this is really good information because it's so realistic, not sugar coated, thanks! 😊 also, one perspective on why he would freak out when women approached him could be from the placement experience you explained, maybe he thought this other woman was also taking him from you as you did from the orphanage. No judgement at all, just a potential reason from what you explained earlier... so sad they have to go through so much so early in life 😔
I can relate to a lot of the things you’re saying! With our previous foster son, he was 2, and had a lot of the clinginess, the melt downs about bedtime, and frustration at the grocery store. I love your point about parenting these kids differently than your biological kids. We have experienced that and have adjusted our expectations as we learn about that child’s needs. We are now fostering a 3 year old girl and has been a lot smoother. She took to us quickly, has been happy and pretty obedient. It’s hard when you don’t know what they have experienced and have been taught. Structure and consistency have gone a long way for us.
Thank you for sharing all this. That’s awesome about your little girl. I hope it continues to go well for all of you. Yes we are constantly having to check our expectations in parenting all of our kids it can be hard but also so helpful when you can check yourself and see what it really is that your asking of the little ones.
Thank you so much for this video. I am currently in the process. I submitted my dossier a couple of weeks, to say that I'm nervous is an understatement, but this video helps a lot. I love when you said "don't be embarrass by your child's behavior because they have been through a lot." Thank you for sharing.
@CiaraMcDowell Not yet. We're waiting to be matched in 2025 for international adoption of a toddler. Been waiting since 2021 when we submitted our dossier. This will be our entry into parenthood as we have no other kids. We are using this time to learn what we can and prepare to be good parents. Your realistic insights are therefore much appreciated!!
This was super informative, thank you for sharing! I appreciate your honesty about the challenges as I’ve found that other people point out that it’s challenging but are very vague about HOW. Knowing what you specifically experienced with your sweet son helps! I’m not in this process right now but my husband and I both have a heart for adopting one day. God bless your family :)
I’m glad you found it helpful. I think people are vague because it’s hard to share some of the things while also being respectful of your child’s story I hope I did that well. That’s very exciting and I wish you the best when you start your adoption journey.
Thank you so much for your advice.I was in search for such advices, as I am currently in this roller coaster ride ,she is 1.8 year old baby girl , having the similar situation as u said, now im relaxed that i am not the only person to suffer this situation 😊
Im so glad to hear you found it helpful. I just started a facebook group for adoptive moms of toddlers. If you would like to join us heres the link. Its still small but we are growing. facebook.com/groups/295672076467900
I adopted my daughter from the foster care system & have 3 bio sons. Just curious how other adoptive parents are viewing the anti adoption movement on Tik Tok.. I just can’t wrap my head around it💔
to be honest I dont know much about it because I dont have tiktok. Im sure some of its hard to hear and watch but theres still a lot we could learn from it all. Ill have to look in to it more.
You have wonderful advice. My daughter does foster care and adopted her son. She did have him since birth but he was born meth addicted. Trauma is something people (others) just don’t understand. I get it about the crying and screaming when out in public. You do feel embarrassed and you know people are talking about you. It’s hard to overcome
Thank you so much for watching. That’s so awesome she is in foster care and was able to grow her family through adoption. Yes trauma is it’s own world in a way and isn’t understood by most. Primary because of the lack of education around it. We have gotten many looks and comments out in public duo to meltdowns. In the moment it can be hard to deal with but it’s helpful to remember to just not take those judgments personally because people don’t know our story so I can’t take those things to heart. I never want to be embarrassed by my child’s behavior when it comes to his melt downs it’s not his fault. He didn’t ask for. I hope he can grow up with out feeling shamed because of some of the things he struggles with.
Yeah I think every child is different with their own history that will play in to the transition of them coming home. That’s something good to hear your kids didn’t struggle with any of those things.
Poor baby. These precious angels don't understand where momma is. I dislike how people think no contact with these kids are familiar with is fine like cos thinks here. No. Its not easier or fine. Not even animals deal with that well. Humans dont even more!!
Thanks for watching. Your right they have a lot going on and don’t always understand what’s happening and most of the time they have already lost so many relationships so it’s scary.
