Should we use people's preferred pronouns?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 มิ.ย. 2024
- In this clip, Chris Stefanick and Jason Evert talk about whether as Christians we should concede to using people's preferred pronouns. Check out the full episode here: • Gender Theory vs. TRUT...
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'Then Jesus asked him, “What is your name?” He replied, “My name is Legion; for we are many.”'
(Mark 5: 9)
We have offered to use the possessive form of our daughter-in-law’s name and not use she/her. That’s unacceptable to them. We MUST agree to use they/them AND to allow them to “chastise us” when we accidentally do it wrong. There is no middle ground. Tolerance and respect are to travel in one direction only, from us to them. Result: She and my son have disowned us. We are devastated.
Can the Augustine Institute bring on Catholic social workers who navigate topics like this? I say social workers because the field leans liberal, catholicism has roots in social justice and human rights as well. I think they’d have valuable insight.
Luke 1, 46-55
And Mary said,
“My soul magnifies the Lord,
and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,
for he has looked with favor on the lowliness of his servant.
Surely, from now on all generations will call me blessed;
for the Mighty One has done great things for me,
and holy is his name.
His mercy is for those who fear him
from generation to generation.
He has shown strength with his arm;
he has scattered the proud in the thoughts of their hearts.
He has brought down the powerful from their thrones,
and lifted up the lowly;
he has filled the hungry with good things,
and sent the rich away empty.
He has helped his servant Israel,
in remembrance of his mercy,
according to the promise he made to our ancestors,
to Abraham and to his descendants forever.”
Hi there,
I am asking for a thoughtful response on behalf of many concerned Christians and Catholics. Chris' answer about pronouns is somewhat unhelpful, let me explain why. While Chris is doing good by acknowledging the importance of recognizing reality, the issue of being asked to use dishonest pronouns is no longer an issue pertaining only to friendships. Using "you" instead of a gendered pronouns will not come close to fixing the problem. Let me elaborate.
It is currently the policy of innumerable public and private institutions in the United States, that if you refuse to use the preferred pronouns of a particular person, you could have a "sexual harassment" complaint filed against you within the institution. You would then be asked to either use the pronoun, or be fired. No, I am not lying.
Please, listen, I am telling you the truth. It is truly and really the case that you can lose your job in many situations, even in companies unrelated to medical or mental health, by purposefully and repeatedly using the correct (biologically accurate) pronouns of gender confused people. When writing emails, notes, or any documentation at a job, it is not only difficult, awkward, and obvious, but close to impossible to try inserting the person's first name in every instance where he/she would be referred to by their pronoun. Using "you" or avoiding the issue would be similar.
If it is truly the case that using pronouns is a moral issue (a stance which I agree makes sense), then this means Catholics need to be willing to take a stand on on the side of the truth. If this is the case, someone needs to come on camera, look the viewer in the eye, and honestly admit to them that to stand up to the great evil in this world, you need to be willing to lose your job. This is no longer a social issue. This is an issue that will soon be in every workplace. Someone needs to tell the truth here, and it isn't just the people using the pronouns.
The Church has yet to give any guidance to the faithful in regards to this issue, even though noncompliance with LGBTQ norms could cost many of the faithful their jobs. This is a great negligence, and I am hoping by having read this comment, you can understand why. We need fathers who tell us what we need to hear, not entertainers who tell us what we like to hear.
You are so right! I know people who are obviously against gender ideology but unfortunately are forced by law to use those crazy pronouns at their oral or written work ( lawyers, doctors etc) otherwise they will loose their job and be criminally charged (in Canada ) and they just say they have families to feed and can’t afford those consequences … my lawyer friend told me I’m choosing battles I can win not the one I will loose. It’s very very difficult 😨
Walt Heuer was the fellow
Quite a few polls show that over 40% of trans people have suicidal thoughts. this is like 30x the national average so it is quite alarming. The whole concept of dead naming seems to reinforce this idea that they hate themselves. The person they were for almost all of their lives is now dead to them and is a forbidden topic of conversation. Assuming a new identity and burying your past is not a healthy way to deal with emotional problems and it prevents people from helping. Imagine if I went to my therapist and said "I've been having suicidal thoughts but I refuse to talk about my childhood, or any of my experiences, really" "Also I want you to validate my assumed identity even though it is clear that I invented it". I feel like a christian has an obligation to try to help this person instead of doing what they want.
Pronouns, sure, fight about it if you want. The first name - no freaking way. People are allowed to change their first name - legally. Calling them their old name would be you refusing to accept reality, not adhering to it. My own sister changed her name; she's not trans, she just wants to be called a different name. Should I insist on the old name because of how I feel? Not to mention plenty of names are "gender neutral" and even if they are not, who cares? I knew an actual, biological woman named Michael. That's what her parents named her. Should I have called her Michelle instead because Michael is a "boy name"? See how rude that is? A person's first name should be respected even if it doesn't fit your own "gender ideology" (because Catholics themselves do have a pretty intense gender ideology themselves) or let's just get right down to it, you personally don't like it. I should mention that MANY people who detransition keep their "new" name - do you still insist on calling them their birth name even though they've "seen the light" and are no longer trans? Just like the world shouldn't revolve around a person's chosen pronouns, their first name of all things shouldn't be limited to what you're okay with. You only get to name your own kids - and that's it. Everyone else - you call them what they want to be called. It's basic common courtesy.
I can see your point about the name. However, pronouns are a different story. People have the right to name themselves however they please; but they shouldn't be allowed to change the English grammar and demand that everybody else use it as they see it fit. That sounds like entitlement to me.