is perfect even pastors are human beings so it's okay I will let him learn and he still young
Lungile MAbuza amen... such a sensible comment
I didn't expect him to speak about it so soon and it seems kinda casual to him like it was not real 😏
Yaaa like seriously... January he wanted out meaning he never even put an effort
Yaaa like seriously... January he wanted out meaning he never even put an effort
Ruth you saying exactly my same words... I couldn't agree with you more. Speaking the greatest HEAVENLY ENGLISH of him infront of the Church with all Amens doesn't make it right. It is so early and he should be focusing on the divorce. Too early to be standing in the podium as if nothing is wrong, or is taking advantage... The same as the guy that lost his wife who sings for one group: He went immediately to the social media and act like he's grieving his lost of his wife with a long essay. My concern was he was supposed to be with his family mourning for his late wife instead of being on social medias as if it was a relief. Everyone was wow you loved your wife man. but I was the only to say, wow you are so bold and I don't believe you mean what you are saying about your wife. Too early to post on social media about your best being gone...wow these days...
U people don't understand and busy judging khaya; Listen carefully on what he's saying; You will get the point; Black people u have a problem of being quick to respond before u even understand what has been said; Shameless u people who always wanna judge people, Only Khaya & His Ex Wife knows the truth!! Learn to mind your business and fix your marriages or relationships because u have a lot than khaya and you're busy using khaya's issue to mourn your problems!
@@malibongwesithelo8733 I agree bt we are different,, we all have different ways of dealing with problems,,,maybe this will make him feel better ,,
U can't talk about grace which ur defiling and dishonouring, marriage is a covenant this has nothing to do with u but God and ur job is work it out, u can't wake up being done with marriage I think someone need to be told the truth Complete commitment to your marriage provides a foundation of dependability and trust. It takes you through tough times and steers you toward godly solutions. A lack of commitment erodes your strength, determination, and resourcefulness. It can lead to tragedy.
Marriage can be compared to a marathon race. If you don’t commit yourself to running the distance, your chances of dropping out along the way increase. But if you are determined, you will find unforeseen strength to overcome every obstacle.
''Don't give up?'' 🤔🤔🤔 yet my brother gave up? Doesn't make any sense to me.
Lol yeah I was also like... Uhm...
True it doesn't make sense at all.
@@thedigitalawakening887 he is not practicing what he is preaching
This particular video was taken way before the divorce. This is ONLY. A snippet from the entire video. He goes onto say that he worked on his marriage.
He worked on his marrriage kanjani when try already announced the divorce?
Always be rooted in Christ n let him take control
Even though there is something happening on the background...
Lapha kusothandweni intozakhona zihlala ziqxakile. Izokhulu lendoda ibe strong coz he has acknowledged that he had a problem so uzoba ryt.
Khaya loves God so much and he never planned what happened to him. I think we as Christians need to pray for him for healing and so that he can move forward with his life. We did not come to this world to just married. If he failed in marriage it doesn't mean he has failed his God given mission to this world. I love you bro Khaya and I believe your God will carry you even through this tough time.
...thanks Mfundo🙌
YES bhuti 💕
Amen🙌
Indeed 🙌🏼
Wow Ahmein!! You nailed bro!!
Khaya needs Jesus
I agree, If you know who Jesus or God is you will never ever give up in your marriage . Because you understand what marriage is all about.
when a man can not own up to his mistakes ..what a shame
The lesson to give to pipo is, dnt marry fo red carpet, marry fo love. Marriage is work nt for little boys
Well said
I agree
Also love alone won’t sustain/ solidify/ concrete/ the marriage... there are lots of factors to be considered before ushade... Marry for love statement is not enough... my opinion though.
@@nhlanhlam1410bekukubi kulonyaka bekuqhuma ama divorce qha I'm heartbroken nje mina
@@nhlanhlam1410 love should be the foundation though
Let us continue to pray for this Man of God.
