My parents divorced when I was 4. They could not have told me any of this stuff if I'd asked. I never knew any of this stuff til the internet introduced me to Rabbi Friedman. In my 30s now, 2 kids. Relationship definitely did not start properly. But we are trying to correct ourselves together. Idk if its possible, but seems to me its necessary for our childrens' sakes.
Sometimes, when you're in a dark place and you think you've been buried when in actuality you've been planted. The fact that you are both willing to work on the marriage is a great sign.
Idk if I agree with that. He seems to hold back a lot. If his wife also holds back, how do you know all of each others hidden talents? If you don't share things the other can't help at all. But if you share the situation, there could be a possibility that the other person thought of something that could help that the other person hadn't even considered. Or knows someone who could help. Idk seems like a marriage should be a partnership and you should share the good and the bad. How do you know, for sure, they can't help if you don't, at least, ask? Just my humble opinion. ☮️💜
So how to know then - amidst all the dishonesty - to whom one is really married to... How can such an atitude contribute towards a couple's merging towards becoming one flesh? For example: How about rather making his wife aware of the real danger he was in; for them to then thank God together that he was not harmed, and for the husband to request his wife to be praying for his protection while he's returning from work?
To display honesty and vulnerability in a marriage relationship means one respects and considers another as being a dependable, reliable, worthy party sharing the load; thus supporting one, while venturing out together - as one - on life's journey.
Im grateful for his teachings made public for even Gentiles to learn from. I didn’t get this guidance in my life. They just let you grow up and figure it out. All the things to avoid in dating I have done several times over. The sharing private details because my boyfriend made it a requirement to our relationship to divulgue all manner of private details. The trauma of terrible break ups and terrible relationships. It sucks. I have been my happiest and healthiest when I am single and enthusiastic about my work. Im 37 and a life partner would be great in some respects, but without the institutions like the matchmaker it’s hard and dangerous. No relationship has been better for me than being free. I haven’t dated in 1.5 years. What Rabbi says about traumas affecting someone for years is very true.
I went through a marriage and divorce 5yrs ago and was engaged last September..the marriage was suppose be in November and immigrating. Found out his history and way he was . Not appropriate things. Prefer to stay single and no marriage
Thank you, this is great advice, as a single Jew, I'm looking for a Jewish women and now I more tips to not shoot myself in the foot. I'm always trying to make a good impression and you gave me the wisdom to drop it and just be myself. I'm a bit of a nerd and women will have to like it or not, it is the way it is.
What about the value of 'iron sharpening iron'... By challenging and wrestling with another in order for them to NOT be comfortable, but instead become a better version of themselves?
Good video for two people to watch when interested in one another. I think best advice and most common sense for familiarity of opposist sex. First attraction and common goal is love and respect for G-d....beautiful !
About not telling your spouse....this may lead to one being agitated or unsettled and the spouse not knowing why, and worrying even more. It may vary from person to person. Some women can handle it and would be much calmer and happier knowing what's going on, and of course, some men can do a good job of hiding things. There may be times when it's better to speak and times when it's better to keep quiet. I question the wisdom of this advice given as "universal".
We've gone from the shadchen (middleman) to ghosting. There's no more having a talk and telling him or her why it won't work. You block, you unfriend, poof!
I converted into Judaism and I'm not your average Jewish man I have long hair iam a metal head so I wear jeans and band t shirts but I'm a hard worker a good father I raise my son who has autism all by myself he is now 22 and doing great I wad worried for so long no Jewish woman would ever like me or be interested in me but I decided anyone worth my time will see the very religious and faith full hard working family man I really am not just the tough hard exterior mask I have worn my whole life to protect myself. I found a good Jewish woman have been dating for a few weeks I'm hoping it really goes somewhere I like her I just hope she likes the real me as well
even if your purpose is marriage dating is still a cruel and nasty undertaking. At 41 and unmarried I really wish we did arranged marriages in the west. Dating is a waste of time and online dating even more so. If you are lucky you find two people in 10 years that's interested and if you are even luckier one of them is serious. The odds of closing to marriage these days is basically 0. unless you get really really lucky. Then you are playing odds on divorce.
@@MARCIA.ZZZZZZno this is real. The old and poor thing. I told my Mom to leave my Dad and she was still young enough to find a new man who could treat her properly if she wanted to and she was still working she would be ok. She said i was too young to understand. She felt like she needed this and that financially to grant him a divorce. I think she felt she was too old to start over. Fear is a terrible monster. Well he finally got his divorce without giving her half of what she wanted both of them in their 70s. And she has made it work financially. But why not 15 years sooner? Fear. Dont waste your life. You only have 1. God will make a way!
He's not advocating to be dishonest, he's just saying not everything has to be out in the open if it's not helpful. There's an old saying "everything you say must be true, but not everything that's true must be said..."
@@standby0455 Yep, just as he not saying that not all Jews are actually Jews. And that egoic Earthly Jerusalem will not have a stone up on stone standing left when true Heavenly Jerusalem comes down. And countless other things.