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this is really good information because it's so realistic, not sugar coated, thanks! 😊 also, one perspective on why he would freak out when women approached him could be from the placement experience you explained, maybe he thought this other woman was also taking him from you as you did from the orphanage. No judgement at all, just a potential reason from what you explained earlier... so sad they have to go through so much so early in life 😔
I can relate to a lot of the things you’re saying! With our previous foster son, he was 2, and had a lot of the clinginess, the melt downs about bedtime, and frustration at the grocery store. I love your point about parenting these kids differently than your biological kids. We have experienced that and have adjusted our expectations as we learn about that child’s needs. We are now fostering a 3 year old girl and has been a lot smoother. She took to us quickly, has been happy and pretty obedient. It’s hard when you don’t know what they have experienced and have been taught. Structure and consistency have gone a long way for us.
Thank you for sharing all this.
That’s awesome about your little girl. I hope it continues to go well for all of you.
Yes we are constantly having to check our expectations in parenting all of our kids it can be hard but also so helpful when you can check yourself and see what it really is that your asking of the little ones.
Thank you so much for this video. I am currently in the process. I submitted my dossier a couple of weeks, to say that I'm nervous is an understatement, but this video helps a lot. I love when you said "don't be embarrass by your child's behavior because they have been through a lot." Thank you for sharing.
Congratulations that’s so exciting!!
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Thanks for watching it means a lot.
So glad I found your channel. Utterly valuable information. Thank you for your candor and compassion. ❤
Thank you so much your kind words it mean so much to me.
Are you an adoptive parent?
@CiaraMcDowell Not yet. We're waiting to be matched in 2025 for international adoption of a toddler. Been waiting since 2021 when we submitted our dossier. This will be our entry into parenthood as we have no other kids. We are using this time to learn what we can and prepare to be good parents. Your realistic insights are therefore much appreciated!!
This was super informative, thank you for sharing! I appreciate your honesty about the challenges as I’ve found that other people point out that it’s challenging but are very vague about HOW. Knowing what you specifically experienced with your sweet son helps! I’m not in this process right now but my husband and I both have a heart for adopting one day. God bless your family :)
I’m glad you found it helpful.
I think people are vague because it’s hard to share some of the things while also being respectful of your child’s story I hope I did that well.
That’s very exciting and I wish you the best when you start your adoption journey.
Thank you so much for your advice.I was in search for such advices, as I am currently in this roller coaster ride ,she is 1.8 year old baby girl , having the similar situation as u said, now im relaxed that i am not the only person to suffer this situation 😊
Im so glad to hear you found it helpful. I just started a facebook group for adoptive moms of toddlers. If you would like to join us heres the link. Its still small but we are growing.
facebook.com/groups/295672076467900
I adopted my daughter from the foster care system & have 3 bio sons. Just curious how other adoptive parents are viewing the anti adoption movement on Tik Tok.. I just can’t wrap my head around it💔
Learn from them. We know our hearts and intentions but it’s imperative to listen as well.
to be honest I dont know much about it because I dont have tiktok. Im sure some of its hard to hear and watch but theres still a lot we could learn from it all. Ill have to look in to it more.
You have wonderful advice. My daughter does foster care and adopted her son. She did have him since birth but he was born meth addicted. Trauma is something people (others) just don’t understand. I get it about the crying and screaming when out in public. You do feel embarrassed and you know people are talking about you. It’s hard to overcome
Thank you so much for watching.
That’s so awesome she is in foster care and was able to grow her family through adoption.
Yes trauma is it’s own world in a way and isn’t understood by most.
Primary because of the lack of education around it.
We have gotten many looks and comments out in public duo to meltdowns.
In the moment it can be hard to deal with but it’s helpful to remember to just not take those judgments personally because people don’t know our story so I can’t take those things to heart.
I never want to be embarrassed by my child’s behavior when it comes to his melt downs it’s not his fault. He didn’t ask for. I hope he can grow up with out feeling shamed because of some of the things he struggles with.
So odd we adopted a 18 month old and a 3 yr old and experienced none of these EXTREME behaviors,so i guess all are different.
Yeah I think every child is different with their own history that will play in to the transition of them coming home.
That’s something good to hear your kids didn’t struggle with any of those things.
Poor baby. These precious angels don't understand where momma is. I dislike how people think no contact with these kids are familiar with is fine like cos thinks here. No. Its not easier or fine. Not even animals deal with that well. Humans dont even more!!
Thanks for watching.
Your right they have a lot going on and don’t always understand what’s happening and most of the time they have already lost so many relationships so it’s scary.
Cocooning and magnesium. Thanks!