He is making his failure as a man God's plan
Clement Nkosi blasphemy. There nothing biblical about this, just using God s name in vain
Thanks dear, your common sense is so oo refreshing
@@ivypurples2632 nailing it♥️ God have mercy. Somebody shut that Kid Khaya Mthethwa.
imagine
Before I even heard his story, i agreed with your statement. After listening to it I realised tat he doesn't understand what marriage is and that it entails loving someone through thick and thin. How can he tell God that he thoughtof leaving when his wife was pregnant. So sad and wen the baby is born u are all joy really now😂
Let those that are blameless continue to be judges. Amen
Exactly. I love his honesty and sincerity, but yo, the TH-cam saints will condemn you maan. Bathong.
I think it is because people love him and they feel disappointed.
Unscriptural divorce almost always brings painful consequences. Not only do you distance yourself from God when you divorce, you also damage your spouse, wound your children, injure other family members, hurt friends, set the stage for future pain for yourself, and bring shame upon the name of Christ.
When you do things God’s way, things work out best. On the other hand, when you disobey God, problems eventually come. If you divorce for unscriptural reasons, the odds are high that you will regret it before you die. You are certain to regret it when you stand before God.
Never say, “Let’s divorce”
Suggesting divorce without scriptural reasons opens the door to sin. When you are broke you would never say, “Let’s rob a bank.” Along the same lines, when you are unhappy, do not say, “Let’s divorce,” “I don’t see why we should stay married,” or “You’d be better off without me.”..... May God help us keep marriage honorable
There he said it 🙌🏽 “it’s easier to leave but harder to cleave”
Khanyile Nxumalo what does that even mean
It’s easy to leave everything and walk away! In Khaya’s case it’s easier for him to leave his marriage than it is to hold on and work things out! In simple terms leaving is the easiest way out, staying requires work and hard work
Hope I’m clear enough
Khanyile Nxumalo very clear thanks a span😊
@@lindarose591 actually he is making reference to scripture Genesis 2:24 "For this reason a man shall Leave his mother and father and Cleave to his wife and they both shall become one flesh. So it was easy for him to leave his parents but harder for him to become one with his wife in every respect.
So why didn't he cleave?
TD Jakes explains “ Cleaving” quiet well in Before You Do- It will open your eyes
Just because you are fluent in English and you have some boomber words to say the made you a youth leader 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣antichrist... Reveal yourself sikhathele lamaxoki Nkosi 💔
I can feel your broken heart bra. I know people think your taking this casual your not hurt not knowing ukuthi being a man of God you had to act strong each and everyday it was not easy decision. May The spirit of God comfort you. You don't have to be in broken marriage it will affect your son more rather be a good parents to him . Only God knows your your scars but as you'll enter in 2020 God will heal you. Most of people rather die with depression than coming out from the broken marriage . May God heal you and Ntando . Nalesi isimo sizondlula😢
True
Mandi pose I Lizwi mntakethu, mna Khaya from my Side I will pray for your happiness, Cause I know you have Joy that Joy comes from the Lord. I'll pray that God heals your heart and what ever else is broken so you can be the best dad possible. I will also pray for you ex wife that she finds peace and heals, I don't know the problems of your marriage and I don't care to know but I do know this if we can all talk together to God about your lives and our message is the same you'll be fine. We as the church, the body of Christ need to so that through your gift you can heal many.
To all who're negative about this issue, when Jesus said "May the one who's without a sin throw in the 1st stone" He meant something like your comments. Khaya is human like all of us. Who are we to judge? Are we sure that he's the one who's at fault? If so, why are we not praying for his marriage instead of judging him?
Another thing is so many pastors preach somethings which they don't practice. Take note, it may be God's message directed to you through someone who's no longer respected or imperfect. Just take the message and stop judging.
yawn
So we must just nod and smile? Oh God bless you Khaya, even when his not making sense? Please stop being narrow minded.
Martha Baloyi you’re making a judgment with your comment. We actually have a right to judge. The Bible says to judge RIGHTEOUSLY. If no one could judge, then Khaya ALSO has no right to judge, there should be no judicial system, and preachers can’t preach. They make judgments throughout their sermons. There’s also two books in the Bible named Judges. I can’t stand when ppl abuse this scripture. How can you remember this one (where it’s CLEAR that we DO have a right to judge) but not the others?
Have you all checked your lives?? What I'm trying to say in my previous comment is that before you judge others check yourself first n instead of judging, do something good to help instead of continuing damaging that person's image
I like his honesty.
Yeah hey
Same here Sihle. Pretence is what is kill3us as abazalwane.