@@es6544 they may have birth parents but many kids in Africa do not have parents taking care of them & many families themselves, do not have enough resources to help their own kids…Good Inerchi To You 🙏
Matthew 22:30 King James Version 30 For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven John 3:16 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life 1 Corinthians 15:4 “And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures Romans 10:13 13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
As Scripture reveals, Gd chose David and enthroned him as King and decreed him to be His Begotten Son to whom He promised the inheritence of the Nations, to whom He promised to make his Throne and Kingdom Everlasting, to whom He promised that from his very body/seed will come the Moshiach, son after son, from the Tribe of Judah, of the House of David, a mortal man of flesh and blood who Isaiah tells comes at the End of the Days and will ANIMATED BY THE FEAR OF THE LRD!
The teachings of King David's progeny will bring all of Mankind to the Rightful worship of the CREATOR, the ETERNAL ONE, EHYEH ASHER EHYEH/I WILL BE WHAT I WILL BE, his GD, his LRD, his SAVIOR, his REDEEMER, to WHOM EVERY KNEE SHALL KNEEL, EVERY TONGUE SHALL SWEAR!
What about the value of 'iron sharpening iron'... By challenging and wrestling with another in order for them to NOT be comfortable, but instead become a better version of themselves?
My parents divorced when I was 4. They could not have told me any of this stuff if I'd asked. I never knew any of this stuff til the internet introduced me to Rabbi Friedman. In my 30s now, 2 kids. Relationship definitely did not start properly. But we are trying to correct ourselves together. Idk if its possible, but seems to me its necessary for our childrens' sakes.
Sometimes, when you're in a dark place and you think you've been buried when in actuality you've been planted. The fact that you are both willing to work on the marriage is a great sign.
What about if the person marry a Narcissist?
Yes!
run a way - no solution if a real narcississtic; @@marialacerda6593
There will always be someone 'better'...but that's completely beside the point.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman!! Shavua Tov!!💪✡️🙏❤️🔥🎶
Heartwarming wisdom from Rabbi
Consideration more important than Honesty in a Relationship. Profound teaching from the Rabbi. 🙏
Idk if I agree with that.
He seems to hold back a lot.
If his wife also holds back, how do you know all of each others hidden talents?
If you don't share things the other can't help at all.
But if you share the situation, there could be a possibility that the other person thought of something that could help that the other person hadn't even considered.
Or knows someone who could help.
Idk seems like a marriage should be a partnership and you should share the good and the bad.
How do you know, for sure, they can't help if you don't, at least, ask?
Just my humble opinion.
☮️💜
So how to know then - amidst all the dishonesty - to whom one is really married to... How can such an atitude contribute towards a couple's merging towards becoming one flesh?
For example: How about rather making his wife aware of the real danger he was in; for them to then thank God together that he was not harmed, and for the husband to request his wife to be praying for his protection while he's returning from work?
To display honesty and vulnerability in a marriage relationship means one respects and considers another as being a dependable, reliable, worthy party sharing the load; thus supporting one, while venturing out together - as one - on life's journey.
Im grateful for his teachings made public for even Gentiles to learn from. I didn’t get this guidance in my life. They just let you grow up and figure it out. All the things to avoid in dating I have done several times over. The sharing private details because my boyfriend made it a requirement to our relationship to divulgue all manner of private details. The trauma of terrible break ups and terrible relationships. It sucks. I have been my happiest and healthiest when I am single and enthusiastic about my work. Im 37 and a life partner would be great in some respects, but without the institutions like the matchmaker it’s hard and dangerous. No relationship has been better for me than being free. I haven’t dated in 1.5 years. What Rabbi says about traumas affecting someone for years is very true.
I went through a marriage and divorce 5yrs ago and was engaged last September..the marriage was suppose be in November and immigrating. Found out his history and way he was . Not appropriate things. Prefer to stay single and no marriage
Thanks, Rabbi Friedman, for the excellent lecture! ❤👏
Thank you, this is great advice, as a single Jew, I'm looking for a Jewish women and now I more tips to not shoot myself in the foot. I'm always trying to make a good impression and you gave me the wisdom to drop it and just be myself. I'm a bit of a nerd and women will have to like it or not, it is the way it is.
Thank you rabbi
Thank you Rabbi Friedman
Thank you for this!
What about the value of 'iron sharpening iron'... By challenging and wrestling with another in order for them to NOT be comfortable, but instead become a better version of themselves?
Thank you Rabbi! 😊
Thankks rabbi🙏
Good video for two people to watch when interested in one another. I think best advice and most common sense for familiarity of opposist sex. First attraction and common goal is love and respect for G-d....beautiful !
God bless you
Awesomeness!!!! 🙏🏽
About not telling your spouse....this may lead to one being agitated or unsettled and the spouse not knowing why, and worrying even more. It may vary from person to person. Some women can handle it and would be much calmer and happier knowing what's going on, and of course, some men can do a good job of hiding things. There may be times when it's better to speak and times when it's better to keep quiet. I question the wisdom of this advice given as "universal".
Can’t you ask someone to go with you for coffee and just visit? Is it not acceptable to be with someone for some other “social” time?