@@Amahle361 true
This is sad. And what's even more sad is the place where he had to say this. Only prayer now can save this young man.
I don't know the story behind
But why do I sense that the person ohlukumezekile it's the woman?
Plzzz tell me if I'm wrong
We will hear the day she decides to speak up.
I think uKhaya is a coward period...
ngoba nakhu asezele useyamshiya.....mmmxm.
Most of the time, that's the case.
Arghh! They are going to get back together.
😂😂😂
The position his on makes it hard for people to question his actions or their action, we as a society shift the blame to the devil or call it Gods plan but if this was black coffee speaking so many stones would be thrown. The church has a secrecy problem and sugar coating things.
In some congregations, is this the holy church service of the Lord?
Was also wondering yazi
Doesn't seem like one
As bearers of the Lord's voice and authority, an apostolic and prophetic army will act in unison to accomplish His divine purposes and will.
Judging someone from a distance / with no facts is a serious foolish mentality one can display in this platform.... so let me put this in the table and let you continue to judge. Do you think as a 28/29 year old you can cope being a singer, pastor, performer, husband, director, businessman, father.... can you honestly cope with all that and be perfectly fine? think about it than come back and call this young guy names it’s on your conscience. Lots of 28/ 29 year olds are busy enjoying life, hustling to better lives order. It’s easy for you to type negative things about someone when you are on the other side of the fence.
Never bite and chew more than u could swallow!!!it's jst a lame excuse to put all those things as excuses to divorce,most of us r holding down many jobs n tasks n hustles but we r not throwing out marriages away, there 4,this young man is not being honest enuff to tell us ukuthi flop yakhe nowakwakhe ibe kuphi...it's either bedroom or money...
Nhlanhla Mpanza he got married at 31. He’s 33 now. Not changing what you wrote there, just the age
You can cope if God has called you into it. You can’t do the work of God if you’re not called as a pastor, you have a homosexual spirit , spirit of lust, you’re struggling with sin and do not acknowledge that you need deliverance in order that God may order your steps as you live righteously...
Here, Khaya is justifying his sins because he did things prematurely? Surely not... He needs to be a man and he needs to be delivered from all these things tormenting him.
Khaya is not the first person to get married and be entrusted with much.
He won't be the last.
Days are coming where the true sons of God will do it all.
Tf this one got divorced after all the lovey dovey messages they used to post on social media????😭😭😭😭😭😭😭am Kenyan and got to know this dude through joyous celebration.......it's so sad how many members from that group have broken marriages 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭,it's hard for some of us not understanding the native language but the comments are helping to understand his issues
Joyous is about making money
Let God deal with him personally and spiritually and that will make him grow in his own way and I believe he will have spiritual wisdom at the end. After the process I believe all will be well which ever direction God leads him he will be understanding himself better. For those who remember to please let's pray for him and also others who are in this kind of dilemma. Let's not judge.
But this is sad... never mind the reason but breakup from marriage yho wud be better if they just dated.
"Don't you believe that the Father is living in Me and that I am living in the Father? Even My words are not My own but come from My Father, for He lives in Me and performs His miracles of power through Me." (John 14:10)
He's talking about me there in the beginning
This is proof that a pastors child cannot also be a pastor.He says he has "hot blood" meaning that he wants to be intimate with other women😂lets not judge it shows these born again people are normal people nothing special about them.we are all sinners.Having said that the brother needs to also stop playing games with our beautiful women.If you are not ready to settle down and commit dont do it just because daddy said so. Pastors and fathers STOP forcing your kids to live lives they are not ready for!!!!Umfundisi sometimes akamzali omunye umfundisi
All public figures should act and live human ,be true to yourselves and dont try to live unrealistic lives .. coz wen reality sach as this strikes you cant swallow t down .. thats wen depression strikes n suicides
Why do people like to say Marriage is difficult,married people please help me understand?
My honest opinion is marriage is not hard ans difficult if your life is to first please God... yes being with another human being is not easy and it takes work and lots and lots of communication but marriage is beautiful... married for almost 10yrs and i wouldnt have it any other way... choosing my husband everyday.... l dislike how when a marriage fail then its perceived as hard, it is 2people who needs to make ig work, not 1 but both parties that made th covenant.... marriage is beautiful
@@rebajardine9544 thank you so much,I may not be married as yet,but I share your view through and through,I believe marriage is beautiful otherwise God would not have created that Institution.
And the truth is if you live a life to suit people or paint a certain picture and not being real, it backfires.... so my comment in this video is that i dont think anyone gets married to fail but it happens and who are we to judge.... but also what disappoint us is the expectations we put on others. If you want to get married, you model should not be anyone but Jesus and his love for humanity..♥️
Rebaone Jardine, true.
And marriage is a lifestyle not just a beautiful wedding day. You have to be prepared to leave your single ways behind, forever & focus inwards on this lifestyle of building your home with the help & blessings of your creator. Youngstars are never ready for the hard work sometimes. It doesn’t just automatically happen on its own cos you “love each other”.
Sad. I love these 2.
I think they experienced bad challenges in their marriages
I am so glad you were able to talk about it. Depression is real. If this helps you to heal who are we to judge, may you find healing and happiness in your life.
Amen to that. I agree depession is real and it has taken a lot of lives already. We are glad he opened up.
Amen to that. I agree depession is real and it has taken a lot of lives already. We are glad he opened up.
I am a living example of God grace in my marriage . For more enlightening drop a ☝️🚀
This one is no different to so called fake Pastors! Being a Pastor is not a legacy it is a calling. We are in a generation where the calling of God is reduced to profane operation! The pulpit has now turned to a confession stage, and ignorance has made us believe that it is the move of God. What?! This guy is currently an utter broken healer wanna be. What a confusing voice!
Amen
Being able to talk you become a pastor, so is Khaya Mthethwa.
True
Serious? Divorce? He got married to Young anyways. Marriage is a union and no amount of excuses can dodge that. Find time to heal
I agree
1.Its not clear what Khaya is actually saying in this clip.We can allude to the fact that he was testifying (not preaching) and shared his personal challenges that he encountered in 2019 and the reason he was giving the advice of "never give up" is because at this point probably he /they had not yet given up and he hoped things would were gonna stay that way.
2.Timeline ,the title is a bit misleading ,according to someone here on comments ,this was taken 1st week of December at a church in Sandton,announcement on Insta 23rd and this video the following day.
Guys try to be your self don't ever ever look up to someone else because other people that we saw on television we think that they don't have problems, think that even them they are people same as u, even if u saved but problems is there for u...I can't blame him about his decision because we don't know what is behind, don't takes marriage as peanuts there is a challenges that u face on marriage then u must be strong.
Give it time dude and ignore the noise. In Time, in time all will fall into place. I promise you
I was at this event it was the first week of December(before the anniversary and announcement ya divorce ) and i think before you say anything about this you have to hear the full testimony but ke because it's social media you always jump to your own conclusions. What he was saying was this year had been tough on Him in all spheres of his life he even considered divorce but he didn't go through with it (well until now)
Can we get full video? How do I contact the church?
Can we get full video? How do I contact the church?
admin@sandtonaog.org.za
Thank you. I sent an email still waiting.
Susan Ramokoka you published but you didn’t even get the full story. That’s dangerous!
May God heal them
Marriage is hard, life is hard, but we keep, pushing on. I'm glad that Khaya and his wife took time privately and work on their pain and the ordeal that lead them to go separate ways. She released a statement, Kuaya is talking about the issue.
Yes people will judge others. But I'm yet to see a human being with a perfect life. What ever happens is their decision , their life.
I disagree, marriage is not hard at all, the problem is we enter in to marriage unprepared, being immature and without the founder of marriage who is God. In may 2020 will be doing 10 years in marriage and I don't regret even a single minute of getting married.
@@conquererforchrist I'm glad you have a perfect marriage. Stay blessed.
@@noreenm5018 I'm not saying I have a perfect marriage, there is no such thing as perfect marriage. Being married doesn't mean we don't have arguments and disagreements as a couple, but to model Christ, He left everything He has from God and chose to die for us. That is what we are doing everyday, dying to self, submitting to one another and allowing God to be the driver of our marriage.
And none of this suggests that Khaya isn’t called as a pastor. He’s saying he was ordained too early, (maybe while God is still preparing Him, maybe before his called time). When Jesus’s mom asked him to perform his public miracle he told her it’s not time yet. She probably spoke coz of what she’s seen him do privately but He felt dat wasn’t yet the hour.