Okeej now i know ! If you got to married....you,ve got to meet you got to talk you got to see ,and KEEP ! its Simple
Is it not being strategic ? Inauthentic ?
What about non jewish woman looking to get married without the middle person?
we are on our own.
don't want to get married -
We've gone from the shadchen (middleman) to ghosting. There's no more having a talk and telling him or her why it won't work. You block, you unfriend, poof!
Is the matchmaker female or masculine or both ? And why?
Is this the same guy that does commercials for a book called, The Old Ways? (I think)
Is there a email address for Rabbi Manis? X
I converted into Judaism and I'm not your average Jewish man I have long hair iam a metal head so I wear jeans and band t shirts but I'm a hard worker a good father I raise my son who has autism all by myself he is now 22 and doing great I wad worried for so long no Jewish woman would ever like me or be interested in me but I decided anyone worth my time will see the very religious and faith full hard working family man I really am not just the tough hard exterior mask I have worn my whole life to protect myself. I found a good Jewish woman have been dating for a few weeks I'm hoping it really goes somewhere I like her I just hope she likes the real me as well
August 31st. 😂
Dating is terrifying.
❤
Thank you Rav. Think focus on Mira. Get back into dating mode but w someone that believes not just in goodness for ourselves but for the entirety.
Non authoritarian .
even if your purpose is marriage dating is still a cruel and nasty undertaking. At 41 and unmarried I really wish we did arranged marriages in the west. Dating is a waste of time and online dating even more so. If you are lucky you find two people in 10 years that's interested and if you are even luckier one of them is serious. The odds of closing to marriage these days is basically 0. unless you get really really lucky. Then you are playing odds on divorce.
Sounds like marriage is "I lied to be considerate of your feelings." Explains alot. No thank you.
🦋
B"H!!! ❤
Cannot watch this, my whole future with someone was and is a lie. Possible Karma for all the hearts I broke since kindergarten.
God Is a god of grace. He gives us undeserved blessings. God is a God of surprises. God is hope. God is love and love does not fail. Take heart. 🍀🙏🏼🌹
@@MARCIA.ZZZZZZno this is real. The old and poor thing. I told my Mom to leave my Dad and she was still young enough to find a new man who could treat her properly if she wanted to and she was still working she would be ok. She said i was too young to understand. She felt like she needed this and that financially to grant him a divorce. I think she felt she was too old to start over. Fear is a terrible monster. Well he finally got his divorce without giving her half of what she wanted both of them in their 70s. And she has made it work financially. But why not 15 years sooner? Fear. Dont waste your life. You only have 1. God will make a way!
Honesty and ish don't mix.
Yep, embrace dishonesty and lies.
You will never recognize the devil accepting his ways.
But good luck.
He's not advocating to be dishonest, he's just saying not everything has to be out in the open if it's not helpful. There's an old saying "everything you say must be true, but not everything that's true must be said..."
@@standby0455 Yep, just as he not saying that not all Jews are actually Jews. And that egoic Earthly Jerusalem will not have a stone up on stone standing left when true Heavenly Jerusalem comes down. And countless other things.
Totally agree with the Rabbi, otherwise let the women alone with her pet cats.
The New God favours the Yue Yue people.
Your a Rabbi & there is starving kids in the world, what is more important, romantic relationships? Or starving kids? Good Inerchi 2 All
Starving kids have parents. Loving couples take good care of kids. And their kids in turn will be good parents.
It’s all connected
@@es6544 they may have birth parents but many kids in Africa do not have parents taking care of them & many families themselves, do not have enough resources to help their own kids…Good Inerchi To You 🙏
Marriage is more important. More kids will starve if it falls.
Learn grammar
Matthew 22:30
King James Version
30 For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven
John 3:16
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life
1 Corinthians 15:4
“And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures
Romans 10:13
13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
And you shall say to Pharaoh, 'So said the Lord, "My firstborn son is Israel."
Shemot/Exodus 4:22
As Scripture reveals, Gd chose David and enthroned him as King and decreed him to be His Begotten Son to whom He promised the inheritence of the Nations, to whom He promised to make his Throne and Kingdom Everlasting, to whom He promised that from his very body/seed will come the Moshiach, son after son, from the Tribe of Judah, of the House of David, a mortal man of flesh and blood who Isaiah tells comes at the End of the Days and will ANIMATED BY THE FEAR OF THE LRD!
The teachings of King David's progeny will bring all of Mankind to the Rightful worship of the CREATOR, the ETERNAL ONE, EHYEH ASHER EHYEH/I WILL BE WHAT I WILL BE, his GD, his LRD, his SAVIOR, his REDEEMER, to WHOM EVERY KNEE SHALL KNEEL, EVERY TONGUE SHALL SWEAR!
As Jeremiah prophesied, the Gentiles will come to see that they have inherited only Lies, Emptiness in which there is nothing of any avail!
So who created marriage?
Screw marriage its awful
Maybe it’s you.
Learn some grammar.
@@garyfrancis6193sounds like you took that personally
What about the value of 'iron sharpening iron'... By challenging and wrestling with another in order for them to NOT be comfortable, but instead become a better version of themselves?