So what about those who did it at an even younger age? Today they are running ministries, it's not about age, of it was, then Jesus would have never said, there will be those who do exploits more than him.
Khaya is hiding something, and soon it will pop out.
i feel u Khaya, eish kunzima neh, love u both ❤
But He can't say that he advices people who are married ukuthi they must Not give up yet yena ehlulekile.....ayyyy wenaMfundisi
ntokozo mthembu
My thoughts too😂😂😂
May GOD's grace heal both the Pastor and his wife. May they experience GOD's loving arms around them. I know what it's like to fail GOD and how you try to fix yourself after that. May you and your wife grow closer to our loving FATHER. May you humble and yield yourself to HOLY SPIRIT and allow HIM to do what only HE can do. 1 Timothy 1:15-16. May GOD Continue to bless you all.
Some of you commenting here and blaming him you not even married let alone you dnt even have health relashinship with your siblings.. He did not say anything wrong about his wife and he said he believe God will heal them
I think he is really trying to find someone to blame because he failed to save his marriage
Was Ntando pregnant already when they married? Eish a lot of us go thru such things and never have to tell anyone. But yah, if they didn’t start right (as he says he had a lot of issues pre marriage); then that was a recipe for disaster. A church on top of that and a baby on the way? That is a lot! Marriage is difficult without having to deal with all those massive issues during the teething period.
Aaah man! Wish I could give them both hugs! 😢🤗🤗
She was not. They got married December 2017, she had birth Feb 2019!
May GOD help young men.
I was shock that I heard he was divorced............... when we seek God for a wife/husband we need ask God to pick our mate for us! awesome Singer I cover you......He is going through a lot now ............. being on social media.....Lets us keep him in our prayers!
Ahhh this guy mxm....febeza bhuti usiyeke.
Well mhlampe komele sizifundise ukuhlonipha izinqumo zabanye abantu ngoba only god is allowed to Judge people. Ukuvaleka kwezinto kuwukuvuleka kwezinye bakwethu. Much respect to Khaya and Ntando, izinqumo ezithathwa ngumuntu kusuke kungezakhe✊🏿
Khaya is imperfect just like all of us, God is working on him. Why are yall judging, God is a God of broken people, imperfect people, that are ok with failing ..
Truth
Show me a marriage the doesn't have problems and storms. No man no....... I think that you were supposed to stay. You call yourself a man of God. God called man to love us as Christ loves His bride. I know loving a woman won't be easy but with God it is possible.
I wish them both well and for God to really touch and heal their hearts
Preach what you live "don't give up" you gave up!
Beautiful english words very opposite to the vows that were made the day of the marriage. Commitment is easy to pronounce but its actually a doing word
There's something offish about this boy. I don't know what it is. The less said about his marriage, the better.
Marriage is hard, life is hard, but we keep, pushing on.
He can't marry again vele by scriptural law he is still bound to his first wife as long as she liveth
I do feel sori 4 u pastor wat u going through t not a nicest thing being divorce bt i pray to almighty to strengthn u nd keep u in life nd even ministrate we lv u pastor after all no one is perfect only above who s so just be strong nd keep on believing in him he s still almighty even in difficul situation,lv u pastor with all my support u goner be fine,hallelua! in da name of Jesus
All things work together for our good, according to them that do love God, whether good or bad in all circumstances give thanks to God, God can turn your worst nightmare into blessing.
Khaya GOD says he hates divorce....what are you saying.dissappoited may the LORD gives you wisdom and knowledge
Divorce is always painful
Ppl are very judgmental jesooo,,,,as bona bamsulwa,,,,,khaya is human and muncane,,,,,who are we to judge him anyway,,,,ZIBUZE LOKHO BEFORE U OPEN UR MOUTH AND JUDGE,,,mnxnmmmmmmm
Qina!!
After all nobody promised that the road will be easy akere
The word of God says divorce is a sin, which means khaya never ask a wife from God, he pretend as if born again maybe he is got someone in his heart.
This is a sign of smallness I am disappointed at Khaya
Let God lead u
The God I know, he doesn't like, Devorce, go back
True
I wonder why many men of God are tolerating these issues in church, and whatever he's going to do no it's adultery b4 ,God
The reason why people end up murdering each other in marriage is because of this mentality we have as Christians. God hates sin period. If a marriage is not working, leave before it gets more toxic. Do not stay trapped in anger, hurt, bitterness and betrayal. God is a God of love. Sometimes you have to walk away in order to heal. Your heart is all you have. Do not burden your heart with toxicity just to please church members. When all those pent up feelings burst you might end up doing something that you will regret for life.
Exactly, He doesn't like divorce not the people who divorce
@@antonattachihombori9561 and when he does something horrible, the same judges will be asking, "but why didn't he just leave? "
AOG ppl are applauding this yah neh Nicholas Bhengu what happened Sir.
Nali ilizwi, uthi u Yesu: intliziyo Zenu mazi nga khathazeki Kholwani ku Bawo ni kholwe nakum.
He’s saying don’t give up yet he gave up his family for what?!? What’s he saying exactly!!!!I feel so sorry for the woman •
Anyone who is condoning what Khaya has done and call themselves Christian is a liar. Christianity is a religion which means it must be practiced religiously. Failure to do so means you are not a Christian. That's what religion is all about. This modern Christianity is a sham and a joke. But qhubekani. We are watching.
This boy is SICK! HE IS ON SOME mental crisis. So disappointed. This sick!!!!!
what has he done
@@Broken_anonymous if you read the bible you will know what im talking about. Unfortunately I cant start reciting it to you now.
He is human before "religion"....clear sign that religion is not a one size fits ALL!!! IT GOES TOTALLY AGAINST HUMAN NATURE!!!
@@omphemetsechake2839 keep saying that. Understand first the meaning of the word religion and its not 'religion' because it's already been outlined in the bible and the teachings. This flip flopping of so-÷called Christians is a big problem. When you can't live up to something why not just leave it. O i know why because it allows for you to get respect and collect coins from unsuspecting people.
2.00-2.16 the whole pastoring thing was premature, thot calling was Divine nt human appointment. Is it just me or he's blaming someone for wrong choices he made.
I suppose he is just identifying the problem
@@manthakoanamokoena5709 the problem being that he was playing pastor and playing house, and all this coz of his parents? He's basically glorifying his weakness justifying bad decisions. M nt judging him but I sense some form of pride nt the honesty that he claiming
U people don't understand and busy judging khaya; Listen carefully on what he's saying; You will get the point; Black people u have a problem of being quick to respond before u even understand what has been said; Shameless u people who always wanna judge people, Only Khaya & His Ex Wife knows the truth!! Learn to mind your business and fix your marriages or relationships because u have a lot than khaya and you're busy using khaya's issue to mourn your problems!! Instead of criticizing him u should be busy praying for him and his ex wife, that's the best u can do!! What if they get back together, what will u say?
Oh! He tried it 🤷🏽♀️
I knw ryt
Honesty like it
It's your cross my brother
Susan, this video was shot way before the announcement or the divorce. In the full video, which was a sermon by the way - he states how they both are working on fixing the marriage. Research kucala then post, with context.
Hebanna Ausi this video is the only video thay was released. Full video bathi it is being edited. This was preached on 1Dec before divorce announcement. Then this video was released after the divorce announcement. I am waiting for full video, ordered it from the church. Relax before fighting with me for nothing.
I’m not fighting with you over anything. I’m just stating an important fact here, this was not the gist of the message - hence I say it’s not in context. Give us something full so that we can decipher kahle what exactly happened. You have controlled the narrative here, to already paint this man as a horrible husband by just using this snippet. Journalism 101...
Once again I’m not fighting. You posted this video for public opinion and critic. Don’t get personal.
Enjoy your day, GOD bless...
God bless you too. Like I said: I am waiting for full video which is being "edited" meaning possibility of removing certain things but I shall post it after receiving it.
May God heal you both any kind of break up is hard especially with children involved.
Amen to that. That's true
He's far from being ready to get married, he got pressured to tie the knot just coz he's a pastor kid🙄
Cant we get a full video
Life lessons there!
I am also looking for it. I asked AOG too.
@@AuntySue hopefully you get it.
@@AuntySue pls